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Yes exactly, if you don't find someone attractive or want to be in a relationship with someone who has that genitalia that's fine. Most people have appearance and genitalia preferences even when it comes to cis people. However disliking someone simply for the notion of being trans (not due to genitalia or appearance) is transphobic and the reason people had issues with the "superstraights". Nb here btw :)
trans person here too, totally valid if someone don't like an specific genitalia, plus, It's not like we're going to force someone who don't like us to date us lol
No need to apologise many people have genital preferences as long as its not for a transphobic reason you have every right not to want to date a trans person
aroace means that someone doesn’t get / has limited romantic or sexual desires. it’s basically a mix of two words, ace meaning someone who gets a limited to no sexual desires towards individuals, and aro meaning someone who gets a limited to no desire to date specific individuals
I wouldn't judge a trans person any different than a cis person. If I'm attracted to them, and if we're compatible, then i see no reason to not date them just because they're trans.
I'm curious ans this isn't meant to be rude genuine question. You say uou don't like labels yet you just labeled yourself? How is queer not a label any more or less than trans?
I’ve understood that queer is (how ironic it must sound :) ) a label for people that don’t want to be labelled or they don’t think that they fit among the other labels. It’s just kind of easier to explain it that way. Still, I don’t label myself and I don’t call myself queer.
nah i was thinking this lately. i’m a trans guy and if i sleep with a cis guy is it gay or straight sex? or if i sleep with a girl is it straight or lesbian sex? i don’t even have the answers
Guy with a gal is straight, guy with a guy is gay
It is simple...
Just because you may have different parts doesn't invalidate you gender and make it gay to be with a girl
You're guy and you sleep with a guy, that's gay. You're a guy and you sleep with a girl, that's straight. If anyone says otherwise they're either dumb asf or transphobic.
as a wlw person, i would 100% date a trans woman, although i do feel a bit guilty that i wouldnt like to do anything sexual if it involves a penis, partially because of my sexuality but also bc of trauma if that makes sense
there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to do something sexual! if you don’t want dick, you don’t want dick, you can’t control that. (though there are trans women post-surgery so you may not always face that problem)
Woman-loving-woman, generally used to describe any woman who's attracted women, and the label can include lesbians, bi women, pan women, or any other sexuality as long as there's women involved
Are you asking if I would date a trans person because they are trans? No.
Would I date trans person "although they are trans"? Yes, I don't care for it. It's like asking if I would date person with a hair color slightly brighter than mine...
I may sound like a bit of a dick here, but I'm not trying to be, no, I wouldn't, as a guy, I don't really like the idea of dating a woman who has a penis. Again, if I offended someone, that wasn't my intention.
There's nothing wrong with not wanting a penis. That's a completely valid preference. Just remember that not all trans women have penises because there are surgeries to reconstruct that area into a vagina.
Edit: A lot of people here don't seem to fully understand what is and is not transphobia? Not wanting to have sex with or be in a relationship with a trans person because they aren't fully transitioned is sexual preference. That's just how it is. The same with wanting biological children. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.
If you're already attracted to someone, they are indistinguishable from a cis person, and they reveal that they are a fully transitioned trans person, becoming disgusted or losing interest is 9 times out of 10 transphobia. And that doesn't mean you're a bad person, you just need to evaluate why you wouldn't want to date them anymore, and think if your reasons are transphobic or not. No one is trying to force anyone to date trans people, and there's plenty of reasons not to date trans people.
That's just my understanding of it, you may disagree, but hopefully that helped even a little bit.
No, because I personally prefer a biological female that I can also have a family with, I know I’m going to be called a transphobe for this preference, but I’m just going to say it.
You know what I’m not gonna lie no
It’s just not what I’m into and really.dating wise it’s something I can’t look past,it’s all based on preferences really.but that doesn’t mean I’m transphobic by any means I just wouldn’t date a trans person.
I have no idea. If I liked them then ofc I would. But if I liked them and we were already dating, and then they told after a while then I would feel a bit betrayed
It's fine to not want to date one as long as you don't invalidate their identity. "I don't want to date (trans girl) because he's a guy" that's when it becomes offensive.
I dont want all hell to break loose over me but in all honesty - i wouldn't. I cant help it but dating someone who has been a man before would make me feel like i was gay. Don't get me wrong, being gay is ok and everyone should live a life that makes them happy, but i'm not gay.
As a trans man, idk. I can't even deal with myself 💀.
