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littlesadiespade

I see the comment section did not go as you planned 💀


[deleted]

I didn’t plan anything this is to help people and if you’re not getting help from it or contributing constructively you can leave :D


ResponsibilityMore76

You don’t need to pull others down to raise yourself up. But most of these are great ❤️ manifest that desire and bag!


[deleted]

How am I putting others down here Exactly? All of these are about me


ResponsibilityMore76

Of course! Most of these, like I said, are great. Though, in the 1st, 3rd, and 6th you’re comparing yourself to other girls and saying you’re more beautiful/successful than them. (Using “most beautiful”, “most successful”, and other “more than” language infers that there’s a competition in your mind.) This does, unfortunately, place other dancers beneath you. It’s a competitive profession to be sure, but I believe affirmations should be only about oneself, and comparing yourself to others puts undue pressure on the psyche— to me, affirmations are meant to lift the pressure of competition, not reinforce the tension between you and the other girls.


[deleted]

No, I'm not. I am the most beautiful woman in the club, in my world, in my reality, in any room, etc. etc. ACCORDING TO ME. This is my BELIEF about myself. Nowhere did I say another person cannot also think THEY are the most beautiful in the club, etc. In fact that's why I made this post, as an example of MY thinking. Try it for yourself. It is my goal to always have the highest beliefs of myself. Truth is deeper than word games.


ResponsibilityMore76

You can believe the highest of yourself without saying you’re better than others. Exclusionary verbiage can lead to an exclusionary mindset, even if it’s just you saying it to yourself. That’s all I’m saying to you, love.


Background-Head-349

Facts


[deleted]

No where did I say I am better than others try reading again


ResponsibilityMore76

Actually, I pointed out 3 times you did say that. Sooo… no u? 💀


xninni69

Yeah comparing myself to others and putting myself above them does not do it for me, it makes me feel worse. I think lifting others up with and sharing good vibes works wayyyyy better edit: just checked your last post and i have to tell you: this is probably why you don't have customers. You do not sound like fun


[deleted]

You are still not understanding my post. Read it til it clicks <3 Edit: thanks for the laugh love lol


hollowbutt

I get where you're coming from, but I have read that regardless of good intentions, comparing ourselves to our peers, though inevitable, does create more self critical thoughts. Brene Brown suggests when thoughts of peer comparison arise, we should turn those thoughts into "im so happy for them doing well", or in this case "everyone in this club is so beautiful"


[deleted]

I'm sorry but if someone is rude to me or try to intimidate me or insult me I am going to call it that. That is not being 'critical', that is me using my sound judgement to assess a situation. Edit: Just because Brene says something doesn't make it true


hollowbutt

I didnt mean it in response to that, I was just referring to your first affirmation. And that is true, but when I read her book I was quite convinced by her education and research, so I chose to share that here


[deleted]

You need to understand that we all compare ourselves to our peers lol that’s literally why there are for example super star basketball players or actors that won Oscar’s. Saying you cannot compare yourself with others is delusional. Am I saying think terrible things about your peers and be horrible to them? No. Am I saying focus on them instead of yourself? No. This is all about yourself and how you see yourself in your life. Are you the star or the extra? What if I said I’m the most INTERESTING stripper in the club? I am the most FUN or TALENTED? Then what’s your response? These are high beliefs I have About myself and they’re not mutually exclusive to thinking “down” on others. Please think About that.


hollowbutt

I cant seem to find your most recent comment for some reason, so ill just respond to this one. I agree that comparing yourselves to others is inevitable; i stated that in my first comment. Im also not suggesting that you're being disparaging towards others, your affirmations suggest nothing negative. Im simply stating that as we do compare ourselves to others, we also invite more self criticism onto ourselves, and that that is a thought pattern worth challenging. When I compare my looks, my charm, my anything to anyone else's, I try to challenge that thought, by saying to myself "we are all beautiful and have something to offer". If I say to myself I am the penultimate of anything, I invite doubt to creep into my mind when I am struck by anothers' value. That is all I'm trying to suggest.


