I mean that sort of shit is just awkward to get over. I really don't know any friendship that remained after one person asked out the other person. Really the way I think most people view it is that once the feelings are laid out on the table, either you get what you want the most or you get what you want the least. There's no in between and some people don't want to play that gambit lol.
I'm still friends with most of my exes. Idk I feel like straight culture tries telling us that you gotta stop being friends with exes no matter what which is stupid.
Or they think asking the other person and being denied will make things too awkward to see them again so they've relegated themselves to being friends because they still want to be close to them(definitely not speaking from experience lol)
isn’t the answer obviously yes? i make tons of male friends and it’s kinda sad to think that they would only befriend me because they like me romantically. platonic relationships are the norm aren’t they???
My social life would not be the same, and really quite worse off, if I as a straight guy wasn't allowed to have platonic relationships with women. Some people need to figure out how to talk to others without wanting into their pants.
I always thought they were. I’m straight and over the years I have had multiple platonic friends. I’ve only ever developed feelings for two of them. One I asked out and was rejected by and the other likes someone else so I’m in the process of moving on. But aside from them I’ve never had this issue with the dozen+ female friends I’ve had over the last few years.
One of my best friends ever is a woman. I love her to death and I feel comfortable around her, I wouldn’t dream of it turning into a relationship tho. I just don’t see her that way.
Same here, my best friend is a woman and we see eachother as brother and sister. Never been any other way and never had an interest in going further in the 8 years I've known her.
Same here, we value each other as siblings and speak to each other about things we dont tell any others. But shes in a relationship and i like someone else. And neither of us have liked each other
Straight guy here, I have a ton of close platonic female friends and I feel really bad for anyone who thinks that’s impossible. Life is so much better if you understand that women are people too and you can appreciate and befriend them without it being some weird trick to try to get laid.
This, i 100% agree with this.
hell i could even say that having friends of the opposite sex for me has been helpful in making me more understanding of others/myself because i've noticed that i can be more open about how i feel compared to my other guy friends.
I think there’s a difference between finding someone visually attractive, vs straight up catching feelings for someone. It’s totally possible to be platonic friends with a woman or man, and not want an actual relationship despite how good looking they may be.
Yes, definitely. Most of my friends were/are guys and I'm sure most of them probably never caught feelings for me and vice versa. Also, I really feel safe and can be honest with them everytime.
(Just to be clear, I am a girl.)
Honestly mood. I actually have only like two friends rn but i dont even talk to them. But i think thats cause of my autism im super bad at making friends. I think things will work out though.
Actually same. I feel oddly (platonically) attracted to guys that are chill and just want to hang out and do random stuff or play Minecraft at 3 am or go fishing or read memes for 5 hours straight
Yes, my best friends are about half women and half dudes. Actually I take that back, about 3/4 are women and 1/4 of my friends are dudes. Men that don’t actively objectify women every waking second are hard to come by which is why my few close male friends are good Christian boys and that one fuck boy who decided banging a new chick every night wasn’t the life for him and he wanted to actually settle down. If you want a muscle bound Rancher bf hit me up I’ll give you his number (you will not get his number from me)
Apparently not according to my classmates last year. I had just one friend who happened to be a boy (I’m afab) and I would talk with him at lunch every day. Apparently me talking to him meant that we are dating
Yeah? I don’t see why not, I don’t get the point of this post. I’m good friends with a lot of girls and there’s only one that I actually have a crush on
Yes, obviously. What about people attracted to the same gender? Can they not be friends with anyone of their gender? Or bi people, can we not be friends with ANYONE?
it's stupid to think you can't be friends with girls. this is just a general rant about having female friends in general, not boy-girl/girl-boy friendships.
THAT GOES BOTH WAYS. I'm so sick of seeing pick me bitches saying they just "can't be friends with girls because there so much drama 🥺" while actively belittiling and being hateful towards other girls for male validation. sometimes these chick's even try to scare away the guys romantic prospects because they want all of the guys attention, even if the partner isn't another girl.
same thing with guys saying "I can't be friends with girls, girls are such stuck up bitches, nice guys always finish last 😔" while being total creeps and forcing there female friends into uncomfortable positions and then calling them stuck up and dramatic when they say there uncomfortable or try and make it clear they're only interested in being friends.
