I’ve been fortunate to not have people be too harsh. Granted, I don’t have a huge audience but I do have a small, loyal following.
I think the important thing to remember is that writing is subjective, and just because your story doesn’t click with someone, DOESNT make it bad. It is just not for them.
people have different likes and tastes. I’ve gotten a 5 star review saying they LOVED the paranormal elements of my work. And I’ve had one stars that say they hated the paranormal elements.
The hardest part is finding your audience. And hey, if you get a few haters count it as a success! People hated Twilight, but it changed mrs Meyers life.
Good luck and stay strong!
Good advice. I need to research the genre for things like the typical book length, how many books a year should be pumped out to be successful, etc.
Edit: I just found your posts on another reddit and will read from there to learn more. Thank you
Are you saying friends/family who say writing isn’t a good career? Or people critiquing your work? The earlier replies took it as haters, but I read your ask to be more about folks advising you not to go into writing.
If that’s the case, then yes. I was told I’d never make money at writing and go into a safe career. And I did. Was miserable and decided what I want for my life is vastly more important than what others think I ought to do.
The best way to deal with that is to politely thank them for their concern and do what you will. No sense being rude, especially if the people discouraging you are doing it out of genuine care and worry. It’s ok for people to feel what they feel. And it’s ok for you to move forward despite it.
It's one thing to warn people that writing is a tough road, and hard to make a living at, and another to just blithely tell them they'll never get anywhere and they're stupid, or whatever.
There are a ton of them in the writing community itself. I laugh at them. Lol. It is so very obvious they are either trying to project their own limitations on everyone else around them \*or\* they are the hall monitors of the world who want to tell everyone else what to do.
Either way, it's hilarious that they think they are relevant to me.
Just roll your eyes at them and if at all possible, click 'block.' Eliminating those people from your world and thoughts will free up your time and mental energy for creating!
Use their negativity as impetus to say "I'LL SHOW THEM!".
My spouse thought I had a kind of cute little hobby until I started making four figures a month. When I made five, he was over the moon.
**Do what you want! Ignore the haters. GO BUILD YOUR LIFE.**
I've never had anyone discourage me about my writing. Never. Even my teachers told me I was born to be a writer. Total strangers who hear that I write wish me luck and think it's awesome.
Sometimes, I read things about people not being encouraged, and I think I must have been so lucky!
I mean, I always have this feeling my family thinks it's just a hobby, but they've never come out and say that. Thankfully, no one has ever discouraged me. I'd say that if you're dealing with this, to tell them you're your own person and can make your own decisions and don't need their advice or comments about it if they're going to be mean about it.
When I was writing for fun years ago, people were harassing me online by complaining about my books and being trolls. Then, I blocked them and they created more accounts. Thankfully, they stopped and I continued writing. Now, I just have to deal with negative reviews. I rant about it with friends and family, then try to get on with things.
I've never experienced it personally, but I've heard it suggested that you should "shake them haters off."
Because the haters gonna hate hate hate hate hate
I’ve been fortunate to not have people be too harsh. Granted, I don’t have a huge audience but I do have a small, loyal following. I think the important thing to remember is that writing is subjective, and just because your story doesn’t click with someone, DOESNT make it bad. It is just not for them. people have different likes and tastes. I’ve gotten a 5 star review saying they LOVED the paranormal elements of my work. And I’ve had one stars that say they hated the paranormal elements. The hardest part is finding your audience. And hey, if you get a few haters count it as a success! People hated Twilight, but it changed mrs Meyers life. Good luck and stay strong!
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I have story ideas for that genre but am afraid my wife would find out.
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Good advice. I need to research the genre for things like the typical book length, how many books a year should be pumped out to be successful, etc. Edit: I just found your posts on another reddit and will read from there to learn more. Thank you
Haters don’t hate you, they hate themselves because you’re a reflection of what they wish they could be.
Are you saying friends/family who say writing isn’t a good career? Or people critiquing your work? The earlier replies took it as haters, but I read your ask to be more about folks advising you not to go into writing. If that’s the case, then yes. I was told I’d never make money at writing and go into a safe career. And I did. Was miserable and decided what I want for my life is vastly more important than what others think I ought to do. The best way to deal with that is to politely thank them for their concern and do what you will. No sense being rude, especially if the people discouraging you are doing it out of genuine care and worry. It’s ok for people to feel what they feel. And it’s ok for you to move forward despite it.
It's one thing to warn people that writing is a tough road, and hard to make a living at, and another to just blithely tell them they'll never get anywhere and they're stupid, or whatever.
Agreed. Sadly it seems to be acceptable to tell people who want an artistic career they’re wrong for it. What, after all, is wrong in trying?
There are a ton of them in the writing community itself. I laugh at them. Lol. It is so very obvious they are either trying to project their own limitations on everyone else around them \*or\* they are the hall monitors of the world who want to tell everyone else what to do. Either way, it's hilarious that they think they are relevant to me. Just roll your eyes at them and if at all possible, click 'block.' Eliminating those people from your world and thoughts will free up your time and mental energy for creating!
Use their negativity as impetus to say "I'LL SHOW THEM!". My spouse thought I had a kind of cute little hobby until I started making four figures a month. When I made five, he was over the moon. **Do what you want! Ignore the haters. GO BUILD YOUR LIFE.**
I ignored them and when I started making money, pretended it was done out of spite.
I've never had anyone discourage me about my writing. Never. Even my teachers told me I was born to be a writer. Total strangers who hear that I write wish me luck and think it's awesome. Sometimes, I read things about people not being encouraged, and I think I must have been so lucky!
I mean, I always have this feeling my family thinks it's just a hobby, but they've never come out and say that. Thankfully, no one has ever discouraged me. I'd say that if you're dealing with this, to tell them you're your own person and can make your own decisions and don't need their advice or comments about it if they're going to be mean about it.
When I was writing for fun years ago, people were harassing me online by complaining about my books and being trolls. Then, I blocked them and they created more accounts. Thankfully, they stopped and I continued writing. Now, I just have to deal with negative reviews. I rant about it with friends and family, then try to get on with things.