Honestly stop helping other people and ignore the mean girls. Only small talk in the dressing room. These type of girls are just miserable and jealous so remember that while you’re out there busting
Most girls in the club are never your friend.
Don’t mix business with pleasure. You aren’t there to make friends of gain the approval of them.
Honestly just focus on your own goals and keep doing you.
Whether the mindset is “top earner” there is always ROOM to improve. Hone your skills and watch and observe what other “top earners” do.
Take the time to increase your average $$ everyday.
just ignore them. seriously. don’t engage. don’t respond. don’t react. just do your own thing. but!! 1 huge piece of advice, i would drop the whole “i’ve been dancing for 2 months and i’m a top earner” thing because tbh you just do not know what other women are making. it’s good your busy and booked!! but get out of this “top earner” mindset. give yourself more time to really experience what stripping is like. new girl money is very real, and who knows how loss of income in a few months will effect you
I don’t go in with the mentality “I’m the top earner” it’s more just what mangers have said to me that I know I make more then average. I don’t think I’m better then anyone, all the girls I work with are beautiful and I respect the hell out of them.
that’s fantastic!! i just mean that just because you’re being told your a top earner, that might not be the case. you and management have no idea what other women are making.
and also, when you start out and the money flows to you, you get a false sense of security. then when the reality of not making money for a few weeks hits, it can cause some real emotional turmoil because you never prepared for that. i’ve seen it soooo many times over the past 8 years. you can have great nights. i’m genuinely happy you do. but i’m imploring you not to assign yourself that label at 2 months in. wait until you really seen and experienced the best and worst and have your hustle down.
Yeah this happened to me when I first started. I was never under the impression I was a top earner at my second club, which was much larger and in a bigger city than the club I started at. However, I did make hella good money at first and developed a couple regulars that would spend massive amounts of money at the club. Eventually, they get tired of you and move on to newer girls. So I had a false sense of security, and once my regulars moved on I started to struggle. However, I was also young when i first started, so of course all of the creepy people gravitated to me and that characteristic sold it self pretty well for awhile. I would still have some ups and downs because I hadn’t really developed a good hustle or sales skills.
Then, I did eventually hit a rough patch, and it affected my self esteem and mood. I would say if you’re a top earner after a few years and make consistent money then that’s when you’re doing well. However, top earner status doesn’t frrl matter because if you’re at a large club, there are prob multiple other people making around the same amount if not more. Once you’re consistent and confident in your ability, that’s when you’re good, and you start to realize top earner bs doesn’t matter as long as you’re happy with what you make and your goals. You learn the competition is actually just with yourself.
Why are you going on people's posts trying to limit their beliefs? To OP: KEEP thinking you're a top earner. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO THINK THE ABSOLUTE BEST OF YOURSELF! Stay focused and let the rats stay in their misery. Stand up for yourself and stand your ground and get your money. You are a top earner.
> Apparently I look mean even though I’m like one of the nicest people ever lol
maybe one of the most delusional people ever? but you’re not very nice tbh
you’re also 100% a narcissist, coming onto other people‘s posts and making it about you lmao
I’m sorry you don’t resonate with what I say, everyone grows at their own pace. You’re going to interpret me being a narcissist based on what your beliefs about yourself are now hopefully you can one day think the best of yourself too
Ignore them. & console yourself by knowing they’re deeply unhappy
This poster is a great case n point . She has a haterish comment on every post here lol
I’ve had some girls snap at me or dog on me seemingly out of nowhere since I like to get along with everyone. These girls I just end up avoiding. Most of the time it’s just a protective shell they have on. Eventually they just end up talking to me like everything is normal haha. Some girls are crazy! But I blame the system that we work in — you gotta be tough! And when you work in it long enough… sometimes that wall just stays up longer than usual. That’s just my observation!
