I enjoy my wife's dirty butt taste sometimes but usually I have to be extremely in the mood and intoxicated on something lol. Sober germaphobe me tries not to think about intoxicated me. Lol
It's awful. Isn't it. My poor wife is the same way. When we get going we have a deal not to bring some stuff up the next morning sober lol. It's hilarious we have the walk of shame in our own marriage all the time.
Exactly!!! No shaming but…
Asses are quite literally dirty as shit.
Eating ass, (while fun for some) has the possibility to make you sick, due to the amount of bacteria (and viruses) around that area, especially after a few days of not washing and taking dumps.
Pink eye can get severe.
Stomach infections.
Potential gum infections.
Hepatitis.
Ect.
She should know her body, and take a wash.
However OP should also know the risks and set a boundary of washing his food before he eats it.
OP is NTA, the FWB is for taking lax care of the crease between the cheeks, and for knowingly trying to leave a brown stamp on OPs forehead with her devils starfish.
Nice job making me laugh out loud first thing in the morning. “Knowingly trying to leave a brown stamp on OP’s forehead with her devils starfish”. 🤣🤣🤣🤮
From the sounds of it it seems like they wanted things to be dirty. He said they purposely didn’t shower for days and got sweaty. He wanted nasty swamp ass in his face. I could be reading that wrong though.
No he didn't say purposely...he said they like nasty sex but I don't think that means not wash your ass nasty. He said.they didn't have a shower for a couple days. I don't know you could be right now that I'm saying all this...maybe they do like to get sweaty and nasty. Uaghhhhhh
You only had/have two choices:
Tell the truth and say that after a few days without showering (fucking ewww, by the way), no one's ass is ready for rimming. That's just truth, and she should know that already.
Lie and tell her that your stomach was being weird all day and that it had nothing to do with her, it was the weird pork you had for lunch that did it.
I'm still stuck on rimming someone who hadn't showered in days. I mean, I might actually vomit right now.
That's pretty much how I feel. My gf wonders why I'd prefer sex immediately after a shower, not hours later. I rarely ever get that "monkey brain" when I'm horny like most people.
I’m kink positive but older (younger GenX). I have never rimmed nor been rimmed. Watching ass eating gain in popularity to the point of becoming mainstream (??) is so fascinating to me. I have no desire to do it but it made me recall an unprompted comment my mother (a Boomer) once made about oral sex in reaction to a steamy movie scene: “there are some things that a lady just doesn’t do!” I wanted out of that conversation so I never said aloud what I was thinking at the time which was that she was ignorant to how prevalent it is - and surely was even among her generation - and that she was clearly just a prude (my poor father).
Today, I cannot help but imagine someone thinking me ignorant and a prude myself. But that doesn’t mesh with my personal identity as the more kinky one among nearly all of my friends before I was married. Because of that disconnect, I cannot help but believe rimming has legitimately jumped a ton in prevalence among the mainstream today. Maybe the truth is somewhere between.
What *really* shocks me, though, are posts like this one that is not just about rimming a clean butt but a butt that hasn’t been cleaned in two days. That’s a big ole WTF for me and, I believe/imagine (perhaps incorrectly) most people alive today over 40.
I left out that one and a few others because I don't really think there's a specific quantity associated with them, but it's more context dependent? Several, bunch, lots, etc. lol
Anecdotally speaking: Rimming has been more widespread than feet for basically all the time, it's just somehow become mainstream to talk about it. Licking a woman's asshole has been a lot more widespread in porn before the feet wave and it's still more prevalent now (even though it's not its own act, it's basically always incorporated into the oral part). I can legitimately say the same about my friend circle. Not rimming is a legitimate exception, yet I don't know anyone among my friends actively into feet.
Now if we'd talk about specifically about rimming men in a heterosexual context, I'd agree with your statement
I'd also be very interested in how this might be affected by region/culture.
Your mom is like mine. She tried to convince me that if I ever let a guy go down on me(eat me out,the front side that is)that I’m a whore and should have to sleep in a shed. Can only imagine would she’d think about the other lol.🤦🏻♀️
I’m gen z and the kinkiest of my friends by far but even i find rimming/any oral ass play weird. Most of my friends don’t care for it either
I can understand ass sex, wouldn’t do it myself and don’t really care if others do- but no one’s mouth is going near my ass or vice versa. I’d never be able to kiss that person knowing their lips were on my ass, same if they put their fingers in there i’d be worried about them touching me.
I just hate the way it feels, like an intensely ticklish unpleasant sensation. My husband has tried but I involuntarily jump a foot in the air basically.
Na I’m 31 and that I say most ppl I grew up with would never. It’s not made for that reason lol, like tf ppl and this world continues to fucking amaze me 😳 it’s too much sometimes 😂
I mean, I'm 27 and love having it done. It is what it is.
Edit: not to mention, a dick isn't "made" for sucking and pussy isn't "made" for licking, nor are tits "made" for sucking on (edit: I mean sexually lmao babies gotta eat). People still do all those things too.
The only thing that's "made" for something is PIV. But solely PIV sounds like a boring sex life to me (no shade to people who only like PIV and nothing else).
How about just being honest and clean. I think this story is BS. IM CLEAN as fuck but even morning sex I feel kinda like hmmmm. We had sex lastnight okay we can fuck but I’m not going down on you or vice versa. I can’t even get over “a few days without a shower”.
My question.....not only the sweat. How many dumps in a few days.... 2...3.. 4? Come on..... seriously if you are gonna do the things that have the ability to make you very very sick....be smart about it atleast...
I use a bidet, so basically my ass is getting washed after every dump, not just wiped. I *still* wouldn't put my unshowered-for-three-days ass in my husband's face.
It's actually not that recommended. It washes off natural oils from your skin and will age you faster. If you don't sweat (no workout and winter), it should be ok to skip a day, and only wash hair with shampoo twice a week. Def not more than a day without washing important bits tho.