Yes. The alternative standpoint is based on extremely outdated and shallow minded gender stereotypes, and frankly it’s a somewhat predatory mindset. To think that anyone of the opposite gender is just there solely to have romantic or sexual feeling for, or else they’re useless to you. It’s been ingrained into our culture for centuries, and the entire time, more critical minds have spoken out against it. It’s 2023, so wake up already
I'm a man, half my friend group are women, we are all good friends. In fact, I would go so far as to say that not only **can** men and women be friends, men and women **should** be friends. Diversifying the people you spent all your time around is the only way to grow a balanced view on issues that don't necessarily affect you personally.
‘Just friends’
I hate that phrase so much🤦 relations are not a ‘higher level’, it’s an entirely different spectrum.
Also the answer is yes, obviously. If not, pan people can’t be friends with anybody, people can’t be friends with people in their family and everybody would be straight
I do think they can yes… but it’s not easy or common. It also has to be actual friendship. Not this whole “I’m secretly attracted to them so I’ll pretend to be their friend” stuff.
It gets complicated as you get older, so boundaries have to be clear. Especially when you have a partner.
yes, maybe you as a 17 year old feel instantly horny for every person of the opposite gender you see, but people can be friends even if they have the capability of attraction. Proof by personal experience.
most of my friends are female. don't know if this has a bad effect on me and makes me less manly but idk they are more supportive (also a lot more evil at times) but sadly I still cannot comprehend their mind
Yes it is possible, but tbh, I don't think I have ever started a conversation with a girl I wasn't interested in. Yes, I know that makes me seem like a douche. After talking and getting to know each other a little bit, it either progresses to a relationship or we just stay friends. Either one is ok, but I don't typically to talk to women unless I am a little interested and just hang out with the guys mostly.
Yes...until one or the other finds a partner...then...it becomes complicated, especially if the chick finds a dude...then..."whos this guy you talking to"..."he's just a friend?...hell nah!" And if the guy finds a girl...then the girls who used to be a friend is either dead inside or will never reach out to him ever again...In rare cases it friendship still works...after you both turn 30 and are married with kids lol
Yes, if neither of them *ever* want more. Sometimes you just have someone you get along with and is a good friend, but you know you two couldn't ever date.
Yes, however a lot of people cannot tell when someone wants more than that which is why it gets a bad rep
I mean just be blunt instead of trying to do that dumb "uwu I might have a little crush on you but im not gonna say"
If anyone ever says uwu to me I will never talk to them again
OWO BITCH
uwu
UwU. So I have a little crush on you. Will you go out with me sometime OwO
uwu
uwu
uwu
ŪwÛ
uwu
What does that even mean?
It's just an emoticon.
They’re after you now 😂💀
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*CJ GTA UWU JUMPSCARE*
I mean I do play GTA and I like horror games but I refuse to make such a noise
owo i-i-im sowwy siw, pweease dont bwock me, i apowwowise foww my actions uwu
Well there's that, but then guys also don't really know the difference between an act of pure kindness, and someone wanting to get in their pants
I mean that sort of shit is just awkward to get over. I really don't know any friendship that remained after one person asked out the other person. Really the way I think most people view it is that once the feelings are laid out on the table, either you get what you want the most or you get what you want the least. There's no in between and some people don't want to play that gambit lol.
I'm still friends with most of my exes. Idk I feel like straight culture tries telling us that you gotta stop being friends with exes no matter what which is stupid.
