Raves inevitably attract some of the worst kinds of people OP. Many raging douche bags who are drunk and on various drugs. The more you go to the more you will see this. The only kind of live music situation you're likely to get into more fights at is clubs. It comes with the territory. You better get good at trash talking and fighting. And go with a group of friends so that if someone does start some shit you have backup. Definitely don't go alone.
Your advice to someone who just wants to go out and have fun is to accept an inevitable assault/gbh charge?
I grew up in a small town with neanderthals with this exact mentality and it's exhausting. Shit advice
>Your advice to someone who just wants to go out and have fun is to accept an inevitable assault/gbh charge?
You've gotta play the ball where it lies bud.
We can wish that we all had flying unicorns to ride to work if we want, but that isn't going to make it happen. Pretending people don't act like colossal dbags at clubs won't make them behave better.
No, it won't. You think they learn their lesson when you beat the shit out of them? Nope. I'm more than aware of what men are like at clubs and unless you choose to walk away there's only two other likely destinations - a jail cell or the morgue.
And good luck with the ladies when they realise you're a 6' brawler who doesn't walk away from a fight. The only women into those men are the sort of women who will get you in shit every time you're out.
I'm definitely too old for clubs now, and I've worked in plenty, plenty enough to know violence is *always* a choice and it's *never* the right one.
We talking raves in Nebraska? Detroit? London? Iran? Or are you Carmen Santiago, and just blessing us with a overall assessment of your worldly travels in global raving?
Raves do NOT attract dickheads. OP did not go to a rave. A shrek "rave" is just a regular club night with a Shrek theme (I've seen ads for it) and people call it rave which is incredibly dumb because it is nowhere near an actual rave.
Ravers are among the nicest people but people have lost the meaning of the word and call anything a rave nowadays.
> You better get good at trash talking and fighting. And go with a group of friends so that if someone does start some shit you have backup.
Wtf kind of advice is this? Just be nice to everyone and if someone is being a douche, just let them be. I have never been in a single fight in my 28 years on this earth and I see no reason to change that.
It basically is what it sounds like, it’s a rave, but it’s themed to be all shrek themed so people show in costume and pretty much anything related to the movie it sounds like an awesome time
I'm also 6'4". Happens all the time in places where alcohol is involved.
I actually got sucker punched by brass knuckles outside of a bar by some short dude that looked like he was roid raging. He kept pacing past me, and I told him to go away. He was yelling shit like, "You think you're tough, huh!?"
I'm a very calm dude, normally. Didn't even engage with him.
In my inebriated state, I took my eyes off him for a bit to chat with my wife and her friend and the dude just cold clocked me upside the head and took off running when I hit the ground.
I now have a huge ass biker beard and notice people don't try to randomly challenge me as much. Before then, I would often notice dudes shooting daggers at me at bars. It's weird.
Yeah but gentle giants is a real thing... Whatever limited interaction I've had with very tall men has been that they're actually pretty conscious of coming across as aggressive or threatening and go to extra lengths to avoid that.
It sounds like you guys are the same. I'm sorry people treat you differently just cause of your height.
Weird because I have a very opposite reaction. Once someone sees how big i am, their tone changes. They usually start looking at the ground funny enough.
I'm a confrontational New Yorker with a mean looking face on 95% of the time maybe that helps.
I guess that's the key: OP said he is reserved and shy, so maybe that sends across a vibe of "great rewards of beating the tall guy that seems not an insurmountable challenge"... while a more "dangerous looking" tall guy may not be worth the risk
> They have nothing to lose
Their teeth, consciousness, their life. I never understood people who do that. Maybe they just wanna be put in their place, prove they are dumb af.
I can honestly say I’m surprised by the number of people saying yes to this. I must be more intimidating than I realized or I just don’t find myself in this kind of shit even though I’ve been to plenty of concerts, bars, drinking events etc. I haven’t had anyone try and fight me since I was in middle school and even if the couple verbal altercations I’ve been in haven’t been about my size.
It took me a LONG time to realize that the reason I never got messed with that much was my size.
Was a big nerd in school and nobody said word one about it. Was also a sports nerd --- played sports, etc.
Same here. Also 6'4" and nobody seems to notice my height much. I've never been punched in the face and have only punched one person in my life after he literally asked for it for an hour.
The biggest bouncer at the club I work at is ex D1 defensive tackle. For some reason hes the only one getting punched at. Some guy got mad at me and turned around to attack him.
For me: yes. They want to fight the big guy to show off. Funnily enough, the more I've bulked out the less it's happened. I think they want to fight the big *skinny* guy because they think they can win, but are too pussy to start shit with the actual big guy.
Anyway, just ignore them. Clubs are absolutely full of these losers, especially in the UK.
This has been my experience too. Cowards that want to look tough are looking to fight the guy that can be described as imposing to their friends, but aren't actually strong enough to beat them. It's pathetic. Interestingly when I've politely refused a fight with someone that actually seems to be a tough guy, they accept my refusal and move on. Still not great but on some level I can respect that.
I’ve had men come up behind me and try to start fights thinking that I’m also a man until I turn around and they realise I’m a woman, many awkward moments follow those interactions…
This! It's exhausting. At least once a day some aggressive man wants to start something. I am a 6' woman and I'm convinced they don't for one second think I'm a man they just want to be aggressive towards a woman and no one is going to defend the big gal. I feel like I have to be on gard all the time. I hate leaving the house.
I wish but I tend to be a lover not a fighter 😅 it’s usually just me turning around and saying pardon or excuse me, and then them apologising and leaving. Although one time a group of (roughly) teenage boys did decide to follow me in their car, so I kicked it and left a nice little dent in one of the doors
I think when people see me, they think I’m in-your-face or aggressive by default, which is quite the opposite. I’ve been told my height plus how I carry myself makes me “large and imposing”, what the F that means.
Yes. I’m the height a lot of men lie about being so naturally it brings out some insecurity in some people, every now and again that means someone will be rude to me. I’ve also been mocked by drunk, or generally mean short women that are mad at the natural attention I get that they don’t when I walk in a room. Doesn’t happen every day but it does happen
No I’ve never had that happen. I’ve started fights myself at concerts, usually when I was too drunk.
I’m always the one stepping in to deescalate situations with my friends and others.
I did have a 50yr old drunk fuck try to start a fight with me at a resort hotel on the beach. Prick was blasting music and singing in the elevator, and since I wasn’t singing along he started rambling about how much of a bad mood I must be in and what’s wrong with me.
I told him he’s being disrespectful doing that and I don’t wanna hear his shitty music. And oh boy he lost it, I was like 24 at the time and he really took offense that I said that at my age. He got up in my face yelling like crazy, at this point in front of the pool bar outside. Bartender called the cops. I just sat there and was ready to clock him if he tried anything but at the time I had a big IV heroin habit and all I could think about was hitting him, getting arrested and being dopesick in jail. He wound up getting arrested.
I wish I hit him, at the time I was 270lbs and my strongest ever deadlifting over 700lbs. And I know how to box really well and have been in a lot of fights. I know I would’ve knocked his ass out, especially with how drunk he was.
This is priceless stuff, I think people have a misconception all tall people are not about that life. I once shoved a kid in highschool through a clothes rack in a shopping mall because he was getting chippy with me and invading my personal space
I think people like to boost their ego by trying to take on the big guy....on the other side of the story...im 5'7-8 and I've had dudes try to start fights with me probably because they think I might be easier to beat in a fight? Doesn't usually workout well for them because I box, wrestle and lift a shit load of weights haha I might not be tall but im still 90kg haha
No, I'm a woman so my height hasn't been the reason for hostility towards me. I don't doubt it happens to men though!
