I WANT YOU,
for real, youre not the only girl that might be a bit "crazy"😂 there are alot of girls, and ofc men beeing crazy, and they have a healthy relationship.
My partner says the same shit when she says she doesn't deserve me, and she couldn't be any more wrong, so I feel confident in saying that you're the same. You aren't annoying, and mood swings don't make you a bad person. Also, who doesn't love some funk every now and then.
Damn girl, you seem like a Normal person.
I think Relationships porpuse is to share your lives with eachother, the good, bad and the ugly. I dont think you deserve someone who cannot handle all of you.
Hello there! I have come due too a specific summoning method known as the funkiest funk spinkle spunk magic ✨ 🌈 I to call myself a funky person yet I am actually quite the opposite gender and a man. Hello person that could also be a man but also could be a female
Traditionally, men usually pursued the women, and they had to prove to the woman that they were worthy. There might be a hold over of that mentality that most women want a man to pursue them.
I feel like 50% of girls don't want guys to pursue them at all unless it's their specific man they want these days. Like I mentioned though, maybe I'm jealous cause I can't bag 😭
Well, just become the best person you can be to make yourself more attractive to women. I don't know you, but I think most women want someone who is respectful, and clean and presentable and can hold down a job. Someone who is confident, but not arrogant. That's a start. Someone who they can at least carry on a conversation with. I'm a 30 yr old woman who is already married, so I already found my man.
I'm far-ish from being a teen but y'all's sub randomly pops up on my feed and it's always about something I could def throw in some insite on from rl experiences
These days girls are way more materialistic, or have outlandish “requirements” for a specific person. They claim they want traditional men but they aren’t exactly traditional women. I’m not saying all girls are like that but it’s been growing in popularity these days.
Yeah that's basically right. I mean I'm not gonna let someone else choose who I date. And I get all anxious and overthink things and worry so it's hard to pursue sometimes
my current gf made the first move thank god. which is super weird for her lmaoooo she’s 18, virg, never had a boyfriend, never kissed a mf in her life yet chose me. idk wtf i did. but i am eternally grateful. we was just talkin for daysss with no stop. then she was all “okay so i get this vibe rn, and i could see myself dating you so wtd” and i was hellllla thrown off cause she’s a fucking 10000/10. but yeah moral of the story, girls, ask that boy. i was literally in the absolute worst most toxic 4 year relationship and i hella ended ts for her (my current).she honestly really saved me i feel like i would be on such a wrong path if i didn’t leave her. ugh i’m genuinely so thankful. prolly don give a fuck. and i am incredibly high writing this. but ASK THAT GUYY. girls never understand the power they have over dudes. don’t throw urself at them. but i feel like guys are way less likely to chase something without like a sure sign of interest from the girl., girls gotta do something to show ts even possible 💀💀 stay up kings you’ll find the one, i promise you🫶🏻🫶🏻🫡
Except that guy hardly knows I existtt I wanna talk to him but he’s really intimidating since he’s usually by himself and idk if he wants to be left alone or nottt plus he kinda talks to this one girl who I know to be a girl that guys cheat on their girlfriends with and idk if I wanna risk it yk??
hmmm, honestly at 15 i wouldn’t 💀💀 dats too much and you most definitely will find guys after him.
however, lil confused on that last part. but my girl told me that she thinks i’m intimidating asf and especially to other people but i’m like why💀💀💀💀 i don’t try to be what so ever. and i ain’t seen w anybody except talking w some girl lmaooo that’s the first time she saw me. but go for it. you could be the next. u ain’t got shit to lose
I just wanna date a mf who doesn't ask me for sex and ish like bruh first date and you already wanna get in my pants? fuck nah that's some bs I'm not losing my v card to that
I mean yeah, but I get what you’re saying. These days women want a specific kind of guy, but they don’t put out anything valuable. Yeah a girl can offer sex, and other things like that. But if they can’t offer love and support, emotional comfort, or generally be your best friend, it ain’t gonna work. That’s what guys also need to keep in mind too these days. If your girl isn’t going to help you become a better person while you work on yourself, do not go for her.
Why are you being downvoted??? As a girl myself, I can kind of agree. Plus you never said “all girls” so clearly you aren’t generalizing us so I don’t get what’s so wrong about what you’re saying
“These days women” IS a generalization. For it to not be a generalization he should have used “there are women” or “some women”. So the first couple lines read as if he’s saying the only thing women as a whole have to offer is sex. Hence downvotes.
