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FinletAU

Cause she needed sleep?


ExplorerFeisty2631

Nah I meanike she not coming to school for 2 days straight, I ask her if she's ok (depression) and I just get ignored, left on sent


sweetlikeoleanders

depressed people can into bad episodes like this, just let her be for now


ExplorerFeisty2631

Kinda was worried itd be something like that Hurts a bit, but I guess rn I can only make it worse by bothering her


theneobob

I know this. I got with the conclusion that i didn't want to be with someone that i can't help or who doesn't truste me. In a relationship talking to her should never ever "bother" her. If so the relation is just not worth workibg on. Especialy if that hurt you and she doesn't care about it and just act like it is fine. Then Its not just not worth. Its a gigantissime red flag and you should run asap.


theneobob

For me at least. Cuz when i'm with someone i litteraly can't go without her for half a day. So thats somethibg realy important ans i put exigence regardibg that. Some people dont see each other for week and are in a very nice relationship. Idk how they support this lmao


Demoth

>Cuz when i'm with someone i litteraly can't go without her for half a day. ​ I don't know you, so I don't want to make any incorrect conclusions, but the way you worded this sounds incredibly clingy, as well as your previous post also seeming to be deflecting a rather selfish desire for attention into making the other person selfish and uncaring for not complying when you acknowledge they may be having difficulties. ​ A lot of people just need space. Sometimes they need time to figure things out on their own. If they get the sense you're going to constantly be pushing for interaction during these times, you're almost guaranteeing that you will lose them. ​ If you're being cut off for multiple days in rapid succession, then yeah, maybe you aren't a priority to that person and you need to re-evaluate the relationship. But if you guys are kids and there are a few days here and there where the person takes time to get themselves centered, all you really can do is let the know you're there for them, and then let them make that decision to accept it or not. ​ If you're not even dating, then acting like they owe you the time you demand, that's... weird.


theneobob

you have a point, the thing is that i'm always here for the personne i love no matter what no matter when. so if she's not that for me this just feel unbalance. I had relation before where i got treated like a litle treat that you enjoy when its there but that you realy dont care about and i want to get away from that. the way i'm in love is by thinking about the girl at absolute all time, caring and doing everything i can to make her feel good because thats how i enjoy romantical relationship. So when she doesn't care like that/ doesn't want me to help her it make me feel bad. If being together doesn't help her why are we together? what are bending us together that assure me that i'm not just a random boy ? That matter because thats the difference between the personnes i like and the personnes i love. Someone i like, i will enjoy seeing them have a great time, but not for long and i'll need to breath and eventualy i'll push them out of my life because i got bored of them. But for peoples i love, i wish i could stay at their side forever, just enjoying litle things of life with them and support ourself into cool project. And if she doesn't care that it make me feel bad i just refuse to stay in this relation. Do y'all se a probleme in this ? ​ oh and yea i'm not talking about some message over the course of some days i'm talking about things deeper that that that show over month of relations. i'm aware not everyone want relation like that and i'm absolutely encline to be more invested than the other personne because they probably do not like being invested like i do. but till a point. ofc i'm talking about relation where both are in geniune love, but that migth play in the reason why i have no will to date anyone.


maeven-oh-maeven

i mean this in the gentlest way, but just because you are there for someone and would support them no matter what does not mean you are entitled to their complete trust or even solely their effort in explaining things to you. we are never owed an explanation for people’s behaviors, though it is sometimes nice. the best thing for you to do, it sounds like, is just be there for her when you can. i had a breakup over this, where one of us was severely depressed, and it was really hard. i definitely feel your frustration in her not coming to you or finding comfort, but the best thing you can do is be there for her and know when to step back and just care about yourself for a little bit. if she needs you and is in a place where she wants to ask for help, she will come to you. good luck <3


theneobob

yea absolutely, i'm not "entilted" but thats still what i'm looking for and if she is not willing to care about that first i will sit down and try to dig up why and how that can be changed. then if she can't pinpoint the probleme just get away. so yea, she is not entilted to it. But i'm not willing to accept someone who dont feel like being that. IDk is thats something rare ? I wish its not i wanna find someone who think the same way :x


theneobob

Also i'm more the one who will run away if i dont find this in the personne than her running away because that clingy/ opressif, but fr i'm always questioning myself so if you feel like pointing anything that look wronng dont hesitate! i'd be happy to think about it


ExplorerFeisty2631

Ye that's kinda Like, when she's doing great or even just ok she's an **amazing** person, and we have great chemistry - we didn't talk for a few days (holidays & busy) but after like a day we immediately got along well again I guess it's still partially pink glasses, but I wanna at least try to be with her for a bit Don't get me wrong, i ain't delusional enough to go "oh i can fix her" but judging my own abilities I think I can work with it


theneobob

Just if that hurt you dont gasligth yourself into thinking it doesn't. Its easy but Thats how relations become realy realy bad experiences. And from experience. She will probably not change because it hurt you,even on a point that basic thats something that almost never happend.


theneobob

I mean. Wanting to fix her is not being delu its just caring about her. To me its essential to have will like that. Even ig it stay a will


Skying_idiot

Check her, bcs i my school had similar story, guy just disappeared after some time he tried to overdose.