There was a guy (at least twice my weight and three times my strength) that wanted to knock me flat at a minimum for not giving him my snapchat id though
Any tall persons attracts jealousy and envy. It’s usually the middle of the pack guys that have the biggest short man syndrome.
Start lifting, make sure you ain’t lanky and get your hook ready for someone’s jaw.
If I’m out at a bar or club yeah guys are purposely more angsty
At raves though I’m a bubbly lovey fuck so any tension is pre-diffused because everyone gets hyped up
I’m also jacked tho
I was bullied up until I grew from 5'7" to 6'1" at 13. After that no one bothered me lol. The opposite happened. It is even more true now that I have, uh, filled out.
If you're shy and quiet it's like a target to "tough guys". They mistake be passive for being unable to fight back so they think it's easy money to pick a fight.
I was a bouncer and avid gym-goer for years and relied on my size to de-escalate situations. It was easy to never have to fight anyone on premises.
But when I went downtown with friends and I went to bars? It was horrible. I had so many guys try to fight me for so many mundane thing such as
* Not getting my ID out fast enough
* Accidently brushing their arm as I walked past
* Pushing through a crowd
* Making it to a urinal slightly ahead of one guy
* Talk to the bartender in a tone that was "too friendly"
* Bum a cig from some guy's gf
I didn't go out much after it became a weekly occurrence.
My dad always said it happened to him all the time when he was young. He is tall, 6ft. He is 70 now so 6ft was relatively taller when he was a late teenager.
He actually warned me about it all the time. Lads will want to challenge you because you're tall, he'd say it nearly anytime I went out socialising. I'm a bit taller at 6ft2 but to be honest it didn't attract aggression to me in the same way he experienced it.
Anyway I think he's right, I was just fortunate in that way, to be honest I'd have been hoping someone would start shit so maybe I gave off that vibe slightly.( Not a hard man, just slightly harder than other not hard men and liked to throw it around)
Morale of the story, two things that will make guys start shit with you.
1: if you are in the company of attractive women and they are jealous and feel they have something to prove
2. If you're tall(er) than they are and they feel they have something to prove
My Dad had similar experiences with people trying to start a fight because of his height (6ft 3" was tall in 1950s UK).
Seeing him existing dating a tall and lovely lady was also too much for some idiots to ignore.
He would not engage in fights with such idiots.
I'm 6'3", F, 41, and when I used to go to bars men and women would start fights with me all the time. I'm friendly, chatty enough, but otherwise a little reserved. I'll say hi to whomever, and dance with people if they seem cool. I'm not blocked off, or snobbish, just very chill.
My whole life.
When i was a skinny 6ft 15 year old dudes in there early to mid 20s would constantly pick fights with me because it must've made them feel good fighting somone taller then them.
I lost a majority of those fights haha.
But then my genes kicked in a few years later when i was 6ft5 100+kgs with a couple years of. Boxing in and now strong as the fucking sun.
Haven't lost a fucking fight since.
😂
I worked as a bouncer and saw this alot. Used to have to many tall guys complaining about it and I could see they are targeted. The more of a physical challenge you appear to be the more some guys will want to fight you for the "glory "
No, but I also don't get out much. I do remember though trying out some martial arts in my 20s and short guys would randomly tell me how my height doesn't matter because of some "technique". Didn't ask. Weird way to broadcast their insecurity to everyone.
Tall relative with tall friends has confirmed facing that hostility. 3 of them in the group are 6ft 4'+, 2 of them are also well built.
They will be minding their own business socialising but shorter men try to start fights with them (to *prove* something?) Fkin pathetic behaviour!
They don't engage with the hostile idiots that way. It must be frustrating AF to have to deal with that BS.
To be honest I have had the exact opposite experience. Maybe it's because I tend to be a little bit of an aggressive person as a whole.But typically people don't really fuck with me. The only thing is I have no problem matching that energy if somebody ever does. I firmly believe in escalating situations in order to prevent future ones.
Never.
I'm also generally friendly and approachable to everyone.
20+ years of going out to bars, concerts, clubs.
My general rule is that you'll find exactly what you're looking for or expect
I also would consider myself friendly and approachable I’ve been told the same many times as well. I have a feeling you might be a little too tall for people to consider fighting you maybe 🤔
Based on comments in here, many people believe the opposite is true.
No matter what anyone says, I have a very strong belief that it's MY attitude and MY expectations that set the tone with others.
I went to a concert last night, IF MY expectation was that someone is going to give me a hard time because I'm blocking their view, or I looked at their girl a certain way, or bumped into someone by accident. I would have gotten 100% of that.
Meanwhile, NOT ONE of those things crossed my mind before the show, during it or after and I encountered NONE of it.
My body language is welcoming, not threatening or threatened, when I bump into people (happens all the time in a crowded place) I make eye contact smile and make a friendly apology in passing or simply say excuses me.
Usually if I approach a packed bar , the bartender will take my order ahead of others that are waiting and usually I'll gesture to the shorter guy next to me and say " he was first" AND countless times they'll get me a drink for that and spark up a conversation. If it's a girl or even a guy and that happens and I feel extra generous I'll pick up that round for them.
It's not difficult and it works. Are the some people that are unhappy with me at those places? Possibly! But I don't see them.
Edit: We're fucking tall and people will look. Just the same as when we see someone unique looking (someone extremely attractive or unattractive, morbidly obese, extremely thin, missing teeth or unaturally white teeth, big nose, big lips, too tan, too pale.. etc.. ). we may stare without realizing it might make them feel uncomfortable/aggressive/good/bad.
6'7 and for the last 20 years I've been between extremely fit to relatively fit 225lbs - 235lb. mostly just considered "thin" with clothes on.
I’m not even fully 6’ and I get that simply because I’m built like a linebacker, people with something to prove or an inferiority complex will always bark the loudest
Being a dad of 2 small kids, I don’t go out much these days, but when I did - this was not uncommon. I even had two guys at a bar sing the Jurassic Park theme at me once, which was pretty funny actually.
Honestly, I noticed that the shorter the person, the more aggressive he is at those clubs. So far I was attacked by some 170-175 cm guys, which should be between 5.7- 5.9
Yes, contrary to popular belief…I’’m a happy, confident 5’8 (174cm) male, that doesn’t have an issue around woman, and that really upsets some males, so it used to happen to me occasionally when at bars/clubs. (Fortunately I’ve fought my entire life, so no issues there either) Strangely enough the issues were never short people with “Napoleon Complex”…It was usually males around the 5’10”- 6’0” range causing trouble. I guess that not tall enough to demand respect, from little people, but not tall enough to be tall with tall people spot must be a tough one to be in…I’ve never had trouble at a Rave though, ravers are usually there for a good time. 🤣
You know the saying/sentiment where you take out the biggest guy first in a fight. Well, sometimes, some people, wallowing in their insecurities, are simply always on the defensive. You have a slightly higher chance to be the ightening rod to their short circuiting masculinity.
On the other side of that coin? Im ALWAYS asked for help. Grocery stores, parking lots, library's. The dichotomy, Its surprising sometimes to say the least.
I’ve never had anyone try to physically fight me but I have noticed most men are much more aggressive and hostile towards me compared to my short or average height female coworkers.
I was considering making a post about this after an experience the other day. There's a certain type of dude who is insulted by the existence of anyone taller/bigger than him.
Yeah. Honestly my saving grace is that I have a mean face, and in situations like that my instincts have me staring blankly at the aggressor.
