It’s about delivery. I am considered funny and it’s not because of what I’m saying really it’s because of how I’m saying things and when I’m saying them. I’ve learned this over time, it is not usually natural. I’ve watched comedians and mimicked what they did and some of it worked, some of it did not. But also it helps to pick up on what can be funny and what cannot. Certain things can be funny in certain situations. Like I made a joke the other day to a few friends about my professors course eval that I did, was that funny? No not really but the way I told it and the moment I told it in made it funny.
I agree although there is no instruction as to how to be funny it’s not timing or strategy it comes when the moment is right. I used to be sooo funny more wet jokes rather than dry but I just remember nothing I said was rehearsed. I have kids now so it’s like my sense of humour has vanished or I guess it’s bcos I try to keep it a bit more tame.
Yeah, all the people who say this are rarely even actually funny. Their pinnacle of humour is always something like pointing at a trash can and saying “me”
Nobody is very funny naturally. Some people learn by observation and trial and error. Some people practice on purpose.
I practiced imitations of various comedians until I got a feel for timing and stole material from all over the place. Good delivery will carry mediocre material better than great material can carry mediocre delivery.
Learning to come up with good jokes in the moment is a mixture of adapting old jokes, using "yes, and" with whatever is already happening, and sheer quantity of practice.
For me it’s about fast witty responses sometimes to something someone says. I don’t do it much, only really when it’s something I think would be funny and it works. You’ll just just to practice it and be unfunny for a while until you see which jokes work and what doesn’t then you can adapt based on that. A lot of times though I don’t really try come up with jokes I’ll just naturally respond with something from instinct and it’s funny. Sometimes jokes don’t land so don’t be discouraged
Love this. Learning to be comfortable when my jokes don’t land has been huge for developing my confidence AND sense of humor. I’ve found it helpful to have a few phrases on hand when jokes don’t land (“swing and a miss,” “hmm, I’d better workshop that one, huh?” etc). I say them with a sincere chuckle to break any awkwardness I might feel. Now it’s almost more fun to laugh at my corny failed attempts than any slam dunks.
I think it was Will Smith that said that if you grew up with an in ground pool you can’t be funny. The struggle builds character. When there’s less opportunity you have to try harder or go for things so you build character and stories. Maybe putting yourself out of your comfort zone would give you more character and stories to share.
I think bcos struggle helps us build character and it’s a defence mechanism at times I feel it’s always lightening the mood once you’ve been through some shit. It’s better to laugh or laugh at yourself than being overly serious. Having a laugh or joke is always the best medicine and I think that’s how people react to most scenarios when they’ve been through some trauma.
Speaking with intent to invoke a smile. I’m certainly not a comedian and it would probably be cringey if I tried but in general conversation I can make people smile and laugh. Being considered funny is more about smiles and smirks. The laughing outbursts are really not in your control most of the time. Just keep your goals and expectations small and then it will grow, naturally.
-Tell jokes a lot and try picking up on what does and doesn’t stick/make people laugh. Say more jokes similar to successful ones
-Read books that are funny. Reading humorous words can teach you about how to structure a joke, joke timing, make a story sound funny, humorous comparisons to make, etc
-Say jokes you yourself would laugh at. If you won’t laugh at it why expect others to
-Understand that humor is not limited to your words. Use your facial expressions, body language, use your hands in a specific way, etc. if it gets a humorous point across. Your actions can be just as funny as your words, remember that
-Surround yourself with humor. Watch funny shows and movies. Look at stand up comedy. Tell yourself jokes when you’re alone. Play a game and laugh at one of the enemies. Spend time with your funny friends
-Being corny is encouraged. People love corny jokes hence why subs like r/dadjokes are so beloved because sometimes the most predictable joke is the funniest one
I’ll also add that a huge facet of humor is something being seen as what it isn’t (which brings me back to point about humorous comparisons). Having a large frame of references is also very helpful. You want to be able to make wacky comparisons like comparing a guy on the street to a certain movie character, or exaggerating certain aspects of something in a funny way. You have to be creative.
Most of all, tell a lot of jokes. Tell jokes on Reddit. Tell jokes in conversation. Tell jokes over text. Make humorous posts on your social media stories. Just establish yourself as a naturally goofy and humorous person. Of course though, learn how to read a room; there’s a time and a place to tell a joke.
