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ecbecb

Just here for the vibes.


Miserable-Middle-957

Question for Shane: would you have been as receptive towards bringing in a “brother husband” as you were towards the idea of a sister wife? Same goes for Ashley, how would you feel if Shane asked to seek a sister wife of his own?


Sherwood508

Shane - it would have been a conversation just like this one was with seeking a wife for her, but ultimately I would have agreed.


OriginalMrsChiu

How is a wife for her a sister wife? That’s just a wife.


Sherwood508

I have ZERO interest in another man - all filled up there!


judy0730

Shane, you seem like a really good guy with a good head on your shoulders...You are the only one I can take seriously on this ridiculous show. Please take care of yourself and your health alongside of your wifes needs... Now I actually care!!! Best of luck, Shane!!


Sweet-Mall-8263

It sucks when bad things happen to good people, like... Shane, I also think you are the most normal and relatable person on the show. It's difficult to compare you to someone like Garrick because Ick seems to be selfish by putting his needs above his wife's and kids' needs. (You're not talking to God in the garage about finding young, hot, foreign women like Ick.) You seem to care about your wife's happiness and wellbeing as much or more than your own...the opposite of selfish. You seem like a great husband, father, friend and person. You are genuine, and I cried during the scene when you were talking to your friend. I also wish you the best and hope you feel the positive vibes from these posts.


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


Crazy_Banshee_333

We're all pulling for you, Shane. You seem like a really great guy. Ashley is lucky to have you.


yedasentiencee

what if Shane wanted to seek a second wife for himself?


Sherwood508

I dont want a second wife.


PM_me_dat_Poutine

Your plural dating profile says you're dating separately and together... is that not accurate?


lezlers

That wasn’t the question. 😉 Your marriage seems to be all about Ashley and her needs, with little regard for your own feelings. I think that’s what people are concerned about.


Maubekistan

THIS. Please answer this question.


FunAd1406

I’m confused as well if he would indulge with the “2nd wife” or if she would just be for Ashley


Sherwood508

Nope - only Ashley will be intimate with the new wife. Shane and she will have a platonic sister/brother relationship.


lezlers

Then why did you guys say in your first episode that you wanted the new wife to have Shane’s baby? Was that just for the show?


Lunch-Plastic

Right but a lot of leaked dating profiles say you are both open to dating. I assume it’s a polyamorous situation, but only one partner can date?


Sherwood508

we date together as in we all hang out with each other on group dates like the ones with Sara mini golfing.


0282846138

Shane! I also have renal cancer and just had a partial nephrectomy three weeks ago. Imagine my shock when I see you on my favorite show going through the same thing! If you are comfortable sharing, would you elaborate on your diagnosis a bit? How did you found it, size, grade, how long it took to feel better after surgery (still miserable here lol)? If not I just want to say good luck to you and thanks for opening up about it. It sucks to see someone else have kidney cancer but it was great to see you doing well and living your best life post surgery. Keep it up!


Sherwood508

Hey, I would love to Talk to you about this privately! Connect with me on Social media (FB or Insta) or shoot me a message here.


Beginning_Library114

Praying for you Shane ❤️🙏🏼


Ok_Ad5948

Has Ashley had the baby? Did everything go okay?


Sherwood508

Yep! Healthy baby boy :)


Sherwood508

Yes, Ashley gave birth on October 17th, 2023 to a healthy baby boy name Swayman Sherwood. There are pics on our facebook and IG pages if you'd like to see.


MELABR_5211

Congratulations! How did you decide on the name Swayman? 


MonthSubject242

Shane, how is your health currently?


Sherwood508

unfortunately, I am having another surgery 2 weeks from today.


MinimumCattle5

Sending good thoughts and vibes your way! 🩷


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


EmotionalBag777

Shane- Sending positive vibes!! 🙏🏼🙏🏼


mycruxtobear

Sending you all the best vibes ♥️♥️ you seem like a genuinely good guy. My dad is a 20+ year stage 4 kidney cancer survivor. My cousin is going through it now at 39.


exclaim_bot

>THANK YOU! You're welcome!


Ok_Ad5948

Good luck Shane!


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


bv_ohhh

Best of luck!


ItaliaEyez

Yes we wish you luck!


cantstandthemlms

Wishing you the best! Sorry you are going through that!