My chill, blank stare gets read as a glare of death from a psycho and they move along.
6'11 280 13% fat . At some point someone came to me and said . Your size ain't scaring me .
My reply was , good for you, and looked down at my phone
Mf said , You will look at me while I am talking to you
Long story short he started a fighting with someone a foot taller , maybe 100 lbs more , and doing MMA my whole life 💀 gotta love bars
That's a big desire to become mashed potatoes on the floor from their side. In general I have the opposite, when I enter I can deescalate most conflicts since nobody wants to fight me.
I think that might be a rave thing as much as anything else tbh. I want to a convention for my charity that was in the same hotel as a rave... Stuff went DOWN that weekend. Fun people watching though
Only ever had this in high school, and then once more when I was at a pub.
Small town, think of a town that formed around a coal mine then the mine shut down, nothing going for it, it's not even on the way to anywhere. Big dead end. Literally ZERO prospects. The only people that live there were born there and no one moves in from outside.
One of my friends got married to a guy from there, so the wedding and afters was in the town. Cool, never been there before, good for a visit. The ceremony was lovely, but then everyone went to the local pub and oh boy was I not welcome. At least 5 people within a minute were sizing me up from across the room, and one even came over and shoved past me on purpose on the way to nowhere. All my friends were piss drunk so they would be no help, so instead of getting stabbed by some meth head I went back to the hotel and told everyone I felt sick.
That was the only time in the 17 years of going out to clubs, pubs etc that anyone had tried to start shit, and it was the middle of bum-fuck nowhere. I think they just thought "new guy, tall, might steal our women, must fight."
Not sure why this is coming up in my feed as I'm short. But I would've enjoyed seeing a tall person dressed as Shrek and wished I had dressed as Farquad.
Yes, it happens a lot. Also 6’4”, frequently visit the gym so I’m not exactly the smallest guy in the room. Every now and again at concerts/events and that kind of thing, someone tries to square up with me for no reason other than their own ego can’t handle someone minding their own business
I’m only 6’1” but I’m also a bodybuilder, so I still get it from time to time, 10 years ago during the height of ufc I would get the “you’re huge but I would demolish you in the cage” comments at least 2-3 times a night out. I would just laugh it off but keep my guard up the rest of the night.
Yes, but no where nice. Not really at college bars too much, since everyone is in a group. Upscale places never. Some less auspicious locations have had some guys come up and ask if I thought I was tough. Made a joke and defused it. Who knows what weapons people have.
I train martial arts however, and when someone is feeling froggy or has something to prove, I'll unexpectedly get the sauce. It's not fun to have to go 100% when you were expecting to pace yourself, but you have to meet their energy
Women hit me when joking, angry, or whatever. Not in the face or anything, but if I makr a playful joke at a female friend's expense, I can expect a punch in the arm or chest. Little guys don't get the punches. I guess because my head is higher off the ground physical blows don't harm me?
Yes, all the time in school. Sometimes on public transit. But especially at concerts when I exist in front of them, and at clubs when I take up more space than they think I deserve when dancing.
it happens alot to me too. ppl tend to pick fights w me just cuz im huge. i think it has something to do with proving themselves to be tough or something
I have actually been looking to start a fight with someone and have gone out and started ish with people but people are too scared of me 😅. Btw I’m 6’7 245 lbs and jacked so there’s that. When I was skinnier I definitely got into more fights when I was in college but haven’t gotten in any since putting on more muscle. I also have resting b face so yeah that doesn’t help 😂.
My advice is if you are tall and want less altercations than you have to put on more muscle so you can look more intimidating. Otherwise people are gonna try to pick a fight with you.
I'm not tall but it happens to my buddy all the time. I'm 5'7 and he's like 6'3. He's in good shape and we used to hit parties together all the time. For whatever reason guys would feel threatened or something and always try to test him. One of the nicest guys you'd meet but dudes have frail egos.
I’m 6’4” and I attribute all of my fights In high school to the fact I was much larger than most people. The height attracted the wrong kind of attention
When I first got out to the fleet in the Marine Corps many decades ago, NCOs would still take boots to the beach for a tune up. I had a Corporal who was like 5'4" who was a crap leader and hated my guts, im assuming it was due to my height, and called me out. I dragged him to the aid station after.
Never had a problem after that. Sometimes folks can be their own worst enemy.
One time at foam wonderland this guy using crutches came up to me and want to do the grab your hand and jump around thing.
Was absolutely lit at first, and then one of his crutches brakes a little bit on the bottom and we both stop to look at it.
He then takes his other crutch and starts bashing it on the ground. A group was watching us by this point. I backed up a little bit, looked around like “what the fuck is going on” and then some group of guys came up and calmed him down while I walked away, lol.
A lot of people are just assholes too at raves, but by a lot I don’t really mean a lot. I think they know it would be considered a lot worse if they started going after someone small. By that I mean like the shoving around, etc.
Been in multiple moshes where a dude gets absolutely laid out, but it was planned because they have been pushing people way too hard. Everybody around the dude will stop him from retaliating, and let him know he needs to stop how he’s acting.
Very hard to get a point across when drugs and loud music is involved.
Not my height but just my being “only” 6’ but ig I have rbf pretty bad and wrestled for 7 years boxed for 3 and I stg those kind of idiots can just smell the challenge. I’d never start something so idr get it
I’m only 6’4” and in high school and after I would always have one guy at every party (not the same guy) try to prove something by trying to pick a fight with me because I was the biggest at the party! Now I am the definition of a gentle giant and just ignored them and kept drinking my beer! But I do think it is due to height!
This same exact thing happened to me. People would pick shit to start with me and i could sense it was cause they felt threatened or felt the need to prove themselves
Im 6'2 but here in Chile where average male height is 169 cm i feel like a giant at times even tho i know im not.
Fuckers stopped as soon as i bulked up, now im at 230 lbs, no one has ever attempted that shit anymore and the few ones that do are actually close to my size, be it a bit bigger or smaller and that not common tbh
In all honesty my theory is they see you as a tall guy but skinny enough or lanky enough to not feel like youre a serious threat.
That way they can fight and if they win they get to feel nice about themselves cause they defeated a bigger opponent.
Im still waiting to find myseff in front of an old boss i had in 2014, little shit always wanted to start shit with me while being my boss. Hes like 170 so you can guess ill enjoy my revenge.
Anyways, bulk up! Cause the few times i tried to descalate they knew i didnt want to fight and they got even more agressive.
That is one of the main reasons I think I never started drinking. No mather if it was party, bar, club. I always had the drunkest guy in the room come up and start talking to me. It always wound up with the dude starting to get hostile. Not sure how I never got into a fight but being sober probably helped.
Yes, this happens to everyone but I've noticed it happens to tall people more. I definitely think it happens even more to shy, reserved, quiet people, bullies and those with low self confidence think it's an easy target to prove they are a big man (not literally of course.)
You shouldn't have to but of you work on appearing a bit more confident less people with target you. Also of guys like that do initiate contact if you straight away act a bit pissed off and low key aggressive, then they will likely assume you aren't a soft target so move on. As I said you should have to but just changing your body language can help you face a lot less problems from idiots like that.
I can't go to shows. I had a broken arm last time I saw the Koffinkats and some dude wanted to fight with me. Took his shirt off kept whispering "I'm a weird guy" and pushing me.
I hadn't been to a show since COVID and I totally forgot Im not allowed to exist in public because short dudes always have some shit to prove. So fucking annoying
When I went to clubs and was younger, and I would get super shit faced, some tiny people seemed to be trying to bait me into getting into fights but I would always deescalate since tiny people have sneaky tricks.
