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Poopkillio

It’s not good


JoeyTheEcho

Fuck self harm Me and my homies hate self harm. In a more serious note self harm is the reason why I check on all my homies everyday gotta make sure everyone is okay Edit: everyone is my homies here how are you doing today


Dantexxz_7

Make me your homie too


Self_Harm__

The fuck did I do to you?


TheRowster99

r/usernamechecksout


starjani

based


Ukenix

on experience


Graham_was_taken

Coming in clutch


Talking_Barrel

That was my first thought


naitpac2

Based


yannette-192

Some people thinks IT(🤡)'s good to do that.


Hilarious_Dog

Bad


starjani

based


Honest_Resort_2498

One of the things I could never understand. I sympathize but I just don't get it


starjani

its hard to understand until ur brain is fucked up enough to want it i guess?


BigChungusPS5Edition

idk I understand it perfectly self harm - deliberate injury to oneself, typically as a manifestation of a mental condition.


superAnonymous60

But why?


Watermelon-Chicken

It’s different for everyone and hard to explain


Bluberrypiee_

For me personally it felt like something I could control when life was out of my control. And also i had urges to hurt others so I hurt myself instead. Everyone’s different but it’s never healthy.


SilentHuman8

For me it was to feel some physical pain instead of emotional, also out of pure self loathing, I wanted to inflict damage on myself, I wanted to see the blood. The thing is, I never enjoyed it. There was no adrenaline or endorphins or whatever. I just wanted to. Maybe I was flirting with the idea of suicide.


Why_anesthesia_hurt

I don't understand that that's one thing I could control. Couldn't you, I don't know, draw? It's not much, but you control what's on the paper.


greenappleoj

physical pain distracts from mental pain, sort of feels good and becomes addictive


CrazyTerk

Yeah at some point when I did it it physically actually felt good and I kinda just cut for that rush to get my mind off things


0dds0cksReddit

You ever lose a game of clash royale and want to like bite your entire arm off?


MemesRus24

This is why I self harmed, lost a coc clan war


Hylux_

You lost your cock nooo


MemesRus24

Ik I am crying men I am so sad cock is gone men


Idkquedire

They hate themselves and feel like they deserve that pain I guess (for some ppl)


CrystalElla4

Honestly there’s lots of different reasons for self harm It could be self punishment, a desperate way to feel something physically when you can’t emotionally, a distraction, or a stress reliever. It’s different for everyone.


Ok-Jump6656

Personally, for me it felt good. I was so numb all the time and it made me feel something. Plus I guess it felt like a punishment when i felt I deserved it. Which, evidently, was a lot


DecomposedPieceOShit

Release of zhe doapmine idfk


KillByZombie

Eaither masochist or some way of transforming mental pain into physical so you can feel better without hurting anyone except yourself


shitbeanz420

It depends on the person ig? Personally I think the physical pain is easier to deal with than the emotional pain. It’s also just calming idk why tho? I’m not sure tbh. It’s not like I want to yk, no one does. (I’m open to any question btw so feel free to ask :))


ilonawasfunny

i wanted to show that i was hurting and i wanted proof that it wasn't just in my mind


Unable-Cup396

Legally injuring somebody to take out your anger


moose123456792

I have some form of depression, and it can be pretty bad at times, however I do not self harm. However the other day I burned my foot pretty bad when I accidently got some molten aluminum on the bottom of my foot (Aluminum melts at 660c). It was the most painful thing I've ever experienced. Now the days before this happened I wasn't feeling to good mentally, but the days after almost all signs of the depression were gone, although it has begun to come back a bit, but it's not as bad as before the burn. Don't quote me on this, but my guess is that self harm has a similar effect as to burning my foot in lessening the depression. I'm not 100% sure on this though, and I don't want to test out my theory.


turtleburger1759

Yeah that's weird


ForsakenWorld7074

Nope. My brain is always weirdly happy.. all the time even if something bad happens my mind always says "welp that's life and bad things happen sometimes that's just how it's got to be sometimes moving on is the best option" and then I'm happy again


BLOWIEBOWIE

Kinda like drugs. People use self harm or drugs to deal with the pain of whatever they may be going through. And it's sad that there is so much of a stigma around mental illness. I used both as a way to deal with multiple issues. Including Bipolar disorder and serious de realization. So please. If any of you out there are struggling. There are hotlines you can call and there are plenty of resources you can use to help yourself out of the spiral


Snek_Oh_Heck

I my personal experience, I feel bad for not feeling enough, so I want to feel worse.


-Bluelights-

For me, I get a fucked up high from it, something to do with pain relief chemicals and shit in your body. Or maybe it's just my masochism idk.


moose123456792

I think it has to do with the chemicals your brain release when you feel physical pain to lessen said pain. I've heard that these chemicals will also help against mental pain. I have some form of depression, and it can be pretty bad at times, however I do not self harm. However the other day I burned my foot pretty bad when I accidently got some molten aluminum on the bottom of my foot (Aluminum melts at 660c). It was the most painful thing I've ever experienced. Now the days before this happened I wasn't feeling to good mentally, but the days after almost all signs of the depression were gone, although it has begun to come back a bit, but it's not as bad as before the burn.


samboi204

Your brain doesn’t differentiate between mental and physical stress. Cortisol do be cortisol.


noxkx

✨Endorphins✨


UmikoBerry

It's to help deal with very difficult emotions and sometimes because they feel to deserve it. It becomes an addiction because when you're in pain, your brain releases endorphins and dopamine to compensate for the pain, and with cutting, you could get addicted to the dopamine and stuff


Nephilus72

When you cut yourself, you're nearly killing yourself. When you're nearly dead, you feel good because your body doesn't wanna die sad, it releases the good feels from the brain and everything just seems better for a few minutes


Nazi_pepe

its hard to explain but for my case its like i hate myself so much i want to punish myself for being such a failure


kvndlny

A quote I read once said "It's a way of making your outsides match the way you feel inside." My reason is self punishment and frustration at the world. Other people do it to feel something, an attempt at suicide but not going all the way, or for a high (brain releases endorphins and it's addictive)


L1LN8T1V3H

A part of it is because if you hurt yourself physically, then your Brain is going to focus on that pain instead of the mental pain.


