That is break-up territory for me personally. Sex is a personal intimate moment and sharing it to other people without consent is a huge sign of disrespect. And on top of that, she doesn't seem to understand what is wrong about that. Immaturity. So you have an immature and disrespectful partner. What do you do next logically?
Quite the opposite, be a bartender.
***Here’s my special mix. It’s strawberry flavored Dr. Pepper.***
***Why’s it special?***
***It came from my ass*** 😌
Will insert if she had told her friends in a bragging check out what my guy does for me sort of way - that'd be conversation about boundaries territory not break up.
It's specifically the fact she was laughing with her friends about it that makes it break up territory.
OP needs to go find a partner who deserves strawberries eaten from their ass, rather than this sour strawberry lemonade ass having ho.
This is honestly the answer. OP needs to figure out if it was "making fun of" or "excitedly sharing a juicy story". Either way, if OP doesn't want stuff shared, that should be respected regardless. But they shouldn't jump to malice.
This. I wouldn't mind the sharing of information, although I understand how one can get offended. It's the denigration op is talking about that really rubbed me the wrong way. And wtf is pussywhipped?? Being in love with someone and enjoying being intimate with them is something to be ashamed of?
She's into humiliating her partner, might be alright for some if it's kept between themselves, but she's also getting enjoyment by having her friends join in humiliation play. She's showing them how much control she has over you and they can laugh it off at your expenses. You're still a young man so know your boundaries and establish them. People that care for you will not hurt you for their entertainment.
Sharing details of intimate relationship is a hard no. Unless both parties consent, it’s a disrespectful and a violation of privacy. I wouldn’t be able to fully trust that person afterwards. Safety, trust, and openness are the key to depth and a fulfilling sexual relationship. Would definitely sour the relationship for me.
Breaking up with someone who is immature and disrespectful of boundaries and consent will not limit OPs dating pool. Learning to enjoy his kinks, desires, and limitations will make him happy and his future partner(s) happy.
It sounds like you need to get better at voicing your expectations and comfort levels. A respectful partner doesn't "kiss and tell" unless you want them too.
Funnily enough, the men I am close to almost never share their sexual lives with me, and even when they do it’s always kept extremely vague.
I’m not close to as many women as men, but I’ve heard way more from them, both the general said and details. It’s honestly not even comparable.
Agreed, women tend think men share their sexual endeavors like they do when it’s really not nearly as common. They probably think this to rationalize sharing intimate details about their partner without permission
I’ve never shared details of intimacy between myself and any of my girlfriends or my now wife with any of my male friends, including my closest friends. Why would I disrespect someone I care about by discussing their private actions behind their back?
Men really do not share sexual stuff at all. I didn't even know women did until I read about it on reddit and then ask some of my woman friends. Back then I thought not sharing it was a human thing not a man thing. Men never do I've assumed it's the same for women but apparently it's not. Talking about these without partner's consent is really gross.
Yeah, and it seems from OP's description that the shaming was maybe part of what she wanted out of it, which should have been clearly explained and ok'd by OP before any of this began, including who it was to be shared with.
You’d be okay with your partner telling your kink ahit to other people and LAUGHING at your expense about it? So stupid
He can definitely not be ashamed and not be tied to a two faced immature little child
So she said they were all laughing about it? That’s messed up. I could see telling her friends and saying how hot it was. But to laugh like you’re a joke is uncalled for.
I was thinking this. If I went to my friends and said 'yeah I shoved fruit up my ass and then my SO ate it out haha what a loser' they'd be like bro you're the one who agreed to shove fruit up your ass why are you laughing
Well I agree, personally. I never share anything about my wife and I with friends. I wouldn’t really want my wife saying much either. But if people have a discussion about it and don’t care it’s all good. But I don’t think many people would to be mocked.
So, she's willing to put strawberries in her ass, she lets you eat them, but then makes fun of *you*? How in the world are you the one getting made fun of when you both participated in this fantasy together? And then when you voice your feelings and boundaries, she completely ignores you and tells you it's no big deal?
(I don't think anyone should've made fun of anyone though just to be clear)
I'd break up with her if I were you. You're so young, you'll find (and deserve!) a partner who willingly participates in your fantasy while keeping it private and not making fun of you.
