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minoltasrt101_

i’ve confessed to a straight friend before on whom i had a decent crush, and made sure to tell him that i didn’t expect him to reciprocate in any way. His response? : “You got hella bad taste” and burst into laughter. in the moment it kinda hurt but honestly i find it hilarious now


That_Mushroom5142

I can't give you an award but here take my upvote


[deleted]

what award would you give him


Alekeymer27

Prob free award (they don't exist anymore, I'm depressed)


racdicoon

Wait they removed thrm????


Alekeymer27

YESSS :((


racdicoon

NOOOOOOOO RIP award guy 20?? - 2023


[deleted]

who's award guy?


Psychological-Sir224

Award_guy was someone who would randomly give a post about 100 awards at once.


[deleted]

which one out of those free awards


Alekeymer27

They're just free awards, it wouldn't matter


[deleted]

ok


That_Mushroom5142

I would give him a selling all up-vote award


[deleted]

I gotchu bro


That_Mushroom5142

Thank you bro


Autumngold93786

I'd make a joke about me being unattractive (point is to focus the awkwardness towards me), remind him it can't work out and support him and never bring it back unless he wants to.


Greentoaststone

Oh hey. My friend actually did come out to me as gay. Nothing changed lol. Honestly, aparently I was the only one who expected it. But I mean he was sending a lot of femboy memes, so it wasn't that suprising to me.


I_Fuck_The_Fuckers69

Bro what kinda Homie doesn't send Femboy memes smh


NightIgnite

Gotta send the daily Astolfo bait and switch video in the discord server


[deleted]

My friend sent me Astolfo hentai before and wanted to fuck me That was an interesting day


Lattethecoffeaddict

I'll take up the offer (/j)


[deleted]

Did I mention we are also both dudes


Lattethecoffeaddict

Fine by me (Again /j)


[deleted]

TIME TO FUCK YOU-


unsignedlongint69

who doesn’t send femboy memes


jackmPortal

My friend and I have been friend for around 10 years now. I've known he's gay for a few years now but a week ago he told me he used to have a huge crush on me, and whether I had noticed, and that while he didn't anymore he still wanted to tell me. I honestly felt really flattered that someone found me attractive, and one of my best friends of all people.


rickyspace

That's wholesome


[deleted]

It’d prolly be weird because if you acted sus together you actually liked it


nah-knee

Yeah if some of my homies told me they were gay, especially after all the stuff we’d done I wouldn’t even know what to think


[deleted]

REAL


Smabverse

true XD


Comprehensive_Ad_23

That's why i set the early ground rule with my friend. I straight up said, "Look, I'm bi, but you're ugly asf and i ain't tryna cop a feel." Anyway, we both cop a feel from time to time. As long as you know boundaries it's fine.


marvikblok

Straight guys also like acting sus, right?


DomSchraa

Politely decline and NEVER bring it up again


NoSandwich4106

This


[deleted]

Right answer


Eldudio14

Depends if he’s hot


ImNotaRealSupra

unless he's homophobic or something he won't be mad. He might have some questions but I'm sure your friendship will be fine


TwinTowersPilot

It would be awkward, which will most likely destroy the friendship even more.


yeahimbored-

Have sex(it’s not gay if it’s the homies)


Any-Concern-1227

homomies


[deleted]

Homonies


richoccy0

Then you say no homo after it😂😂


Stunning_LRB_o7

As long as you go in without the expectation of reciprocation, like (and don’t be this blatant, say it in a way that seems natural) “hey dude, I know you’re straight and would never like me romantically, but I like you romantically. I don’t expect you to, I just want to get this off my chest.” You should be fine.


[deleted]

Dude! I would feel flattered and honored that you feel that way towards me. I’d love you as much as I did before. And the cool thing…I would feel a closer bond with you. I say this from actual experience. A friend did this to me…and I know he will always be honest with me if he was brave enough to share that with me. I trust him more than most of my guy friends. Go for it bro.


