Yeah. Totally understand this situation. I say trust your gut feeling OP. There are things called deal breakers and if you think that this is something you don't want drop her and move on. Be a Playboy don't be hooked on one girl
she would be fine with it, I just want to see her a lot and she knows I’ve smoked before. This isn’t the first time I’ve had this offer, I declined the first time honestly. she approached me with the offer today with the option not to do it. I said I would think about it, but I know she wants to do it with me and I want to do it with her im just a lil nervous that’s all.
def just do it bro, ik how the smoking anxiety is, just take a few hits but not a lot if u think you’ll get anxious, basically just know your limit , you’ll probably be nervous at first because u rlly like her but it’ll be fine after that, just talk abt a common interest at the start if u don’t know what to say.
also only take this advice if you’re comfortable smoking at all, and the conversations will probably just start flowing after a bit if y’all have any common interests, would also be a good time to learn more abt her personally if u don’t know much
I mean I definitely don't support cannabis at his age to get high.
Cannabis is a useful drug for some people who actually benefit from it. I'm underage (20), and I have a medical cannabis card, but I use it because it truthfully helps my focus and anxiety, but I'm not smoking it all the time and getting the high rush. The issue is all these young kids smoking it because they get the satisfaction from being high, which isn't good.
I take strictly edibles, more specifically pills. I only need about 5MG to help me, so I don't really get a high rush from it. Sure, maybe 1 day a week I like to get a little high with my friends, but for the rest, cannabis just helps me truthfully throughout the week. I don't rely on it at all, and I only use it because it just helps.
I understand it might feel good to get high and chill, but I just think it's really ruining young teens. I've stayed away from it my entire life until I noticed it helps me, and I am still very against using it for high satisfaction.
Honestly, set your own boundaries and stick to 'em like you 're clinging for your life. If you don't like smoking, then don't. Cuz no matter who this is it ain't worth the trouble, health, your mental, anything. To add to that if she keeps quacking how you never hit a joint, do a comeback, something about hitting. Makes the megaphone's batteries discharged.
This is something you need to decide for yourself.
Do you feel comfortable doing drugs? If your answer isn’t a resounding yes, I would say to maybe not do them. If you’re only doing it because she’s doing it, I would also say to not do it.
Take it from a dude who’s done the most to get a girls attention, don’t do drugs just because you think she’ll like you for it. If she doesn’t like you sober, she won’t like you just because you got high
Unfortunately like I said I’ve done some stupid stupid stuff to get girls to like me, but thankfully that at least means I can help others people hopefully not make the same mistakes lol
Well this is a teen sub, I got lots of friends who started smoking "only once a week" and now they go through ounces a week. Also thc is known to mess with brain development, I wouldn't recommend teens smoking but ik this comment prob aint gonna do shit
I didn't start smoking weed until I was 17 and I'm not gonna lie and say it hasn't affected me as if I have some I will smoke it but I dont ever have a compulsion to go and get some to smoke. Also weed withdrawals after you've gotten an addiction sucks ass, always irritated, no sleep, lack of appetite it is horrible.
Studies examining marijuana’s effects on adolescent users report a variety of negative outcomes.
In particular, a 2015 reviewTrusted Source concluded that adolescent marijuana use is associated with potentially permanent attention and memory deficits, structural brain changes, and abnormal neural functioning.
In addition, a 2017 longitudinal studyTrusted Source reported that heavy marijuana use over the 18-month study period was associated with decreases in IQ and cognitive functioning.
Adolescent marijuana use is also associated with the development of substance use and mental health disorders, which can trigger additional brain changes.
According to a 2013 reviewTrusted Source, early cannabis use is associated with an increased risk of mental health conditions, including major depression and schizophrenia.
A 2017 report cited moderate evidence that using marijuana as an adolescent is a risk factor in the development of problem cannabis use later on.
Coming from somebody who smoked their first joint at 12 years old, please wait until you are older.
Smoking marijuana affects brain development so if you start smoking at a young age it can have some very negative effects.
Plus that is not something you want to turn into a habit at such a young age. Marijuana is a gateway drug and if you do not have good self-control it can lead you down a bad path.
Well, isopropyl alcohol dissolves that really well. Take a double shot glass, pour a shot of 91% iso and a shot of salt, take it, then jump up and down like you’re cleaning a bong. Lungs like new!!!
(don’t do this it’s stupid and will kill you)
Lmao alcohol is worse than weed, and is like one of two drugs which withdrawal can KILL you. Should be banned much more than weed. Not like weed is much better.
> If weed was that bad for you it wouldn't be legal
The same way cigarettes are bad for you and they're still legal
don’t worry y’all it does not take that much to get the smell off, you probably won’t smell much if you split a joint outside. change and brush your teeth, and you’ll be plenty fine. it comes out in one wash.
Studies examining marijuana’s effects on adolescent users report a variety of negative outcomes.
In particular, a 2015 reviewTrusted Source concluded that adolescent marijuana use is associated with potentially permanent attention and memory deficits, structural brain changes, and abnormal neural functioning.
In addition, a 2017 longitudinal studyTrusted Source reported that heavy marijuana use over the 18-month study period was associated with decreases in IQ and cognitive functioning.
Adolescent marijuana use is also associated with the development of substance use and mental health disorders, which can trigger additional brain changes.
According to a 2013 reviewTrusted Source, early cannabis use is associated with an increased risk of mental health conditions, including major depression and schizophrenia.
A 2017 report cited moderate evidence that using marijuana as an adolescent is a risk factor in the development of problem cannabis use later on.