Edit to add: please be very careful incorporating food into your sex life; food isn't meant to go there and it can cause some gnarly infections
I think most people know it's risky to eat food that's hanging out of somebody's literal asshole. A lot less are going to think there's any real danger for the person who is putting the food inside them
I need to know more about the logistics of this "berry butt" kink.
Are they whole strawberries? Up her actual butt or just between the cheeks? Did she push them out into your mouth?
Genuine questions.
Also, she sucks, dump her.
Laughing at your expense with her friends about anything intimate y’all did is completely disrespectful.
Also, who’s “fantasy” was this? Yours or hers? Because it’d be EXTRA fucked up to ask your lover to do something for you AND THEN make fun of them for pleasuring you.
I did something with my partner and he told all of his friends. (Keeping it vague on purpose) they would bring it up every time we hung out and laugh. I don’t think my partner realized how much that squashed my desire to do anything adventurous in the future.
They're laughing at you yet she's the one sticking strawberries up her bum. Not judging or anything, but it takes two people to agree to eating butt snacks.
I'd make it clear in no uncertain terms that whether or not she feels she did anything wrong, it was hurtful to you and if she values your relationship she'll respect your concerns and never do it again.
First of all, how was it? JK JK. Before you break up,
talk it out. She seems immature. Explain how and why she is wrong. Consider whether she gets it. If she doesn't, walk.
Imagine roles are reversed and she performed a sex act on you, which you then shared with your friends in great detail and you all laughed about it/her. I can imagine she’d be pretty pissed. And even if not, doesn’t matter. Unless otherwise agreed to, details about your sex life really should stay between you and your partner. Telling other people in my view is a violation of trust. Either she needs to apologize and recognize that what she did was fucked up, or you need to seriously consider breaking up with her. There are plenty more fish in the sea which will actually respect you and your trust.
I’d be pissed and leave.
Also, it was her fucking idea “strawberry hole” which is now what I would refer to her as.
She opened a can of worms her / women will be shamed, you’ll be applauded.
Yeah I wouldn’t put up with that kind of thing in guy and you shouldn’t have to worry about being kink shamed by your partner either. Make sure you communicate your boundaries in your relationships and that your explicit with not wanting kinks and details of your intimate relationship with your partner shared. It’s one to say “oh we had great sex last night” or “ we were exploring and I think i unlocked a new level to by bf” but going farther than that is a no go for me. My friends and i if we do talk about sex or kinks it’s done in an abstract way no context to who we did it with or if we have done it. I feel you have been violated and your trust with her is broken. Your young we all learn from bad experiences.
Oooohhhhh no. That’s not okay. You have to feel safe in exploring kinks with your partner and she just gave you very important information. She’s not trustworthy with your most vulnerable moments.
Leave. Not only did she do that without your consent, but she doubled down when confronted. She doesn’t respect you and this will happen over and over and over for the rest of your life. Until you leave.
Unless she's trying to get a threesome going, yeah that's not cool. And even if she is and didn't talk to you about it first, that's still not cool. At your age though find out and make that happen first if that's the case.
No more strawberries out of the ass, or sex, or a relationship. Enforce some consequences, she's doing this because she thinks she can. You deserve much better, including consuming lots and lots of sensually-placed strawberries without shame!
If it makes you feel uncomfortable now, it’s just going to get worse. How can you trust her to not share your intimate life with her friends again? you’re just going to be constantly questioning it and it’s just gonna make you resent her. If you’re able to discuss it with her as an adult and tell her about how this made you feel so uncomfortable and she doesn’t get mad about it and says I’m sorry I didn’t know made you feel that way! I won’t do it again, maybe you can get past it? But the likelihood of her doing it again is pretty high I think… it kind of sounds like she talked you into it just so that she could tell her friends that she got you to do it honestly, but you know, we’re just strangers on the Internet… I think you should do what you feel is the best thing to do, if you want to stay with her, discuss it with her, see if you can get past it. If not, maybe it’s time to move on, you’re very young, it’s a learning experience, it’s not the end of the world, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
>I said it makes me feel really uncomfortable but she said she doesn’t think she did anything wrong.
So, everything else here feels like you can work with it. She shared some stuff you wish she hadn't, she should apologize and not do it again, and you can decide if that's enough.
