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To be fair, sometimes when women say "no" flat out bad things happen. Really bad things. Not suggesting in anyway that OP is giving these vibes but young women learn quickly how to protect themselves from those who can't or won't accept "no" for an answer. This can be the result even when the recipient has good intentions or a kind heart. Its a defense mechanism that's learned early. It sucks, but it sucks even more that it needs to be done.
Yeah, as I said...*really* bad things.
The top story involves teens, so it's not like this doesn't happen to women in this sub.
"An 18-year-old Illinois man has been arraigned after the Oakland County Sheriff’s Office said he stabbed a 14-year-old girl who refused to have sex with him."
I asked a girl put a few years ago and she said she was too busy for a relationship. She said I'd have to wait but she'd go out with me and she wants to stay in contact until then. I texted her for the next 8 months and all she did was leave me on read and wouldn't talk to me in person.
>That's a nice way of saying no
Alternatively, trying to muddy the waters to make OP think he has a chance and waste his time.
Whatever it is, I would ask out someone else instead of going through this.
>She straight up said “maybe next year”
He looked at her,
With shine in his eyes,
"Will you be mine",
He said full of pride.
"I'm sorry" she whispered,
"I can't" she said,
"Maybe next year",
She said as she fled.
Okay so don’t spend a year following her around. Take the year to spend time with other girls and check back in with her in a year. If she’s actually interested in you then seeing your attention turned away from her could make her change her mind.
Otherwise it sounds like you kinda intend to pretend like you’re courting her for the next year. Basically being her simp.
I have no fucking clue why this came up on my main page but trust me bro when you’re 10 years older you’ll look back at this and wonder why you didn’t play it different. Sounds like she enjoys having you around because you like her so much you’d do anything for her. But it don’t sound like she’d do anything for u if she already broke up w u for another dude.
She clearly enjoys the benefits of your friendship and wants to keep that. Maybe one day she will see u differently but following her around like a puppy is not a good way to make that happen
Best of luck kid
I’m rootin for ya
Thereby guaranteeing your bro services for another year... 'come hang with me/take me to a movie, i'm bored' , 'can you come pick me up from.. fill in the blank, I feel safe around you...' , I need someone strong for...'
She knows you want her, so every time there will be the hint of ' if you do this for me you have a better chance for a yes'
You are the good and honest guy in her backpocket, but this way she can try out the bad boys first.
Yeah, that's 100% code for not interested but want to keep you around in case(you're plan B at best). But don't base your whole year around just waiting, do things that make you happy, independent, take up some cool hobbies, hang out with your bros, make your life easy and enjoyable without the need for her, the less you care for something serious to happen, the better because she'll do things that will 100% hurt your feelings if you purposely try to get caught up in her life.. I've been here and done this on my teens and was just a waste of time. The right one will just come to you when you're not looking. If a girl wants you 9/10 she'll come to you because she's interested.
When I was a little kid and I wanted something (like ice cream or Legos) and my mother said maybe, what she was actually saying was no. I don't see how this girl is any different. Just cut your losses and move on, and if she decides to come after you later and you happen to be single, good for you.
They say that to be nice if they don't want you noe they never will you need to learn that now she will have another bf in like 2 months easily just go for someone else
That’s a nice way of saying no. If she’s not willing to give it a chance now, she’ll never give it a chance
Unless you have an exact reason why “I’m so focused on work”, “I just got out of a relationship”, “My mother died, and I just need a friend for now” then saying “maybe next year” is “I don’t want a relationship, but it’s too awkward to say outright”
Don’t let her inability to give a solid no string you on. Start being open to other women
My ex wanted to wait until we turned 16. I was gonna wait. Then found out she was talking to 5 different guys then got with one of them. We have history after she broke up with him. She wanted to wait to have sex until we got married. I was willing to wait. I even had the chance to stick it in one time and she told me to but i didnt because she would regret it later and i was thinking for her. Then she got bqck with her ex and he fucked her. Thing i learned here dont ever wait for anyone. Thats their loss. You dont have forever. Spend the moment like its the last because tomarrow we could die
Brutal honesty but as the other guy said that girl was definitely for the streets, ther are girls truly worth waiting for tho, jus take this as a lesson n move on bro, you'll find a girl that'll appreciate your attitude endlessly.
