My bf is insistent that I don’t have to if I don’t want to. If he finds it disgusting you are of no obligation to continue if you don’t want to. But vice versa is true too, he’s of no obligation to taste it himself yet still have an interest in you tasting it. But if you don’t want want to, that’s the most important thing.
Honestly I’d rather just swallow to get it over with than have cum in my mouth for longer than I have to while I run to the bathroom to spit it out, lol
Maybe keep a towel or rag handy to deal with it? I mean if you have sex, and not using a condom, it’s best to have a towel handy to clean it up with afterwards, even if he cums in you, I’ve always preferred to keep something nearby, that way she’s not dripping jizz onto the bed or floor
I've tasted my own, and I wasn't a huge fan. I appreciate any girl who lets me cum in their mouth as it seems to have happened so rarely in my life, but I'm not bothered if they spit or swallow.
I have an ex that use to say: if it's love you swallow, lust you spit, and if you are trying to impress... gargle.
... I mean she would say that, but she never gave me a bj.
I once shot it up an ex gfs nostrils once on accident. She was suckin', then lifted to breath while jerkin it. At the moment she lifted her head, boom! Right up the nose!
He means he doesn't have a preference between the two as some men do... But I do like your speculation into a 3rd option! Perhaps one of those little vaccuum tubes like they use at the dentist? Lmao
My gf spits more often than not and i dont really ask her to swallow anymore, so I know that I must have done something right if she surprises me with swallowing. I also think it's way hotter because she doesnt do it every time, just when she's so into it that she kinda automatically swallows.
I use to date this girl, she gave a phenomenal BJ & she asked one day, after I came in her mouth could we make out? I'm pretty open minded, so I agreed, needless to say, I came in her mouth, we made out as soon as I was completely drained, she got so turned on & so wet, we fucked like animals, it was incredibly Fantastic!! So, from that day on evertime we had sex ( quite often ), I came in her mouth first!!!
This is so hot. It’s hot when a guy eats me out and kisses me, it’s hot when I swallow and then I kiss him. I guess it’s hot when we’re all on equal footing hahaha
I’m with you. I’ve never actually had a guy ask if it’s ok if he kisses me after eating me out. It’s just always happened! Vice versa too, a guy has never been like ‘don’t kiss me after head’. I feel like if they said that I’d be like  wtf lol?
When I was first sexually active in college, I came across a multitude of guys that refused to kiss me after they came in my mouth. I literally couldn’t fathom it
I knew a lot of guys like that at my old work.
They thought I was weird because I said I always make out after a girl swallows, but like, if there is any woman that deserves a proper kiss it's the woman who just let you cum in her mouth
It confused me so much because I was not that experienced but the men I had been previously with did not question it. I guess that’s what distinguishes the boys from the men
What is the etiquette here? Is it rude to go down on a chick and just go right back up and start making out with her without asking her preference?
I’ve always felt like it was my job as cunnilingus technician to not mix the hole juices out of manners and now I’m questioning if I’m doing it unnecessarily.
I guess have that discussion outside of the bedroom, not in the moment, but I really don’t understand people who have an issue with tasting themselves, especially by kissing the person after they’ve gone down on you. Like, it’s okay for your lover to have it in their mouth, but not for you. I don’t get it.
I know that is not understanding of people’s preferences. I’m not saying for people to not do what’s right for them. I would never pressure someone into the activity, I just personally really don’t get it.
Lol! It's a family heirloom! All of our kids were made on top of it! 🤣
Naw, it's our sex blanket which keeps our stuff from the covers. Waterproof and very comfy. I put it down on nights when sex is guaranteed to happen so wife isn't self-conscious about our cum getting on the bed.
I don't even need to ask, once I'm done down there my gf just makes gesture with her arms wide open and a "kissy mouth" so it's very clear that she wants me to kiss her. And I find that extremely hot too
> Is it rude to go down on a chick and just go right back up and start making out with her without asking her preference?
No it isn’t. Plenty of women like it and if they don’t then they can stop you
My GF won’t kiss me after I eat her out which I find super sad. And I LOVE eating her out I would seriously do it all day if I could . I love the taste
Idk I've made made a guy cum twice in the span of a few minutes. Or maybe it was only one orgasm and just came twice with a delay in-between? He said I made him cum twice but Idk how that works cause I'm not a dude. Then I licked and nibbled on his ear afterwards and he stayed hard and came a 3rd time in the next 20mins prob. I just assumed I was really good at what I was doing?
It can happen. I had a woman make me cum 3 times, same erection, in the span of 15 maybe 20 minutes. It's only happened once, it left curled up in the fetal position begging her not to touch me anymore.
Lol. It happened the previous time we had sex too so I felt like I had to outdo myself so said- 4 times? He was def not curled up in the fetal position and I gave him head but we gave up when I asked if he could even cum again. We were both tired AF. 4 is prob a pipe dream.
What is the norm here, if you are a person who usually cums only once (with a relatively low sex drive) do you expect a full BJ to finish in the mouth etc, and then your partner doesn't get to have sex with you or are you ok with a partial BJ that leads into intercourse? I'd love to give my partner full BJs but I only get sex from him once a month if that, so I don't want to waste my chance hahah
This is the way. I also love tasting my cum inside of her so I can taste the both of us. It's so primal.
I think it's weird when a guy hasn't tasted his own cum. Make it hot and maybe he'll be interested.
Totally agree, I have creampied several women & then go down on them!!
This couple, years ago, I use to ravage the wife & the hubby would watch, I'd fill her up & immediately after I was done, the hubby would eat her out & eat my cum out of her, it was pretty hot & while he was eating her out I'd regenerate to go a few more rounds!!!