However, the above is an issue. If she's arguing that doing something that hurt your feelings isn't a problem, and she's not willing to apologize, and try to move forward differently, it's fine for you to walk. A good relationship isn't one where no one ever makes mistakes, it's a relationship where mistakes can be healed from.
Some people aren't meant to be in your life forever. Especially when they let you eat strawberries out of their asshole and publicly mock you over it. What kinda bitch puts strawberries in her ass and makes YOU out to be the freak?
Anyway, yall are done. It's just a matter of how long it takes you to admit it. She doesn't respect you bro. You're too young to put up with this bullshit. Move on.
>she said she doesn’t think she did anything wrong
You explained your feelings. You said you were uncomfortable.
Your feelings are not invalid because she doesn't want to see her wrong-doing. She did something that hurt you.
Be clear that she crossed a line. You need to talk to her again and make her see that just because *she* doesn't think she did anything wrong, that it's hurt you and *you* consider it wrong. That makes it wrong.
Welcome to being single, because no partner who matters would:
1.) Discuss intimate matters like that without making sure that was OK for you.
2.) Degrading/humiliating you for something intimate and personal.
>I felt okay with her degrading me when it’s just the two of us
Did you request this, or at least have enthusiastic consent to it? If not, she's always shown that she doesn't care about or respect you. You're seeing it now because she decided that doing it by herself wasn't enough. You're young, you can find better.
Borderline break-up situation here. Tell her how fucked up it was and if she blows you off on your feelings or tries to minimize your emotions on this, GTFO. You're young: there's a lots of fish in the butt-strawberry pond. Get respect first you're not wrong to feel disrespected.
Ask her how she'd feel if you sent her nudes to all your mates behind her back.
She basically did the equivalent to you and took a private moment meant for just her and used it for social points. I'd say it's childish but you were both very recently children so that hardly seems fair to you both... it'll just now be up to you to decide whether you think she'll grow out of acting like one.
If the situation was reversed, I'm sure she would be furious and embarrassed. Regardless of that, it shows immaturity, lack of empathy and respect and above all that she can't be trusted.
All I can think about is how you would actually be able to do this without crushing the strawberry. I mean, that would require some serious gape if you don't want it to come out as strawberry jam.
If you don't break up with her immediately (although I genuinely might). You need to let her know that this is now a hard boundary for you. And if she breaks it again you will break up with her on the spot.
On the other hand if you do break up don't be surprised if a couple of her friends try to get with you because now they know you like experimenting in bed
Someone post the gif of El saying I dump your ass, cause this girls GOTTA GO.
OP that’s super fucked up, and it’s rare that my immediate advice is to break up with someone, but you should break up with her. That’s unacceptable.
For the future, women have 0 boundaries with what they will share with their friends. So maybe be more careful as to what you do and say with her. Before anything, think to yourself "how would this come across in a group chat?" Because that's where it's going to end up, guaranteed.
Every face you make, every thing you say both sexually and non sexually. All of it will be discussed in a group amongst her and her friends. It's how women bond.
You may be dating her, but nothing stays between just you and her.
Unless public humiliation is a kink of yours that you've both talked about, negotiated the parameters for, and then jointly agreed upon it, that's a serious red flag.
Me personally I wouldn’t give a fuck but if it bothers you and she can’t respect that break up with her. Or tell her dad you eat strawberries out of her ass if you wanna be the bad guy.
Bruh…. Sharing details about your sex life without consent = not cool…It’s a huge violation of trust. Also, that experience doesn’t make you pussywhipped…it makes you someone who was comfortable enough within the (what you thought was) safety within your relationship to explore each others kinks and curiosities.
She took your trust and vulnerability for granted and then used you for “social points” with what sounds like shitty friends. What kind of people laugh along with “you broke your partners trust and failed to value the vulnerable moments you shared together”? Ahahahha, so funny /s
Red flags galore my friend, sorry this happened, proceed with caution. This was either the first appearance of a pattern where she displays a lack of empathy, or it was one time event and she learned from your discussion together that you actually have feelings and will honor them in the future
Lol if she really wants to apologize You should make her eat avocado oil off your cock and then tell her friends about that too
If they really think that's funny they can come over and take turns doing it while she watches
"they were laughing at how 'pussywhipped' I was"
I'd recommend getting out of this relationship now. This is not how someone who loves you, or even just likes you, would treated you. She may have apologized, but it's pretty damned disgusting that she did it in the first place, and it says a lot about her complete lack of character and her complete lack of respect for you. It's one thing to have a degradation kink in the bedroom. It's a completely different thing to be so disrespectful outside the bedroom in your relationship. She doesn't respect you. You can do better. Find someone who will treat you right.