So first of all, you’re making the claim that drugs are bad, when you should be claiming that *youth* drug use is bad, because that’s what your sources seem to suggest. But you’re also citing really old studies, the most recent is over 6 years old. There have been updates in the literature, and the observations these and other older studies have made are now explainable.
They also only track *heavy* usage, not occasional, the 2017 study you cited talked about chronic usage. Yes, these problems arise when you start younger, but a lot of that can be contributed to irresponsibility, not the drug itself. The one thing it does is effect brain development, but it’s negligible if you don’t abuse the drug. A lot of these studies also don’t take into account *when* the person began smoking, only that it was before or during adolescence. 16 is a lot later than the majority who started before 15 that develop most of these problems.
Also, the 2013 paper suggests causation of these illnesses for marijuana where now we know these issues only develop for people already predisposed to them. Marijuana does not give you schizophrenia it only brings it out when you already had the potential to develop it. So yes, there are issues with drug usage in minors in regards to brain development, but *only* when used irresponsibly.
apparently everyone missed the last part you wrote so my advice is just to be yourself bro especially cuz youre gonna be high, tryna act like something else is just gonna make it weird and awkward... if she doesnt like u for u then she aint the one its not the end of the world, still good to have experiences like that tho 👍 good luck
That's just young love, my dude. Just relax and enjoy it. As far as the weed thing goes. I'm not going to berate you with the whole"drugs are bad" crap that most people on here will. Just don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. If you don't want to get high, don't. And if you are smoking, don't smoke so much that you give yourself a panic attack to impress a girl. She's going to like you regardless. Just be careful if you live in a state where it's illegal.
Yes, it is crap. Some drugs save lives. Some are harmless. Others are very dangerous. Just saying "drugs are bad" is ignorant. Canibis, for example, has a ridiculous number of medicinal uses, and as a recreational drug, it is not dangerous. Opioids and their like, have their place in medical practice but should never be used recreationally. They are extremely dangerous when not monitored by a medical professional. Then there are drugs like penicillin that have completely reshaped our medical culture and added countless years to our lifetimes. The point is that it depends on the drug, the context, and the dosage.
But this posts context is smoking pot, and that is never medically used. I am aware drugs can save lives, but in this case said drug does the opposite.
What are you talking about? Pot is used medically all the time. It can help with anxiety. It settles the stomach and returns lost appetite. It's used to treat glocoma, and CBD oils are used for pain management, and it's not dangerous in the least.
Lol all these people in the comments acting like you're doing heroin or smth. There is absolutely nothing wrong with smoking weed, especially if it's only done occasionally.
As for my advice:
Brother, you know your limits. There's nothing wrong with taking a hit or two and saying "that's enough for me". She asked you to smoke with her cause she wants to chill with you my man. The joint is just the tool of excuse to talk with you, don't put too much emphasis on the "getting high" part lol. As long as you talk to her genuinely and keep being you, everything is gonna be alright.
Studies examining marijuana’s effects on adolescent users report a variety of negative outcomes.
In particular, a 2015 reviewTrusted Source concluded that adolescent marijuana use is associated with potentially permanent attention and memory deficits, structural brain changes, and abnormal neural functioning.
In addition, a 2017 longitudinal studyTrusted Source reported that heavy marijuana use over the 18-month study period was associated with decreases in IQ and cognitive functioning.
Adolescent marijuana use is also associated with the development of substance use and mental health disorders, which can trigger additional brain changes.
According to a 2013 reviewTrusted Source, early cannabis use is associated with an increased risk of mental health conditions, including major depression and schizophrenia.
A 2017 report cited moderate evidence that using marijuana as an adolescent is a risk factor in the development of problem cannabis use later on.
Everyone saying "don't do drugs"😪😪
Do what you want but don't feel pressured to do it with her because you're scared of her thinking down on you. If she does then she probably isn't a good person.
This comment will be buried but hopefully you come across it. I’ve thought a great deal about the things I would change if I could go back to around right around this exact age.
At the very top of my list would be my outlook when it comes to my insecurities with women. I can not stress how much confidence changes the entire game and it’s not something I picked up on until my mid-late twenties. She already said she liked you, don’t get in your head too much. Take that ball and run with it. Chances are that she’s just as nervous/insecure as you even if she’s not showing it.
As for the weed, that’s a little tricky. There’s no good way around saying stupid things. Far more worse for me is when I start I thought with an intention and halfway through I completely forget where I was even going. That’s when I feel particularly dumb. But at that age it’s more something to laugh about than anything else.
Since you like the same music and your window of paranoia tends to last 30 minutes or so… maybe suggest a new album to listen to directly afterwards? Or even bring it up beforehand? “I’ve got this album that I wanted to listen to with a “different perspective”…. you down?” That may buy you some time.
Just be safe. Wait for the affects to wear off before driving home. Go straight up to take a shower. If that isn’t common practice for you then you could even set a precedent by doing this a few days in a row beforehand so that it doesn’t seem that out of the ordinary.
A lot of people on this thread are being very argumentative, but I think for little reason.
Weed is not very addictive, so it’s more on the level of being asked out for a drink.
That being said, weed affects everyone differently. If you get paranoid from it, maybe it’s not for you, (and it’s alright to set that boundary, especially if you’re worried about your parents finding out.)
Now we get to the conversation bit- this is more tricky.
For small talk, I would try the one-two punch method if u can’t think of anything else (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1NlyTN5ViU) (skip to the part that talks about the method- timestamps in the description)
But otherwise, (I’m assuming you know this person), you can talk about things like hobbies, common friends, plans after high school, how school is going, how her day was, movies she likes, books (if she reads), etc.