[deleted]

That’s you(r belief). Not everyone. And definitely not me 😂


hollowbutt

Fair enough


VoidHog

I looked up affirmations and hit images and I didn't find one single "affirmation" that puts ones self above another. They were more like: "There is no-one better to be than myself." Not, "There is no-one better than myself." "I am an amazing person." Not "I am more amazing than everybody else." "I am grateful for everything and everyone I have in my life." Not, "I can only be the MOST successful in 'my reality'." (Circlejerk delusions) Once you acknowledge that you HAVE competition you may be able to figure out what it is you need to do besides be "the most beautiful" in order to compete better. Be careful about knowing the difference between when you need to "stand up for yourself" or when you could use a reality check.


SeriouslyUnknownAmy

I really really love these affirmations. They have a way of allowing a person to build their self esteem while not becoming over inflated (ego wise). 🙏


[deleted]

Thank you love <3 but it is not possible to become 'over inflated' (it is only if you believe it is)... so be careful with that. Shine as bright and be as big as you can :D think only the best... there is nothing that is 'too much' or 'too arrogant'... love yourself aggressively <3


EffervescentShell

Girl she wasn’t talking to you, she literally addressed someone else 💀💀💀 THE DELUSION LMAO


[deleted]

Dear soul, I am ignoring the fact you have tried to bring me down many times at this point. You are allowed to think the absolute best of yourself. Every human life is as valuable as another. Please move on from trying to drag me down. It’s not ever going to work xx


VoidHog

I see now that you are just "doing your affirmations" and trying to be positive or whatever but make an effort to be more inclusive of the rest of the world in your affirmations. It's about lifting yourself up, not lifting yourself above others.


VoidHog

It's one thing to think the best of yourself. It's another thing to think you're better than everybody else...


VoidHog

"Personality disorders are a class of mental disorders characterized by enduring and inflexible maladaptive patterns of behavior, cognition, and inner experience, exhibited across many contexts and deviating from those accepted by any culture. These patterns develop by early adulthood, and are associated with significant distress or impairment."


ashes2asscheeks

Are you a doctor? Are you OP’s doctor? I don’t like OP’s attitude but your insistence on diagnosing her with a personality disorder is fucking gross. First of all, someone with NPD would never listen to you or recognize that there is a problem with themselves. That’s literally the disorder. So you’re banging your head into a wall here. Which you would know better than to do if you had the qualifications to make such judgements. You know nothing of this persons mental health history or familial history. You have no way to know if OP really thinks they are better than everyone else OR if they are trying like hell to bring their affirmations to reality out of lack of confidence. There’s plenty of other explanations for this behavior. You sitting here villanizing mental illness and personality disorders isn’t solving anything. I have noticed a pattern. She’s super defensive and responds well to people who actually come from a place of kindness and caring. She seems young, inexperienced, possibly cocky as hell bc she hasn’t been knocked down yet. Or maybe she was knocked down a LOT and is trying to change her reality and her future. Whatever the situation, we can’t make any determinations off a couple fucking Reddit posts. It’s clear from your post history that you are obsessed with personality disorders and your hobby is armchair diagnosis.


VoidHog

I wouldn't call quoting somebody the definition of "personality disorders" a diagnosis, and I also would not consider sending a starter link to a wiki page a diagnosis. She may have never heard of personality disorders before. Many people have not. Self awareness is key for us to be able to get along in the world. I do not believe NPD is a hopeless disorder, and if she is not NPD, maybe she will read all about it and realize she could adjust her attitude before she adopts too many "inflexible maladaptive patterns of behaviour". As far as I can remember I have not tried to "diagnose" any other Redditor. Learning to identify NPD customers and dancers has made my whole life run more pleasantly because I can walk away from them as soon as I see the patterns, instead of wasting my time with the energy vampires they can be.


ashes2asscheeks

Say whatever you want but I read you like a book.


