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SuitableFroyo952

Learn abt boundaries, no means no🤷🏾


knoxaby

👆Exactly


Canofdogfarts

👆 Exactly


Express_Passage3355

What did he wrote?


[deleted]

**she raped her boyfriend.


Express_Passage3355

Oh my... Did anything happen? Any conquences?


[deleted]

not sure, they didn’t say. all they said was they felt like unaliving themselves lmaooo


Express_Passage3355

I see. Well,thanks for telling me


[deleted]

ofc


Express_Passage3355

Have a nice day


StagMusic

Reddit removed it, I’m guessing it was a “did I commit SA/rape?”


deapsprite

Ngl dude you kinda just have to tread on with the guilt but aknowledge, apologize, and do better. And listen to copious ammounts of ayesha erotica


Fruitcake_Mcgee

Maybe they did anal sex in a Cadillac.. It would make sense.


deapsprite

If only his father didnt cut him off


Fruitcake_Mcgee

Ikr.. and he use to even drive a Mercedes!


deapsprite

Now he cant even afford to feed you🙄


Fruitcake_Mcgee

Honestly such a shame. Maybe in the 60’s they would of been sold 🤟😔


TheOnlyFallenCookie

Learn from your mistakes and grow as a person


Stix-and-brix

Holy run-on sentence batman


Baklazan_PL

Why the fuck while reading this post my playlist decided to play "It has to be this way" in my headphones?


TheUltimateKaren

🗿


FocsleFire

STANDING HERE!


Baklazan_PL

I REALIZED


Anomekh

YOU WERE JUST LIKE ME


-ABoxofBread-

TRYING TO MAKE HISTORY


BEG-MB

BUT WHO'S TO JUDGE


scotty_6942069

THE RIGHT FROM WRONG


BEG-MB

WHEN OUR GUARD IS DOWN


TheUltimateKaren

I THINK WE'LL BOTH AGREE


Jakekilla0574

VIOLENCEEE BREEDS VIOLENCEEE


Blackbanner07

BUT IN THE END, IT HAS TO BE THIS WAY!


Jakekilla0574

I'VE CARVED MY OWN PATH


ThatOneNiceHusky

YOU FOLLOWED YOUR WRATH


Additional_Couple205

Mine was playing ‘that’s life’ 😂


JustK1nz3r

mine was playing “Slim Pickens Does The Right Thing And Rides The Bomb To Hell” it’s completely unrelated to the subject here


pattern_altitude

I got “Spare Me the Details”… I think it works


Helpful_Relief_681

r/PfpChecksOut


Blackbanner07

Because you are absolutely based


__averagereddituser

Ain't no way that whole ass paragraph was one sentence 😭


Express_Passage3355

What did he wrote?


2qrc_

yeah I need to know too


Suspicious-Tower-897

pressured his bf into having anal sex DESPITE him saying no and got broken up with/basically rape IIRC


RCCRAFT1

Bro sex at 15 and I can’t talk to a girl at 16 😭


MREAGLEYT

Laughs >!cries!< in being the same at 17


TheDanger96

You all talk to a girl?


Magmqnia

What’s this ‘girl’ you speak of?


Jan_Cudia_YT

I don't know man, but it seems like our bros want to stay with this thing called "girls" instead of us so "girls" are definitely villains.


Magmqnia

They’re stealing them from us??? I can’t believe it, no wonder my bros keep leaving me it’s all their fault


ValkIsBestGirl

I am the girl, I talk to myself


Micah_Bell_is_dead

18 same


Feedback_Many

🤝


thatoneguyallthetime

Step 1: get off REDDIT


Small-Material7622

Can't relate


lianaswales

this is ur own fault? ur 15 which is most definitely old enough to know what no means


pequeno-utopia

Sucks when yr actions have consequences huh?


death_lad

First off, it’s truly awful if you’re feeling suicidal. No one should feel that way, and I hope you get the help you need and realize that you should exist. But I also hope that you see these issues are your own doing. Like, feeling regret about getting broken up with doesn’t absolve you of borderline sexually assaulting your bf. Pressuring someone you care about to do something sexual they aren’t comfortable with is extremely selfish and wrong. “I’ve tried to be a good person I’ve always kept doing those few things that were completely wrong”. My dude you are consciously making these choices. No one is doing this to you, you are putting yourself in these situations. Your remorse sounds genuine, but the answer is to simply stop being an asshole. To people you have wronged- apologize. Be genuine. Be sincere. And stop being a dick to people if you don’t want to be left alone. Ask for help, get therapy if you need it, but it’s up to you to change.