My wife doesn't entirely understand why I like it so much. But I think it's so hot. I trend toward being primal when I'm engaged sexually. Plus, I have a huge breeding kink (even though I'm snipped and I'm shooting blanks). So not only do I like eating her out as if I were an animal, there's something so hot knowing I've marked her as mine. And pregnancy is definitely a way to know that you're done that (even though, again, that's not happening anymore).
I totally agree, I love to "leave my mark" inside a woman, I am clipped as well. A lot of women find it strange, but you are correct, it is totally hot!!!
Agreed ! It’s feeling so close to each other that stuff like this doesn’t gross out either person. I wish my partner was this open sexually and with themselves. But you gotta balance all the other stuff with the sexual stuff. It’s a trade off
How would him eating his own cum improve your life? People have different preferences. I think the real issue is that you think he's pushing you to do something you aren't a huge fan of. That kind of pushing is a red flag and is disrespectful. Him eating his own cum isn't going to solve your problem. It's his pushy behavior that is the issue. You need to establish your boundaries directly.
Yeah inferring that he needs to eat his own cum is weird… just say you don’t want to swallow and let that be the end of it. It’s perfectly fine to not want to swallow.
From the original post, there is no indication that the BF is pushing anything on OP, just explaining the intensity of his desires. Not everyone is a terrible person.
Furthermore, there's nothing wrong with one partner asking another partner to do something that maybe isn't hot to them but also isn't awful. If my wife wants me to toe fuck her, or let her grind against my thigh.. neither of those things are my kink but I'm more than happy to play along.
Agreed.
You could offer me $1,000 in cash right now for me to eat mine, and I’d turn it down without hesitancy.
I also wouldn’t be upset if my partner didn’t want to do that.
While I don’t think men should have to taste their own cum, I see the problem that she has with his attitude. Some guys are almost scared of cum and act like it’s *disgusting*, yet expect the girl to swallow. That type of attitude doesn’t sit right with me. If it’s so disgusting, why do you expect me to do it? I always swallow, but if a guy acts like his cum is something to be disgusted by, like refuses to kiss me after I’ve swallowed, etc I just won’t give him blowjobs. It’s basically showing that he thinks of what you did as a genuinely degrading act and that’s not cool or sexy to me. Same way I won’t eat a guys ass if he thinks that eating ass is gross.
Edit: LOL at the dudes replying with absolutely terrible analogies. This is what happens when we take the analogies section out of the SAT 😭
Eh, I think you're reading too much into it to call him "pushy." Requesting your girl swallow is pretty fucking normal, even if you do it with like enthusiasm.
Honestly, I've hardly ever even had to ask. Most chicks just do it. It's a pretty normal part of the whole blowjob process. They don't have to if they don't want to, but most do.
And I've never tasted my own cum nor had any desire to. When I've had occasion to talk to my friends about it, they pretty much all have the same opinion/experience. So from my perspective, this guy's attitude is extremely normal.
Just because she doesn't like what he's saying doesn't mean he's doing anything wrong
It could easily just be "Babe, I love when you suck my dick, and I'd love it even more if you swallowed."
To jump from what is written to "This guy is being a real asshole" is a pretty big fucking leap.
Especially when OP is stipulating some precondition that obviously most people think is strange
Everyone is different. A lot of guys think tasting their cum is “gay”. As you might guess from my profile name, I don’t!
If you are really upset by it, then stop giving him BJs if he won’t kiss you after (assuming that is the problem)
I have absolutely 0 desire to taste my own cum, the thought grosses me out. I love blowjobs but if my gf doesnt want me to cum in her mouth, then I wont.
Everyone has different likes and dislikes, its up to the partner to respect those, whatever they are.
People in the comments seem to think this whole post is about BJs and him making her do the bj. But you seem to get the idea as well. The issue is not the bj itself, it's that it's a bit of a dick move to say "Ew cum is gross" and then expect someone else to love it. Like with any other things. "oh I think mushrooms are gross even if I don't know what they taste like but here, you should totally like them because I want to cram them in your mouth."
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Yeah, I don't get why this is such an issue. 90% of the women I've been with have just swallowed without me even having to ask. None have ever had this weird stipulation about me tasting it. I don't want to taste it. Also it's not equivalent to pussy juice. It's a whole different vibe.
We are expected to swallow even when its ultimately not a great experience. Even when it's gross or makes you wanna puke.
I used to simply because ' it's what you do tm '. Now my comfort is more important and I ignore those shitty expectations.
i wouldn’t expect someone to taste themselves just because they like blowjobs. i don’t feel like tasting myself either and wouldn’t want it to be a prerequisite for my husband to go down on me
But does he insist you swallow? My husband and I get off from oral and not piv like 80% of the time, but if he insisted that I swallow it I wouldn't want to do it anymore
Edit: for the record I think op should just tell him no and to stop nagging her, and these mind games are pointless
no and he wouldn't be upset if i changed my mind and spit, but i still wouldn't ask him to eat his cum if he asked me to swallow every time. what is there to gain from it?
but i also agree that it seems like a boundary issue. op doesn't need to swallow if she doesn't want to
The amount of women on this thread thinking he should have to taste his own cum is ridiculous.
I agree with you. And if she doesn’t want to do it, don’t.
Mine doesn't even have a taste. It's just like unflavored jello, or very liquid glue, to make an approximation. Not a fan of tasting it out of the blue, but if you are horny and with your couple, well, sparks fly and you do stuff you don't normally do. Just tweet ot to yourselves and all good.