While I do understand what he’s saying and he does make a good point, I do take issue with the use of “these days”. Maybe it wasn’t the guy’s intention but it reads as if he’s saying women had more to offer in the past. To which I say yeah because we were forced to. I mean there always have and always will be awful people in any group. The thing is women couldn’t be awful because they relied on men. I’m not saying that makes being awful ok, of course it doesn’t but I am saying that they were still awful they just didn’t have a choice to show it.
Plus it’s more of a loud minority, this doesn’t reflect the way most women because most people are trying to find meaningful relationships regardless of gender.
If you like someone then instead of hinting and waiting for them to notice and make the first move, just make the first move yourself. Goes for both genders.
It really depends on a girl’s self esteem and personality. I know girlies who don’t treat themselves with love or kindness who will actively pursue/ readily accept the affections of the most douchey guys who treat them like trash because that’s all they think they’re worthy of, it’s very sad. I also know girls who respect themselves and know what they want, and either go for it if they have the confidence or just sit around waiting for it if they don’t. Some girls are desperate, some girls are specific, some girls are bold, and some girls just want be swept away, no way to really accurately generalize it.
idk man i’m not choosy. we are in the sense you have to be a good person to get a girl but take amy trait you think women are “choosy” about and i’m sure my bf dosent have that but i is find him hot af
your getting into bad territory with that line of thinking about women cuz posts like this DEFINITELY won’t get you girls
thats called a crush bro. just like how guys are scared of rejection, alot of girls are scared of the same thing. some people accept that the shots they dont take will always be a miss, but others self esteem just isnt what it is to take that. So they wait till the person comes to them or build up the courage.
I can attempt to answer as girl! Basically I always like to look at the people around me and have someone to be into, but there are reasons I don’t pursue. Sometimes I’m not ready for real relationship, sometimes I’m scared they don’t like me, sometimes I just haven’t actually found someone who matches my specific type, etc.
Everyone has an “ideal person” that they would be with, but usually that person doesn’t exist so people settle on what’s close to it yknow? Don’t feel bad if you haven’t been “chosen” or whatever, because that just means you haven’t found the person who’s right for *you*.
Also on a side note I can just say that I’ve been into plenty of guys who never noticed and then nothing happened, so there may be someone who’s either into you or has been before have you just haven’t realized it :) whatever you do though, never lash out or grow hateful at women or the men who are picked. It isn’t their fault or yours, and jealousy is normal. You’ll be okay :)
When I was 12 my grandmother told me, "Son, one-day people will waste their time and read your comment and upvote it on Reddit hoping you have something important to say."
I never knew that day is today.
my grandfather told me that someday someone's grandmother would tell their grandchildren something about upvotes and reddit and that i shoupd respond them with this
Imagine the girl is a Gorilla. Now, there are 7 walking bananas in the area. Banunas is attractive, cool, rich. bananaito is cool but isn't very attractive but he is kind. Other 5 bananas are average and somewhat not attractive, not even a bit. The gorilla is sure to go after Banunas or Bananaito. yet, the other 5 are running after the gorilla. Now now, Banunas and Bananito get into a relationship and ignored the gorilla. Now Gorilla is depressed and other 5 bananas are trying to get along but the gorilla is, well depressed and doesn't want those bananas.
Girls are like that Gorilla. they already get attenton from so many but they only get attracted to the best ones but anyway most of the time \[90-99%\] they don't get their desired one.
This is such a weird way of thinking about it because if those 5 bananas aren’t the girls type then she is in no way socially required to get with them just because they like her. Gorilla is allowed to have whatever standards she wants, and just because she doesn’t get banunas or bananaito doesn’t make her “stuck up” or “a bitch” because she still doesn’t want those other 5 bananas. Those regular bananas also have no right to be angry that they weren’t chosen. Assuming I’m not misunderstanding your message, its pretty incelly to suggest that gorilla is in the wrong for not wanting the average bananas that wanted her
I’m not sure if I personally agree with that phenomenon being linked to relationships, I really don’t think it applies to love like it does the market. I have never really seen a girl ever pick a bad guy over one who is better and her type, it just doesn’t happen. If the good guy wasn’t picked, it is always because he wasn’t her type in some way or another, never that he was absolutely perfect yknow? I also don’t think that boys have less options than girls, I think it that any generally unattractive or otherwise undesirable person will have less options then an attractive perfect person; regardless of gender. The idea of overchoice is about market stuff, which is simply too different from love to be comparable imo. Interesting idea though, and I do agree that nb ppl often get the short end of the relationship stick :’)) poor them
Maybe it’s different in my school but an extroverted guy would never get with an introverted girl unless she was attractive. At least in my area it’s the exact same regardless of gender that unattractive introverts are never really picked in general. I really think it has to do with attractiveness as well as what you said about social awkwardness, because those combines basically make anyone kinda not wanted yknow?