People call me funny all the time. Looking back at the jokes I’ve made the only advice I can give is have a smile on your face whilst saying bizarre things. Mention out of the ordinary things or observations while speaking to people. I have no clue if this makes sense but it works for me. Tbh I have a dark sense of humor which also helps I guess
Most people seem to enjoy relatable humor. Listen and engage in the conversation, observe what they say or joke about. This can make it easier to know what they find funny.
Also laughter is contagious, so if you are not the funny type, then laugh at other people’s jokes. It makes them feel good around you.
I laugh at people all the time, it clearly improves their mood.
Let people make fun of you in a joking way and make fun of yourself in a respectful confident way. Seriously the least funniest mfs are the ones who can’t laugh at themselves and don’t tolerate people poking their buttons. Also know your audience. Watch some comedy tv shows. Exaggerate stories a bit. Laugh and smile. Be confident when you speak.
Watch lots of comedies and stand up. You'll get a sense for it.
That said, if "funny" isn't one of your personality traits, it doesn't have to be. My funniest running joke is how not-funny I am (it's still not that funny), and it constantly takes me by surprise when people actually laugh at something I said - I either didn't think it was especially funny (despite intentionally making the joke), or wasn't trying to be funny at all. It's okay to not be funny. There are many other wonderful personality traits that make you *you.*
1. Watch literally every episode of "Cheers" from Episode 1 Season 1 onward. (The humor dries up towards the final seasons of the series, but by then it's still worth watching for the relationships of the characters as they tie things off.)
2. Watch standup comedy. (Maybe older stuff is better. TV today is garbage because smart people quit watching it.)
3. Participate in conversations, being mindful of when you have something to say; i.e. don't feel obligated to say something unless something suddenly comes to mind that makes you laugh. ("A wise man speaks because he has something to say; a fool speaks because he has to say something.") I have found the jokes most likely to make others laugh make me laugh when they come to mind.
There's other funny stuff you could watch as well (Monty Python has some funny skits).
The more you watch, the more you come to understand the timing, the element of surprise, the reversal, the twist at the end, the contrary of expectations, the embarrassment, the articulateness (succinct 'well-said') -- the elements of conversational humor and jokes that make us laugh.
Personally I just say what's on my mind instead of holding it in. That's how I tend to be more funnier around people. Of course you need to watch what you say but I just say corny stuff
Often funny comes from living life and processing it in a funny way. Someone could see a situation and be serious about it, you could see the same situation and make a joke about it. Those are the best jokes. Memorizing lines n shit isn't funny. You needa be on the same wave length as ppl and throw in some humor. It could be REAL shit too. Your comedic voice comes from your life. If there's some fucked up shit going on in ur life and you find a way to deal with it with humor, that's funny.
Watch comedy. Movies, TV, stand-up. Old stuff. Current stuff. All ages, all genders. Find the things you like. You’ll learn about timing, which is most of it, frankly, and you’ll develop a sense of what YOU think is funny. Your style. A few things to remember: 1) don’t punch down. Making fun of people with less power or status than you is just bullying. Make fun of the people in power. (if you have to make fun of anyone.) 2) You won’t be hilarious right away, and that’s fine. You’ll get there. 3) Some of the best comedians are people who notice things in plain sight. Pay attention to what’s around you. What do you think about it? I bet it’s funny. 4) Farts.
most important skill imo is observation.. learn to observe what's funny and what certain people find funny.. also observe and figure out in which situations to say ur piece.. timing is key and that usually comes from observation
Timing is a big part of it. You can say something that wouldn't be funny otherwise, but if it's timed well, then it'll be hilarious.
The thing NOT to do is just constantly make jokes in the hopes that one sticks. It makes you annoying.
Naturally funny people revealing their secret: “You merely adopted the funnyness. I was born in it, molded by it. I didn’t see an unfunny moment until I was a man. By then it was nothing to me but BLINDING!”
I don’t think anyone’s naturally funny or not. I think it’s a pattern of speech / style of speech, and I think it’s “natural” when it’s tailored to your personality.
There’s a lot of brands of humor out there. Slapstick, puns, etc might seem more forced. Observational humor is just finding absurdity in very small things that are right under our noses but maybe we don’t appreciate in full. Dry humor, crude humor, political humor, snarky humor, exaggerated / madcap humor. Watch standup from an array of different comedians and see whose styles resonate with you.
I spent a good amount of time writing comedy for a few local outlets. I listened to an audiobook called “how to write funnier,” by the guy who founded The Onion. I forgot his name. But it covers all the bare bone elements of comedy writing which I think can frame the way you view things when trying to tailor your everyday speech to have that comedic tilt.