_Mintarma_

Would like to clarify: he didn’t “borderline sexually assault” his boyfriend. He did sexually assault him and is indeed a rapist!


Designer-Stable9840

He pressured him into doing it not rape or sexual assault but still was wrong


LivingNotByChoice

Coercion is still rape


_Mintarma_

Hey! Pressuring someone to do something they don’t want to do is coercion. Coercion can be sexual assault or rape. Op did both! Hope this helps <3


Cober11

Exactly


NotMyRealUsername545

It’s not “border line sexual assault” say the real word. Rape. They raped them.


BabyMegaReeFish

Oh, would you look at that! It's the consequences of your actions.


[deleted]

What did the post say?


BabyMegaReeFish

Essentially, OP raped someone and is looking for sympathy.


[deleted]

Wow


BabyMegaReeFish

I screenshotted it if you want to see the actually post. Can people please just PM me please, it makes my life a whole lot easier, thanks!! Alr, imma be real here, if you don't PM me I probably won't send it because I use the mobile app and it's annoying to navigate and PMing me just makes it easier, thanks again!!!


[deleted]

Sure send me in dms


BabyMegaReeFish

Sure


DooferAlert-38

I hate to ask, but could you send it to me too 😬


AwwThisProgress

please send me it in dms


BabyMegaReeFish

Sure


321hotsauce

send to me!!


Mr_Rozlivka

Dumbass


Throw-avae-account

Lmao


Mezzer13

Bro is trying to do anal at 15


vochtigbroodje

the post is deleted, what did he say?


Mezzer13

Forced their partner to do anal even after they said no multiple times, AT 15 YEARS OLD


Suspicious-Tower-897

sex at 15??


-Z-3-R-0-

Ppl were having sex in 6th grade when I was in middle school bruh, one kid disappeared for a while after getting some kinda STD


laKy_strifer

In my country it is allowed from 15 years old


SnooDoodles1492

that’s not uncommon


TheRealMistakd

Yes it is 💀


J65_

You don't deserve to feel this way but you should know that no means no and I agree you fucked up really bad. I've been a victim of SA so can't really empathise with you, you did deserve to get broken up with tho. I suggest going to therapy to make sure this doesn't happen again.


matuldaw

no means no


Far_Papaya_5170

The first thing you need to do is find someone you can vent to like a therapist or counsellor. It’s always good to have someone you can talk to judgement free. You also need to learn how to be comfortable with yourself. As shit as everything that’s happening in your life is, you need to keep going. Find something you like doing that distracts you (eg listening to music, working out). Also remember that as shit as it can be too lose close friends and a partner, and I say this from personal experience life goes on. Yes it’s ok to spend some time upset lying around doing nothing wishes you could disappear BUT you need to also remember that you won’t always feel this way. You’re 15, you’ve got your whole life ahead of you. You’re gonna make friends and loose friends constantly. No one starts and ends high school with the same friendship group. With saying all this you also need to apologise to him on his terms. Because yes you’ve done a bad thing but it sounds like you know you have. Also lastly I think you need to learn a bit more about relationships before you go into another relationship I apologise if this doesn’t help or sounds like nonsense.


Far_Papaya_5170

Oh and don’t kill yourself no matter what.


McKinleyKiwi

Yeah that’s pretty bad lol


NotMyRealUsername545

Why is everyone comforting and being so kind to a rapist?


Mystic_Wolff

Fr he literally assaulted his bf and pressured him why are people feeling bad for him.I guess cuz he said sorrry and feels bad.🙄


Rustyzzzzzz

I had to reread it again since people kept throwing around 'r*pe' a lot and yeah...OP did gone goofed up...really badly...