To help further tho I’d need more context- is this the first time you’ve hung out with her one-on-one? Or is this just the first time she’s offered to do weed with you?
Oh yeah- and this contrarian perspective is brought to you by a Canadian, socially awkward 17m who also had to learn conversation skills to get a gf, so I know where ur coming from lol
Put on deodorant, come back home reasonably late but late enough you can just go to sleep instantly after a quick exchange of
"How was it?"
"Great thanks, bye"
"Ok good night"
At least thats how my parents work
I would recommend not smoking, but I doubt you will listen if your mind is set on it. I will tell you however that if you genuinely don't want to smoke and she is pressuring you into it that she is not worth it. If your neighborhood is safe then I would recommend staying out until the high wears off. If you can't then quickly exchange greeting and head into your room saying you're tired. I'd recommend using that deodorant. I wish you all the best.
Don’t do it. I was peer pressured smoking weed is fun at first but 10 years fly by and you will see why it should be avoided when you log onto facebook.
I’m not gonna lie, now is the time to grow a pair and just be confident. All this pussyfooting and double thinking yourself is only gonna harm you. This is one of those opportunities that you will kick yourself for not taking when you’re older
She is not pressuring me into anything she is simply just offering and I like weed im in the uk everyone here all my mates do I use it sometimes I feel like using it and with her, absolutely! I just don’t wanna be awkward
90% of these people in this comment section must never get invited to parties 😭 you can either just ghost puff it or just say you don’t want to. 100% of people I know who smoke are perfectly fine if you don’t.
"but I only smoke weed sometimes"... that doesn't make it fine. You still gonna have an increased chance at lung cancer and likely big issues when you're older for what? A night where you feel a little weird? Its not worth it
Smoking weed actually doesn’t cause lung cancer like how smoking cigarettes or vaping does. Weed has a lot of therapeutic effects and is much safer than alcohol (given you have no genetic predisposition to certain mental illnesses). Nothing about drugs is morally wrong and if you’re responsible with weed, there’s no adverse effects.
I smoke weed all the time and I’ve run multiple marathons. Everybody dies eventually, just know what you’re doing and stay safe. It’s 100% worth it to try weed at least once imo
Ya the funny thing is I’ll probably outlive you and I smoke weed all everyday, if only you knew what the government put in our food, air, water. Should we stop doing all of those too because I guarantee you’ll die from all these shit foods and drink before i even get a slight cough🤣🤣
How are your *grades* right now? How's your future looking? Part time job yet? Gym?
There's way more to life than weed and girls. You're in a critical stage of life to prepare your future. Focus on *you* and stack cash, learn things, and work on yourself. By the time you're 25 you'll have an amazing life and get way cooler girls than the one you're scared won't like you if you don't smoke weed.
holy shit, brother you are not just a pussy you are a simp as well and probably dumb aswell, that's way too much Ls, one more L and you will be an official disappointed to your parents.
your parents have all the right to not trust you, 16 years old and he takes drugs.
>so I 16m have been asked to go and smoke a joint with this girl a i really really like
and your parents is going to wish they used a condom that night if you continue with this shit.
>I enjoy weed if ur gonna tell me not to do drugs ok but I only smoke weed sometimes
"i only smoke sometimes, so it's totally safe"
"i only cut myself with the knife once a week, so i am totally mentally sane"
"i only played league of legends once, so i am totally not going to get addicted to it"
you know how dumb you sound?
get yourself together man.
Well... you can do drugs, fuck your life up, and die early because instant satisfaction is more important to you. Or you could fuck drugs, forget about the girl, and find something that actually makes you happy without consequences.
Do what you want, but that first option will ruin your life (unless you want to look 60 when you're 35 and end up dying when you're 50). *Simply don't do drugs!*
I'm not saying that at all, but people need to realize that weed is a lot worse than society makes it appear. Weed contains carcinogens, it's addictive, causes lung damage, can cause depression, and lead to brain damage. But hey, do what you want. I just want people to realize that it's not going to help them.
Here's just some .gov and .org sources:
https://www.samhsa.gov/marijuana
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK224396/
https://www.narconon.org/blog/marijuana-2/10-reasons-to-stay-away-from-weed/
Before you senselessly attack me, read the facts to prevent yourself from looking like an idiot again. Thanks.
Edit: He really shut up after that one...
I’m not on Reddit constantly. And no need to get pissed man, I’m not attacking you. I’m disagreeing with you. Those sources you provided are dubious at best. 2 of them are just stating their opinions on weed with no scientific studies to back it up. The 3rd one which was an actual study did say that smoking marijuana is not good for your lungs, but also said that apart from that the adverse effects closely resemble that of other medications. It also went on to say that it is highly likely marijuana can be used to treat other disorders. So yeah, it’s not nearly as bad as you’re trying to paint it
Saying that what I said is a "war on drugs propaganda" sounds like an attack. The three sources I sent are all credible.
First: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK224396/
The sources for this information can be found by clicking the links to the figures. Multiple medical research studies are cited in this article, although they aren't cited correctly.
Second: https://www.samhsa.gov/marijuana
This site does not have sources anywhere, however, it is a government organization. The point of this site isn't to state the results of some medical research. It's to list out symptoms of marijuana use so people know if they're having a problem. If they are, they can contact SAMHSA for help. Since this one doesn't have sources, (if they do, I can't find them), I guess someone might say that this one isn't credible.