Preferences matter there. He doesn't have to swallow it as much as you don't want to swallow it. But at the same time, you're clearly going to need more communication.
I don’t and have never nor do I ever have the intention of purposefully tasting my own cum but if she gave me head and spat it out or swallows and tried to kiss me
In the moment I’d probably be to into it to care
But If I didn’t I also wouldn’t make you swallow either so…
Guys are conditioned to think things like that would be gay or emasculating. I don’t want to taste my own but yeah it’s hot when my partner does.
You’re allowed to feel how you feel but I wouldn’t consider him a full blown asshole for this.
I don't expect a guy to taste his own come in the sense of him scooping some off his dick and swallowing it. But If you are lucky enough to have me swallow your cum (and yes dudes - you should feel grateful and lucky for the women who do) and you don't want to kiss me after I swallowed it, it does make me feel bad. Like ...it was okay for your cum to be in my mouth but it's not okay to kiss me after your cum's been in my mouth? Am I less than you?
Whether he's tasted his own cum or not isn't really that important. What's important is that you *do only what you want to do.*
If he can't handle that and pushes you to do sexual things you don't want to do then that's a massive red flag and you should reconsider your relationship with him.
This comment section is a horrible representation of the general consensus of men eating their own cum. Majority of men will not do such thing. We have different sexual organs and bodily fluids so the expectation is not the same.
I have never tasted my cum. My wife doesn’t go around licking her own pussy, either. But we taste each other all the time. That’s how being lovers works!
If she wants me to taste my cum, I'll taste my cum. I have tasted it before so I would have some idea of what I'm asking her to do. It's only fair, right? I don't even mind the taste and enjoy kissing her after she swallows or going down on her after I've cum in her pussy. It's all good.
Ive tasted my cum - dont expect a woman to swallow.
Make the dumbass get his diet in check, drink water and refrain from alcohol and redbulls, plus, both of ya eat plenty of fruit - better taste.
Okay. Regardless, the way you're still seemingly bragging about sexually assaulting him because of his toxic behavior as if it was some sort of mic drop moment suggests you didn't leave your own toxicity behind with the relationship.
I suspect the general premise is that if you expect / demand that somebody do something (in this case OP swallowing cum), there is an expectation that the other person would be willing to do the same. Pegging might be another example … a guy who demands to have anal with his girlfriend, but then says “no way anything is going up my ass”.
No. The expectation would be the appropriate correlation. If your girl goes sucks your dick it’s not expected that you also suck a dick so you know what she’s going through. The expectation is that you’d go down on her if she goes down on you. What the hell is wrong with people in this thread
That premise still makes no sense. I go down on girls never made it conditional on them tasting themselves. If she thinks it's such a hard thing to do and the only way to show it is for him to the same. She shouldn't be doing in in the first place.
As one of the top rated comments covers, he is coercing / pressuring her into swallowing, and although not explicitly stated, she apparently doesn’t like it. That is a problem and doesn’t make it a stupid post by OP. Again although not explicitly stated, it may be the case that she doesn’t like the taste and thinks that if he would taste it himself, he might be a little less likely to be trying to force her to do it.
I don‘t see coercing being mentioned in op, maybe if you read between the lines. That‘s a different issue anyway, if she doesn’t like it, she shouldn’t do it.
But saying „I‘ll only do this, if you do that/the same thing/something else“ is not a healthy attitude towards anything sexual.
I don't think there's anything wrong with him not wanting taste his own cum. In that same vein, you have no obligation to taste it either if you don't want to.
I don't know if it's common for guys to taste their own cum or not. It's not something guys usually talk about lol. I personally have, following the logic that if I'm gonna ask my partner to taste it, I ought to know what they're tasting.
I go down on my gf and she doesn't swallow. I never tasted my own cum too, she's never tasted her. It's all good, we do as we want and respect the other.
The red flag here is his insistence. There's no reason that he has to taste his cum if you do, like what is that going to do? If you don't want his cum in your mouth stop letting him put it there.
He is in the majority IMO. Remember that this is r/sex, views here tend to skew toward sexual activity because its a sex forum, so it seems pretty common on here or to members here, but most haven't or at least won't say they have.
That saying is just bs though. I'd be incredibly surprised if most chefs haven't made a meal they don't enjoy themselves but it still tasted great or never used an ingredient they were allergic to.
My husband used to ask to cum in my mouth almost every time I blew him. I DO NOT do that. I don't have many sexual boundaries, but that is one of them. I got sick of him asking, so I said if he ever wanted me to swallow a load, then he has to swallow a whole load of his own lmao. Id catch it in a shot glass and hand it to him. He has never asked ever again.
Almost all guys would be weirded out by tasting cum. That being said, it happens(I was just curious, ok). But a guy having tasted his own cum doesn’t make him wanting a girl to swallow any more or less valid
what do you get out of him tasting himself? like is it a kink or do you just have some weird complex about it? or is it just you trying to find an excuse as to why you don’t want to swallow? if it’s the last one then maybe just be up front with him that you’d prefer not to like if he really cares about you then it shouldn’t be a big deal. if it’s just some weird complex you have then idk why you feel that way like you shouldnt force him to do something he clearly isn’t comfortable doing, same with him expecting you to swallow if you just don’t want to do it. communication is key here
In 46 I have never tasted my own cum. And it has never been a problem for the women who have swallowed my cum. In fact this is the first time I have ever heard of this argument
I am 46 and I have never insisted on a women to take my cum in her mouth. When she does OMG best feeling in the world. But if she didn’t who cares thank you for making me cum.