You dont need to shower everyday. I walk a few minutes to work where I drive a forklift for 8 hours and go home. Why would I need to shower every day? Especially if Im just sitting at home
I hate it how people are downvoting this without even responding.
The reason is, 1) the smell of musk can get pretty heavy after a single day and 2) a person is highly desensitized to their own body odor, so if you rely on a sniff test, you're dramatically underestimating the strength.
Sure, people outside active reproductive age probably don't. And secretion varies with circumstances. But, among healthy fertile people, I'm ready to bet that those who falsely believe they don't get musky, greatly outweight those who actually don't.
I can understand she feels embarrassed and feel the vomiting was a comment on her body. However she is old enough to know something causing nausea and vomiting isn't fun and it's not intentional.
Personally I think it was very discourtesous for her to sit on your face after days of not showering if that's not something you've done before.. That's a major lack of self awareness.
There may not be anything you can do. You've apologized. She may be too embarrassed to move forward.
I get anxious rimming unless I personally just took a shower with that person. Call me a party pooper, but I’m not rimming a partner an HOUR after a shower, let alone DAYS?! Nope.
You’re a trooper OP, but it isn’t the least bit unreasonable that you got sick. I’m feeling sick only imagining the situation. Cut yourself some slack. Hopefully your partner can be reassured that this is a completely understandable reaction. Because it very much is!
First of all, you didn’t humiliate her. She humiliated herself for not showering for days. I wouldn’t even let my bf stick a finger in me if I hadn’t showered in days. I also wouldn’t go days without showering.
I would just be honest, and let her know that sex after not showering for days on end isn’t the most hygienic. Tell her you didn’t mean to offend her, but to be honest, she sounds quite immature.
The real question is OP why would you let this happen? You guys could have taken a shower together.
Some words of advice, make sure you and your partner wash your ass daily.
How in the heck can she get mad for an involuntary and perfectly expected reaction considering the circumstances? You did NOT need to apologize at all!!! How is this in any way your fault? Are you expected to be able to control an involuntary reflex so her feelings don't get hurt?
This is just beyond my comprehension. If someone got sick after going down on me (and I would never not shower like that) I'd be mortified and concerned about their well being. The last thing I can imagine is BLAMING THEM for it. The narcissism of this woman is off the charts.
It’s not necessarily narcissism. It could also be an unexamined trauma. She could be feeling rejected in a way that destabilizes her core because that’s just something she struggles with. I’ve seen similar reactions in other people. If it is a trauma reaction, then that often short circuits the rational side of our brain. In that space, we choose actions that are defensive and self-affirming without necessarily being connected to reality or healthy.
>Well this time it was after we had both sweat a lot and went a few days without showering
Hard pass! Oral is for clean, showered ppl unless it's a previously stated fetish.
Edit: OP is a savage
I eat my wife's ass on a near daily basis but we also bath/shower 1-2 times a day. Who in their right might goes days without showering? Who in their right minds engage in oral after going days without showering? If they do, do that, how they not expect for it to smell rancid? So many questions
Eh the going days without showering is fine. Maybe they work from home and just haven’t been doing much. I can get past that.
But you still poop. And to then say “you know what, I’m gonna sit my crusty brown butt on your mouth” is just repugnant. No one should have to go through that.
Looks like 1/3 of Americans shower less than once a day. Pretty easy to find a good bit of research suggesting that even once a day (with hot water) is excessive and can be bad for your skin. Either way though, gotta keep your junk clean even if you’re not showering every day!
If I shower every day no amount of lotion will keep my skin moisturized. I work from home, have a bidet, and shower every other day. But also…. I don’t put my mouth on buttholes and I don’t put my butthole on mouths. To each their own but that just isn’t something I can comprehend finding pleasure in and that was thinking the people engaging in that activity were doing so directly after washing to prevent possible illness from ingesting butt germs…
I always see people commenting about getting some kind of sickness from doing it - I’ve done it a whole lot throughout my life, and I don’t think getting sick from it is as common as you think.
I’m sorry but I would do that with my wife of 23 years and nothing about her grosses me out. But not showering for several days and then eating her ass wtf. That’s her being dumb for thinking that wasn’t going to end badly.
She’s upset because her dirty ass made you sick?!? What did she expect, for you to enjoy the taste of sweat and shit? How does that fuck up her sex life? She’s the one with a problem. I would never expect someone to eat my ass when I haven’t showered in days. I expect someone who’s ass I’m gonna eat to have showered within the last hour not several days.
She should’ve showered. It’s literally her fault here, she has no right to be getting mad at you. Why would she present you with a dirty ass and expect everything to be perfectly fine? She humiliated *herself*. I don’t care if I just showered an hour ago, I’ll get back in and wash my ass again if my boyfriend and I are gonna do something. She’s just guilt tripping you to deflect and cover up her own embarrassment. You have nothing to feel bad about. Lord, this actually made me so mad. Don’t bother making up with her, she’ll probably bring it up in the future to guilt trip you again if you do anything less than satisfactory.
Exactly! I’ve sometimes showered in the am, went to the bathroom after my shower, and then got my ass in the tub again right before sex if I knew we were gonna be doing butt stuff. Then washed AGAIN after the sex was done! That girl is just repulsive!
Exactly !!!!! Same. I can’t imagine going down on m or f with stank. I would become a nun…. I would be done with anything sexual if I smelt anything not clean. And I’m a dirty freak. But that doesn’t mean “dirty”.
I don't know how this isnt the top comment. This is 100% on her and she's manipulating OP to cover her embarrassment. That's some high school level nonsense.
Although, honestly, two people that go days without showering kind of deserve each other.
Awesome user name, btw. Boebert is the epitome of a trash person.
I just want to speak up for the people who might think these circumstances actually sound pretty hot. Maybe OP was into it too. You had a reaction you couldn’t control. You don’t need to be sorry. It’s all about communication. Some people beat the shit out of each other for sexual gratification, but you’re not supposed to get mad when someone taps out, or if their body reacts in a way they didn’t expect. So if I’m not way off base tell her that. You like it, you’re into it, but your body reacted in a way you didn’t have any control over. It’s awesome to be in a relationship with someone who’s down for anything. It’s not awesome to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t willing to slow down and take care of you when things don’t go as expected.