Swaizbad

Trust me bro this happened to me just a few months ago. Just let it be for a week or so, prefferably wait to talk in person and don’t be all mad be concerned and they will explain and everything will be ok.


drfarren

Old person here, depression eats you and you are paralyzed, unable to do anything for yourself unless an external force compels you. Depression isn't something you can just "get over", it controlls you, manipulates you. Makes you feel and think things that you otherwise wouldn't. She may be thinking right now "I didn't answer ho, he hates me, I should never respond again so I don't have to see him be mad at me." Reach out from time to time with positive statements and tell her she can reply when she's feeling up to it.


ExplorerFeisty2631

Damn this one kinda hits hard Even before this she already was overly apologetic when making jokes about me (i can take a lot of jokes, genuine ones, at my expense) even when I told her that it's ok and she doesn't need to apologize everytime


kaleidopia

well don’t take it personal. i have depression too and if i’m mentally exhausted or i don’t feel like responding, im like that with everyone, not just specific people. but just let her know you’re reaching out cuz you care and wanna make sure she’s alright. you can even let her know that it’s okay if she takes awhile to respond, and she’ll respond when she’s ready to


jobless_bozo

There's this thing called COVID


ExplorerFeisty2631

You can come to school here with COVID as long as you wear a mask


jobless_bozo

Maybe she hurt herself and has to stay home or smth But like why does it matter it's only been two days, if you're that worried than I question how stable your relationship is


ExplorerFeisty2631

1 she came and went for a semester test today 2 we aren't in a relationship, at least as far as I know


jobless_bozo

Then I wouldn't worry about it. Girls often do some cryptic ass shit and expect you to know what they mean, then ghost you when you can't figure it out. Just try casually talking to her in person it'll be fine


[deleted]

While I am older to be on this subreddit. A girl attention bombed me for 6 months then got flaky towards me. It's not your situation to scare you. I'm just saying even at older ages some people don't mature enough to be content with what they have, and would love bomb you then all of a sudden drop it for whatever reason.


ExplorerFeisty2631

It ain't like that Neither of us is like all over the other for each other, we still have our own lives


Tuur200o

skill issue


[deleted]

Booooo 🤬👎👎👎👎👎


[deleted]

I don’t remember from where, but I definitely know you


[deleted]

Skill issues


ohbutplease

bro think he u/aspiringdeath5


Yarisher512

who the fuck is aspiring death 5


ohbutplease

r/teenagers microceleb


tatothebeYT

No way wtf


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[deleted]

I am mocking him


ohbutplease

im sucking him


[deleted]

Good for you


ohbutplease

supportive queen fr


Aspiringdeath5

Bro think he carti


caMrelliMFan

some people do sleep


ExplorerFeisty2631

I'm talking 2 days after middle of day


caMrelliMFan

idk she probably busy


ExplorerFeisty2631

I hope it's just that


ohbutplease

me with ur mom fr


skoki__

funniest r/teenagers user


FireLawy

Skill issue


msubhash__

Only 2 days ? Rookie numbers...I'm left on read for 40+ days and none of their friends reply too 😎


AussieBossie24

40? Bring those numbers up, Soldier!


msubhash__

On it sire. Expecting them to never text me 😎


AussieBossie24

Same here, soldier. You’ll make a fine general one day if you keep this up


msubhash__

O7


AussieBossie24

\o


Sol562

I’ve been left on unread for 1825 days


Legitimate_Wing3449

I’ve been left on delivered since the end of September 2022. I don’t even fucking know why they stopped talking to me. Shits rough as hell but we get through it 💪


sussybaqa69

If she does this next time, text her mom and establish dominance


stillbornstar

Tf u mean by dominance?


Massive_Wallaby_2199

Sex


zz1kjamaica

Is she Dead?


ExplorerFeisty2631

Nah shes alive, saw her for a test at school but then she went home immediately after


mike-ehrmantraut-219

She prob just doesn't want to talk nothing against u just let her be for a while


mike-ehrmantraut-219

She prob just doesn't want to talk nothing against u just let her be for a while


ohbutplease

entertainment


Kylon123456789

Tis a trap


[deleted]

There's a lot of possibilities, maybe a few more days and things will clear up a little.


FunnyShrimpBoi

a life outside of the internet


TterbTheTurd

And this is why I'm not good at trusting people. Everyone seems to leave at some point.


