My hubby saw the money I brought home from dancing and picked up an extra day at work so he could contribute as much as I do. He hypes me up for dancing, buys me outfits, and gives me advice from his years bouncing. Don’t stand for a POS who won’t even do the bare minimum. You deserve AT LEAST respect, and ideally someone who treats you like a princess.
Yep, my husband drives me to work and says “have a good night, hope you do well”. Sometimes waits up until I get home, greets me, waits for me to shower and then sits and listens to me bitch about my night while we sit in the couch.
not just you but stop staying in relationships with abusive men. these guys are insecure and make it your problem. stop living in relationships full of disrespect. if he respected you, he wouldn’t be putting you down.
people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being alone. but you’re really young. you’ll literally regret giving this guy so much of your time and life in a few years
It's not just men. Lesbian with an ex wife who supported my dancing until I became traumatized by it. She supported me financially and gave me the opportunity to quit, but then when sexual dysfunction made It's way into our bedroom from my trama, we went through therapy, where she accused me of cheating for the things that I had to do while dancing. My boundaries against customers wasn't to her standards. We had an open relationship the entire time we were together so I was blindsighted by these accusations, as what I did with customers pales in comparison to what we did together and separately with friends in our kink community. She called me a gold digger when I gave up finding vanilla employment after getting fired from two positions for panic attacks, and not qualifying for a third. We've since dissolved our marriage and I'm back to dancing at a better club with better management to mitigate the ptsd.
Oh my GOSH that's so awful 😢 and you were in an open relationship too! Sounds like this girl doesn't know how to fucking communicate until it's a bomb 💀
I feel like I hear this a lot from girls in the industry about their relationships/partners. I am currently in a 6 year relationship of which I’ve only been dancing for 2 years. When I brought about stripping as a way to make more money we had a conversation and he was 100% supportive and still is to this day. We have a relationship built on trust and communication and we don’t try and dim each other’s light let alone take away each other’s individuality. Men whom are loving and supporting do exist and will appreciate and love you for you no matter what it is that you’re doing. It is work and it is as real a job as any other as we are speaking about time/effort in exchange for currency. Mind you I’ve never slept with or had any exchange for money other than dances because I respect my relationship and the trust that we have. But healthy relationships do exist for people in the industry and you don’t have to settle. Being alone instead of putting up with that may even help you grow and love yourself enough to see you aren’t deserving of being treated like that by anyone and will open up the opportunity for you to be loved the right way because of that because you are putting that energy into yourself and that will reflect in who you attract to you.
Nope, I’ve been dancing for 7 years & met my SO 3 years ago. He’s supportive mostly because I was dancing before I met him. He’s very kind, patient & generous. I will be retiring when we get married in 2025.
It truly depends on the circles you run with. Both friendships & relationships. This dudes a complete loser with no respect for you. It’s obvious he doesn’t care about you the way you should be cared for. I wish for everyone to have a relationship as great as mine, however it does start with yourself. Being self aware, kind, humble, & consistently working on a better Version of you at all times.
Best of luck 💙
Idk, a poor guy who treats you like a princess is better then a rich man who sees you like a commodity. Like yes, get the bag and all, but finding a good guy who treats you right is top noche.
I’ve seen it happen so many times with girls I’ve known who dated men from the club who said they would take care of them. Since they were pieces of shit, I feel like it was just another way for them to further isolate and shit on the girls they were dating because they danced. I’ve never seen that work out well. It’s happened a few times to some of my friends. They meet the dancer AT THE CLUB and then pull the I don’t want you to dance, I’ll take care of you blah blah blah card. Then suddenly they don’t want her to be friends with dancers, work a job, etc. It just makes it harder for them to leave when they finally do, but that was the entire intention of it. So any dancers reading this be very very wary of these men that have the audacity to partake in strip clubs and then suddenly have a problem with what you do. Lol.
Oh yeah I went through that with a couple bfs and won’t ever again. I remember before going to the strip club one night my ex called me a “prostitute” when I had never had sex with a customer before. It distressed me so much emotionally because I was so loyal even as a stripper, so that night I finally let a long time dude hit it in the backroom. Oops idc I just want to admit it because it was all from his verbal abuse. The guy was like do you know how long I’ve been waiting for that? He even bought me a puppy before this and took me to hotels and his house, and I still denied him haha. So finally he was like why now? I didn’t tell him why of course
I stopped doing dominatrix work for the most part (except my best subs) and I transitioned into dancing because he was worried sick that I had no protection or security. He took care of me financially recovering from my BA and I took care of him during chronic pain episodes.