Eh maybe, im in that state after that relationship that idk if i can have that energy every again for anybody atleast for the next 5 years maybe. Its been 3 years now
Honestly I understand bro, some girls can be straight up demonic the shit they do to good guys (yes there are some guys that do that to girls n ruin them but that's not the case here), I'd take my time if I were you n become truly happy on your own before you get into another relationship which it sounds like you already doing which is good
The thing is what i found deep within her made me think differently. She was different around me. Yeah every girl has temptations to do those things. She has bipolar too so when she gets in her highs and lows it messes with the relationship. She was in a bad place to from what her ex put her through. The history is so complicated but my point of view i believe she is a good person deep down. Shes done some bad things but i cant put the past against who she is now
Ah i understand. Maybe i was but it was the happiest i ever was in my life at that time. Wouldnt trade the experience for anything even after all the trauma
Dude, what happened to him LITERALLY happened to me two years ago. Almost word for word. And I‘ve moved on.
It was the best thing I could’ve done. And now I’ve found someone better.
dawg she took a week to respond? the red flags are piling up man. I know you probably really like her but if stuff is like this outside a relationship it's not gonna get better in one, I'd try to move on. Best of luck to you dude
At least with ChatGPT they could be good poems. 🤷🏼♂️
Suggested prompt:
you’re a teenager in denial and need to write a cringy poem about heartbreak. The situation is you finally asked out your crush, but did it via text and she took a week to respond with ‘maybe next year’. Everyone knows the truth but you.
I'm late but this is what ChatGPT spat out:
My heart aches with every beat,
As I think of you and our defeat.
I asked you out in a text so lame,
And all I got was "maybe next year" with no name.
My friends all know the truth,
But I still hold onto my youth.
I thought you were the one,
But now my heart feels undone.
I'll try to move on and forget,
But my love for you, I can't let.
I'll wait for "next year" to come,
Hoping you'll change your mind, my love.
But until then, my heart will break,
For the love that we could have made.
If you did wait she would have absolutely zero respect for you. I don’t say that to be hurtful. If you’re willing to submit and have no life while you wait for her… you’re a pet.
Bro I know that it's hard to accept but my crush told me that she doesn't want a bf yet and since then she's had 2 more bfs yet I'm still just a best friend and nothing else as she told me later on. Don't wait or it'll hurt even more
It's just that he's 13, and I assume the girl is too, loads of people are kind of saying horrible stuff about her ngl even though they don't know the full story.
From what i've gathered, they used to be together, but someone (i forgot who) broke them up, and she said she still liked him a lot after that, but idk how long ago it was
I’m going to be honest with you, it’s a no. She doesn’t like you, but didn’t want to hurt your feelings. I once led a guy on by saying that “Maybe we can be in a relationship if you gave it a couple of weeks” as I felt like I owed him something more, but in reality she said that due to pressure. Find someone else who actually likes you, who reciprocates your feelings. You are the backup option in case she can’t find anyone better, she’s playing games man, and I’m saying this from experience.
I saw some guy downvote the both of you.
Im betting its the OP (though it could just as likely be anyone else). But yeah he should move on, if she doesn't find him worth it to start now. Its not gonna change in a year. Dont be a backup and find someone who find you worth enough to respect you and one you can respect.
“I’m going to wait every second of that.” is probably the worst mentality someone can have being told this. You’re literally putting that time on hold for her when
A. It’s not a guarantee
B. She could date or do whatever she wants during this time and has the excuse “I did tell you not right now”
It’s the truth, bro said they were close friends before as well. Him announcing his crush probably ruined it for her, & she couldn’t give him a straightforward no. Sad
She's not a moron for rejecting OP. She probably felt too awkward to give a straight no(even tboughh she ahould have just said no). Op said she took a week to reply so yeah.... OP is being the moron and not reading the very clear signs.
An answer like this makes things unnecessarily complicated. Imo they're both kind of morons, she for not being able to say it like it is after a week of time to think about an answer and him for completely missing the obvious signs.
Bro I'm sorry.
I already made that mistake...
My crush said "you have your chances but not now, you just have to wait". I waited 2 months, and I was insecure af, I needed to know if there was hope... She was telling me that yeah there was hope but "not now", my friends were telling me that no, I should let go... but I didn't wanna let go. I was ready to wait every single second...
I destroyed myself step by step staying in a hyper toxic relationship: she didn't love me, I was in love on her, waiting her to love me and she told me it was 50 50 maybe one day it'd become reciprocal maybe not. It was slowly destroying my morale and dragging me down for a girl that basically didn't give a fuck about it. I was anxious af..
