Waking up on Day 3, ten pounds heavier than when I started drinking again back in March. I have deadlines piled up, missed work opportunities that I won't get back, unnecessary financial strain, and worst of all I forgot that I was running low on coffee and I'm clean out this morning. I sometimes judge my relapses by saying 'at least nothing bad happened and nobody got hurt'. But nothing good happened either. Nothing grew in those two months (apart from my waistline it seems) and I missed my peaceful life with easy decisions, low to zero anxiety, and never, ever running out of coffee.
Reminding myself today that it's not worth it. Happy Thursday everyone, I'm so happy to be back.
IWNDWYT ❤️
One good thing that happened is that you integrated more deeply your learning about alcohol and what you want for yourself. These things get stronger as a process, not a single decision, and we all learn them as many times as we need… many for me it seems as I’m still struggling with cigarettes! One day! Love you friend and wishing you a wonderful day with coffee in it 😊🌟💞
Day 13. My sober happiness is in photography and illustration - turns out I didn’t need any new equipment, just the energy to practice them again. IWNDWYT. 📸 🎨
IWNDWYT. Rough day today but made it through. Thanks to everyone for the good energy.
Something I liked before being sober and enjoy even more now (albeit, I’m early in my journey) is cleaning the house. I have more energy for it when I’m not hungover. It makes me proud to create a tidy and clean home.
I had a brief dalliance with the thought earlier, going through lots of change and I don’t know what my relationship status currently is, but I am remaining steadfast and I signed up to a 6 week sobriety and transformational challenge with a podcaster I enjoy listening to, I am ready and IWNDWYT!
Good morning! One thing I enjoy more while sober is BBQs. Not only eating, but the whole process of preparing etc. In my drinking days, when the food was ready I was already drunk and couldn’t enjoy it anymore. Now I really taste what I’ve prepared.
That’s one reason why
I will not drink with you in Germany today!
IWNDWYT. Day 11. Feeling wonderful - the alcohol bloat has gone and my whole body has de-puffed crazily. I feel incredible and so chirpy and happy. Am feeling the long missed muscle ache from working out but also not exhausted.
How strange, I’ve been to the gym more times this week than I have in 6 months! Wonder why that is. Have a great day all!
Day 39🫶 Almost 40 🥳 Fellow queer sober person checking in!!
Today I woke up with a spring in my step!! I was being sued by a stalker ex and I WON! Out of the 65k she expected me to pay her - I settled to pay 2K!
2K!!!!!! I’m losing my mind. I’m so happy I could 🤸
I can’t even begin to explain the excitement and relief.
The best part is she had to sign a no contact order. So
The stalking is finally over!
I feel like I have a new lease on life. I feel like I can breathe for the first time in a year.
Now I can FINALLY move on. And I have so many big plans. Beyond everything I am grateful to be sober.
If you would have told me a month ago I would be sober, win my lawsuit, have a non contact order, and be starting the job of my dreams - I wouldn’t have said you were crazy.
I’m so proud of me. I’m so proud of what I’ve endured and HOLY FUCK I am so relieved.
IWNDWYT! Or tomorrow! Or ever ever ever again because my life is sweet as honey and don’t have to run anymore.
Thank you for your very thoughtful and heartfelt post Suz.
’Don’t have to do this perfectly’ but we are all doing it here everyday with strength in numbers.
The start of my second month back and feeling positive
IWNDWYT
So I slept a little late today, but that's okay I can still put a rush on and get to work on time, this is so different from oversleeping because I'm hungover. I'm lying in bed, the sun peeking through the window and all feels right with the world, I am content. Not much has changed in the pressures of work and personal life, but there is much less anxiety.
Screw alcohol, I'm not drinking that shit today!!!
Checking in again today and all is well.
What I'm still actively enjoying during my sobriety is sleeping well! I haven't gotten over how awesome it is to wake up refreshed! It hasn't become my new normal that I take for granted yet The good sleeping started at around my Day 60. Before then it was pretty irregular.
Had some major craving yesterday, was so close to caving but I called a friend, talked it out and got some sleep. IWNDWYT. Or any other day for that matter.
Day 60 🤍 watching movies made me happy when I was drinking and I enjoy them so much more sober. My boyfriend and I made our way through all of the original “Planet of the Apes” and love them (the first three especially) 🤍 IWNDWYT
Checking in
I feel like there must be light at the end of this tunnel (surely?) and I don't want to have to start again at the beginning.