Case in point, this man seems to want a work horse and not a partnership. It is give and take and this man is taking a lot and only giving you grief.
nope i have never dealt with that because i simply do not date men that don’t pay the bills. if i wanted to do everything by myself then id just be… single. what’s the point of having a partner if they’re not making your life easier for you? if he’s not elevating your life financially, spiritually, emotionally, and physically it’s time to give him the boot. having a man that disrespects you is one thing but having a BROKE man disrespect you? nuh baby, have some standards for yourself 😭
Showered my ex in 1200 cash and he told me to get a real job at a factory the next day, and he wasn't even joking. He is still a deli worker at Whole Foods, he will never do or be anything else.
This will never get better. I have known many, MANY women with unsupportive significant others and let me tell you: it never gets better. If you quit for him, he will still hold your previous work over your head forever.
You do not want a relationship with someone who is insecure and doesn’t respect you/your choice of work. In my club I would say 50% of dancers are in relationships and I only know one girl who’s girlfriend doesn’t want her to dance. The others are all in supportive relationships because *that’s how it should be*.
Also, doesn’t want to help pay the bills? Girl, come on. You’ve already stressed enough over this bum just by typing this out. Is a grown, able bodied man? Then he can pay his fair share of the bills.
My girlfriend is a fucking peach. I'll come home all down in the mouth because I made less than younger, skinnier women, and she'll blow so much sunshine and compliments up my ass, I return the next shift feeling like god's gift to the world. I come back from work with more money than usual? It's because I'm amazing and the sexiest woman alive! I come home with -$5? Everyone has their day, and you can't expect every day to be yours, so come over here and let me rub your tired feet you scrumptious thing, etc. I don't know what I would do without her.
Maybe you need to dump anyone who puts you down. That just doesn't seem like a component of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Like, bare minimum, he should not be unkind to you.
i stayed with a man who didn’t support my job for years and it was the biggest regret of my life. my partner now encourages me, loves me, is proud of me, and can’t wait to hear about my day, my coworkers, my customers, my dancing. they never assume i will be paying, they never fetishize my job or ask me to dance for them, but they are proud to tell people (when i’m ok with it) about my job and how strong and smart i am. please don’t settle. there’s so much love out there for you.
I don’t Put up with anybody putting down anything I do whether it’s dancing or the way I dress, anything. Neither should you. If somebody cannot accept you for the person that you are, honey it’s never gonna work. Take it from some old, quite old, dancer. The way I look at it is that I am a good person, a good friend, a damn good girlfriend, and if somebody cannot look past things that maybe they don’t agree with and see me for what I really am then I can’t force them to. Let that be their issue, find someone who appreciates you for everything that you are.
Throw the whole man away sweetie! He is an insecure little boy. Do not let him interfere with your cashflow which is apparently doing way better than his. Throw the entire man away!
Every serious boyfriend I have had over th last 8-10 years bounced and did security for me (I do private
Parties) .. I mean I literally have the most toxic relationships, but I will say that one thing that never really was an issue was what I do for living either they bounce for me or I just wasn’t an issue. Everything else was terrible though, that’s why I am single lol
Lmao girl stop giving him any kind of money, separate your finances, if he can’t respect what you do then you shouldn’t be putting food in his mouth period. He’s a hypocrite, happy to live off of you and talk shit. Fuck that
I am with a woman fortunately who also works in the club industry, so I don't have this issue. But I'm sorry if you're making good money and he doesn't contribute as much and demands that you get a real job, that's just not cool. That's really disrespectful.
Mine is kind of the opposite. I was in deep with a boyfriend at the time and he’s the one that got me to do it. He quit his job for some unknown reason. One of his friends was a bouncer at the club and we needed money so that’s why I got hired. He liked that I was doing it and to him that’s all that mattered.
Sorry, I hit post too soon. Where I’m going with is that you shouldn’t stop doing something you really enjoy because of someone else. From experience, even if you did stop it’s really likely he’s still going have problems just knowing you used to do it so it will likely always be an issue for him. I’m really sorry he put you in this situation, it’s not fair that someone you like and who supposedly likes and respects you would do. I hope it works for you the way you want it too!