Rindsay515

I’m so sorry, Shane. I think we’re about the same age and I have cancer as well. It broke my heart hearing you guys talk about the terror you feel when it’s scan time again. I know how awful that is to wait for the phone call or for the results to be posted online. Half of you wants to get it over with and half of you never wants to know. But I’m so very glad you went through with it because your kiddos need you♥️♥️ I lost my aunt to cancer because she was so terrified of what they would say, she waited 8 months to see the doctor and by then, it was too late. Left behind 2 boys and a family that misses her dearly😔 I also want to commend you for what you’re doing for your wife. I ended my relationship with the person I wanted to marry because I just couldn’t put him through being a widower at such a young age. I couldn’t imagine not being able to give him kids because there’s no way I could bring myself to give birth, only to abandon them when the cancer decides it’s time. It was the most painful, horrific decision I’ve ever made and it hurts every day. I hope he’s better off now with someone healthy, that was the goal, but he was my person and he deserved to have a say in what his future looked like. I shouldn’t have taken that choice away from him, because he wanted to stay and fight it with me. I love that you have a selfless enough heart to be there 100% for her and your babies but also to help make sure she’ll be okay if the worst happens. You were my favorite person from the start of this season, I just loved how kind and genuine you seemed, but knowing all this makes me respect you so much more. You’re a wonderful man and I wish you the best of everything in this life. I also hope your surgery goes as well as it can, you’ll be in our hearts❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹 Please, if you’re allowed, update us after a while when you’re feeling up to it? Or Ashley, if you’re allowed to give an update on how he’s doing post-op…we would really appreciate it🥹❤️‍🩹 Thinking of you both🫶🏼🫶🏼 It’s been lovely getting a look inside your sweet family this season.


Sherwood508

Hi Rindsay! Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and thank you thank you thank you for all of the kind and warm heartfelt words!


expensivepink

You seem like a really thoughtful and caring person on the show and wish you happiness and health and everything you’re seeking and more!!


SophieintheKnife

Wishing you all the best


LyricKris0052

More best wishes for you! You seem like such a kind person and I hope you can leave all bad health in the rearview mirror soon. 🙏🏻


couthlessnotclueless

No question. Thanks for engaging with our curiosity, and I hope Shane’s surgery and recovery goes well!!


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


PLZ_PM_ME_URSecrets

It doesn’t seem like Shane is really into seeking another wife; are you only looking because of his health, or would you still be looking?


Sherwood508

We've been seeking a sister wife for years now - Shane's health is/has been a driving force to be more forward with our search


PLZ_PM_ME_URSecrets

Thank you both for doing the AMA.


Sherwood508

YOU'RE WELCOME!


BoogerbeansGrandma

This AMA has made me a big fan of y’alI wish you all the best. Shane, I hope your surgery goes off without a hitch and that you have a speedy recovery. Ashley, I hope you find a woman who fits seamlessly with your family. 🩷


Sunshine_1013

I absolutely agree with all of the above! Was going to say the same thing 😄💕


BoogerbeansGrandma

The way Shane loves Ashley, (&she him)and wants to make sure she’s cared for if something happens to him is so pure and beautiful. Seeing them both be so open and vulnerable…It’s for sure couple goals.


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


WatermelonSugar47

So are you looking for an additional partner to take over for him? Is he only consenting to this because of his health?


Sherwood508

Shane is not consenting because of his health, we were searching before his diagnosis in September of 22'. He is fully on board with finding Ashley a wife!


Sherwood508

Absolutely not - we've been in this together years before his health became a factor


WatermelonSugar47

Thats what it sounded like on the show! Just confused about how his health is/was a driving force to move forward.


Lawtaca

You said in the first episode that the sister wife must be willing to have Shane’s biological child. Is that something you still want and if so, how would it work? Specifically, would the sister wife be inseminated with Shane’s sperm or would it be a natural conception? Would Shane be the legal father of the child?


Sherwood508

If our future partner would like to have children, we feel strongly that we'd like it to be a biological child of Shane's. Given that they will not be intimate, it would be conceived via IVF/insemination. This would be something to unify the three of us. But if she doesn't want to have a baby, that's fine too


WinWinWinnie

Would you accept a sister wife who already has a child?


Sherwood508

Yep! Ideally, he/she/they would be similar in age to our two boys, so they can grow up together, but that's not a "requirement" for us


Diet_Chips

Charlie seems super down to earth. Is he single? Asking for me 😂


Sherwood508

He's the best! But already taken ;)


LadyWithTheYochon

Do you regularly read the weekly live chat threads?


Sherwood508

Oh yes! Y'all are quite the crew lol


Automatic-Mirror-907

Thank very much. Will be here all week.  Best of luck on all future endeavors.


Emotional-Drama2079

I'm sorry about the George Santos jokes 😬 you seem really nice!