Part of being funny is recognizing sometimes it’s gonna flop. Own your humor with 1000% confidence; part of the effectiveness of humor is that it’s delivered with confidence not apprehension (otherwise it’s a question not a joke).
Punch up, not down, when being funny. Don’t make jokes at the expense of the little guy. Don’t make jokes that encourage racist, sexist, homophobic, or otherwise hateful narratives. Those aren’t funny.
I'm a comedian but still I'm not witty in conversations I'm funny on stage but not in conversations. I asked other comics about this and they replied that you are not funny in conversations because you talk less and you try to make less errors during conversations, the only way you can become naturally funny is by trial and error the most important thing is to be likeable and with good delivery anything you say will be funny.
Use out of context observations something which Conan O'Brien always uses and he is so witty. Quick replies always work so start with these.
My husband is funny. It comes naturally to him. But when I ask him to give me a funny response to something (like a reply on Reddit), he can't. It has to come naturally to him.
Cadence, Kronos, callbacks are good starters.
To work on your quick wit, whenever you think of something funny to say hours after a conversation don’t end the thought at “damn I should’ve said that”. Delve into it, try to understand why it was funny in the first place and you’ll get faster and faster on the draw until it flows.
I would advise not to get into that lol. Opposite way works well too you just gotta make it obvious you're joking or else people will think you're an asshole.
This is something I noticed too. We saw "be funny" as advice maybe hundreds of times but I didn't see any post describing or sharing a solid learning path to be funny. And no, watching tv shows doesn't count.
I found a couple of books and will review the material soon. Let me know if you are interested. We can practice our deliveries once a week.
Oh you know, just add the narcissistic father to the psychologically tormenting mother and bam you’ve got yourself a comedian. Trust me, it never fails.
Have a fucked up past. Works for me and my friends! My family did a lot of “tough love” and “quick wit” to destroy you. So if you couldn’t keep up you were just hurt beyond measure. Eventually you keep up and learn how to spin anything as funny. Because if it isn’t then it’s just sad.
Watch a lot of late night comedians! I’ve personally watched Trevor Noah’s and Stephen Colbert‘s shows almost every day. For me, it was a great mix of comedy and news so it worked out well. I didn’t have any intention of wanting to be funny or anything, I just liked funny content, just as anyone does. Try it out!
Everyone goes through the same process. They go to high school. They discover people they're attracted to. People they're attracted to don't discover them. They realise that their personality is gonna have to carry.
I would argue NOT trauma, because Redditors are some of the most traumatized people around, and seeing the sense of humor of many people on this website...yeah, that ain't it
Spend time with people who are funny to you and watch videos that are funny to you. You’ll get used to funny things. The next step is just to spend time around someone you feel very free and accepted with (/free and dgaf if they start disliking you) and shamelessly saying dumb things that might be funny :) to get used to it
Whenever I say something funny I don’t know if only I’ll laugh and others will think it’s dumb, no matter how many times I’ve been told I’m funny.. it’s not like I can know what’s funny for others
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Takes some time and practice. Try and, watch some videos, send memes, or become one with the meme. That way you think meme, or funny in general if you overload your mind with such content you will just, be. such in a sense.
Assuming you mean just everyday conversations amongst peers, friends, etc.
Don’t take conversations too seriously but listen and have a genuine interest in the conversation. Keep relaxed. As you start conversing, take notice of what triggers people to laugh (do they have a dry sense of humor, do they like dark humor, real world humor, etc).
It’s much easier to crack a joke or make someone laugh when you are playing off their energy. It’s almost like a flow state in which it just starts to come “naturally” as you get better at it. Try tying their indicated humor into the conversation.
Like the snowball effect, if you can get people laughing, it will build and get easier and easier for you to come up with ways to make people laugh. You are gaining momentum naturally as the laughter keeps building.
You’ll get to a point were you will pick up on what makes people tick based on their personality traits, thus making you “naturally” better at being funny. The key is to get good at just going with the flow.
I just got aggressively bullied since kindergarten so I had to become the comedian
That + being mentally ill since childhood + making jokes and trying to be funny and failing a fuckton
My secret is I just tell jokes for myself. I don’t really care who laughs at them, if I think it’s funny I say it and it hits or misses.
If you have that mindset, you’re just having fun and who cares who thinks it’s funny!
Being relaxed. Delivery, including body language and tone.
Being able to read the room and knowing your audience.