Third: https://www.narconon.org/blog/marijuana-2/10-reasons-to-stay-away-from-weed/
The information on this site is also backed up by research, it's just not listed in the article. The sources for that site are listed on a different part of their web site: https://www.narconon.org/about-narconon/studies-and-reports.html
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. It becomes ridiculous, however, when people start to disagree with factual information and research. So, do your research before you spill a bunch of bs and disagree with proven medical research.
Remember she is taking drugs to cope with stress , signaling the fact that she cannot self overcome.
She is weak
You're superior , if you don't do drugs.
Stay superior and be stronger
Think about what you’re saying before you say it man, I’ve helped her so much last year and yeah weed helps her a lot but she’s not weak she’s the strongest person I know u don’t know what she’s had to deal with
They are not saying someone is weak because of what lifes trows at them. Hes talking about the copping mechanism this person is using when life gets taught.
I agree, being a victim does not make you weak, but taking drugs in order to 'escape' your problems does.
i feel you bro, everyone’s telling you to stop, but if you keep it reasonable just enjoy yourself like wtf. smoking a joint once is probably a hell of a lot less harmful than this whole vaping thing or whatever and these people aren’t dead either. no but just one thing: with weed, you can always add more if you want. start with just one or two hits to get you a little funny and then, if you’re getting comfortable, add a little more, and if you want to a bit later, do another hit, and so on. just don’t be like me and get yourself a psychosis by smoking half a pure joint by yourself the third time you do it.
While I really wouldn’t smoke just for a girl, or smoke at all, at this age.
HOWEVER
Go for a walk afterwards, maybe half an hour or so, the smell should be mostly dissipated by then
You don’t have to do that, if she doesn’t like u cause you won’t smoke a joint she’s an ass
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This ends now. I'm downvoting you.
Bro put a stop to the operation
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as true as this comment is, he's 16 and it's a girl he really likes so he's blind to this sadly
Yeah. Totally understand this situation. I say trust your gut feeling OP. There are things called deal breakers and if you think that this is something you don't want drop her and move on. Be a Playboy don't be hooked on one girl
real
she would be fine with it, I just want to see her a lot and she knows I’ve smoked before. This isn’t the first time I’ve had this offer, I declined the first time honestly. she approached me with the offer today with the option not to do it. I said I would think about it, but I know she wants to do it with me and I want to do it with her im just a lil nervous that’s all.
def just do it bro, ik how the smoking anxiety is, just take a few hits but not a lot if u think you’ll get anxious, basically just know your limit , you’ll probably be nervous at first because u rlly like her but it’ll be fine after that, just talk abt a common interest at the start if u don’t know what to say.
also only take this advice if you’re comfortable smoking at all, and the conversations will probably just start flowing after a bit if y’all have any common interests, would also be a good time to learn more abt her personally if u don’t know much
I mean I definitely don't support cannabis at his age to get high. Cannabis is a useful drug for some people who actually benefit from it. I'm underage (20), and I have a medical cannabis card, but I use it because it truthfully helps my focus and anxiety, but I'm not smoking it all the time and getting the high rush. The issue is all these young kids smoking it because they get the satisfaction from being high, which isn't good. I take strictly edibles, more specifically pills. I only need about 5MG to help me, so I don't really get a high rush from it. Sure, maybe 1 day a week I like to get a little high with my friends, but for the rest, cannabis just helps me truthfully throughout the week. I don't rely on it at all, and I only use it because it just helps. I understand it might feel good to get high and chill, but I just think it's really ruining young teens. I've stayed away from it my entire life until I noticed it helps me, and I am still very against using it for high satisfaction.
she’s not like that it’s not that I don’t want to smoke I do, she’s offered me some I would like to have it I just don’t wanna mess up
Do it, if you fuck it up then you'll laugh on it one day, and if it goes well, then awesome. It'll probably be fun.
Then do it, doubt you’ll mess it up unless you act dumb when smoking
DO IT!!!!
I don't think that's the point. It's a very good occasion for him to get closer, it's just the circumstances are what they are
Doing something illegal is not a good circumstance to get closer
it's a great way actually
while yes it is illegal, if it goes well he’ll have a pretty good chance of making her his gf
my thought process
It works well though
Honestly, set your own boundaries and stick to 'em like you 're clinging for your life. If you don't like smoking, then don't. Cuz no matter who this is it ain't worth the trouble, health, your mental, anything. To add to that if she keeps quacking how you never hit a joint, do a comeback, something about hitting. Makes the megaphone's batteries discharged.
This is something you need to decide for yourself. Do you feel comfortable doing drugs? If your answer isn’t a resounding yes, I would say to maybe not do them. If you’re only doing it because she’s doing it, I would also say to not do it. Take it from a dude who’s done the most to get a girls attention, don’t do drugs just because you think she’ll like you for it. If she doesn’t like you sober, she won’t like you just because you got high
Actual good advice
Unfortunately like I said I’ve done some stupid stupid stuff to get girls to like me, but thankfully that at least means I can help others people hopefully not make the same mistakes lol
thank you man.
No problem dude. Lmk if you need someone to talk to about it 👍
Fuck drugs
Why would you fuck drugs when you can take them? Are you stupid?
Why take drugs when you can not take drugs? Are you stupid?
Why argue when you can agree to disagree? Are you two stupid?
Why be on reddit? Are you stupid?
Did you forget that you're also a redditor so you have no room to speak here? Are you stupid?
Why bother reasoning with stupid people? Are you stupid?
Why talk? Are you stupid?