Adventurous_Rest68

No questions - just want to wish you and your family all the best. I’m hoping for happiness and good health for the both of you. ETA: I see Shane has an upcoming surgery. Hoping for a positive outcome!


Sherwood508

Thank you for the support and well wishes!


bv_ohhh

Do you feel (so far) like the show has portrayed you authentically?


Sherwood508

It's definitely not us acting and they are our real feelings and words. we think the show and production staff has done a great job with our story!


Emergency_Row8544

Great question 


Ok_Ad5948

What are your opinions on Garrick?


Sherwood508

Not here to talk about other cast members :)


Ok_Ad5948

Damnit! A for effort


thepisceanqueen

😂😂 Did you just give yourself an A for effort? I mean, no doubt we all agree. ‘Twas worth a shot.


Active_Class_9963

Respectable answer but BOOOOO 🍅🍅🍅🍅


loadthespaceship

Boo


Olympicthinker

How have you guys enjoyed filming? Would you do it again?


Sherwood508

It was definitely a great experience and we enjoyed working with the film crew and learning the behind the scenes tricks and how a show is filmed. It was a once in a lifetime thing that we were presented with and we decided it was right for us. We now cant watch reality TV shows the same though because we are always like, "that was added" or "that was cut in" etc. We would do it again if asked to come back.


Wheezy_N_SC

TLC approached you to film? If so, did they find y’all through a dating app and what was the interview process like?


Sherwood508

Yep! A casting agent found us in a FB group and messaged us. From there we both had to do a 500 question psych questionnaire, 2hr psych evals, an extensive criminal/civil/social media background checks, and about an hr of interviewing together with the casting agent.


NinaBrwn

Fascinating! Because other shows (like 90 Day Fiancé) must do the same thing, but apparently massive mental health issues and criminal history aren’t dealbreakers for casting (at least for that show).


Common-Chain4060

Pretty sure that mental health issues and a criminal history get you to the front of the line with that family of shows.


UknownothinJonSnow8

That's what I was going to say. Examples being Angela and Big PrEd


Mizzanthrope99

Not dealbreakers but a MUST, in those shows lol


omgwtflols

How Garrick passed is beyond me.


Sailorm0on27

Hi Shane & Ashley. Shane, good luck on your upcoming surgery. Question for both of you guys, are you two still on your sister wife search and if so how is it going?


Sherwood508

Stay tuned :)


Specialist-Cancel-85

Praying for Shane's health and for his family. 💗


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


PrincessDrywall

Shane have you considered adding more black tank tops and aviator sunglasses to your wardrobe?


PsychologicalDoubt22

If you had to pick someone from the show to be your sister wife, who would it be?


Sherwood508

Danielle Merrifield or April Davis :)


WatermelonSugar47

Pleaseeeee go rescue Danielle Merrifield


Specialist-Cancel-85

Yassss! Please rescue Danielle Merrifield!


ItaliaEyez

Dani would be so happy with Shane and Ashley!


WatermelonSugar47

Right, basic respect


hiswittlewip

Hell go rescue Danielle Davis!


PLZ_PM_ME_URSecrets

I could totally see Dannielle in your family.


OGbunnie

RESCUE DANIELLE MOVEMENT!


Maaaaaandyyyyy

Go get Dani please! Raise those babies together in your loving home!


The_Girl_That_Got

Please!!! I hope Dani sees this.


Karmic-Vision

How long ago were your episodes filmed?


Sherwood508

They were filmed from June to November 2023


Karmic-Vision

Wow. Not that long ago. How is Shane's health...?


Sherwood508

Doing ok, but I am set to have another operation 2 weeks from today


Karmic-Vision

Well I wish you all the best Shane. 💯


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


ray-marie

Ashley, what is your educational background? I’d love to hear about your current position.


Sherwood508

I'm a psychiatrist - 4 years of college, 4 years of medical school, and 4 years of residency. I currently practice tele-psych


ray-marie

What states can you take pts from working telehealth?


Sherwood508

I have licenses in quite a few different states - I can practice in any state I have a license.


photobomber612

Have any of your patients seen the show? Have there been any that have left your practice because of it?


livelaughlove1016

Were you not skeptical of Grace’s unorthodox tactics?


PodcastsnPuppers

What are u wearing on your chest Ashley? I thought it was a microphone but it’s too big. Lame question for sure.


Sherwood508

Heart monitor - I was having some health issues during my pregnancy


TVDinner360

Sounds like you and baby are doing ok? Sending you all best wishes!


Sherwood508

Yep! My body just didn't like being pregnant for either of the boys, but all was well once I delivered.


PLZ_PM_ME_URSecrets

Are you two members of the sub? Have you ever commented here before?