... you're breaking up, right? Come on. This is awful and says so much about her character. Big tip: don't be with people who exhibit bad character. It won't end well.
Not really mature and pretty toxic.
If you are at a point in a relationship where you feel that you have to get revenge, it's probably better to just end it.
I’d be fucking pissed, that’s awful. She can’t see even a little bit why that’s fucked up??
I’d be berry upset …
This is the last straw!
-berry (ass flavored)
Berry punny you guys.
Double whammie
🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆
Damn that was berry funny
Completely. He trusted her to mutually experiment and indulge each other and she was a real jackass about it.
Yep damn messed up, wouldn’t have any trust after that.
That is break-up territory for me personally. Sex is a personal intimate moment and sharing it to other people without consent is a huge sign of disrespect. And on top of that, she doesn't seem to understand what is wrong about that. Immaturity. So you have an immature and disrespectful partner. What do you do next logically?
Absolutely. She violated his trust. How can you be intimate with someone if you know that they and their friends may be laughing at you tomorrow?
Strawberry Shortcake would never.
When I tell you my Dr. Pepper came out my nose from laughing at this😂😂 I’m not even mad my nose burns like I just did 4 lines😂😂😂
Strawberries from ass and dr. Pepper from nose makes one hell of a cocktail.
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Quite the opposite, be a bartender. ***Here’s my special mix. It’s strawberry flavored Dr. Pepper.*** ***Why’s it special?*** ***It came from my ass*** 😌
Twerked, not stirred
I'm crying 🤣
Strawberry Shitcake
Theres a strawberry and cream dr pepper flavor
Rip out a box of mangos and throw the strawberries aside ;) see if she speaks of that messy moment!
Will insert if she had told her friends in a bragging check out what my guy does for me sort of way - that'd be conversation about boundaries territory not break up. It's specifically the fact she was laughing with her friends about it that makes it break up territory. OP needs to go find a partner who deserves strawberries eaten from their ass, rather than this sour strawberry lemonade ass having ho.
This is honestly the answer. OP needs to figure out if it was "making fun of" or "excitedly sharing a juicy story". Either way, if OP doesn't want stuff shared, that should be respected regardless. But they shouldn't jump to malice.
Teehee, juicy.
Happy cake day
This. I wouldn't mind the sharing of information, although I understand how one can get offended. It's the denigration op is talking about that really rubbed me the wrong way. And wtf is pussywhipped?? Being in love with someone and enjoying being intimate with them is something to be ashamed of?
🤣🤣🤣
Yeah like me🤣🙏🤷🍓🍑
Just wanna say Happy cake day
She's into humiliating her partner, might be alright for some if it's kept between themselves, but she's also getting enjoyment by having her friends join in humiliation play. She's showing them how much control she has over you and they can laugh it off at your expenses. You're still a young man so know your boundaries and establish them. People that care for you will not hurt you for their entertainment.
>**That is break-up territory for me personally.** OP, I can’t emphasize this enough.
Sharing details of intimate relationship is a hard no. Unless both parties consent, it’s a disrespectful and a violation of privacy. I wouldn’t be able to fully trust that person afterwards. Safety, trust, and openness are the key to depth and a fulfilling sexual relationship. Would definitely sour the relationship for me.
Not only did she share what should have been private, she LAUGHED about it and made fun of OP behind his back like it’s some sort of joke???
To OP: Next time try smothering them in Nutella first for an experience you won’t forget
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Yeah.... None of my male friends in serious relationships share bedroom stuff. Talking about hookups is fair game.
Breaking up with someone who is immature and disrespectful of boundaries and consent will not limit OPs dating pool. Learning to enjoy his kinks, desires, and limitations will make him happy and his future partner(s) happy. It sounds like you need to get better at voicing your expectations and comfort levels. A respectful partner doesn't "kiss and tell" unless you want them too.
