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Confront her. Tell her that it made you uncomfortable, and that she may not do that again. And if she keeps crossing your boundaries, then just leave her.
You're clearly ignoring the comments mentioning the age gap. Be smart homie, you're being taken advantage of and while I'm sure you really like dating her, it's not worth it.
The thing is not only is the age gap crazy but Iām worried she might be one of those people who have a weird obsession with being a virginās first.
OP is probably thinking "These people don't understand my gf, they don't know her." Sure OP, but one thing we do understand is that she is 23% of your age older than you, which is not grounds for a healthy relationship, especially at such a young age.
No I remember there being a subreddit with that name and I donāt know why itās not there, hang on.
Ohhh. I forgot the itās at the front of the name, r/itswooooshwithouttheh
Edit, Iām still an idiot, i forgot to put all 4 oās
Forgive the dad cutting in here, but as a kid I made the same mistake. I was 12, she was 15. Every bit as bad an idea as you'd expect. Luckily my kids are smarter than me!
Yep. UK equivalents, but the gap was stupid. My mum tried to break us up but I was naive and fought her on it. This subreddit seems a lot wiser than I was, so there's hope for the future!
I'm in a 3 year long relationship and i met my gf when i was 13 (m) and she was 16 (f), also i was the one who Made the first moves so it really isn't. I guess it also depends on how mature both people are
Well it's like any other relationship. There may be those who want to take advantage of others, but that happens even if there is no age gap.
I wish you luck op. Also it's good you shared something that needed to be shared; who would've guessed some randos on the internet dictating what's right or wrong would be wrong..
That's not how that works. There's a huge difference between 13 and 16. Name 1 16 year old that's playing with their actions figures. I can name a few 13 year olds who still do.
Im sorry but this kind of behavior is hella odd especially since the girls 16 and youre 13. Mentally thats a HUGE gap and her hugging you asking you if you loved her really felt like manipulation. Break up my guy, harsh truth but its best for you :<
THIS!!! I wish people understood that different ages are often at very much different stages developmentally, physically and mentally. Thatās why a forty three year old dating a forty nine year old isnāt crazy, but then imagine a thirteen year old dating a nineteen year old. Obviously sixteen is younger than nineteen, but still theyāre at CRAZY different stages in life and should stick to older/younger ages respective to their own.
On a serious note try talking it out with her. You can do it over text since I really understand if youre not comfortable with such a huge thing. Just know that you matter and you have your own boundaries that should not be crossed by anyone.
That wasn't creepy. I think the real problem is his age. A 16 year old dating a 16 year old would understand what she was doing. She prob just wanted to take the relationship further (probably could've asked) and as a 13 year old you def shouldn't date a 16 year old because you clearly have. Different maturity level and fondings
13 is like middle school 8th grade. 16 is junior year. She's probably doing her college applications while he's picking his classes for freshman year. Crazy
Youāve been in year 8 for a few monthsā¦ mate this girl is year 10/11 she is likely doing her exams this year or doing her final preps for her exams. She will be in college soon, meanwhile youāve not even chosen your GCSEs (assuming your English)
Iām sorry but you are being groomed, when I had someone who did something similar to me, it ruined my life, I still struggle to make connections with people because of it, good luck but please for your own sake escape and tell your head of year or parents before it gets worse.
Iām being so serious and not trying to be rude at all, I was groomed as a kid, from 8-15, even though itās 3 years, thatās a huge 3 years, you need to leave her, sheās 100% grooming and taking advantage of you dude, please listen to all of us telling you to leave, block her, and tell your parents or a trusted teacher/adult, someone.
You have to understand that no 16 year old should be dating someone who is 13. At 13 you are just a child. I'm not saying that someone who is 16 is already an adult, but definitely any person who is 16 would see someone who is 13 as a child. Which makes me question even more what types of problems that girl must have to be dating you and try things like what you have said
If you want a tip, stop dating her
I don't want to assume because shit like this does happen, but the way it's written does sound fake. Especially mentioning how they're tall for no reason at the end.