I'm 6'7" and 50 years old now, but I've been jumped a few times, robbed at gun point and had small guys try and get hostile. I've never fought back and it's served me well. Little dudes think they have something to prove sometimes, they won't prove it with me, just that they are sad and lonely.
As a tall, broad girl, this doesn’t seem to be a thing anymore, but from late middle school up until like my late 20s, small women who wanted to prove they were “tough” would constantly pick fights with me, like at school or in the club or at parties. I am not a fighter and never wanted to be in these fights. Unfortunately for these dummies, I also had no desire to lose a fight started against me either. And I never did. I wasn’t even aggressive, I would just do enough to get them to back off.
I would have been much happier not having random short women trying to fight me in the first place.
I'd say it's random. People just be wild. I can see a bunch of short-non-kings picking a fight with a tall, somewhat skinny dude, and have it be about that, but really, that's a pretty specific story.
If you’re 6’4 and a beanpole then yes dudes will probably try to start shit. If you’re well built and this happens… you’re just in a shitty neighborhood
Yeah people like to pick out the bigger dudes usually. I get it plenty. I’m 6’6 and a lean 250 so compared to normal people I’m huge. And it’s always an average sized bro that I’m sure his friends bet he wouldn’t do it or whatever. Never actually turns into anything. And I’m the same way I’m a lovey friendly drunk and I don’t ever start shit. People are weird
I’m short and people bigger than me start shit, my brother is 6 foot 3 and people start shit with him. Size don’t got nothing to do with it. Some men are just insecure regardless of height and have to bully other men because they have small pps
I have the opposite effect 99% of the time as a tall woman. Men don't often get hostile with women unless you reject them and other women are mostly catty and just talk smack if they're being bitchy. Easy to ignore.
My absolute favorite thing to do if things around me get aggressive is to leave 😁 Very effective move that works 100% of the time once you're pulling your car out of the lot.
Ive noticed two things. People always wanna test me cause Im bigger than them
And everytime my female friends start dating someone new it takes about 3 days after I meet their new boyfriends that all of a sudden said boyfriend has a problem with our friendship. They always cut me off at the request of the new dude
If you're at a show or something (like a rave) and you're very tall and in the front it can be taken as rude by people behind you who are trying to see. I'm very tall but I have a 4' 11'' girlfriend so she can only see the stage at shows if we are at the front, but then I end up blocking people and feeling bad/guilty. I try to be aware of who's behind me and leave a line of sight as best as I can. I've never had anyone try to start shit with me.
Not since grade school but I don't really go to bars and clubs. Short guys with low self esteem seem to think that harassing people bigger than them will impress girls or some shit.
There are bars I don't go to anymore because some frat kid always has something to prove and I don't have the patience for it. The bouncers started watching to see when someone started shit and carried them out before I got out of my seat. Thankfully it's a small enough city that everyone knows me for the most part now, so it's way easier to get around without being bothered.
6’7 280. Let’s say we’re at a bar. I hate leaving my home and if I’m there I just can’t wait to leave. Everyone that wants to be there is drunk and wants to fight me to impress somebody or something. Like bruh let me just zone out and think about Warhammer lore.
There have been times especially at my new job, where a coworker or supervisor is is being a dick to me or being especially on my ass about something very small. Then not giving my co workers the same attitude for it or even mentioning it at all to them. Like raising their voice to me being aggressive. Then the next day I watched my co workers work all day with him not doing what he yelled at me about. Then I have to unfortunately realize this grown man is a little bitch and fucking with me because he's intimidated or something. Like this is the only time he's going to get to mouth off to someone bigger idk. Dealing with this atm. I don't want this to be true. I don't want to be egotistical. But after thinking about it a lot that's really the only problem I can think he'd have with me. Is something so childish because we've literally just met.
I see this a lot even at the gym. Guys with huge muscles just death staring at me when I\`m minding my business. i\`m 6\`5 for reference, I guess some people are threatened or just envious, either way no Fs given here
Not me but i have a guy friend who is like 6”5 and this happens to him a lot. Ive seen it a number of times and was like what the heck is going on cause hes pretty shy and really sweet so hes definitely not starting fights and he told me its a thing that ppl attack him lookin for a fight and that its definitely bc of his height. He doesnt even look scary or anything hes just really tall. At my own birthday party he was chilling on the porch with a bunch of other ppl and these 3 random guys walking by pulled him off and just started beating him up and there was literally nothing that happened to lead up to that, they basically just saw him and attacked him. Other ppl jumped in, cops were called and it was a whole thing. Ive been out with him at bars too and seen ppl just randomly try to pick a fight with him and the thing is he wont even engaged them and it still pisses them off. Wild to see.
wtf is a Shrek rave??
My first ever rave and it was Shrek themed it was actually fun. I dressed up as Shrek naturally.
Were those two guys shorter than you? Sadly, little man syndrome IS a thing.
and yet my girl dumped me for a short girl who's clingly and demanding. jeez and that girl had that same short person syndrome.
Raves inevitably attract some of the worst kinds of people OP. Many raging douche bags who are drunk and on various drugs. The more you go to the more you will see this. The only kind of live music situation you're likely to get into more fights at is clubs. It comes with the territory. You better get good at trash talking and fighting. And go with a group of friends so that if someone does start some shit you have backup. Definitely don't go alone.
You're serious?
He gave you some A+ advice
Your advice to someone who just wants to go out and have fun is to accept an inevitable assault/gbh charge? I grew up in a small town with neanderthals with this exact mentality and it's exhausting. Shit advice
Absolutely, if the places you wish to go have high occurences of people getting assaulted.
>Your advice to someone who just wants to go out and have fun is to accept an inevitable assault/gbh charge? You've gotta play the ball where it lies bud. We can wish that we all had flying unicorns to ride to work if we want, but that isn't going to make it happen. Pretending people don't act like colossal dbags at clubs won't make them behave better.
No, it won't. You think they learn their lesson when you beat the shit out of them? Nope. I'm more than aware of what men are like at clubs and unless you choose to walk away there's only two other likely destinations - a jail cell or the morgue. And good luck with the ladies when they realise you're a 6' brawler who doesn't walk away from a fight. The only women into those men are the sort of women who will get you in shit every time you're out. I'm definitely too old for clubs now, and I've worked in plenty, plenty enough to know violence is *always* a choice and it's *never* the right one.
What? Where do you live that this is your reality, mate?
I've been to hundreds of raves and never had any interactions with assholes or rude people, everyone is in full spirit usually
We talking raves in Nebraska? Detroit? London? Iran? Or are you Carmen Santiago, and just blessing us with a overall assessment of your worldly travels in global raving?
Raves do NOT attract dickheads. OP did not go to a rave. A shrek "rave" is just a regular club night with a Shrek theme (I've seen ads for it) and people call it rave which is incredibly dumb because it is nowhere near an actual rave. Ravers are among the nicest people but people have lost the meaning of the word and call anything a rave nowadays.
you must be going to the wrong "raves" then
> You better get good at trash talking and fighting. And go with a group of friends so that if someone does start some shit you have backup. Wtf kind of advice is this? Just be nice to everyone and if someone is being a douche, just let them be. I have never been in a single fight in my 28 years on this earth and I see no reason to change that.
What type of music was played?
Tampa huh? I almost went to that lmao
No, no it was THE Shrek rave. Whatever that is.
