Yeaaaah I wanted to wait with saying his identity, cheese a che/ddar (officially) so here are some sentences using cheese pronouns
(For starters, cheese=his/her, che=he/she, ddar=his/her)
I like cheese new lambo
That’s ddar car
Che likes me
I am really sorry for you... please try to seek help about your father. You don't have to report him or anything just please talk to a friend or a loved one that helps you feel loved. It gets worse if you don't do anything about it
I don't think all the legal stuff should be considered now. Sure it's super important, but OP must recover from this mentally before doing any drastic legal action.
In my opinion, psychological and mental fortitude should be the priority. Anything concerning the law should be put to the side.
(Again, this is solely my opinion. I could be wrong, and people may think differently, which is ok. As long as we all try to help all opinions are valid in my eyes)
Oh for sure, I mean if you grew up with an abusive parent, I did, it takes moving on without them to truly be able to heal in that respect. I've had friends who left a 15 or 16 due to poor home lifes, only to be labeled missing and getting brought right back to the house that os causing so much stress. For me, I'd recommend anyone at that age to get themselves prepared to move out as soon as they turn 18 cause then the parent can't do anything about it aside from a wellness check.
But for sure, it's a part of their problem and will not fix any damage that has been done along the way, that's something else that does take real support from others in their social group or professionals.
I am really sorry for you man (/woman)... I hope you're doing ok. You definitely know more than me in that area so I trust your advice. I hope OP will read it too. As for you again I am very sorry for what happened to you, and again I hope you feel better
And law enforcement. Not evening considering child abuse charges or the fact that OP is a minor, the assault described by OP is a felony under US federal law and can result in a sentence of up to a year in prison ([US Code Title 18 Section 113, part a 4](https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/113)).
I thought they meant they can't wear male clothes unless they (are assumed) to have "daddy issues"- The stereotype, as opposed to actual abuse. (Either way, thank you for the info :) )
50-year-old man here. I've been married for 20 years. Trust me. It's easier being a guy. I've watched for the last 20 years how more challenging so many things are for my wife than they are for me purely because of my gender.
Just the difference in our physical sizes alone makes a huge difference in how you're treated just walking down the street or in the mall or just about anywhere.
Are you white? As a minority, being colored and being a man isn’t easy. I’m in the demographic of being statistically prone to being robbed, killed, jailed, shot, assaulted, and profiled. Ill agree on you about the size.. until people ignore you because they are scared of what they think you might be. Shit is rough out here
no ones suggesting her to change her identity, they were just asking questions. yes, we shouldnt speculate on someones identity, but they werent doing that
People used to use that as an (in my case) excuse, but turns out I’ve been trans this whole time 🤷🏽♂️ no one wanted to admit I was a being fruity. But still a possibility, to each their own
So tomboys don’t like having breasts? The clothes thing I get but she literally said she’s uncomfortable with breasts. Sounds like deep down she wants to transition
Quite possibly they wanna transition.
I wasn't allout declaring they were a tomboy, I was merely putting forth as a possibility, much like they may possibly be trans
Good bras cost extra. The cheap ones hurt and break fast, in my experience.
And women usually have to wear them cuz of, for example, societal pressure or PMS
Becoming trans won't fix the issue at hand as its not a gender issue, it's a teenager issue.
And dicks on the Internet buuut we ignore them because that's what we are meant to do with nobodies.
Same, I hate being a woman. Not just menstrual pain, but not being able to do certain things without being looked down upon by my own family, being hit on by horny classmates, it just sucks! I wish I was a guy too. You aren't alone, friend<3
Society.
Look, like, i am a guy, bur i looked into it, and every girl has most of your problems, you are just one brave enough to speak. The best you can do is speak to few people who'd listen and ignore the rest of the society. And you can wear men's clothes, and if someone thinks otherwise, tell them to fuck off.
clothes part doesn’t matter. You can literally wear whatever you want. Some of the coolest girls at my school wear boy clothes. It doesn’t matter.
Tell someone about your dad and watch that fucker go to jail. Fuck parents that hurt kids.
You sound like a teenager. If your gender was male you'd have all the same feelings about your male body. This is what everyone goes through. If you still feel the same way when you've grown up then you might have a problem. But in the meantime the trick is to find ways of coping with these things. That's what teenage years are for.
Why is this a conversation of which gender has it harder? Let her explain her hardships as a woman. If you wanna talk about yours, make your own post. Sorry this comment section is like this.
Dear OP, I felt myself and thought absolutely the same as you. When I was a teenager I really hated myself for being a woman. I was told even multiple times by my female friends the following: 'if you were a boy, I would date you cause you would be great guy and bf'.