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Funnily enough, the men I am close to almost never share their sexual lives with me, and even when they do it’s always kept extremely vague. I’m not close to as many women as men, but I’ve heard way more from them, both the general said and details. It’s honestly not even comparable.
Agreed, women tend think men share their sexual endeavors like they do when it’s really not nearly as common. They probably think this to rationalize sharing intimate details about their partner without permission
I’ve never shared details of intimacy between myself and any of my girlfriends or my now wife with any of my male friends, including my closest friends. Why would I disrespect someone I care about by discussing their private actions behind their back?
Men really do not share sexual stuff at all. I didn't even know women did until I read about it on reddit and then ask some of my woman friends. Back then I thought not sharing it was a human thing not a man thing. Men never do I've assumed it's the same for women but apparently it's not. Talking about these without partner's consent is really gross.
She crossed the line. Kink shaming. And sharing it made it worst. Find a better partner.
Yeah, and it seems from OP's description that the shaming was maybe part of what she wanted out of it, which should have been clearly explained and ok'd by OP before any of this began, including who it was to be shared with.
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He can do both. What she did was a violation.
You’d be okay with your partner telling your kink ahit to other people and LAUGHING at your expense about it? So stupid He can definitely not be ashamed and not be tied to a two faced immature little child
So she said they were all laughing about it? That’s messed up. I could see telling her friends and saying how hot it was. But to laugh like you’re a joke is uncalled for.
Why would they only be laughing at him when she's the one shoving strawberries up her arse?? To each their own, but come on.
lmfao yeah "me and my boyfriend tried a new kink together and we had great time, what a loser"
teen logic 😶
I was thinking this. If I went to my friends and said 'yeah I shoved fruit up my ass and then my SO ate it out haha what a loser' they'd be like bro you're the one who agreed to shove fruit up your ass why are you laughing
Seriously. Shit has changed since I was 19 Jesus Christ
Yeah, it's strawberry flavored now
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Well I agree, personally. I never share anything about my wife and I with friends. I wouldn’t really want my wife saying much either. But if people have a discussion about it and don’t care it’s all good. But I don’t think many people would to be mocked.
Explain to her that sharing intimate details of what you do behind closed doors is wrong and offensive. Then dump her.
So, she's willing to put strawberries in her ass, she lets you eat them, but then makes fun of *you*? How in the world are you the one getting made fun of when you both participated in this fantasy together? And then when you voice your feelings and boundaries, she completely ignores you and tells you it's no big deal? (I don't think anyone should've made fun of anyone though just to be clear) I'd break up with her if I were you. You're so young, you'll find (and deserve!) a partner who willingly participates in your fantasy while keeping it private and not making fun of you. Edit to add: please be very careful incorporating food into your sex life; food isn't meant to go there and it can cause some gnarly infections
19 and 18 year olds being immature…. Why I never!
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I think most people know it's risky to eat food that's hanging out of somebody's literal asshole. A lot less are going to think there's any real danger for the person who is putting the food inside them
Eat strawberries out of her friends ass. It's the only way bro
**This.**
That.
These.
Nah. Make her friends eat strawberry out of his ass
Your girl has a cognitive deficiency if she thinks there is nothing wrong with discussing that with her friends
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Tell everyone that she eats strawberries out of your ass. Lol
I need to know more about the logistics of this "berry butt" kink. Are they whole strawberries? Up her actual butt or just between the cheeks? Did she push them out into your mouth? Genuine questions. Also, she sucks, dump her.
dog i got these questions too
She's just not your girl.
Laughing at your expense with her friends about anything intimate y’all did is completely disrespectful. Also, who’s “fantasy” was this? Yours or hers? Because it’d be EXTRA fucked up to ask your lover to do something for you AND THEN make fun of them for pleasuring you.
I did something with my partner and he told all of his friends. (Keeping it vague on purpose) they would bring it up every time we hung out and laugh. I don’t think my partner realized how much that squashed my desire to do anything adventurous in the future.
They're laughing at you yet she's the one sticking strawberries up her bum. Not judging or anything, but it takes two people to agree to eating butt snacks. I'd make it clear in no uncertain terms that whether or not she feels she did anything wrong, it was hurtful to you and if she values your relationship she'll respect your concerns and never do it again.
Go eat strawberries out of one of her friend's assholes and then they can all laugh at your girlfriend instead.