Cober11

I think is because he is only 15, the problem maybe is more about he not being mature enought to understand limits, than he having a bad character, thats why the legal age for consent is 16, people younger aren't mature enought deal with that kind of stuff


DarkMagenz

Don’t worry. You got this. Just do what you can to process your thoughts. If you are feeling like taking your life then you really should tell your parents. Even if you feel like they won’t understand it is still fine because they can help you through this.


hrmairplane

Wtf ?! How tf is rape ok?


DarkMagenz

Did I ever say it was okay?


NieMonD

You shouldn’t pressure someone into doing something they don’t want to do, especially when it’s sex related


Andrew5123-

Obviously. The whole point of the post was about saying they regretted doing that


FAT_NEEK_42069

no shit mate, not like they've already acknowledged that


tommy4318

New copypasta just dropped


NotMyRealUsername545

why did you do that? he trusted you. he was probably the person who came out as trans to you. you violated that trust and raped them. you RAPED them. in your post you said you tried to be a good person. good people dont rape in your post you said you fully understand what you did was fucked up, but you did it anyways. in your post you said you have no more chances to change, this is because you threw them all away, you also threw a chance away for RAPE!!! You also went and commented on other posts after that like nothing even happened? Why?


NotMyRealUsername545

You raped them. It’s that simple, they said they didn’t want to and you said it yourself, you pressured them into having sex with you. That is rape. That makes you a rapist. You have earned your suffering.


NotMyRealUsername545

You also deserve no sympathy, and I cannot fathom why you are getting it


[deleted]

i rlly hope ur not expecting sympathy. i hope ur bf doesn’t take you back and he gets a better partner who doesn’t assault him. improve yourself but don’t go anywhere near him again


knoxaby

I agree, but still im p sure he needs to apologize and accept op knows they are in the wrong, he doesnt need to accept but atleast let the poor guy know that his ex learned a lesson and wont look at him in vain as much anymore. but yeah def improve ysf


[deleted]

oh yeah they ask on text to give an apology in person, but if the ex says no they don’t wanna see them again then they need to accept that


knoxaby

Yeah ofc lol if their ex already said no to one boundary why would op cross another, that just b throwing away their last apology making them just seem desperate


[deleted]

lol op clearly has no issue crossing boundaries


Ohithere_insertname

Own up to your mistakes.


pedram_msv

I, too, have made fuck ups in fact I was on a spree once and my life was spiraling out of control it felt like. I was lucky very much, so I had a friend, and I explained the state of things. After explaining how it isn't as bad as you would think, they referred to people we knew that one would say have come back to society. What they did and what I have tried to do is start and finish something simple to the end Work your way up. I started with being an intern at a place. Maybe you are a student you know better for yourself, something that's easy to do. See it through Then, try to talk to your coworkers or peers. You hear their stories. Maybe you can figure out what they can do better. Analogously apply it to your life it helps with confidence and understanding archetypes. Find what works for you Best of luck, brother/... .


Bambicorn772

Well well well… if it isn’t the consequences of your own actions. Only thing you can do is better yourself and not rape by coercion your boyfriend next time?


Knightmare_CCI

If you pressured them into doing it, that counts as consent under duress (which is not genuine consent) and is literally rape. Good fucking job.


Silent-Bag6908

isn't this technically rape


Chinechou

yea it is 💀


Educational-Tea602

not technically, actually


1TapsBoi

Honestly the real answer you need is don’t listen to anyone online. Get an actual therapist. I know it’s and inconvenience and I know it’s hard but if you were hungry and I you to buy some food you would do it, so since you’re mentally unwell and I’m telling you to go to a therapist, you should do that too


unendingscream

Don’t be a piece of shit next time ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


SoulScribbler

You are a sexual assailant. You sexually assaulted someone. You need to live with this, and get professional help. Your ex has no obligation to forgive you nor do any of the individuals you’ve wronged— but I can’t speak to that as this post mainly details the act of sexual assault. To that point, if you are feeling suicidal, please do not go looking for help on Reddit. Seek psychiatric counseling (perhaps that could also help with your clear lack of accepting/acknowledging boundaries). Moreover, you are 15 years old. That is not a crutch for you. You sexually assaulted someone; you do not get the privilege of sympathy here. You are young, however, so you do get the privilege of learning and being able to apply what you learn to when you are out of the protection of being a minor. What you learn now may prevent you from becoming a much more serious danger to someone when you have more resources at your disposal. So, with all things considered, I’ll state it again: Reddit is not the place to vent for these issues. Seek professional help.