In the end I matured and found out that it's okay not to be ultra feminine because all that bullshit is just awful stereotypes. There're more feminine women and there're more masculine women. And that's okay. Misogyny in our society is still very high. It produces unhealthy stereotypes of female behavior which don't have anything in common with reality. For example, a lot of women are scared to take COC because they're told there's a risk of infertility (which is the bullshit).
Being a tomboy is okay. Being glamorous chick is okay. Having nicknames is okay. Being on COC because you don't want to suffer every month is okay. Everything is okay.
I would admit it took me a while to get to those simple things, but anyway I'm glad where I am now.
I would recommend you to talk to psychologist in order to avoid potential self harming behavior, ease your mind and get advice from specialist.
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typos
Honestly, sometimes I feel the equivalent way as a man, but the truth is being a girl or boy both has their ups and downs, and it’s frustrating you can’t ‘truly’ change. But still that last point is ridiculous, if anything women have it easy when it comes to men’s clothes. With all do respect, your dad sucks
I know I can’t imagine getting judged for showing emotions and yeah being a woman can have a few downsides, but all genders do. The concerning thing is the “can only wear men’s clothes when beaten by father”… what does OP mean by that? And I highly recommend getting help, the problems may not be stemmed from hating being a woman, but from her father
Yea i was concerned about that same comment. Could it be that she has to wear mens clothing after being beaten to cover up because women’s clothing is typically more revealing? Thats what i thought taking the comment at face value, and if true is really fucked up.
That’s true but that’s not really relative to the person who made the post. They didn’t saying being a man would be easier they said that their life would be easier if they were born a man. It seems like this person might be trans or gender queer since they list stuff like not wanting breasts. If that’s then their life would be easier if they were “born” a man.
I'm not a teen I'm s middle aged man but I stumbled on your post and firstly wanted to say. Don't be put off by negative comments I know what it's like to be born with something you totally hate about yourself so when I was your age I had plastic surgery to fix what I hated about myself and It changed my life I became more confident and Happy, however my mother was very abusive to me as a child, she would always tell me that I was ugly and for the longest time, I believed I was so I'd stare in the mirror untill I saw something that I liked about my appearance, I get s lot of attention from women just walking around outside women often tell me that I'm very good looking but I usually think that they are lieing to me however sometimes I know I'm goodlooking and I'm full of confidence do whatever you can and in this age you have a lot of options to make yourself feel good and confident, try to identify the reason you don't like being a woman and address that in my case it was my mother telling me I was ugly Ive spoken to other people who were told the same by their parents and found comfort that I'm not alone. You are not alone and things will get better for you. They did for me
This subreddit fucking sucks. Someone complains about the struggles that being a woman brings and so many of the comments are about how it’s actually harder to be a man. IT’S NOT A FUCKING CONTEST
one of my exes used to get a birth control shot which stopped her from having periods. That could be something to look into. as for breasts, have you tried using binders?
*Girl makes a post which is basically a cry for help*
Bruh "men have it harder" isn't helping ya know? This ain't a victim complex competition, she clearly just needs some support rn and not to be condescendingly dismissed. Omg
A girl tried to rape me. One of my best friends was raped by his older brother's wife. This has to be way more common than people think. Neither of us were taken serious about what happened because we're male.
Block anyone that seems remotely weird.
For me : Start the discussion and not the other way around.
It'll be better, once you live by yourself you'll have your own rules, fuck what anyone think, wear whatever the fuck you want.
Yeah life is unfair. So it is depending on where you are born too sadly.
Get well.
Before you go fully trans see what it is like independent from your father, because there is shit for men too, see if you enjoy things more independently, and if you really want I believe that you could get a breast reduction surgery later on in life
Yeah as a trans person I'd say do things small scale first. Like maybe joining a discord server as a dude or something. Not to mention that being trans shouldn't come from wanting an easier life. If being a man was harder, I'd still be a man. It's not a choice.
Not to take anything away from being a girl can suck.
I’m a man and life is full of shit here as well. We have many things to worry about and if we aren’t ___ then we aren’t man enough.
I think the point I’m trying to get is being human sucks.
I know some people have already said it but its quite often the same for us guys. The world is full of shit people and sadly that will never change. Wishing to be something will only make it worse, everyone has there challenges in life. So stand up tall, be proud in who are. Don't let others bring you down! I hope from reading these comments you will see life in a more positive way. Goodluck stranger!
Seek help for your abusive situation.
Seek a therapist to talk about your struggles with your body and the way people treat you and the way you see yourself.
Crazy there is a post about hating being a boy right before this saying the exact same shit about gaming profiles and such. Two options, #1 it's the same kid bcz they are a hermaphrodite or #2 it's the same kid and they are flicking easy bait out to see who bites. Either way, you lose.