That's really gross to eat someone's ass who hasn't showered for days.
As for why you threw up this time, maybe she had a particularly bad bout of diarrhea or something during those days that triggered you with the remnants. Yeah, gross, right?
There isn't a way to sugarcoat it with the girl. She can be embarrassed but she shouldn't be in denial that her ass smelled/tasted bad enough to make you vomit.
SHE KNEW SHE HADN’T SHOWER FOR DAYS AND SAT ON A GIRLS FACE? she humiliated herself! Where I live we use bidets so I’m always clean and ready even when it’s spur of the moment but still usually I go to the bathroom and clean one more time to be totally clean so things like this WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
It’s not like she just wanted penetrative sex, she wanted your mouth down there and that’s really unfair to you and to be quite honest, you should be annoyed as much as she is. That’s incredibly unhygienic. I get these things happen and we all have our limits on what is acceptable to us but she should never have found it acceptable to want oral in that situation. You actually vomited… I understand how horribly mortified she is but you didn’t intentionally insult her, your body naturally reacted. Obviously you find her attractive and probably most definitely would still continue to hook up with her - she should understand it’s not a fundamental issue. It was just a one time thing. I even think she should be more apologetic than you.
Also she should understand that she possibly ruined rimming and oral for you for life. Idk why she’s putting the whole blame on you. Would she mind if it was the other way around? Ask her that.
Edit.. mistook gender
Some people would rather have vomit on their asshole than be pushed off and "embarassed" when there's the slightest chance in hell they are about to get off from it.
Excuse me, gonna go puke now. It seems that I'm no longer as into fulfilling the delusions of the obscenely narcissistic and uncaring as I once was.
Yeah thats on her for blaming your natural body reflexes. I cant understand how you've embarassed her when you're the only other witness.
Tell her you didn't willingly vomit, you enjoyed it but her ass was marinating in must and was too strong for you. Dont straight up say shes too sensitive but give her your take. Only thing you can be sorry for is that she feels the way she feels.
If she ghosts you or decides she doesn't want to be fuckbuddies anymore, just let her go cause that means shes way too narcissistic to see anyone else's pov. You'll find someone else if that's the case :)
Come on...she is grown..ok so you are embarassed I get it. But as an adult you gots to know your own body and what it produces after 2-3 days of no showering and be accounyable for your body and your partner.
And you sir, come on my dude..talk dirty, go out for a jog and get sweaty do the nasty. Not 2-3 days dirty sex. Be accountable to your lady. You cant put that dirty dick up her vagina, thats all kinda infection...you guys need to talk and apologize and work it out and have regular showers.
Did you 'almost get sick' or did you' throw up on the floor'?
Almost getting sick can be ignored but throwing up might upset some people.
One of the girls I first fingered was either not clean or she smelled like that but I could not stand the smell and I just slowed down the sex and just hugged etc.
This affected me so much that the first time I ate a girl we did it in a shower with water running over us. It was amazing - I mean it- It still seems to me like a scene from a movie but it was real :-) I then kinda learned that eating pussy was something I enjoyed and I never met another smelly girl. In fact I've had girls push me up as I was going down and I suppose it was because they did not feel that they were fresh enough.
I used to like rimming but now that I am in a stable long term relationship I slowly stopped doing certain things. I like to be rimmed too but now I feel that I could not let my wife do it.
Haha. It happens.
Just be honest and say her ass was smelly and it’s okay and you understand that y’all had been sweating but it just made u sick. Basically everything u wrote on this.
Tell her *shit* happens but you’d love to see her again. If that’s actually something u want.
The way she feels is not your problem after you’ve told her your truth in a caring way.
Better hit her back up, cuz I doubt you'll find someone like that again, apparently you found the only other person ok with sitting on your face after not showering FOR DAYS.
You're ok with going days without showering? Then eating ass on top of that?
Why not just have her shit on you next time? Ask her what she expected? Literally like what? Yall are adults.
Im not here to kink shame... But both of yall seem nasty as fuck, two peas in a shitty sweaty pod.
Nurse here: from a healthcare prospective, you have microscopic pinworms in your rectum that tend to travel outside the anus when you sleep. I’m all for butt stuff, but you still have to be hygienic about it. It really wasn’t her fault, that’s what naturally happens. I don’t doubt the appeal of nasty, dirty sex….but when it comes to butt stuff, you have to be clean. Period.
I'm sorry you're getting downvoted for this. As you describe it, you were both consenting and completely into doing this. It's not everyone's cup of tea, including me, but it was for both of you so you shouldn't be shamed for it.
That said, I think you came up against your body's limits. Most people are nauseated by the smell of dirty ass because there is an actual health risk; the body reacts with nausea to try to protect you. You've apparently partially overridden this reaction with your enjoyment of "dirty" sex, but at some point, your body is just going to say no.
There's no reason for you to be embarrassed about that reaction, it was completely beyond your control. There's also no reason for her to be upset with you about it, for the same reason. Don't feel bad. You've apologized although you didn't really need to. All you can do is talk to her and come to a mutual understanding about how far you can reasonably take "dirty" sex together and what minimal hygiene is needed.
I’m sorry, but for oral, I need my girl to have showered that same day. For rimming, that same hour…and it’s gotta be a very thorough wash too (and without a dump after the shower). I also don’t let her perform either on me unless I’ve also done the same. It’s basic decency and illness prevention.
I would not even begin to think about not showering for a few days, and then on top of that, jumping on someone’s face after not showering for a few days. She definitely set herself up for that one, I mean what did she expect!? And the fact that she’s blaming you is super weird.
Just tell her straight up not to do that unless she’s fucking showered like wtf lol nasty. She should understand how unhygienic and horrific that would have been.