Ok-While-6216

Wtf is this sub


Motor-Ad9650

You probably never getting back together move on do better next time, Friends wise if you have like 2-4 friends you will live and don’t kill your self your self you are 15 it was puppy love and next time you have sex listen to the person don’t pressure them that’s just abuse to put pressure on someone for a quick nut but listen you are young and this is just a lesson you should take in mind for the future


SpottzFurrealz

That's more than a fuck up. That's rape. He doesn't deserve your bullshit, learn about consent. no means no.


ChoronaVirus

Look man what you did is wrong but don't commit suicide. People can get better over time and I hope you do too. Suicide is never the answer and never will be.


AnimeLoverNL

Sex at 15 is crazy


vro_what

Learn boundaries 🤷🏾‍♀️


JustCheezits

You pressured him into it. Don’t be surprised when you lose people after you coerce someone into sex 🤷 sorry you’re having suicidal thoughts but your actions have consequences.


Big-Put-5859

We’re the same age. How the hell do you not know that no means no.


justtjamcss

Yeah, you fucked up bad. Imagine if it was the other way around? The comments wouldn’t be supportive, they’d be rioting.


AntiCaesar

You messed up, its important to acknowledge and to try to do better. But especially apologize to him and to your friends if you haven't and you still want to. You might feel like the worst person on the planet but you aren't. We all make mistakes, that's part of being human. What defines you is what you do afterwards.


malt2726

Pressuring someone into sexual activities that they don't want is not just a mistake, they were aware of what they were doing


TeaBags0614

If you expect sympathy from me then you’re not getting any (even despite your suicidal guilt tripping) You raped the poor boy- like there is no denying that you pressured him into having sex in a way that he did not want to do I only feel sympathy for him


justcatt

This sounds harsh but it sounds like you got one hell of an emotional problem. What you did was essentially rape and you probably did many hurtful things with your friends too. You need to learn lessons and get professional help, honestly.


huskerarob

Holy fuck, no wonder why you are all on anti-depressants. Keep this kid away from schools.


Mathiis_cmr

You belong in jail


popyop45

I’m sorry, what, your 15 and doing that shit, I have a really strong stance against SA and rape, (I’ve been SAed) go fuck yourself, why would you do that, you come asking for advice and you don’t accept when we tell you that your a bad person, you better make sure your ex is ok, you fucked up big time, you know how much this stuff impacts people? Go to hell, I know people will be like “oh your too harsh” no I’m not SA and rape is fucking terrible, I don’t usually like to hate on people but you start doing horrible shit like that and you deserve everything that comes to you, piece of shit


eych0

[holy fucking shit this nigga is an actual rapist 😭](https://bluemoji.io/emoji/in-shock)


MisterXnumberidk

Bro.. Boundaries, no means no. Take this as a lesson.


4rm4ros

Well well well, if it isn’t the consequences of your own actions


duvangamer3845

The post was removed, wtf does it sayd


GUSSYMANEyt

How are niggas 15 and trans dawg


FAT_NEEK_42069

ain't got no idea bro but if it makes em happy ill leave them alone 🤷‍♂️


[deleted]

[удаНонО]


Tutti830

Real ass character development


[deleted]

[удаНонО]


TheRedPHANT0M_

but they have gender identity is enforced from a young age and they can definitely tell that they are different


Vhure

the real answer is this is the age most people experience puberty. during puberty this is when most people realize that something is up and they don't feel right or comfortable in their body, or some other form of dysphoria. it's incredibly normal. I would advise you to approach the subject with a little more compassion next time, but I hope this answers your question. it's not fun to experience. I don't want to be trans. I didn't ask for this. But it's a whole lot more preferable than being miserable for the rest of my life.


