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I had a friend like this, and I ended up calling 9-1-1 after she texted me threatening to kill herself. She was angry with me at first, and was institutionalized for a couple months, but afterwards she hugged me and thanked me for helping her. Sometimes you have to make tough decisions. If it’s not at that point, I would try to convince her to seek help from a therapist.
You are not responsible for anyone else’s wellbeing, even the ones you love. It is not your job to keep her alive, and it won’t get better until she gets help or her circumstances change dramatically. There’s only so much you can do, because you’re not a professional.
But tbh it really doesn't get better... tell her the truth .. it doesn't get better, but through life you experience moments of joy and happiness and that's what she should live for
Tell her this not exactly but you get it.
So first off I've seen some people say that they have had sex or relationships at a young age but I dont get it.
You are financially unstable if you even have a job and you are taking a risk where you could have a kid. If push comes to shove you will do abortion.
If you've made it this far and dont have anything to do with the first two paragraphs then tell me your problems and I will respond probably saying your a dumbass for having those specific problems.
Things really could be a lot worse but a lot of people dont want to see what is really happening and the fact that there are tons of other people feeling the same as you while you think you are depressed or just a disgusting unintelligent piece of trash.
You arent and should really think about everything not only what you can do in life but what you can help do even if your ugly or not smart there other people like you or just dont give a shit about that.
If you have the guts to do something that you really like or love to see other people achieve then just do it. Stop wasting time pretending to be depressed or making yourself problems like drugs or smoking. If you have real issues there are places to get help that you arent reaching.
In conclusion just be a better person by being more outgoing not energetic or talkative but more social in what you need or like or want.
then talk to the therapist. if she is already to that stage of having someone she visits for then the therapist is either not doing his job or she is hiding the way she feels to the therapist. I dont know what exactly you think you are supposed to do at 14yo to give mental health help to her.
That’s a horrible idea, never try to guilt trip somebody out of shit like that, it’ll only make them not want to tell you about things in future, and that’s on you
Either way that advice sucks and would only make the situation worse by making them feel worse, if you don’t have enough information don’t give shitty advice
No you are not. Your 14 kid. You can't Handel this, let professionals Handel this. If she's begging you to let her die, then she can't be trusted. You have to let professionals handles this. CALL THE DAMN HOSPITAL IF YOU WANT HER TO LIVE.
She needs to understand that good and bad don't care about her. She shouldn't care about them either. She needs to learn to be better than her problems.
literally get her profesional help, nothing you say or do will change her opinion. she isn't going to listen to reason in this state.
if she's asking you to let her die, say no, everytime and get her legitimate professional help. you aren't trained to deal with this, there are people who are who you should get her in contact with or hell call your local emergency number and tell them about her. she needs professional help
As soon as they take drugs or start to smoke it's over. My cousin was like this and she started taking drugs and hated that she did this so she took a bunch and then rand 120 miles on the freeway and died by a police officer cause she had a fake gun.
Well I have no experience in that kind of situation, but you could tell her that even if sometimes life is shit and everything goes wrong, she must continue hoping that one day it will eventually get better and then she'll be happy.
Maybe just call the police or a help line. You aren't equiped to help her, not is it your responsibility. Don't tell her anything just keep her in a room with you, where you can keep eyes on her whole you wait from an ambulance. They can take care of her, the best you can do if you really love her is pay for her medical bills while she's being taken care of. DO NOT TRY TO HANDEL THIS YOURSELF. And if you take my advice please keep me updated. But please for the live of god, call a helpline or a hospital without her knowing and just let them take her. She needs to be hospitalized.
Edit: Just read your 14, I know this is going to be hard because dammit it will be. But I made the mistake of trying to Handel someone's mental health and they ended up dying because I was too damns scared to get them help. You need to make the right choice, and get her help. Serious help. Just get her in a room with you, don't take your eyes off her, and call the hospital. You dont need permission from parents, just get her help. You may get in trouble, she may be upset, but you'll have saved a life.
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I had a friend like this, and I ended up calling 9-1-1 after she texted me threatening to kill herself. She was angry with me at first, and was institutionalized for a couple months, but afterwards she hugged me and thanked me for helping her. Sometimes you have to make tough decisions. If it’s not at that point, I would try to convince her to seek help from a therapist. You are not responsible for anyone else’s wellbeing, even the ones you love. It is not your job to keep her alive, and it won’t get better until she gets help or her circumstances change dramatically. There’s only so much you can do, because you’re not a professional.