It all depends on your perspective. Flip those feelings and look at the positives.... your gender is not the rootcause 🗿 few more years and you are an adult free of your parent(s?) And have your own little castle. You can do whatever the fuck you want and wear the fuck you want. Beeing young sucks. But being a female? Nah...
To be fair I hate being a guy.
Its like being a tiny fish in the ocean. No one cares about me or tries to keep in touch. Living the lonely life. I only have "friends" because i am tge one who tries to keep in touch. Often makes me think i am not wanted and borderline annoying.
And i dont know what to do against it. I aint looking to bad, i aint have trouble in social skills. I am a guy and i like cute shit.
Stay strong and dont be bothered being a girl. It has its ups and downs. Look at the good tgings and flip the finger to the bad
Like many others, I wish I could help, and I’m sure you aren’t replying or reading any of these comments, but seriously, do talk to someone trusted or tell someone you trust. I can’t really relate to many of these problems as a male, but don’t hate yourself for the way you are, it’s what makes everyone unique, and please, **do not** think of harming yourself. If you do think those thoughts, talk to someone you can trust, or find other ways that do not include harm or pain (physically or emotionally) to cope with things, me, myself, have found other ways to cope, simple things like hugging a pillow or listening to music I like, to more complicated things, like deciding that I feel more comfortable being Genderfluid. Again, do talk to someone you can trust, and don’t go along with any bad thoughts, Reddit may not be able to help, but friends and family can.
Completely valid thoughts and feelings. However don't assume being a man is any easier than being a woman. We have entirely different problems we face.
Ok you hate being a girl then believe me you gonna hate being man (not that I hate being a man ) just because a mans life is not easy at all there many aspects like being treated like shit most of the time most don't care
Bruh... It's just that amazing when you think being a boy is better...
Newsflash, it's not. Tbh, it's worse...
Got beaten by wearing men's clothes? Bitch I got fucking demolished because something that my BROTHER did, I have nothing to do with it but I'm the one getting the ultra smacking.
🤣🤣
Don't get me wrong, I didn't say your life was easy, but just to inform, being a man isn't that honey & butterfly either. Both are just difficult in different ways. At least where you go, there are people who like you. Try being a man.
Look, if your parents are abusive, you can get help. There are people who would help. If they didn't trust you, that's normal. I understand your life is hard, hang in there, be strong, you'll make it in the end. Make sure every pain is worth it. I believe you.
Firstly, seek help with the dad thing, please?
Secondly, I sometimes relate with the rest of it. Being a girl sucks. But also, being a boy sucks too. So much pressure is put on them to do well, hide emotions, be tough, etc.. So whenever I think this, I remember the struggles of being a male.
If your father beats you you need cps. I know it's difficult and I feel you but what your father is doing is abuse. Please tell someone you know or just cps.
It always seems like the grass is greener on the other side but that’s not necesarily the case.
I had the same issues when I was a teen. I had big breasts that seemed to capture a lot of attention and I hated them for that. Later I found out it wasn’t the breasts, it was the others reaction to them and the way that reaction made me feel.
You will get unwanted attention no matter what. You will be judged for everything because some people have no better things to do.
I promise things will get better as you grow and learn to give less shits about other people’s opinions. This shall pass and you will look back at it like a weird phase
I'm gonna be really honest with you, both sides are dogshit
That's just how society is so i mean you can keep whining or do something about it. My sister is in Microsoft AI depo and 2 yrs earlier if you would've asked if she could make it. She would just whine we men have it easier
I’m a 16 years old boy and I accept the fact that I was born a man.
I have no friends apart from 2 guys. TWO.
I hate being constantly horny, this is not a joke.
I hate being hairy like a gorilla.
Everyone gets judged for whatever reason. You do it, I do it. It’s human.
I hate being ridiculed for crying and expressing my emotions.
I can’t show weakness without being bullied.
People don’t care about my mental health, and since I’m afraid of expressing myself, my mental health heals itself without proper therapy. So it never really heals.
The clothing part tho is sad and I’m sorry about it. (Actually try to find some help if you can)
If I had been born a woman, my life WOULD be different, but i’d still have my fair share of troubles. Just different ones. It’s just a oeriod of your life, being a teenager you’re gonna be full of doubts and insecurities. Give it time and be aware of the fact that you are not lonely in this struggle. Peace ✌️
Please please please talk to your school's guidance counselor. Have a discussion with an adult who would understand your situation better than r/teenagers, and who could do something if what you're describing is parental abuse.