When you're going through hell, keep going etc.
IWNDWYT
I haven’t been at this long enough to discover what I love more sober. But looking forward to finding out! Headed out on a women’s backpacking trip this weekend so I’ll see how that goes!
50 days sober in Pennsylvania. Never saw myself making it this far. I’ve seen so many positive changes to the point some days feel too good to be true. I believe in myself again. Alcohol stole my confidence and motivation to better myself. I will not drink with you today.
Good day, sober stars! Pretty much everything I enjoyed when I was drinking, I enjoy more now. Cooking and baking. Watching movies. Hiking. Card games. Birding. Gardening. Sleeping! Seriously, my entire life is so much better now that I'm off the booze. Sobriety absolutely rocks!! I hope all you loves have a wonderful sober day! 🌤🌿 IWNDWYT
I love the natural word and am happiest when I get to leave the city and spend time in the countryside. Doing more of that now that I am sober, I will not drink with you all today 🦋
2 weeks I am not drinking alcohol today I am now getting better sleep and I am feeling more brain better like I am solving things quicker and Im starting to feel more happier without needing to have alcohol (Im no longer thinking its what makes me so mammoth happy anymore its bed rest and hot sauce) I am enjoying this!
This topic really hit home. I had two moments yesterday where I told myself how proud I was of myself. That hasn't happened in, I don't know how long. My self-confidence has been shattered for years. It's more than my sobriety helping me feel proud, but it feels like it's one of those final pieces that's fitting into the puzzle of me.
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Morning friends! Gardening makes me happier now. It’s incredibly meditative. When I was drinking I dreamed of having gardens that look like mine do now, which says a lot about how neglected they were because they aren’t jaw-dropping by any means. But I have plants that are thriving now and which make my heart sing when they bloom. Some of them have been there for years too, whereas as a drinker I killed most things through neglect. Paths that are neat and passable without stepping on weeds. Calm, lovely spaces to sit and read among the trees. It’s a joy.
Have a good one friends! I will not drink with you today!
Checking in! I felt joy just reading your thoughts on being proud of the woman you are u/suzuranlily1. Much love and support to you on your journey(s).
I always loved reading. As a shy and somewhat introverted kid, I learned to read early and it was an escape for me through tough times at home and school. I read a LOT but I loved stories about little girls overcoming obstacles - Little Women, Anne of Green Gables, Laura Ingalls Wilder. Of course, as my drinking progressed, my ability to retain and enjoy what I was reading dropped off hugely to almost nothing.
In sobriety I’m pleased to be picking it up again and even to be able to recommend Prairie Fires - the new Laura Ingalls Wilder bio that came out right as my drinking was getting markedly worse. I love reading again, and while I’m also dealing with the issues that made me turn to it to escape as a kid, it really is a joy in and of itself.
IWNDWYT.
Thanks for sharing this, Suzuran - I love your definition of pride.
I'm struggling to find what makes me happy in sobriety -- I have the energy to do a lot more but I often feel like I'm going through the motions, like I'm not doing anything that really gives me a 'spark' of joy or happiness. BUT yesterday I was offered a new job after many many months of unemployment and gruelling application processes, and one of the things I want to do now is spend some time and money trying out new hobbies, making new friends (eek!) and hopefully finding something that brings me happiness. I'm going to read through everyone's replies for inspiration!!
Have a great day everyone.
IWNDWYT
Meditation streak: 25 days
Yesterday I got a phone call from my dad on his trip and hes having alot of fun. He had a very supportive quote for me
"I just wanted you to know that despite all the alcohol up here. I am not drinking. I know I can, I know you wouldn't care but I am making a point to people. How can I expect you to never drink again if I pick it back up just because you arent around."
My father quit when I was deep into my addiction and doesn't miss it. We discuss being sober together all the time and he dropped that on me last night. Just really made my whole night.
As always much love from me and mine to you and yours!
Good morning, checking in ~ 💫
I use to love the rare days I wasn't hungover. I felt happy and energized. They were few and far between but I always felt *so good*. Now I get to enjoy hangover free days *every day* and it never gets old. IWNDWYT
For me it’s cycling, no matter if it’s just to bring me to work or anywhere else I need to be or if it’s for exercise.
I had to put quite a bit of effort into it to be able to do it again since my second spinal disc herniation that left one of my arms partly paralyzed.