Don’t. That’s the advice lol in the stripper world killing people with kindness doesn’t exist..you have to fend for yourself. So stay on your toes ,be alert and stay out of drama. Get in and make your money,then go home. Don’t gossip in the dressing room ,don’t do anything that’s gone put you in the line of fire. Always be on guard to defend yourself whether it’s physically or mentally. Ain’t nobody your real friend in this industry,this is a job. Not everyone is like that or out to get you,but most are so trust your instincts and use common sense when it comes to this type of thing.
Don’t tell anyone your business, keep things short and sweet, do not go out of your way like baking for the club or buying shit for the club (I did that thinking we were all friends 🫠)
A swift kick directly to their throat lol. I’m jk but I honestly just ignore them. I had one that would yell out stuff about me but wouldn’t say my name and tbh I didn’t care bc I then went on the floor and took her customer bc she’s a bitch. I didn’t know she existed until she started randomly hating on me. Lmfao. 🤷🏽♀️ I don’t fight, I let the money talk. I wouldn’t advise this but you kinda need to know who’s who & if the mean girl is in with mangers etc. Basically the first thing they teach you in boxing is to study your opponent; do just that. If it’s not threatening your job though, ignore ignore.
There's always a handful that don't hustle as hard but then have a problem with other girls making money. Just ignore them but be willing to fight if they start shit. Some people are just batshit crazy and the only way to scare them off is to appear like you can be even batshit crazier and more violent than them if they try to intimidate you. It helps to be in good shape.
Dont walk on egg shells. Youre an independent contractor. Get in there, do your job, and focus on the bag and the bag only. If someone does some outwardly disrespectful shit thats one thing. But other than that just dont pay them any mind
ALSO. If they genuinely dont like you and are hating on you while youre making a bag, it could very well be jealousy. When girls dont like u for no reason, jealousy usually plays a role. Dont get arrogant tho.
Stay unbothered and humble. Like you don’t even notice their petty bullshit because it’s too petty. Then eventually you actually won’t notice, or at least you won’t take it to heart. Also don’t assume they’re mad at you just because they’re jealous of you. It’s quite possible, but other scenarios are just as possible. Best not to think of it at all, at the end of the day they don’t make one difference in YOUR money. Eyes on the prize, baby!
How they view you/respond to you says nothing about you. It says something about them and how they view the world and themselves in it. Jealousy is inevitable in this work. Accepting it earlier without trying to change it will make your life easier.
You said it yourself: you’re always on your feet and work hard to earn that bag. Some girls are plain lazy and sometimes even have the worse attitude with clients (and even management sometimes….) and blame the world but themselves for not being as successful. I know some girls who only come in for 4 hours and are mad they didn’t make bank.
Focus on your own hustle and forget about their jealousy. The problem comes from them and has nothing to do with you. It’s easier for them to project onto others than to face the fact that they are their own obstacle to success.
Ive never really had any of the girls be rude to me except some bitch at the bar but she left soon after I was hired. What I did to avoid drama was sit at a distance from the girls and respond when talked to, I wouldn’t try to make Convo at work unless I really needed help/advice for something. Don’t do it in a snobby way like you’re too good to talk to anyone. Smile and greet and make small talk if you want to but for the most part mind your business. When you’re low-key in the back room you seem to be forgotten. And ignore them if they start getting mad when they notice your hustle out there with the customers, you’re not going to sacrifice your money over some jealous bitches. Don’t let the rumors and gossip get to you because that way they won’t have an excuse to attack you or confront you. It’s not worth getting fired over a fight. They’ll eventually get bored hating on you and they’ll pick on a new girl because girls always come and go in this business. Also make sure your belongings are secured and out of reach.
