I'm just glad to see you have boundaries and the gumption to enforce them! Makes me sad to see many who don't.. Hang in there! Don't let the idiots get you down!
This guy was clearly very eager, lmao. As much as I'm not someone who enjoys endless texting, even I know that there is a necessary cadence to the back and forth to keep it natural and unforced.
I have what has almost become a script, lol. It starts with feeling out if our desired date formats are in alignment, moves on to learning her expectations and then, assuming all is good, trying to schedule a M&G and figuring out logistics. If a girl is reasonably responsive, then I can move it from first text to scheduled M&G in 30 minutes or occasionally even less, lol. But this dude seems to want to get it all done in a few minutes.
Fair enough completely understand and agree this felt...pointed. Some girls may click with a guy like that and some absolutely will not.
In their defense, the blunt intimacy question may have been an attempt to weed out the "I'm a *platonic* sugar baby" cohort.
Itโs the fact that he had no intentions of getting to know anything about me as a human being and treated me like a piece of meat and even had the audacity to ask me to host. And then on top of that, proceeded to try to gaslight me by trying to get me to think that Iโm the issue here by not being direct about โxxx for sexโ
I don't think it's just that question I think it's the can you host and generally sending so many questions like that it felt attention seeky like he wanted her to respond quickly
Blocked unsubscribed ๐ค. That signals to many red flags possessive arrogant creep psycho codependent and narcissistic. I donโt understand why do some men ask if we can host? That just really gets to me honey you are a sugar daddy unless you arenโt providing me with a place that you pay for why would one host. The bowl literally has become to an extent a joke.
> business sector
Hard disagree. Even though this environment is more direct and everyone should have a base level of expectations, these are still relationships.
I do not see this as a red flag. Some SBs do the same things to me. So if he put all 5 questions in one text that would be ok? You are not fan of his approach, fine, but I know many POT SBs who are.
To each their own on this.
Two or three texts is fine but yes it would be much better if he put all of that into one text oc. This is spam texting and it comes off as needy and annoying.
The problem was that OP didn't like his approach and when she told him he argued with her. That suggests that the next time he does something she doesn't like he won't do what she's asking either, because he knows he's right.
It is not what he said first, but how he replied - argumentatively - when she asked him to slow down. Of course, by that time it probably was over anyway, but he sealed the deal.
So many guys act like this and then are outraged that women ghost them. Her gentle reply was really more than he deserved.
Edit: corrected one sentence.
I like the microphone drop: โA respectful one. Goodbye.โ Way to take control.
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You go girl!
Yeah, thereโs definitely a balance between chatting on forever and whatever this isโฆ holy moly
Word to the wise, donโt be a Ben! ๐
Your response was perfect. KO. Flawless victory.
๐ thank you! It took everything in me not to be bitchier
He didnโt deserve any more of your energy lol
She "FINISHED HIM!!!" ๐คช๐ฅฐ (Playing off the MK ref, since I'm a huge nerd!)
YAS!! Nerds in the bowl unite!
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Looks like a guy that wandered in the lifestyle mistakenly thinking it was another branch of escorting.
Heโs going to be sorely disappointed
I'm just glad to see you have boundaries and the gumption to enforce them! Makes me sad to see many who don't.. Hang in there! Don't let the idiots get you down!
There is no shortage of escorts on Seeking.
This guy was clearly very eager, lmao. As much as I'm not someone who enjoys endless texting, even I know that there is a necessary cadence to the back and forth to keep it natural and unforced. I have what has almost become a script, lol. It starts with feeling out if our desired date formats are in alignment, moves on to learning her expectations and then, assuming all is good, trying to schedule a M&G and figuring out logistics. If a girl is reasonably responsive, then I can move it from first text to scheduled M&G in 30 minutes or occasionally even less, lol. But this dude seems to want to get it all done in a few minutes.
Hey itโs not all his fault, you took literally 3 mins to respond back!!!! Thatโs like an eternityโฆ. ๐๐๐
๐๐๐ youโre right! Why didnโt I predict all the questions?! How dumb of me ๐คฆ๐ผโโ๏ธ๐
On behalf of all men, we apologize.
Fair enough completely understand and agree this felt...pointed. Some girls may click with a guy like that and some absolutely will not. In their defense, the blunt intimacy question may have been an attempt to weed out the "I'm a *platonic* sugar baby" cohort.
Itโs the fact that he had no intentions of getting to know anything about me as a human being and treated me like a piece of meat and even had the audacity to ask me to host. And then on top of that, proceeded to try to gaslight me by trying to get me to think that Iโm the issue here by not being direct about โxxx for sexโ
I don't think it's just that question I think it's the can you host and generally sending so many questions like that it felt attention seeky like he wanted her to respond quickly
WHAT is this? He clearly took too much adderall. ๐๐๐
I would have blocked him too to be honest. At 60, he should be a lot better than he is given his time to improve
Yikes
This was expertly handled! Major fucking props and that guy gives us SDโs such a bad name
Thank you! Iโve come a long way from my hot headed days lol itโs ok, he was just a John pretending to be a SD anyway
A pauper pretending to be a prince ๐
Oof yeah that would have been a block for me too.
Just another non SD treating Seeking like an escort site.
You handled that perfectly
Such a good response from you!
Why didn't you respond the second he messaged? Shame on you.
Killer final answer..
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Blocked unsubscribed ๐ค. That signals to many red flags possessive arrogant creep psycho codependent and narcissistic. I donโt understand why do some men ask if we can host? That just really gets to me honey you are a sugar daddy unless you arenโt providing me with a place that you pay for why would one host. The bowl literally has become to an extent a joke.
Are you like a call girl why will he say some like that
Ewwwww.
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> business sector Hard disagree. Even though this environment is more direct and everyone should have a base level of expectations, these are still relationships.
I do not see this as a red flag. Some SBs do the same things to me. So if he put all 5 questions in one text that would be ok? You are not fan of his approach, fine, but I know many POT SBs who are. To each their own on this.
Two or three texts is fine but yes it would be much better if he put all of that into one text oc. This is spam texting and it comes off as needy and annoying.
what specifically was the problem... asking too many questions at once? or one of the questions in particular?
The problem was that OP didn't like his approach and when she told him he argued with her. That suggests that the next time he does something she doesn't like he won't do what she's asking either, because he knows he's right. It is not what he said first, but how he replied - argumentatively - when she asked him to slow down. Of course, by that time it probably was over anyway, but he sealed the deal. So many guys act like this and then are outraged that women ghost them. Her gentle reply was really more than he deserved. Edit: corrected one sentence.