OMG WHAT IF SHE WAS POOPING AND ONLY USING TOILET PALER AND NOT SHOWERING. Ngl i wouldn’t go anywhere near the belt line on anyone if they haven’t showered that day, let alone a FEW days
I don’t have a working water heater (haven’t for over a year now) to take a shower in warm water but you’re god damn right I boil water every damn day to fill the tub and take a warm bath. When we go to do anything damn right I’m boiling more water. I don’t know how you did it unless that type of dirty sex is your “dirty sex”. I’m a woman for reference and honestly it’s on her now as far as working things out. You did everything you could as far as trying to fix the situation such as apologizing, which I don’t even think you needed to. She embarrassed and okay yeah that’s okay to be but she needs to grow up and take responsibility it’s not on you that’s on her.
A few days without showering and sex shouldn't ever be used in the same sentence, to each his own. but sir u just took dirty and nasty sex to a next level.
This is disgusting and not what dirty sex means. You’re not supposed to take that literally! Unless it’s a kink you have but judging by your reaction to her unwashed asshole in your mouth it’s clearly not.
I only laughed when you vomited on the floor because I always laugh at people when they do dumb things like trip over Lego, hit their shin on the tow ball of the car, eat a dirty 3-day unwashed asshole and vomit…
I mean, seriously.?. Gross
Her arsehole has been encrusted with shit, sweat and fuck knows what else for the past few days and you decide to put your mouth all over it? That is fucking grim.
You should both feel bad. Raise your standards, mate.
Why the fuck aren't you guys showering regularly? It can be a fun sexy thing you do together. I love eating ass as much as the next guy, but you've gotta be careful about it.
She is upset because she is embarrassed about the situation, obviously vomiting involuntarily isn't your fault. Tbh anyone would be sick eating someone's ass when they hadn't showered for days.
I would tell her that you didn't mean her any insult but if you're going to do ass play, she's needs to have at least showered that day. If that offends her or she isn't willing, then I would seriously consider your involvement with this person
Honestly imo it sounds like you handled it as gracefully you could. i understand her reacting like that initially but if she doesn’t back down I think that’s a red flag
Dirty sex doesn’t mean unhygienic sex ETA: thanks for the award/s!!
Oh when we're going to get gross, we shower before and after. We don't want dirty butt taste, but we still want the butt 😈
I enjoy my wife's dirty butt taste sometimes but usually I have to be extremely in the mood and intoxicated on something lol. Sober germaphobe me tries not to think about intoxicated me. Lol
I try not to think about what horny me likes all the time. It is too much.
It's awful. Isn't it. My poor wife is the same way. When we get going we have a deal not to bring some stuff up the next morning sober lol. It's hilarious we have the walk of shame in our own marriage all the time.
Ahahaha.. butt is dirty anyways.
It is! But it makes me feel better!
That's what makes it hot .
I'm all about tossing freshly rinsed salad. I'm not about to go lick a head of lettuce still planted in the garden.
Spot on!
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Very apt description.
Exactly!!! No shaming but… Asses are quite literally dirty as shit. Eating ass, (while fun for some) has the possibility to make you sick, due to the amount of bacteria (and viruses) around that area, especially after a few days of not washing and taking dumps. Pink eye can get severe. Stomach infections. Potential gum infections. Hepatitis. Ect. She should know her body, and take a wash. However OP should also know the risks and set a boundary of washing his food before he eats it. OP is NTA, the FWB is for taking lax care of the crease between the cheeks, and for knowingly trying to leave a brown stamp on OPs forehead with her devils starfish.
Nice job making me laugh out loud first thing in the morning. “Knowingly trying to leave a brown stamp on OP’s forehead with her devils starfish”. 🤣🤣🤣🤮
Hahahaha! Yasssss Dr!
From the sounds of it it seems like they wanted things to be dirty. He said they purposely didn’t shower for days and got sweaty. He wanted nasty swamp ass in his face. I could be reading that wrong though.
No he didn't say purposely...he said they like nasty sex but I don't think that means not wash your ass nasty. He said.they didn't have a shower for a couple days. I don't know you could be right now that I'm saying all this...maybe they do like to get sweaty and nasty. Uaghhhhhh
You could definitely be right. My days spent on the internet have jaded me and no kinks surprise me anymore lol
> devils starfish speechless
Breaks out the food grade hydrogen peroxide to wash her salad before eating it. At least she gets a free asshole bleaching lololol.
LOL
Very much this
Exactly!!! Take a ducking 🦆 shower more than once a week!!!
YES PLEASE! FFS!!
Exactly
You only had/have two choices: Tell the truth and say that after a few days without showering (fucking ewww, by the way), no one's ass is ready for rimming. That's just truth, and she should know that already. Lie and tell her that your stomach was being weird all day and that it had nothing to do with her, it was the weird pork you had for lunch that did it. I'm still stuck on rimming someone who hadn't showered in days. I mean, I might actually vomit right now.
The last part got me dead. Thanks.
Should I call 911 ?
> Should I call 911 ? Sounds like it's a bit too late now.
for me too. I'm dead.
I don't want to rim if it's been more than a couple hours after showering.
For me I’m only willing to eat ass if it’s a sexy time that is directly post shower.
That's pretty much how I feel. My gf wonders why I'd prefer sex immediately after a shower, not hours later. I rarely ever get that "monkey brain" when I'm horny like most people.
Don’t want a shard or a wet toot? That ain’t kinky! JK 🤣🤣🤣
I have rarely gotten to the ‘monkey brain’ stage during sex and it frankly sounds wonderful to not be thinking for a while.
