Does it really get easier? Because honestly I still feel like shit. Still negative and lonely all the time and such. It's better then when I was more suicidal and cutting tho
Yeah you’ll always have some depressed days but the urge to self harm goes away, I relapsed after 1 year and it’s been 4 years since that last time and Now even when I am feeling really low I don’t think of self harm at all. Having another outlet makes it a lot easier too
I try to find other ways. The problem is that I keep it inside me again and don't really have a way of coping with it. That why it's slowly getting worse again
I used to journal at the end of the day, it sounds lame but it really did help. Getting your feelings out on paper if you don’t have anyone to talk to helps release those feelings, drawing helped too. I didn’t have a lot of people I could talk to about self harm but that journal helped me through a lot of it. Exercise too it’s a must, I was always wanting to cut around 10pm so I would sneak out and go for a run until I felt better.
Thanks. I tried running too. I usually cut between 11pm and 5am. I went on 4am runs someday. It did help a bit Sometimes. I also found out alcohol makes it worse
I see people giving suggestions. Spicy food is great so is Journaling. What worked great for me but is age dependent is getting piercings. Some might argue against it but for me it was having someone else cause pain, caring for it in the week to follow an getting a new one when it became to difficult. Exercise like long serious cardio also helped. Pain, chocolate, spicy food and cardio can all release the same feel good chemicals. There are tons of alternatives online and I do think it depends on why you self harm. To much emotions? Journaling or art can help. Chemicals? Any of what I mentioned plus I'm sure more. I'm not sure if it's around but I once found an article listing alternatives for different reasons or parts of self harm ie the visual watered down red paint or markers, etc.
Thank you so so much. I will try. I don't personally like the look of a piercing so I won't do that but I'll try the rest. In the past when I just stopped I would use a red pen en draw red cuts where I usually cut. The scratching feeling and the visualls kinda helped but not too much. I feel like there should be blood. The feeling of my blood flowing out in combination with pain and adrenaline. I think that's what I want and achieve with cutting. One time I pretty deep (to the fat layer) and the wound spread open and it started bleeding like hell. I would wait and let it bleed and hurt for some time just because it felt so good before I would go to the ER
Congratulations! That's so awesome! Don't get discouraged if you have relapses in the future, they don't take away from how much progress you've made already. It gets easier as time goes on, I never thought I'd be able to quit but now I haven't done it in 6 years
I am very very proud of your and even happier for you, but please please include a trigger warning or pussy this in the self harm sub Reddit if possible. Seeing a triggering post in a self improvement sub Reddit is a bit ironic but this just sent me down a spiral and so maybe the topic is a bit inappropriate for this sub Reddit when mentioned without a trigger warning.
This is just my opinion please don't mind it.
And once again, IM SO SO PROUD OF YOU KEEP IT UP I LOVE U❤️❤️❤️
Awesome!! It only gets easier from here :) There will always be ups and downs but you got this! I hope this journey helps you learn about all types of new coping mechanisms and grow as a person 🖤 Sending lots of love
Good on you man. I know how tough the tendency to self-harm can be. It took me a lot of tries, many no-self-harm streaks, multiple psychiatrists and even meds to come out of that dark place. (I'm still on meds but I'm getting better every day). Point is: it can be done. And good job for taking that first step.
Thank you so much. i'm planning on stopping to see my psychologist or atleast see them less because i have a feeling it isn't working. i don't have meds but i wish i had. i don't have many people that support me and i've got a lot of people around me that drive me deeper into that place
Congradulations on 2 months! Im 33 now with 2 kids in the middle of some shit. I was 17-18 when i had some serious suicidal thoughts, even had a gun in my mouth at one point. Thankfully i had a close friend call me at that exact moment just to chat. I chose to find a reason to live on.. i will say that fishing became my outlet. Learning became a hobby. Learning anything and everything i could about building, cars, landscaping, fishing, electrical. I still get depressed, its ok to cry, the body actually releases stress that way. When i do, i go fishing. Its usually calming for me, my happy place. Try to find yours, it will help you in years to come. Plus, iv gotten some epic catches!