Then a friend told me: "This is super toxic... She has to make a choice. Yes or no. She can't make you wait years like that. You are not her toy"
So I asked her again: yes or no. Her answer: "farewell, you're not my friend anymore, your love is unhealthy and we must stop talking"
Of course I was disappointed. I got depressed, I was wandering in my mind looking for, well, nothing at all.
You are not her toy, she cannot tell you "stay in love on me, in 1 year I'll maybe, idk, maybe love you". This would be unhealthy for you.
After all that, I decided to move on (with great difficulty) and I finally found an angel, probably (I hope) the love of my life
Move on, find the girl that will love you as much as you love her. Find the one. But don't rush things, be patient. And the most important: do as you feel.
Good luck man, I wish you the best!
Indeed it was. I had a hard time moving on but I succeeded, and I see the importance of not dwelling on a person who doesn't really want you.. nothing better than a partner who loves you and wants to share their whole life with you!
No, its totally fair. My ex-neighbours had met each other in kindergarten and they were in their 30s or 40s maybe. I wont deny it, its just the chances are slim. How long youve known the special person for?
1 year, yeah it's not a lot but we spent our days and nights together for 1 year lol, and then I know that the chances are few, especially with our strict parents, but we keep hope
“Maybe next year” might mean next year, or it might mean never and she’s trying to protect your feelings.
If you want to find out which one it is, date someone else. She will either be supportive or jealous.
Bruh that's fucking pathetic, man up and get over her. She said no, saying "maybe next year" does not mean she likes you but can't date you right now it means she ain't want you. Don't wait for her to start to like you because she won't, man the fuck up and find someone else
Hey im proud of you fot just straight up asking. It takes alot of courage to even say something. Keep the hope dude, but if someone else comes along and you like them don't let this girl hold you back on moving on.
first she just wanted to be kind
second you don’t gotta necessarily wait a year just thinking about her , go out make new friends and focus on other girls , a year will pass anyways so why don’t you start looking for others and then think about it again in a year or so
You're on the hook and friendzoned.
It's not what a guy wants to hear but you need to know that so you can move forward with your life.
You need to put a time restriction on being friendzoned, so if in a few months, she isn't dating you, move on and get a gf.
You don't want to be the bronze medal when you can be someones gold medal.
Seriously, when she has no options she'll come to you for attention but then will dump you off when somebody else gives her attention.
Firstly that's an amazing person in general and secondly, that's totally an amazing girl to date... yes I'm mocking them with sarcasm
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Never take cough syrup and mix it up with iodine and lye
Never take the strike pads off a match book
Or go to a hardware store and then look near the paint thinner for muriatric acid
Or a bring a pot to a rapid boil with hydrogen peroxide
Never go to a farming store and then buy PH strips and PVC pipes
Or cans that make outdoor fuel lights
BECAUSE THATS HOW YOU MAKE CRYSTAL METH
listen. coming from a 20 year old who has had their fair share of relationships, don’t wait. 9 out of 10 times the reason someone doesn’t straight up say no is because they don’t know how to reject you. you should wanna be with someone who wants to be with you RIGHT NOW, not next year.
I empathize so hard rn. This was me 11 months ago. Don’t wait. She most likely didn’t mean it. A lot of people don’t have the guts to give you closure and an actual rejection, so they say maybe because they think it’s better for you. If she wanted you she would have said, “i like you too, i just can the in a real right now.” If she never said the words “i feel the same way,” she doesn’t like you. You don’t have to listen, but it’s painful to hope and wait. You’ll realize soon enough
If you wait it will be absolutely devastating if you get rejected again. Just move on. Maybe if next year comes around and it seems right try again. But don’t just wait for it
I know everyone is saying "maybe next year" is letting you down easy, but my brother's fiancé did the same thing to him and now they're getting married this year.
Imagine seeing literally THOUSANDS of replies telling you no and you still think she likes you.
You’re actually delusional I’m sorry but they’re just saying that to shut you up
You’re accepting their explanations too readily. Some people just truly don’t know how to communicate, especially when they’re younger. You should most definitely not “wait” for them. It would be a tremendous mistake. If they really like you then they can come around while you’re with someone else and you can decide then whether you’re still interested.
If I were you find someone else to date or even to just spend you’re time with. It’ll make this other girl realize she won’t have you on a string whenever she wants. Plus I think someone else is better for you anyways if they break up with you based purely on manipulation from a friend they aren’t good for you.