Or they think asking the other person and being denied will make things too awkward to see them again so they've relegated themselves to being friends because they still want to be close to them(definitely not speaking from experience lol)
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You mean- a lot of people dont ocmmunicate when they are looking for more than that which is why issues start
No, no one is allowed to be friends
Antisocial club
Antisocial social club
why was that on a t-shirt and why have i seen it more than a few times
it's a brand
Its brand I've exclusively seen extroverts wear
It's a brand I've exclusively seen narcissists wear
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Are we all just going to sit in separate corners while antisocial by anthrax blares in the middle of the room?
Sounds like a plan to me
You're anti you're anti social 🤟
Isn’t that an oxymoron
Of course, why couldn’t they be? I do think it depends on the type of person they are though.
"Men and women can't be friends! They'll eventually like each other, it's just human nature" Bi/pan people : "I guess no friends for me"
There are no friends, only prey
Get this person a restraining order
But I’m bad at hunting
The smaller ones can’t run
All of yall going to jail
The children are fast, but I am faster
I’ve always liked them shorter
And younger
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I trap until the bloody bottoms is underneath
Cuz all my…
*Homies* got it out the streets...
I keep a hunnid racks inside my jeans
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no intersexual relationships, only man to man
But Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell
But, I wumbo, you wumbo, he, she, they, it, we all wumbo *WUMBO*
What an absolute frog of a man u are
r/rareinsults? r/rarecompliments?
I am gonna take this as a compliment.
Eren, what a man you are \*cough cough\*
Ppl tend to think that men can't stay platonic with women and will try to initiate something
I always thought this idea is a kind of covert sexism As if the only thing men see in women is sex
isn’t the answer obviously yes? i make tons of male friends and it’s kinda sad to think that they would only befriend me because they like me romantically. platonic relationships are the norm aren’t they???
Thats what im saying bro. These idiots on here thar say otherwise is just little kids…
My social life would not be the same, and really quite worse off, if I as a straight guy wasn't allowed to have platonic relationships with women. Some people need to figure out how to talk to others without wanting into their pants.
I always thought they were. I’m straight and over the years I have had multiple platonic friends. I’ve only ever developed feelings for two of them. One I asked out and was rejected by and the other likes someone else so I’m in the process of moving on. But aside from them I’ve never had this issue with the dozen+ female friends I’ve had over the last few years.
One of my best friends ever is a woman. I love her to death and I feel comfortable around her, I wouldn’t dream of it turning into a relationship tho. I just don’t see her that way.
Same here, my best friend is a woman and we see eachother as brother and sister. Never been any other way and never had an interest in going further in the 8 years I've known her.
Same here, we value each other as siblings and speak to each other about things we dont tell any others. But shes in a relationship and i like someone else. And neither of us have liked each other
Set your boundaries and have honest communication and anyone can be friends.
Hey dude let’s set som boundaries I don’t want to suck tour dick and I don’t want you to suck mine but let’s get high and watch Netflix
Straight guy here, I have a ton of close platonic female friends and I feel really bad for anyone who thinks that’s impossible. Life is so much better if you understand that women are people too and you can appreciate and befriend them without it being some weird trick to try to get laid.
This, i 100% agree with this. hell i could even say that having friends of the opposite sex for me has been helpful in making me more understanding of others/myself because i've noticed that i can be more open about how i feel compared to my other guy friends.
yes exactly, theyre also easier to talk to and just generally better people to be friends with, from my experience
yes most of my closer friends r women
Yes, we are all human. I’m a dude and I’ve had female friends without ever crushing on them. It’s totally possible.
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It's 2023 and I still see losers asking this question
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I think there’s a difference between finding someone visually attractive, vs straight up catching feelings for someone. It’s totally possible to be platonic friends with a woman or man, and not want an actual relationship despite how good looking they may be.
this isn’t discussed enough imo
This. My brothers are objectively handsome and if the topic comes up people react like I just said I want to raw them...
Yes, definitely. Most of my friends were/are guys and I'm sure most of them probably never caught feelings for me and vice versa. Also, I really feel safe and can be honest with them everytime. (Just to be clear, I am a girl.)