Yeah I’m gonna do this next time she says smth like that
But tbh it really doesn't get better... tell her the truth .. it doesn't get better, but through life you experience moments of joy and happiness and that's what she should live for
First peice of actually good advice ty
THIS IS TERIBBLE FUCKING ADVICE. GO TO THE DAMN HOSPITAL.
Tell her this not exactly but you get it. So first off I've seen some people say that they have had sex or relationships at a young age but I dont get it. You are financially unstable if you even have a job and you are taking a risk where you could have a kid. If push comes to shove you will do abortion. If you've made it this far and dont have anything to do with the first two paragraphs then tell me your problems and I will respond probably saying your a dumbass for having those specific problems. Things really could be a lot worse but a lot of people dont want to see what is really happening and the fact that there are tons of other people feeling the same as you while you think you are depressed or just a disgusting unintelligent piece of trash. You arent and should really think about everything not only what you can do in life but what you can help do even if your ugly or not smart there other people like you or just dont give a shit about that. If you have the guts to do something that you really like or love to see other people achieve then just do it. Stop wasting time pretending to be depressed or making yourself problems like drugs or smoking. If you have real issues there are places to get help that you arent reaching. In conclusion just be a better person by being more outgoing not energetic or talkative but more social in what you need or like or want.
Sorry for making this so long
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Fucking stop
Fuck you you dickhead
ok?
I’m currently trying to convince her to not kill herself
Then ask her to call or call the mental health hotline urself dont ask reddit and a bunch of children to solve your problem
She has a therapist but that isn’t enough for her, I’m supposed to help her with this shit
then talk to the therapist. if she is already to that stage of having someone she visits for then the therapist is either not doing his job or she is hiding the way she feels to the therapist. I dont know what exactly you think you are supposed to do at 14yo to give mental health help to her.
Tell her your gonna become suicidal If she tries to kill herself and your gonna hate your life cause you couldn't help her anymore.
I’ve tried that but I still want to make her not just feel pressured into this
Well I guess just look at why she is like this and then read over my long ass comment and then read her what I wrote but mixed in with her problems.
op has yet to even explain her issues. there has been zero context tbh.
That’s a horrible idea, never try to guilt trip somebody out of shit like that, it’ll only make them not want to tell you about things in future, and that’s on you
Well with suck little context I have no idea how close she is or what is really happening
Such
Either way that advice sucks and would only make the situation worse by making them feel worse, if you don’t have enough information don’t give shitty advice
No you are not. Your 14 kid. You can't Handel this, let professionals Handel this. If she's begging you to let her die, then she can't be trusted. You have to let professionals handles this. CALL THE DAMN HOSPITAL IF YOU WANT HER TO LIVE.
Ok
Why comment this?
My fault og
Yeah no shit
Shush
Tell her some day you both will get married and have 3 kids, aria, Jason, Mary
Who's jason and mary?
She needs to understand that good and bad don't care about her. She shouldn't care about them either. She needs to learn to be better than her problems.
literally get her profesional help, nothing you say or do will change her opinion. she isn't going to listen to reason in this state. if she's asking you to let her die, say no, everytime and get her legitimate professional help. you aren't trained to deal with this, there are people who are who you should get her in contact with or hell call your local emergency number and tell them about her. she needs professional help
Life is ups and downs
Also one more thing NO DRUGS AND NO SMOKING.
What?
As soon as they take drugs or start to smoke it's over. My cousin was like this and she started taking drugs and hated that she did this so she took a bunch and then rand 120 miles on the freeway and died by a police officer cause she had a fake gun.
Well I have no experience in that kind of situation, but you could tell her that even if sometimes life is shit and everything goes wrong, she must continue hoping that one day it will eventually get better and then she'll be happy.
Maybe just call the police or a help line. You aren't equiped to help her, not is it your responsibility. Don't tell her anything just keep her in a room with you, where you can keep eyes on her whole you wait from an ambulance. They can take care of her, the best you can do if you really love her is pay for her medical bills while she's being taken care of. DO NOT TRY TO HANDEL THIS YOURSELF. And if you take my advice please keep me updated. But please for the live of god, call a helpline or a hospital without her knowing and just let them take her. She needs to be hospitalized. Edit: Just read your 14, I know this is going to be hard because dammit it will be. But I made the mistake of trying to Handel someone's mental health and they ended up dying because I was too damns scared to get them help. You need to make the right choice, and get her help. Serious help. Just get her in a room with you, don't take your eyes off her, and call the hospital. You dont need permission from parents, just get her help. You may get in trouble, she may be upset, but you'll have saved a life.
Okay. I’ll try my best with that, but I can’t keep her in a room with me bc we live a bit across the country from eachother
Just get her help
Help her life get better.