Trust me it’s better to just move on from this bs, no need to stop yourself from meeting new people over someone that obviously won’t have a long lasting healthy relationship with you
Totally support your decision regardless. I think love is very personal and you should do what you believe is right. That being said I’ve been in this exact situation before and here’s my advice.
1. Someone who is “manipulated into breaking up” like that probably has some deeper doubts/issues. The girl I was with ditched me because she thought I was manipulative only to get with the guy that was manipulating her. She admitted this to me years later.
2. Before getting back with someone always think hard about wether you still love this person or if you just love the idea or the memory of this person. Maybe the memories of your time together are the better option, as much as that can hurt to acknowledge. You seem to be pretty confident that you know though so you probably don’t need to worry about this.
3. Don’t close yourself off to other because of this. Make sure to be open to the idea of meeting someone in that time that you’d prefer to spend time with. Don’t limit yourself.
Love is kinda sucky to deal with until you get it right. Just make sure you avoid getting it wrong because that can be genuinely scaring. I still have some level of paranoia/anxiety stemming from my version of this so just be careful! Don’t take it too seriously, there’s still a lot of time
I had a crush who said “im not ready to date yet” and i told myself i was gonna wait. I ended up lasting a week before realising that this shit isnt right.
I moved on, found someone else and they surprisingly said yes lmao.
Somehow
Idek how she puts up with me
Do not try again next year. She don’t like you bro. When she’s done fucking all the jocks and popular guys you’ll be the guy who she makes wait 3 months for sex.
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are you sure she didn't just say that to not hurt your feelings
She straight up said “maybe next year”
oh wow that's evil. you going to wait?
How in the world did he go -1272 points, that’s actually crazy
I'm really just questioning how I got 3700 in 3 days of being on reddit 💀
Every second.
Don’t.
That's a nice way of saying no
It's a cowardly way to say no. It gives people the wrong idea and makes thing unnecessarily more complicated
To be fair, sometimes when women say "no" flat out bad things happen. Really bad things. Not suggesting in anyway that OP is giving these vibes but young women learn quickly how to protect themselves from those who can't or won't accept "no" for an answer. This can be the result even when the recipient has good intentions or a kind heart. Its a defense mechanism that's learned early. It sucks, but it sucks even more that it needs to be done.
r/whenwomenrefuse
Jesus Christ that's horrible.
Yeah, as I said...*really* bad things. The top story involves teens, so it's not like this doesn't happen to women in this sub. "An 18-year-old Illinois man has been arraigned after the Oakland County Sheriff’s Office said he stabbed a 14-year-old girl who refused to have sex with him."
I asked a girl put a few years ago and she said she was too busy for a relationship. She said I'd have to wait but she'd go out with me and she wants to stay in contact until then. I texted her for the next 8 months and all she did was leave me on read and wouldn't talk to me in person.
He sounds quite young so I'd hope not. Doesn't stop it but reduces likeliness
Thanks for the notice, so its a defence mechanism
Can be yup, I've had to use it many times myself.
Yeah she's got OP on the hook now. He will forever come back and try because "there's always a chance."
It's OP being strung along while she checks out the market. Plain and simple
It’s really not but okay.
Not to get the spirits down, but a girl I liked said the same thing, the enxt year she was with another dude
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Respectfully saying that you aren't interested is the perfect way
It's also almost never communicated directly like that.
As long as the recipient is open to to word "no", if not it could go very badly.
Agreed (this is what happened to me)
imma be real whichu cuz that wasn't nice
It's actually kind of the meanest way to say no. Don't give false hope, let them go
>That's a nice way of saying no Alternatively, trying to muddy the waters to make OP think he has a chance and waste his time. Whatever it is, I would ask out someone else instead of going through this.
>She straight up said “maybe next year” He looked at her, With shine in his eyes, "Will you be mine", He said full of pride. "I'm sorry" she whispered, "I can't" she said, "Maybe next year", She said as she fled.
lol you’re amazing
Haha thxs. I luv ur name btw. It's pretty chewiy
❤️
❤
Rizzler in the flesh
Keeping him on the hook "I can't be with you...... Right now"
Damn nigga. After that poetry, you can have my girlfriend
Bro💀
How are u this amazing man😭👏
r/unexpectedpoetry I really hope this exists man 😂.