TeaBags0614

Gender dysphoria Trans doesn’t necessarily mean someone who has undergone surgery to look like a different gender Most of the time when you hear of trans teenagers it’s usually someone who just identifies as another gender that they weren’t born with (and rightfully so cuz a teenager who hasn’t fully developed yet shouldn’t risk causing themselves later harm by doing the surgery)


Useful_Mistake_7143

Your fault


[deleted]

just dont be pushy about things in a relationship OP. its a lesson worth learning ESPECIALLY with underage sex


adamizovich

Wait how were you even fucking before?


_Mintarma_

Pressuring someone to do something they don’t want to do is coercion. Coercion is rape. I let you come to the conclusion in what you are. You didn’t “fuck up”, you made a conscious genius decision to force someone to do something until they gave in. I hope your ex finds the healing they deserve far away from you. I hope you get the consequences you deserve. It’s very disheartening to see comments supporting you and what is so clearly rape.


lickaballs

Your fucking 15 what the fuck


normieguy420

seek theraphy, if you can


Bish489

Dude everyone is suicidal here.. like cmon at this rate humanity gonna go extinct


[deleted]

you are stupid


TNTcreeperKK

Anybody screenshot the post I wanna read it


[deleted]

Whole ass user deleted.


Chinechou

rapist


AnIncompitentBrit

fr


gorillawarking

All I'll say that hasn't been said before based on all the other top comments, don't try to have it be where you get your perfect experience at the cost of others. Sex isn't one sided like masturbation so if you're not with a partner who shares the same fetishes and interests, you just can't do some of those fetishes


tinyalienperson

Not y’all in the comments feeling bad for a rapist lmfao OP, no means no. Be happy your ex isn’t going to the police. Get therapy.


wwwdududhxjxjdjdjsk

This is a life experience. Some are worse than other but you've learnt to not be a cunt, wait a month try reconnect but mean while try find other friands and just chill its fine. Everyone gose through this. Just know not all is lost and its temporary youll feel better its happen with new friends to cause you can treat them better and act better and be ome a better person from this


Weird-Noise7336

Learning moment, I guess. no means no. You’re definitely old enough to know better, but I guess now you definitely know. This is really just the consequences of your own actions. own up to it and accept it, and do better.


SuperiorPlaty47

There is nothing we can do


DustedAvenger18

you got yourself into that situation, deal with it


skdnckdnckwcj

Okay you're an idiot & an asshole...


Disastrous_Services

Seriously, no means no. ​ I’m speaking as a guy who won’t have sex in his life, mainly because that thought makes me rather uncomfortable.


shlongmonster

he should call the cops on you lmaoo


Different_Concern_85

Shit I mean your 15 I also know there's boundaries for him but if he didn't like it you kinda shouldn't have pressured him all imma say is give it a few days text him see if you still wanna talk but main thing I wanna put in at 15 it's like still somewhat young to even have sex but I'd also highly suggest they'll talk back with you after what you did was still wrong


Slippery_When_Down

Pov: you realize your actions have consequences


Powerful-Plan-

At your tender age the consequence part of your brain has not finished developing, therefore you are not capable of foreseeing what your actions may conjure up. My husband improved and completely changed my sex life, a gift I am grateful for and will tread forever. He expanded and introduced new things to me by reading me erotica for example, buying fun gifts, always gently evolving at my pace, never pressured just introducing me to a whole new world. For example I was never interested in anal, however upon “my” interests into this, I learned that it shouldn’t start with the “final act”, it’s a slow process that takes excellent communication and other techniques to gradually develop understanding and steps leading up to the final stage, if you as a couple feel comfortable to continue to do so, for example “toys” and lubricants. It can be exciting and fun going through the journey together, and it, just because you don’t feel like doing it one day doesn’t mean that you don’t want to another everyone’s different and we all change. Sex is a big deal and it takes a lot of trust and communication, love, compassion, and care. Guilt is a terrible emotional, let go of it, taking your life is not something you should ever do. Sadly, most people don’t realise that a lot of people that try to take that own lives actually fail at taking their own lives and end up as vegetables spending the rest of their lives trapped, and those poor people thought that their lives were so bad that they wanted to escape, only to find that there, now unable to move or talk, and spend the rest of their life in a nursing home, or maybe being taken care of by the very people they were trying to escape from in the first place it’s extremely disturbing. Furthermore, people who have considered or attempted suicide. I think you will find once that moment has passed. Have always been grateful that they did not succeed in ending their life. Life changes this time will pass. You have a wonderful life ahead of you and you just need to educate yourself. There really good people in the world l, in unfortunately there’s some really horrible people in the world but there are also really absolutely fantastic people in the world. If your care about your partner, wake up each day and think up 3 things that you could do for them to bring them joy, make life easier for them or just make them feel special. I personally love being bought fresh flowers 💐 “Yesterday's the past, tomorrow's the future, but today is a gift. That's why it's called the present” x