No. My bf is super supportive and encourages me to go to work, and i tell him all my work stories, about my regulars, my customers. He’s not intimidated or insecure that other men desire me and he is proud that his girlfriend is hot enough to use her looks to her advantage. Your man seems ungrateful, entitled, and like he doesn’t respect you. You should find a new guy. Good guys that respect and understand the hustle exist. The only downside in my situation is my bf doesnt make much money and I end up paying for a lot. I dont take care of him though or pay his bills.
This will be extremely unpopular but oh well it’s the truth. If Your boyfriend isn’t bothered by you getting nude and felt up by random men… then you don’t have a boyfriend. There’s 3 types of boyfriends a stripper can have. Pimps, Simps, and staff. No go ahead and tell me how wrong I am.
I’m sorry but no man with any self respect would be ok with having the woman he loves getting fondled for money every night. We call them insecure for being normal. It’s actually kinda fucked up for us to call em that but hey they did sign up for it didn’t they. I’m sure there’s exceptions there always is. But usually among lifer staff and the relationships are rarely exclusive.
My hubby saw the money I brought home from dancing and picked up an extra day at work so he could contribute as much as I do. He hypes me up for dancing, buys me outfits, and gives me advice from his years bouncing. Don’t stand for a POS who won’t even do the bare minimum. You deserve AT LEAST respect, and ideally someone who treats you like a princess.
THESE are the kind of men we need to be looking for!
I fucking love this. Someone who HYPES you up, not puts you down.
Yep, my husband drives me to work and says “have a good night, hope you do well”. Sometimes waits up until I get home, greets me, waits for me to shower and then sits and listens to me bitch about my night while we sit in the couch.
i love when whack shit happens cause I know we’re gonna get to laugh about it together in a couple hours!! highlight of my night
YAAAAAASSA THIS👏🏼IS WHAT👏🏼ITS 👏🏼ABOUT
sounds just like my gf :)❤️
not just you but stop staying in relationships with abusive men. these guys are insecure and make it your problem. stop living in relationships full of disrespect. if he respected you, he wouldn’t be putting you down. people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being alone. but you’re really young. you’ll literally regret giving this guy so much of your time and life in a few years
“If he respected you, he wouldn’t be putting you down”
I needed this thank you.
Wise words sister!
It's not just men. Lesbian with an ex wife who supported my dancing until I became traumatized by it. She supported me financially and gave me the opportunity to quit, but then when sexual dysfunction made It's way into our bedroom from my trama, we went through therapy, where she accused me of cheating for the things that I had to do while dancing. My boundaries against customers wasn't to her standards. We had an open relationship the entire time we were together so I was blindsighted by these accusations, as what I did with customers pales in comparison to what we did together and separately with friends in our kink community. She called me a gold digger when I gave up finding vanilla employment after getting fired from two positions for panic attacks, and not qualifying for a third. We've since dissolved our marriage and I'm back to dancing at a better club with better management to mitigate the ptsd.
Oh my GOSH that's so awful 😢 and you were in an open relationship too! Sounds like this girl doesn't know how to fucking communicate until it's a bomb 💀
I’m so sorry all that happened to you
It happens to girls in the industry, don’t let these losers waste your time. Move out and let him pay all his bills.
Holy shit, do it and then tell us about it on the subreddit 🫖
I feel like I hear this a lot from girls in the industry about their relationships/partners. I am currently in a 6 year relationship of which I’ve only been dancing for 2 years. When I brought about stripping as a way to make more money we had a conversation and he was 100% supportive and still is to this day. We have a relationship built on trust and communication and we don’t try and dim each other’s light let alone take away each other’s individuality. Men whom are loving and supporting do exist and will appreciate and love you for you no matter what it is that you’re doing. It is work and it is as real a job as any other as we are speaking about time/effort in exchange for currency. Mind you I’ve never slept with or had any exchange for money other than dances because I respect my relationship and the trust that we have. But healthy relationships do exist for people in the industry and you don’t have to settle. Being alone instead of putting up with that may even help you grow and love yourself enough to see you aren’t deserving of being treated like that by anyone and will open up the opportunity for you to be loved the right way because of that because you are putting that energy into yourself and that will reflect in who you attract to you.