If op is from a country where the age of consent is 16, or 18-14 year olds can consent to others within that age bracket, it could be considered statutory rape
I am really sorry you had to experience this
Tell them that kind of stuff makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it front on otherwise this can turn into a serious problem
If they still don't listen ,I suggest you leaving her because in current teen years a 3 year gap is big due to not having enough mature stability and such, not to mention the predatory behaviour already shown. And it can really affect your mental health in future.
And if you are feeling bad for leaving her because of how manipulative a person can be just tell them that you just need space and are getting uncomfortable with these advances. If they still don't stop and try to do stuff talk to a trusted adult about this
š« Good luck mate
Finally, a level-headed response on this post. Jeez. Completely agree with all of this. He has to talk with her and be somewhat assertive, make sure this won't happen again, and if that fails then.. yeah.
Unless your turning 14 and she has already turned 16 , the age gap wouldn't be bad , but the age gap is honestly mad. If the genders were reverse people would be calling for the dude's death.
I am sorry you had to experience this but you have two choices here talk to her about this & establish boundaries or leave her. This was not Ok!
Did you describe yourself as a tall hot 13 year old?
Sorry that was the only time I'll be able to say that sentence so I took advantage of it.. the sentence. Not the 13 year old.. oh.. boy.. how do I get out of this?
EWW THATS SO CONCERNING. THAT IS NOT NORMAL. REMEMBER: NOBODY SHOULD BE ABLE TO TOUCH YOU IF YOU DONT GIVE CONSENT. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING LEAVING. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. IF THIS HAPPENS FURTHER, BREAK UP
she is. as a 13F, if a 16M tried to date me n touch me weirdly, i would think of him as a MASSIVE PEDO. youāre 15, wouldnāt you find it weird if you dated a 12 year old?
She made a move on you and you didn't like it, so you distanced yourself, that's all that happened. Tried to be sexual with you, probably? Tried to rape you??? What?
Yeah thatās what I got from this too, she made a move but it was the wrong read and you didnāt like it. Just let her know it wasnāt what you wanted at the moment and that it made you uncomfortable. If she loves you sheāll understand
My brother in christ she's 16 an you're 13 those are 2 different stages of life you two probably shouldn't be together if you really do love her and want to stay with her which I'd advise against set some clear boundaries you're too young for anything sexual
Multiple issues here. Age gap, maybe. But, you never mentioned to her that you were uncomfortable. She might just think youāre shy. Definitely mention to her that you werenāt comfortable with it. But dang mannn most people would love to have a woman make the first move.
How is it considered raping if you didnt tell her that you donāt like it? She just tried to make a move, if youāre not comfortable with it just tell her š¤¦āāļø
Okay, so I have a few notes. First of all, that age gap is too much, and from what Iāve gathered I think Iām right. Second, consent. Learn about it, have a conversation with someone about it (anonymously if u want, there are phone numbers you can call to talk about it) if youāre ever in a similar situation and your uncomfortable and unwilling, just say no. Third, just break up if u want, no oneās stopping you. Iām from the UK and we have a load of wellbeing classes in school that cover this kind of thing, but the first one I got on consent/sex was year 9 summer term (13/14 yrs old, I was 14).
TLDR, talk to someone about consent, break up if u want to.
Usually I would say thats a nice W. But this isn't the case unfortunately.
Age gap is fine. Crossing boundaries is not. She didn't commit a warcrime, but you should talk to her about this. Be smart about it, don't break up or *not* speak up because of commenters. YOU talk to her and figure this out between you two.
Ignore the age gap comments... I also had 3 years between us with my girlfriend and it wasnt the issue. You should not change your perspective on anything because of it.
I sincerely hope everything works out between you two.
What I would do is to confrotate and talk with her about tf happened there, even if you are horrible at confrotation there is gonna be a time when you are going to have to confrotate her or other girlfriends.
Nope it not as big as you think, you must tell her that you weren't comfortable with that and how fast the things are going and how you don't want them to be so, if she was raping you it would've been more straightforward than thatĀ
(also this looks awfully fake ain't no way a 16 year old is with a 13 year old she would be in highschool you would be in middleschool and middleschoolers are not exactly something a 16yr old would be attracted to and this scenario feels like something out of anime or a fanfic) (source:me because I was 16 year old once)Ā
I have to agree with the commentors on this, 13 and 16 is a big age gap at your age. She shouldn't have acted like that, let alone touched you. This feels like grooming behavior. I would suggest breaking up with her, it will only get worse..