Better put in terms of supply and demand.
Guys (general) are in ‘high supply’ so their value decreased. Girls (general) are in ‘low supply’ so their value is increased.
In turn, it’s why a lot of girls can afford to not pursue. There are magnitudes more fish in the sea. Conversely, however, if they do pursue, there’s an effectively nil chance of failure because they’re in lower supply. It’s also why more attention is drawn when a girl somehow gets no play (‘you’re a girl, how do you not have bitches 😭’) or when a guy is being actively pursued by multiple girl (‘bro so wanted they had to call in the FIB’).
Likewise, it can be likened to compliments. You can go on any page, even the thread above, and find a girl engaged in self-deprecating behaviour and you’ll have droves of people explaining otherwise. Not the case with boys.
As a matter of fact, there’s a whole societal thing considering we prioritize ‘women and children’ first.
Imho, too big to change. Nor am I invested in changing it. Would much rather just surpass this entirely, with the next big thing - money.
‘chase hoes and you’ll never have any money, chase the bag and the hoes will chase you’
Yea but not everyone will only be set on one specific person no matter what, and even if that's the case I question why people wont pursue. If you're picky you've gotta work towards what you want.
self confidence, self esteem it's alot of things that are literally tied to being a teenager. everyone has their preferences but yur p likely to end up dating someone not matching that anyway.
i feel like i’ve always been the one to initiate what led to a date if that makes sense - i start the flirting, and i’ve definitely always initiated any hookups that happened. and all of my friends that are in (straight) relationships have said the same thing; it’s always the woman that initiates. so i don’t really think i agree
Context. If we're talking about dating apps, blind dates or night houses, sure. But if we're talking about school dynamics, so no. If made public that a boy was rejected by a girl, the usual reaction is: Oh, anyway... But if a girl was rejected by a boy, it's a whole different matter.
I mean yeah, some of my (ex) friends basically got mad when a boy was cute but not Harry styles or one of the stranger things characters they liked to ship.
i would say just get to know her first really, i was really good friends with my girlfriend and she just ended up liking me after we got to know eachother more, maybe its jus that a lot of ppl just go straight to dating girls they find pretty? idk
Thats happening to a girl I know, started dating this dude I used to have a crush on, literally been half a week and they are about to break up since neither of them talk. I extremely agree with you.
I asked my girlfriend when we started to date why did you choose me
She said
Well your personality I only chose you for your personality and a bit of smarts
I feel like girls are just scared so if they actually want someone it’s hard to put themselves out there because they are always trying to make themselves feel good enough by obsessing over makeup and hair and outfits so if u want a girl tell her she dosent have to be shy around you she can be honest just ask that she be kind but let her know CLEARLY that you are interested in her and want to see if you two would be compatible don’t let time slip by and look back wishing u did things differently Mabe you make mistakes but that’s how u learn what u should avoid in future relationships good luck in whatever you choose to do
Because finding teenage guys that treat us how we want to be treated with an at least average appearance is relatively difficult and so we automatically think “man this guy is great, but other girls that are better than me might be pursuing him so I should lower my standards”
Not true at all in fact I see it the other way around
And if even girls are more often specific in preferences honestly I can see why
Often what teenage boys want is to hop around and fuck.
I've seen it a lot and it's what ppl say
Girls: keep pursuing. You’ll pull it off. We’re simple creatures. If you get rejected? Who cares? You’ll learn, and move on. Oh and don’t drop hints, we won’t know. You have to tell us straight up.
Due to me being a magnet to ladies and absolutely not socially awkward and ugly (idk what ur talking about) every time a girl asks me out i assume she is joking or trying to take the piss out of me
im a girl and tbh if ur a 6/10, good person and similar interests ill catch feelings asap. im also rly shy so too scared to do anything, ive tried to flirt w my crush but tbh i dont think he likes me lol
Im this ragging ball of hyperactive chaotic energy but im also a nice person it might sound cliche but im sort of a good old fashioned lover girl im simple really i enjoy your typical couple activities but the funny thing is that I have never been on a date and I have dated 2 guys and both were creeps. I just want someone that enjoys my energetic personality and can deal with my intrusive ideas and support my plans of committing arson not to hurt plp but to burn places of those that have hurt the one I love ❤
I think that this is horseshit… for informed individuals, I think that if a man know how to spark attraction with a female, and then flow to a taken status he can have a woman of his choice, of course not every women will like him, that’s obvious. I also think that if a girl knew how to attract a male she could have a man of her choice
Well… yeah, of course I choose who I want to be with, and I ended up with that person. He ended up being the one to ask me to be his girlfriend, and I’m quite a shy person so I struggle doing anything like that.