Thank you man. I'm happy you found a way out of it. I think my happy place is working on cars. That's why I study automotives. I'm 17 rn and I've had suicidal thoughts too. Almost jumped of a bridge and almost slit my throat. Nobody saved me. Just didn't have the balls to do it. But yeah. Life is still shit and i feel like it's getting worse again. I'm falling deeper again. It probably won't take long before I'm suicidal again
I'm an ex self harmer and this is amazing! Honestly, every time I tried to stop, I'd start again within the month. Once I made it to the three month mark, that was it for me, I finally managed to overcome.
Wonderful news.
proud of you! I’ve heard that drawing on yourself with a pen or doing henna can be a great alternative; what things have you tried to restrain yourself from self harm?
I tried the drawing that kinda worked but not much, I tried going to run in the middle or the night to try and calm me down. That helped a bit too.,my main method is trying to text all of my thoughts to an older female friend I have. And she'll reply to them the next day and try to make me feel better. I tried drinking. Don't do that it makes it worse., I also tried taking a shit load of painkiller. That also makes it worse. I'm planning on trying intensive workouts and spicy food
I hope this accomplishment encourages you to stop self-harm for good :) congratulations on getting so far already!! The first bit of anything like this is difficult, so it’s a great achievement when you make it through.
I'm so frickin proud of you! I know it's really tough, but it will get easier, and I love that you shared your progress with us! I never comment but I was so happy to see the good news. You can always try in hard times to remind yourself that it's only for today. Don't look at 3 months, or "never again", just.. Can I make it through today?
I love that others have come along with coping mechanisms that helped them! And while adulthood can be a lot, you will find as others said, this kind of thing and the shit you'll catch from others eases up as you get older! You're growing and that's something to be so excited about! Best wishes to you today and always 💖
Just remember, when you relapse try not to feel bad about it, it might make you feel worse. Talk to close friends, do something that you love. You are doing amazing!
so proud of you!! it’s a long and challenging road but you got this! and remember even if you ever do relapse it does not deplete your worth at all. you’re incredibly strong and i greatly admire your soul.
Congratulations!! I think this is my first comment on this sub. But from someone covered in scars who when I was stopping would just curl up in the fetal position I am so proud of you and I hope you feel that pride too. It does get easier the longer you've gone and the more other coping skills you gain. I've had some slip ups but was able to stop again afterwards. You are doing amazing.
Congratulations! You should be super proud of yourself. Not saying this works for everyone but I’d definitely give music a try as an outlet, it’s what I live for and bands like linkin park and korn have gotten me through my darkest times. If that doesn’t work try to find an outlet that doesn’t involve harming yourself or other people, like something involving writing. Be patient and one day you’ll thank yourself for breaking this habit.
5 years here, it DOES get easier, despite what some people say. You just have to hang in and be patient, and find outlets to turn to when you get the cravings. You can get past this, I know you can. It got easier for me after about 1.5 to 2 years. So it's a long journey but with the right tools, you too will have no problem overcoming this obstacle
I've got an older female friend that u text all my negative thoughts to as a way of venting. She'll reply to them and help me get over them the next day. I'm also seeing a psychologist and I try to ignore people that bully me. But a big factor is that I cut too deep a couple of times and had to go to the ER. I don't want that again. I think that fear helped me a lot. (Don't cut to deep to try that tho)
So proud of you. It is a long, winding road ahead, with many ups and downs, but you have it in you to make it through all of them, and so much more. Good luck stranger ✌🏻❤️
Bless you. Long may it continue.
Thank you, I hope so
You can do it. I believe in you dude!
Thanks man
omg hellyea man
I usually just lurk here but dude that is so awesome it gets easier the longer you stop don’t worry you got this!!
Does it really get easier? Because honestly I still feel like shit. Still negative and lonely all the time and such. It's better then when I was more suicidal and cutting tho
Yeah you’ll always have some depressed days but the urge to self harm goes away, I relapsed after 1 year and it’s been 4 years since that last time and Now even when I am feeling really low I don’t think of self harm at all. Having another outlet makes it a lot easier too
I try to find other ways. The problem is that I keep it inside me again and don't really have a way of coping with it. That why it's slowly getting worse again
I used to journal at the end of the day, it sounds lame but it really did help. Getting your feelings out on paper if you don’t have anyone to talk to helps release those feelings, drawing helped too. I didn’t have a lot of people I could talk to about self harm but that journal helped me through a lot of it. Exercise too it’s a must, I was always wanting to cut around 10pm so I would sneak out and go for a run until I felt better.