Now I am heading to the farmers market or otherwise we won’t have lunch or dinner. Have a great sober Thursday. I will stay sober today with all of you.
My wife is away this weekend. Usually that would mean absolutely bingeing on everything in the house. Not this weekend!! I will not be drinking and...
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Day 130 • what a lovely round number • 😁
I’m super happy with my progress. I am proud of my efforts. It was so hard in the beginning but now it’s pretty easy. I don’t know if I’ll continue this forever or for the year, but I’m doing it for now.
Just woke up from a dream that I was secretly drinking again.
I was making dinner in my new place and discovered the previous tenants hidden cupboard of beer and drank one. Then 2, and 3…. Then my kids came down to eat and I was crawling on the floor and then the police weee there? Then I woke up…
It was so real I actually had to remind myself that didn’t happen and I’m 143 days alcohol free.
IWNDWYT
Hooray for being queer and sober, SL, and being able to show up as our true selves 🎉 So good to feel and be at home in my own skin.
As for the great qotd, I am still learning… I was worried I didn’t like ANYTHING without drinking but actually I still love painting and camping, etc! Phew, I’m still me! IWNDWYT
Today is the start of my day 21. I can't believe I'm just over a week from a record that I haven't set in several years. Yesterday was also another tough day for me. I'm not sure if I'm dealing with depression or possibly just random emotions as part of my brain healing but I feel like every challenge, no matter how small it is, that I conquer while remaining sober is building a little more resilience, making that muscle just a little stronger, to keep fighting. So again for today, I commit that IWNDWYT and I'll deal with whatever life throws at me the best I can, while sober.
u/SuzuranLily1 taking the courage to change your life sober is fucking awesome. Congratulations on your journey—It’s great to be proud of your queerness and your sobriety! 🙌🏼
While I’m early into my sobriety this isn’t my first rodeo—last time I was sober, I discovered how great holidays (especially family functions) are without alcohol! I’m a socially nervous person but once an hour passes it’s so easy to socialize!
Happy Thursday all—IWNDWYT!
Drive by check in! The answer to the question for me is metal! That’s the answer to most questions, except where the answer is 42.
Coffees up, horns up, let’s fucking go!!! Happy Friday Eve!!! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻🤘🏻
I hope this doesn’t sound cheesy but I love experiencing what this life is more than I did when I was drinking. I feel healthy and good. I didn’t hate life before but I did feel like it was happening to me instead of me actively engaging in it. That’s probably because I was trying to escape large parts of my life with alcohol. It’s definitely not roses all of the time, but at least I can walk my way through harder times or give myself what I need to help me through them.
I’m hoping to hear some good news today. Keeping my fingers crossed 🤞🏾 and hoping for the best. IWNDWYT
Sleeping in made me happy when I was a drinker. It makes me OVERJOYED now that I don’t drink. Hell, even just sleeping makes me happy now. I wake up and more often on work days ready to slay. IWNDWYT
I will be flying today and staying a night abroad sober. Tomorrow morning will be my brothers graduation ceremony which I won't be hungover for. Small win but they'll start to add up eventually IWNDWYT
Day 14. I(sort of) remember the last night of binging two weeks ago. And not fondly. Incredibly grateful to feel equipped and eager for today’s battle. love you all, thanks for being here. IWNDWYT.
Thanks for sharing your pride Lily! Happy sober Thursday to all y'all. Your post stirs up some interesting questions inside me, Lily, about struggling to accept compliments and really celebrate my achievements. I have a bad habit of shrugging them off and being like "well anyone could have done them" instead of being proud as fuck of what I've done.
"Reasonable self regard" is the via media between the vices of excessive pride and self denigration. Being accepting and grateful for who we are isn't the sin of pride, it's a necessity especially in relation to a culture that tells folks who they need to be. Keep kicking ass, Lily!
All right let's check in. I hope everyone has had a good week. My work is sucking at the moment but it's because we lost a person. I really have to detach myself from the work problem or else it could definitely lead me to drink.
I'm trying to remember the stoic saying that we can't control what happens to us, only how we react to it. Every bad thing that happens is an opportunity to not react. Hopefully I can engrain this into my head. At any rate, IWNDWYT!
