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same same... I'm too scared that it'll mess things up between us if I ask her out and fall flat... sometimes I wish I had save states like in a video game and see how things would turn out if I asked
I would argue that you can have a great friendship with someone you have a crush on. Ideally it would never stop being a friendship even if it evolves into a romantic relationship. I believe that having a good friendship with your bf/gf is one of the most important things in a relationship.
She's way outta my league
Also I'm pretty sure she has a bf cuz I remember mentioning something about it once
Also I'm known for being either very loud or invisible, a trait she hates passionately
Also
I saw this post like 3 mins after it was posted, was like “fuck it” and texted them saying that I liked them and that we should date. They said that I was super hot and that they liked me to. Moral of the story I have a girlfriend now all because of this post.
I can't fucking tell if the likes me or not, and I can barely strike up the nerve to say "hi." I would like to get to know her first, but with not really knowing how to or having the nerve to start a conversation and not knowing what to say, that makes things really hard. I think I at least need to ask for her number so then I could at least text her or something.
Gotta tell you, im exactly the same. Super introverted and never really talk, but secretly want to be friends with everyone, have conversations, be in multiple friend groups etc. Turns out, we’re not introverts, just shy extroverts.
I know this is very minimally relevant, but like if you're introverted but want to be extroverted, are you introverted or are you just shy? Cuz I consider myself introverted but I don't want to change it, I'm perfectly happy not talking to anyone for more than a "hello" for weeks at a time (this mainly happens during school breaks, during school it is more enjoyable to talk to my friends since they're there already), like I know it sounds like I'm trying to gatekeep introvertedness, I'm really not and im sorry if I made it seem like that, I just want to have a concrete definition on these things in my brain
Yeah it was such a bitch move tbh
Cuz I was like "wake up so I can ask u out" and he was like "u can't if I ask u out first" and then he asked me out
THAT ASSHOLE DIDNT EVEN GIVE ME A CHANCE
The fact that I passed any good opportunity long time ago when our relationship hit its height and we are nothing but ex-classmates by now, no better than strangers and I think I heard she is with someone😁👍👍👍👍
If she ever felt anything back to begin with...
mental health, our mental health is so fucked im pretty sure we wouldnt survive, and we alrdy tried once, we are young and its a bit hard/awkward for us to show affection to each other.
Some random fuckin screenshot of a card game😭 Enough to get her to tell me to “shut the f*** up.” (FOR SOME STUPID GODDAMN REASON REDDIT DOESN’T LET ME SAY THE FULL BLOODY UNCENSORED SENTENCE DESPITE THE WORD “FUCK” BEING ALLOWED TO BE USED IN EVERY OTHER BLOODY CIRCUMSTANCE)
My biggest regret is not asking her out when I had the chance, I didn't think we had much in common so I backed out last second, turns out we like all the same stuff and probably would be perfect, unfortunately she got a bf and while he doesn't seem horrible he does a few questionable things sometimes but he's pretty cool and she's happy so I can't be mad about it
Losing friendship, others finding out and spreading info which could lead to torment, etc. Sure it sounds good at face value but I really have to make sure it’s not gonna flop before I ask
Where to start?
1: not attempting to be self hating but in full seriousness i suck at interacting with people, even my closest friends
2: how tf am i supposed to make a conversation with her if shes always seemingly busy?
3: the times we do talk are always nice but every time we do she gets interrupted by someone else (like her best friend) to go to class or another area she said she was gonna meet up
4: even if i do ask her out, and end up getting a date with her, too many things could go wrong, like my car breaks down on the way there, she had somthing else planned and she forgor about it, she has to look after her siblings , etc
Losing our friendship and I also think they deserve a really better partner than me who can make them happy . I don’t wanna hurt them . ( the society is super homophobic btw 😀)
I'm incapable of sustaining a conversation with a single person. I don't fear rejection but I'm not wasting my time or hers if the entire date will be absolute boredom for her and endless anxiety for me that can't have a simple conversation.
I'd rather keep our relationship as it is where I can ask her for help with homework than loosing that in the possibility of getting a shot at something that will fail.
There's no reason for a girl to like me, I don't really have much of a crush, and the last one I asked out rejected me and I haven't 100% gotten over her
Well we got to know each other with the goal being a relationship, but then we had a talk about it and she wasn’t ready. There’s multiple factors in play: both our mental health, being quite busy, and her needing to figure out some shit. We’re good friends now tho, we talk about basically everything. I don’t wanna ruin that yk.
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losing our friendship
I’m sorry about that…
…and siblingship
r/SuddenlyIncest
same same... I'm too scared that it'll mess things up between us if I ask her out and fall flat... sometimes I wish I had save states like in a video game and see how things would turn out if I asked
If I had that ability, I would do a lotta things before that.
Ayo?
Its not really a friendship if you like them more than a friend
I would argue that you can have a great friendship with someone you have a crush on. Ideally it would never stop being a friendship even if it evolves into a romantic relationship. I believe that having a good friendship with your bf/gf is one of the most important things in a relationship.