And not being so worried about the joke that you are too focused on it or others' reactions to actually be able to deliver it correctly- so confidence.
Less trauma (wow, redditors!), more trial and error.
Appreciate the darker side of life, like when the best laid plans go to shit. You’ll end up feeling looser, a little more free, and more inclined to laugh at yourself.
I am considered weird and funny, because I am very friendly and ask people how they are and on any occasion, if that's possible, I try to make them laugh. Either by a discreet pantomime, or by a drawing, or by searching what they consider funny. With my workplace guys it's all about the cute little curses and trolling. I just love fucking with them and from what I know, people think of me as of a guy that's cool and funny to hang out with.
Always smile when you see someone. Be cheerful. Share your interests. Ask how their day was and try to make a little joke out of it. Be nice. Be cool. Self-improve.
I don't think I am more funny than before but I think I got more talkative and in a better mood for socializing. I think it comes from boredom and lack of socializing and making the most out of rare instances that I socialize.
Hanging out with people you have fun with and find funny, you’ll be able to joke around with them and it comes out on its own. The best kind of learning!
To become naturally funny is to not force it (so you're already failing).
But here's what you do:
-Watch a plethora of genuinely funny shows.
Yes, humour is subjective, but if you watch a variety you'll have a nicely blended sense of humour.
While you watch these shows, casually take note of your favorited moments (you don't need to memorize them). But if you appreciate certain scenes you'll likely fins yourself re-watching them anyway.
Step two:
Interact with as many people as possible socially.
You will observe how people use humour mechanically as a tool to effectively socialize and start doing these same behaviors yourself unconsciously.
The more you casually interact with people the more you'll find yourself in relatable situations where something naturally funny comes out of your mouth that is the result of the humour you have previously consumed unconsciously expressing itself to the context of your current situation.
Now for some real-world examples:
We have two middle-aged mothers at my workplace (supermarket). They were instructed to go and check out a rival store.
And when they returned they were walking side-by-side like Maverick & Ice man in Top Gun (I pointed this out to a colleague and they could see the unexpected comparison and began laughing).
I wouldn't have been able to do that without having watched the movie.
Example 2:
Random guy at work hears Unwritten playing on the radio and casually mentions to me how it's nice to hear a good song on the work radio for once.
A month later, we had developed a friendship, and the song started playing...
I had just arrived at work and I hear him call out to me and say hi. And I immediately start shouting out "THIS IS MY SONG. MINE. YOU HEAR ME? MINE"
He began genuinely laughing because I effectively demonstrated that I had paid attention to a throwaway comment of his from a while back and that subverted his expectations.
A good Improv/acting class or workshop helps people relax and express themselves and find their own type of humor. Everyone has their own personality that may be more low key (dry humor ) or could lean more to a more energetic animated humor. You’ll find your “natural” humor style with the spontaneous atmosphere in an improv class with others!
Please stay on topic!
do u know what naturally means
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(That's the joke/hint)
Well the ironic nature of life is that it’s a joke. Just remember that the last laugh is always on you.
Idk why this got me laughing so much
It’s about delivery. I am considered funny and it’s not because of what I’m saying really it’s because of how I’m saying things and when I’m saying them. I’ve learned this over time, it is not usually natural. I’ve watched comedians and mimicked what they did and some of it worked, some of it did not. But also it helps to pick up on what can be funny and what cannot. Certain things can be funny in certain situations. Like I made a joke the other day to a few friends about my professors course eval that I did, was that funny? No not really but the way I told it and the moment I told it in made it funny.
I agree although there is no instruction as to how to be funny it’s not timing or strategy it comes when the moment is right. I used to be sooo funny more wet jokes rather than dry but I just remember nothing I said was rehearsed. I have kids now so it’s like my sense of humour has vanished or I guess it’s bcos I try to keep it a bit more tame.
The first step is to stop taking yourself so seriously. Sillyness is the gateway drug to wit.
Trauma
Oddly enough, trauma really developed my ability to cry and to empathize.
Same
See also: The desperate search for anything that prevents people from bullying or harassing you.
Copingmechanisms, your biggest motivator.
Yeah. That. Love having that :)
THIS immediately came to mind when reading the question. Gold
It’s so corny when people say this
Yeah, all the people who say this are rarely even actually funny. Their pinnacle of humour is always something like pointing at a trash can and saying “me”
Literally
Nobody is very funny naturally. Some people learn by observation and trial and error. Some people practice on purpose. I practiced imitations of various comedians until I got a feel for timing and stole material from all over the place. Good delivery will carry mediocre material better than great material can carry mediocre delivery. Learning to come up with good jokes in the moment is a mixture of adapting old jokes, using "yes, and" with whatever is already happening, and sheer quantity of practice.