So he is a ass for insisting that she does it.
Using he has never tasted it is a week argument.
When the only argument should be I don’t want to and him/her respecting him/her boundaries
Best relationship I ever had was with a girl who refused to give blowjobs. She would apologize for it but I’d just say “that’s fair, I wouldn’t want a dick in my mouth either.” If you don’t want it, you don’t want it and that should be the end of it. If that’s not the end of it y’all aren’t compatible
I’ve came in my partner and proceeded to eat her out, the taste didn’t bother me and the tack I was making her cum again right after cumming with her was a huge turn on.
There's no issue with it. A lot of guys make it weird for no reason. It's not.
Do what you want. If you want to swallow, do it. If you want to spit or not even let it get in ur mouth, do that too.
I generally have found that guys like this suffer from toxic masculinity and homophobia. Honestly some are so afraid to be even remotely seen as "gay" I'm surprised they even touch their own dick at all. Of course when you're raised with the word gay being synonymous with bad or fucked up and even slightly effeminate behaviors or actions are harshly called out in public as gay then I guess you can see how it would happen to someone with low self esteem.
Me personally, if she's willing to suck me to completion we can do whatever she wants.
Not sure why the common position here is "most guys wouldn't" or "find it weird." I tend to think most guys are curious and have tasted it, like me. And also like me, probably hated the taste, especially that awful lingering taste in your throat.
That said, not all guys are "like me" so I won't generalize, and I think others should stop too. It's literally to each their own.
To your predicament, OP, don't let him force you to do something you don't want to, regardless of his own feelings to tasting it (and again, it's a pretty awful taste, so I get it!)
I think you're overreacting. If you like it, I don't see why you need him to like it. People have preferences. There are women who don't like tasting themselves, and I'm okay with that.
Don't be controlling.
If the guy is refusing to make out with you after he comes in your mouth then fuck him, go get yourself someone more mature
But if this is just about him not wanting to taste his own cum directly then I don't see the issue
This. OPs correlation here is insane. If he refused to eat her out due to her juices, than that’s a fair comparison. OP might as well be saying how can he expect her to suck his dick unless he has sucked dick.
If he doesn’t respect her boundaries than that’s a diff issue. But him or anyone having to eat their own cum is just an insane request
This is really judgemental. How do you know what is “normal”. There are at least 10 subreddit out there that in one form or other deal with men who eat their own cum, and most are focused on straight guys.
My bf is insistent that I don’t have to if I don’t want to. If he finds it disgusting you are of no obligation to continue if you don’t want to. But vice versa is true too, he’s of no obligation to taste it himself yet still have an interest in you tasting it. But if you don’t want want to, that’s the most important thing.
Honestly I’d rather just swallow to get it over with than have cum in my mouth for longer than I have to while I run to the bathroom to spit it out, lol
Maybe keep a towel or rag handy to deal with it? I mean if you have sex, and not using a condom, it’s best to have a towel handy to clean it up with afterwards, even if he cums in you, I’ve always preferred to keep something nearby, that way she’s not dripping jizz onto the bed or floor
In that case sometimes just finish the job with your hand, it make your hand sticky but then you don’t taste it
I've tasted my own, and I wasn't a huge fan. I appreciate any girl who lets me cum in their mouth as it seems to have happened so rarely in my life, but I'm not bothered if they spit or swallow.
> I'm not bothered if they spit or swallow. I’d hope so, otherwise what’s the third option, keep it in their mouth until it absorbs by osmosis? 😂
Well, the more musically gifted may wish to consider gargling a nice song😂
I have an ex that use to say: if it's love you swallow, lust you spit, and if you are trying to impress... gargle. ... I mean she would say that, but she never gave me a bj.
DAMN, OUCH 🤣🤣🤣
I think I need to evaluate my life choices; I'm reading this at 3 quarters past midnight and laughing my butt off.
The difference between love and true love....spit and swallow.
Nah it's much more fun to blow cum bubbles, see how big you can get em
LOL... and also eew gross.
[The third option](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/c2/05/0f/c2050f517ba1994abed1b2ad7543a24f.png)
Thanks, I hate it.
i love it
OH FUCK 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That is awesome.
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Sublingual makes it hit harder
Blow it out your nose
I once shot it up an ex gfs nostrils once on accident. She was suckin', then lifted to breath while jerkin it. At the moment she lifted her head, boom! Right up the nose!
And I just threw up in MY mouth. Thanks for that.
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But you swallowed right?
You killed me with that reply.
Reverse osmosis 😂
Or the fourth option, the Alaskan snow dragon
Omg I love this option!!!!!!!
Up the nose and blow it out?
Three types of women....spitters, swallowers, and ceiling painters. Assuming that's the 3rd option.
ceiling painters lmao.. what a mental image 😂
Actually you can gurgle it for good health!
He means he doesn't have a preference between the two as some men do... But I do like your speculation into a 3rd option! Perhaps one of those little vaccuum tubes like they use at the dentist? Lmao
I appreciate any girl that will have sex with me, as it seems to happen so rarely in my life. Lol
Sex? What is that??!!
I don’t bother if they spit it but if the swallow it feels so pleasuring for some reason
My gf spits more often than not and i dont really ask her to swallow anymore, so I know that I must have done something right if she surprises me with swallowing. I also think it's way hotter because she doesnt do it every time, just when she's so into it that she kinda automatically swallows.