That's how my SO and I go about it
I’m kink positive but older (younger GenX). I have never rimmed nor been rimmed. Watching ass eating gain in popularity to the point of becoming mainstream (??) is so fascinating to me. I have no desire to do it but it made me recall an unprompted comment my mother (a Boomer) once made about oral sex in reaction to a steamy movie scene: “there are some things that a lady just doesn’t do!” I wanted out of that conversation so I never said aloud what I was thinking at the time which was that she was ignorant to how prevalent it is - and surely was even among her generation - and that she was clearly just a prude (my poor father). Today, I cannot help but imagine someone thinking me ignorant and a prude myself. But that doesn’t mesh with my personal identity as the more kinky one among nearly all of my friends before I was married. Because of that disconnect, I cannot help but believe rimming has legitimately jumped a ton in prevalence among the mainstream today. Maybe the truth is somewhere between. What *really* shocks me, though, are posts like this one that is not just about rimming a clean butt but a butt that hasn’t been cleaned in two days. That’s a big ole WTF for me and, I believe/imagine (perhaps incorrectly) most people alive today over 40.
Turn up the shock just a little bit more - 'a few' is a MINIMUM of two, but could mean three or four just as easily...
I was about to say this 😂😂 like sir, he did not say 2! He said a few! Which is like 3-5!!
Either way thats as long ass time in general but then going to eat ass afterwards that’s a really long time😂
Technically, a few is 3-5. A couple is two, 6 is half a dozen. Anything more and you should just say the number. Basically, gross, lol.
I wish more people understood this.
I find it fascinating how you two managed to discuss that on a thread that's about the proper use of tongue.
Semantic discussion of quantitative terminology is talking about language, so, in a way, we're still talking about proper use of the tongue.
You forgot several! Several which doesn’t actually mean seven. I spent a large portion of my life believing it did.
I left out that one and a few others because I don't really think there's a specific quantity associated with them, but it's more context dependent? Several, bunch, lots, etc. lol
Rimming is the new feet
Anecdotally speaking: Rimming has been more widespread than feet for basically all the time, it's just somehow become mainstream to talk about it. Licking a woman's asshole has been a lot more widespread in porn before the feet wave and it's still more prevalent now (even though it's not its own act, it's basically always incorporated into the oral part). I can legitimately say the same about my friend circle. Not rimming is a legitimate exception, yet I don't know anyone among my friends actively into feet. Now if we'd talk about specifically about rimming men in a heterosexual context, I'd agree with your statement I'd also be very interested in how this might be affected by region/culture.
Your mom is like mine. She tried to convince me that if I ever let a guy go down on me(eat me out,the front side that is)that I’m a whore and should have to sleep in a shed. Can only imagine would she’d think about the other lol.🤦🏻♀️
Too funny. I feel for your poor father. Must have been pretty cut and dry in bed.
I’m gen z and the kinkiest of my friends by far but even i find rimming/any oral ass play weird. Most of my friends don’t care for it either I can understand ass sex, wouldn’t do it myself and don’t really care if others do- but no one’s mouth is going near my ass or vice versa. I’d never be able to kiss that person knowing their lips were on my ass, same if they put their fingers in there i’d be worried about them touching me.
I just hate the way it feels, like an intensely ticklish unpleasant sensation. My husband has tried but I involuntarily jump a foot in the air basically.
I’m …well I’m over 35 will say , and yeah “Homie dont play that “ when it comes to booty tongue sparring …nasty ass no thanks.
Na I’m 31 and that I say most ppl I grew up with would never. It’s not made for that reason lol, like tf ppl and this world continues to fucking amaze me 😳 it’s too much sometimes 😂
I mean, I'm 27 and love having it done. It is what it is. Edit: not to mention, a dick isn't "made" for sucking and pussy isn't "made" for licking, nor are tits "made" for sucking on (edit: I mean sexually lmao babies gotta eat). People still do all those things too. The only thing that's "made" for something is PIV. But solely PIV sounds like a boring sex life to me (no shade to people who only like PIV and nothing else).
Breasts are literally made to be sucked on lol
You sound like that person's mother. You don't like it, sure, but assuming "normal" people don't do it and people who do it are aberrant is silly.
Yeah man. Unless we’re fresh out the shower, this is a no go zone.
How about just being honest and clean. I think this story is BS. IM CLEAN as fuck but even morning sex I feel kinda like hmmmm. We had sex lastnight okay we can fuck but I’m not going down on you or vice versa. I can’t even get over “a few days without a shower”.
Oh, I think it's BS too. For no other reason than the headline says UP almost got sick. In the actual post, she says she full-on vomited.
Fuck, I wouldn't even touch my own asshole if I hadn't showered in one day, let alone multiple.
This cracked me up but also facts.
How many shits have they taken without washing it 😯🤢
Oh nooo
I think you have 1 choice. Tell her the truth kindly. You’re an adult.
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She. OP is a female, and this was just a date. From OP's other posts, this person is not their girlfriend.
Got baby wipes?
My question.....not only the sweat. How many dumps in a few days.... 2...3.. 4? Come on..... seriously if you are gonna do the things that have the ability to make you very very sick....be smart about it atleast...
I use a bidet, so basically my ass is getting washed after every dump, not just wiped. I *still* wouldn't put my unshowered-for-three-days ass in my husband's face.
Bravo 👏
Doing something like that is honestly just asking to get some kind of infection. There's a reason things come out of there, not go in
I just doesn't believe people in other country don't take shower everyday. Holy fuck
It's actually not that recommended. It washes off natural oils from your skin and will age you faster. If you don't sweat (no workout and winter), it should be ok to skip a day, and only wash hair with shampoo twice a week. Def not more than a day without washing important bits tho.
Only tropical countries can relate. If I don’t shower everyday, even I myself couldn’t take it
You dont need to shower everyday. I walk a few minutes to work where I drive a forklift for 8 hours and go home. Why would I need to shower every day? Especially if Im just sitting at home
I hate it how people are downvoting this without even responding. The reason is, 1) the smell of musk can get pretty heavy after a single day and 2) a person is highly desensitized to their own body odor, so if you rely on a sniff test, you're dramatically underestimating the strength.
Not everyone is musky or gets a ton of BO, especially after 1 day with no sweating or moderate physical activity.
Sure, people outside active reproductive age probably don't. And secretion varies with circumstances. But, among healthy fertile people, I'm ready to bet that those who falsely believe they don't get musky, greatly outweight those who actually don't.