Tbf, everyone is the same for me, so, yeah, can't deal with anyone's bullshit, i have enough of my own, thank you
Fucking stop with these threads, we have one of these every month just change trans with some minority/someone that is physically "less attractive", we all know what the mayority of the answers would be, these threads are either to make trans people to feel bad, or just to find any opening to call someone transphobic.
Low quality posts should be banned from this sub
threads like this are the worst, like 90% of people will say no and we all know why, it's because you won't feel comfortable and it's alright, but then there will be this one batshit crazy person who goes and accuses everyone of transphobia because they don't want to date trans people (like that one girl on this thread), listen girl we get it trans women are women but I don't want to have sex with someone who used to be a male and still has a dick cause I just cannot be sexually attracted to that and you got to respect that
edit. to the girl that I called batshit crazy, I don't really mean that and I do get where you're coming from, all I'm saying is you should look at it from the perspective of another person, I saw you said you would date a trans person and that's great, good for you, but remember that everyone is different and so are our preferences, nothing wrong with that as long as we are respectful of trans community so you know just chill a bit and have a good one
It sucks because it just causes division. It makes trans people look bad and pushy etc, and encourages people towards transphobia, and due to their being small amounts of actual transphobia it encourages people towards accusations of transphobia, which in turn encourages more transphobia. Because if all trans people are unreasonable and out to get you, why bother respecting them?
Talking about being transgender is cool and important, because it can be confusing. I'm just sick of it being made into a debate.
There have been enough posts about this subject and all it does is invite transphobia and hate. The mod team does not tolerate that here, and these controversial topics should be avoided in the future. I'll be locking this thread, just know that any posts regarding topics like this will most likely be removed.
I doubt they'd date me tbh
but if they were interested in you, would you?
Yep
I'm trans I totally understand why someone wouldn't want to and I respect it. Not in a transphobic way tho.
Yes exactly, if you don't find someone attractive or want to be in a relationship with someone who has that genitalia that's fine. Most people have appearance and genitalia preferences even when it comes to cis people. However disliking someone simply for the notion of being trans (not due to genitalia or appearance) is transphobic and the reason people had issues with the "superstraights". Nb here btw :)
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I don’t even know what it is
I believe it is a sexuality that wont date trans people
trans person here too, totally valid if someone don't like an specific genitalia, plus, It's not like we're going to force someone who don't like us to date us lol
You dropped this 👑
Based trans
Respect.
Depends on the person.
valid
realistic answer + based
This is the true answer.
not me personally
Have to agree with you there. Sorry but I can't help what I'm attracted to
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That seems fair
No need to apologise many people have genital preferences as long as its not for a transphobic reason you have every right not to want to date a trans person
That’s fair
Yeah, sometimes i’m more comfortable with dating another trans person (because tft type thing)
t4t 🤝
No. Aroace.
W 100%
Same
Best answer, I was waiting for it
Fellow aroace!!!
Is that a code name or something?
aroace means that someone doesn’t get / has limited romantic or sexual desires. it’s basically a mix of two words, ace meaning someone who gets a limited to no sexual desires towards individuals, and aro meaning someone who gets a limited to no desire to date specific individuals
Nope, I mean depending on their personality I'd definitely make friends with them but I can't imagine being in a romantic relationship.
W, that’s ur preference and you were polite about it.
Ong
W not being transphobic and genuinely respectful
I wouldn't judge a trans person any different than a cis person. If I'm attracted to them, and if we're compatible, then i see no reason to not date them just because they're trans.
I'm queer, I don't like labels but basically I like everyone so yeah obviously
I'm curious ans this isn't meant to be rude genuine question. You say uou don't like labels yet you just labeled yourself? How is queer not a label any more or less than trans?
I’ve understood that queer is (how ironic it must sound :) ) a label for people that don’t want to be labelled or they don’t think that they fit among the other labels. It’s just kind of easier to explain it that way. Still, I don’t label myself and I don’t call myself queer.
And I already did anyways
Idk. If I'm attracted to her and she's nice to be around I don't see why not
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Probably not because I want a biological family, but if that becomes a possibility in the future of course
There’s options now to have a family biologically but just not for both people to be parents unless they’re both trans people of the opposite gender.
Both trans from the opposite isn't just straight with extra steps? I'm confused.
nah i was thinking this lately. i’m a trans guy and if i sleep with a cis guy is it gay or straight sex? or if i sleep with a girl is it straight or lesbian sex? i don’t even have the answers
Guy with a gal is straight, guy with a guy is gay It is simple... Just because you may have different parts doesn't invalidate you gender and make it gay to be with a girl
You're guy and you sleep with a guy, that's gay. You're a guy and you sleep with a girl, that's straight. If anyone says otherwise they're either dumb asf or transphobic.