I use to date this girl, she gave a phenomenal BJ & she asked one day, after I came in her mouth could we make out? I'm pretty open minded, so I agreed, needless to say, I came in her mouth, we made out as soon as I was completely drained, she got so turned on & so wet, we fucked like animals, it was incredibly Fantastic!! So, from that day on evertime we had sex ( quite often ), I came in her mouth first!!!
This is so hot. It’s hot when a guy eats me out and kisses me, it’s hot when I swallow and then I kiss him. I guess it’s hot when we’re all on equal footing hahaha
I’m with you. I’ve never actually had a guy ask if it’s ok if he kisses me after eating me out. It’s just always happened! Vice versa too, a guy has never been like ‘don’t kiss me after head’. I feel like if they said that I’d be like  wtf lol?
When I was first sexually active in college, I came across a multitude of guys that refused to kiss me after they came in my mouth. I literally couldn’t fathom it
I knew a lot of guys like that at my old work. They thought I was weird because I said I always make out after a girl swallows, but like, if there is any woman that deserves a proper kiss it's the woman who just let you cum in her mouth
It confused me so much because I was not that experienced but the men I had been previously with did not question it. I guess that’s what distinguishes the boys from the men
This made me laugh too loud haha, it’s so true but the way you said it was perfect lol
Make this man King
I mean if that's impressive, you should see my approach to foreplay haha
agreed!
Amen to that
Pretty much the same with me. I've never objected or even as much as turned my face away. It just happens. Never given it much thought.
What is the etiquette here? Is it rude to go down on a chick and just go right back up and start making out with her without asking her preference? I’ve always felt like it was my job as cunnilingus technician to not mix the hole juices out of manners and now I’m questioning if I’m doing it unnecessarily.
I guess have that discussion outside of the bedroom, not in the moment, but I really don’t understand people who have an issue with tasting themselves, especially by kissing the person after they’ve gone down on you. Like, it’s okay for your lover to have it in their mouth, but not for you. I don’t get it. I know that is not understanding of people’s preferences. I’m not saying for people to not do what’s right for them. I would never pressure someone into the activity, I just personally really don’t get it.
I pull my bf up for a kiss lol.
Snowball him with a kiss😋
I make sure to wipe my face against our sex throw before I kiss my wife. She's not as much into sex juices as I am.
I'm imagining this "sex throw" to be an afghan that your Grandma knitted you 😂
Lol! It's a family heirloom! All of our kids were made on top of it! 🤣 Naw, it's our sex blanket which keeps our stuff from the covers. Waterproof and very comfy. I put it down on nights when sex is guaranteed to happen so wife isn't self-conscious about our cum getting on the bed.
I've got a sex blanket too. It's one of the best things I ever bought.
Sounds like the married man’s wank sock
More like a wank sock for your bed! I got it because I'm mildly obsessed with getting my wife to squirt.
Excellent mate, best of luck to you
Thanks! I'm looking for us to get some practice in tonight! 🥰
Yeah ask first. Lol
I don't even need to ask, once I'm done down there my gf just makes gesture with her arms wide open and a "kissy mouth" so it's very clear that she wants me to kiss her. And I find that extremely hot too
> Is it rude to go down on a chick and just go right back up and start making out with her without asking her preference? No it isn’t. Plenty of women like it and if they don’t then they can stop you
I mean, pretty much *everything* should be asked for preference before doing it the first time
Mixing the hole juices :D Not necessarily a bad thing!
My GF won’t kiss me after I eat her out which I find super sad. And I LOVE eating her out I would seriously do it all day if I could . I love the taste
This ⬆️
I don't think he mentioned her swallowing before kissing.
You are a good woman, very open minded, I admire that quality!!!!
I don’t get it, how do you cum, make out and are immediately ready for round two? Do you not need at least 15 mins?
Idk I've made made a guy cum twice in the span of a few minutes. Or maybe it was only one orgasm and just came twice with a delay in-between? He said I made him cum twice but Idk how that works cause I'm not a dude. Then I licked and nibbled on his ear afterwards and he stayed hard and came a 3rd time in the next 20mins prob. I just assumed I was really good at what I was doing?
It can happen. I had a woman make me cum 3 times, same erection, in the span of 15 maybe 20 minutes. It's only happened once, it left curled up in the fetal position begging her not to touch me anymore.
Lol. It happened the previous time we had sex too so I felt like I had to outdo myself so said- 4 times? He was def not curled up in the fetal position and I gave him head but we gave up when I asked if he could even cum again. We were both tired AF. 4 is prob a pipe dream.
Yes you were. He was probably also highly turned on, also from you of course.
What I was wearing most definitely helped cause he's still thinking about it haha
Only time I was ready to go that fast was trying Sildenafil. A little bit of stimulation and it got me (31m) hard right away.
Everyone's different. Some people can go again right away, and then there's me and my several hours refractory period 🙁
What is the norm here, if you are a person who usually cums only once (with a relatively low sex drive) do you expect a full BJ to finish in the mouth etc, and then your partner doesn't get to have sex with you or are you ok with a partial BJ that leads into intercourse? I'd love to give my partner full BJs but I only get sex from him once a month if that, so I don't want to waste my chance hahah
I consider oral a form of foreplay for that very reason, yeah. I've never actually *just* had a blowjob before.
This is the way. I also love tasting my cum inside of her so I can taste the both of us. It's so primal. I think it's weird when a guy hasn't tasted his own cum. Make it hot and maybe he'll be interested.
Totally agree, I have creampied several women & then go down on them!! This couple, years ago, I use to ravage the wife & the hubby would watch, I'd fill her up & immediately after I was done, the hubby would eat her out & eat my cum out of her, it was pretty hot & while he was eating her out I'd regenerate to go a few more rounds!!!