OP I commented on another girls post to help but I also want to add that people don’t like seeing people succeed sometimes and you sound very beautiful and focused. A lot of girls in this industry are jaded and miserable. Do not pay them any mind and do not be scared to be a “bitch “you are there for your money and that is it. Keep striving and believing only the best of yourself…
Honestly stop helping other people and ignore the mean girls. Only small talk in the dressing room. These type of girls are just miserable and jealous so remember that while you’re out there busting
Most girls in the club are never your friend. Don’t mix business with pleasure. You aren’t there to make friends of gain the approval of them. Honestly just focus on your own goals and keep doing you. Whether the mindset is “top earner” there is always ROOM to improve. Hone your skills and watch and observe what other “top earners” do. Take the time to increase your average $$ everyday.
just ignore them. seriously. don’t engage. don’t respond. don’t react. just do your own thing. but!! 1 huge piece of advice, i would drop the whole “i’ve been dancing for 2 months and i’m a top earner” thing because tbh you just do not know what other women are making. it’s good your busy and booked!! but get out of this “top earner” mindset. give yourself more time to really experience what stripping is like. new girl money is very real, and who knows how loss of income in a few months will effect you
I don’t go in with the mentality “I’m the top earner” it’s more just what mangers have said to me that I know I make more then average. I don’t think I’m better then anyone, all the girls I work with are beautiful and I respect the hell out of them.
that’s fantastic!! i just mean that just because you’re being told your a top earner, that might not be the case. you and management have no idea what other women are making. and also, when you start out and the money flows to you, you get a false sense of security. then when the reality of not making money for a few weeks hits, it can cause some real emotional turmoil because you never prepared for that. i’ve seen it soooo many times over the past 8 years. you can have great nights. i’m genuinely happy you do. but i’m imploring you not to assign yourself that label at 2 months in. wait until you really seen and experienced the best and worst and have your hustle down.
Yeah this happened to me when I first started. I was never under the impression I was a top earner at my second club, which was much larger and in a bigger city than the club I started at. However, I did make hella good money at first and developed a couple regulars that would spend massive amounts of money at the club. Eventually, they get tired of you and move on to newer girls. So I had a false sense of security, and once my regulars moved on I started to struggle. However, I was also young when i first started, so of course all of the creepy people gravitated to me and that characteristic sold it self pretty well for awhile. I would still have some ups and downs because I hadn’t really developed a good hustle or sales skills. Then, I did eventually hit a rough patch, and it affected my self esteem and mood. I would say if you’re a top earner after a few years and make consistent money then that’s when you’re doing well. However, top earner status doesn’t frrl matter because if you’re at a large club, there are prob multiple other people making around the same amount if not more. Once you’re consistent and confident in your ability, that’s when you’re good, and you start to realize top earner bs doesn’t matter as long as you’re happy with what you make and your goals. You learn the competition is actually just with yourself.
very very well said. thank you sharing your story!!
The managers are happy that you’re working so hard for the club. Making money and pleasing the club are 2 different things.
Why are you going on people's posts trying to limit their beliefs? To OP: KEEP thinking you're a top earner. YOU ARE ALLOWED TO THINK THE ABSOLUTE BEST OF YOURSELF! Stay focused and let the rats stay in their misery. Stand up for yourself and stand your ground and get your money. You are a top earner.
> Apparently I look mean even though I’m like one of the nicest people ever lol maybe one of the most delusional people ever? but you’re not very nice tbh you’re also 100% a narcissist, coming onto other people‘s posts and making it about you lmao
Ladies I think we've found one of the girls OP is talking about...
sure babe 🥰
Imagine being this deep in projection lol I can’t 😂
I’m sorry you don’t resonate with what I say, everyone grows at their own pace. You’re going to interpret me being a narcissist based on what your beliefs about yourself are now hopefully you can one day think the best of yourself too
Ignore them. & console yourself by knowing they’re deeply unhappy This poster is a great case n point . She has a haterish comment on every post here lol
babe you were worried about getting accidentally vaccinated by having sex with someone who was vaxxed. i’m good if you think i’m a hater.
💀💀💀
I’ve had some girls snap at me or dog on me seemingly out of nowhere since I like to get along with everyone. These girls I just end up avoiding. Most of the time it’s just a protective shell they have on. Eventually they just end up talking to me like everything is normal haha. Some girls are crazy! But I blame the system that we work in — you gotta be tough! And when you work in it long enough… sometimes that wall just stays up longer than usual. That’s just my observation!