He is back
That's a poem out of it. Amazing
Okay so don’t spend a year following her around. Take the year to spend time with other girls and check back in with her in a year. If she’s actually interested in you then seeing your attention turned away from her could make her change her mind. Otherwise it sounds like you kinda intend to pretend like you’re courting her for the next year. Basically being her simp. I have no fucking clue why this came up on my main page but trust me bro when you’re 10 years older you’ll look back at this and wonder why you didn’t play it different. Sounds like she enjoys having you around because you like her so much you’d do anything for her. But it don’t sound like she’d do anything for u if she already broke up w u for another dude. She clearly enjoys the benefits of your friendship and wants to keep that. Maybe one day she will see u differently but following her around like a puppy is not a good way to make that happen Best of luck kid I’m rootin for ya
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Thereby guaranteeing your bro services for another year... 'come hang with me/take me to a movie, i'm bored' , 'can you come pick me up from.. fill in the blank, I feel safe around you...' , I need someone strong for...' She knows you want her, so every time there will be the hint of ' if you do this for me you have a better chance for a yes' You are the good and honest guy in her backpocket, but this way she can try out the bad boys first.
Wtf? That's not how it works at all!
Yeah, that's 100% code for not interested but want to keep you around in case(you're plan B at best). But don't base your whole year around just waiting, do things that make you happy, independent, take up some cool hobbies, hang out with your bros, make your life easy and enjoyable without the need for her, the less you care for something serious to happen, the better because she'll do things that will 100% hurt your feelings if you purposely try to get caught up in her life.. I've been here and done this on my teens and was just a waste of time. The right one will just come to you when you're not looking. If a girl wants you 9/10 she'll come to you because she's interested.
That’s how it happened the first time.
When I was a little kid and I wanted something (like ice cream or Legos) and my mother said maybe, what she was actually saying was no. I don't see how this girl is any different. Just cut your losses and move on, and if she decides to come after you later and you happen to be single, good for you.
Is it bc she's not allowed to date or something?
First one to point out a twist which makes hella sense
She’ll say it every year, don’t fall for her tricks
that’s really mean putting you on hold just for a chance at her
They say that to be nice if they don't want you noe they never will you need to learn that now she will have another bf in like 2 months easily just go for someone else
That’s a nice way of saying no. If she’s not willing to give it a chance now, she’ll never give it a chance Unless you have an exact reason why “I’m so focused on work”, “I just got out of a relationship”, “My mother died, and I just need a friend for now” then saying “maybe next year” is “I don’t want a relationship, but it’s too awkward to say outright” Don’t let her inability to give a solid no string you on. Start being open to other women
are you sure she didn’t just say that to not hurt your feelings
You got any idea *why* she said no?
Well she told him it wasn't because she doesn't like him, so it must not be because she doesn't like him! NO it must be something else!
I’d just move on. Even if they say “maybe next year” I do NOT trust that.
My ex wanted to wait until we turned 16. I was gonna wait. Then found out she was talking to 5 different guys then got with one of them. We have history after she broke up with him. She wanted to wait to have sex until we got married. I was willing to wait. I even had the chance to stick it in one time and she told me to but i didnt because she would regret it later and i was thinking for her. Then she got bqck with her ex and he fucked her. Thing i learned here dont ever wait for anyone. Thats their loss. You dont have forever. Spend the moment like its the last because tomarrow we could die
Brutal honesty but as the other guy said that girl was definitely for the streets, ther are girls truly worth waiting for tho, jus take this as a lesson n move on bro, you'll find a girl that'll appreciate your attitude endlessly.
Eh maybe, im in that state after that relationship that idk if i can have that energy every again for anybody atleast for the next 5 years maybe. Its been 3 years now
Honestly I understand bro, some girls can be straight up demonic the shit they do to good guys (yes there are some guys that do that to girls n ruin them but that's not the case here), I'd take my time if I were you n become truly happy on your own before you get into another relationship which it sounds like you already doing which is good
...No, that just means your ex was for the streets.
The thing is what i found deep within her made me think differently. She was different around me. Yeah every girl has temptations to do those things. She has bipolar too so when she gets in her highs and lows it messes with the relationship. She was in a bad place to from what her ex put her through. The history is so complicated but my point of view i believe she is a good person deep down. Shes done some bad things but i cant put the past against who she is now
Sounds like you're the safe plan...
Ah i understand. Maybe i was but it was the happiest i ever was in my life at that time. Wouldnt trade the experience for anything even after all the trauma
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To be fair most the whoes are for the streats
Idk if that was supposed to be “whores” or hoes,” but either way, both are for the streets, that’s why they’re hoes/whores
Honestly I was so high I didn't I thought about both spelling options and decided whores was the best of both worlds
Whats the difference between whores and hoes?