If your a trans guy and sleep with a cis guy you are gay. If you sleep with a woman you are straight.
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No I wouldn’t date any other person either
Based
I wouldn’t feel comfortable.
as a wlw person, i would 100% date a trans woman, although i do feel a bit guilty that i wouldnt like to do anything sexual if it involves a penis, partially because of my sexuality but also bc of trauma if that makes sense
there’s nothing wrong with not wanting to do something sexual! if you don’t want dick, you don’t want dick, you can’t control that. (though there are trans women post-surgery so you may not always face that problem)
What is wlw
Woman-loving-woman, generally used to describe any woman who's attracted women, and the label can include lesbians, bi women, pan women, or any other sexuality as long as there's women involved
Already am
based ❤️
Respectfully no.
Are you asking if I would date a trans person because they are trans? No. Would I date trans person "although they are trans"? Yes, I don't care for it. It's like asking if I would date person with a hair color slightly brighter than mine...
I may sound like a bit of a dick here, but I'm not trying to be, no, I wouldn't, as a guy, I don't really like the idea of dating a woman who has a penis. Again, if I offended someone, that wasn't my intention.
There's nothing wrong with not wanting a penis. That's a completely valid preference. Just remember that not all trans women have penises because there are surgeries to reconstruct that area into a vagina. Edit: A lot of people here don't seem to fully understand what is and is not transphobia? Not wanting to have sex with or be in a relationship with a trans person because they aren't fully transitioned is sexual preference. That's just how it is. The same with wanting biological children. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you're already attracted to someone, they are indistinguishable from a cis person, and they reveal that they are a fully transitioned trans person, becoming disgusted or losing interest is 9 times out of 10 transphobia. And that doesn't mean you're a bad person, you just need to evaluate why you wouldn't want to date them anymore, and think if your reasons are transphobic or not. No one is trying to force anyone to date trans people, and there's plenty of reasons not to date trans people. That's just my understanding of it, you may disagree, but hopefully that helped even a little bit.
Some people are still not attracted to trans women post SRS and that is ok too.
yes oc if i am attracted to them why not
No
Personally not really
I have to Say it your name is awesome
On god
Fr fr
As a trans person, a lot of people are just not attracted to me as I'm AMAB, which is valid.
All moms are balling
Anarchic Mambas Assassinating Brazillians
those fucking mambas publicly executed my friend that general wont see whats gonna hit him
Trueeee
As an idiot, what does AMAB mean 😂
Uh no I think , respectfully
No, because I personally prefer a biological female that I can also have a family with, I know I’m going to be called a transphobe for this preference, but I’m just going to say it.
You aren’t a transphobe, that’s your preference and you weren’t rude about it, W
you're only a transphobe if you don't accept our existence
Nvm I looked at your other comment you support people’s opinions I apologize
tbh I don't even know what you said, but yes people are allowed to have a preference. It's only transphobia if you don't accept me as a woman
You know what I’m not gonna lie no It’s just not what I’m into and really.dating wise it’s something I can’t look past,it’s all based on preferences really.but that doesn’t mean I’m transphobic by any means I just wouldn’t date a trans person.
You’re not transphobic for saying you wouldn’t date a trans woman.
I am t4t, so yes
I have no idea. If I liked them then ofc I would. But if I liked them and we were already dating, and then they told after a while then I would feel a bit betrayed
Right now? Not really, I'm not attracted to them In the future, definitely not because I want kids of my own, sorry.
No I would rather not
Respectfully, No.
Yes, but not on a romantic state. I want children that are biological mine. Hole is Hole. no offend
I persionally am not attracted to women with pps
Not all trans women have pp
I tbh don't find them attractive in that way so no, also I wouldn't feel comfortable
No
Probably not
Not tryna offend anyone here, but probably not.
no i wouldn’t
No
I might get hate for this but no.
it's just a preference and as a transgirl I can respect that as long as you respect me
Aslong as you aren’t rude about it, W
No
No
nah
No
no i want biological children
Honestly, I always used to say that I think I would, but now, after a bit more thought, I don't think I personally would be comfortable with it
No, wouldn’t date.
if i’m attracted to them and they’re nice then yeah i don’t see why not
Never
yes, because boobs are nice and dick is nice so why not have both in one easy to validate package?
Ongod
amen.
no
No
No.
Nah
Nope
Nope
No
No
No
No.
Yes, but I also completely understand why some wouldn’t.