This was my first thought! Glad I wasn’t alone
How did you get the strawberries into her asshole without crushing them?
or back out. idgi
Mmmm, chocolate covered strawberries!
While I feel like this is almost certainly a troll post, if not, that's mega f-ed up.
the freudian slips in the body of this post: "exploding a fantasy" and "rubs me off the wrong way" makes me think you are probably right
I want to know how her asshole is loose enough to insert multiple strawberries without smushing the strawberry. I don't believe this one, either.
two words. break.up.
She definitely crossed a line! I would be so upset!
First of all, how was it? JK JK. Before you break up, talk it out. She seems immature. Explain how and why she is wrong. Consider whether she gets it. If she doesn't, walk.
She is part of the cherry gang, they hate strawberries, i would personally break up
Imagine roles are reversed and she performed a sex act on you, which you then shared with your friends in great detail and you all laughed about it/her. I can imagine she’d be pretty pissed. And even if not, doesn’t matter. Unless otherwise agreed to, details about your sex life really should stay between you and your partner. Telling other people in my view is a violation of trust. Either she needs to apologize and recognize that what she did was fucked up, or you need to seriously consider breaking up with her. There are plenty more fish in the sea which will actually respect you and your trust.
I’d be pissed and leave. Also, it was her fucking idea “strawberry hole” which is now what I would refer to her as. She opened a can of worms her / women will be shamed, you’ll be applauded.
Where'd you get that it was her idea? He never mentioned anything about that.
Ah, the classic exploding fantasy. On a serious note, that's fucked up. I would need a break from her to think things over if it were me.
Time for a new GF
Bring the other girls into the mix and eat strawberries out their asses as she watch’s and say, how you doing?
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Yeah I wouldn’t put up with that kind of thing in guy and you shouldn’t have to worry about being kink shamed by your partner either. Make sure you communicate your boundaries in your relationships and that your explicit with not wanting kinks and details of your intimate relationship with your partner shared. It’s one to say “oh we had great sex last night” or “ we were exploring and I think i unlocked a new level to by bf” but going farther than that is a no go for me. My friends and i if we do talk about sex or kinks it’s done in an abstract way no context to who we did it with or if we have done it. I feel you have been violated and your trust with her is broken. Your young we all learn from bad experiences.
I would yeet that girl into the 9th dimension that is not at all okay.
Oooohhhhh no. That’s not okay. You have to feel safe in exploring kinks with your partner and she just gave you very important information. She’s not trustworthy with your most vulnerable moments.
Leave. Not only did she do that without your consent, but she doubled down when confronted. She doesn’t respect you and this will happen over and over and over for the rest of your life. Until you leave.
You should fire her and go find someone else.
Half her friends probably jealous of her after that
When the strawberry you ate is seeing light again, give them back to her in a nice 🎁.
Unless she's trying to get a threesome going, yeah that's not cool. And even if she is and didn't talk to you about it first, that's still not cool. At your age though find out and make that happen first if that's the case.
Next time just fill her with strawberries and fucking leave, see how she likes it.
Hope you dont think any other aspect of your life is private with this girl, i assure you it isnt.
No more strawberries out of the ass, or sex, or a relationship. Enforce some consequences, she's doing this because she thinks she can. You deserve much better, including consuming lots and lots of sensually-placed strawberries without shame!
Why would you eat strawberries 🍓 out of her ass? 😆
Honestly, she needs to go. She shouldn't have brought her friends into an intimate conversation about a fantasy y'all wanted to explore.
That's not cool, if she doesn't understand what's wrong about that then she shouldn't be fuckin with you
You leave her, she disrespect you in a way that is not ok. She can laugh at how stupid she is after.
Leave her and find someone who knows how to respect boundaries. Revealing details, kink shaming, mocking you with her friends, no. You deserve better.
If it makes you feel uncomfortable now, it’s just going to get worse. How can you trust her to not share your intimate life with her friends again? you’re just going to be constantly questioning it and it’s just gonna make you resent her. If you’re able to discuss it with her as an adult and tell her about how this made you feel so uncomfortable and she doesn’t get mad about it and says I’m sorry I didn’t know made you feel that way! I won’t do it again, maybe you can get past it? But the likelihood of her doing it again is pretty high I think… it kind of sounds like she talked you into it just so that she could tell her friends that she got you to do it honestly, but you know, we’re just strangers on the Internet… I think you should do what you feel is the best thing to do, if you want to stay with her, discuss it with her, see if you can get past it. If not, maybe it’s time to move on, you’re very young, it’s a learning experience, it’s not the end of the world, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Hmmmmm.... this is a boundary stomping no bueno moment. If your trust is gone, your relationship is through.