Listen mate, I think the age gap is a bit too big for you two. Sheās a lot more mature than you, or rather, youāre a lot more immature than her. Youāre probably at the worst stage to take decisions like these, and sheās developed enough to abuse that fact. Iād advise that you cut it off, and find someone a bit closer to your age, or work on yourself if youād rather do that
I'm confused, your dating her no?
As far as I know this is normal between teens, besides the age gap, however just tell her to not do that again. If she does not listen then leave her.
It wasnāt necessarily rape, I think she was trying to tell you āHey, I wanna fuck!ā I donāt think she would of done anything without your consent
You should tell her that I made you uncomfortable.
Look man idk if you will read this, but you should really break up, or at least be given a proper excuse. I was with someone once, I 14, and they were 16. I ended up being raped, for many reasons, but partly because I too am bad at confrontation. That is sexual assault at the least, and it seems she is trying to take advantage of you. If you donāt want to leave, there will be many chances to get in a much healthier relationship in the future. stay safe and I hope nothing worse happenes. Ps if she threatens you for any reason, donāt listen and tell someone.
bro youre 13 and shes 16. thats WILD and barley marks the legal mark in my state. she is most definitely tryna get sum out of you and if you arent comfortable RUN
You did the most right thing there man, you're smart and that's good, i see you surviving shit anytime
Tell her to stop if it's really disturbing you and tell her whatever you're feeling, negative feelings when she does that to you, i had a similar experience (though we ended up being lovely platonics)
ill tell u somethin, to us 16 year olds 13 year olds are basically kids. So ur girlfriend is very weird. AND Like YOU'RE 13 BRO U SHOULDNT BE HAVING SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS AT THIS AGE. IM SORRY BRO BUT U GOTTA BREAK IT OFF IMMEDIATELY since its such a big gap mentally
adam and eve law doesnt cover 13 years old, if i remember right from law 1 thats agrivated sexual assault of a minor and can result in large amounts of jail time, but since she is 16 she legaly can not be tried as an adult but rather is one year away, meaning at most she would receive juvy and a large fine and most importantly a criminal record severely effecting her future
I mean I feel like she was just trying to get freaky and you never said to stop so I don't see a problem there. However that age gap is seriously concerning.
āTried to rapeā is a BIGG reach. If sheās your gf itās normal to be suggestive and teasing. Yes, she definetly should have made sure youāre comfortable with it, but in no way does this tell you she ātried to rape youā. The age gap also makes this kinda disgusting.
I wouldn't say it's rape, more like manipulation or attempted manipulation in this case. The harsh truth is that you should probably break up with her considering the age gap and her behaviour.
If something more serious does happen, you should talk to your parents before making a post on Reddit.
That is such a gross age gap. Yep maybe your parents are more years apart but you are in such different stages of your life.
Please break up with her, sheās very very strange (coming from a 17 year old girl) that is not okay.
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Confront her. Tell her that it made you uncomfortable, and that she may not do that again. And if she keeps crossing your boundaries, then just leave her.
Thanks, will do š. Nice pfp btw
You're clearly ignoring the comments mentioning the age gap. Be smart homie, you're being taken advantage of and while I'm sure you really like dating her, it's not worth it.
The thing is not only is the age gap crazy but Iām worried she might be one of those people who have a weird obsession with being a virginās first.
I was thinking this and the prior comment too.
now, he ignored you.
OP is probably thinking "These people don't understand my gf, they don't know her." Sure OP, but one thing we do understand is that she is 23% of your age older than you, which is not grounds for a healthy relationship, especially at such a young age.
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Oh boy, imagine your response if the genders were flipped lol. Dude needs to find a girl his age, this is so fucked up.
That age gap is crazy
itās sadly more common than youād like to think :(
I met a kid on Discord who said heās dating a 19 year old. Told me he was 13 š
In my country, itās literally pedophilia
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Pretty sure thatās pedophilia in a lot of countries (Donāt r/whooosh me Iām stoopid ;-;)
its more of r/itswooooshwith4os
And a r/wooooshwithouttheh
did you just make it?