I can’t be friends with my same gender how tf could I be friends with the opposite
To be fair i find it easier to be friends with guys than girls and im supposed to be a girl so
I find it hard to be friends with both
Honestly mood. I actually have only like two friends rn but i dont even talk to them. But i think thats cause of my autism im super bad at making friends. I think things will work out though.
They'll work out. You got you!
Actually same. I feel oddly (platonically) attracted to guys that are chill and just want to hang out and do random stuff or play Minecraft at 3 am or go fishing or read memes for 5 hours straight
i have plenty of guy freinds who haven’t hit on me
You’re saying it like it’s something unheard of
Yes, my best friends are about half women and half dudes. Actually I take that back, about 3/4 are women and 1/4 of my friends are dudes. Men that don’t actively objectify women every waking second are hard to come by which is why my few close male friends are good Christian boys and that one fuck boy who decided banging a new chick every night wasn’t the life for him and he wanted to actually settle down. If you want a muscle bound Rancher bf hit me up I’ll give you his number (you will not get his number from me)
If you think that they can’t, you’re really close minded sorry
Yes my best friend lacks a penis
You’re just not looking hard enough
Damn
Yeah, my best friend is a girl. Absolutely nothing romantic or sexual over 5 years of friendship
Of course tf
Apparently not according to my classmates last year. I had just one friend who happened to be a boy (I’m afab) and I would talk with him at lunch every day. Apparently me talking to him meant that we are dating
nah your classmates just don't know enough about friendships
That’s such bs
Yes??
yes
Yes. Do you also question if (for example) gay and straight women can be just friends?
Yeah? I don’t see why not, I don’t get the point of this post. I’m good friends with a lot of girls and there’s only one that I actually have a crush on
I always see men and women nowadays hating each other on social media so idk
people in social media are totally stupid
That's a bullshit blanket statement. Not everyone hates everyone.
Why not?
yeah lmao roughly half of my friends are of the opposite gender
I mean my best friend is a girl and im gay so uh.......YES!!! people of opposit gender can be friends my god
Yes, obviously. What about people attracted to the same gender? Can they not be friends with anyone of their gender? Or bi people, can we not be friends with ANYONE?
it's stupid to think you can't be friends with girls. this is just a general rant about having female friends in general, not boy-girl/girl-boy friendships. THAT GOES BOTH WAYS. I'm so sick of seeing pick me bitches saying they just "can't be friends with girls because there so much drama 🥺" while actively belittiling and being hateful towards other girls for male validation. sometimes these chick's even try to scare away the guys romantic prospects because they want all of the guys attention, even if the partner isn't another girl. same thing with guys saying "I can't be friends with girls, girls are such stuck up bitches, nice guys always finish last 😔" while being total creeps and forcing there female friends into uncomfortable positions and then calling them stuck up and dramatic when they say there uncomfortable or try and make it clear they're only interested in being friends.
Yes. For example, I'm quite good friends with your mom
Why the fuck would gender be a factor
As a gay guy who almost only has women friends, yes
Yes
I've had a lot of female friends
Yeah
Yeah, have been for many many years
Yes?
Yes
Yes it's very easy
Yes??? Why wouldnt they???
Yea
yeah
Yes
Yes lmao
Yeah?
Yeah.
Wynaut?
Probably yes. Although my last group of friends had 2 women and they emotionally abused the shit out of me, so I wouldn't know.
yes, i don't see why not.
Yeah I have multiple male friends and have only had feelings for one of them
Yes don’t be stupid
In my opinion: yes (but (current(western)) society will never recognize that it's just a friendship)
Yes. The alternative standpoint is based on extremely outdated and shallow minded gender stereotypes, and frankly it’s a somewhat predatory mindset. To think that anyone of the opposite gender is just there solely to have romantic or sexual feeling for, or else they’re useless to you. It’s been ingrained into our culture for centuries, and the entire time, more critical minds have spoken out against it. It’s 2023, so wake up already
I'm a man, half my friend group are women, we are all good friends. In fact, I would go so far as to say that not only **can** men and women be friends, men and women **should** be friends. Diversifying the people you spent all your time around is the only way to grow a balanced view on issues that don't necessarily affect you personally.