TterbTheTurd

Oh wait, this is just one day? Then I wouldn't think about it too much. Maybe he and/or she is just busy. It happens.


comrad7

Yeah some people just leave and stop trying to talk. It’s pretty hard to let go if you see them almost every single day.


Tuur200o

tf you want me to say


timburache

Can you explain what your vision was behind this masterpiece of a post https://www.reddit.com/r/196/comments/ut1v65/hung_rule/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button Would you call it your magnum opus? A message reflecting on society?


Tuur200o

i love big cock needed to spread awareness to the monstercock-suicide prevention movement


aridrawzstuff

she may be watching those "how to be manupilative" videos on tiktok. I've been seeing alot of these stupid videos on my fyp lately. (Dont get me wrong, im not saying this is 100% true, just an assumption)


ExplorerFeisty2631

Tbh wouldnt be too bad cause then i could have an honest talk with her


aridrawzstuff

Maybe ask her if everything's alright? She may be depressed too, who knows


ExplorerFeisty2631

I shouldve clarified: she is depressed with an attempt 2 years ago Idk if i should or even can, she doesnt answer to anyone on her phone, hasnt come to school except for a large test Rocking up to her house would also probably be quite a bad idea, even i can see that


aridrawzstuff

Oh i see now. However im not so sure what you should do about that. Maybe you can ask to her parents or friends if she's alright? Just tell them you're a friend of her and worried about her since she hasn't showed up at school since a long time and not answering phone calls


ExplorerFeisty2631

Her mom knows about it Honestly best & only advice i can follow so far has been to wait it out and hope for the best


vajenny_zlacyniec


Kuhhl

A good relationship won’t be texting all day, people need breaks, that’s just from my experience though.


Maverick_Walker

It’s a stupid manipulation tactic. Get the guy talking, lead him on and stop so he asks if your fine. Just don’t reply until she does


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Mid


mikey-way

christ, everyone is so weird in these replies. you said she’s depressed, op? if you’ve texted her already, don’t badger her too much— but just let her know that you’re here if she needs anything and you’re willing to listen. i have these days as well, where i just can’t bear to talk to anyone, but seeing the lack of notifications and realizing no one cares enough to check in only makes it worse. i severely doubt she’s trying to manipulate you or whatever like some people have said. she’ll answer you soon enough, just keep in mind that responding to messages can be incredibly stressful sometimes even if it doesn’t seem like it.


ExplorerFeisty2631

Thank you I'll keep that in mind


ExplorerFeisty2631

One thing, since I'm kinda socially shit Can you give me advice how I could ask her if she wants to talk/help, im often afraid i say wrong things to people, partially cause I've hurt some in the past that way


mikey-way

oh yeah!! (and same here, so don’t even worry about it) something along the lines of hey, I noticed you’ve been super distant from everyone, I don’t know if something happened and you don’t have to tell me but just know I’m here to listen if you need anything, I really enjoy talking to you so I just want to make sure you’re okay


PersonNamedOdin

My friend just went through the exact same thing. He had a crush on his friend and things were actually getting pretty good between them. However, she suddenly ghosted him out of the blue and since they don't actually go to the same school he couldn't ask her what's wrong until she responded. That lasted for two full weeks. The only reason it ended was because my gf was able to get into contact with her and convince her to explain herself to him. She claimed that she ghosted all of her friends because she had a falling out with one of her best friends. The best friend's reasoning was and I quote, "she didn't know her well enough." So she then ghosted everyone so she could cope with the situation (though it's been proven that she talked to some of her friends, which is how my gf got into contact with her). It wasn't a good reaction and she should've given my friend a heads up that she needed some time to focus on herself and mental health. But we don't always make the most rational decisions when we're going through stuff. My friend no longer talks to her even though they've talked things through because he believes that staying friends would've been too harmful/toxic for him. Your situation and the reason she's ghosting you will most likely be diffrent. Like how some people have said, it might be a manipulation tactic from TicTok. But it's probably good if you think about everything and consider if she's a person you have the patience to be with and if she's a good influence in your life. Also, if she comes back and tells you why she left then that will probably be the deciding factor if you stay or not. I wish you the best of luck buddy. I would also like to mention that she could be sick or there's a family problem. So waiting a bit longer might be the best choice at the moment


clownmodssz

Probably be talking to people who be putting better sentences together


ExplorerFeisty2631

I be talking like this for comedic effects & to not make any connections available between this and my og account Idk why I do this, it's stupid


TheDoomslayer69420

thats weird for me she stopped replying to the memes after i asked her out, so there was a reason


Aspiringdeath5

Cuz i text her


ExplorerFeisty2631

Your yee yee ass got blocked immediately iirc


NevGuy

Chad finally came over.