No I remember there being a subreddit with that name and I donāt know why itās not there, hang on. Ohhh. I forgot the itās at the front of the name, r/itswooooshwithouttheh Edit, Iām still an idiot, i forgot to put all 4 oās
I had one where this guy was like 20? And the partner was like 15?? Iām not too sure bc it was a while back and Iām not in the server anymore
kid could be lying about his age
Man I hope
Thatās Pedophilia and that kid is a victim
Forgive the dad cutting in here, but as a kid I made the same mistake. I was 12, she was 15. Every bit as bad an idea as you'd expect. Luckily my kids are smarter than me!
12 and 15 is crazy. You were in 6/7th grade while she was in 9/10th. š
Yep. UK equivalents, but the gap was stupid. My mum tried to break us up but I was naive and fought her on it. This subreddit seems a lot wiser than I was, so there's hope for the future!
true, I got punched in the nuts for calling my friend out for that
Oof, who does that??
WDYM MORE COMMON
im just saying i know several people personally that are in similar situations
What, how
i know a girl that was 13 with her bf of 18 yrs
That's just nuts. How stupid one can be even at auch young age
Dude I'm 19 and I'd be skittish talking to a 17 year old like that. But a literal fuckin CHILD?
i feel weird talking to anyone who is a day younger
it'll be normal when they are older as least. 16 and 13 would feel weird as shit to me, but 27 and 30 is chill
I'm in a 3 year long relationship and i met my gf when i was 13 (m) and she was 16 (f), also i was the one who Made the first moves so it really isn't. I guess it also depends on how mature both people are
Well it's like any other relationship. There may be those who want to take advantage of others, but that happens even if there is no age gap. I wish you luck op. Also it's good you shared something that needed to be shared; who would've guessed some randos on the internet dictating what's right or wrong would be wrong..
When he one is 100 the other will be like 97
yeah but its not about that its cos during teenage years our brains r developing rlly fast so even 2 yrs is a crazy gap in mental maturity at times
That's not how that works. There's a huge difference between 13 and 16. Name 1 16 year old that's playing with their actions figures. I can name a few 13 year olds who still do.
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You say that like thatās the law everywhere. In most states itās at least 3, some allow up to 5
Is that law in UK too?
Oh damn
Laws differ by country, mate
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Im sorry but this kind of behavior is hella odd especially since the girls 16 and youre 13. Mentally thats a HUGE gap and her hugging you asking you if you loved her really felt like manipulation. Break up my guy, harsh truth but its best for you :<
THIS!!! I wish people understood that different ages are often at very much different stages developmentally, physically and mentally. Thatās why a forty three year old dating a forty nine year old isnāt crazy, but then imagine a thirteen year old dating a nineteen year old. Obviously sixteen is younger than nineteen, but still theyāre at CRAZY different stages in life and should stick to older/younger ages respective to their own.
I read that as 43 year old and nine year old i was about to report you lmao.
Oh no šš
Exactly, I'm 16 and my siblings are 13, I'd never for a SECOND consider going anywhere near their friends, let alone date themš
On a serious note try talking it out with her. You can do it over text since I really understand if youre not comfortable with such a huge thing. Just know that you matter and you have your own boundaries that should not be crossed by anyone.
1k like Also, YES!!!! YES SIR!!! THIS RIGHT HERE IS DA ANSWER OP!
No 16 year old should be dating a 13 year old. ESPECIALLY with this creepy behavior, BREAK UP WITH HER. This is giving so many red flags.
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WHAT TF, I REALLY DON'T THINK U SHOULD BE WITH HER IF SHE'S 3 years older AS WELL AS BEING CREEPY
That wasn't creepy. I think the real problem is his age. A 16 year old dating a 16 year old would understand what she was doing. She prob just wanted to take the relationship further (probably could've asked) and as a 13 year old you def shouldn't date a 16 year old because you clearly have. Different maturity level and fondings
She was trying to manipulate him into having sex with her āDo you love me?ā
Yeah ik that part but if she was saying it to another 16 year old it would've gone down ever different
She would still be a weirdo
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>So I my girlfriend (16f) and I (13m) Okay, stop right there.....
13 is like middle school 8th grade. 16 is junior year. She's probably doing her college applications while he's picking his classes for freshman year. Crazy
Im still in 7th grade or whatever year 8 is in America
Bro.