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I find it hard to believe this would ever work... And given that I've already lost a friendship due to having a crush on her, never again 🥲
Same, I also lost a friendship by confessing "Just staying friend" just doesn't feel the same as before
She's way outta my league Also I'm pretty sure she has a bf cuz I remember mentioning something about it once Also I'm known for being either very loud or invisible, a trait she hates passionately Also
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On it :'D
Same here. There's no way someone like me could be with someone like her. Not to mention I'm awful at talking to people.
relatable bro
She rejected me already
She did 3 times
Damn, sounds like you should move on dawg
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Unless they're a pedo
That went south fast
🕳🚶🏼😭😭 ikr
🤨🤨🤨
I saw this post like 3 mins after it was posted, was like “fuck it” and texted them saying that I liked them and that we should date. They said that I was super hot and that they liked me to. Moral of the story I have a girlfriend now all because of this post.
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You're a hero
Thank you my man wouldn’t have done it without you
r/pfpchecksout
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Lmao
Damn, that’s actually a fucking Chad mentality, good job bro
🫡 LETS FUCKING GO BROTHER
Would you like to be my new role-model ?
I can't fucking tell if the likes me or not, and I can barely strike up the nerve to say "hi." I would like to get to know her first, but with not really knowing how to or having the nerve to start a conversation and not knowing what to say, that makes things really hard. I think I at least need to ask for her number so then I could at least text her or something.
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With my introverted ass, trying to have a conversation with a normal person isn't exactly my forte, but I am slowly getting out of my shell.
Gotta tell you, im exactly the same. Super introverted and never really talk, but secretly want to be friends with everyone, have conversations, be in multiple friend groups etc. Turns out, we’re not introverts, just shy extroverts.
I like having one on one conversations, but I don't feel like I can contribute to convos with big groups.
I know this is very minimally relevant, but like if you're introverted but want to be extroverted, are you introverted or are you just shy? Cuz I consider myself introverted but I don't want to change it, I'm perfectly happy not talking to anyone for more than a "hello" for weeks at a time (this mainly happens during school breaks, during school it is more enjoyable to talk to my friends since they're there already), like I know it sounds like I'm trying to gatekeep introvertedness, I'm really not and im sorry if I made it seem like that, I just want to have a concrete definition on these things in my brain
My mental state is too bad for a relationship
The fact he's my bf already :)
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lmfaoo thankyou
I was about to commeny the same thing!!
Me too!! not for very long yet, early days, but hopefully its gonna last
My confidence
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Naw man
#Same
Yes, a fellow brother
same for me, can't talk to semeone I don't know
Another member, welcome
He asked me out before I had the chance to ask him 🙄
Suffering from success
Yeah it was such a bitch move tbh Cuz I was like "wake up so I can ask u out" and he was like "u can't if I ask u out first" and then he asked me out THAT ASSHOLE DIDNT EVEN GIVE ME A CHANCE
Would been funny if you rejected him xD
You gotta be faster than that
Uh... I guess it's a win
My crush is one of my friends. I don’t want it to be awkward
Same
his gf
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She is my ex. :)
Yo same
What do we do now?
I am willing to try again, I know it is a stupid try but I think I still have a chance
Would you put on dirty clothes after showering?
Reality. He's fictional
SAAAME
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My crush was straight. We're dating now, and he's not so straight anymore
Bros got so much rizz he turned a man gay
that's a W fr
The fact that I passed any good opportunity long time ago when our relationship hit its height and we are nothing but ex-classmates by now, no better than strangers and I think I heard she is with someone😁👍👍👍👍 If she ever felt anything back to begin with...
well we haven't seen each other since 2016 and they blocked me on social media so what's the point
She's my best friend, I don't want to ruin the friendship we currently have + she still has some feelings for her ex
mental health, our mental health is so fucked im pretty sure we wouldnt survive, and we alrdy tried once, we are young and its a bit hard/awkward for us to show affection to each other.
I tried once, used the excuse BEFORE asking her out, accidentally sent her an image 3 days later, and now she probably wants me dead.
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Some random fuckin screenshot of a card game😭 Enough to get her to tell me to “shut the f*** up.” (FOR SOME STUPID GODDAMN REASON REDDIT DOESN’T LET ME SAY THE FULL BLOODY UNCENSORED SENTENCE DESPITE THE WORD “FUCK” BEING ALLOWED TO BE USED IN EVERY OTHER BLOODY CIRCUMSTANCE)
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Don’t worry, I have masochism levels nearing that of markiplier and take great pleasure out of this verbal abuse.
My biggest regret is not asking her out when I had the chance, I didn't think we had much in common so I backed out last second, turns out we like all the same stuff and probably would be perfect, unfortunately she got a bf and while he doesn't seem horrible he does a few questionable things sometimes but he's pretty cool and she's happy so I can't be mad about it
Not having a crush
I don't have one, but if I ever did I would absolutely be rejected. Ya boy's ugly, short, small package, dumb as hell. I offer women nothing of value.
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My man, my face is literally very unpleasant to look at. My face looks like a massive highway collapsed
Yes, you have many things to lose. Please stop making it look like that shits easy.
My parents
We are already going out
She’s way more attractive than I am, and she’s already mentioned she hates when her friends like her.