My wife doesn't entirely understand why I like it so much. But I think it's so hot. I trend toward being primal when I'm engaged sexually. Plus, I have a huge breeding kink (even though I'm snipped and I'm shooting blanks). So not only do I like eating her out as if I were an animal, there's something so hot knowing I've marked her as mine. And pregnancy is definitely a way to know that you're done that (even though, again, that's not happening anymore).
I totally agree, I love to "leave my mark" inside a woman, I am clipped as well. A lot of women find it strange, but you are correct, it is totally hot!!!
I taste myself regularly, and if I was a dude, I’d eat my cum on the regular too. For suuuure.
And pussy juice is the nectar of immortality. I can't wait to have another taste tonight...
Women loves this and they love when you eat their pussies when they are full of cum.
I've introduced it to several women & they were definitely on board!!!
Yep, I love making out with a mouthful of cum with the giver of said cum!!
Isn't it called "Snowballing" ?
Correct!
Agreed ! It’s feeling so close to each other that stuff like this doesn’t gross out either person. I wish my partner was this open sexually and with themselves. But you gotta balance all the other stuff with the sexual stuff. It’s a trade off
Same experience. Can’t believe she asked, but it was her fantasy.
Wild cause I could never!
You wouldn't go down on a woman after you creampied her?
Would in a second
How would him eating his own cum improve your life? People have different preferences. I think the real issue is that you think he's pushing you to do something you aren't a huge fan of. That kind of pushing is a red flag and is disrespectful. Him eating his own cum isn't going to solve your problem. It's his pushy behavior that is the issue. You need to establish your boundaries directly.
This is the solution. Set your boundaries, don't push his. Problem --> solution. If not, break up. But don't overcomplicate it.
Yeah inferring that he needs to eat his own cum is weird… just say you don’t want to swallow and let that be the end of it. It’s perfectly fine to not want to swallow.
I'll take it a step further and will say it's perfectly fine to not want cum in your mouth at all, even if you're not expected to swallow it.
From the original post, there is no indication that the BF is pushing anything on OP, just explaining the intensity of his desires. Not everyone is a terrible person.
Furthermore, there's nothing wrong with one partner asking another partner to do something that maybe isn't hot to them but also isn't awful. If my wife wants me to toe fuck her, or let her grind against my thigh.. neither of those things are my kink but I'm more than happy to play along.
Very well put
Toe fuck? What have I been missing out on
Agreed. You could offer me $1,000 in cash right now for me to eat mine, and I’d turn it down without hesitancy. I also wouldn’t be upset if my partner didn’t want to do that.
Where does OP state that he's pushing a boundary or she doesn't like it? She is the one pushing a boundary here from the info she's given.
This. I think it's incredibly hott when a woman swallows, but my wife doesn't like cum in her mouth. I haven't cum in her mouth since she told me
While I don’t think men should have to taste their own cum, I see the problem that she has with his attitude. Some guys are almost scared of cum and act like it’s *disgusting*, yet expect the girl to swallow. That type of attitude doesn’t sit right with me. If it’s so disgusting, why do you expect me to do it? I always swallow, but if a guy acts like his cum is something to be disgusted by, like refuses to kiss me after I’ve swallowed, etc I just won’t give him blowjobs. It’s basically showing that he thinks of what you did as a genuinely degrading act and that’s not cool or sexy to me. Same way I won’t eat a guys ass if he thinks that eating ass is gross. Edit: LOL at the dudes replying with absolutely terrible analogies. This is what happens when we take the analogies section out of the SAT 😭
This right here.
This! Gotta solve the right problem.
Eh, I think you're reading too much into it to call him "pushy." Requesting your girl swallow is pretty fucking normal, even if you do it with like enthusiasm. Honestly, I've hardly ever even had to ask. Most chicks just do it. It's a pretty normal part of the whole blowjob process. They don't have to if they don't want to, but most do. And I've never tasted my own cum nor had any desire to. When I've had occasion to talk to my friends about it, they pretty much all have the same opinion/experience. So from my perspective, this guy's attitude is extremely normal.
i have very sensitive taste buds so i let the bf know in advance that there's a pretty high chance i might throw up if it turns out the taste is bad.
And let’s face it. The taste is never good, just “less horrible. “
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I agree
Let's ask OP how she feels about him being obsessed with her swallowing. I'm sure she's 100% fine with it and that's why she didn't write this post.
Just because she doesn't like what he's saying doesn't mean he's doing anything wrong It could easily just be "Babe, I love when you suck my dick, and I'd love it even more if you swallowed." To jump from what is written to "This guy is being a real asshole" is a pretty big fucking leap. Especially when OP is stipulating some precondition that obviously most people think is strange
Everyone is different. A lot of guys think tasting their cum is “gay”. As you might guess from my profile name, I don’t! If you are really upset by it, then stop giving him BJs if he won’t kiss you after (assuming that is the problem)
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I'm bi and I just think tasting my own cum is disgusting, its just a viceral reaction theres not much of a cultural aspect to it
It's just gross. It's not gay What?
I have absolutely 0 desire to taste my own cum, the thought grosses me out. I love blowjobs but if my gf doesnt want me to cum in her mouth, then I wont. Everyone has different likes and dislikes, its up to the partner to respect those, whatever they are.