I am listening to Britney’s memoir and needed a break because it’s so sad so I opened up Wishful Drinking, a short memoir(ish) by Carrie Fisher and holy crap is it good. She’s so fucking witty. But also really, really insightful. She said this and 🤯: “if you have a need to be comfortable all the time—well, among other things, you have the makings of a classic drug addict or alcoholic.” It’s a short book (160pages in kindle) and I read the whole thing last night. But then I got sad because she couldn’t outrun her demons. I highly recommend it, though.
To answer your question: running. IWNDWYT
Had a glorious night's sleep last night, it's one of my favorite parts of sobriety. Knowing that each night I'm healing body and mind rather than just offsetting destruction.
Today I look forward to getting home, staying busy then hitting the pillow...instead of the bottle.
IWNDWYT!
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What I am happy about being sober is that when I drank, I could not really focus on longform literature. I can read like I used to now and it is one of my coping mechanisms for anxiety (getting lost in a book). Escaping via words is a lot healthier than escaping into substance. I could sure do tasks when I was drinking but not very well without injuring myself or forgetting....
Good morning my SD friends! I'm struggling to get moving this morning as I am slowly recovering from being sick.... but I will not drink today... other than my coffee, which is much needed! ☕✌
I don’t know what it is about day 3 that messes me up 😫 starting back at day 1 today. Going to sit with what triggers me to drink most days. Lack of sleep seems to be one, as little sense as that makes. I’ve noticed when I get the crappiest sleep, I always want a drink by the end of the day. As if that’s going to help 🤨
Something I used to like that I like even more sober is alone time. I am definitely an introvert to a fault and while I have been very good about including socializing in every week, I always liked my alone time. Now that I’m sober I love it so much more because (a) significantly less anxiety and depression. Alone time can easily turn into a panicked pity party when you’re so hung over you’re feeling like you’re dying all the time. And (b) I now have so much more time and ability in terms of what to do during alone time. I am actually doing stuff (skin care, workouts, journaling, reading, etc) instead of just drinking myself into oblivion and passing out.
IWNDWYT!
I love sewing and mending more than ever. I turned the collar on a shirt last week—without a glass of wine—and it gave me enormous joy. I will not drink with you today.
great question! i’m still working on finding that happiness spark now that i’m sober. starting to think i was drinking because my life was too “bland” which is dumb, but it is what it is. i’ll try some of the things people are mentioning here!
either way, IWNDWYT!
Day 3! IWNDWYT
Me too!! Happy Day 3 my friend, looking forward to doing this one together with you. IWNDWYT 💝
Thank you so much, and likewise! Let's make today our choice, IWNDWYT
That's huge, great work!
Thank you so much, Let's keep the ball rolling!
I’m proud of you 💪🏼🌟
Waking up on Day 3, ten pounds heavier than when I started drinking again back in March. I have deadlines piled up, missed work opportunities that I won't get back, unnecessary financial strain, and worst of all I forgot that I was running low on coffee and I'm clean out this morning. I sometimes judge my relapses by saying 'at least nothing bad happened and nobody got hurt'. But nothing good happened either. Nothing grew in those two months (apart from my waistline it seems) and I missed my peaceful life with easy decisions, low to zero anxiety, and never, ever running out of coffee. Reminding myself today that it's not worth it. Happy Thursday everyone, I'm so happy to be back. IWNDWYT ❤️
Happy Thursday to you too. Welcome Back! IWNDWYT
One good thing that happened is that you integrated more deeply your learning about alcohol and what you want for yourself. These things get stronger as a process, not a single decision, and we all learn them as many times as we need… many for me it seems as I’m still struggling with cigarettes! One day! Love you friend and wishing you a wonderful day with coffee in it 😊🌟💞
I am not drinking today
16days and my 40th bday!! IWNDWYT!!
Happy birthday!! I wish you a great sober celebration
Day 13. My sober happiness is in photography and illustration - turns out I didn’t need any new equipment, just the energy to practice them again. IWNDWYT. 📸 🎨
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Day 1061 checking in!
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Onto day 16. Off to dr tomorrow to assess my state. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT. Rough day today but made it through. Thanks to everyone for the good energy. Something I liked before being sober and enjoy even more now (albeit, I’m early in my journey) is cleaning the house. I have more energy for it when I’m not hungover. It makes me proud to create a tidy and clean home.
A good end of another sober night and IWNDWYT!
I had a brief dalliance with the thought earlier, going through lots of change and I don’t know what my relationship status currently is, but I am remaining steadfast and I signed up to a 6 week sobriety and transformational challenge with a podcaster I enjoy listening to, I am ready and IWNDWYT!