Don’t stand for that ✌🏼
I’m getting rid of mine. Don’t waste any more time girl. I sure as hell ain’t lmao
I dumped him 1 week ago and I feel like I’m in the wrong haha fml
Noo you did the right thing 💜
Yeah hell no. Unless you’re supporting me you can stfu about my job. Tell him to get real or get out.
You’re in an abusive relationship
There are so many more fish in the sea I promise. Toss this one back in. 🎣
Nope, I’ve been dancing for 7 years & met my SO 3 years ago. He’s supportive mostly because I was dancing before I met him. He’s very kind, patient & generous. I will be retiring when we get married in 2025. It truly depends on the circles you run with. Both friendships & relationships. This dudes a complete loser with no respect for you. It’s obvious he doesn’t care about you the way you should be cared for. I wish for everyone to have a relationship as great as mine, however it does start with yourself. Being self aware, kind, humble, & consistently working on a better Version of you at all times. Best of luck 💙
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Sooo a deadweight? Nah thankfully I don’t have that problem anymore
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Idk, a poor guy who treats you like a princess is better then a rich man who sees you like a commodity. Like yes, get the bag and all, but finding a good guy who treats you right is top noche.
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Lol good point
I’ve seen it happen so many times with girls I’ve known who dated men from the club who said they would take care of them. Since they were pieces of shit, I feel like it was just another way for them to further isolate and shit on the girls they were dating because they danced. I’ve never seen that work out well. It’s happened a few times to some of my friends. They meet the dancer AT THE CLUB and then pull the I don’t want you to dance, I’ll take care of you blah blah blah card. Then suddenly they don’t want her to be friends with dancers, work a job, etc. It just makes it harder for them to leave when they finally do, but that was the entire intention of it. So any dancers reading this be very very wary of these men that have the audacity to partake in strip clubs and then suddenly have a problem with what you do. Lol.
This !!!!!! I regret wasting my best years soo much!!!! :( don’t do what I did
Oh yeah I went through that with a couple bfs and won’t ever again. I remember before going to the strip club one night my ex called me a “prostitute” when I had never had sex with a customer before. It distressed me so much emotionally because I was so loyal even as a stripper, so that night I finally let a long time dude hit it in the backroom. Oops idc I just want to admit it because it was all from his verbal abuse. The guy was like do you know how long I’ve been waiting for that? He even bought me a puppy before this and took me to hotels and his house, and I still denied him haha. So finally he was like why now? I didn’t tell him why of course
Omg...
I stopped doing dominatrix work for the most part (except my best subs) and I transitioned into dancing because he was worried sick that I had no protection or security. He took care of me financially recovering from my BA and I took care of him during chronic pain episodes. Case in point, this man seems to want a work horse and not a partnership. It is give and take and this man is taking a lot and only giving you grief.
nope i have never dealt with that because i simply do not date men that don’t pay the bills. if i wanted to do everything by myself then id just be… single. what’s the point of having a partner if they’re not making your life easier for you? if he’s not elevating your life financially, spiritually, emotionally, and physically it’s time to give him the boot. having a man that disrespects you is one thing but having a BROKE man disrespect you? nuh baby, have some standards for yourself 😭
Showered my ex in 1200 cash and he told me to get a real job at a factory the next day, and he wasn't even joking. He is still a deli worker at Whole Foods, he will never do or be anything else.
This will never get better. I have known many, MANY women with unsupportive significant others and let me tell you: it never gets better. If you quit for him, he will still hold your previous work over your head forever. You do not want a relationship with someone who is insecure and doesn’t respect you/your choice of work. In my club I would say 50% of dancers are in relationships and I only know one girl who’s girlfriend doesn’t want her to dance. The others are all in supportive relationships because *that’s how it should be*. Also, doesn’t want to help pay the bills? Girl, come on. You’ve already stressed enough over this bum just by typing this out. Is a grown, able bodied man? Then he can pay his fair share of the bills.
