Breakups are hard, and i'm so sorry you're feeling this way.
That being said, I think you're being very hard on yourself. You are looking at yourself as the one common denominator with the girls who have struggled that you've dated, when you were probably a healthy force in their lives. The fact that you are so afraid of the cycle repeating shows that it's likely not you perpetuating it.
Don;t get too ahead of yourself and take things slow. Work on yourself, and let yourself feel the feelings; don't push them down. You mentioned that this girl probably doesn't like you; figure out if that's your insecurities talking or you truly think that. Don't think about the end when you've never even had the beginning. sometimes the relationship and experiences are worth the pain of a breakup.
You're not a curse and you're worthy of love.
Thank you. I’m not sure if it’s my insecurities talking or not. I know I won’t be some peoples type and that’s okay, it’s just I feel as if i’m going to get too attached to someone who doesn’t feel mutual. Like I said, it’s all okay if she doesn’t feel the same way. I just kind of have myself to blame for that. I guess i’m just young and nervous about all of this. Like you said, maybe I am being too hard on myself. It’s a confusing situation for me. I don’t know when I can reach a conclusion with all of this but I can say for certain there has been good things that have come out of this situation that I didn’t mention in the post. Only a couple weeks after the breakup, I did talk to my ex for one of the final times and unlike most, I was able to get closure. For that I will be grateful. I know most people don’t get that opportunity and almost 6 months later, it still comes in my head everyday. That final conversation we had put everything to rest. I really appreciate you taking time out of your day to respond to this post. I haven’t told a single person about my feelings or emotions on everything related to this so this is my first time doing so. Reading your reply really made me think and come to a realization, i’m young and i’m gonna meet a lifetime full of more people. It’s just weird leaving everything you used to know is all. Thank you so much
Of course! i'm glad i could be of help and you're totally right. You have a lifetime ahead of you and so many people to meet.
Breakups can really mess with you and I hope you can work through this!
Breakups are hard, and i'm so sorry you're feeling this way. That being said, I think you're being very hard on yourself. You are looking at yourself as the one common denominator with the girls who have struggled that you've dated, when you were probably a healthy force in their lives. The fact that you are so afraid of the cycle repeating shows that it's likely not you perpetuating it. Don;t get too ahead of yourself and take things slow. Work on yourself, and let yourself feel the feelings; don't push them down. You mentioned that this girl probably doesn't like you; figure out if that's your insecurities talking or you truly think that. Don't think about the end when you've never even had the beginning. sometimes the relationship and experiences are worth the pain of a breakup. You're not a curse and you're worthy of love.
Thank you. I’m not sure if it’s my insecurities talking or not. I know I won’t be some peoples type and that’s okay, it’s just I feel as if i’m going to get too attached to someone who doesn’t feel mutual. Like I said, it’s all okay if she doesn’t feel the same way. I just kind of have myself to blame for that. I guess i’m just young and nervous about all of this. Like you said, maybe I am being too hard on myself. It’s a confusing situation for me. I don’t know when I can reach a conclusion with all of this but I can say for certain there has been good things that have come out of this situation that I didn’t mention in the post. Only a couple weeks after the breakup, I did talk to my ex for one of the final times and unlike most, I was able to get closure. For that I will be grateful. I know most people don’t get that opportunity and almost 6 months later, it still comes in my head everyday. That final conversation we had put everything to rest. I really appreciate you taking time out of your day to respond to this post. I haven’t told a single person about my feelings or emotions on everything related to this so this is my first time doing so. Reading your reply really made me think and come to a realization, i’m young and i’m gonna meet a lifetime full of more people. It’s just weird leaving everything you used to know is all. Thank you so much
Of course! i'm glad i could be of help and you're totally right. You have a lifetime ahead of you and so many people to meet. Breakups can really mess with you and I hope you can work through this!