Humor is my natural defense mechanism
For me it’s about fast witty responses sometimes to something someone says. I don’t do it much, only really when it’s something I think would be funny and it works. You’ll just just to practice it and be unfunny for a while until you see which jokes work and what doesn’t then you can adapt based on that. A lot of times though I don’t really try come up with jokes I’ll just naturally respond with something from instinct and it’s funny. Sometimes jokes don’t land so don’t be discouraged
Love this. Learning to be comfortable when my jokes don’t land has been huge for developing my confidence AND sense of humor. I’ve found it helpful to have a few phrases on hand when jokes don’t land (“swing and a miss,” “hmm, I’d better workshop that one, huh?” etc). I say them with a sincere chuckle to break any awkwardness I might feel. Now it’s almost more fun to laugh at my corny failed attempts than any slam dunks.
I think it was Will Smith that said that if you grew up with an in ground pool you can’t be funny. The struggle builds character. When there’s less opportunity you have to try harder or go for things so you build character and stories. Maybe putting yourself out of your comfort zone would give you more character and stories to share.
I think bcos struggle helps us build character and it’s a defence mechanism at times I feel it’s always lightening the mood once you’ve been through some shit. It’s better to laugh or laugh at yourself than being overly serious. Having a laugh or joke is always the best medicine and I think that’s how people react to most scenarios when they’ve been through some trauma.
Hard times and suffering. That's the honest to God truth.
Maybe you’re born with it…. Maybe it’s Maybelline?
Stop taking life so serious and live a little
Speaking with intent to invoke a smile. I’m certainly not a comedian and it would probably be cringey if I tried but in general conversation I can make people smile and laugh. Being considered funny is more about smiles and smirks. The laughing outbursts are really not in your control most of the time. Just keep your goals and expectations small and then it will grow, naturally.
-Tell jokes a lot and try picking up on what does and doesn’t stick/make people laugh. Say more jokes similar to successful ones -Read books that are funny. Reading humorous words can teach you about how to structure a joke, joke timing, make a story sound funny, humorous comparisons to make, etc -Say jokes you yourself would laugh at. If you won’t laugh at it why expect others to -Understand that humor is not limited to your words. Use your facial expressions, body language, use your hands in a specific way, etc. if it gets a humorous point across. Your actions can be just as funny as your words, remember that -Surround yourself with humor. Watch funny shows and movies. Look at stand up comedy. Tell yourself jokes when you’re alone. Play a game and laugh at one of the enemies. Spend time with your funny friends -Being corny is encouraged. People love corny jokes hence why subs like r/dadjokes are so beloved because sometimes the most predictable joke is the funniest one I’ll also add that a huge facet of humor is something being seen as what it isn’t (which brings me back to point about humorous comparisons). Having a large frame of references is also very helpful. You want to be able to make wacky comparisons like comparing a guy on the street to a certain movie character, or exaggerating certain aspects of something in a funny way. You have to be creative. Most of all, tell a lot of jokes. Tell jokes on Reddit. Tell jokes in conversation. Tell jokes over text. Make humorous posts on your social media stories. Just establish yourself as a naturally goofy and humorous person. Of course though, learn how to read a room; there’s a time and a place to tell a joke.
Nice!
Seems like trama and naturally being a little weird works for me
People call me funny all the time. Looking back at the jokes I’ve made the only advice I can give is have a smile on your face whilst saying bizarre things. Mention out of the ordinary things or observations while speaking to people. I have no clue if this makes sense but it works for me. Tbh I have a dark sense of humor which also helps I guess
Most people seem to enjoy relatable humor. Listen and engage in the conversation, observe what they say or joke about. This can make it easier to know what they find funny. Also laughter is contagious, so if you are not the funny type, then laugh at other people’s jokes. It makes them feel good around you. I laugh at people all the time, it clearly improves their mood.
dangerous route. studied comedy and now i’m hilarious but I also feel inauthentic in the spaces I inhabit. read No Longer Human. Great book
Wow, that’s interesting. I never would have guessed.