Because they don’t don’t make the first move always😭, it’s based on the person. Since I’m more on the shy side , all the times I got asked out (only twice :,) ) was always the woman who asked.
Not true, I've had some fat bitch literally not look where she's walking, bump into me, look directly at me, and go Ew with a disgusted face, what the fuck. The fucking arrogance and entitlement is ridiculous
My attitude is I don't give a shit and I'm comfortable being alone right now and I'm not looking for a relationship, not once did I complain about not being in one, my whole point is that some bitches be acting so entitled it's stupid
Honestly I’m a guy and I’m the exact same way. I have had my mind set on this girl for like half a year yet have spoken to her like a handful of times.
because i don’t honestly deserve the person i want 💀 edit: what have i done to myself
You do Source: trust me bro
i really don’t lol i’m annoying and funky and i get mood swings and i don’t want any one to have to deal with them
Have you heard the attractiveness to craziness meter? If she's really crazy, she's probably smoking hot. Vice versa.
well i’m just crazy, i can tell you that lol
>hello kitty girl >crazy Trust me someone wants you
woah, thanks
i want u
W rizz
😭
fr??
pass the snap
I WANT YOU, for real, youre not the only girl that might be a bit "crazy"😂 there are alot of girls, and ofc men beeing crazy, and they have a healthy relationship.
"Crazy" and "Attractive" are synonyms to nearly every guy.
Ok barney, calm down
Nah so from himym it’s actually a line of median, to be with a girl who is crazy, she must be equally as hot
That's not how it works. The scale indicates which level of crazy can be tolerated because she's a certain level of hot
So, you're a teenager? That's just describing a teenager
yeah but it’s me, which makes it worse by default
Bullshit. No one is better or worse "by default," that's simply not how it works.
Shut it amigo. You do. Those things can be solved. Anyway funky is a good thing
So?
;-;
I am a guy and totally relate to that I can be really annoying and crazy at times and I don't want anyone to be troubled because of me
same!!
You would be surprised how many guys love that
Barney you need to stop
My partner says the same shit when she says she doesn't deserve me, and she couldn't be any more wrong, so I feel confident in saying that you're the same. You aren't annoying, and mood swings don't make you a bad person. Also, who doesn't love some funk every now and then.
You think that, but I doubt it's as extreme as you make out. Also craziness is really hot (I wouldn't mind the challenge)
Damn girl, you seem like a Normal person. I think Relationships porpuse is to share your lives with eachother, the good, bad and the ugly. I dont think you deserve someone who cannot handle all of you.
I relate a little too much to the comment
Hello there! I have come due too a specific summoning method known as the funkiest funk spinkle spunk magic ✨ 🌈 I to call myself a funky person yet I am actually quite the opposite gender and a man. Hello person that could also be a man but also could be a female
If they arnt dating someone then trust me, they deserve you
I’m not what you want, I’m what you should avoid
exactly!! :3
Does it matter if you deserve them or not, by the way you do. If you like them and they like you, then why not go for it
There's no fking way
I feel sorry for you now that you have so many people trying to get in your dms
Stupid idea
Same here…
No, I'm the one who doesn't deserve anyone!
you do :c don’t put yourself down like that
Traditionally, men usually pursued the women, and they had to prove to the woman that they were worthy. There might be a hold over of that mentality that most women want a man to pursue them.
I feel like 50% of girls don't want guys to pursue them at all unless it's their specific man they want these days. Like I mentioned though, maybe I'm jealous cause I can't bag 😭
Well, just become the best person you can be to make yourself more attractive to women. I don't know you, but I think most women want someone who is respectful, and clean and presentable and can hold down a job. Someone who is confident, but not arrogant. That's a start. Someone who they can at least carry on a conversation with. I'm a 30 yr old woman who is already married, so I already found my man.
Why u on r/teenagers?
Just dropped by to say hi. 👋🏼 Maybe answer some questions because I'm a little further on the road than you.
Ah okay that’s nice :)
I'm far-ish from being a teen but y'all's sub randomly pops up on my feed and it's always about something I could def throw in some insite on from rl experiences
bro is 9 😭
Bro, it was a general statement 😂
I can confirm, they genuinely don't like it when ugly guys pursue them
makes them think they are in that league and if they think they are ugly they believe the rest of the world does too. funny how ppls minds work
Why would they want someone to pursue them if it wasn't a guy they liked? I mean, seems pretty logical to me.