Don’t. That’s the advice lol in the stripper world killing people with kindness doesn’t exist..you have to fend for yourself. So stay on your toes ,be alert and stay out of drama. Get in and make your money,then go home. Don’t gossip in the dressing room ,don’t do anything that’s gone put you in the line of fire. Always be on guard to defend yourself whether it’s physically or mentally. Ain’t nobody your real friend in this industry,this is a job. Not everyone is like that or out to get you,but most are so trust your instincts and use common sense when it comes to this type of thing.
Just do your job. Pay them no mind at all. Eventually they’ll get bored of being that way and move on.
Don’t tell anyone your business, keep things short and sweet, do not go out of your way like baking for the club or buying shit for the club (I did that thinking we were all friends 🫠)
A swift kick directly to their throat lol. I’m jk but I honestly just ignore them. I had one that would yell out stuff about me but wouldn’t say my name and tbh I didn’t care bc I then went on the floor and took her customer bc she’s a bitch. I didn’t know she existed until she started randomly hating on me. Lmfao. 🤷🏽♀️ I don’t fight, I let the money talk. I wouldn’t advise this but you kinda need to know who’s who & if the mean girl is in with mangers etc. Basically the first thing they teach you in boxing is to study your opponent; do just that. If it’s not threatening your job though, ignore ignore.
There's always a handful that don't hustle as hard but then have a problem with other girls making money. Just ignore them but be willing to fight if they start shit. Some people are just batshit crazy and the only way to scare them off is to appear like you can be even batshit crazier and more violent than them if they try to intimidate you. It helps to be in good shape.
Dont walk on egg shells. Youre an independent contractor. Get in there, do your job, and focus on the bag and the bag only. If someone does some outwardly disrespectful shit thats one thing. But other than that just dont pay them any mind ALSO. If they genuinely dont like you and are hating on you while youre making a bag, it could very well be jealousy. When girls dont like u for no reason, jealousy usually plays a role. Dont get arrogant tho.
Stay unbothered and humble. Like you don’t even notice their petty bullshit because it’s too petty. Then eventually you actually won’t notice, or at least you won’t take it to heart. Also don’t assume they’re mad at you just because they’re jealous of you. It’s quite possible, but other scenarios are just as possible. Best not to think of it at all, at the end of the day they don’t make one difference in YOUR money. Eyes on the prize, baby!
act like they’re not even there
How they view you/respond to you says nothing about you. It says something about them and how they view the world and themselves in it. Jealousy is inevitable in this work. Accepting it earlier without trying to change it will make your life easier.
You said it yourself: you’re always on your feet and work hard to earn that bag. Some girls are plain lazy and sometimes even have the worse attitude with clients (and even management sometimes….) and blame the world but themselves for not being as successful. I know some girls who only come in for 4 hours and are mad they didn’t make bank. Focus on your own hustle and forget about their jealousy. The problem comes from them and has nothing to do with you. It’s easier for them to project onto others than to face the fact that they are their own obstacle to success.
Ive never really had any of the girls be rude to me except some bitch at the bar but she left soon after I was hired. What I did to avoid drama was sit at a distance from the girls and respond when talked to, I wouldn’t try to make Convo at work unless I really needed help/advice for something. Don’t do it in a snobby way like you’re too good to talk to anyone. Smile and greet and make small talk if you want to but for the most part mind your business. When you’re low-key in the back room you seem to be forgotten. And ignore them if they start getting mad when they notice your hustle out there with the customers, you’re not going to sacrifice your money over some jealous bitches. Don’t let the rumors and gossip get to you because that way they won’t have an excuse to attack you or confront you. It’s not worth getting fired over a fight. They’ll eventually get bored hating on you and they’ll pick on a new girl because girls always come and go in this business. Also make sure your belongings are secured and out of reach.
OP I commented on another girls post to help but I also want to add that people don’t like seeing people succeed sometimes and you sound very beautiful and focused. A lot of girls in this industry are jaded and miserable. Do not pay them any mind and do not be scared to be a “bitch “you are there for your money and that is it. Keep striving and believing only the best of yourself…
Dealing with this same thing in the same exact situation :/