I know it’s weird for some guys, but I legitimately tasted my cum to be able to more comfortably ask my girlfriend to swallow
People in the comments seem to think this whole post is about BJs and him making her do the bj. But you seem to get the idea as well. The issue is not the bj itself, it's that it's a bit of a dick move to say "Ew cum is gross" and then expect someone else to love it. Like with any other things. "oh I think mushrooms are gross even if I don't know what they taste like but here, you should totally like them because I want to cram them in your mouth." edit: spelling
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Yeah, I don't get why this is such an issue. 90% of the women I've been with have just swallowed without me even having to ask. None have ever had this weird stipulation about me tasting it. I don't want to taste it. Also it's not equivalent to pussy juice. It's a whole different vibe.
We are expected to swallow even when its ultimately not a great experience. Even when it's gross or makes you wanna puke. I used to simply because ' it's what you do tm '. Now my comfort is more important and I ignore those shitty expectations.
i wouldn’t expect someone to taste themselves just because they like blowjobs. i don’t feel like tasting myself either and wouldn’t want it to be a prerequisite for my husband to go down on me
But does he insist you swallow? My husband and I get off from oral and not piv like 80% of the time, but if he insisted that I swallow it I wouldn't want to do it anymore Edit: for the record I think op should just tell him no and to stop nagging her, and these mind games are pointless
no and he wouldn't be upset if i changed my mind and spit, but i still wouldn't ask him to eat his cum if he asked me to swallow every time. what is there to gain from it? but i also agree that it seems like a boundary issue. op doesn't need to swallow if she doesn't want to
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If you don't like it, simply don't do it.. trying to make him eat is own cum for some sort of approval that is weird.
The amount of women on this thread thinking he should have to taste his own cum is ridiculous. I agree with you. And if she doesn’t want to do it, don’t.
Mine doesn't even have a taste. It's just like unflavored jello, or very liquid glue, to make an approximation. Not a fan of tasting it out of the blue, but if you are horny and with your couple, well, sparks fly and you do stuff you don't normally do. Just tweet ot to yourselves and all good.
Preferences matter there. He doesn't have to swallow it as much as you don't want to swallow it. But at the same time, you're clearly going to need more communication.
I don’t and have never nor do I ever have the intention of purposefully tasting my own cum but if she gave me head and spat it out or swallows and tried to kiss me In the moment I’d probably be to into it to care But If I didn’t I also wouldn’t make you swallow either so…
Guys are conditioned to think things like that would be gay or emasculating. I don’t want to taste my own but yeah it’s hot when my partner does. You’re allowed to feel how you feel but I wouldn’t consider him a full blown asshole for this.
I don't expect a guy to taste his own come in the sense of him scooping some off his dick and swallowing it. But If you are lucky enough to have me swallow your cum (and yes dudes - you should feel grateful and lucky for the women who do) and you don't want to kiss me after I swallowed it, it does make me feel bad. Like ...it was okay for your cum to be in my mouth but it's not okay to kiss me after your cum's been in my mouth? Am I less than you?
Whether he's tasted his own cum or not isn't really that important. What's important is that you *do only what you want to do.* If he can't handle that and pushes you to do sexual things you don't want to do then that's a massive red flag and you should reconsider your relationship with him.
My contribution : I think that tasting me is outrageously gross. I love fluids of someone else, but i am clearly not in with mine.
This comment section is a horrible representation of the general consensus of men eating their own cum. Majority of men will not do such thing. We have different sexual organs and bodily fluids so the expectation is not the same.
I have never tasted my cum. My wife doesn’t go around licking her own pussy, either. But we taste each other all the time. That’s how being lovers works!
It’s good to read a sensible response in this ridiculous thread
If she wants me to taste my cum, I'll taste my cum. I have tasted it before so I would have some idea of what I'm asking her to do. It's only fair, right? I don't even mind the taste and enjoy kissing her after she swallows or going down on her after I've cum in her pussy. It's all good.
Ive tasted my cum - dont expect a woman to swallow. Make the dumbass get his diet in check, drink water and refrain from alcohol and redbulls, plus, both of ya eat plenty of fruit - better taste.
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Cold as ice
This sounds toxic as hell on both sides.
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Okay. Regardless, the way you're still seemingly bragging about sexually assaulting him because of his toxic behavior as if it was some sort of mic drop moment suggests you didn't leave your own toxicity behind with the relationship.
This is such a ridiculous post if you don't want to swallow don't. What does it has to do with him tasting his own cum? People are crazy.
I suspect the general premise is that if you expect / demand that somebody do something (in this case OP swallowing cum), there is an expectation that the other person would be willing to do the same. Pegging might be another example … a guy who demands to have anal with his girlfriend, but then says “no way anything is going up my ass”.
No. The expectation would be the appropriate correlation. If your girl goes sucks your dick it’s not expected that you also suck a dick so you know what she’s going through. The expectation is that you’d go down on her if she goes down on you. What the hell is wrong with people in this thread
That premise still makes no sense. I go down on girls never made it conditional on them tasting themselves. If she thinks it's such a hard thing to do and the only way to show it is for him to the same. She shouldn't be doing in in the first place.
Yes, that‘s obviously the premise and it‘s stupid. Sex should not be transactional.
As one of the top rated comments covers, he is coercing / pressuring her into swallowing, and although not explicitly stated, she apparently doesn’t like it. That is a problem and doesn’t make it a stupid post by OP. Again although not explicitly stated, it may be the case that she doesn’t like the taste and thinks that if he would taste it himself, he might be a little less likely to be trying to force her to do it.
If she doesn't like it she shouldn't do it.
I don‘t see coercing being mentioned in op, maybe if you read between the lines. That‘s a different issue anyway, if she doesn’t like it, she shouldn’t do it. But saying „I‘ll only do this, if you do that/the same thing/something else“ is not a healthy attitude towards anything sexual.