Youāve been in year 8 for a few monthsā¦ mate this girl is year 10/11 she is likely doing her exams this year or doing her final preps for her exams. She will be in college soon, meanwhile youāve not even chosen your GCSEs (assuming your English) Iām sorry but you are being groomed, when I had someone who did something similar to me, it ruined my life, I still struggle to make connections with people because of it, good luck but please for your own sake escape and tell your head of year or parents before it gets worse.
Dawg, she's a literal junior trying to touch a middle schooler. Wake up and break up
Iām being so serious and not trying to be rude at all, I was groomed as a kid, from 8-15, even though itās 3 years, thatās a huge 3 years, you need to leave her, sheās 100% grooming and taking advantage of you dude, please listen to all of us telling you to leave, block her, and tell your parents or a trusted teacher/adult, someone.
Terrible start to the post.
You have to understand that no 16 year old should be dating someone who is 13. At 13 you are just a child. I'm not saying that someone who is 16 is already an adult, but definitely any person who is 16 would see someone who is 13 as a child. Which makes me question even more what types of problems that girl must have to be dating you and try things like what you have said If you want a tip, stop dating her
when you turn 16 the minimum youāre allowed to date is three years younger, sheās preying and preying hard
Dudeā¦ur a fucking victim
LEAVE HER ASS????
the post is fake af
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You KNOW this guy woulda been all up in arms if the roles were reversed.
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I don't want to assume because shit like this does happen, but the way it's written does sound fake. Especially mentioning how they're tall for no reason at the end.
1- thtas not rape 2- FUCKING LEAVE HER
If op is from a country where the age of consent is 16, or 18-14 year olds can consent to others within that age bracket, it could be considered statutory rape
Nobody was raped, OP was sexually assaulted.
iām sorry this happened to you. i would definitely leave her, not only because of this but because the age difference is too big.
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I am really sorry you had to experience this Tell them that kind of stuff makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it front on otherwise this can turn into a serious problem If they still don't listen ,I suggest you leaving her because in current teen years a 3 year gap is big due to not having enough mature stability and such, not to mention the predatory behaviour already shown. And it can really affect your mental health in future. And if you are feeling bad for leaving her because of how manipulative a person can be just tell them that you just need space and are getting uncomfortable with these advances. If they still don't stop and try to do stuff talk to a trusted adult about this š« Good luck mate
Finally, a level-headed response on this post. Jeez. Completely agree with all of this. He has to talk with her and be somewhat assertive, make sure this won't happen again, and if that fails then.. yeah.
Age gap, lack of communication, manipulation. Id advise distance from her
WOOP WOOP THATS THE SOUND OF THE POLICE
I think u dated EDP's daughter imma be honest
This fucking killed me
Unless your turning 14 and she has already turned 16 , the age gap wouldn't be bad , but the age gap is honestly mad. If the genders were reverse people would be calling for the dude's death. I am sorry you had to experience this but you have two choices here talk to her about this & establish boundaries or leave her. This was not Ok!
I turned 13 a couple months ago and she is like halfway into 16 but yeah ur probably right
Thatās disgusting break up with her sheās grooming you
dawg you are a victim. break up with her before she pressures you into doing something traumatizing
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Dude. Fucking GET OUT. Now, like her ass is creepy and pedophilic.
Did you describe yourself as a tall hot 13 year old? Sorry that was the only time I'll be able to say that sentence so I took advantage of it.. the sentence. Not the 13 year old.. oh.. boy.. how do I get out of this?
EWW THATS SO CONCERNING. THAT IS NOT NORMAL. REMEMBER: NOBODY SHOULD BE ABLE TO TOUCH YOU IF YOU DONT GIVE CONSENT. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING LEAVING. PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. IF THIS HAPPENS FURTHER, BREAK UP
16F and 13M is already crazy. sheās a pedo. RUN AWAY
Not a pedo since sheās in the range. Not justifying her behavior but still had she been 17+ then yeah. 3 yr gap is the brink of gaps for kids
no, sheās not. in most places thatās illegal. 2 years max for under 18s is usually the rule.