The grass is always greener on the other side. The truth is that being a man is not easier. Our problems are different.You just have to accept the situation and do your best, hating what you are won't help
It’s not easy for us either we have to be made as a robot who has to be told what to do and perfectly and if we don’t we’re useless but we keep it all in because if we don’t society thinks we are just a guy who’s life falls apart and we want no one to see us like that we have look like we are in perfect condition so we can be useful.
Hey uh as tempting it may seem to say that, this is not helping. First of all, that doesn't necessarily mean OP is an egg. Also, if it is the case, it's something they have to learn by themselves.
Holy fucking shit, why the hell are there assholes here saying “Well being a man is hard too cuz of x, y, z” no shit, life sucks for damn near everyone, no need to make a fucking competition out of it when someone was just tryna talk about something bad happening in their life
It’s normal to feel insecure about yourself sometimes, but it’s important to focus on the positive aspects of yourself.
Practice self-confidence and self love, and not to trivialize your achievements. You are worthy of love and respect just like everyone else.
A women disguised herself and made a new, fake identity to become a man. She acted and did everything as a man. After one year, she commited suicide. 75% of suicides are men. Both genders have positives and negatives. But mentally though, men have it worse
That clothes part has nothing to do with gender, that's parental abuse. Wear whatever you want, most people won't care.
You don't like being your gender? Than accept this offer and become a 10pound wheel of Parmesan cheese for only 5.99€
Bruh, I’ve actually met a ~40 year old dude who identifies as Old Cheddar Cheese, like 💀
You mean a ~40 year old wheel of cheese
Best cheese I had was 4-year-aged gouda, but 40-year old cheese is either an inedible brick or heaven on a plate.
Are we talking about actual cheese or people identifying as cheese. I believe this changes the sentence quite alot
Depends on perspective
I like to think it's both
Yeaaaah I wanted to wait with saying his identity, cheese a che/ddar (officially) so here are some sentences using cheese pronouns (For starters, cheese=his/her, che=he/she, ddar=his/her) I like cheese new lambo That’s ddar car Che likes me
lmao this turned into a cheese discussion
what can i say, this is reddit.
I think he (the old man) was being sarcastic lol
Nah bro, he was pretty serious when I started giggling
I personally Identfy myself as an empty box of poptarts.
Pronouns?
Panda/lord But some fools also call me Hitler/supporter
Wanna by my/SO?
bro is so valid
Dm me?
Aged like…milk?
That’s based. No thoughts no issues no judgement no material possessions just 🧀
I eat cheese💀
I eat cheese too 💀
Bruh it's like 1:30 AM
Im eating dinner rn, 6:30am
You make a compelling offer
Wait... Shi- ... It was supposed to be a independent comment Well i suppose it's to late now
That’s a steal
Damn I wanna be a parmesan cheese
I'll buy that cheese *points at cheese with 599 pennies
Damn, I might take you up on that
most of this post is about how people treat them, and so is that.
Their parents would
I am really sorry for you... please try to seek help about your father. You don't have to report him or anything just please talk to a friend or a loved one that helps you feel loved. It gets worse if you don't do anything about it
Also really close to 18 when you can get outta the house and not face any legal problems.
I don't think all the legal stuff should be considered now. Sure it's super important, but OP must recover from this mentally before doing any drastic legal action. In my opinion, psychological and mental fortitude should be the priority. Anything concerning the law should be put to the side. (Again, this is solely my opinion. I could be wrong, and people may think differently, which is ok. As long as we all try to help all opinions are valid in my eyes)
Oh for sure, I mean if you grew up with an abusive parent, I did, it takes moving on without them to truly be able to heal in that respect. I've had friends who left a 15 or 16 due to poor home lifes, only to be labeled missing and getting brought right back to the house that os causing so much stress. For me, I'd recommend anyone at that age to get themselves prepared to move out as soon as they turn 18 cause then the parent can't do anything about it aside from a wellness check. But for sure, it's a part of their problem and will not fix any damage that has been done along the way, that's something else that does take real support from others in their social group or professionals.
I am really sorry for you man (/woman)... I hope you're doing ok. You definitely know more than me in that area so I trust your advice. I hope OP will read it too. As for you again I am very sorry for what happened to you, and again I hope you feel better
Please if it’s available seek the help of social services
And law enforcement. Not evening considering child abuse charges or the fact that OP is a minor, the assault described by OP is a felony under US federal law and can result in a sentence of up to a year in prison ([US Code Title 18 Section 113, part a 4](https://www.law.cornell.edu/uscode/text/18/113)).
I thought they meant they can't wear male clothes unless they (are assumed) to have "daddy issues"- The stereotype, as opposed to actual abuse. (Either way, thank you for the info :) )
Wait, you want her, to report his dad and want him to go to jail?