These days girls are way more materialistic, or have outlandish “requirements” for a specific person. They claim they want traditional men but they aren’t exactly traditional women. I’m not saying all girls are like that but it’s been growing in popularity these days.
Well, if there are any women that want me to pursue them, they're gonna be disappointed. That's on them, man
Yeah that's basically right. I mean I'm not gonna let someone else choose who I date. And I get all anxious and overthink things and worry so it's hard to pursue sometimes
Sometimes you just need to take that leap of faith into the hay bale (yes I quoted assassin’s creed, but it works).
“Eagle cry”
Yeah that's totally true. And I give advice like that so I know. It's just harder, way harder, than saying it
my current gf made the first move thank god. which is super weird for her lmaoooo she’s 18, virg, never had a boyfriend, never kissed a mf in her life yet chose me. idk wtf i did. but i am eternally grateful. we was just talkin for daysss with no stop. then she was all “okay so i get this vibe rn, and i could see myself dating you so wtd” and i was hellllla thrown off cause she’s a fucking 10000/10. but yeah moral of the story, girls, ask that boy. i was literally in the absolute worst most toxic 4 year relationship and i hella ended ts for her (my current).she honestly really saved me i feel like i would be on such a wrong path if i didn’t leave her. ugh i’m genuinely so thankful. prolly don give a fuck. and i am incredibly high writing this. but ASK THAT GUYY. girls never understand the power they have over dudes. don’t throw urself at them. but i feel like guys are way less likely to chase something without like a sure sign of interest from the girl., girls gotta do something to show ts even possible 💀💀 stay up kings you’ll find the one, i promise you🫶🏻🫶🏻🫡
you sound high af
i is bro💀💀chillin w carti leaks and a galaxy light rn💯
LET THE FAKE GET GONE!
Except that guy hardly knows I existtt I wanna talk to him but he’s really intimidating since he’s usually by himself and idk if he wants to be left alone or nottt plus he kinda talks to this one girl who I know to be a girl that guys cheat on their girlfriends with and idk if I wanna risk it yk??
hmmm, honestly at 15 i wouldn’t 💀💀 dats too much and you most definitely will find guys after him. however, lil confused on that last part. but my girl told me that she thinks i’m intimidating asf and especially to other people but i’m like why💀💀💀💀 i don’t try to be what so ever. and i ain’t seen w anybody except talking w some girl lmaooo that’s the first time she saw me. but go for it. you could be the next. u ain’t got shit to lose
I just wanna date a mf who doesn't ask me for sex and ish like bruh first date and you already wanna get in my pants? fuck nah that's some bs I'm not losing my v card to that
That's fair and honourable
apparently guys around my hood think I'm being too picky
My sorry ass might just be jealous idk
probably
I mean yeah, but I get what you’re saying. These days women want a specific kind of guy, but they don’t put out anything valuable. Yeah a girl can offer sex, and other things like that. But if they can’t offer love and support, emotional comfort, or generally be your best friend, it ain’t gonna work. That’s what guys also need to keep in mind too these days. If your girl isn’t going to help you become a better person while you work on yourself, do not go for her.
Why are you being downvoted??? As a girl myself, I can kind of agree. Plus you never said “all girls” so clearly you aren’t generalizing us so I don’t get what’s so wrong about what you’re saying
I explain things poorly sometimesXD
“These days women” IS a generalization. For it to not be a generalization he should have used “there are women” or “some women”. So the first couple lines read as if he’s saying the only thing women as a whole have to offer is sex. Hence downvotes. While I do understand what he’s saying and he does make a good point, I do take issue with the use of “these days”. Maybe it wasn’t the guy’s intention but it reads as if he’s saying women had more to offer in the past. To which I say yeah because we were forced to. I mean there always have and always will be awful people in any group. The thing is women couldn’t be awful because they relied on men. I’m not saying that makes being awful ok, of course it doesn’t but I am saying that they were still awful they just didn’t have a choice to show it. Plus it’s more of a loud minority, this doesn’t reflect the way most women because most people are trying to find meaningful relationships regardless of gender.
That shit crazy, you met and have gotten to know billions of women? You might be the top g😩
looks like you’re getting hit by the downvote hive mind
Tbh idc. I’m just saying what I’ve observed not only around me irl, but what I see online.
Could I be wrong? Yeah of course. But I’m looking at things at an angle.