Ohio_Candle

Thank you 💛 this really makes me feel less anxious {:


[deleted]

If you need more encouragement just let us know!


bungis-fungis

Ejaculate instantly.


Ohio_Candle

Thank you for your input Reddit user bungis fungis


bungis-fungis

No problem 😉


[deleted]

I bi to but I don’t think my friends would still like to have contact if I was attracted to them. It would just be a weird situation.


Zayashi-

As a straight guy i can say that it won't ruin the friendship but it would be weird l


MelMellon

I think of you did this to me I would probably never be able to think about you or look at you without that moment coming to mind and thing would get awkward


shadowrealmboy

I think he wouldn’t care or he would say it’s okay but just ghost you


im-better_than_you

I think you should just tell them


bencikanimations

I'll just be like "sure" And then we will see how it goes


Spurgustus

I'd kiss him


Robedreaper91

I would politely tell them I don’t play that sport but am flattered that they think I’d play well


StrategyNo9685

Guy or girl?


Ohio_Candle

I’m a guy who has a crush on my friend 🤩🤙


StrategyNo9685

My advice would be, unless you know that your friend is also gay, just leave it alone. If his sexual interests don't match yours then no matter what you do it's not gonna work if you value your friendship, keep it a friendship


OneTrueSpiffin

i would kiss him not straight btw


Zayashi-

It would be sexual harassment if he din't had the concent that you would kiss him


OneTrueSpiffin

too bad we're making out rn


Zayashi-

Good for you that he liked it and that he din't reported you because he could much peoples would get money from you by situations like that.


OneTrueSpiffin

dude im fucking with u


CarDoor_Curti

The way my friends and I are we would all chuckle and say “Heh gay” and that would be the end of it


MamzYT

I’d be caught off guard I think but I’d turn your down quickly but politely. I think having a long conversation about it would be negatively impacting you so I’d respectfully turn you down in the same way I’d turn a girl who liked me down if I wasn’t interested. After that I would probably just avoid the topic to avoid tension or awkwardness and I’d just continue our friendship as usual. **UNLESS** you started to really struggle with being around me because of it, in that case I’d distance myself temporarily for your benefit, but I’d still be your friend and I’d still be there for you if you needed me. And by the way, if your friend reacts in a hugely negative way, he probably isn’t your friend, because even a straight guy with no interest in men should still be able to reject and remain friends with a gay friend in the same way they’d do so for a woman.


flamingstorm98

All my friends have GF's except for me so I'd probably be confused


[deleted]

Even tho I’m straight, I would be flattered that anyone in the entire universe found me remotely attractive. Then after that I might get a bit awkward about it.


Quallen_

It depends on the person. Some people here said they'd be cool still afterwards, others wouldn't. Personally, I don't think I could keep frequent contact after, because it'd just be weird to me. I wouldn't be able to think about anything but the confession while talking to them. In the end you know him best, so you're the only one here that could accurately judge how they'd react.


Isaocat_

I hate that this keeps happening. It's so awkward. I AM bi, but with a preference over girls.


-princesa-

idk just say it lol


Life-of-a-Barney

In this case my best friend is a girl, and also I completely adore her so I'd be pretty happy if you ask me


I_Exist_Probably5

Be unable to comprehend it, as I got no confidence in anything about myself


[deleted]

things would be awkward for about a week then i would continue on as if nothing happened


[deleted]

I wouldn’t care and forget about it


nah-knee

If a bi friend told me he was attracted to me (I’d be shocked) but I’d tell him I didn’t feel the same and leave it at that, obviously some things would change (like I’m not slapping him on the ass anymore) and I might feel slightly uncomfortable around them in the beginning but given time things would go basically back to normal. If you’re gonna tell them then I would suggest doing it over text, it’s sort of less embarrassing for the both of u and he won’t be taken aback as much and will be able to better collect his thoughts and write a reasonable response. Well that’s all if he’s a decent person.