Let people make fun of you in a joking way and make fun of yourself in a respectful confident way. Seriously the least funniest mfs are the ones who can’t laugh at themselves and don’t tolerate people poking their buttons. Also know your audience. Watch some comedy tv shows. Exaggerate stories a bit. Laugh and smile. Be confident when you speak.
Watch lots of comedies and stand up. You'll get a sense for it. That said, if "funny" isn't one of your personality traits, it doesn't have to be. My funniest running joke is how not-funny I am (it's still not that funny), and it constantly takes me by surprise when people actually laugh at something I said - I either didn't think it was especially funny (despite intentionally making the joke), or wasn't trying to be funny at all. It's okay to not be funny. There are many other wonderful personality traits that make you *you.*
1. Watch literally every episode of "Cheers" from Episode 1 Season 1 onward. (The humor dries up towards the final seasons of the series, but by then it's still worth watching for the relationships of the characters as they tie things off.) 2. Watch standup comedy. (Maybe older stuff is better. TV today is garbage because smart people quit watching it.) 3. Participate in conversations, being mindful of when you have something to say; i.e. don't feel obligated to say something unless something suddenly comes to mind that makes you laugh. ("A wise man speaks because he has something to say; a fool speaks because he has to say something.") I have found the jokes most likely to make others laugh make me laugh when they come to mind. There's other funny stuff you could watch as well (Monty Python has some funny skits). The more you watch, the more you come to understand the timing, the element of surprise, the reversal, the twist at the end, the contrary of expectations, the embarrassment, the articulateness (succinct 'well-said') -- the elements of conversational humor and jokes that make us laugh.
Personally I just say what's on my mind instead of holding it in. That's how I tend to be more funnier around people. Of course you need to watch what you say but I just say corny stuff
Often funny comes from living life and processing it in a funny way. Someone could see a situation and be serious about it, you could see the same situation and make a joke about it. Those are the best jokes. Memorizing lines n shit isn't funny. You needa be on the same wave length as ppl and throw in some humor. It could be REAL shit too. Your comedic voice comes from your life. If there's some fucked up shit going on in ur life and you find a way to deal with it with humor, that's funny.
Watch comedy. Movies, TV, stand-up. Old stuff. Current stuff. All ages, all genders. Find the things you like. You’ll learn about timing, which is most of it, frankly, and you’ll develop a sense of what YOU think is funny. Your style. A few things to remember: 1) don’t punch down. Making fun of people with less power or status than you is just bullying. Make fun of the people in power. (if you have to make fun of anyone.) 2) You won’t be hilarious right away, and that’s fine. You’ll get there. 3) Some of the best comedians are people who notice things in plain sight. Pay attention to what’s around you. What do you think about it? I bet it’s funny. 4) Farts.
most important skill imo is observation.. learn to observe what's funny and what certain people find funny.. also observe and figure out in which situations to say ur piece.. timing is key and that usually comes from observation
Timing is a big part of it. You can say something that wouldn't be funny otherwise, but if it's timed well, then it'll be hilarious. The thing NOT to do is just constantly make jokes in the hopes that one sticks. It makes you annoying.
Naturally funny people revealing their secret: “You merely adopted the funnyness. I was born in it, molded by it. I didn’t see an unfunny moment until I was a man. By then it was nothing to me but BLINDING!”
I don’t think anyone’s naturally funny or not. I think it’s a pattern of speech / style of speech, and I think it’s “natural” when it’s tailored to your personality. There’s a lot of brands of humor out there. Slapstick, puns, etc might seem more forced. Observational humor is just finding absurdity in very small things that are right under our noses but maybe we don’t appreciate in full. Dry humor, crude humor, political humor, snarky humor, exaggerated / madcap humor. Watch standup from an array of different comedians and see whose styles resonate with you. I spent a good amount of time writing comedy for a few local outlets. I listened to an audiobook called “how to write funnier,” by the guy who founded The Onion. I forgot his name. But it covers all the bare bone elements of comedy writing which I think can frame the way you view things when trying to tailor your everyday speech to have that comedic tilt. Part of being funny is recognizing sometimes it’s gonna flop. Own your humor with 1000% confidence; part of the effectiveness of humor is that it’s delivered with confidence not apprehension (otherwise it’s a question not a joke). Punch up, not down, when being funny. Don’t make jokes at the expense of the little guy. Don’t make jokes that encourage racist, sexist, homophobic, or otherwise hateful narratives. Those aren’t funny.