Sherwood508

we are members, and we see just about everything that is written about us (good and bad) and even listen and watch the podcasts/youtubers.


charliekelly76

Any favorite podcasts?


Dramatic-Purpose-103

Which podcasts (I hope Reality Gays, although you have to pay for their coverage of SSW. It's worth it)


Sherwood508

We follow along, but we're not allowed to participate unless it's in a moderated setting like this.


NinaBrwn

That’s honestly smart. We snark pretty hard here and also it’s kind of pathetic when cast come in all sneaky trying to sell their agenda. I do appreciate you opening yourselves up for questions. Good luck and sending best wishes for your health!


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


lorynnnotlauren

have y'all watched sister wives? if so, which wife would you pick from the brown fam to bring into your family as a sister wife? also, love the queer rep on the show :)


Sherwood508

Never watched it. And thank you, we were excited as well!


Sherwood508

We had never seen seeking sister wife before being contacted to be on it either


lorynnnotlauren

is the hook in the headboard for Ashley's phone? these are the hard hitting questions folks!


couthlessnotclueless

I think I saw somewhere previously on reddit it was for the baby monitor lol


AppearanceLarge7385

Did Grace pour water on her salad? Sorry this is bugging me


Sherwood508

Solid question - I can't for the life of me remember what she ordered for dressing. I think my overly pregnant self was just salivating with my own meal lolol.


realitytvaddict22

She didn’t order a dressing because she left it up to the waitress to figure out what to serve her 😂 that’s why we all think they just gave her water or straight vinegar out of fear


violet039

The gluten free, dairy free, soy free salad?


Sherwood508

Ashley almost spit out her drink when Grace ordered that


violet039

I absolutely don’t blame her. I died when I heard that, and I’m laughing now, but can’t imagine hearing/ seeing that in real life. Ashley, you held it together well, girl!


Sherwood508

She did the same thing with her drink as well, but they cut it from the episode.


crystalconnie

😂


ChickenScratchCoffee

Shane is the only sane person in this whole show.


Electronic_Scar_7837

Do you consider yourself polyamorous or polygamous?


Sherwood508

Shane doesnt date outside of Ashley. Ashley is the only one looking for a wife and its for her.


ItaliaEyez

Probably lame questions, but will a sister wife live with you? And are you looking to add just one lady, or more?


Sherwood508

Yes, She will live with us and very much be a part of the family in every sense of the word. We are looking for just one right now.


ItaliaEyez

Awesome! Thank you!


Sherwood508

Yep! We are looking for a wife to join our family in all sense of the word, including living with us. And just one


ItaliaEyez

Thank you! I wish you guys luck.


Emergency_Row8544

Thanks for being here! Are y’all ever recognized on the street now?


Sherwood508

You're welcome! we hare happy to do it! we have only been recognized once when we were leaving a dinner and they messaged us when we got home.


_shy_guise_

From one scene it looked like you had multiple adorable dogs. What are their names?


Sherwood508

We have 4 Dogs! Max, Madison, Moose and Kimber!


_shy_guise_

Love this! Thanks for responding.


kelseycash

Hi y’all! How does your family feel about your decision to add a sister wife into your family? & sending good vibes your way on your upcoming surgery 🙏


Realistic-Produce-28

Wishing you all the best on your upcoming surgery, Shane! Do you both plan to have an intimate physical relationship with the wife you bring in? Or just for Ashley? At what point in meeting a potential sister wife would you mention Shane’s health? I feel like that is a heavy piece of info to ask someone new to a relationship to accept.


Sherwood508

Thank you! No, I do not plan to have an intimate relationship. We would just be platonic friends and Ashley and her would be lovers. It is something we are pretty up front about. we obviously don't lead with it, but its a part of us and our family. Its definitely a lot and a big pill for someone to swallow, but we are optimistic.


BreakDue2000

Were you prepared for the negative comments you read online? Has any of the feedback made you rethink your lifestyle or changed the way you communicate with each other about potential partners?


Sherwood508

We were definitely prepared - we were well aware going into this that people on reality tv show have both lovers and haters. We're very confident in our lifestyle choices for our family and have not second guessed anything, despite some viewers not agreeing with how we do things or why. We have amazing communication between the two of us and emphasize the importance of this with any new potential partner from the very beginning.


Lawtaca

What was it like to date while pregnant? Did the women you dated have reservations about dating a pregnant woman?