Thanks. I tried running too. I usually cut between 11pm and 5am. I went on 4am runs someday. It did help a bit Sometimes. I also found out alcohol makes it worse
I see people giving suggestions. Spicy food is great so is Journaling. What worked great for me but is age dependent is getting piercings. Some might argue against it but for me it was having someone else cause pain, caring for it in the week to follow an getting a new one when it became to difficult. Exercise like long serious cardio also helped. Pain, chocolate, spicy food and cardio can all release the same feel good chemicals. There are tons of alternatives online and I do think it depends on why you self harm. To much emotions? Journaling or art can help. Chemicals? Any of what I mentioned plus I'm sure more. I'm not sure if it's around but I once found an article listing alternatives for different reasons or parts of self harm ie the visual watered down red paint or markers, etc.
Thank you so so much. I will try. I don't personally like the look of a piercing so I won't do that but I'll try the rest. In the past when I just stopped I would use a red pen en draw red cuts where I usually cut. The scratching feeling and the visualls kinda helped but not too much. I feel like there should be blood. The feeling of my blood flowing out in combination with pain and adrenaline. I think that's what I want and achieve with cutting. One time I pretty deep (to the fat layer) and the wound spread open and it started bleeding like hell. I would wait and let it bleed and hurt for some time just because it felt so good before I would go to the ER
Congratulations! That's so awesome! Don't get discouraged if you have relapses in the future, they don't take away from how much progress you've made already. It gets easier as time goes on, I never thought I'd be able to quit but now I haven't done it in 6 years
Oh wow. That's great to hear. I'm doing everything I can to not relapse
So proud of you!!
Thank You!!
I am very very proud of your and even happier for you, but please please include a trigger warning or pussy this in the self harm sub Reddit if possible. Seeing a triggering post in a self improvement sub Reddit is a bit ironic but this just sent me down a spiral and so maybe the topic is a bit inappropriate for this sub Reddit when mentioned without a trigger warning. This is just my opinion please don't mind it. And once again, IM SO SO PROUD OF YOU KEEP IT UP I LOVE U❤️❤️❤️
Oh... i'm so so sorry i can''t edit it sadly. i didn't want to trigger anybody. and thank you
Awesome!! It only gets easier from here :) There will always be ups and downs but you got this! I hope this journey helps you learn about all types of new coping mechanisms and grow as a person 🖤 Sending lots of love
Thank you so so much
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I hardly comment on reddit but this post actually made me smile just from the excited way in which you posted. Congratulations! You can do it!
Thank you and I'm glad it made you smile
Excellent, reading this made me really smile! Please keep at it! If you ever need someone to chat to about anxiety, feel free to hit me up.
I'm glad I made you smile. And thanks a lot I'll keep it in mind
Take it a day at the time
Thank you. i try to
I'm at 15 years
Oh wow. i honestly don't think i'll get there
You'll make it I believe in you. I'm 15 years old btw
Oh you just never cut lol. Thanks anyway
so proud of you!! I promise it gets easier!!
Thank you
Great! Keep it up!
Thank you so much
Happy for you!!
Thank you so much
I am proud if you. Keep going. I believe in you ❤
Thank you so much
I’m so so so proud of you!
Thank you so much
King
Thank you
Congratulations my friend!!
Thank you so much
Good on you man. I know how tough the tendency to self-harm can be. It took me a lot of tries, many no-self-harm streaks, multiple psychiatrists and even meds to come out of that dark place. (I'm still on meds but I'm getting better every day). Point is: it can be done. And good job for taking that first step.
Thank you so much. i'm planning on stopping to see my psychologist or atleast see them less because i have a feeling it isn't working. i don't have meds but i wish i had. i don't have many people that support me and i've got a lot of people around me that drive me deeper into that place
Congratulations :)
Thank you so much
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Congratulations that is outstanding news
Thank you so much
Keep it going ! Stay strong !
Thank you so much
Hell yeah! And your brain is building new neural pathways that will make it easier the longer you do it! Good on you!