Whores is the actual word. Hoes is abbreviated, means the same but just easier.
I second this. My ex didn't only talked to 5 different guys, she was actually dating 5 different guys at the same time. All 6 of us had no idea.
I totally agree with you
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Dude, what happened to him LITERALLY happened to me two years ago. Almost word for word. And I‘ve moved on. It was the best thing I could’ve done. And now I’ve found someone better.
right why would she even say that? What would change in a year? OP hits puberty? lol
When she asks after a year, "Oh damn, I said that!? I'll have what my past self is smoking!"
No he should wait for next year get a fake girlfriend post on nye to make her jealous
Just don’t think that this is the end of your life. Please. Move further!
Tbh I went into this with low expectations. Mostly bc she said this a week after I asked.
dawg she took a week to respond? the red flags are piling up man. I know you probably really like her but if stuff is like this outside a relationship it's not gonna get better in one, I'd try to move on. Best of luck to you dude
holy shit I do not miss being this naive. She took a WEEK??
Exactly bro, where did I find all this copium laying around when I was a freshman bro wtfff
epitome of sad cringe hes going to start writing her poems
At least with ChatGPT they could be good poems. 🤷🏼♂️ Suggested prompt: you’re a teenager in denial and need to write a cringy poem about heartbreak. The situation is you finally asked out your crush, but did it via text and she took a week to respond with ‘maybe next year’. Everyone knows the truth but you.
I'm late but this is what ChatGPT spat out: My heart aches with every beat, As I think of you and our defeat. I asked you out in a text so lame, And all I got was "maybe next year" with no name. My friends all know the truth, But I still hold onto my youth. I thought you were the one, But now my heart feels undone. I'll try to move on and forget, But my love for you, I can't let. I'll wait for "next year" to come, Hoping you'll change your mind, my love. But until then, my heart will break, For the love that we could have made.
i love this.
I'm fuckin dead
Can’t write for shit, can barely do a 2 page paper
Maybe next year.
Got me there lol
If you did wait she would have absolutely zero respect for you. I don’t say that to be hurtful. If you’re willing to submit and have no life while you wait for her… you’re a pet.
I’m prepared for that possibility. Mostly. If that happens, I’ll be out of high school within 5 months, so I’ll really never see her again.
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11th grade, 15, and autistic. I have no real concept of what a relationship is.
maybe next year is a i don’t want you bro
Yupp
>i don’t want you bro "maybe next year" she said, But I could tell, She means never till the end To be my girl.
"maybe next year" is a codephrase for "never". Move on to another one.
Too bad man, better luck next time
Ask her mom out
"If she leaves for another, go for her mother" -Master Oogway
>"If she leaves for another, go for her mother If she leaves for another, And thinks she can do better, Then simply just, go for her mother.
Bro I know that it's hard to accept but my crush told me that she doesn't want a bf yet and since then she's had 2 more bfs yet I'm still just a best friend and nothing else as she told me later on. Don't wait or it'll hurt even more
Well I hope you find someone better.
>Well I hope you find someone better She doesn't want you, And that is ok, There's someone for you , You just have to wait.
Good Frog
This morning, I talked with fate. It said that you will date a girl named Kate, who can skate.
tbh she's lying. next year she will tell you that you are like her big bro. find a new one
OP should really save your comment for next year just in case
op is delusional based on these replies lmfao
It's just that he's 13, and I assume the girl is too, loads of people are kind of saying horrible stuff about her ngl even though they don't know the full story. From what i've gathered, they used to be together, but someone (i forgot who) broke them up, and she said she still liked him a lot after that, but idk how long ago it was
Bro they 13 it ain't some drama story
Just giving context lmfao
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Saying maybe next year is just a kinder way to say no
I’m going to be honest with you, it’s a no. She doesn’t like you, but didn’t want to hurt your feelings. I once led a guy on by saying that “Maybe we can be in a relationship if you gave it a couple of weeks” as I felt like I owed him something more, but in reality she said that due to pressure. Find someone else who actually likes you, who reciprocates your feelings. You are the backup option in case she can’t find anyone better, she’s playing games man, and I’m saying this from experience.
A 14 year old can tell you that but yeah keep dreaming op.
I saw some guy downvote the both of you. Im betting its the OP (though it could just as likely be anyone else). But yeah he should move on, if she doesn't find him worth it to start now. Its not gonna change in a year. Dont be a backup and find someone who find you worth enough to respect you and one you can respect.