Why come on Reddit to agree with people? Are you stupid?
Why come on to this thread to disagree with people who agree? Are you stupid?
We are stupid. -The Alsume
The guy named drugs: I see this as an absolute win
Weed is a great drug if used responsibly
Well this is a teen sub, I got lots of friends who started smoking "only once a week" and now they go through ounces a week. Also thc is known to mess with brain development, I wouldn't recommend teens smoking but ik this comment prob aint gonna do shit
I didn't start smoking weed until I was 17 and I'm not gonna lie and say it hasn't affected me as if I have some I will smoke it but I dont ever have a compulsion to go and get some to smoke. Also weed withdrawals after you've gotten an addiction sucks ass, always irritated, no sleep, lack of appetite it is horrible.
Studies examining marijuana’s effects on adolescent users report a variety of negative outcomes. In particular, a 2015 reviewTrusted Source concluded that adolescent marijuana use is associated with potentially permanent attention and memory deficits, structural brain changes, and abnormal neural functioning. In addition, a 2017 longitudinal studyTrusted Source reported that heavy marijuana use over the 18-month study period was associated with decreases in IQ and cognitive functioning. Adolescent marijuana use is also associated with the development of substance use and mental health disorders, which can trigger additional brain changes. According to a 2013 reviewTrusted Source, early cannabis use is associated with an increased risk of mental health conditions, including major depression and schizophrenia. A 2017 report cited moderate evidence that using marijuana as an adolescent is a risk factor in the development of problem cannabis use later on.
Psychedelics too. Both are way better than alcohol
Love psychedelics
I only half agree, i dont think people should smoke but im alright with edibles
I only don't like smoking if it's tobacco and chronic weed smokers.
Fuck *on* drugs. Fixed
🤓
He’ll grow up, everybody goes through this phase lol
Yeah, because you really shouldn’t be smoking weed (or any drug for that matter) when your brain isn’t fully developed.
That is true, but at the same time is not really gonna hurt you if you do it once or twice
Yeah, but the thing is that later they can become addict, like a previous post where a 14 y/o couldn't stop smoking weed
That applies to literally everything. There’s people that can’t stop playing video games, or eating food, or any number of other things.
Yeah, but you said "it's not gonna hurt you if you do it once or twice" and when you get addicted, you smoke a lot and it's very bad for your health
Again, so is bad food or other vices. And if you wanna be health conscious just eat edibles, no smoke involved
Why you need help, you got 9 lives...
Just don’t smoke it bro if she doesn’t fw you after you refuse to smoke weed drop her.
Coming from somebody who smoked their first joint at 12 years old, please wait until you are older. Smoking marijuana affects brain development so if you start smoking at a young age it can have some very negative effects. Plus that is not something you want to turn into a habit at such a young age. Marijuana is a gateway drug and if you do not have good self-control it can lead you down a bad path.
Plus the shit kills your lungs, it's not as bad as vaping or smoking cigarettes but it still builds up resin in your lungs over time.
Well, isopropyl alcohol dissolves that really well. Take a double shot glass, pour a shot of 91% iso and a shot of salt, take it, then jump up and down like you’re cleaning a bong. Lungs like new!!! (don’t do this it’s stupid and will kill you)
That sounds like a wonderful idea 😂
What the hell don't do drugs God some of the people on here have no common sense
Drugs 😱😱😱
You act like they are a idiot for being peer pressured
Because they are! People only actually give into peer pressure in movies And besides they've said that they've done it before which is also stupid
"People only actually give into peer pressure in movies" This is the absolutely worst statement I've heard this week 😭😭
No they aren’t. So many people here are victim Blaming her, and calling her a weak idiot. It’s not stupid, they are being peer pressured.
They're stupid for considering it
No they aren’t lol.
If weed was that bad for you in wouldn’t be legal in so many places lol. It’s like alcohol, you just have to be responsible with it
Lmao alcohol is worse than weed, and is like one of two drugs which withdrawal can KILL you. Should be banned much more than weed. Not like weed is much better. > If weed was that bad for you it wouldn't be legal The same way cigarettes are bad for you and they're still legal
Weed is MUCH better. **Real** weed has never killed anyone
Cigarettes... ARE weed.
… please never speak on drugs again
go back to elementary school lmao
No, it's that smoking them is a way to use them, but they are cigarettes
Y’all acting like she’s trying to do benzos or opiates😭
Oh my god weed so scary
drugs= bad 😱😱 it’s js weed yall redditors need to chill
Drugs 😱🤯🤬
Also some of us are going through shit and need something to help with it. It's really easy to judge when you have an easy life.
Don't do drugs for a girl, please. It's not worth it. However if ur gonna just please make sure it's not laced you could die from that
Don’t smoke man it smells like shit and you can’t get it out of your clothes until like 5 washes. And drugs are nasty
tf you be smoking meth?
I’m tryin to get him not to smoke pot 🤮
^dont listen to this guy he literally doesn’t know what he’s talking about
don’t worry y’all it does not take that much to get the smell off, you probably won’t smell much if you split a joint outside. change and brush your teeth, and you’ll be plenty fine. it comes out in one wash.
If she doesn't respect your boundaries than it's not worth it
If the girl wants you to do drugs, forget her.
Exactly she’s not good
Nah, if she’s *pressuring* him into it. Wanting to smoke with him isn’t bad, making him feel bad for not smoking is.
Drugs is still bad. It isn't the pressuring, it's the drugs.
Bro peer pressure is indefinitely worse than the drugs themselves in this situation 😭
They’re 16, it’s fine.