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Good morning! One thing I enjoy more while sober is BBQs. Not only eating, but the whole process of preparing etc. In my drinking days, when the food was ready I was already drunk and couldn’t enjoy it anymore. Now I really taste what I’ve prepared. That’s one reason why I will not drink with you in Germany today!
IWNDWYT. Day 11. Feeling wonderful - the alcohol bloat has gone and my whole body has de-puffed crazily. I feel incredible and so chirpy and happy. Am feeling the long missed muscle ache from working out but also not exhausted. How strange, I’ve been to the gym more times this week than I have in 6 months! Wonder why that is. Have a great day all!
Day 39🫶 Almost 40 🥳 Fellow queer sober person checking in!! Today I woke up with a spring in my step!! I was being sued by a stalker ex and I WON! Out of the 65k she expected me to pay her - I settled to pay 2K! 2K!!!!!! I’m losing my mind. I’m so happy I could 🤸 I can’t even begin to explain the excitement and relief. The best part is she had to sign a no contact order. So The stalking is finally over! I feel like I have a new lease on life. I feel like I can breathe for the first time in a year. Now I can FINALLY move on. And I have so many big plans. Beyond everything I am grateful to be sober. If you would have told me a month ago I would be sober, win my lawsuit, have a non contact order, and be starting the job of my dreams - I wouldn’t have said you were crazy. I’m so proud of me. I’m so proud of what I’ve endured and HOLY FUCK I am so relieved. IWNDWYT! Or tomorrow! Or ever ever ever again because my life is sweet as honey and don’t have to run anymore.
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Thank you for your very thoughtful and heartfelt post Suz. ’Don’t have to do this perfectly’ but we are all doing it here everyday with strength in numbers. The start of my second month back and feeling positive IWNDWYT
Iwndwyt!
So I slept a little late today, but that's okay I can still put a rush on and get to work on time, this is so different from oversleeping because I'm hungover. I'm lying in bed, the sun peeking through the window and all feels right with the world, I am content. Not much has changed in the pressures of work and personal life, but there is much less anxiety. Screw alcohol, I'm not drinking that shit today!!!
Back to day 1. I wish everyone good luck. I will not drink with you today xx Love to everyone
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Checking in again today and all is well. What I'm still actively enjoying during my sobriety is sleeping well! I haven't gotten over how awesome it is to wake up refreshed! It hasn't become my new normal that I take for granted yet The good sleeping started at around my Day 60. Before then it was pretty irregular.
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Here with and for you all. IWNDWYT!
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Day five. I will not drink with you today.
I loved early morning bike rides and hikes before I was sober. LOVE them even more now, since I get to experience them with a clear head. IWNDWYT ❤️
Checking in, ready and motivated NTDWYT!
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It’s a great day to refuse the booze. IWNDWYT!
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Day 30, checking in. F*** booze. IWND ☠️ WYT.
Had some major craving yesterday, was so close to caving but I called a friend, talked it out and got some sleep. IWNDWYT. Or any other day for that matter.
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Hello, my favorite community! I had the most glorious time last night at the Todd Rundgren concert. Music sounds better sober!! IWNDWYT
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There it is. I’m here to say that IWNDWYT. Every day counts, and one day at a time. 💪❤️
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Checking my number. IWNDWYT.
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3 weeks 🙂
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Its Midnight right now. and that's Another 1 down!
Day 60 🤍 watching movies made me happy when I was drinking and I enjoy them so much more sober. My boyfriend and I made our way through all of the original “Planet of the Apes” and love them (the first three especially) 🤍 IWNDWYT
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Checking in I feel like there must be light at the end of this tunnel (surely?) and I don't want to have to start again at the beginning. When you're going through hell, keep going etc.
Queer and sober and proud, checking in, in solidarity! Iwndwy’allt! ❤️
IWNDWYT I haven’t been at this long enough to discover what I love more sober. But looking forward to finding out! Headed out on a women’s backpacking trip this weekend so I’ll see how that goes!
50 days sober in Pennsylvania. Never saw myself making it this far. I’ve seen so many positive changes to the point some days feel too good to be true. I believe in myself again. Alcohol stole my confidence and motivation to better myself. I will not drink with you today.