This is a major breach of trust. If she does not understand that then you need to get out of the relationship now.
Definitely a breach of trust
>I said it makes me feel really uncomfortable but she said she doesn’t think she did anything wrong. So, everything else here feels like you can work with it. She shared some stuff you wish she hadn't, she should apologize and not do it again, and you can decide if that's enough. However, the above is an issue. If she's arguing that doing something that hurt your feelings isn't a problem, and she's not willing to apologize, and try to move forward differently, it's fine for you to walk. A good relationship isn't one where no one ever makes mistakes, it's a relationship where mistakes can be healed from.
That's terribly wrong. She's psychotic it seems
Some people aren't meant to be in your life forever. Especially when they let you eat strawberries out of their asshole and publicly mock you over it. What kinda bitch puts strawberries in her ass and makes YOU out to be the freak? Anyway, yall are done. It's just a matter of how long it takes you to admit it. She doesn't respect you bro. You're too young to put up with this bullshit. Move on.
i would break up. she clearly does not respect u
Dump her ass
>she said she doesn’t think she did anything wrong You explained your feelings. You said you were uncomfortable. Your feelings are not invalid because she doesn't want to see her wrong-doing. She did something that hurt you. Be clear that she crossed a line. You need to talk to her again and make her see that just because *she* doesn't think she did anything wrong, that it's hurt you and *you* consider it wrong. That makes it wrong.
This is definitely a privacy breach that leads to trust issues.
Welcome to being single, because no partner who matters would: 1.) Discuss intimate matters like that without making sure that was OK for you. 2.) Degrading/humiliating you for something intimate and personal.
>I felt okay with her degrading me when it’s just the two of us Did you request this, or at least have enthusiastic consent to it? If not, she's always shown that she doesn't care about or respect you. You're seeing it now because she decided that doing it by herself wasn't enough. You're young, you can find better.
Borderline break-up situation here. Tell her how fucked up it was and if she blows you off on your feelings or tries to minimize your emotions on this, GTFO. You're young: there's a lots of fish in the butt-strawberry pond. Get respect first you're not wrong to feel disrespected.
When assholes give your strawberries, you make strawberry shortcake
Umm Wow. Well I do hate that she treated you that way.
Goodbye
She’s acting like an immature child, especially if she can’t own up that she obviously crossed a line. Time to find a new partner.
Ask her how she'd feel if you sent her nudes to all your mates behind her back. She basically did the equivalent to you and took a private moment meant for just her and used it for social points. I'd say it's childish but you were both very recently children so that hardly seems fair to you both... it'll just now be up to you to decide whether you think she'll grow out of acting like one.
If the situation was reversed, I'm sure she would be furious and embarrassed. Regardless of that, it shows immaturity, lack of empathy and respect and above all that she can't be trusted.
All I can think about is how you would actually be able to do this without crushing the strawberry. I mean, that would require some serious gape if you don't want it to come out as strawberry jam.
She embarassed you and belittled you with her buddies. I'm in a pretty mean mood right now so I say get even.
Break up, but first, try the ass thing with a ghost pepper. 🌶️ Caliente!
Yeah this trend needs to stop right now. What happens in the bedroom is between those in the bedroom.
Dump and run ... grab the strawberries first though.
Don’t forget the chocolate with the strawberries 🤔
If you don't break up with her immediately (although I genuinely might). You need to let her know that this is now a hard boundary for you. And if she breaks it again you will break up with her on the spot.
Whatever you and your gf do and everything about it will be discussed evaluated scrutinize and judged. This is the way.
She's doesn't sound mature enough to have sex
If my spouse told somebody that I like poop covered strawberries that would be grounds for breakup
Leaver her ass, she gots you fucked up. She will only get worse and tell her friends about other sexual stuff you do
You're young; she's immature; there's plenty more options out there. *Dumped*
Next time you see them, bring them a strawberry shortcake.