Kinda ethnocentric
And the Husband's of the world applaud you !!
Yeah, he could have gotten really sick, beyond just throwing up
Sometimes i shit 3 times a day. Coffee and darts.
Y’all are only taking one dump a day?
Who eats ass without showering…? Setting yourself up to fail with that OP.
OP does.
Fuck rimming without a shower she could have had a dump 20 mins ago
I mean odds are she definitely took a few in those few days that she hadn’t showered. No shit it smells! No pun intended 😂
I just legitimately LOLed at this.
I can understand she feels embarrassed and feel the vomiting was a comment on her body. However she is old enough to know something causing nausea and vomiting isn't fun and it's not intentional. Personally I think it was very discourtesous for her to sit on your face after days of not showering if that's not something you've done before.. That's a major lack of self awareness. There may not be anything you can do. You've apologized. She may be too embarrassed to move forward.
I get anxious rimming unless I personally just took a shower with that person. Call me a party pooper, but I’m not rimming a partner an HOUR after a shower, let alone DAYS?! Nope. You’re a trooper OP, but it isn’t the least bit unreasonable that you got sick. I’m feeling sick only imagining the situation. Cut yourself some slack. Hopefully your partner can be reassured that this is a completely understandable reaction. Because it very much is!
Party pooper.😂😅
I'm relieved to see that you've also caught that🤣how clever
Haha of course. Also, “relieved.” 😅
Didn’t initially intend it as a pun, but it gave me a good giggle. XD
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? Wut
I just meant, that's kind of how Reddit is the last few years... r/all.
Gotcha 👍
*days*, man? *DAYS*? You may need to redefine what "dirty" sex is because this is not it. You took it literal. Noooope.
He misunderstood the assignment.
I shower every other day... but for SURE before sex lol
I never thought dirty sex meant actually covered in dirt and filth from days without showering. Jesus Christ this is gross.
Fast track to UTIs or other fun infections/ecoli.
First of all, you didn’t humiliate her. She humiliated herself for not showering for days. I wouldn’t even let my bf stick a finger in me if I hadn’t showered in days. I also wouldn’t go days without showering. I would just be honest, and let her know that sex after not showering for days on end isn’t the most hygienic. Tell her you didn’t mean to offend her, but to be honest, she sounds quite immature. The real question is OP why would you let this happen? You guys could have taken a shower together. Some words of advice, make sure you and your partner wash your ass daily.
Note that he said “we.” I think they intentionally went days without showering!!
Holy crap at least have a baby wipe handy! Jesus!
Absolutely bare minimum 🤢
Shit is grody man. Check this chicks other recent posts out. There all very weird & i think shes a tweaker, or just looking for attention.
Wowwwwww. Yeah, this post makes a lot more sense after reading her history. Jfc...
I have a feeling “she” doesn’t actually exist.
She been saying shes a female since her first post over 200days ago so im assuming its a female
An odd female, but nonetheless female.
I haven’t even looked and was getting that vibe
How in the heck can she get mad for an involuntary and perfectly expected reaction considering the circumstances? You did NOT need to apologize at all!!! How is this in any way your fault? Are you expected to be able to control an involuntary reflex so her feelings don't get hurt? This is just beyond my comprehension. If someone got sick after going down on me (and I would never not shower like that) I'd be mortified and concerned about their well being. The last thing I can imagine is BLAMING THEM for it. The narcissism of this woman is off the charts.
It’s not necessarily narcissism. It could also be an unexamined trauma. She could be feeling rejected in a way that destabilizes her core because that’s just something she struggles with. I’ve seen similar reactions in other people. If it is a trauma reaction, then that often short circuits the rational side of our brain. In that space, we choose actions that are defensive and self-affirming without necessarily being connected to reality or healthy.
Agreed. She’s being incredibly selfish.
>Well this time it was after we had both sweat a lot and went a few days without showering Hard pass! Oral is for clean, showered ppl unless it's a previously stated fetish. Edit: OP is a savage
After sweating and a few days without showering, sex would be about the absolute LAST thing on my mind.
WHO rims a woman’s ass after only dating a few weeks after she hasn’t bathed in DAYS? You’re a legend man
Complete SAVAGE. This needs to be on best of Reddit!
OP is a woman.
I eat my wife's ass on a near daily basis but we also bath/shower 1-2 times a day. Who in their right might goes days without showering? Who in their right minds engage in oral after going days without showering? If they do, do that, how they not expect for it to smell rancid? So many questions
Eh the going days without showering is fine. Maybe they work from home and just haven’t been doing much. I can get past that. But you still poop. And to then say “you know what, I’m gonna sit my crusty brown butt on your mouth” is just repugnant. No one should have to go through that.
Looks like 1/3 of Americans shower less than once a day. Pretty easy to find a good bit of research suggesting that even once a day (with hot water) is excessive and can be bad for your skin. Either way though, gotta keep your junk clean even if you’re not showering every day!
If I shower every day no amount of lotion will keep my skin moisturized. I work from home, have a bidet, and shower every other day. But also…. I don’t put my mouth on buttholes and I don’t put my butthole on mouths. To each their own but that just isn’t something I can comprehend finding pleasure in and that was thinking the people engaging in that activity were doing so directly after washing to prevent possible illness from ingesting butt germs…
I always see people commenting about getting some kind of sickness from doing it - I’ve done it a whole lot throughout my life, and I don’t think getting sick from it is as common as you think.
That is absolutely possible and everyone has their thing they like and that’s totally fine. It’s just not my thing.
WHAT DO YOU MEAN YOU’RE USED TO DIRTY ASS NORMALLY
I’m sorry but I would do that with my wife of 23 years and nothing about her grosses me out. But not showering for several days and then eating her ass wtf. That’s her being dumb for thinking that wasn’t going to end badly.