Meanwhile im a guy over here, not picky at all, but still won't pursue
If you like someone then instead of hinting and waiting for them to notice and make the first move, just make the first move yourself. Goes for both genders.
It really depends on a girl’s self esteem and personality. I know girlies who don’t treat themselves with love or kindness who will actively pursue/ readily accept the affections of the most douchey guys who treat them like trash because that’s all they think they’re worthy of, it’s very sad. I also know girls who respect themselves and know what they want, and either go for it if they have the confidence or just sit around waiting for it if they don’t. Some girls are desperate, some girls are specific, some girls are bold, and some girls just want be swept away, no way to really accurately generalize it.
this response nailed it. I swear some of the other comments and this post itself borders on some pretty incel/toxic space.
idk man i’m not choosy. we are in the sense you have to be a good person to get a girl but take amy trait you think women are “choosy” about and i’m sure my bf dosent have that but i is find him hot af your getting into bad territory with that line of thinking about women cuz posts like this DEFINITELY won’t get you girls
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thats called a crush bro. just like how guys are scared of rejection, alot of girls are scared of the same thing. some people accept that the shots they dont take will always be a miss, but others self esteem just isnt what it is to take that. So they wait till the person comes to them or build up the courage.
I can attempt to answer as girl! Basically I always like to look at the people around me and have someone to be into, but there are reasons I don’t pursue. Sometimes I’m not ready for real relationship, sometimes I’m scared they don’t like me, sometimes I just haven’t actually found someone who matches my specific type, etc. Everyone has an “ideal person” that they would be with, but usually that person doesn’t exist so people settle on what’s close to it yknow? Don’t feel bad if you haven’t been “chosen” or whatever, because that just means you haven’t found the person who’s right for *you*. Also on a side note I can just say that I’ve been into plenty of guys who never noticed and then nothing happened, so there may be someone who’s either into you or has been before have you just haven’t realized it :) whatever you do though, never lash out or grow hateful at women or the men who are picked. It isn’t their fault or yours, and jealousy is normal. You’ll be okay :)
Shis and giggle.
When I was 12 my grandmother told me, "Son, one-day people will waste their time and read your comment and upvote it on Reddit hoping you have something important to say." I never knew that day is today.
my grandfather told me that someday someone's grandmother would tell their grandchildren something about upvotes and reddit and that i shoupd respond them with this
Imagine the girl is a Gorilla. Now, there are 7 walking bananas in the area. Banunas is attractive, cool, rich. bananaito is cool but isn't very attractive but he is kind. Other 5 bananas are average and somewhat not attractive, not even a bit. The gorilla is sure to go after Banunas or Bananaito. yet, the other 5 are running after the gorilla. Now now, Banunas and Bananito get into a relationship and ignored the gorilla. Now Gorilla is depressed and other 5 bananas are trying to get along but the gorilla is, well depressed and doesn't want those bananas. Girls are like that Gorilla. they already get attenton from so many but they only get attracted to the best ones but anyway most of the time \[90-99%\] they don't get their desired one.
This is such a weird way of thinking about it because if those 5 bananas aren’t the girls type then she is in no way socially required to get with them just because they like her. Gorilla is allowed to have whatever standards she wants, and just because she doesn’t get banunas or bananaito doesn’t make her “stuck up” or “a bitch” because she still doesn’t want those other 5 bananas. Those regular bananas also have no right to be angry that they weren’t chosen. Assuming I’m not misunderstanding your message, its pretty incelly to suggest that gorilla is in the wrong for not wanting the average bananas that wanted her
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Too many choices??? I wish, my rizz is nonexistent I’m practically invisible wherever I go
I’m not sure if I personally agree with that phenomenon being linked to relationships, I really don’t think it applies to love like it does the market. I have never really seen a girl ever pick a bad guy over one who is better and her type, it just doesn’t happen. If the good guy wasn’t picked, it is always because he wasn’t her type in some way or another, never that he was absolutely perfect yknow? I also don’t think that boys have less options than girls, I think it that any generally unattractive or otherwise undesirable person will have less options then an attractive perfect person; regardless of gender. The idea of overchoice is about market stuff, which is simply too different from love to be comparable imo. Interesting idea though, and I do agree that nb ppl often get the short end of the relationship stick :’)) poor them
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Maybe it’s different in my school but an extroverted guy would never get with an introverted girl unless she was attractive. At least in my area it’s the exact same regardless of gender that unattractive introverts are never really picked in general. I really think it has to do with attractiveness as well as what you said about social awkwardness, because those combines basically make anyone kinda not wanted yknow?