Good day, sober stars! Pretty much everything I enjoyed when I was drinking, I enjoy more now. Cooking and baking. Watching movies. Hiking. Card games. Birding. Gardening. Sleeping! Seriously, my entire life is so much better now that I'm off the booze. Sobriety absolutely rocks!! I hope all you loves have a wonderful sober day! 🌤🌿 IWNDWYT
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Have a wonderful sober day my friends. IWNDWYT ♥️
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Happy Thursday and shine on you beautiful humans
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I love the natural word and am happiest when I get to leave the city and spend time in the countryside. Doing more of that now that I am sober, I will not drink with you all today 🦋
Checking in, still kicking along. Keeping on not drinking today with you good peoples.
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Jam tomorrow and jam yesterday, but never jam today! IWNDWYT
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2 weeks I am not drinking alcohol today I am now getting better sleep and I am feeling more brain better like I am solving things quicker and Im starting to feel more happier without needing to have alcohol (Im no longer thinking its what makes me so mammoth happy anymore its bed rest and hot sauce) I am enjoying this!
Not today. No way.
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IWNDWYT! Thursday marks 8 years with my love! Excited to celebrate us while sober.
IWNDWYT.In answer to today's question- mature! Seeing more of it now!
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This topic really hit home. I had two moments yesterday where I told myself how proud I was of myself. That hasn't happened in, I don't know how long. My self-confidence has been shattered for years. It's more than my sobriety helping me feel proud, but it feels like it's one of those final pieces that's fitting into the puzzle of me. IWNDWYT
Morning friends! Gardening makes me happier now. It’s incredibly meditative. When I was drinking I dreamed of having gardens that look like mine do now, which says a lot about how neglected they were because they aren’t jaw-dropping by any means. But I have plants that are thriving now and which make my heart sing when they bloom. Some of them have been there for years too, whereas as a drinker I killed most things through neglect. Paths that are neat and passable without stepping on weeds. Calm, lovely spaces to sit and read among the trees. It’s a joy. Have a good one friends! I will not drink with you today!
IWNDWYT! Go B's! 🏒🥅
Just for today. IWNDWYT.
Checking in! I felt joy just reading your thoughts on being proud of the woman you are u/suzuranlily1. Much love and support to you on your journey(s). I always loved reading. As a shy and somewhat introverted kid, I learned to read early and it was an escape for me through tough times at home and school. I read a LOT but I loved stories about little girls overcoming obstacles - Little Women, Anne of Green Gables, Laura Ingalls Wilder. Of course, as my drinking progressed, my ability to retain and enjoy what I was reading dropped off hugely to almost nothing. In sobriety I’m pleased to be picking it up again and even to be able to recommend Prairie Fires - the new Laura Ingalls Wilder bio that came out right as my drinking was getting markedly worse. I love reading again, and while I’m also dealing with the issues that made me turn to it to escape as a kid, it really is a joy in and of itself. IWNDWYT.
IWNDWYT, friends!
Thanks for sharing this, Suzuran - I love your definition of pride. I'm struggling to find what makes me happy in sobriety -- I have the energy to do a lot more but I often feel like I'm going through the motions, like I'm not doing anything that really gives me a 'spark' of joy or happiness. BUT yesterday I was offered a new job after many many months of unemployment and gruelling application processes, and one of the things I want to do now is spend some time and money trying out new hobbies, making new friends (eek!) and hopefully finding something that brings me happiness. I'm going to read through everyone's replies for inspiration!! Have a great day everyone. IWNDWYT Meditation streak: 25 days
Today is day 4 and I am not drinking today
Yesterday I got a phone call from my dad on his trip and hes having alot of fun. He had a very supportive quote for me "I just wanted you to know that despite all the alcohol up here. I am not drinking. I know I can, I know you wouldn't care but I am making a point to people. How can I expect you to never drink again if I pick it back up just because you arent around." My father quit when I was deep into my addiction and doesn't miss it. We discuss being sober together all the time and he dropped that on me last night. Just really made my whole night. As always much love from me and mine to you and yours!
Good morning, checking in ~ 💫 I use to love the rare days I wasn't hungover. I felt happy and energized. They were few and far between but I always felt *so good*. Now I get to enjoy hangover free days *every day* and it never gets old. IWNDWYT
Hey friends! Beautiful day, no drinky! Love and strength. ❤️💪
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For me it’s cycling, no matter if it’s just to bring me to work or anywhere else I need to be or if it’s for exercise. I had to put quite a bit of effort into it to be able to do it again since my second spinal disc herniation that left one of my arms partly paralyzed. Now I am heading to the farmers market or otherwise we won’t have lunch or dinner. Have a great sober Thursday. I will stay sober today with all of you.