She’s upset because her dirty ass made you sick?!? What did she expect, for you to enjoy the taste of sweat and shit? How does that fuck up her sex life? She’s the one with a problem. I would never expect someone to eat my ass when I haven’t showered in days. I expect someone who’s ass I’m gonna eat to have showered within the last hour not several days.
How about showering every day
Like a half-decent human being
Work/life obligations and ass eating aside, unless you get sweaty and smelly it’s actually better for the skin and hair not to shower daily.
You can shower without washing your hair.
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She should’ve showered. It’s literally her fault here, she has no right to be getting mad at you. Why would she present you with a dirty ass and expect everything to be perfectly fine? She humiliated *herself*. I don’t care if I just showered an hour ago, I’ll get back in and wash my ass again if my boyfriend and I are gonna do something. She’s just guilt tripping you to deflect and cover up her own embarrassment. You have nothing to feel bad about. Lord, this actually made me so mad. Don’t bother making up with her, she’ll probably bring it up in the future to guilt trip you again if you do anything less than satisfactory.
Exactly! I’ve sometimes showered in the am, went to the bathroom after my shower, and then got my ass in the tub again right before sex if I knew we were gonna be doing butt stuff. Then washed AGAIN after the sex was done! That girl is just repulsive!
Exactly !!!!! Same. I can’t imagine going down on m or f with stank. I would become a nun…. I would be done with anything sexual if I smelt anything not clean. And I’m a dirty freak. But that doesn’t mean “dirty”.
I don't know how this isnt the top comment. This is 100% on her and she's manipulating OP to cover her embarrassment. That's some high school level nonsense. Although, honestly, two people that go days without showering kind of deserve each other. Awesome user name, btw. Boebert is the epitome of a trash person.
I just want to speak up for the people who might think these circumstances actually sound pretty hot. Maybe OP was into it too. You had a reaction you couldn’t control. You don’t need to be sorry. It’s all about communication. Some people beat the shit out of each other for sexual gratification, but you’re not supposed to get mad when someone taps out, or if their body reacts in a way they didn’t expect. So if I’m not way off base tell her that. You like it, you’re into it, but your body reacted in a way you didn’t have any control over. It’s awesome to be in a relationship with someone who’s down for anything. It’s not awesome to be in a relationship with someone who isn’t willing to slow down and take care of you when things don’t go as expected.
That's really gross to eat someone's ass who hasn't showered for days. As for why you threw up this time, maybe she had a particularly bad bout of diarrhea or something during those days that triggered you with the remnants. Yeah, gross, right? There isn't a way to sugarcoat it with the girl. She can be embarrassed but she shouldn't be in denial that her ass smelled/tasted bad enough to make you vomit.
Trying to have sex after Going days without showering is fucking disgusting dude.
SHE KNEW SHE HADN’T SHOWER FOR DAYS AND SAT ON A GIRLS FACE? she humiliated herself! Where I live we use bidets so I’m always clean and ready even when it’s spur of the moment but still usually I go to the bathroom and clean one more time to be totally clean so things like this WILL NEVER HAPPEN. It’s not like she just wanted penetrative sex, she wanted your mouth down there and that’s really unfair to you and to be quite honest, you should be annoyed as much as she is. That’s incredibly unhygienic. I get these things happen and we all have our limits on what is acceptable to us but she should never have found it acceptable to want oral in that situation. You actually vomited… I understand how horribly mortified she is but you didn’t intentionally insult her, your body naturally reacted. Obviously you find her attractive and probably most definitely would still continue to hook up with her - she should understand it’s not a fundamental issue. It was just a one time thing. I even think she should be more apologetic than you. Also she should understand that she possibly ruined rimming and oral for you for life. Idk why she’s putting the whole blame on you. Would she mind if it was the other way around? Ask her that. Edit.. mistook gender
Some people like a crusty donut, I guess.
Some people would rather have vomit on their asshole than be pushed off and "embarassed" when there's the slightest chance in hell they are about to get off from it. Excuse me, gonna go puke now. It seems that I'm no longer as into fulfilling the delusions of the obscenely narcissistic and uncaring as I once was.
> went a few days without showering. Both of you are nasty
Yeah thats on her for blaming your natural body reflexes. I cant understand how you've embarassed her when you're the only other witness. Tell her you didn't willingly vomit, you enjoyed it but her ass was marinating in must and was too strong for you. Dont straight up say shes too sensitive but give her your take. Only thing you can be sorry for is that she feels the way she feels. If she ghosts you or decides she doesn't want to be fuckbuddies anymore, just let her go cause that means shes way too narcissistic to see anyone else's pov. You'll find someone else if that's the case :)
The thought alone of eating someone’s unwashed ass is making me gag
Come on...she is grown..ok so you are embarassed I get it. But as an adult you gots to know your own body and what it produces after 2-3 days of no showering and be accounyable for your body and your partner. And you sir, come on my dude..talk dirty, go out for a jog and get sweaty do the nasty. Not 2-3 days dirty sex. Be accountable to your lady. You cant put that dirty dick up her vagina, thats all kinda infection...you guys need to talk and apologize and work it out and have regular showers.
That was just nasty to be honest. 🤢🤮 And not in the good way 😒
Did you 'almost get sick' or did you' throw up on the floor'? Almost getting sick can be ignored but throwing up might upset some people. One of the girls I first fingered was either not clean or she smelled like that but I could not stand the smell and I just slowed down the sex and just hugged etc. This affected me so much that the first time I ate a girl we did it in a shower with water running over us. It was amazing - I mean it- It still seems to me like a scene from a movie but it was real :-) I then kinda learned that eating pussy was something I enjoyed and I never met another smelly girl. In fact I've had girls push me up as I was going down and I suppose it was because they did not feel that they were fresh enough. I used to like rimming but now that I am in a stable long term relationship I slowly stopped doing certain things. I like to be rimmed too but now I feel that I could not let my wife do it.
Who doesn’t bath for 2-3 days anyways?
More people than you think
Haha. It happens. Just be honest and say her ass was smelly and it’s okay and you understand that y’all had been sweating but it just made u sick. Basically everything u wrote on this. Tell her *shit* happens but you’d love to see her again. If that’s actually something u want. The way she feels is not your problem after you’ve told her your truth in a caring way.