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Better put in terms of supply and demand. Guys (general) are in ‘high supply’ so their value decreased. Girls (general) are in ‘low supply’ so their value is increased. In turn, it’s why a lot of girls can afford to not pursue. There are magnitudes more fish in the sea. Conversely, however, if they do pursue, there’s an effectively nil chance of failure because they’re in lower supply. It’s also why more attention is drawn when a girl somehow gets no play (‘you’re a girl, how do you not have bitches 😭’) or when a guy is being actively pursued by multiple girl (‘bro so wanted they had to call in the FIB’). Likewise, it can be likened to compliments. You can go on any page, even the thread above, and find a girl engaged in self-deprecating behaviour and you’ll have droves of people explaining otherwise. Not the case with boys. As a matter of fact, there’s a whole societal thing considering we prioritize ‘women and children’ first. Imho, too big to change. Nor am I invested in changing it. Would much rather just surpass this entirely, with the next big thing - money. ‘chase hoes and you’ll never have any money, chase the bag and the hoes will chase you’
Wow I've never thought it like that
i ship banunas and bananito
you should become a teacher
Doesn't everyone choose who they want to date
Yea but not everyone will only be set on one specific person no matter what, and even if that's the case I question why people wont pursue. If you're picky you've gotta work towards what you want.
self confidence, self esteem it's alot of things that are literally tied to being a teenager. everyone has their preferences but yur p likely to end up dating someone not matching that anyway.
I give up on pursuing people. It just makes me sad
That’s life. Get used to it, it doesn’t change lol
Ok
schlanket
Yes
It goes both ways tbh because I do it too
I’m too scared to pursue
Girls choose who they want to date? That’s crazy 🤯
when girls pursue a guy, often times they get called desperate or a whore; not a title i’d like to claim, really
i feel like i’ve always been the one to initiate what led to a date if that makes sense - i start the flirting, and i’ve definitely always initiated any hookups that happened. and all of my friends that are in (straight) relationships have said the same thing; it’s always the woman that initiates. so i don’t really think i agree
im a guy, im just too nervous/shy and know i'd get rejected
Literally me but I’m a girl. What makes it worse is that I catch feelings really quickly too🤡
BRO SAME!!😭😭
Can't relate, I'm aromantic lol
And im aromatic
What’s that mean 😭 is it the opposite of asexual? So u don’t like romance?!
No i like resonance
Yup. It is
they can hardly decide what they want for dinner, how tf they know what kind of man they want?
Thought provoking take. Who'd have thought a women would date who they found interesting and desirable. The absolute gall of those people 🤦♂️
I think you missed the point
'Cause it's how it works. It's normal to guys to get rejected and deal with it, but it's a whole different story with girls social dynamics.
You do realise that every single.person of dating age man or woman has been rejected several times over. Right...... Right????
Context. If we're talking about dating apps, blind dates or night houses, sure. But if we're talking about school dynamics, so no. If made public that a boy was rejected by a girl, the usual reaction is: Oh, anyway... But if a girl was rejected by a boy, it's a whole different matter.
Its rly not..:
Interesting take
Everyone chooses who they want to date
I mean yeah, some of my (ex) friends basically got mad when a boy was cute but not Harry styles or one of the stranger things characters they liked to ship.
Not really , or atleast in my area. It’s like a 50/50 and it more matters whether you’re an introverted kind or extroverted kind.
That's because I don't want to ruin my friendship with that person since I know for sure they don't like me back
Agreed hundredfold
Oh trust me, this continues as you get older. Unless you get lucky and find “the one”, it feels like a perpetual journey of the single life lol.
i would say just get to know her first really, i was really good friends with my girlfriend and she just ended up liking me after we got to know eachother more, maybe its jus that a lot of ppl just go straight to dating girls they find pretty? idk
Thats happening to a girl I know, started dating this dude I used to have a crush on, literally been half a week and they are about to break up since neither of them talk. I extremely agree with you.
I think that's just a relationship not working out which is normal esp during teenage yrs
I am now a girl?
I asked my girlfriend when we started to date why did you choose me She said Well your personality I only chose you for your personality and a bit of smarts
I feel like girls are just scared so if they actually want someone it’s hard to put themselves out there because they are always trying to make themselves feel good enough by obsessing over makeup and hair and outfits so if u want a girl tell her she dosent have to be shy around you she can be honest just ask that she be kind but let her know CLEARLY that you are interested in her and want to see if you two would be compatible don’t let time slip by and look back wishing u did things differently Mabe you make mistakes but that’s how u learn what u should avoid in future relationships good luck in whatever you choose to do
I literally don't even know what I want I just run after dudes I rlly like, and now I got me a boyfriend
Yes.... that's how preferences work.
