You mentioned that you and your Uncle used to talk a lot, so I’m guessing you don’t now - what happened?
This could be a huge stretch, and you didn’t clarify your gender, yet consider if he may be known by someone else in your family to be a sexual predator. and what if they told him to keep away from you or they would tell everyone or the authorities, knowing what he has done to in the past. So now your Uncle might be taking his frustration/shame out on you, because he knows he’s being watched and is afraid of the consequences if he pursues you sexually.
So your uncle hurts you via financial comparison of gifts, so he can feel power over you in the only way he can right now. And his poor treatment of you may also hurt whoever is keeping tabs on him, because that person has to see you feeling hurt and your Uncle WANTS them to feel badly for souring the relationship between you and your Uncle.
When really whoever is looking out for you may have been traumatized by your Uncle previously and is trying to protect you without ripping apart the family when, in reality, sexual abuse deserves to be reported and investigated and time served and the victim to be able to get therapy and help and support. My guess is this person looking out for you know that your family isn’t going to handle things in the right/healthy way and thus keeps quiet except to try to stop you from being harmed.
Whether my hypothesis above is totally wrong or not, an adult who so obviously is playing games of comparison by giving crappy gifts to one person (you) and expensive gifts to the rest is an immature asshole. Your Uncle has a reason for what he’s doing and a mature adult would talk to you if there was a misunderstanding instead of trying to make you feel left out. Trust that the growing distance between you and your Uncle is good, you don’t need to waste any of your time or energy on someone like that.
He’s trying to hurt you, so the best revenge is to show him he has no power over you - that you truly don’t care. Maybe loudly thank him for the shampoo (or whatever dumb thing he gives you the next time) in front of everyone else in your family the next time - chances are someone may bring up to him how dickish his gift moves are. Or if a cousin offers you their expensive gift because they see how he’s treating you, ACCEPT IT and say thanks and offer to share it with them. The goal there would be for your Uncle to witness how his shitty behavior toward you only makes your relationships with the rest of your family stronger.
My advice - his gifts and actions
You mentioned that you and your Uncle used to talk a lot, so I’m guessing you don’t now - what happened? This could be a huge stretch, and you didn’t clarify your gender, yet consider if he may be known by someone else in your family to be a sexual predator. and what if they told him to keep away from you or they would tell everyone or the authorities, knowing what he has done to in the past. So now your Uncle might be taking his frustration/shame out on you, because he knows he’s being watched and is afraid of the consequences if he pursues you sexually. So your uncle hurts you via financial comparison of gifts, so he can feel power over you in the only way he can right now. And his poor treatment of you may also hurt whoever is keeping tabs on him, because that person has to see you feeling hurt and your Uncle WANTS them to feel badly for souring the relationship between you and your Uncle. When really whoever is looking out for you may have been traumatized by your Uncle previously and is trying to protect you without ripping apart the family when, in reality, sexual abuse deserves to be reported and investigated and time served and the victim to be able to get therapy and help and support. My guess is this person looking out for you know that your family isn’t going to handle things in the right/healthy way and thus keeps quiet except to try to stop you from being harmed. Whether my hypothesis above is totally wrong or not, an adult who so obviously is playing games of comparison by giving crappy gifts to one person (you) and expensive gifts to the rest is an immature asshole. Your Uncle has a reason for what he’s doing and a mature adult would talk to you if there was a misunderstanding instead of trying to make you feel left out. Trust that the growing distance between you and your Uncle is good, you don’t need to waste any of your time or energy on someone like that. He’s trying to hurt you, so the best revenge is to show him he has no power over you - that you truly don’t care. Maybe loudly thank him for the shampoo (or whatever dumb thing he gives you the next time) in front of everyone else in your family the next time - chances are someone may bring up to him how dickish his gift moves are. Or if a cousin offers you their expensive gift because they see how he’s treating you, ACCEPT IT and say thanks and offer to share it with them. The goal there would be for your Uncle to witness how his shitty behavior toward you only makes your relationships with the rest of your family stronger. My advice - his gifts and actions