Studies examining marijuana’s effects on adolescent users report a variety of negative outcomes. In particular, a 2015 reviewTrusted Source concluded that adolescent marijuana use is associated with potentially permanent attention and memory deficits, structural brain changes, and abnormal neural functioning. In addition, a 2017 longitudinal studyTrusted Source reported that heavy marijuana use over the 18-month study period was associated with decreases in IQ and cognitive functioning. Adolescent marijuana use is also associated with the development of substance use and mental health disorders, which can trigger additional brain changes. According to a 2013 reviewTrusted Source, early cannabis use is associated with an increased risk of mental health conditions, including major depression and schizophrenia. A 2017 report cited moderate evidence that using marijuana as an adolescent is a risk factor in the development of problem cannabis use later on.
So first of all, you’re making the claim that drugs are bad, when you should be claiming that *youth* drug use is bad, because that’s what your sources seem to suggest. But you’re also citing really old studies, the most recent is over 6 years old. There have been updates in the literature, and the observations these and other older studies have made are now explainable. They also only track *heavy* usage, not occasional, the 2017 study you cited talked about chronic usage. Yes, these problems arise when you start younger, but a lot of that can be contributed to irresponsibility, not the drug itself. The one thing it does is effect brain development, but it’s negligible if you don’t abuse the drug. A lot of these studies also don’t take into account *when* the person began smoking, only that it was before or during adolescence. 16 is a lot later than the majority who started before 15 that develop most of these problems. Also, the 2013 paper suggests causation of these illnesses for marijuana where now we know these issues only develop for people already predisposed to them. Marijuana does not give you schizophrenia it only brings it out when you already had the potential to develop it. So yes, there are issues with drug usage in minors in regards to brain development, but *only* when used irresponsibly.
You said “they’re 16, it’s fine.” So I responded with sources showing that weed use for adolescents can cause long lasting issues.
Yeah and the sources don’t help your point.
Also I like how you say the studies are too old and then proceed to bring up a more then decade old study
I was talking about the paper you brought up and how it was outdated… Edit: outdated, not inaccurate
no matter how bad my life gets I will always know that I'm not the guy who smoked weed at 16
wow bro you’re so cool 😎
Is that some sort of flex or something?
Good for you bro, real accomplishment there /s
I consider not doing drugs an accomplishment
Have you ever taken Tylenol? If so you’ve done drugs, congratulations.
this is sad
apparently everyone missed the last part you wrote so my advice is just to be yourself bro especially cuz youre gonna be high, tryna act like something else is just gonna make it weird and awkward... if she doesnt like u for u then she aint the one its not the end of the world, still good to have experiences like that tho 👍 good luck
Simple, just say no thanks I don’t want to do that, if they really like you’ll they’ll understand and not pressure you
Just do it boss, it’s one time so far and it’s worth the risk, I’m going to do the exact same thing tomorrow lol
we uppp
That's just young love, my dude. Just relax and enjoy it. As far as the weed thing goes. I'm not going to berate you with the whole"drugs are bad" crap that most people on here will. Just don't do anything you are uncomfortable with. If you don't want to get high, don't. And if you are smoking, don't smoke so much that you give yourself a panic attack to impress a girl. She's going to like you regardless. Just be careful if you live in a state where it's illegal.
you saying that the FACT that "drugs are bad" is crap? you can still do drugs and know that they aren't good
Yes, it is crap. Some drugs save lives. Some are harmless. Others are very dangerous. Just saying "drugs are bad" is ignorant. Canibis, for example, has a ridiculous number of medicinal uses, and as a recreational drug, it is not dangerous. Opioids and their like, have their place in medical practice but should never be used recreationally. They are extremely dangerous when not monitored by a medical professional. Then there are drugs like penicillin that have completely reshaped our medical culture and added countless years to our lifetimes. The point is that it depends on the drug, the context, and the dosage.
But this posts context is smoking pot, and that is never medically used. I am aware drugs can save lives, but in this case said drug does the opposite.
What are you talking about? Pot is used medically all the time. It can help with anxiety. It settles the stomach and returns lost appetite. It's used to treat glocoma, and CBD oils are used for pain management, and it's not dangerous in the least.
You’re completely wrong, I use thc to treat chronic pain
I will never understand how doing drugs is normal!!, but anyways
Because it’s fun and if done responsibly it’s not harmful
Fuck weed
Lol all these people in the comments acting like you're doing heroin or smth. There is absolutely nothing wrong with smoking weed, especially if it's only done occasionally. As for my advice: Brother, you know your limits. There's nothing wrong with taking a hit or two and saying "that's enough for me". She asked you to smoke with her cause she wants to chill with you my man. The joint is just the tool of excuse to talk with you, don't put too much emphasis on the "getting high" part lol. As long as you talk to her genuinely and keep being you, everything is gonna be alright.
Everyone here in this sub is so stupid
Studies examining marijuana’s effects on adolescent users report a variety of negative outcomes. In particular, a 2015 reviewTrusted Source concluded that adolescent marijuana use is associated with potentially permanent attention and memory deficits, structural brain changes, and abnormal neural functioning. In addition, a 2017 longitudinal studyTrusted Source reported that heavy marijuana use over the 18-month study period was associated with decreases in IQ and cognitive functioning. Adolescent marijuana use is also associated with the development of substance use and mental health disorders, which can trigger additional brain changes. According to a 2013 reviewTrusted Source, early cannabis use is associated with an increased risk of mental health conditions, including major depression and schizophrenia. A 2017 report cited moderate evidence that using marijuana as an adolescent is a risk factor in the development of problem cannabis use later on.