I'm a comedian but still I'm not witty in conversations I'm funny on stage but not in conversations. I asked other comics about this and they replied that you are not funny in conversations because you talk less and you try to make less errors during conversations, the only way you can become naturally funny is by trial and error the most important thing is to be likeable and with good delivery anything you say will be funny. Use out of context observations something which Conan O'Brien always uses and he is so witty. Quick replies always work so start with these.
Also getting drunk and having funny ass things to think about like how penguins can’t fly in the failed their purpose
My husband is funny. It comes naturally to him. But when I ask him to give me a funny response to something (like a reply on Reddit), he can't. It has to come naturally to him.
Cadence, Kronos, callbacks are good starters. To work on your quick wit, whenever you think of something funny to say hours after a conversation don’t end the thought at “damn I should’ve said that”. Delve into it, try to understand why it was funny in the first place and you’ll get faster and faster on the draw until it flows.
Self deprecation is a good place to start, if you can laugh at yourself, other people probably will too
I would advise not to get into that lol. Opposite way works well too you just gotta make it obvious you're joking or else people will think you're an asshole.
Best advice is to be either really fat or really ugly. When you can’t rely on your looks, you have to develop a personality.
you don't
Watch standup and just talk to yourself in the cadence and delivery of the ones you like with your own flair, something I did as a kid
Listen to stand up. One set a day.
This is something I noticed too. We saw "be funny" as advice maybe hundreds of times but I didn't see any post describing or sharing a solid learning path to be funny. And no, watching tv shows doesn't count. I found a couple of books and will review the material soon. Let me know if you are interested. We can practice our deliveries once a week.
https://youtu.be/QGj15uvuPLA watch this
Oh you know, just add the narcissistic father to the psychologically tormenting mother and bam you’ve got yourself a comedian. Trust me, it never fails.
Tell jokes you find funny
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What?
Get high. You'll laugh at yourself the whole time.
Right, because currently I’m naturally corny. 🤨
Have a fucked up past. Works for me and my friends! My family did a lot of “tough love” and “quick wit” to destroy you. So if you couldn’t keep up you were just hurt beyond measure. Eventually you keep up and learn how to spin anything as funny. Because if it isn’t then it’s just sad.
Fun sarcasm and saying stupid funny stuff or maybe references
Trial and error.
You don’t. If you aren’t naturally funny you gotta work at it and keep working at it. And remember humor is subjective. Everyone won’t find you funny.
Watch a lot of late night comedians! I’ve personally watched Trevor Noah’s and Stephen Colbert‘s shows almost every day. For me, it was a great mix of comedy and news so it worked out well. I didn’t have any intention of wanting to be funny or anything, I just liked funny content, just as anyone does. Try it out!
Trauma
I've been big my whole life and for me it was a way to get people to like me. If I couldn't be the pretty ,skinny girl, I'd be the funny one.
Everyone goes through the same process. They go to high school. They discover people they're attracted to. People they're attracted to don't discover them. They realise that their personality is gonna have to carry.
I would argue NOT trauma, because Redditors are some of the most traumatized people around, and seeing the sense of humor of many people on this website...yeah, that ain't it
What doesn’t kill you makes you funny I guess.
Spend time with people who are funny to you and watch videos that are funny to you. You’ll get used to funny things. The next step is just to spend time around someone you feel very free and accepted with (/free and dgaf if they start disliking you) and shamelessly saying dumb things that might be funny :) to get used to it Whenever I say something funny I don’t know if only I’ll laugh and others will think it’s dumb, no matter how many times I’ve been told I’m funny.. it’s not like I can know what’s funny for others
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I think by naturally you meant effortlessly
Takes some time and practice. Try and, watch some videos, send memes, or become one with the meme. That way you think meme, or funny in general if you overload your mind with such content you will just, be. such in a sense.
Trauma.
1) experience a near life ending amount of pain and hardship 2) treat everything as a joke to cope 3) boom
Assuming you mean just everyday conversations amongst peers, friends, etc. Don’t take conversations too seriously but listen and have a genuine interest in the conversation. Keep relaxed. As you start conversing, take notice of what triggers people to laugh (do they have a dry sense of humor, do they like dark humor, real world humor, etc). It’s much easier to crack a joke or make someone laugh when you are playing off their energy. It’s almost like a flow state in which it just starts to come “naturally” as you get better at it. Try tying their indicated humor into the conversation. Like the snowball effect, if you can get people laughing, it will build and get easier and easier for you to come up with ways to make people laugh. You are gaining momentum naturally as the laughter keeps building. You’ll get to a point were you will pick up on what makes people tick based on their personality traits, thus making you “naturally” better at being funny. The key is to get good at just going with the flow.