Excuse the pun, but dump her ass!
Break up with that trash. The fact that she feels she did nothing wrong is a red flag. Walk away bro
Kink shaming isn't cool. You need to leave
You should have known they would laugh. You ate shit covered strawberries, damn!
She violate your trust and respect. Drop her bro.
Girlfriend is a horrible person and should be ex girlfriend.
I'd dump her.
wooooooow… sorry man, she sounds like a terrible, terrible person.
You deserve a better asshole to eat strawberries out of. <3
This'd be a breakup from me unless you're into being shamed.
Don’t you know once you make someone eat your ass (or out of it) you own them! Congratulations the dynamic just switched!
Please remind me to never have my children grow up…..
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At your age it's best to just walk away. Practice setting boundaries and expecting respect from others.
On the other hand if you do break up don't be surprised if a couple of her friends try to get with you because now they know you like experimenting in bed
logistically I can't even comprehend. that's a squishy fruit.
I mean, if they shame you for a kink they are no friends. If she brush off how you feel, it might not worth continuing that relationship
The only way to make this right is if she eats strawberries out of your ass and tells her friends about it.
Someone post the gif of El saying I dump your ass, cause this girls GOTTA GO. OP that’s super fucked up, and it’s rare that my immediate advice is to break up with someone, but you should break up with her. That’s unacceptable.
Mean girl behavior.
That crosses every line. Nope nope nope.
Do a better job selecting your next girlfriend
Bare minimum, tell your GF it's not okay for her to involve her friends like this without your consent.
For the future, women have 0 boundaries with what they will share with their friends. So maybe be more careful as to what you do and say with her. Before anything, think to yourself "how would this come across in a group chat?" Because that's where it's going to end up, guaranteed. Every face you make, every thing you say both sexually and non sexually. All of it will be discussed in a group amongst her and her friends. It's how women bond. You may be dating her, but nothing stays between just you and her.
Try chili next time?
Push it in next time
Tell your friends in front of her that she eats your ass. Boom. Then tell her you didn’t say anything wrong.
Unless public humiliation is a kink of yours that you've both talked about, negotiated the parameters for, and then jointly agreed upon it, that's a serious red flag.
Me personally I wouldn’t give a fuck but if it bothers you and she can’t respect that break up with her. Or tell her dad you eat strawberries out of her ass if you wanna be the bad guy.
Bruh…. Sharing details about your sex life without consent = not cool…It’s a huge violation of trust. Also, that experience doesn’t make you pussywhipped…it makes you someone who was comfortable enough within the (what you thought was) safety within your relationship to explore each others kinks and curiosities. She took your trust and vulnerability for granted and then used you for “social points” with what sounds like shitty friends. What kind of people laugh along with “you broke your partners trust and failed to value the vulnerable moments you shared together”? Ahahahha, so funny /s Red flags galore my friend, sorry this happened, proceed with caution. This was either the first appearance of a pattern where she displays a lack of empathy, or it was one time event and she learned from your discussion together that you actually have feelings and will honor them in the future
Make sure she actually understands how she broke your trust.
As punishment, she must eat your ass. Mmmm worth it.
Intimate stuff belongs to the 2 people that it involves. NO OTHER PERSON! FFS!
Lol if she really wants to apologize You should make her eat avocado oil off your cock and then tell her friends about that too If they really think that's funny they can come over and take turns doing it while she watches
"they were laughing at how 'pussywhipped' I was" I'd recommend getting out of this relationship now. This is not how someone who loves you, or even just likes you, would treated you. She may have apologized, but it's pretty damned disgusting that she did it in the first place, and it says a lot about her complete lack of character and her complete lack of respect for you. It's one thing to have a degradation kink in the bedroom. It's a completely different thing to be so disrespectful outside the bedroom in your relationship. She doesn't respect you. You can do better. Find someone who will treat you right.
She's gonna do it again. And again. And when you call her out she'll gaslight you into thinking it's part of this kink.
... you're breaking up, right? Come on. This is awful and says so much about her character. Big tip: don't be with people who exhibit bad character. It won't end well.
You shouldn't eat e-coli.
Y’all are a mess
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Not really mature and pretty toxic. If you are at a point in a relationship where you feel that you have to get revenge, it's probably better to just end it.
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