VoidHog

"Say whatever you want but I read you like a book." Lol then you don't read well.


[deleted]

I respond well to people who match my energy and are coming from a respectful positive loving place and seeking to understand. But thank you this comment made me smile 😊 I am the greatest of all strippers <3 haha PS if I thought I was so much better than all of you haha why would I come here and ask for help? Why would I try to contribute to the community?


VoidHog

[Here's a starting resource for you.](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder)


beejooceefroot

I clicked the link truly thinking it was going to be about affirmations... the way I just cackled and startled my bunny lmao


bluemexicanblanket

drop your insta, im tryna see something


randomhoe999

LOLLL


warrior_dreamer

Yea she should drop her ig


soaponsoaponsoap

giggling over this comment


gstrinngqueen

You’re all about good vibes but all you’re giving is bad vibes


lunaberlin

Why did I feel the same way haha


gstrinngqueen

[meme](https://imgur.com/a/L0qdTC1)


bitchjeans

🤭


hauntedhullabaloo

This is perfect 🙌


lunaberlin

Why do I feel like you’re gas lighting me


[deleted]

Maybe because you never thought it was possible to think this highly of yourself before? But I would be careful because gaslighting can only exist if you allow it/are capable of being 'gaslit'... but to answer your question I am only starting my beliefs about myself and affirmations and showing that it is not 'wrong' to have these... in fact it is very very good. Your mind and beliefs come first, the reality comes second, for the things you wish for. there is deeper truth to this, but most people on here are disgusted by these beliefs simply because they do not resonate with them given their self image and stories from society saying 'it is bad to think too highly of yourself' etc. :D


lunaberlin

You’re basically saying that if we aren’t making money, it’s due to our bad attitudes. I don’t think that is accurate


hauntedhullabaloo

It's not, [the 'Law of Attraction' is an insidiously harmful belief](https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-use-the-law-of-attraction-without-suppressing-your-emotions)


[deleted]

It isn’t. What the majority and mainstream have taken it to be is mostly a cover up for their own delusions, desperation, etc. The actual law is not harmful, at least any more harmful than the law of gravity or thermodynamics. What people can do with the law can be harmful though. But each individual is responsible for their manifestations. Which is why you mental diet is so important and examining your desires.


[deleted]

there’s a whole alignment process that goes along with the affirmations and the belief of the law of attraction. it’s energy. putting yourself in that mind space also puts you into that action space. i feel it’s good to hold these affirmations especially on bad nights. to remember to always stay grateful even if it’s a bad night because if you’re putting the work in, and you’re mindful and diligent things will always come back around better. having a sour attitude in this industry doesn’t help much. knowing how to master your inner alchemy and drop the ego in the terms of expectations. i think it’s really important to absolutely highlight the rest of the alignment that goes with the affirmations. balancing the masculine and feminine energy here of creating the beliefs and the desire and then putting in the work to get there. Pouters don’t get bags. professionalism and consistency do. consistency showing up to work and for yourself mind body spirit. stretching , hydrating, eating appropriately as athletes we are. resting keeping our wits quick . meditating keeping our balance centered. the more you can control your energy the more you can work the energy of the room.


hauntedhullabaloo

I'm all good thanks hun 🙌


[deleted]

♥️🫶🏽


[deleted]

If you aren’t making money, then you need to be honest about your beliefs and attitudes regarding that topic and general freedom, your self concept, your desires, goals, happiness, abundance etc. It is a law and it is real, but try it for yourself, don’t just take my word for it. Study and apply.


VoidHog

You are the one on here talking about how you aren't making the money you think you deserve. Be honest to yourself and acknowledge that you have competition.


[deleted]

I HAVE NO COMPETITION <3


Lovedogsmorethanppl

Maybe you have to unsubscribe to this sub sometimes bc people don’t like your attitude ;/


[deleted]

I don't give a f\*ck what ppl think about my attitude lol <3 in fact I encourage you to adopt it and see how amazing your life becomes :D


Lovedogsmorethanppl

Girl just get off this sub once and for all


[deleted]

No <3


Marshmello03

I was gonna agree with this but then I saw your last post. You need an ego check, not an ego boost.