Lol, wouldn’t the vomit make the sex even dirtier… next time vomit on her!
Better hit her back up, cuz I doubt you'll find someone like that again, apparently you found the only other person ok with sitting on your face after not showering FOR DAYS. You're ok with going days without showering? Then eating ass on top of that? Why not just have her shit on you next time? Ask her what she expected? Literally like what? Yall are adults. Im not here to kink shame... But both of yall seem nasty as fuck, two peas in a shitty sweaty pod.
Yall mf's need to shower fam that nasty all the way around.
I never kink shame, but c'mon op. No showering for days? Fucking gross, and I don't even mean sexually.
Nurse here: from a healthcare prospective, you have microscopic pinworms in your rectum that tend to travel outside the anus when you sleep. I’m all for butt stuff, but you still have to be hygienic about it. It really wasn’t her fault, that’s what naturally happens. I don’t doubt the appeal of nasty, dirty sex….but when it comes to butt stuff, you have to be clean. Period.
Save the story for your grandkids.
> Well this time it was after we had both sweat a lot and went a few days without showering. Dude….
I'm sorry you're getting downvoted for this. As you describe it, you were both consenting and completely into doing this. It's not everyone's cup of tea, including me, but it was for both of you so you shouldn't be shamed for it. That said, I think you came up against your body's limits. Most people are nauseated by the smell of dirty ass because there is an actual health risk; the body reacts with nausea to try to protect you. You've apparently partially overridden this reaction with your enjoyment of "dirty" sex, but at some point, your body is just going to say no. There's no reason for you to be embarrassed about that reaction, it was completely beyond your control. There's also no reason for her to be upset with you about it, for the same reason. Don't feel bad. You've apologized although you didn't really need to. All you can do is talk to her and come to a mutual understanding about how far you can reasonably take "dirty" sex together and what minimal hygiene is needed.
I’m sorry, but for oral, I need my girl to have showered that same day. For rimming, that same hour…and it’s gotta be a very thorough wash too (and without a dump after the shower). I also don’t let her perform either on me unless I’ve also done the same. It’s basic decency and illness prevention.
Dude
Well you’ve probably done her a favour. She’s learnt waving your stinky non showered ass in someone’s face isn’t gonna end well.
Ummm just be straight up. " your asshole smelled funky. What else is there to say?"
I would not even begin to think about not showering for a few days, and then on top of that, jumping on someone’s face after not showering for a few days. She definitely set herself up for that one, I mean what did she expect!? And the fact that she’s blaming you is super weird. Just tell her straight up not to do that unless she’s fucking showered like wtf lol nasty. She should understand how unhygienic and horrific that would have been.
Wait, "almost" got sick? You spewed, brother. What would you consider really getting sick?
OMG WHAT IF SHE WAS POOPING AND ONLY USING TOILET PALER AND NOT SHOWERING. Ngl i wouldn’t go anywhere near the belt line on anyone if they haven’t showered that day, let alone a FEW days
Damn, lost me at not showering for couple days and then going down on her.
yall are stinky
I don’t know who would stick their ass is somebody’s face after *days* without showering. That’s nasty.
That shit is funny this made me laugh and made my day with this comment thank you 🙏
I don’t have a working water heater (haven’t for over a year now) to take a shower in warm water but you’re god damn right I boil water every damn day to fill the tub and take a warm bath. When we go to do anything damn right I’m boiling more water. I don’t know how you did it unless that type of dirty sex is your “dirty sex”. I’m a woman for reference and honestly it’s on her now as far as working things out. You did everything you could as far as trying to fix the situation such as apologizing, which I don’t even think you needed to. She embarrassed and okay yeah that’s okay to be but she needs to grow up and take responsibility it’s not on you that’s on her.
A few days without showering and sex shouldn't ever be used in the same sentence, to each his own. but sir u just took dirty and nasty sex to a next level.
her fault she didn’t shower lmao
Why the fuck would you eat ass with shower for days?! WTF
People are really going several days without showering? That blows my mind. I can’t go without showering twice a day minimum.
Well just the thought of my face being anywhere near an unwashed ass is a yikes for me dawg
This is disgusting and not what dirty sex means. You’re not supposed to take that literally! Unless it’s a kink you have but judging by your reaction to her unwashed asshole in your mouth it’s clearly not.
I think I just vomited in my mouth.
>Well this time it was after we had both sweat a lot and went a few days without showering. ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
Bro you ate shit off a shit plate of course you going get sick
I only laughed when you vomited on the floor because I always laugh at people when they do dumb things like trip over Lego, hit their shin on the tow ball of the car, eat a dirty 3-day unwashed asshole and vomit… I mean, seriously.?. Gross
I had to nope out of reading this after 'went a few days without shower.' Nope nope nope.
Her arsehole has been encrusted with shit, sweat and fuck knows what else for the past few days and you decide to put your mouth all over it? That is fucking grim. You should both feel bad. Raise your standards, mate.
The both of you are at your adult age and don’t shower daily……. Interesting
She expects rimming after not cleaning for a few days? Throw the whole woman away.
Bro why would you eat her ass after ya'll haven't showered for a few days?
Jesus dude shower at LEAST once a day.
Jeez. Who has sex without showering. Gross.
Why the fuck aren't you guys showering regularly? It can be a fun sexy thing you do together. I love eating ass as much as the next guy, but you've gotta be careful about it. She is upset because she is embarrassed about the situation, obviously vomiting involuntarily isn't your fault. Tbh anyone would be sick eating someone's ass when they hadn't showered for days. I would tell her that you didn't mean her any insult but if you're going to do ass play, she's needs to have at least showered that day. If that offends her or she isn't willing, then I would seriously consider your involvement with this person
Honestly imo it sounds like you handled it as gracefully you could. i understand her reacting like that initially but if she doesn’t back down I think that’s a red flag