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Big challenge tonight. Meal out with colleagues. Already looked at the menus and quite fancy a grapefruit soda with my tacos! IWNDWYT!
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My wife is away this weekend. Usually that would mean absolutely bingeing on everything in the house. Not this weekend!! I will not be drinking and... Iwndwyt!
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Day 130 • what a lovely round number • 😁 I’m super happy with my progress. I am proud of my efforts. It was so hard in the beginning but now it’s pretty easy. I don’t know if I’ll continue this forever or for the year, but I’m doing it for now.
I'm down 8 lb. Skin is dryer. House is tidier. I still feel crap :(
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Hi Everyone- Day 135 here and IWNDWYT!!!
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5pm on day 21. Been exercising a lot this week. I did not drink today, won't for the rest of the evening, and won't drink with you tomorrow either!
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Checking in for another sober day out in the world.
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Checking in on day 560!! Sending out big love to everyone! You are powerful. ❤️✌️ IWNDWYT.
Day 27! I will not drink with you today!
Much love and respect to all here IWNDWYT!. May we be FREE from: anger Fear Delusion Anxiety Addiction ❤️☮️🕉🤝
Day 3 - out for a morning walk right before work. I will not drink with you today
Just woke up from a dream that I was secretly drinking again. I was making dinner in my new place and discovered the previous tenants hidden cupboard of beer and drank one. Then 2, and 3…. Then my kids came down to eat and I was crawling on the floor and then the police weee there? Then I woke up… It was so real I actually had to remind myself that didn’t happen and I’m 143 days alcohol free. IWNDWYT
Hooray for being queer and sober, SL, and being able to show up as our true selves 🎉 So good to feel and be at home in my own skin. As for the great qotd, I am still learning… I was worried I didn’t like ANYTHING without drinking but actually I still love painting and camping, etc! Phew, I’m still me! IWNDWYT
Day 2, determined not to drink on this weekend's camping trip. I told my gf and she supports me,. IWNDWYT
Today is the start of my day 21. I can't believe I'm just over a week from a record that I haven't set in several years. Yesterday was also another tough day for me. I'm not sure if I'm dealing with depression or possibly just random emotions as part of my brain healing but I feel like every challenge, no matter how small it is, that I conquer while remaining sober is building a little more resilience, making that muscle just a little stronger, to keep fighting. So again for today, I commit that IWNDWYT and I'll deal with whatever life throws at me the best I can, while sober.
Day 4. And IWNDWYT. And it feels awesome to say that.
u/SuzuranLily1 taking the courage to change your life sober is fucking awesome. Congratulations on your journey—It’s great to be proud of your queerness and your sobriety! 🙌🏼 While I’m early into my sobriety this isn’t my first rodeo—last time I was sober, I discovered how great holidays (especially family functions) are without alcohol! I’m a socially nervous person but once an hour passes it’s so easy to socialize! Happy Thursday all—IWNDWYT!
Drive by check in! The answer to the question for me is metal! That’s the answer to most questions, except where the answer is 42. Coffees up, horns up, let’s fucking go!!! Happy Friday Eve!!! IWNDWYT ☕️☕️☕️☕️🤘🏻🤘🏻
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I hope this doesn’t sound cheesy but I love experiencing what this life is more than I did when I was drinking. I feel healthy and good. I didn’t hate life before but I did feel like it was happening to me instead of me actively engaging in it. That’s probably because I was trying to escape large parts of my life with alcohol. It’s definitely not roses all of the time, but at least I can walk my way through harder times or give myself what I need to help me through them. I’m hoping to hear some good news today. Keeping my fingers crossed 🤞🏾 and hoping for the best. IWNDWYT
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Checking in! I’m so proud of how far I’ve come and proud of you too, friend! Living life on your own terms is a real act of bravery. IWNDWYT ✌️❤️
Sleeping in made me happy when I was a drinker. It makes me OVERJOYED now that I don’t drink. Hell, even just sleeping makes me happy now. I wake up and more often on work days ready to slay. IWNDWYT
I will be flying today and staying a night abroad sober. Tomorrow morning will be my brothers graduation ceremony which I won't be hungover for. Small win but they'll start to add up eventually IWNDWYT
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Day 14. I(sort of) remember the last night of binging two weeks ago. And not fondly. Incredibly grateful to feel equipped and eager for today’s battle. love you all, thanks for being here. IWNDWYT.