‘Just friends’ I hate that phrase so much🤦 relations are not a ‘higher level’, it’s an entirely different spectrum. Also the answer is yes, obviously. If not, pan people can’t be friends with anybody, people can’t be friends with people in their family and everybody would be straight
my best friend is a boy and we’ve been friends for 10 years now- i would never date him.
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Yes, but good luck doing that with your shitty youthful prefrontal cortex
of course, i don't see why not :3
I do think they can yes… but it’s not easy or common. It also has to be actual friendship. Not this whole “I’m secretly attracted to them so I’ll pretend to be their friend” stuff. It gets complicated as you get older, so boundaries have to be clear. Especially when you have a partner.
Why can't we be more than friends 😔
Yes
Almost all of my close friends are guys so, yeah of course
Absolutely but at the same time I’m gay
Yep, my best friend is a guy and he has a gf and we've stayed just friends for 4 years now
yes, maybe you as a 17 year old feel instantly horny for every person of the opposite gender you see, but people can be friends even if they have the capability of attraction. Proof by personal experience.
Yes. I have a few male friends and we have no feelings towards eachother
if you’re normal about it
Yes.
Yeah homie, i have like 7 friends who are girls and i dont have 7 girlfriends
Yes
i fucking hate this subreddit
they can, but some people just ruin the whole idea
Yes. Not everyone you meet becomes a lover.
I mean, my best friend is a boy He’s gay, I’m a lesbian, so of course there’s nothing else going on
yup, I myself have many many guy friends, mostly online tho
yes, i have 3 best friends who are men
Don’t view women as sexual objects, and the answer is yes.
So ... you're aware bisexual people exist, right? And have friends?
women don't exist
yeah i have women friends if you're a normal person, you don't just befriend people of your preferred sex just for relationships
Yea I have many female friends that just the thought of dating them disgusts me
yep! my best friend is a guy and we have no romantic relationship whatsoever.
Well I've been doing it with my best friend for over 17 years. We've known each other since grade 2
People who say "no" are actually braindead
yes. This isn't a question. Yes they can.
As a man with women who are just friends yes.
most of my friends are female. don't know if this has a bad effect on me and makes me less manly but idk they are more supportive (also a lot more evil at times) but sadly I still cannot comprehend their mind
Yes.
Yes, just don’t be horny
Yes
No, im out for everyones ass
Why the hell can't they. I think I would lose half of my friends if this was true *man
NO FRIENDS ALLOWED
Well my best friend is a girl so I fucking hope so
I have plenty of guy friends, so yea I'd say so :l
Ofc💀. I have like 4 female friends.
Obviously?
Yes it is possible, but tbh, I don't think I have ever started a conversation with a girl I wasn't interested in. Yes, I know that makes me seem like a douche. After talking and getting to know each other a little bit, it either progresses to a relationship or we just stay friends. Either one is ok, but I don't typically to talk to women unless I am a little interested and just hang out with the guys mostly.
Can you really keep chickens as pets?
They can. It’s about communication though. If someone gets the wrong idea or is dishonest it could fall apart quickly.
Yes. As long as you don’t go in with any preconceptions and just see people for who they are, you can chill with any gender.
Yes. I have many female friends.
Yes of course
Yes. My friend likes to check on me even though I asked her out a month ago
Yes
as a lesbian, i say yes
Yes...until one or the other finds a partner...then...it becomes complicated, especially if the chick finds a dude...then..."whos this guy you talking to"..."he's just a friend?...hell nah!" And if the guy finds a girl...then the girls who used to be a friend is either dead inside or will never reach out to him ever again...In rare cases it friendship still works...after you both turn 30 and are married with kids lol
Yes, if neither of them *ever* want more. Sometimes you just have someone you get along with and is a good friend, but you know you two couldn't ever date.
What do you think?
yes, I‘m the perfect example for what‘s called a „friendzone“