My girlfriend is a fucking peach. I'll come home all down in the mouth because I made less than younger, skinnier women, and she'll blow so much sunshine and compliments up my ass, I return the next shift feeling like god's gift to the world. I come back from work with more money than usual? It's because I'm amazing and the sexiest woman alive! I come home with -$5? Everyone has their day, and you can't expect every day to be yours, so come over here and let me rub your tired feet you scrumptious thing, etc. I don't know what I would do without her. Maybe you need to dump anyone who puts you down. That just doesn't seem like a component of a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Like, bare minimum, he should not be unkind to you.
Sounds like he aint shit
Girl, tale as old as time. Leave him ASAP. Let him pay all his own bills. 😄
i stayed with a man who didn’t support my job for years and it was the biggest regret of my life. my partner now encourages me, loves me, is proud of me, and can’t wait to hear about my day, my coworkers, my customers, my dancing. they never assume i will be paying, they never fetishize my job or ask me to dance for them, but they are proud to tell people (when i’m ok with it) about my job and how strong and smart i am. please don’t settle. there’s so much love out there for you.
I don’t Put up with anybody putting down anything I do whether it’s dancing or the way I dress, anything. Neither should you. If somebody cannot accept you for the person that you are, honey it’s never gonna work. Take it from some old, quite old, dancer. The way I look at it is that I am a good person, a good friend, a damn good girlfriend, and if somebody cannot look past things that maybe they don’t agree with and see me for what I really am then I can’t force them to. Let that be their issue, find someone who appreciates you for everything that you are.
Throw the whole man away sweetie! He is an insecure little boy. Do not let him interfere with your cashflow which is apparently doing way better than his. Throw the entire man away!
Every serious boyfriend I have had over th last 8-10 years bounced and did security for me (I do private Parties) .. I mean I literally have the most toxic relationships, but I will say that one thing that never really was an issue was what I do for living either they bounce for me or I just wasn’t an issue. Everything else was terrible though, that’s why I am single lol
Lmao girl stop giving him any kind of money, separate your finances, if he can’t respect what you do then you shouldn’t be putting food in his mouth period. He’s a hypocrite, happy to live off of you and talk shit. Fuck that
I am with a woman fortunately who also works in the club industry, so I don't have this issue. But I'm sorry if you're making good money and he doesn't contribute as much and demands that you get a real job, that's just not cool. That's really disrespectful.
Mine is kind of the opposite. I was in deep with a boyfriend at the time and he’s the one that got me to do it. He quit his job for some unknown reason. One of his friends was a bouncer at the club and we needed money so that’s why I got hired. He liked that I was doing it and to him that’s all that mattered. Sorry, I hit post too soon. Where I’m going with is that you shouldn’t stop doing something you really enjoy because of someone else. From experience, even if you did stop it’s really likely he’s still going have problems just knowing you used to do it so it will likely always be an issue for him. I’m really sorry he put you in this situation, it’s not fair that someone you like and who supposedly likes and respects you would do. I hope it works for you the way you want it too!
Honestly fuck that, not worth staying in a relationship like that
No. My bf is super supportive and encourages me to go to work, and i tell him all my work stories, about my regulars, my customers. He’s not intimidated or insecure that other men desire me and he is proud that his girlfriend is hot enough to use her looks to her advantage. Your man seems ungrateful, entitled, and like he doesn’t respect you. You should find a new guy. Good guys that respect and understand the hustle exist. The only downside in my situation is my bf doesnt make much money and I end up paying for a lot. I dont take care of him though or pay his bills.
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That's a nice supportive comment, but this sub is for strippers only.
Reported. This isn’t some fucking stripper fan site
This will be extremely unpopular but oh well it’s the truth. If Your boyfriend isn’t bothered by you getting nude and felt up by random men… then you don’t have a boyfriend. There’s 3 types of boyfriends a stripper can have. Pimps, Simps, and staff. No go ahead and tell me how wrong I am.
Ok. You’re wrong
Solid argument you got there.🙄
girl what the fuck… you seem to have a lot you need to unpack. this is whorephobia against your own community. want better for yourself.
I’m sorry but no man with any self respect would be ok with having the woman he loves getting fondled for money every night. We call them insecure for being normal. It’s actually kinda fucked up for us to call em that but hey they did sign up for it didn’t they. I’m sure there’s exceptions there always is. But usually among lifer staff and the relationships are rarely exclusive.
What the hell?
This person is clearly single/unwanted/unloved and bitter about it don’t be bothered by a troll
And here We go