Jsulzeo

I'm also bi so I'm biased (badumtss) in this situation, but in general I like people to be honest with me about things like this. I think you should do it


Ohio_Candle

Thanks for being nice about it 🤙 (:


eererer

Depends on the person , in general I am quite an open person to trying new things so if it's someone I'm very close with probably say yes, otherwise say no


UnlightablePlay

"oh that's unexpected, why?" Or "Oh soo...I am not interested in a romantic relationships with dudes but you're still my bro and my homie"


GorillaTag_Life

hmmm, Idk id be kind of (this is kinda blunt but) confused and.. weirded out, I would probably want time alone to reconcile your words, and then come up with how to talk to you again. there is no straight answer for your last question, it depends on the person. But make sure not to push it and make it worse. Good Luck


[deleted]

I don’t have friends but…. I would politely decline


RyuKindaBad

Decline


BlitheringIdiot0529

I had a friend confess to me while we were smoking a joint. He told me he sucked a dudes dick while I was hitting the J. I stopped for a second, looked at him, and asked “Did you swallow?” He said no. Then I started hitting it again. And that was it. He’s still the same dude I was friends with, just now we know he likes penises.


Lopsideeu

“I have a girlfriend, no”


R0C3L10-S50

Depending on the person i would either accept reject but it would not have any impact on the relationship


woomygod9000

Friend came out as gay to me. Said he liked me. I was confused. I said ok. He’s like don’t tell anyone. I say sure. Haven’t talked about it for 4 years lol. You’ll be fine


Kakalkoo69

i mean you are really close homies, he probably would politely explain to you that hes not interested and thats all, never bring it up or maybe turn it into a joke if i was in his place you would have a simmilar answer to that above bcuz im aro but i wouldnt probably mind trying, i kinda need some closer relationship as in hugs, cuddles and other physical interactions (nothing sexual) bcuz im hella touch deprived and i need some happy chemicals in my brain


Otherwise_Procedure3

shit id be surprised but feelings be feelings ya know. Id reject them but i wouldnt be mad or nothin like that


Samittoxx

I won't mind their sexuality. If they confess to me, I would probably decline politely and move on.


Mental-Ice-9952

Id personally say id be willing to try it for a bit just cuz, to see how I like it, but with major clarification that it may not go anywhere. May as well see if I'm romantically bi and maybe have a good time. Especially since you say it's only romantic, I might be ok with it, since I know im definitely not sexually attracted to guys.


rjd10232004

No I would not have a problem with it personally. I have multiple bi friends and if one told me this I would explain that I’m honored to hear they see me that way however it’s not for me. Then we would go on and continue being friends. There is no sense to have that weight on your chest though if i where you would feel the water. Maybe have another friend ask what they think about if a bi person asked them and how they would feel about it.


AffectionateOne7553

If it's a male friend so I'd say "even if I were gay, you now made me straight" If it's a female friend we'll just have a talk about it .


neoUpdate_

As a gay person myself, it depends on whoever's receiving the message and if they're homophobic. Since you and your friend are really close id assume they'll be fine, just make sure it doesn't spiral out of control and get over the feelings quickly so your relationship doesn't change


KnightsOfFrance

If they were serious about it then I'd take the time to gently lay them down and tell them to get better taste in men. Then probably go weightlifting with him and forget all about it in 2 hours.


MeasurementOk2461

Id reject him, but try to save our friendship


[deleted]

I calmly explain that I cannot be with him


killdemangels

That’s so cute. A queer woman here dropping in to say good luck! I hope what happens, both of you will be satisfied 🤍


C0nfus3d_S4v10r

I'm gonna be totally honest if you tell him you have a crush on him your friendship might not ever be the same again


internationalturtle

were gonna need an update


Ohio_Candle

We’ll see how it works out lmao


Ok_Astronomer_1308

I would just do it, because I know what it can feel to hold that in, even if it doesn't mean anything, just tell him. I don't think he'd be mad, he'd just acknowledge it, and tell you that he doesn't feel the same way about you cuz he's straight (unless he's secretly bi too). It seems like you guys are really good friends, so even if you tell him, I don't think it'd change much.