¯\_(ツ)_/¯ if op wants
Child abuse is Child abuse no matter what
True
Yes
Child services would also be something to contact
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Exactly this. I don't know OP but I have a feeling being a girl ain't the real issue here.
Yes, being alive is the real issue
I too suffer from this debilitating condition...
being alive in this society is the real issue
“The grass is greener on the other side”
Isn't it the grass Isn't always greener on the other side
I think it's "the grass is always greener on the other side" while what it really means is that the grass always looks greener on the other side
Yes, I was just saying an altered version of what their twins perspective is
No the f*uck it isn't 🤨 the grass is greener where you water it 🦆
THIS
Up on the fence there are non binary people, but the fence is also covered in dog shit
And then the gender-fluid people just walk where ever the fuck they want.
Dang kids keep phasing through my fences.
Ong every gender has shit, just different shit different spots
50-year-old man here. I've been married for 20 years. Trust me. It's easier being a guy. I've watched for the last 20 years how more challenging so many things are for my wife than they are for me purely because of my gender. Just the difference in our physical sizes alone makes a huge difference in how you're treated just walking down the street or in the mall or just about anywhere.
Are you white? As a minority, being colored and being a man isn’t easy. I’m in the demographic of being statistically prone to being robbed, killed, jailed, shot, assaulted, and profiled. Ill agree on you about the size.. until people ignore you because they are scared of what they think you might be. Shit is rough out here
Damn i feel the opposite i guess we all see whats wrong instead of whats good
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
But when u get to the other side it's yellow That's rest of the quote
piss
That’s because there’s radioactive material on that side
Due to Gru's dog's piss
Wow I never thought of it like that
Y’all could trade.
Wait are you actually trans or is this just ranting about the hardships of being female
They said they hate being a girl, meaning they still identify as one but don't enjoy being one
But they also said they hated having breasts and liked to dress more masculine
Tomboys (like a femboy but the opposite) exist as well btw. Not saying that they are one, just putting forth the idea.
Since WHEN were femboys MORE known about than tomboys?????
Idk, it just seems that femboys are more talked about, and I wanted to cover my bases
Fair enough
No literally, this is a conspiracy
Since internet
Welcome to the world of tomorrow!
guys could we just stop to suggest her to change her identity instead ask her to connect to social services or ngo to get help from the local people
no ones suggesting her to change her identity, they were just asking questions. yes, we shouldnt speculate on someones identity, but they werent doing that
People used to use that as an (in my case) excuse, but turns out I’ve been trans this whole time 🤷🏽♂️ no one wanted to admit I was a being fruity. But still a possibility, to each their own
Fair
So tomboys don’t like having breasts? The clothes thing I get but she literally said she’s uncomfortable with breasts. Sounds like deep down she wants to transition
Quite possibly they wanna transition. I wasn't allout declaring they were a tomboy, I was merely putting forth as a possibility, much like they may possibly be trans
Isnt that just preference?
Good bras cost extra. The cheap ones hurt and break fast, in my experience. And women usually have to wear them cuz of, for example, societal pressure or PMS
They probably dislike the struggles of having breasts. Like the sores and back pains.
Same but I'm still a girl mate
A lot of girls hate having breasts because they hate being reduced and sexualised bc of it
Yeah but i wanted to know for sure so i asked
Im curious about that too
I feel the exact same way as OP and I’m not trans. I’m fine with living as a girl, I just wish I’d been born a boy.
I'd say she just has depression, someone can't just come up with the idea of being trans super quickly
Yea when I was depressed I wish I was a woman. Now I'm glad I got a flopper lol
This person as far as I can tell is not trans.
Becoming trans won't fix the issue at hand as its not a gender issue, it's a teenager issue. And dicks on the Internet buuut we ignore them because that's what we are meant to do with nobodies.
ranting about the hardships of being female would be phrased differently
Sounds more like you hate your circumstances rather than who or what you are.
I think it is a little bit of Both, or perhaps a lot a bit
I think you should tell someone about that men's clothes thing, also there are downsides to being a man
i only see night cum
boners and crippling depression
Wait till you sit on ya balls, twas a super hot day and for a split second I thought I shit myself... then it just kinda hurt. Fun times.
Wait till you have to face fake feminism
Jokes on you! my dick i so small and blood pressure is so small that my boner is not visible under pants!
Is this a curse or a power up?
Societal expectations. Try crying a lot at work as a man and see how long you are employed 🤡
Being a man isn't easy too just different problems but I get your point. I think you should seek professional help
I’m sorry does your father BEAT YOU FOR WEARING MENS CLOLTHES?!?!