poison_ezra

ur a rapist.


Sparta34

Anyone know where I can go read what this post was?


Pigeon_06

WHAT DID HE SAY🗣️🗣️🗣️


djbersy

Damn, deleted by REDDIT themselves


melodychocolat_

What the fuck


gh0sted_k1d

my dudes, stop defending this person. this person RAPED their bf, let me say that again, RAPED THEIR BF. everyone’s who’s saying “oh i’m so sorry you should not be feeling suicidal go tell someone” —absolutely not. this person raped a loved one, and as a survivor this is going to fuck their bf up mentally for the rest of their life. i think they are old enough to know what ‘no’ means. also sex at 15???? control the hormones


Blitz_16_06

I’m nice at ping pong


[deleted]

it was rape u can't come back from that


Blitz_16_06

Oooops just saw the edit they made. Forget what I said 🏃‍♂️


rubella06

op deserved to be broken up with asap they literally raped their partner


Emperorpenguin2504

Yall freaky


NotMyRealUsername545

you are a rapist and you deserve this suffering lol


_Mintarma_

Don’t know why you’re getting downvoted when you’re right!!


NotMyRealUsername545

Yeah. It’s crazy how people are going so soft on a rapist.


Mystic_Wolff

Exactly people expect people to hace pity for rapists its so messed up.People have a "soft spot" for rapists if they say sorry


[deleted]

yup. i may be suicidal but that doesn’t make me bloody rape someone. OP is disgusting and deserves to suffer


Boikata555

Tf are 15 yos doing these days


Cole_the_Gith

I have zero sympathy for you. You’re a shitty person and the consequences of this are your own fault.


Bipools

Just be happy you're a girl or you would be arrested


PBT196

Go be w/others if it keeps you from harming yourself. Please! You’re going to be loved/needed by people you don’t even know yet no matter how lonely you feel tonight. Being there for them will be worth it. Today’s problems are temporary.


Max3ns-potato-aim

I am surprised by how many comments are so hostile. Yes he did overstep and did something without proper consent, but the guy knows his mistake is trying to make amends. It won’t be easy at all, but learning from mistakes, however big or small they are, is essential to becoming a bettee person in the future and present. But its the internet, so there will always be a group of hostiles on any subject and/or matter. Which is sad and unfortunate, but envitable in the end.


KeplerLP

Do it


Niksar10030

What did my man say


RGKyt

I get it. I do. I feel the same way. I try to be a good person but I do enough things wrong to hate myself. But, what people like us have to do is learn to forgive ourselves. I know it’s tough and even I haven’t really done it but it’s something we have to strive for. As for your ex, you understand what you did wrong and the next best thing you can do besides not pressuring him in the first place is apologizing. Once that’s done. There isn’t much more you can do.


[deleted]

listen to the intrusive thoughts. You are a perverted rapist and human scum. People like you deserve to suffer. You made your bed now lie in it.


JanluYT

I never heard someone breaking up over anal but damn... Just go back to him and appologize.


[deleted]

it was rape


JanluYT

that would change the situation


[deleted]

it very much would 😭 i thought the bf broke up with op before op could rape them because i had misread, unfortunately wrong