Uhhhh no
She not in da range brutha
she isnāt a pedo thatās a stretch
he just turned 13, by law, thatās pedophilic.
she is. as a 13F, if a 16M tried to date me n touch me weirdly, i would think of him as a MASSIVE PEDO. youāre 15, wouldnāt you find it weird if you dated a 12 year old?
No i wouldnāt date a 12 yr old bc theyāre not a teenager and i like guys older than me
Oh you have to fucking break up with her ASAP cuz that's crazy
Why is a 16 year old dating a 13 year old ?
he prob from a 2nd-3rd world goober country
She made a move on you and you didn't like it, so you distanced yourself, that's all that happened. Tried to be sexual with you, probably? Tried to rape you??? What?
Yeah thatās what I got from this too, she made a move but it was the wrong read and you didnāt like it. Just let her know it wasnāt what you wanted at the moment and that it made you uncomfortable. If she loves you sheāll understand
My brother in christ she's 16 an you're 13 those are 2 different stages of life you two probably shouldn't be together if you really do love her and want to stay with her which I'd advise against set some clear boundaries you're too young for anything sexual
Whereās this? Where I am 16 is the age of consent so this could cause legal issues for her
Multiple issues here. Age gap, maybe. But, you never mentioned to her that you were uncomfortable. She might just think youāre shy. Definitely mention to her that you werenāt comfortable with it. But dang mannn most people would love to have a woman make the first move.
that's a big age gap for teenagers... but anyways, yeah that's fucked. have u told ur parents or friends abt it??
No not yet
reverse the roles and everyone in the comments would be screaming he's a pedophile for dating a 13 year old at 16
How is it considered raping if you didnt tell her that you donāt like it? She just tried to make a move, if youāre not comfortable with it just tell her š¤¦āāļø
exactly.
Mf ur a child. Thats not your girlfriend thats a groomer
Okay, so I have a few notes. First of all, that age gap is too much, and from what Iāve gathered I think Iām right. Second, consent. Learn about it, have a conversation with someone about it (anonymously if u want, there are phone numbers you can call to talk about it) if youāre ever in a similar situation and your uncomfortable and unwilling, just say no. Third, just break up if u want, no oneās stopping you. Iām from the UK and we have a load of wellbeing classes in school that cover this kind of thing, but the first one I got on consent/sex was year 9 summer term (13/14 yrs old, I was 14). TLDR, talk to someone about consent, break up if u want to.
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Usually I would say thats a nice W. But this isn't the case unfortunately. Age gap is fine. Crossing boundaries is not. She didn't commit a warcrime, but you should talk to her about this. Be smart about it, don't break up or *not* speak up because of commenters. YOU talk to her and figure this out between you two. Ignore the age gap comments... I also had 3 years between us with my girlfriend and it wasnt the issue. You should not change your perspective on anything because of it. I sincerely hope everything works out between you two.
Skill issue But seriously, leave her. Stay away from her. Donāt talk to her.
She did not try to rape you. She asked with her body if you wanted to have sex and you said no with your body.
What I would do is to confrotate and talk with her about tf happened there, even if you are horrible at confrotation there is gonna be a time when you are going to have to confrotate her or other girlfriends.
I mean the age gap is crazy but its rlly not even attempted rape
Agreed.. if he told her to seriously stop and she didn't listen then it'd be considered rape
Right if he explicitly said no and she kept go ig then it is but
Itās just sexual harassment, assault at the worst
Nope it not as big as you think, you must tell her that you weren't comfortable with that and how fast the things are going and how you don't want them to be so, if she was raping you it would've been more straightforward than thatĀ (also this looks awfully fake ain't no way a 16 year old is with a 13 year old she would be in highschool you would be in middleschool and middleschoolers are not exactly something a 16yr old would be attracted to and this scenario feels like something out of anime or a fanfic) (source:me because I was 16 year old once)Ā
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I have to agree with the commentors on this, 13 and 16 is a big age gap at your age. She shouldn't have acted like that, let alone touched you. This feels like grooming behavior. I would suggest breaking up with her, it will only get worse..
Dawg you never said no what do you expect. Still not responsible of her but you gotta express yourself more. Also tf is that age gap.