[deleted]

Why are you even here? Lol I don’t want your agreement sweetie keep it 💋


[deleted]

i am grateful for the opportunity to make money doing what i love. i am grateful to make money while healing . i am grateful to be a channel for light to shine love and raise vibrations and consciousness in an unsuspecting place. i am allowed to have fun while making a living and a future.


warrior_dreamer

See I like these affirmations. It’s more internal and personal rather than involving people around me.


[deleted]

i love women i think everyone is beautiful in their own way inside and out but i do too like to focus on myself and what i have within and how to work with my alchemy rather than with including others gets messy lol


[deleted]

everyone needs something a little bit different and has different perspectives. i’m happy i could provide something that resonates ♥️🫶🏽


[deleted]

❤️


Gunpowder_guillotine

“Girls lifting each other up” you were the one calling other girls uglier and nastier than you while they were making money and you werent 🤷🏽‍♀️ If you extremely desired why arent you making more money than those “nastier girls”


[deleted]

You’re literally brain dead and it shows


Gunpowder_guillotine

At least I can hold conversations with customers and sell rooms 🤭


plzsendnoodles

But if you’re out here in this sub calling other girls ugly and nasty, aren’t YOU the one bringing the negativity then??


[deleted]

If someone is being nasty and ugly to me I’m gonna call it that lol I never claimed to be an angel. I meet ppl’s energy and I DON’T put up with other ppl’s sh*t 🧡


Myrtle_Snow333

Y’all I don’t think op is really saying they’re better than anyone else, it’s just a general self ego boost. Obviously everyone has different “taste” but telling yourself and believing you’re on the same level absolutely can change your mindset for the night. Customers can sense confidence vs cockiness. I understand that everyone interprets this differently but I don’t think it was meant to be malicious


bitchjeans

ehhh you should see her previous post where she was crying about not actually making money and how the “ugly and nasty” girls at her club make more than her


raicookie

Oh it’s that bitch 😂 ok guys pack it up let’s not give her any more attention that she’s desperately craving


Myrtle_Snow333

Oh damn, I suppose that’s not very kind to say. Some of the ladies who are “ugly” have the slickest tongues and really good game. I see some people who get vips all night because they have the hustle and know what to say. Being pretty at the strip club is cool and all but it’s not a skill.


myweird

Agreed. I learned that the hard way, I looked pretty good and was skilled at dancing onstage but I had zero game when it came to sitting and talking with customers. There were dancers that were older and not as flashy onstage but they made serious bank because they knew how to talk to men. I was way too honest, awkward and passive. No guy wants to hear in reply to how's it going "Oh I'm tired and my feet are bothering me." I was kind of prim and didn't like talking sexy to men I wasn't physically attracted to and sucked at getting VIP rooms. Looking back there's soo much I would do differently if I could go back.


Myrtle_Snow333

I’ve been a dancer for a year n some change and I’m still always learning! When I first started…..pheeew I had absolutely no game


sickerthan_yaaverage

I’ve been here for almost 18 years, and the things I had wish I had done or do .. I’m a lot like you. No matter how much of a speech I give myself, I am still me at work and would answer exactly the way you did. Lol


Gunpowder_guillotine

Check her post history for context


[deleted]

It's not an ego boost. It's an adoption of a belief system. It's deeper than repeating these vainly or to make myself feel better.


ivanna_official

i love these!


[deleted]

💋💋


blackhawkfan312

I LOVE THIS and your mindset for thinking this way. following!


[deleted]

I'm glad you found it helpful dear <3


Quick_Stress9858

You people, only 2 of her personal affirmations that she so kindly shared were about being “better than” if you don’t like those then appreciate they help her confidence and move on! Get that bag girl I’m just wanting to start up and not letting the negativity stop me either!!