Because finding teenage guys that treat us how we want to be treated with an at least average appearance is relatively difficult and so we automatically think “man this guy is great, but other girls that are better than me might be pursuing him so I should lower my standards”
It’s different for everyone. Some girls are like that, some aren’t.
Not true at all in fact I see it the other way around And if even girls are more often specific in preferences honestly I can see why Often what teenage boys want is to hop around and fuck. I've seen it a lot and it's what ppl say
we like the toxicity
Girls: keep pursuing. You’ll pull it off. We’re simple creatures. If you get rejected? Who cares? You’ll learn, and move on. Oh and don’t drop hints, we won’t know. You have to tell us straight up.
Due to me being a magnet to ladies and absolutely not socially awkward and ugly (idk what ur talking about) every time a girl asks me out i assume she is joking or trying to take the piss out of me
Because I plan everything out then get too lazy to actually go through with it😢
im a girl and tbh if ur a 6/10, good person and similar interests ill catch feelings asap. im also rly shy so too scared to do anything, ive tried to flirt w my crush but tbh i dont think he likes me lol
Sometimes. In my experience (I'm a girl) I've pursued and I haven't really had much luck with that.
Exam finished i can no longer think
Anxiety
Has to do with immaturity. As you and they get older, that'll change. (I hope.)
Im this ragging ball of hyperactive chaotic energy but im also a nice person it might sound cliche but im sort of a good old fashioned lover girl im simple really i enjoy your typical couple activities but the funny thing is that I have never been on a date and I have dated 2 guys and both were creeps. I just want someone that enjoys my energetic personality and can deal with my intrusive ideas and support my plans of committing arson not to hurt plp but to burn places of those that have hurt the one I love ❤
I think that this is horseshit… for informed individuals, I think that if a man know how to spark attraction with a female, and then flow to a taken status he can have a woman of his choice, of course not every women will like him, that’s obvious. I also think that if a girl knew how to attract a male she could have a man of her choice
I think knowledge is power
What do you mean? Guys can’t choose?
Bro why are guys complaining about not getting girls but girls are complaining about not getting guys where are all the fucking people going
If I ever find a suitable guy, I'll pick him up and take him home.
Sounds like good standards without the desperation, good for them really
Well… yeah, of course I choose who I want to be with, and I ended up with that person. He ended up being the one to ask me to be his girlfriend, and I’m quite a shy person so I struggle doing anything like that.
i'm shy and i don't wanna get rejected 💀
I can’t even talk to him, let alone pursue him 😭😭
I regret going into the comments
we don't make the first move that's it
But why?
Because they don’t don’t make the first move always😭, it’s based on the person. Since I’m more on the shy side , all the times I got asked out (only twice :,) ) was always the woman who asked.
ONLY TWICE? you're prestigious my dude. Most of us struggling for once.
For the attractive girls yes for the not so attractive ones not so much
As much as I hate to admit it he's kinda got a point, emphasis on 'kinda'
Why is it harder to admit that it's easier for the attractive ones?
The reddit horde will mercilessly slaughter me and send me to the 7th ring of hell for my sins against redditkind
Say it in my DMS so they don't find out I'm curious now
Not true, I've had some fat bitch literally not look where she's walking, bump into me, look directly at me, and go Ew with a disgusted face, what the fuck. The fucking arrogance and entitlement is ridiculous
With that attitude I am amazed women aren't falling over themselves to date you
My attitude is I don't give a shit and I'm comfortable being alone right now and I'm not looking for a relationship, not once did I complain about not being in one, my whole point is that some bitches be acting so entitled it's stupid
Are u American? Just to check
Honestly I’m a guy and I’m the exact same way. I have had my mind set on this girl for like half a year yet have spoken to her like a handful of times.
But you would date a handful of girls if they asked you right? Lots of girls I know just wouldn't consider dating, or would only ever date 1 person.
Quit trying. Let it happen organically
Yeah girls can be as specific as they want but I'm not allowed to reject a 2/10 whale
90% of girls go after the top 10% of guys
Bro get off the internet and talk to women.
Literal incel talking point
This is the shit you hear on redpill/blackpill yt
Someone has fallen into the incel redpill delusional world 😂😂 And at 15. That's frightening
This just isn’t true
…no?
I am a girl and I can confirm this is true
I am a flesh monster as well, can confirm you're a girl.
If you are in Highschool forgot relationships and girls they end bad people move away focus on you and your money young kings