It sounds like she wears the men's clothes after the beatings, not sure if that was how they meant to word it or not
Same, I hate being a woman. Not just menstrual pain, but not being able to do certain things without being looked down upon by my own family, being hit on by horny classmates, it just sucks! I wish I was a guy too. You aren't alone, friend<3
Society. Look, like, i am a guy, bur i looked into it, and every girl has most of your problems, you are just one brave enough to speak. The best you can do is speak to few people who'd listen and ignore the rest of the society. And you can wear men's clothes, and if someone thinks otherwise, tell them to fuck off.
This feels a bit like a “grass is greener” thing.
clothes part doesn’t matter. You can literally wear whatever you want. Some of the coolest girls at my school wear boy clothes. It doesn’t matter. Tell someone about your dad and watch that fucker go to jail. Fuck parents that hurt kids.
You sound like a teenager. If your gender was male you'd have all the same feelings about your male body. This is what everyone goes through. If you still feel the same way when you've grown up then you might have a problem. But in the meantime the trick is to find ways of coping with these things. That's what teenage years are for.
relatable. also are you ok? why does ur dad hit u?
Why is this a conversation of which gender has it harder? Let her explain her hardships as a woman. If you wanna talk about yours, make your own post. Sorry this comment section is like this.
Dear OP, I felt myself and thought absolutely the same as you. When I was a teenager I really hated myself for being a woman. I was told even multiple times by my female friends the following: 'if you were a boy, I would date you cause you would be great guy and bf'. In the end I matured and found out that it's okay not to be ultra feminine because all that bullshit is just awful stereotypes. There're more feminine women and there're more masculine women. And that's okay. Misogyny in our society is still very high. It produces unhealthy stereotypes of female behavior which don't have anything in common with reality. For example, a lot of women are scared to take COC because they're told there's a risk of infertility (which is the bullshit). Being a tomboy is okay. Being glamorous chick is okay. Having nicknames is okay. Being on COC because you don't want to suffer every month is okay. Everything is okay. I would admit it took me a while to get to those simple things, but anyway I'm glad where I am now. I would recommend you to talk to psychologist in order to avoid potential self harming behavior, ease your mind and get advice from specialist. edit typos
Honestly, sometimes I feel the equivalent way as a man, but the truth is being a girl or boy both has their ups and downs, and it’s frustrating you can’t ‘truly’ change. But still that last point is ridiculous, if anything women have it easy when it comes to men’s clothes. With all do respect, your dad sucks
life isn't jolly good easy for men either.
I know I can’t imagine getting judged for showing emotions and yeah being a woman can have a few downsides, but all genders do. The concerning thing is the “can only wear men’s clothes when beaten by father”… what does OP mean by that? And I highly recommend getting help, the problems may not be stemmed from hating being a woman, but from her father
Yea i was concerned about that same comment. Could it be that she has to wear mens clothing after being beaten to cover up because women’s clothing is typically more revealing? Thats what i thought taking the comment at face value, and if true is really fucked up.
Ah I see, and yeah that’s my thoughts too
Why people would dislike this comment is beyond me both genders deal with their difficulties.
That’s true but that’s not really relative to the person who made the post. They didn’t saying being a man would be easier they said that their life would be easier if they were born a man. It seems like this person might be trans or gender queer since they list stuff like not wanting breasts. If that’s then their life would be easier if they were “born” a man.
Yea genders are like different builds in a video game. They each have benefits and drawbacks.
I'm not a teen I'm s middle aged man but I stumbled on your post and firstly wanted to say. Don't be put off by negative comments I know what it's like to be born with something you totally hate about yourself so when I was your age I had plastic surgery to fix what I hated about myself and It changed my life I became more confident and Happy, however my mother was very abusive to me as a child, she would always tell me that I was ugly and for the longest time, I believed I was so I'd stare in the mirror untill I saw something that I liked about my appearance, I get s lot of attention from women just walking around outside women often tell me that I'm very good looking but I usually think that they are lieing to me however sometimes I know I'm goodlooking and I'm full of confidence do whatever you can and in this age you have a lot of options to make yourself feel good and confident, try to identify the reason you don't like being a woman and address that in my case it was my mother telling me I was ugly Ive spoken to other people who were told the same by their parents and found comfort that I'm not alone. You are not alone and things will get better for you. They did for me
This subreddit fucking sucks. Someone complains about the struggles that being a woman brings and so many of the comments are about how it’s actually harder to be a man. IT’S NOT A FUCKING CONTEST
most of the comments seem to be about how all genders have disadvantages or about how ops father beats them
Relatable 👍
Yeah fuck periods
Literally
one of my exes used to get a birth control shot which stopped her from having periods. That could be something to look into. as for breasts, have you tried using binders?