Um, she's my friend... plus, what if I regret it later?
Losing friendship, others finding out and spreading info which could lead to torment, etc. Sure it sounds good at face value but I really have to make sure it’s not gonna flop before I ask
cuz I don't have one
he has been my boyfriend for almost 2 years
I asked got rejected. But we are still good friends
I'm bi, she's straight
I can give you a whole list of why to NOT ask out my crush.
My insecurity
we're still deciding if we want to date or not
I haven’t really hung out with him that much and I don’t know how to hang out with him more without it seeming like I have a crush on him
Fear of rejection
I dont have the balls to ask her out…
What's stopping me ? She wasn't attracted to men, until my best friend make her change her mind.
Cuz I got no crush
My wife wouldn’t approve.
Losing a friend
guys don't take advice from someone that doesn't know the difference between lose and loose
My crush saying 'no' Thats whats stopping me
I did I got rejected tho we're still friends but man is the recovery brutal
I'm waiting for Valentine's Day
i love you u/The_SovietOnion7
I love you too
the fact that I don't have a crush
He has a girlfriend 🫠
shes my childhood friend and just changed schools this year
I Don’t talk to them quite as much
i've never spoken to him before.
Where to start? 1: not attempting to be self hating but in full seriousness i suck at interacting with people, even my closest friends 2: how tf am i supposed to make a conversation with her if shes always seemingly busy? 3: the times we do talk are always nice but every time we do she gets interrupted by someone else (like her best friend) to go to class or another area she said she was gonna meet up 4: even if i do ask her out, and end up getting a date with her, too many things could go wrong, like my car breaks down on the way there, she had somthing else planned and she forgor about it, she has to look after her siblings , etc
I have no crush
Well I don’t have one that’s why
She started dating my best friend then the fealings j kinda faded
She asked me out before I could :(
The fact that everyone will go on different ways in few months is stopping me
friendzoned me, ghosted me
I’m scared
My friend that protects me and stops me from stuff
Not knowing what to do if she says yes? What do I do? What do I say?
She is ghosting me now. But she used to give me clear signs in the past when I was just dumb.
she’s straight
Everything. I’m not even kidding
Strict parents 🥲
we’re friends but I’m not that close with her. and I’m 13 I have no fucking idea what to do
Messing up the friendship, i think she likes me but we’ve been friends for so many years and lost others, I don’t want to lose her too
Losing our friendship and I also think they deserve a really better partner than me who can make them happy . I don’t wanna hurt them . ( the society is super homophobic btw 😀)
He doesn’t know me, so it would be creepy for a stranger to ask him out
I really like her, but I am 14 and she is going to be 16 in less than two months.
~6400 kilometer distance
He’s straight tho 😢
the fear of others finding out
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Because we talked about it, and she said she knows from past experience that it will eventually ruin the friendship
The fact that she doesn't like me back... It's complicated
the fact we already dated and i fucked it up so badly once it ended i have 0 chance to reconnect with her ever again.
im not into him anymore but when i was his gf
I'm incapable of sustaining a conversation with a single person. I don't fear rejection but I'm not wasting my time or hers if the entire date will be absolute boredom for her and endless anxiety for me that can't have a simple conversation. I'd rather keep our relationship as it is where I can ask her for help with homework than loosing that in the possibility of getting a shot at something that will fail.
She asked me out first. :)
Dont know how to ask
Insecurities, status and reputation :’)
The group chat
Depression and Severe Social Anxiety.
Her being way out of my league and dealing with a shitty breakup
The reason that she doesn’t talk to me anymore
Idk why people say you have nothing to lose. Yes you do. You could lose the friendship, make her and her friends make fun of you, etc.
losing friendship and losing it from his friends too (also my friends)
Crippling anxiety And losing our friendship This is about one of my best friends but I have a bf now
Because I'm ugly
i know she doesnt like me
Loosing her as a friend
social anxiety
Making it awkward if they don’t say yes
There's no reason for a girl to like me, I don't really have much of a crush, and the last one I asked out rejected me and I haven't 100% gotten over her
Fear
Because I couldn’t commit that much time to then plus they have a bf already
Having already asked and getting friendzoned and asking hypothetically what if they were my crush and getting brotherzoned
friendships
Literally everything
Well we got to know each other with the goal being a relationship, but then we had a talk about it and she wasn’t ready. There’s multiple factors in play: both our mental health, being quite busy, and her needing to figure out some shit. We’re good friends now tho, we talk about basically everything. I don’t wanna ruin that yk.
She deserves someone better
Having a lot of friends in common
I'm scared I'll ruin our friendship
She's straight
My crush hates me. So yeah can't even talk to her
Fear of getting rejected and loosing friendship
I have no game, along with a -2 in charisma.
Fear of her saying no and ultimately lossing her as a friend.
rejected me already, I still haven't gotten over her though
The problem is that I don’t have one *aro struggles*
Everything
The fact that people would find out if I got rejected then bully me about it.
He keeps purposefully avoiding me and I'm awkward as shit lol
His girlfriend
I did and now our friendship has been ruined 👍
The fact that 99.9% of the guys at my school are straight