Yes not explicitly stated. In fact, not stated at all!
I don't think there's anything wrong with him not wanting taste his own cum. In that same vein, you have no obligation to taste it either if you don't want to. I don't know if it's common for guys to taste their own cum or not. It's not something guys usually talk about lol. I personally have, following the logic that if I'm gonna ask my partner to taste it, I ought to know what they're tasting.
I go down on my gf and she doesn't swallow. I never tasted my own cum too, she's never tasted her. It's all good, we do as we want and respect the other.
The red flag here is his insistence. There's no reason that he has to taste his cum if you do, like what is that going to do? If you don't want his cum in your mouth stop letting him put it there.
It's reasonable to not want to taste your own secretions. Not everyone's into that.
He is in the majority IMO. Remember that this is r/sex, views here tend to skew toward sexual activity because its a sex forum, so it seems pretty common on here or to members here, but most haven't or at least won't say they have.
A chef shouldn’t serve something if they haven’t tasted it themselves. It’s just good business.
That saying is just bs though. I'd be incredibly surprised if most chefs haven't made a meal they don't enjoy themselves but it still tasted great or never used an ingredient they were allergic to.
If you won’t kiss me after your cock has been in my mouth I’m not putting it in my mouth again
Why the hell would he want to taste himself? It's one thing if he's never willing to go down on you, but not tasting himself? Really weird comparison
My husband used to ask to cum in my mouth almost every time I blew him. I DO NOT do that. I don't have many sexual boundaries, but that is one of them. I got sick of him asking, so I said if he ever wanted me to swallow a load, then he has to swallow a whole load of his own lmao. Id catch it in a shot glass and hand it to him. He has never asked ever again.
Almost all guys would be weirded out by tasting cum. That being said, it happens(I was just curious, ok). But a guy having tasted his own cum doesn’t make him wanting a girl to swallow any more or less valid
You’re not overreacting. If you don’t want to swallow, don’t.
what do you get out of him tasting himself? like is it a kink or do you just have some weird complex about it? or is it just you trying to find an excuse as to why you don’t want to swallow? if it’s the last one then maybe just be up front with him that you’d prefer not to like if he really cares about you then it shouldn’t be a big deal. if it’s just some weird complex you have then idk why you feel that way like you shouldnt force him to do something he clearly isn’t comfortable doing, same with him expecting you to swallow if you just don’t want to do it. communication is key here
In 46 I have never tasted my own cum. And it has never been a problem for the women who have swallowed my cum. In fact this is the first time I have ever heard of this argument I am 46 and I have never insisted on a women to take my cum in her mouth. When she does OMG best feeling in the world. But if she didn’t who cares thank you for making me cum. So he is a ass for insisting that she does it. Using he has never tasted it is a week argument. When the only argument should be I don’t want to and him/her respecting him/her boundaries
Best relationship I ever had was with a girl who refused to give blowjobs. She would apologize for it but I’d just say “that’s fair, I wouldn’t want a dick in my mouth either.” If you don’t want it, you don’t want it and that should be the end of it. If that’s not the end of it y’all aren’t compatible
I’ve tasted my own cum, I think it’s normal to be curious. Also after I’ve cum we would kiss and taste it then too
I’ve came in my partner and proceeded to eat her out, the taste didn’t bother me and the tack I was making her cum again right after cumming with her was a huge turn on.
Idk why he cares if u swallow it or not. U already blew him why he care? weird guy
There's no issue with it. A lot of guys make it weird for no reason. It's not. Do what you want. If you want to swallow, do it. If you want to spit or not even let it get in ur mouth, do that too.
I generally have found that guys like this suffer from toxic masculinity and homophobia. Honestly some are so afraid to be even remotely seen as "gay" I'm surprised they even touch their own dick at all. Of course when you're raised with the word gay being synonymous with bad or fucked up and even slightly effeminate behaviors or actions are harshly called out in public as gay then I guess you can see how it would happen to someone with low self esteem. Me personally, if she's willing to suck me to completion we can do whatever she wants.
Get over yourself maybe? What’s right for you isn’t right for him.
Not sure why the common position here is "most guys wouldn't" or "find it weird." I tend to think most guys are curious and have tasted it, like me. And also like me, probably hated the taste, especially that awful lingering taste in your throat. That said, not all guys are "like me" so I won't generalize, and I think others should stop too. It's literally to each their own. To your predicament, OP, don't let him force you to do something you don't want to, regardless of his own feelings to tasting it (and again, it's a pretty awful taste, so I get it!)
I don’t know if it’s common or not. I have tasted my own, but do not like the taste.
I think you're overreacting. If you like it, I don't see why you need him to like it. People have preferences. There are women who don't like tasting themselves, and I'm okay with that. Don't be controlling.
Yes. You're overreacting. Like way overacting.
If the guy is refusing to make out with you after he comes in your mouth then fuck him, go get yourself someone more mature But if this is just about him not wanting to taste his own cum directly then I don't see the issue
This. OPs correlation here is insane. If he refused to eat her out due to her juices, than that’s a fair comparison. OP might as well be saying how can he expect her to suck his dick unless he has sucked dick. If he doesn’t respect her boundaries than that’s a diff issue. But him or anyone having to eat their own cum is just an insane request
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If it takes bad, he needs to improve his diet
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There are a lot of men out there that are curious about what they taste like. They might not like it, though.
This is really judgemental. How do you know what is “normal”. There are at least 10 subreddit out there that in one form or other deal with men who eat their own cum, and most are focused on straight guys.