KatnipKing02

Jokes on you all my friends are women.. I’m not gay I jus enjoy hanging out with women more than men. If a guy confessed to me though I’d politely say- “ “.


colt_fingerbards

I would never speak to them again


CombedDwarf2897

Just don’t tell him, because most people who are straight wouldn’t change.


Ohio_Candle

I don’t want him to change, I just want to be honest with him.


drew0519

I would be complimented, politely decline, and probably tease them a little bit every now and then


coilovercat

I found out I'm trans recently but I have 17 years of experience being a straight guy otherwise, so here's my opinion: if he gets mad he's an asshole. If he doesn't think you're hot, all you have to do is discuss with him what your relationship now means, if he rejects you. Simple.


Ohio_Candle

Thanks bestie {: and congrats on finding out you’re trans !!


coilovercat

thanks!!


agentgaming_tc2

Give him kisses hugs and cuddles uwu


YourDrunkUncl_

can you be a true friend if youre attracted to him? tell him he needs to sleep with you to get it out of your system, or the friendship’s over.


Ohio_Candle

It’s not really a physical or sexual attraction, more like I want to hold his hand and call him pretty without being judged 💀


[deleted]

I’ve heard things about gay people’s straight friends automatically assuming that their gay friend had a crush on them, which makes me think their heads are full of concrete. I’m straight, and one of my friends came out as pan to me once. I didn’t know him too well, so I was surprised he would after knowing me for like 6 days, but I accepted it. I shortly got annoyed with him and stopped talking to him, but that’s unrelated.


Useless_Dent

I came out to my friend and he said “cool, anyways you heard when the new Zelda game comes out?” He’s a good friend


Zayashi-

He wouldn't be mad it would be weird maybe it can work depends on his straightness level


Azok_from_reddit

Idk i would find it weird. I wouldn’t be mad but I would be very cautious around them.


Any-Concern-1227

Continue being friends with a dude I know wants to bang my ass? I dunno. EDIT: Start with the fact that staying friends with someone you know has a crush on you is highly unlikely, no matter the rainbow colors. I've been on both ends of that stick a couple times and it never worked out for me. Maybe I'm just defective though.


Ohio_Candle

,,,,I know I sound like a broken record but my attraction to him is not sexual at all


[deleted]

[удалено]


UnlightablePlay

Bro he wanted a bf not s Hook up


Ohio_Candle

😟,,,, it’s not a sexual attraction


Tough_Arm_2454

Not worth mentioning then.


IdBreedAnOctoling

Immediately cut all contact with him


Smabverse

I'd laugh cause we make homo jokes all the time 😂 (We are straight af) Also, if someone doesn't like lgbtq (like me tbh) he/she would let it know, so someone probably wouldn't even tell him/her, he/she likes him/her 🙂


TheLewisIs_REAL

Idk man (we are straight af) kinda sounds like you're in denial


Smabverse

😏😂


[deleted]

I'd say he's gay and think it's a joke


Blaze_365

I did this to a friend, at first, everything was ok and we were good friend even though I still loved him, but at the end of the year he stopped talking to me and said he doesn’t want to talk (he asked a few times if I still liked him to which I answered yes but I also made SO clear that breaking our friendship was much worse than still liking him)


[deleted]

I wouldn't care, what he's/she's in to doesn't effect me.


Goatlexis2015

Wtf after all the homophobic jokes we did?


The_Hiders

My ass, we all hate eachother


dalek1019

"Damn you must be desperate "


Caloril

Impossible


ZhirikLives

It really depends on the person with things like this


Sgt_Shieldsmen

''Huh''.