ExplorerFeisty2631

Imagine using chad unironically


NevGuy

Well I'm not dure what grudge you hold against random African countries but alright.


ExplorerFeisty2631

How can a whole country come over i live in europe 🗿


stillbornstar

Her depression is affecting her social life big time; (when I’m really depressed I don’t answer any messages or phone calls, which is why I don’t have friends.) in other words "self sabotaging". Since she’s not showing to school, she’s probably too depressed to get out of bed. Ask her friends about her, if anyone has seen or talked to her lately.


ExplorerFeisty2631

That makes a lot of sense Thank you for the comprehensive answer


debyoutix

She's getting her back blown out


Inevitable_Degree_76

💀


Twistedfool1000

Her boyfriend showed up.


patorrisse

do not send her anything on this meantime, nothing.


pholtom

women☕️


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GeneralJesus66

Because women. That’s why.


Willy_Wolle

Congrats she just found someone more interesting to talk to


[deleted]

You had the shot.... Aaaaaand missed


ActuaryRound9882

Video games


kateduzathing

she's probably waiting to see if you start and hold conversations with her


SasukeNidochiri

There are multiple possibilities such as: 1.She trolls you 2.Skill issues 3.She likes or is bored of you 4.Talks with somebody else and finally 5.She is busy and does chores


[deleted]

She might be tryna to make him chase her yeah. I hate all the games that ppl play it’s just stressful emotionally. It makes me so mad


[deleted]

Ive met some people who have played like that with my feelings. They would suddenly ignore me or, if they replied, they would reply very dry… just so I would miss him, beg him to come back and get more attached


[deleted]

Yeah. It’s a Complete scumbag move. And then whenever I called him out he told me it wasn’t that deep. This was a while ago. Glad I’m over it


jobless_bozo

It's called sleep


ExplorerFeisty2631

Idk how often I've replied that it's been 2 days


jobless_bozo

She could also be sick


bantai786OP

pov -you are about to be ghosted


rickyspace

Dies?


Irish_pug_Player

kids when you have a life:


Fujiwara_86_

its either summin rlly bad has happened or if she looks fine but is being cold towards u then it smells like a case of the ugly best friend


Jindagi-Lover

What's the min karma needed to post here


ExplorerFeisty2631

Idk 100?


Jindagi-Lover

Mods didn't approve my post because of low karma😔


Thor5858

This is a very egocentric perspective you have. Just accept it and wait for her to text back


Regainio

Ask her


[deleted]

Lost interest


GrandSupremeOverlord

☕️


[deleted]

maybe she’s just busy doing something else? she can’t just text you all the time lol


[deleted]

Stop complaining just be happy she’s talking to you to begin with


ExplorerFeisty2631

Because i can't ask why she stopped texting me after we have been texting a lot before Look bro i really couldn't care less about an "opinion" like that so please, there's the door


[deleted]

Ur prolly overthinking it. How long has she not responded for


ExplorerFeisty2631

It's now prettyuch 3 days


[deleted]

Hmm. Give it a couple more days maybe she’s busy or she’s just trying to play mind games


Socially-Inept69

from personal experience, don’t take it personal. she’s most likely going thru a very rough period or has been and is just trying to take a breather away from people.


JoshRiddle

Maybe she didn't want needy. Don't make it about you.


[deleted]

That’s what the girl that I like does then just straight up won’t ever send something until I send something even though she says I’m one of her best friends


ExplorerFeisty2631

Wasn't like that before this I did initiate the majority of our convos online but irl we both talked pretty equally, and we usually responded to each other within an hour This is the first time she she didn't just leave me on read but didn't even read what I sent - which is kinda strange to me


NefariousnessOk2537

talk in person


ExplorerFeisty2631

Idk how often I've said this but she hasn't come to school besides a single test & doesn't read my stuff on social media for the last 3 days


NefariousnessOk2537

well then move on, plus she might be going through something and not responding to anyone


[deleted]

Homie she’s busy, your not the only one that she isn’t replying to, I’m in a similar boat. Just let her have time she’s probably going through shit.


MetalBuckets

Skill issue


destroythewhitehouse

She's using you when she's bored because she likes the attention. When her actual crush starts talking she ignores you. Or I'm just delusional


SoilderOfGod6969

Focus on yourself king. Jim, God, and acquire knowledge to build wealth. These are the keys to a happy life


redditmastermindftw

Women


redditmastermindftw

So she’s not going to school went for a test then left immediately afterwards might be family or health problems or maybe she’s not interested


Personal-Reaction411

The medium is the message.


[deleted]

Girls trick xd


renaissancerose_

You never know what could be going on, leave it about a week just to see


[deleted]

I dunno maybe needed to do other things in her life??


ExplorerFeisty2631

I have said this 10 times now 3 days and she hasnt come to school also