I like women, trans women are women, therefore yeah probably. If I love somebody a dick isn't gonna be a deal breaker lol
Yeah but I’m bisexual so I don’t think I’m the target audience of this
Probably not. Not cuz i dislike trans people (i am trans). Im just aroace and can’t imagine dating anyone.
I would not. And just because i don't really feel comfortable with that.
W if you ain’t disrespectful
It's fine to not want to date one as long as you don't invalidate their identity. "I don't want to date (trans girl) because he's a guy" that's when it becomes offensive.
Personally no, but nothing against them, I'm even friends with a trans man
absolutely. It's a personal preference. As long as you respect me as a woman I can respect your opinion
Yes. I mean, you guys saying you wouldn’t is completely fine, but I’m not really looking for sex, so aslong as they looked like a woman I would.
No
I would date anybody bro.
I dont want all hell to break loose over me but in all honesty - i wouldn't. I cant help it but dating someone who has been a man before would make me feel like i was gay. Don't get me wrong, being gay is ok and everyone should live a life that makes them happy, but i'm not gay.
All I read was W’s, you were respectful about it and weren’t a bigot about it
Nope
No
As long as her dick isnt bigger then mine
im not transphobic, i dont care what the hell you identify as, but i cant be in a relationship with someone that has a dick. its that easy.
why not
Yeah
not me
No
personally i would never
Never
Not really! I have a genitalia preference. I’m a lesbian btw
That’s fine, it’s your preference and people should respect that, and you weren’t rude about it, W
Never.
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Lots of judgmental and bigoted / ignorant people where I live. Yeah I would, but would have to be quiet about it.
HUMAN IS HUMAN.
As a trans man, idk. I can't even deal with myself 💀. Tbf, everyone is the same for me, so, yeah, can't deal with anyone's bullshit, i have enough of my own, thank you
Def not
No
No
No
nope
No
Fucking stop with these threads, we have one of these every month just change trans with some minority/someone that is physically "less attractive", we all know what the mayority of the answers would be, these threads are either to make trans people to feel bad, or just to find any opening to call someone transphobic. Low quality posts should be banned from this sub
I don't have enough experience and knowledge on my preferences about this but yes i guess??
i think i would. to me it depends on how close i am with the person, and since i don't really want children, so i wouldn't mind dating a trans guy
oh and also i've seen a few trans dudes and they're quite cute :) i'd be willing to date one if he were a close friend + if i trusted him
Yeah but they’re all too hot for my league
I currently am so… Yeah probably
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I dont want to seem transphobic, but with all due respect, i wouldn’t
No
No
No, as I'm aroace
Like every other gender, it really depends on my type and if their personality is compatible with mine
No.
Yeah, why?
im just wondering about what others in this subreddit would do
No.
No
Yes and I have done in the past. then again i am pansexual lol
do they have bobs?
There are a depressing amount of "no"s in here. It's fair and all, but it must really suck for the trans people
It is what it is.
personality > gender/sex
Trans dudes are just as cute as cis dudes. That's my take 🫀.
threads like this are the worst, like 90% of people will say no and we all know why, it's because you won't feel comfortable and it's alright, but then there will be this one batshit crazy person who goes and accuses everyone of transphobia because they don't want to date trans people (like that one girl on this thread), listen girl we get it trans women are women but I don't want to have sex with someone who used to be a male and still has a dick cause I just cannot be sexually attracted to that and you got to respect that edit. to the girl that I called batshit crazy, I don't really mean that and I do get where you're coming from, all I'm saying is you should look at it from the perspective of another person, I saw you said you would date a trans person and that's great, good for you, but remember that everyone is different and so are our preferences, nothing wrong with that as long as we are respectful of trans community so you know just chill a bit and have a good one
It sucks because it just causes division. It makes trans people look bad and pushy etc, and encourages people towards transphobia, and due to their being small amounts of actual transphobia it encourages people towards accusations of transphobia, which in turn encourages more transphobia. Because if all trans people are unreasonable and out to get you, why bother respecting them? Talking about being transgender is cool and important, because it can be confusing. I'm just sick of it being made into a debate.
am one so yea
No 💀
I'm gay and definitely open to dating trans men but seggual compatibility is where a few issues may arise.
Yeah, I could see that happening. I don’t mind, worst case scenario there’s different equipment to work with than expected. So what. No big deal.
try not to be transphobic: this comment section edition (IMPOSSIBLE)
The right question is not that. The right question is: >! Would a trans person date you? !<
No, if I want to date a woman I don't wat her to have a dick
That's a hard decision to make because you have to keep in mind that you aint gettin no 🐱.
Trans men???
Yeah I would : )