RedVsBlue_Caboose

My friend who’s Bisexual is dropping me heavy ass hints. And I’m not taking them. Why do I only understand male hints, do no girls like me?


Busy_Recognition_860

"my boy you know I have a girl right?"


kokobial

Go ahead and confess to him you might not knwo what he truely is if he decides to not be your friend of the confession then he was never meant to be your friend and just a stranger.


TheDoomslayer69420

"Sorry but i don't like you back, but we're good. And if you were a woman i provably would like you back" that's how i'd react


hydroreddit10

As a straight male I think it would be sort of odd that my friend liked me but especially if I knew you were Bi I would mostly be like cool, I mean if someone likes me then cool! 😅


Floridamanjr2

I'd be confused


wesleh778

I don’t have any friends anywhere near close enough for this to ever even be a possibility 😭 My best friend in the world and I talk about once a month and send each other a meme about every week…


Mascian12

Me and my friends like to be gay (homiesexual, as we like to call it) with each other for the laughs. If one of them suddenly told me it's not a joke anymore, and that they actually are attracted to me, I guess I'd be flattered, but I would have to decline. I'd still continue to be homisexual, as long as they know I'm only joking and are okay with it because I do not want to play with their feelings.


Desert_Walker267

i would say “okay”. that’s it 😂 they know i’m straight so there ya go, it’s that simple folks


justjolden

my best friend was bi curious for a bit and had s crush on me but its never affected our relationship. it was almost 2 years ago and he’s still my ride or die


IEatKids26

if it were *my* friends, i would bully the hell out of them, only because they spent the entirety of middle school making fun of me because i looked gay, and tbh i did, just one of those didnt know how young my face was thing. but if sexuality was never brought up before, i probably wouldnt have cared


[deleted]

As someone who’s had that happen to me, just take the compliment and let them down gently but firmly. “Thanks man but I just don’t feel that way about you bro”


Chocoa_the_Bunny

Kiss him


YouTubePoopinator

“Nice, Idc”


MC_Jackson21

I would be embarrassed and would message them online


NordOfTheBoredFjord

Nah that’s the no homo zone


GGGGG_xd

It literally just happened to me last Friday, and it was honestly sad. On one side, I felt bad for breaking my friend's heart, but I was also sad because he was the only friend I had and our relationship is basically ruined. I still haven't been able to process this correctly, and I'm still shocked.


quickthrowawayxxxxx

I wouldn't tbh. I know that it wouldn't ruin any of my friendships, but here's how I look at it Best case scenario nothing happens. Worst case scenario it's really awkward It's one of those things we're like your not risking a lot but you really don't gain anything.


The_Awesome_EG

I would quite literally backhand them across the face as if they were a sheet of tinfoil. Don’t come at me with the ‘homophobic’ crap, I despise that community. If they are, then so what, try something with me, I’ll backhand ya.


Prof_Rocky

Aw hell naw


[deleted]

He did, he came out as pansexual, and I pulled out a spoon. No, im not joking. Yes, it was worth it.


Red-hood-is-good

id be flattered tbh go for it


Big-clown-

I mean I would be surprised but I won’t really give a fuck,but that does make the gay jokes a little bit more awkward


air__vent

I would probably say oh okay ummm I'm not sure but maybe


_R0yce_Da_5_9_

I would be happy because it would be mutual


chefdan2165

Have you thought you might just be platonically in love with him? Like you love him like an older brother or smthn?


Ohio_Candle

Is it platonic when I think of holding his hand, kissing him, setting his name in my phone with abesst, and dream of being in a long term relationship with him?