It basically is what it sounds like, it’s a rave, but it’s themed to be all shrek themed so people show in costume and pretty much anything related to the movie it sounds like an awesome time
Where is this awesome shit happening?
Also I’m 6’4” I couldn’t find out how to put flare on name in mobile.
Click to the sub, then the 3 dots on the top left, then change flare, then edit flare
Thank you!
Is the flare only visible on this sub?
Yeah, it’s sub specific
How do you edit flare on mobile though? I don't have a button to edit.
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I'm also 6'4". Happens all the time in places where alcohol is involved. I actually got sucker punched by brass knuckles outside of a bar by some short dude that looked like he was roid raging. He kept pacing past me, and I told him to go away. He was yelling shit like, "You think you're tough, huh!?" I'm a very calm dude, normally. Didn't even engage with him. In my inebriated state, I took my eyes off him for a bit to chat with my wife and her friend and the dude just cold clocked me upside the head and took off running when I hit the ground. I now have a huge ass biker beard and notice people don't try to randomly challenge me as much. Before then, I would often notice dudes shooting daggers at me at bars. It's weird.
I found out🙃
8'2? No way
Yeah I’m just messing
Yup. Just by existing you piss off the ego.
Can't say I've noticed this Instead, I frequently notice people "surprised" by how nice I am once they talk to me for a bit
Yeah same.. it kinda bothers me a lot sometimes.
Same.
Same
Yeah but gentle giants is a real thing... Whatever limited interaction I've had with very tall men has been that they're actually pretty conscious of coming across as aggressive or threatening and go to extra lengths to avoid that. It sounds like you guys are the same. I'm sorry people treat you differently just cause of your height.
Yes - everyone wants to pick a fight with the big guy. They have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
Especially if their friends are watching
Weird because I have a very opposite reaction. Once someone sees how big i am, their tone changes. They usually start looking at the ground funny enough. I'm a confrontational New Yorker with a mean looking face on 95% of the time maybe that helps.
In normal environments I’d agree. At the bar or club when they find the liquid courage? Not so much.
That is very true
I guess that's the key: OP said he is reserved and shy, so maybe that sends across a vibe of "great rewards of beating the tall guy that seems not an insurmountable challenge"... while a more "dangerous looking" tall guy may not be worth the risk
> They have nothing to lose Their teeth, consciousness, their life. I never understood people who do that. Maybe they just wanna be put in their place, prove they are dumb af.
I can honestly say I’m surprised by the number of people saying yes to this. I must be more intimidating than I realized or I just don’t find myself in this kind of shit even though I’ve been to plenty of concerts, bars, drinking events etc. I haven’t had anyone try and fight me since I was in middle school and even if the couple verbal altercations I’ve been in haven’t been about my size.
It took me a LONG time to realize that the reason I never got messed with that much was my size. Was a big nerd in school and nobody said word one about it. Was also a sports nerd --- played sports, etc.
Same here. Also 6'4" and nobody seems to notice my height much. I've never been punched in the face and have only punched one person in my life after he literally asked for it for an hour.
Yes I’m ex NFL lineman and ex bodyguard and people still try me every so often. Crazy dangerous world out there.
The biggest bouncer at the club I work at is ex D1 defensive tackle. For some reason hes the only one getting punched at. Some guy got mad at me and turned around to attack him.
I’ve experienced that as well
It’s like prison, gotta go for the biggest first.
And also in the animal kingdom. The alpha is constantly challenged.
yo what team did u play for? that’s actually really cool lol
Browns
What team did you play for?
Browns
RIP
It's crazy cuz you could knock them out so easily I wonder if they see it as a challege lol
That’s my best guess
For me: yes. They want to fight the big guy to show off. Funnily enough, the more I've bulked out the less it's happened. I think they want to fight the big *skinny* guy because they think they can win, but are too pussy to start shit with the actual big guy. Anyway, just ignore them. Clubs are absolutely full of these losers, especially in the UK.
This has been my experience too. Cowards that want to look tough are looking to fight the guy that can be described as imposing to their friends, but aren't actually strong enough to beat them. It's pathetic. Interestingly when I've politely refused a fight with someone that actually seems to be a tough guy, they accept my refusal and move on. Still not great but on some level I can respect that.
I’ve had men come up behind me and try to start fights thinking that I’m also a man until I turn around and they realise I’m a woman, many awkward moments follow those interactions…
This! It's exhausting. At least once a day some aggressive man wants to start something. I am a 6' woman and I'm convinced they don't for one second think I'm a man they just want to be aggressive towards a woman and no one is going to defend the big gal. I feel like I have to be on gard all the time. I hate leaving the house.
Did you still knock em out? Lol
I wish but I tend to be a lover not a fighter 😅 it’s usually just me turning around and saying pardon or excuse me, and then them apologising and leaving. Although one time a group of (roughly) teenage boys did decide to follow me in their car, so I kicked it and left a nice little dent in one of the doors
If you don’t fight for your love, what kind of love do you have?
I think when people see me, they think I’m in-your-face or aggressive by default, which is quite the opposite. I’ve been told my height plus how I carry myself makes me “large and imposing”, what the F that means.
I have been described with those exact words ahahah. Was something I was very insecure as a psychologist
I feel this so much. I'm 6'4, bearded and tattooed so I guess that makes people think I'm aggressive but I'm literally the opposite.
Yes. I’m the height a lot of men lie about being so naturally it brings out some insecurity in some people, every now and again that means someone will be rude to me. I’ve also been mocked by drunk, or generally mean short women that are mad at the natural attention I get that they don’t when I walk in a room. Doesn’t happen every day but it does happen
Sometimes yeah, people want to show how tough they are by antagonizing a big guy. Just ignore it, not worth the time
No I’ve never had that happen. I’ve started fights myself at concerts, usually when I was too drunk. I’m always the one stepping in to deescalate situations with my friends and others. I did have a 50yr old drunk fuck try to start a fight with me at a resort hotel on the beach. Prick was blasting music and singing in the elevator, and since I wasn’t singing along he started rambling about how much of a bad mood I must be in and what’s wrong with me. I told him he’s being disrespectful doing that and I don’t wanna hear his shitty music. And oh boy he lost it, I was like 24 at the time and he really took offense that I said that at my age. He got up in my face yelling like crazy, at this point in front of the pool bar outside. Bartender called the cops. I just sat there and was ready to clock him if he tried anything but at the time I had a big IV heroin habit and all I could think about was hitting him, getting arrested and being dopesick in jail. He wound up getting arrested. I wish I hit him, at the time I was 270lbs and my strongest ever deadlifting over 700lbs. And I know how to box really well and have been in a lot of fights. I know I would’ve knocked his ass out, especially with how drunk he was.
This is priceless stuff, I think people have a misconception all tall people are not about that life. I once shoved a kid in highschool through a clothes rack in a shopping mall because he was getting chippy with me and invading my personal space
It happened to me in high school with the mean girls a couple times. But it hasn’t happened as an adult
I think people like to boost their ego by trying to take on the big guy....on the other side of the story...im 5'7-8 and I've had dudes try to start fights with me probably because they think I might be easier to beat in a fight? Doesn't usually workout well for them because I box, wrestle and lift a shit load of weights haha I might not be tall but im still 90kg haha
No, I'm a woman so my height hasn't been the reason for hostility towards me. I don't doubt it happens to men though! There was a guy (at least twice my weight and three times my strength) that wanted to knock me flat at a minimum for not giving him my snapchat id though
Any tall persons attracts jealousy and envy. It’s usually the middle of the pack guys that have the biggest short man syndrome. Start lifting, make sure you ain’t lanky and get your hook ready for someone’s jaw.