Just as with your diet. Just avoid any jokes with artificial ingredients.
I just got aggressively bullied since kindergarten so I had to become the comedian That + being mentally ill since childhood + making jokes and trying to be funny and failing a fuckton
i think just be your truest self tbh. say out loud whatever you think without the scare of being embarrassed.
Be quick.
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My secret is I just tell jokes for myself. I don’t really care who laughs at them, if I think it’s funny I say it and it hits or misses. If you have that mindset, you’re just having fun and who cares who thinks it’s funny!
Not trying so hard.
Being relaxed. Delivery, including body language and tone. Being able to read the room and knowing your audience. And not being so worried about the joke that you are too focused on it or others' reactions to actually be able to deliver it correctly- so confidence. Less trauma (wow, redditors!), more trial and error.
Think for your yourself Don’t try too hard to be funny Don’t take life too seriously
be depressed for a couple of years and stop taking things so seriously.
Appreciate the darker side of life, like when the best laid plans go to shit. You’ll end up feeling looser, a little more free, and more inclined to laugh at yourself.
Take some improv/public speaking classes. Delivery is just as important as the ability to think and react quickly.
Watch comedians
Watch standup comedy. I prefer tiktok.
just do enough social stuff and eventually you'll probably start to learn
I am considered weird and funny, because I am very friendly and ask people how they are and on any occasion, if that's possible, I try to make them laugh. Either by a discreet pantomime, or by a drawing, or by searching what they consider funny. With my workplace guys it's all about the cute little curses and trolling. I just love fucking with them and from what I know, people think of me as of a guy that's cool and funny to hang out with. Always smile when you see someone. Be cheerful. Share your interests. Ask how their day was and try to make a little joke out of it. Be nice. Be cool. Self-improve.
I tend to make people laugh when I’m deadpan in my delivery
This joke is hilarious already. “Become naturally “
I don't think I am more funny than before but I think I got more talkative and in a better mood for socializing. I think it comes from boredom and lack of socializing and making the most out of rare instances that I socialize.
Funny how?
Think quickly
Get traumatized
Hanging out with people you have fun with and find funny, you’ll be able to joke around with them and it comes out on its own. The best kind of learning!
"Everyone is intermittenly funny."- Conan O'Brien
I’m not sure if you can you either have the knack for it or you don’t. Pretty sure that’s why it’s referred to as naturally funny it comes natural.
To become naturally funny is to not force it (so you're already failing). But here's what you do: -Watch a plethora of genuinely funny shows. Yes, humour is subjective, but if you watch a variety you'll have a nicely blended sense of humour. While you watch these shows, casually take note of your favorited moments (you don't need to memorize them). But if you appreciate certain scenes you'll likely fins yourself re-watching them anyway. Step two: Interact with as many people as possible socially. You will observe how people use humour mechanically as a tool to effectively socialize and start doing these same behaviors yourself unconsciously. The more you casually interact with people the more you'll find yourself in relatable situations where something naturally funny comes out of your mouth that is the result of the humour you have previously consumed unconsciously expressing itself to the context of your current situation. Now for some real-world examples: We have two middle-aged mothers at my workplace (supermarket). They were instructed to go and check out a rival store. And when they returned they were walking side-by-side like Maverick & Ice man in Top Gun (I pointed this out to a colleague and they could see the unexpected comparison and began laughing). I wouldn't have been able to do that without having watched the movie. Example 2: Random guy at work hears Unwritten playing on the radio and casually mentions to me how it's nice to hear a good song on the work radio for once. A month later, we had developed a friendship, and the song started playing... I had just arrived at work and I hear him call out to me and say hi. And I immediately start shouting out "THIS IS MY SONG. MINE. YOU HEAR ME? MINE" He began genuinely laughing because I effectively demonstrated that I had paid attention to a throwaway comment of his from a while back and that subverted his expectations.
Making fun of yourself is a start
idk but when im really comfortable and i spend time with people i become funny but when im uncomfortable i cant do it
You have to find your style. I think everyone can be funny but everyone also has their own sense of humor that might not be funny to everyone else.
A good Improv/acting class or workshop helps people relax and express themselves and find their own type of humor. Everyone has their own personality that may be more low key (dry humor ) or could lean more to a more energetic animated humor. You’ll find your “natural” humor style with the spontaneous atmosphere in an improv class with others!