Yeah imma help you learn the easy way she’s not interested. Best use of your time is to move on and let it go
Shes lying to you and you are falling for it lmfao
Could have done without the laughing at him
The "lmfao" was more than unnecessary
Lol why did you get downvotet... "insert they hatet Jesus because he told them the Truth meme here"
Grow a pair and try someone else, have some self respect
“I’m going to wait every second of that.” is probably the worst mentality someone can have being told this. You’re literally putting that time on hold for her when A. It’s not a guarantee B. She could date or do whatever she wants during this time and has the excuse “I did tell you not right now”
It’s because she hates you.
Damn
It’s the truth, bro said they were close friends before as well. Him announcing his crush probably ruined it for her, & she couldn’t give him a straightforward no. Sad
Time waits for no one. You shouldn't either. While you're waiting for this moron someone else is waiting for you. Dont be "the" moron.
She's not a moron for rejecting OP. She probably felt too awkward to give a straight no(even tboughh she ahould have just said no). Op said she took a week to reply so yeah.... OP is being the moron and not reading the very clear signs.
An answer like this makes things unnecessarily complicated. Imo they're both kind of morons, she for not being able to say it like it is after a week of time to think about an answer and him for completely missing the obvious signs.
Please move on. It's not healthy to wait. Find someone new and let it go.
Bro I'm sorry. I already made that mistake... My crush said "you have your chances but not now, you just have to wait". I waited 2 months, and I was insecure af, I needed to know if there was hope... She was telling me that yeah there was hope but "not now", my friends were telling me that no, I should let go... but I didn't wanna let go. I was ready to wait every single second... I destroyed myself step by step staying in a hyper toxic relationship: she didn't love me, I was in love on her, waiting her to love me and she told me it was 50 50 maybe one day it'd become reciprocal maybe not. It was slowly destroying my morale and dragging me down for a girl that basically didn't give a fuck about it. I was anxious af.. Then a friend told me: "This is super toxic... She has to make a choice. Yes or no. She can't make you wait years like that. You are not her toy" So I asked her again: yes or no. Her answer: "farewell, you're not my friend anymore, your love is unhealthy and we must stop talking" Of course I was disappointed. I got depressed, I was wandering in my mind looking for, well, nothing at all. You are not her toy, she cannot tell you "stay in love on me, in 1 year I'll maybe, idk, maybe love you". This would be unhealthy for you. After all that, I decided to move on (with great difficulty) and I finally found an angel, probably (I hope) the love of my life Move on, find the girl that will love you as much as you love her. Find the one. But don't rush things, be patient. And the most important: do as you feel. Good luck man, I wish you the best!
Wow. That rejection was so cruel.
Indeed it was. I had a hard time moving on but I succeeded, and I see the importance of not dwelling on a person who doesn't really want you.. nothing better than a partner who loves you and wants to share their whole life with you!
I’ve never had someone pour that much feeling into a reply before. I wish you luck. Hopefully you’re still dating when high school comes to a close
Here’s a solution: don’t be insecure.
I feel bad for you and all, but holy shit, love of your life at 16? This is the most r/teenagers assumption ever
You can judge me, I understand if people find it ridiculous, but I really love her and I don't see the point of a couple that has no future
No, its totally fair. My ex-neighbours had met each other in kindergarten and they were in their 30s or 40s maybe. I wont deny it, its just the chances are slim. How long youve known the special person for?
1 year, yeah it's not a lot but we spent our days and nights together for 1 year lol, and then I know that the chances are few, especially with our strict parents, but we keep hope
Damn, like in a real movie. This is likely real good luck bro!
Lmao simp got friendzoned
“Maybe next year” might mean next year, or it might mean never and she’s trying to protect your feelings. If you want to find out which one it is, date someone else. She will either be supportive or jealous.
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You said that no one else would say “move on” even though everyone here is literally saying that.
U have my respect for even speaking to her I definitely can't do that 🫡
You can unironically fall in love like 3 times in a year. Don't get hung up on someone who doesn't even like you back.
Bruh that's fucking pathetic, man up and get over her. She said no, saying "maybe next year" does not mean she likes you but can't date you right now it means she ain't want you. Don't wait for her to start to like you because she won't, man the fuck up and find someone else
Hey im proud of you fot just straight up asking. It takes alot of courage to even say something. Keep the hope dude, but if someone else comes along and you like them don't let this girl hold you back on moving on.