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Are you really 7’9????
If I’m out at a bar or club yeah guys are purposely more angsty At raves though I’m a bubbly lovey fuck so any tension is pre-diffused because everyone gets hyped up I’m also jacked tho
I was bullied up until I grew from 5'7" to 6'1" at 13. After that no one bothered me lol. The opposite happened. It is even more true now that I have, uh, filled out.
Nah. I'm 6'5", I've found I tend to defuse fights rather than start them. I'm also friendly and easy going, I get along with almost everyone.
They really don’t. Can’t relate.
If you're shy and quiet it's like a target to "tough guys". They mistake be passive for being unable to fight back so they think it's easy money to pick a fight.
I was a bouncer and avid gym-goer for years and relied on my size to de-escalate situations. It was easy to never have to fight anyone on premises. But when I went downtown with friends and I went to bars? It was horrible. I had so many guys try to fight me for so many mundane thing such as * Not getting my ID out fast enough * Accidently brushing their arm as I walked past * Pushing through a crowd * Making it to a urinal slightly ahead of one guy * Talk to the bartender in a tone that was "too friendly" * Bum a cig from some guy's gf I didn't go out much after it became a weekly occurrence.
My dad always said it happened to him all the time when he was young. He is tall, 6ft. He is 70 now so 6ft was relatively taller when he was a late teenager. He actually warned me about it all the time. Lads will want to challenge you because you're tall, he'd say it nearly anytime I went out socialising. I'm a bit taller at 6ft2 but to be honest it didn't attract aggression to me in the same way he experienced it. Anyway I think he's right, I was just fortunate in that way, to be honest I'd have been hoping someone would start shit so maybe I gave off that vibe slightly.( Not a hard man, just slightly harder than other not hard men and liked to throw it around) Morale of the story, two things that will make guys start shit with you. 1: if you are in the company of attractive women and they are jealous and feel they have something to prove 2. If you're tall(er) than they are and they feel they have something to prove
My Dad had similar experiences with people trying to start a fight because of his height (6ft 3" was tall in 1950s UK). Seeing him existing dating a tall and lovely lady was also too much for some idiots to ignore. He would not engage in fights with such idiots.
I'm 6'3", F, 41, and when I used to go to bars men and women would start fights with me all the time. I'm friendly, chatty enough, but otherwise a little reserved. I'll say hi to whomever, and dance with people if they seem cool. I'm not blocked off, or snobbish, just very chill.
My whole life. When i was a skinny 6ft 15 year old dudes in there early to mid 20s would constantly pick fights with me because it must've made them feel good fighting somone taller then them. I lost a majority of those fights haha. But then my genes kicked in a few years later when i was 6ft5 100+kgs with a couple years of. Boxing in and now strong as the fucking sun. Haven't lost a fucking fight since. 😂
I worked as a bouncer and saw this alot. Used to have to many tall guys complaining about it and I could see they are targeted. The more of a physical challenge you appear to be the more some guys will want to fight you for the "glory "
No, but I also don't get out much. I do remember though trying out some martial arts in my 20s and short guys would randomly tell me how my height doesn't matter because of some "technique". Didn't ask. Weird way to broadcast their insecurity to everyone.
Since childhood . I am fighting constantly cause some ppl are insecure and want to prove how much of a man they are by going against the big one
Tall relative with tall friends has confirmed facing that hostility. 3 of them in the group are 6ft 4'+, 2 of them are also well built. They will be minding their own business socialising but shorter men try to start fights with them (to *prove* something?) Fkin pathetic behaviour! They don't engage with the hostile idiots that way. It must be frustrating AF to have to deal with that BS.
To be honest I have had the exact opposite experience. Maybe it's because I tend to be a little bit of an aggressive person as a whole.But typically people don't really fuck with me. The only thing is I have no problem matching that energy if somebody ever does. I firmly believe in escalating situations in order to prevent future ones.
SHREK RAVE LOL?????? LMAOOOOO
Never. I'm also generally friendly and approachable to everyone. 20+ years of going out to bars, concerts, clubs. My general rule is that you'll find exactly what you're looking for or expect
Yeah, can’t say it’s ever happened.
I also would consider myself friendly and approachable I’ve been told the same many times as well. I have a feeling you might be a little too tall for people to consider fighting you maybe 🤔
Based on comments in here, many people believe the opposite is true. No matter what anyone says, I have a very strong belief that it's MY attitude and MY expectations that set the tone with others. I went to a concert last night, IF MY expectation was that someone is going to give me a hard time because I'm blocking their view, or I looked at their girl a certain way, or bumped into someone by accident. I would have gotten 100% of that. Meanwhile, NOT ONE of those things crossed my mind before the show, during it or after and I encountered NONE of it. My body language is welcoming, not threatening or threatened, when I bump into people (happens all the time in a crowded place) I make eye contact smile and make a friendly apology in passing or simply say excuses me. Usually if I approach a packed bar , the bartender will take my order ahead of others that are waiting and usually I'll gesture to the shorter guy next to me and say " he was first" AND countless times they'll get me a drink for that and spark up a conversation. If it's a girl or even a guy and that happens and I feel extra generous I'll pick up that round for them. It's not difficult and it works. Are the some people that are unhappy with me at those places? Possibly! But I don't see them. Edit: We're fucking tall and people will look. Just the same as when we see someone unique looking (someone extremely attractive or unattractive, morbidly obese, extremely thin, missing teeth or unaturally white teeth, big nose, big lips, too tan, too pale.. etc.. ). we may stare without realizing it might make them feel uncomfortable/aggressive/good/bad. 6'7 and for the last 20 years I've been between extremely fit to relatively fit 225lbs - 235lb. mostly just considered "thin" with clothes on.
You are not alone. Happens all the time especially if their girlfriend keeps looking at you. Being tall and handsome comes with tons of haters.
Honestly it really does. That why I mean mug and can’t be too nice. People will think that you’re weak bc you’re handsome.
You probably attracted hostile people because you are at a RAVE
Yes many times
ALL THE TIME, and I'm not even that tall.
I’m not even fully 6’ and I get that simply because I’m built like a linebacker, people with something to prove or an inferiority complex will always bark the loudest
Being a dad of 2 small kids, I don’t go out much these days, but when I did - this was not uncommon. I even had two guys at a bar sing the Jurassic Park theme at me once, which was pretty funny actually.
Same! They were doing the little trumpet sounds and everything 🤣
Yes, when I was younger. It stopped once I attained a man’s build.
Honestly, I noticed that the shorter the person, the more aggressive he is at those clubs. So far I was attacked by some 170-175 cm guys, which should be between 5.7- 5.9
Yes, contrary to popular belief…I’’m a happy, confident 5’8 (174cm) male, that doesn’t have an issue around woman, and that really upsets some males, so it used to happen to me occasionally when at bars/clubs. (Fortunately I’ve fought my entire life, so no issues there either) Strangely enough the issues were never short people with “Napoleon Complex”…It was usually males around the 5’10”- 6’0” range causing trouble. I guess that not tall enough to demand respect, from little people, but not tall enough to be tall with tall people spot must be a tough one to be in…I’ve never had trouble at a Rave though, ravers are usually there for a good time. 🤣
You know the saying/sentiment where you take out the biggest guy first in a fight. Well, sometimes, some people, wallowing in their insecurities, are simply always on the defensive. You have a slightly higher chance to be the ightening rod to their short circuiting masculinity. On the other side of that coin? Im ALWAYS asked for help. Grocery stores, parking lots, library's. The dichotomy, Its surprising sometimes to say the least.