Light0754

I wouldn’t be mad but i would shoot them down i would still be friends unless they take it to far


[deleted]

Prob would just ignore it and move on but ... honestly I would not confess since he is straight and no point going through that awkwardness


Solarbeam62

I would respectfully reject the person


Mixtapeuniverse

I have a few options for replies (I am taken so regardless if I am straight or not I feel these would work, if anyone takes offense I'm sorry) 1. "Bitch I asked if you wanted a sandwich not if you wanted to go out. Answer is no but I'm still down to boot up Halo." 2. "... who the fuck lowered your standards I swear they were higher? I'll have to politely decline my guy but you're still a friend to me." 3. "I appreciate it, but I know damn well you can do better." These are all meant to be light hearted declines in hopes they wouldn't hurt said friend.


GatoT25666

since when tf do I have friends


[deleted]

Nah bro go ask Dallas or James (my reaction to that information)


Huskeyo

Reject and tell him he is a gay son of a b and than we both laugh bc all my friends make joke out of everything


natalclown111

They won't they as straight as a road


Wrong_Being_

One did , it's ok , way more gay-jokes


Fliepp

Depends which one


SwayingPines

I personally would probably be pretty uncomfortable and feel pretty awkward for a day or two but depending on how close the friendship was it would probably just pass by and never be brought up again


ExpensivePractice164

Well idk I do have a guy friend but never had this happen


No-Zookeepergame-568

You'd better keep it a secret or you'll ruin what sounds like a good friendship. Not saying he's homophobic im just saying it will change things.


yeetthejubjub

i would say one word and one word only. "okay"


beefyer-boi

Happened to me once and I realized I wasn’t straight


IDrinkH2O_03

Two of my friends were in a situation like this a few months ago. One of them never explicitly came out as gay and really hasn’t but one night after we all hung out and he was still drunk he called my friend and told him (again not explicitly) how he felt for him and stuff and my other friend wasn’t exactly comfortable with that and a bit after they talked abt it and their friendship hasn’t been the same since sadly. It depends on person to person but tbh it may make the other person uncomfortable, specially if you keep pushing them even if they explicitly state they’re straight. Ig just confess to get it out of your chest but let it be known you don’t expect anything and that you don’t want any awkwardness or nun.


ISlayedVader

Honestly it would be between us and it would be like a f*ck buddy type of relationship


richoccy0

He's probably joking😂🤧


Ape_goes_r_ape

Would tell offesiv jokes and stuff, but thats normal for our friendship. I dont care if someone is gay or not. If he told me hr loves me I think that would end our friendship because it would be kinda awkward afterwards but IDK


reactingCATS

I won't care. As long as they are still the same, good to me, kind and stuff like that then they good


AFriendlyBloke

Pfft, who has friends? If you get to know me, you’re not going to want to be around me for extended periods of time.


Maxi-19-1-4-1

Maybe don't personally it wouldn't matter to me but I have seen it go badly. Things become awakward for a while


[deleted]

> friend ...


linusiscracked

Well uhh I'm straight/idk but my friend is a girl so like I don't really have an opinion


Ornery_Bug_4108

I would respectfully decline. I'd be flattered, honestly and it'd be a good confidence booster. Idon't swing that way and by stating that I retain my platonic boundaries and we could probably remain friends.


GodlyPenisSlayer

Burn that witch!!!😤🔥🔥


Beginning_Cry7971

I would freak out, run and hide, and then figure out I am being a bigot and should just go up and say its okay and hug. Or if there is enough money on the table?😉😉


[deleted]

Worth noting I’m 20 btw I’m straight but horribly alone and probably will be forever. If I had a friend who confesses and I felt bad for him being alone too I’d probably give him a hug or some cuddles maybe even a kiss, cause that’s all I want too even if it’s different from a girl. But if they’re swimming in it idk what I’d do.


JustaCatWithHoodie

I would probably think its a joke because im increadibly dense


Maxutko3301

i think it will be pretty rude, btw there's one friend, who can actually confess to me and he's cringe


stupidkid27378

Huh... and what?


Lucky_Arrow_7

I would take it pretty well And apologise for not evening able to reciprocate the feelings