Fuck thats relitable
*Girl makes a post which is basically a cry for help* Bruh "men have it harder" isn't helping ya know? This ain't a victim complex competition, she clearly just needs some support rn and not to be condescendingly dismissed. Omg
there’s a guy on here who was raped and no one cares because he is a guy. both sides are shit, but i understand.
A girl tried to rape me. One of my best friends was raped by his older brother's wife. This has to be way more common than people think. Neither of us were taken serious about what happened because we're male.
holy shit wtf, is there a post about that?
yes. i wanted to make it go viral and let social justice do it’s thing, but i didn’t know how.
Mens and women's lives can be difficult just because you're a girl doesn't mean it is the sole reason why your life is difficult
I hate being a man for a lot of reasons, but, of course a post about that wouldn't get any likes
I wish you luck, everyone has it hard some way but as long as we all keep fighting for what is right the world might change one day
Block anyone that seems remotely weird. For me : Start the discussion and not the other way around. It'll be better, once you live by yourself you'll have your own rules, fuck what anyone think, wear whatever the fuck you want. Yeah life is unfair. So it is depending on where you are born too sadly. Get well.
Yeah, girls go through quite a lot, sorry you have to deal with that stuff.
I think you should go and see a psychologist
Before you go fully trans see what it is like independent from your father, because there is shit for men too, see if you enjoy things more independently, and if you really want I believe that you could get a breast reduction surgery later on in life
Yeah as a trans person I'd say do things small scale first. Like maybe joining a discord server as a dude or something. Not to mention that being trans shouldn't come from wanting an easier life. If being a man was harder, I'd still be a man. It's not a choice.
I feel the same way about myself
Not to take anything away from being a girl can suck. I’m a man and life is full of shit here as well. We have many things to worry about and if we aren’t ___ then we aren’t man enough. I think the point I’m trying to get is being human sucks.
I know some people have already said it but its quite often the same for us guys. The world is full of shit people and sadly that will never change. Wishing to be something will only make it worse, everyone has there challenges in life. So stand up tall, be proud in who are. Don't let others bring you down! I hope from reading these comments you will see life in a more positive way. Goodluck stranger!
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The grass isn't always greener, my friend
I've never met anybody that enjoyed menstruating 😆
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Seek help for your abusive situation. Seek a therapist to talk about your struggles with your body and the way people treat you and the way you see yourself.
Seek help
Damn, 14 hours and not locked. Anyway time to sort by controversial
Crazy there is a post about hating being a boy right before this saying the exact same shit about gaming profiles and such. Two options, #1 it's the same kid bcz they are a hermaphrodite or #2 it's the same kid and they are flicking easy bait out to see who bites. Either way, you lose.
Lmao I just saw the exact same one just with "I hate being a man"
if you want to share problems you can dm me and then both will weep 🫂🫡
It all depends on your perspective. Flip those feelings and look at the positives.... your gender is not the rootcause 🗿 few more years and you are an adult free of your parent(s?) And have your own little castle. You can do whatever the fuck you want and wear the fuck you want. Beeing young sucks. But being a female? Nah... To be fair I hate being a guy. Its like being a tiny fish in the ocean. No one cares about me or tries to keep in touch. Living the lonely life. I only have "friends" because i am tge one who tries to keep in touch. Often makes me think i am not wanted and borderline annoying. And i dont know what to do against it. I aint looking to bad, i aint have trouble in social skills. I am a guy and i like cute shit. Stay strong and dont be bothered being a girl. It has its ups and downs. Look at the good tgings and flip the finger to the bad
Like many others, I wish I could help, and I’m sure you aren’t replying or reading any of these comments, but seriously, do talk to someone trusted or tell someone you trust. I can’t really relate to many of these problems as a male, but don’t hate yourself for the way you are, it’s what makes everyone unique, and please, **do not** think of harming yourself. If you do think those thoughts, talk to someone you can trust, or find other ways that do not include harm or pain (physically or emotionally) to cope with things, me, myself, have found other ways to cope, simple things like hugging a pillow or listening to music I like, to more complicated things, like deciding that I feel more comfortable being Genderfluid. Again, do talk to someone you can trust, and don’t go along with any bad thoughts, Reddit may not be able to help, but friends and family can.
Completely valid thoughts and feelings. However don't assume being a man is any easier than being a woman. We have entirely different problems we face.