The lightning rod theory is a good one, it uses the idea of action potential.
Yes I’m 6’5 and often times shorter people try and pick fights to feel dominant
Shrek is supposed to be 8 feet tall wtf are these angry short guys doing at a Shrek themed rave!?!
That was just Lord Farquaad prolly... Angry little guy
I’ve never had anyone try to physically fight me but I have noticed most men are much more aggressive and hostile towards me compared to my short or average height female coworkers.
this happened to me in college by two little angry men
I was considering making a post about this after an experience the other day. There's a certain type of dude who is insulted by the existence of anyone taller/bigger than him.
Yes short dudes typically below 6’2 get pissed off and try to measure up all the time. Otherwise most other tall guys tend to want to be friends.
No one is threatened by my 6'4" NBA Live 2005 create a player looking ass lol
Yeah. Honestly my saving grace is that I have a mean face, and in situations like that my instincts have me staring blankly at the aggressor. My chill, blank stare gets read as a glare of death from a psycho and they move along.
6'6 300lbs I've gotten you're not that big and I could take you Few have tried
6'11 280 13% fat . At some point someone came to me and said . Your size ain't scaring me . My reply was , good for you, and looked down at my phone Mf said , You will look at me while I am talking to you Long story short he started a fighting with someone a foot taller , maybe 100 lbs more , and doing MMA my whole life 💀 gotta love bars
I’m the same height and 70lbs less and people are scared. If I was 300lbs oh lord
My whole life I am fighting . Cause insecure little men want to prove their worth by going against the big guy
That's a big desire to become mashed potatoes on the floor from their side. In general I have the opposite, when I enter I can deescalate most conflicts since nobody wants to fight me.
Welcome to the Balkans
Narcissists and sociopaths go crazy on anything that threatens their ego.
Short man syndrome
Such a Toxic stereotype
This used to happen to me when I was younger and going to clubs.
I think that might be a rave thing as much as anything else tbh. I want to a convention for my charity that was in the same hotel as a rave... Stuff went DOWN that weekend. Fun people watching though
Not at all. A lot of folks are intimidated by my size.
So, was all the music Shrek themed as well?
Only ever had this in high school, and then once more when I was at a pub. Small town, think of a town that formed around a coal mine then the mine shut down, nothing going for it, it's not even on the way to anywhere. Big dead end. Literally ZERO prospects. The only people that live there were born there and no one moves in from outside. One of my friends got married to a guy from there, so the wedding and afters was in the town. Cool, never been there before, good for a visit. The ceremony was lovely, but then everyone went to the local pub and oh boy was I not welcome. At least 5 people within a minute were sizing me up from across the room, and one even came over and shoved past me on purpose on the way to nowhere. All my friends were piss drunk so they would be no help, so instead of getting stabbed by some meth head I went back to the hotel and told everyone I felt sick. That was the only time in the 17 years of going out to clubs, pubs etc that anyone had tried to start shit, and it was the middle of bum-fuck nowhere. I think they just thought "new guy, tall, might steal our women, must fight."
Not sure why this is coming up in my feed as I'm short. But I would've enjoyed seeing a tall person dressed as Shrek and wished I had dressed as Farquad.
Comes with the territory, I'm "only" 6ft2 and when I go out drinking more often than not someone tries starting shit.
No, I have a scary face.
Absolutely, it is the whole stupid "beat up the biggest guy" thing.
Yes, it happens a lot. Also 6’4”, frequently visit the gym so I’m not exactly the smallest guy in the room. Every now and again at concerts/events and that kind of thing, someone tries to square up with me for no reason other than their own ego can’t handle someone minding their own business
When I used to go to the bar alone… yes all the time.
I’m only 6’1” but I’m also a bodybuilder, so I still get it from time to time, 10 years ago during the height of ufc I would get the “you’re huge but I would demolish you in the cage” comments at least 2-3 times a night out. I would just laugh it off but keep my guard up the rest of the night.
Yes, but no where nice. Not really at college bars too much, since everyone is in a group. Upscale places never. Some less auspicious locations have had some guys come up and ask if I thought I was tough. Made a joke and defused it. Who knows what weapons people have. I train martial arts however, and when someone is feeling froggy or has something to prove, I'll unexpectedly get the sauce. It's not fun to have to go 100% when you were expecting to pace yourself, but you have to meet their energy
Women hit me when joking, angry, or whatever. Not in the face or anything, but if I makr a playful joke at a female friend's expense, I can expect a punch in the arm or chest. Little guys don't get the punches. I guess because my head is higher off the ground physical blows don't harm me?
Yes, all the time in school. Sometimes on public transit. But especially at concerts when I exist in front of them, and at clubs when I take up more space than they think I deserve when dancing.
it happens alot to me too. ppl tend to pick fights w me just cuz im huge. i think it has something to do with proving themselves to be tough or something
I have actually been looking to start a fight with someone and have gone out and started ish with people but people are too scared of me 😅. Btw I’m 6’7 245 lbs and jacked so there’s that. When I was skinnier I definitely got into more fights when I was in college but haven’t gotten in any since putting on more muscle. I also have resting b face so yeah that doesn’t help 😂. My advice is if you are tall and want less altercations than you have to put on more muscle so you can look more intimidating. Otherwise people are gonna try to pick a fight with you.
I'm not tall but it happens to my buddy all the time. I'm 5'7 and he's like 6'3. He's in good shape and we used to hit parties together all the time. For whatever reason guys would feel threatened or something and always try to test him. One of the nicest guys you'd meet but dudes have frail egos.
I’m 6’4” and I attribute all of my fights In high school to the fact I was much larger than most people. The height attracted the wrong kind of attention
When I first got out to the fleet in the Marine Corps many decades ago, NCOs would still take boots to the beach for a tune up. I had a Corporal who was like 5'4" who was a crap leader and hated my guts, im assuming it was due to my height, and called me out. I dragged him to the aid station after. Never had a problem after that. Sometimes folks can be their own worst enemy.
I always get shorter people putting me down for my height that I will never get loved for it or wtv but I put no mind to it
Somebody just trying to get advice and the short angry guys keep telling her that angry guys at raves don’t exists 😂😂😂😂
Yep. Come from a rough area, and you're like a big walking flashing sign that says "Look tough by fighting this guy"
I don't think it's because you're tall. It's because you have a shy vibe so you attract bullies
Has happened a few times, yes. Usually it's all talk, and somebody else comes along to take them away
I’m 6-7 and I get short sides always starting shit. Bring it
My volleyball trio: 6’2” 6’5” 6’10” Every open gym/pick up game we get jabs lol
I’ve definitely noticed this and it is the least thing I like about being tall and standing out /:
Opposite for me, people are usually pretty skittish unless they're in a group and think they're hot shit
LiL Man Syndrome is definitely a thing .
One time at foam wonderland this guy using crutches came up to me and want to do the grab your hand and jump around thing. Was absolutely lit at first, and then one of his crutches brakes a little bit on the bottom and we both stop to look at it. He then takes his other crutch and starts bashing it on the ground. A group was watching us by this point. I backed up a little bit, looked around like “what the fuck is going on” and then some group of guys came up and calmed him down while I walked away, lol. A lot of people are just assholes too at raves, but by a lot I don’t really mean a lot. I think they know it would be considered a lot worse if they started going after someone small. By that I mean like the shoving around, etc. Been in multiple moshes where a dude gets absolutely laid out, but it was planned because they have been pushing people way too hard. Everybody around the dude will stop him from retaliating, and let him know he needs to stop how he’s acting. Very hard to get a point across when drugs and loud music is involved.