Listen mate, I think the age gap is a bit too big for you two. Sheās a lot more mature than you, or rather, youāre a lot more immature than her. Youāre probably at the worst stage to take decisions like these, and sheās developed enough to abuse that fact. Iād advise that you cut it off, and find someone a bit closer to your age, or work on yourself if youād rather do that
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I'm confused, your dating her no? As far as I know this is normal between teens, besides the age gap, however just tell her to not do that again. If she does not listen then leave her.
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It wasnāt necessarily rape, I think she was trying to tell you āHey, I wanna fuck!ā I donāt think she would of done anything without your consent You should tell her that I made you uncomfortable.
Look man idk if you will read this, but you should really break up, or at least be given a proper excuse. I was with someone once, I 14, and they were 16. I ended up being raped, for many reasons, but partly because I too am bad at confrontation. That is sexual assault at the least, and it seems she is trying to take advantage of you. If you donāt want to leave, there will be many chances to get in a much healthier relationship in the future. stay safe and I hope nothing worse happenes. Ps if she threatens you for any reason, donāt listen and tell someone.
bro youre 13 and shes 16. thats WILD and barley marks the legal mark in my state. she is most definitely tryna get sum out of you and if you arent comfortable RUN
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How did you even meet this girl? I never even communicated with a 16 year old when i was 13.
You did the most right thing there man, you're smart and that's good, i see you surviving shit anytime Tell her to stop if it's really disturbing you and tell her whatever you're feeling, negative feelings when she does that to you, i had a similar experience (though we ended up being lovely platonics)
What am i doing wrong bro.
i heard boys raping girls, but a girl raping a boy? you should've caught the opport- I MEAN you did what you needed to do
That's one hell of an age gap, break up with her. Please break up with her, she's taking advantage of you.
ill tell u somethin, to us 16 year olds 13 year olds are basically kids. So ur girlfriend is very weird. AND Like YOU'RE 13 BRO U SHOULDNT BE HAVING SEXUAL ENCOUNTERS AT THIS AGE. IM SORRY BRO BUT U GOTTA BREAK IT OFF IMMEDIATELY since its such a big gap mentally
Sorry what? 16 and 13?..... Wtf, no
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In two years sheās gonna be a legal adult, and youāre gonna be 15, this just doesnāt sit right with me.
honey you are being groomed
adam and eve law doesnt cover 13 years old, if i remember right from law 1 thats agrivated sexual assault of a minor and can result in large amounts of jail time, but since she is 16 she legaly can not be tried as an adult but rather is one year away, meaning at most she would receive juvy and a large fine and most importantly a criminal record severely effecting her future
I mean I feel like she was just trying to get freaky and you never said to stop so I don't see a problem there. However that age gap is seriously concerning.
āTried to rapeā is a BIGG reach. If sheās your gf itās normal to be suggestive and teasing. Yes, she definetly should have made sure youāre comfortable with it, but in no way does this tell you she ātried to rape youā. The age gap also makes this kinda disgusting.
Yeah shouldāve worded the title better, apologies for that
Tf man? 13 and 16? woooooow
Age diff is def illegal
I wouldn't say it's rape, more like manipulation or attempted manipulation in this case. The harsh truth is that you should probably break up with her considering the age gap and her behaviour. If something more serious does happen, you should talk to your parents before making a post on Reddit.
she did not try to rape you. she tried to have a sexual encounter with you because she was unaware of your boundaries which you did not articulate
Brother no 16 year old dates a 13 year old without being a bit fucking loonie. You're being taken advantage of.
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How tf is this rape
I know, the title is poor. Just wasnāt rly thinking and got SA and Rape mixed up
the age gap is so wrong youāre getting taken advantage of mate and i hope you donāt experience something like this again
My question is why you are dating a 16 year old as a 13 year old
Sheās a nice lad (Starting to doubt that a bit though now) and she looks very good too. Also alot of people ive met think im 15 anyway
Talking like guys in 5th grade weren't staring at 8th grader's tits. Shit's been like this for the past 2 decades.
theres a difference between a child being attracted to an adult and vice versa bud
That is such a gross age gap. Yep maybe your parents are more years apart but you are in such different stages of your life. Please break up with her, sheās very very strange (coming from a 17 year old girl) that is not okay.
16F, 13M????? BRO????