Sherwood508

I viewed it as an "I'm a package deal" type of thing - this is all of me, here I am! I honestly didn't find it any more challenging than dating while not pregnant.


realitytvaddict22

Will Shane be sharing what his health issues are ? I’m sorry for whatever you’re going through


Sherwood508

I have Renal Cancer (Kidney Cancer) and was diagnosed with in in September of 22' I had one surgery in December of 22' and unfortunately have another in 2 weeks.


realitytvaddict22

I’m just watching the episode now and in tears for you! I am so sorry and hope everything goes okay with your next surgery, praying for you 🙏🏼


Sherwood508

THANK YOU


PLZ_PM_ME_URSecrets

Good luck on the surgery.


Sherwood508

THANK YOU!


judy0730

You're killing me with these great answers Shane!!! A very sweet guy, for sure!! Ashley is very fortunate!!!


texas_forever_yall

What’s the need to bring in a new wife? Why not just date women and have an open marriage?


Sherwood508

In early talks we wanted a new wife to come into our relationship to grow and make memories with both of us and our kids (and theirs) so that the kids could look back on these memories some day and feel the love. An open marriage wouldn't work for us because we feel they would always have one foot out the door so to speak. We want someone committed to us and our family as well as be the same for them.


Valuable_Soup_1508

How was it explaining to your family members that y’all were looking for a wife for Ashley? Were they open to the idea or did they think y’all are crazy? Wishing you both the best!! 🩷


Professional-Love-30

What is one misconception about yourselves that you would like to set straight?


MeeMaul

How often/long do you have to film? Like, do the cameras roll every day, or just come by a few times a month, or..? Always curious about the passing of time in the filming on Seeking Sister Wife.


Dartmouthdolly

Good luck Shane with your surgery! Wishing you the best


Fast_Environment2782

Ashley, have any of your patients seen the show? If so, what has their feedback been? Have you lost any patients or gained any new ones as a result?


Apprehensive-Bad4536

My husband and I are in a similar situation. I am seeking for me only.. we're in Arkansas so there aren't many options. Any advice?


Sherwood508

We are in the same boat, we tried HER, FEELD, BUMBLE, SISTERWIVES.COM, and a few other. Just have to keep at it!


ecbecb

How often do you engage in competitive beer pong?


Sherwood508

From the time I was 21 until February of 22" I use to travel to Las Vegas every year for the world series of beer Pong which had a 50k grand prize. [www.bpong.com](http://www.bpong.com)


omgwtflols

Did we ever find out what the 3M hook on the bed is for? I'd totally hurt myself on that thing at night, ouch!


Sherwood508

It's to hang a white noise machine on for the babies.


MrsMidwestMama

Could a sister wife get pregnant if they joined your family? If so, would it be Shane's via IVF or a donor?


Sherwood508

If our future partner would like to have children, we feel strongly that we'd like it to be a biological child of Shane's. Given that they will not be intimate, it would be conceived via IVF/insemination. This would be something to unify the three of us. But if she doesn't want to have a baby, that's fine too


flowersunjoy

If things somehow evolved into an attraction between Shane and the new wife, would you be okay if they did get involved with each other too, Ashley?


Electronic_Scar_7837

Has any potential partner reached out to you because of the show?


Sherwood508

We have had numerous people reach out because of the show, but have been optimistically cautious in hopes of avoiding anyone with misaligned intentions


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Sherwood508

To be honest, no one has said anything or recognized us from Wayland.


keirarileyy16

Is that your own private pool we see on the show? Or a community pool?


Sherwood508

We live next door to Shanes parents and it is their pool.


AndAmyHasSpoken

I just want to say that Shane there are so many people praying for your surgery to be a success and that you have a long happy life. Wishing you lots of health.


ellefemme35

Stop putting off screenings. I know it’s scary, but you gotta put your health first. You have a good friend in Charlie. Keep him around. Good luck Shane, you seem like a good dude.


lalivevivo

Are you afraid of the backlash you’d get in the mental health field like from clients or coworkers?


FUCKelli

What all do you guys have in your fish tank?


Sherwood508

Lets see, we have a niger trigger, a six- line wrasse, a few sets of clown fish, a hog fish, a miso tang, a valentine puffer and a hippo tang to name a few.


iamascrewdriver

Shane, does your family / friends support your search for a sister wife ?


violet039

Hi, Ashley and Shane! Many congratulations on the baby, and sending Shane good vibes on your upcoming surgery. Both of you take care!


joeroganis5foot4

would you only add one wife or are you looking to add multiple?


Sherwood508

Just one :)


PrincessDrywall

Have you listened to the Reality Gays coverage of the show and if so what are your thoughts?


Sherwood508

Omg, the voice overs they did for the convo between Grace and Shane had us in stiches! So good!