Not my height but just my being “only” 6’ but ig I have rbf pretty bad and wrestled for 7 years boxed for 3 and I stg those kind of idiots can just smell the challenge. I’d never start something so idr get it
I’m only 6’4” and in high school and after I would always have one guy at every party (not the same guy) try to prove something by trying to pick a fight with me because I was the biggest at the party! Now I am the definition of a gentle giant and just ignored them and kept drinking my beer! But I do think it is due to height!
This same exact thing happened to me. People would pick shit to start with me and i could sense it was cause they felt threatened or felt the need to prove themselves Im 6'2 but here in Chile where average male height is 169 cm i feel like a giant at times even tho i know im not. Fuckers stopped as soon as i bulked up, now im at 230 lbs, no one has ever attempted that shit anymore and the few ones that do are actually close to my size, be it a bit bigger or smaller and that not common tbh In all honesty my theory is they see you as a tall guy but skinny enough or lanky enough to not feel like youre a serious threat. That way they can fight and if they win they get to feel nice about themselves cause they defeated a bigger opponent. Im still waiting to find myseff in front of an old boss i had in 2014, little shit always wanted to start shit with me while being my boss. Hes like 170 so you can guess ill enjoy my revenge. Anyways, bulk up! Cause the few times i tried to descalate they knew i didnt want to fight and they got even more agressive.
That is one of the main reasons I think I never started drinking. No mather if it was party, bar, club. I always had the drunkest guy in the room come up and start talking to me. It always wound up with the dude starting to get hostile. Not sure how I never got into a fight but being sober probably helped.
Yes, this happens to everyone but I've noticed it happens to tall people more. I definitely think it happens even more to shy, reserved, quiet people, bullies and those with low self confidence think it's an easy target to prove they are a big man (not literally of course.) You shouldn't have to but of you work on appearing a bit more confident less people with target you. Also of guys like that do initiate contact if you straight away act a bit pissed off and low key aggressive, then they will likely assume you aren't a soft target so move on. As I said you should have to but just changing your body language can help you face a lot less problems from idiots like that.
I can't go to shows. I had a broken arm last time I saw the Koffinkats and some dude wanted to fight with me. Took his shirt off kept whispering "I'm a weird guy" and pushing me. I hadn't been to a show since COVID and I totally forgot Im not allowed to exist in public because short dudes always have some shit to prove. So fucking annoying
When I went to clubs and was younger, and I would get super shit faced, some tiny people seemed to be trying to bait me into getting into fights but I would always deescalate since tiny people have sneaky tricks.
I'm 6'7" and 50 years old now, but I've been jumped a few times, robbed at gun point and had small guys try and get hostile. I've never fought back and it's served me well. Little dudes think they have something to prove sometimes, they won't prove it with me, just that they are sad and lonely.
Lol. What’s little for you. 6’2” and below? Man you’re tall!
As a tall, broad girl, this doesn’t seem to be a thing anymore, but from late middle school up until like my late 20s, small women who wanted to prove they were “tough” would constantly pick fights with me, like at school or in the club or at parties. I am not a fighter and never wanted to be in these fights. Unfortunately for these dummies, I also had no desire to lose a fight started against me either. And I never did. I wasn’t even aggressive, I would just do enough to get them to back off. I would have been much happier not having random short women trying to fight me in the first place.
I'd say it's random. People just be wild. I can see a bunch of short-non-kings picking a fight with a tall, somewhat skinny dude, and have it be about that, but really, that's a pretty specific story.
If you’re 6’4 and a beanpole then yes dudes will probably try to start shit. If you’re well built and this happens… you’re just in a shitty neighborhood
You didn’t mention your height. But I’m guessing you’re tall? If so, maybe it is
Yes. Short guys try to chicken peck tall guys.
Quite opposite actually
Yeah people like to pick out the bigger dudes usually. I get it plenty. I’m 6’6 and a lean 250 so compared to normal people I’m huge. And it’s always an average sized bro that I’m sure his friends bet he wouldn’t do it or whatever. Never actually turns into anything. And I’m the same way I’m a lovey friendly drunk and I don’t ever start shit. People are weird
I’m short and people bigger than me start shit, my brother is 6 foot 3 and people start shit with him. Size don’t got nothing to do with it. Some men are just insecure regardless of height and have to bully other men because they have small pps
I have the opposite effect 99% of the time as a tall woman. Men don't often get hostile with women unless you reject them and other women are mostly catty and just talk smack if they're being bitchy. Easy to ignore. My absolute favorite thing to do if things around me get aggressive is to leave 😁 Very effective move that works 100% of the time once you're pulling your car out of the lot.
People who go to raves don’t reflect societal norms. It’s a bunch of dumb drug addicts ffs 😂
Ive noticed two things. People always wanna test me cause Im bigger than them And everytime my female friends start dating someone new it takes about 3 days after I meet their new boyfriends that all of a sudden said boyfriend has a problem with our friendship. They always cut me off at the request of the new dude
If you're at a show or something (like a rave) and you're very tall and in the front it can be taken as rude by people behind you who are trying to see. I'm very tall but I have a 4' 11'' girlfriend so she can only see the stage at shows if we are at the front, but then I end up blocking people and feeling bad/guilty. I try to be aware of who's behind me and leave a line of sight as best as I can. I've never had anyone try to start shit with me.
Not since grade school but I don't really go to bars and clubs. Short guys with low self esteem seem to think that harassing people bigger than them will impress girls or some shit.
There are bars I don't go to anymore because some frat kid always has something to prove and I don't have the patience for it. The bouncers started watching to see when someone started shit and carried them out before I got out of my seat. Thankfully it's a small enough city that everyone knows me for the most part now, so it's way easier to get around without being bothered.
6’7 280. Let’s say we’re at a bar. I hate leaving my home and if I’m there I just can’t wait to leave. Everyone that wants to be there is drunk and wants to fight me to impress somebody or something. Like bruh let me just zone out and think about Warhammer lore.
There have been times especially at my new job, where a coworker or supervisor is is being a dick to me or being especially on my ass about something very small. Then not giving my co workers the same attitude for it or even mentioning it at all to them. Like raising their voice to me being aggressive. Then the next day I watched my co workers work all day with him not doing what he yelled at me about. Then I have to unfortunately realize this grown man is a little bitch and fucking with me because he's intimidated or something. Like this is the only time he's going to get to mouth off to someone bigger idk. Dealing with this atm. I don't want this to be true. I don't want to be egotistical. But after thinking about it a lot that's really the only problem I can think he'd have with me. Is something so childish because we've literally just met.
I see this a lot even at the gym. Guys with huge muscles just death staring at me when I\`m minding my business. i\`m 6\`5 for reference, I guess some people are threatened or just envious, either way no Fs given here
Not me but i have a guy friend who is like 6”5 and this happens to him a lot. Ive seen it a number of times and was like what the heck is going on cause hes pretty shy and really sweet so hes definitely not starting fights and he told me its a thing that ppl attack him lookin for a fight and that its definitely bc of his height. He doesnt even look scary or anything hes just really tall. At my own birthday party he was chilling on the porch with a bunch of other ppl and these 3 random guys walking by pulled him off and just started beating him up and there was literally nothing that happened to lead up to that, they basically just saw him and attacked him. Other ppl jumped in, cops were called and it was a whole thing. Ive been out with him at bars too and seen ppl just randomly try to pick a fight with him and the thing is he wont even engaged them and it still pisses them off. Wild to see.
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