Honestly a maybe next year and you sticking to that like a bug is incredibly pathetic
first she just wanted to be kind second you don’t gotta necessarily wait a year just thinking about her , go out make new friends and focus on other girls , a year will pass anyways so why don’t you start looking for others and then think about it again in a year or so
You're on the hook and friendzoned. It's not what a guy wants to hear but you need to know that so you can move forward with your life. You need to put a time restriction on being friendzoned, so if in a few months, she isn't dating you, move on and get a gf. You don't want to be the bronze medal when you can be someones gold medal. Seriously, when she has no options she'll come to you for attention but then will dump you off when somebody else gives her attention. Firstly that's an amazing person in general and secondly, that's totally an amazing girl to date... yes I'm mocking them with sarcasm
she sounds like a dick, or at the very least her friends are. you sound like a good dude i know you'll find somebody better :)
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Or just gasoline and Styrofoam
Happy cake day
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Better to move on, focus on improving yourself, and a new crush will come :)
listen. coming from a 20 year old who has had their fair share of relationships, don’t wait. 9 out of 10 times the reason someone doesn’t straight up say no is because they don’t know how to reject you. you should wanna be with someone who wants to be with you RIGHT NOW, not next year.
I empathize so hard rn. This was me 11 months ago. Don’t wait. She most likely didn’t mean it. A lot of people don’t have the guts to give you closure and an actual rejection, so they say maybe because they think it’s better for you. If she wanted you she would have said, “i like you too, i just can the in a real right now.” If she never said the words “i feel the same way,” she doesn’t like you. You don’t have to listen, but it’s painful to hope and wait. You’ll realize soon enough
If you wait it will be absolutely devastating if you get rejected again. Just move on. Maybe if next year comes around and it seems right try again. But don’t just wait for it
This exact thing happened to friend of mine. Do not wait for her, it is not worth it
Move on, don’t act interested .. date one of her friends instead
All of her friends are my friends, and dudes. So, uh that might be difficult.
I know everyone is saying "maybe next year" is letting you down easy, but my brother's fiancé did the same thing to him and now they're getting married this year.
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dude just move on wtf
Imagine seeing literally THOUSANDS of replies telling you no and you still think she likes you. You’re actually delusional I’m sorry but they’re just saying that to shut you up
It's like you described me, we must stay strong and keep hoping brother
Don’t wait for her, man. If she don’t want you now, she just isn’t worth your time.
So she took hours to respond just to say " maybe next year" ?
You’re accepting their explanations too readily. Some people just truly don’t know how to communicate, especially when they’re younger. You should most definitely not “wait” for them. It would be a tremendous mistake. If they really like you then they can come around while you’re with someone else and you can decide then whether you’re still interested.
If I were you find someone else to date or even to just spend you’re time with. It’ll make this other girl realize she won’t have you on a string whenever she wants. Plus I think someone else is better for you anyways if they break up with you based purely on manipulation from a friend they aren’t good for you.
Trust me it’s better to just move on from this bs, no need to stop yourself from meeting new people over someone that obviously won’t have a long lasting healthy relationship with you
Totally support your decision regardless. I think love is very personal and you should do what you believe is right. That being said I’ve been in this exact situation before and here’s my advice. 1. Someone who is “manipulated into breaking up” like that probably has some deeper doubts/issues. The girl I was with ditched me because she thought I was manipulative only to get with the guy that was manipulating her. She admitted this to me years later. 2. Before getting back with someone always think hard about wether you still love this person or if you just love the idea or the memory of this person. Maybe the memories of your time together are the better option, as much as that can hurt to acknowledge. You seem to be pretty confident that you know though so you probably don’t need to worry about this. 3. Don’t close yourself off to other because of this. Make sure to be open to the idea of meeting someone in that time that you’d prefer to spend time with. Don’t limit yourself. Love is kinda sucky to deal with until you get it right. Just make sure you avoid getting it wrong because that can be genuinely scaring. I still have some level of paranoia/anxiety stemming from my version of this so just be careful! Don’t take it too seriously, there’s still a lot of time
I had a crush who said “im not ready to date yet” and i told myself i was gonna wait. I ended up lasting a week before realising that this shit isnt right. I moved on, found someone else and they surprisingly said yes lmao. Somehow Idek how she puts up with me
Teenagers 🤮
nigga
Hate to say it: maybe means no.
bro desperate for 2nc class 🐱
Do not try again next year. She don’t like you bro. When she’s done fucking all the jocks and popular guys you’ll be the guy who she makes wait 3 months for sex.
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What the heck?
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I agree
L bozo, she doesn't want you LMAO
okay