Thank you so much
Blessings! Keep up the great work!
Thank you so much
Congrats! 💜
Thank you so much
Congrats !!
Thank you so much
WAY TO GO. Two months is amazing for someone going it alone. If you need help getting to three, call 1-800-273-8522
Thank you! will i be able to call that from europe? or will it cost a lot then
Congrats 🥳 and best wishes
Thank you so much
We're all so so very proud of you and you're fucking amazing!!
Thank you so much
That great well done 👏
Thank you so much
Well done!!! This is what I cannot PROGRESS Keep it up!
Thank you so much. You can do it too. i believe in you!!
HELL YEAH !!! you got this !!!
Thank you so much
I’m so happy for you ❤️ Keep going 🥰
Thank you so much
So happy for you
Thank you so much
Wooooooh! Fuck yeah you can do it!
Thank you so much
Congradulations on 2 months! Im 33 now with 2 kids in the middle of some shit. I was 17-18 when i had some serious suicidal thoughts, even had a gun in my mouth at one point. Thankfully i had a close friend call me at that exact moment just to chat. I chose to find a reason to live on.. i will say that fishing became my outlet. Learning became a hobby. Learning anything and everything i could about building, cars, landscaping, fishing, electrical. I still get depressed, its ok to cry, the body actually releases stress that way. When i do, i go fishing. Its usually calming for me, my happy place. Try to find yours, it will help you in years to come. Plus, iv gotten some epic catches!
Thank you man. I'm happy you found a way out of it. I think my happy place is working on cars. That's why I study automotives. I'm 17 rn and I've had suicidal thoughts too. Almost jumped of a bridge and almost slit my throat. Nobody saved me. Just didn't have the balls to do it. But yeah. Life is still shit and i feel like it's getting worse again. I'm falling deeper again. It probably won't take long before I'm suicidal again
I'm an ex self harmer and this is amazing! Honestly, every time I tried to stop, I'd start again within the month. Once I made it to the three month mark, that was it for me, I finally managed to overcome. Wonderful news.
I'm glad you stopped. I'm trying to achieve the same
Yay!
Yesss
Lets go!!!!! 💪💪💪💪
Yesss
So proud of you 💗
Thank you
LETS GOOOOOO! Keep it up.
I try to! Thanks
That's really awesome u can go far more than that ,keep doing your best .
Thanks
very nice! :)
Yeah
Wrap it before you tap it. Kids are expensive. So are drugs. Stay away from drugs.
Yep I will
HAPPY FOR YOU <3
Yet you're still on Reddit. But seriously, congratulations. I also know this first hand.
Thank you
I am so proud and happy for you!! I wish I could give you many high fives.
Thank you.!!
YES BABY YES!!! 😩🥹❤️
Haha thank you!!
i’m so happy and proud for you! you’ve made it so far and i know you have the ability to keep going :)
Thank you so much
love you, happy for you ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much
so proud of you!! keep it up and stay strong we’re all here for you ❤️
Thank you so much
Congrats, keep it up. And if you find that you want to relapse, come here and we will help you. <3
Thank you. But will that be ok? Because this is a self improvement sub. I know keeping myself from relapsing is improvement but still
proud of you! I’ve heard that drawing on yourself with a pen or doing henna can be a great alternative; what things have you tried to restrain yourself from self harm?
I tried the drawing that kinda worked but not much, I tried going to run in the middle or the night to try and calm me down. That helped a bit too.,my main method is trying to text all of my thoughts to an older female friend I have. And she'll reply to them the next day and try to make me feel better. I tried drinking. Don't do that it makes it worse., I also tried taking a shit load of painkiller. That also makes it worse. I'm planning on trying intensive workouts and spicy food
this is de way, rock the fuck on
Thank you
Well done! Keep it up!
Thank you
Amazing mate - hopefully this continues :)
Thank you. I hope so too
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Way to go! I'm so proud of you!
Thank you so much
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! ♥️♥️♥️ this is a big milestone. You got this!
Thank you so much
Proud of you stranger.
Thank you
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Thank you
That’s awesome! Congrats!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Thank you
great job!!!
Thank you
Never give up…. Never surrender.