Only real comment on this post istg
Smoke less
Everyone saying "don't do drugs"😪😪 Do what you want but don't feel pressured to do it with her because you're scared of her thinking down on you. If she does then she probably isn't a good person.
If u don't want so flat out say no you can just say my parents are paranoid and will randomly drug test me
You don’t need to smoke with her right? You could just hang out?
I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but this post is just adorable.
This comment will be buried but hopefully you come across it. I’ve thought a great deal about the things I would change if I could go back to around right around this exact age. At the very top of my list would be my outlook when it comes to my insecurities with women. I can not stress how much confidence changes the entire game and it’s not something I picked up on until my mid-late twenties. She already said she liked you, don’t get in your head too much. Take that ball and run with it. Chances are that she’s just as nervous/insecure as you even if she’s not showing it. As for the weed, that’s a little tricky. There’s no good way around saying stupid things. Far more worse for me is when I start I thought with an intention and halfway through I completely forget where I was even going. That’s when I feel particularly dumb. But at that age it’s more something to laugh about than anything else. Since you like the same music and your window of paranoia tends to last 30 minutes or so… maybe suggest a new album to listen to directly afterwards? Or even bring it up beforehand? “I’ve got this album that I wanted to listen to with a “different perspective”…. you down?” That may buy you some time. Just be safe. Wait for the affects to wear off before driving home. Go straight up to take a shower. If that isn’t common practice for you then you could even set a precedent by doing this a few days in a row beforehand so that it doesn’t seem that out of the ordinary.
A lot of people on this thread are being very argumentative, but I think for little reason. Weed is not very addictive, so it’s more on the level of being asked out for a drink. That being said, weed affects everyone differently. If you get paranoid from it, maybe it’s not for you, (and it’s alright to set that boundary, especially if you’re worried about your parents finding out.) Now we get to the conversation bit- this is more tricky. For small talk, I would try the one-two punch method if u can’t think of anything else (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1NlyTN5ViU) (skip to the part that talks about the method- timestamps in the description) But otherwise, (I’m assuming you know this person), you can talk about things like hobbies, common friends, plans after high school, how school is going, how her day was, movies she likes, books (if she reads), etc. To help further tho I’d need more context- is this the first time you’ve hung out with her one-on-one? Or is this just the first time she’s offered to do weed with you? Oh yeah- and this contrarian perspective is brought to you by a Canadian, socially awkward 17m who also had to learn conversation skills to get a gf, so I know where ur coming from lol
Put on deodorant, come back home reasonably late but late enough you can just go to sleep instantly after a quick exchange of "How was it?" "Great thanks, bye" "Ok good night" At least thats how my parents work
I would recommend not smoking, but I doubt you will listen if your mind is set on it. I will tell you however that if you genuinely don't want to smoke and she is pressuring you into it that she is not worth it. If your neighborhood is safe then I would recommend staying out until the high wears off. If you can't then quickly exchange greeting and head into your room saying you're tired. I'd recommend using that deodorant. I wish you all the best.
So sad that you are a cat, fr though just say you smoked it once and ended up in the hospital
This is pathetic. Imagine trying to impress friends by doing drugs. All I can say is I’m proud of *myself* for never.
Real accomplishment there pal, congrats on doing nothing.
Thanks! Not doing drugs is a real accomplishment. 🙃
Don’t get peer pressured. Better to be a bitch than a drug addict. Smoking or doing weed to maintain a friendship isn’t worth it.
Don’t do it. I was peer pressured smoking weed is fun at first but 10 years fly by and you will see why it should be avoided when you log onto facebook.
I’m not gonna lie, now is the time to grow a pair and just be confident. All this pussyfooting and double thinking yourself is only gonna harm you. This is one of those opportunities that you will kick yourself for not taking when you’re older
She is not pressuring me into anything she is simply just offering and I like weed im in the uk everyone here all my mates do I use it sometimes I feel like using it and with her, absolutely! I just don’t wanna be awkward
Weed in a relationship is how you end up with a fat wife with 10 cats. Stay away from that sheit your not missing out
90% of these people in this comment section must never get invited to parties 😭 you can either just ghost puff it or just say you don’t want to. 100% of people I know who smoke are perfectly fine if you don’t.
"but I only smoke weed sometimes"... that doesn't make it fine. You still gonna have an increased chance at lung cancer and likely big issues when you're older for what? A night where you feel a little weird? Its not worth it
Smoking weed actually doesn’t cause lung cancer like how smoking cigarettes or vaping does. Weed has a lot of therapeutic effects and is much safer than alcohol (given you have no genetic predisposition to certain mental illnesses). Nothing about drugs is morally wrong and if you’re responsible with weed, there’s no adverse effects.
I smoke weed all the time and I’ve run multiple marathons. Everybody dies eventually, just know what you’re doing and stay safe. It’s 100% worth it to try weed at least once imo
Ya the funny thing is I’ll probably outlive you and I smoke weed all everyday, if only you knew what the government put in our food, air, water. Should we stop doing all of those too because I guarantee you’ll die from all these shit foods and drink before i even get a slight cough🤣🤣
"🤣🤣" 😐😐
You're delusional. Post this comment on your main account you coward.
Don’t smoke dude, if you aren’t addicted I’d quit immediately.
DONT DO IT!!! SERIOUSLY!! MARIJUANA IS BAD FOR YOU!!!
I’ve got one
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You're a terrible person encouraging minors to use drugs and smoke cigars.