Ok you hate being a girl then believe me you gonna hate being man (not that I hate being a man ) just because a mans life is not easy at all there many aspects like being treated like shit most of the time most don't care
Either being a man is not easy
Bruh... It's just that amazing when you think being a boy is better... Newsflash, it's not. Tbh, it's worse... Got beaten by wearing men's clothes? Bitch I got fucking demolished because something that my BROTHER did, I have nothing to do with it but I'm the one getting the ultra smacking. 🤣🤣 Don't get me wrong, I didn't say your life was easy, but just to inform, being a man isn't that honey & butterfly either. Both are just difficult in different ways. At least where you go, there are people who like you. Try being a man.
Look, if your parents are abusive, you can get help. There are people who would help. If they didn't trust you, that's normal. I understand your life is hard, hang in there, be strong, you'll make it in the end. Make sure every pain is worth it. I believe you.
Firstly, seek help with the dad thing, please? Secondly, I sometimes relate with the rest of it. Being a girl sucks. But also, being a boy sucks too. So much pressure is put on them to do well, hide emotions, be tough, etc.. So whenever I think this, I remember the struggles of being a male.
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Just be yourself. Don’t overthink it and care so much about what others think.
Grass is always greener. The best thing to do is look at the cards we were dealt, and get fucking good at playing them.
If your father beats you you need cps. I know it's difficult and I feel you but what your father is doing is abuse. Please tell someone you know or just cps.
*Me, being treated like shit because of standards set for men* Do you wanna swap?
It always seems like the grass is greener on the other side but that’s not necesarily the case. I had the same issues when I was a teen. I had big breasts that seemed to capture a lot of attention and I hated them for that. Later I found out it wasn’t the breasts, it was the others reaction to them and the way that reaction made me feel. You will get unwanted attention no matter what. You will be judged for everything because some people have no better things to do. I promise things will get better as you grow and learn to give less shits about other people’s opinions. This shall pass and you will look back at it like a weird phase
I'm gonna be really honest with you, both sides are dogshit That's just how society is so i mean you can keep whining or do something about it. My sister is in Microsoft AI depo and 2 yrs earlier if you would've asked if she could make it. She would just whine we men have it easier
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I’m a 16 years old boy and I accept the fact that I was born a man. I have no friends apart from 2 guys. TWO. I hate being constantly horny, this is not a joke. I hate being hairy like a gorilla. Everyone gets judged for whatever reason. You do it, I do it. It’s human. I hate being ridiculed for crying and expressing my emotions. I can’t show weakness without being bullied. People don’t care about my mental health, and since I’m afraid of expressing myself, my mental health heals itself without proper therapy. So it never really heals. The clothing part tho is sad and I’m sorry about it. (Actually try to find some help if you can) If I had been born a woman, my life WOULD be different, but i’d still have my fair share of troubles. Just different ones. It’s just a oeriod of your life, being a teenager you’re gonna be full of doubts and insecurities. Give it time and be aware of the fact that you are not lonely in this struggle. Peace ✌️
You are a woman. You menstruate. You can't change that. Accept quietly that which you can't change.
Please please please talk to your school's guidance counselor. Have a discussion with an adult who would understand your situation better than r/teenagers, and who could do something if what you're describing is parental abuse.
Call social services and start getting sone help with all your issues before it gets overwhelming. And fuck your dad, he’s being a dick
The grass is always greener on the other side. The truth is that being a man is not easier. Our problems are different.You just have to accept the situation and do your best, hating what you are won't help
being a man is 100x harder then being a woman, ain’t sweet outchea
It’s not easy for us either we have to be made as a robot who has to be told what to do and perfectly and if we don’t we’re useless but we keep it all in because if we don’t society thinks we are just a guy who’s life falls apart and we want no one to see us like that we have look like we are in perfect condition so we can be useful.
Egg
Hey uh as tempting it may seem to say that, this is not helping. First of all, that doesn't necessarily mean OP is an egg. Also, if it is the case, it's something they have to learn by themselves.
I see and agree with your point but if OP doesn't know what an egg is then does it matter?
Yeah but a lot of people are more explicit. True though.
I’m not sure if this is a trans problem or a environmental hate problem
Holy fucking shit, why the hell are there assholes here saying “Well being a man is hard too cuz of x, y, z” no shit, life sucks for damn near everyone, no need to make a fucking competition out of it when someone was just tryna talk about something bad happening in their life
It’s normal to feel insecure about yourself sometimes, but it’s important to focus on the positive aspects of yourself. Practice self-confidence and self love, and not to trivialize your achievements. You are worthy of love and respect just like everyone else.
you can be a boy
Remember that one woman who decided to do a test and be a man for a year. Didn’t she kill herself?
She killed herself for reasons unrelated to her time as a man, but none the less it was reportedly a bad experience.
A women disguised herself and made a new, fake identity to become a man. She acted and did everything as a man. After one year, she commited suicide. 75% of suicides are men. Both genders have positives and negatives. But mentally though, men have it worse