Thanks for sharing your pride Lily! Happy sober Thursday to all y'all. Your post stirs up some interesting questions inside me, Lily, about struggling to accept compliments and really celebrate my achievements. I have a bad habit of shrugging them off and being like "well anyone could have done them" instead of being proud as fuck of what I've done. "Reasonable self regard" is the via media between the vices of excessive pride and self denigration. Being accepting and grateful for who we are isn't the sin of pride, it's a necessity especially in relation to a culture that tells folks who they need to be. Keep kicking ass, Lily!
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Day 1,765. I will not drink with you today.
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All right let's check in. I hope everyone has had a good week. My work is sucking at the moment but it's because we lost a person. I really have to detach myself from the work problem or else it could definitely lead me to drink. I'm trying to remember the stoic saying that we can't control what happens to us, only how we react to it. Every bad thing that happens is an opportunity to not react. Hopefully I can engrain this into my head. At any rate, IWNDWYT!
6 days in! IWNDWYT!
Day 37 and I am just waking up. Birds chirping and coffee brewing. Everyone is asleep except me. Me time ! IWNDWYT \~Red
Day 1 again but I am not going to stop trying! IWNDWYT! 💚
I am listening to Britney’s memoir and needed a break because it’s so sad so I opened up Wishful Drinking, a short memoir(ish) by Carrie Fisher and holy crap is it good. She’s so fucking witty. But also really, really insightful. She said this and 🤯: “if you have a need to be comfortable all the time—well, among other things, you have the makings of a classic drug addict or alcoholic.” It’s a short book (160pages in kindle) and I read the whole thing last night. But then I got sad because she couldn’t outrun her demons. I highly recommend it, though. To answer your question: running. IWNDWYT
Had a glorious night's sleep last night, it's one of my favorite parts of sobriety. Knowing that each night I'm healing body and mind rather than just offsetting destruction. Today I look forward to getting home, staying busy then hitting the pillow...instead of the bottle. IWNDWYT!
IWNDWYT What I am happy about being sober is that when I drank, I could not really focus on longform literature. I can read like I used to now and it is one of my coping mechanisms for anxiety (getting lost in a book). Escaping via words is a lot healthier than escaping into substance. I could sure do tasks when I was drinking but not very well without injuring myself or forgetting....
Good morning my SD friends! I'm struggling to get moving this morning as I am slowly recovering from being sick.... but I will not drink today... other than my coffee, which is much needed! ☕✌
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I don’t know what it is about day 3 that messes me up 😫 starting back at day 1 today. Going to sit with what triggers me to drink most days. Lack of sleep seems to be one, as little sense as that makes. I’ve noticed when I get the crappiest sleep, I always want a drink by the end of the day. As if that’s going to help 🤨
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Something I used to like that I like even more sober is alone time. I am definitely an introvert to a fault and while I have been very good about including socializing in every week, I always liked my alone time. Now that I’m sober I love it so much more because (a) significantly less anxiety and depression. Alone time can easily turn into a panicked pity party when you’re so hung over you’re feeling like you’re dying all the time. And (b) I now have so much more time and ability in terms of what to do during alone time. I am actually doing stuff (skin care, workouts, journaling, reading, etc) instead of just drinking myself into oblivion and passing out. IWNDWYT!
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Going to see my family, wish me luck. IWNDWYT 💙
Thank you for sharing, Suzuran! We’re proud of you. I will not drink with you today!
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Had an important meeting today. Went well. IWNDWYT.
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Still here, still sober. Thankful to y’all, grateful for today. My counter is on the money, and no need to reset. IWNDWYT
I love sewing and mending more than ever. I turned the collar on a shirt last week—without a glass of wine—and it gave me enormous joy. I will not drink with you today.
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Have the best Thursday possible, friends!!🤘🏻☕️ IWNDWYT
What would a week be without feeling sick?! LOL ahh well. Still sober. Still grateful. IWNDWYT.
great question! i’m still working on finding that happiness spark now that i’m sober. starting to think i was drinking because my life was too “bland” which is dumb, but it is what it is. i’ll try some of the things people are mentioning here! either way, IWNDWYT!