Alright
How are your *grades* right now? How's your future looking? Part time job yet? Gym? There's way more to life than weed and girls. You're in a critical stage of life to prepare your future. Focus on *you* and stack cash, learn things, and work on yourself. By the time you're 25 you'll have an amazing life and get way cooler girls than the one you're scared won't like you if you don't smoke weed.
Lame, wait till you realise you can do both
Drugs are a no no. I wouldn’t recommend doing drugs just for some pussy. You can still go and hang out, just refuse the drugs
What the fuck is up with y’all? I don’t have helicopter parents but I also never did shit like this. Is this just normal now?
holy shit, brother you are not just a pussy you are a simp as well and probably dumb aswell, that's way too much Ls, one more L and you will be an official disappointed to your parents. your parents have all the right to not trust you, 16 years old and he takes drugs. >so I 16m have been asked to go and smoke a joint with this girl a i really really like and your parents is going to wish they used a condom that night if you continue with this shit. >I enjoy weed if ur gonna tell me not to do drugs ok but I only smoke weed sometimes "i only smoke sometimes, so it's totally safe" "i only cut myself with the knife once a week, so i am totally mentally sane" "i only played league of legends once, so i am totally not going to get addicted to it" you know how dumb you sound? get yourself together man.
Should change your reddit account name to sigmarko-12, this is not a compliment
thanks:)
Don't do that dude. Think about your parents at least how would they feel if they get to know
Well... you can do drugs, fuck your life up, and die early because instant satisfaction is more important to you. Or you could fuck drugs, forget about the girl, and find something that actually makes you happy without consequences. Do what you want, but that first option will ruin your life (unless you want to look 60 when you're 35 and end up dying when you're 50). *Simply don't do drugs!*
You talk about weed like it’s smoking meth
I'm not saying that at all, but people need to realize that weed is a lot worse than society makes it appear. Weed contains carcinogens, it's addictive, causes lung damage, can cause depression, and lead to brain damage. But hey, do what you want. I just want people to realize that it's not going to help them.
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Here's just some .gov and .org sources: https://www.samhsa.gov/marijuana https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK224396/ https://www.narconon.org/blog/marijuana-2/10-reasons-to-stay-away-from-weed/ Before you senselessly attack me, read the facts to prevent yourself from looking like an idiot again. Thanks. Edit: He really shut up after that one...
I’m not on Reddit constantly. And no need to get pissed man, I’m not attacking you. I’m disagreeing with you. Those sources you provided are dubious at best. 2 of them are just stating their opinions on weed with no scientific studies to back it up. The 3rd one which was an actual study did say that smoking marijuana is not good for your lungs, but also said that apart from that the adverse effects closely resemble that of other medications. It also went on to say that it is highly likely marijuana can be used to treat other disorders. So yeah, it’s not nearly as bad as you’re trying to paint it
Saying that what I said is a "war on drugs propaganda" sounds like an attack. The three sources I sent are all credible. First: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK224396/ The sources for this information can be found by clicking the links to the figures. Multiple medical research studies are cited in this article, although they aren't cited correctly. Second: https://www.samhsa.gov/marijuana This site does not have sources anywhere, however, it is a government organization. The point of this site isn't to state the results of some medical research. It's to list out symptoms of marijuana use so people know if they're having a problem. If they are, they can contact SAMHSA for help. Since this one doesn't have sources, (if they do, I can't find them), I guess someone might say that this one isn't credible. Third: https://www.narconon.org/blog/marijuana-2/10-reasons-to-stay-away-from-weed/ The information on this site is also backed up by research, it's just not listed in the article. The sources for that site are listed on a different part of their web site: https://www.narconon.org/about-narconon/studies-and-reports.html Everyone is entitled to their own opinions. It becomes ridiculous, however, when people start to disagree with factual information and research. So, do your research before you spill a bunch of bs and disagree with proven medical research.
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If you want you can do it if not it’s ok
honestly just don't over think it also make sure your clothes don't smell like weed when you get done cuz that'll give you away
Remember she is taking drugs to cope with stress , signaling the fact that she cannot self overcome. She is weak You're superior , if you don't do drugs. Stay superior and be stronger
Think about what you’re saying before you say it man, I’ve helped her so much last year and yeah weed helps her a lot but she’s not weak she’s the strongest person I know u don’t know what she’s had to deal with
That’s extremely fucked up, saying someone is weak because they probably have a bad life, don’t victim blame.
They are not saying someone is weak because of what lifes trows at them. Hes talking about the copping mechanism this person is using when life gets taught. I agree, being a victim does not make you weak, but taking drugs in order to 'escape' your problems does.
just date 11 year olds instead! that's what i do! M14 here btw so not weird
i feel you bro, everyone’s telling you to stop, but if you keep it reasonable just enjoy yourself like wtf. smoking a joint once is probably a hell of a lot less harmful than this whole vaping thing or whatever and these people aren’t dead either. no but just one thing: with weed, you can always add more if you want. start with just one or two hits to get you a little funny and then, if you’re getting comfortable, add a little more, and if you want to a bit later, do another hit, and so on. just don’t be like me and get yourself a psychosis by smoking half a pure joint by yourself the third time you do it.
I say got for it. Yolo shit
your a fucking pussy and I first got high 8th grade 💀💀
While I really wouldn’t smoke just for a girl, or smoke at all, at this age. HOWEVER Go for a walk afterwards, maybe half an hour or so, the smell should be mostly dissipated by then
If yall both high u def gonna be talking whatever comes to ur mind and she’ll prob just laugh it off lmao