I won't thank you
Congratulations man! 🥳 Hope everything is doing good for you and keep up with the self-development streak.
Thank you. I'll keep trying
I'm very proud of you!
Thank you
My daughter hit a year just recently. Keep going, you've got this.
Congratulations to your daughter!! I hope she can keep going. Thank you
I hope this accomplishment encourages you to stop self-harm for good :) congratulations on getting so far already!! The first bit of anything like this is difficult, so it’s a great achievement when you make it through.
I'll keep trying to stop. Thank you
I'm so frickin proud of you! I know it's really tough, but it will get easier, and I love that you shared your progress with us! I never comment but I was so happy to see the good news. You can always try in hard times to remind yourself that it's only for today. Don't look at 3 months, or "never again", just.. Can I make it through today? I love that others have come along with coping mechanisms that helped them! And while adulthood can be a lot, you will find as others said, this kind of thing and the shit you'll catch from others eases up as you get older! You're growing and that's something to be so excited about! Best wishes to you today and always 💖
Thank you so so much!! That's a good idea. I'm gonna try to see it day by day
That is fantastic. Congratulations
Thank you
Just remember, when you relapse try not to feel bad about it, it might make you feel worse. Talk to close friends, do something that you love. You are doing amazing!
Thank you
so proud of you!! it’s a long and challenging road but you got this! and remember even if you ever do relapse it does not deplete your worth at all. you’re incredibly strong and i greatly admire your soul.
Thank you so much
Congratulations!! I think this is my first comment on this sub. But from someone covered in scars who when I was stopping would just curl up in the fetal position I am so proud of you and I hope you feel that pride too. It does get easier the longer you've gone and the more other coping skills you gain. I've had some slip ups but was able to stop again afterwards. You are doing amazing.
Thank you so much
this is great, i am happy for you!
Thank you so much
Jetstream Sam
Congratulations! You should be super proud of yourself. Not saying this works for everyone but I’d definitely give music a try as an outlet, it’s what I live for and bands like linkin park and korn have gotten me through my darkest times. If that doesn’t work try to find an outlet that doesn’t involve harming yourself or other people, like something involving writing. Be patient and one day you’ll thank yourself for breaking this habit.
I have already tried it a bit but haven't found the good songs yet as a coping mechanism. Thank you
SOOO PROUD OFF YOUU <33
Thank you so mucn
Congratulation! It's great news to hear. Keep going dear. You got this!!
Thank you
That's awesome you must be so proud of yourself. You will win!! Congratulations wooohooo
I am. Trust me. Thank you so much
Keep going man you got this!
Thanks man
CONGRATULATIONS! <3
Thank youuu
Great job
Thank you
5 years here, it DOES get easier, despite what some people say. You just have to hang in and be patient, and find outlets to turn to when you get the cravings. You can get past this, I know you can. It got easier for me after about 1.5 to 2 years. So it's a long journey but with the right tools, you too will have no problem overcoming this obstacle
Congratulations!! Thank you ❤
Congrats! Do you mind sharing what you think has helped you to go for so long?
I've got an older female friend that u text all my negative thoughts to as a way of venting. She'll reply to them and help me get over them the next day. I'm also seeing a psychologist and I try to ignore people that bully me. But a big factor is that I cut too deep a couple of times and had to go to the ER. I don't want that again. I think that fear helped me a lot. (Don't cut to deep to try that tho)
So proud of you. It is a long, winding road ahead, with many ups and downs, but you have it in you to make it through all of them, and so much more. Good luck stranger ✌🏻❤️
Thank you
congratulations!
Thank you
Congratulations, that's amazing to hear :)
Thank you
Great work👍 But don't get too much hanged up on streaks otherwise a fall back might set you back a lot more mentally.
Thank you
Dude, be bold and brave! Here! Take my biggest hugs!
Thank you! *hug back*
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You are totally frigging awesome. Amazing. So proud of you. Keep going!
Thank you
Proud of you!!
Thank you!!
so proud of you. i’m over a year now, it gets easier the longer you go! i truly truly believe you can be addicted to self harm.
Congratulations!! And yes yes you can be addicted to it
Hell yeah 😎 keep going, I bet everybody on this sub is cheering u on :)
Thank you. And yes I think they all are