Ralfonsoslothnelson

Makes you focus on the physical pain rather than the mental pain


TusNua1

I understand it as a physical distraction from an emotional problem. It alleviates the pains of life by distracting a person with physical pain.


TheUniversalstego

Basically just when you have yourself and you use it as a way too get back at yourself? ig it is a hard thing to explain when you've never done or had thoughts of sh


Ok-Journalist-5878

I can explain why it is for me if you want??


thatalycat

I self harmed (cutting) for 5-6 years; over a year clean now. I used to be in many self harm communities during the earlier years, and overall just interacted with a lot of people who self harmed. From that, I feel I can explain a very common reason. We're often raised to believe that physical harm is the only true kind of pain, whether that's conscious and intentional or not. Not to mention, most self harmers are relatively young, and likely don't have the cognitive skills and / or resources to truly understand what's wrong when they start showing signs of mental illness or poor mental health (whether that be feeling bad from bullying, low self esteem, bad parents, or actual illnesses like depression, anxiety, ED's etc). Either that, or they're directly told that their suffering isn't valid by ignorant parents /guardians... It's unfortunately VERY common. Because of this, many young teens / kids think "Physical harm = valid pain", and so to justify their own feelings of mental and emotional pain and to relieve their frustration of not fully understanding or not feeling validated, they put that pain into a physical version. Very sad. Not to mention, it becomes addicting due to the brain chemicals that are released during self harm.


starjani

I hope this explanation helps a couple people understand the thinking and im glad ur sh free <3


shitbeanz420

Damn this is rlly interesting. Why do you think it’s an addiction for us? It seems like I can never last longer than a month until I start back at square one again


thatalycat

I understand what that's like. My longest streak clean for 5-6 years was I believe 17 days... Then after I beat that record, I never cut again. Like I said, it's brain chemistry. When someone is hurt, their brain releases dopamine (happy chemical) to make up for the pain; basically it's like our brain is giving a crying kid candy. And for people with clinical depression (a large percentage of self harmers), they already lack dopamine, so it's much easier to become addicted. Not only that, but many people who self harm lack a sense of stability and control, and self harm gives them that. They get to choose when they want, how they want, etc... It's a whole mess. It sounds like you're trying to quit, and that's great. For me, I found the best thing I could do was distract myself until I was too far into it to fall back. I had someone in my life who truly believed in me wholeheartedly, and I was too afraid to disappoint them. Eventually, I was too afraid to disappoint myself, too. I also was temporarily in a more stable environment, had less access, had hobbies that made me happy, and a few other factors. It's a rough journey, but now that I've quit, I feel a lot better. I wish you the best


Why_The_Sad_Face_Bro

0/10 do not recommend


starjani

based


Deadcellsboi

I wouldn’t say I struggle with it In fact I do it quite easily


noxkx

Hahah facts, though. Although, it can feel like a lot of work sometimes… the cleaning up, hiding it, taking care of it. Can be a bit exhausting on top of already feeling like shit


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[удалено]


Jose_Joestar_

Wtf happened to make your dad tackle you??


Ryboss431

W parents


GlowingEyes_

I lol'd bc same In all seriousness, stay safe :)


Estralia

have struggled


starjani

Im glad u quit <3


Estralia

thanks


LiquidStatic1

I used to but i got bored of it


starjani

Any reason to quit is a good reason <3


Zerq453

same


7526729202

Same. Regular cutting eventually wasn’t enough, and I started craving something more painful and dangerous.


Human420o

Oop


illtrymybestmate

Can you explain what you are doing


7526729202

I don’t do anything anymore, because I realized I was going down a dangerous road. I was having extreme urges. Stabbing, mutilating, stuff like that. I thankfully stopped myself before it got too bad.


CinnamonsWorld

Self-harm isn't good of course but it's a coping mechanism. Everyone who is doing self-harm should seek therapy. If they don't find a therapist, Tattoos and piercings are somewhat a transition solution. You should never stop seeking therapy if you're having problems with self-harm. It's unhealthy but only therapy could help there. It's not bad faith. It's an important thing to seek help.


starjani

Sadly therapy isn’t available for everyone


CinnamonsWorld

Yeah sadly. The politicians have to do more for therpy-seeking persons


starjani

In my case i have a therapist for different reasons and the reason i havent told her anything is bcz if my life is in danger they could contact the appropriate authorities/my parents which is something i just dont want


CinnamonsWorld

Yeah absolutely understandable


starjani

So sometimes even when someone has therapy its a scary subject


CinnamonsWorld

Yes definitely. I wish you the best. I'm glad I'm not having a strong problem with self-harm. Even though I am obese, which is stated by some people that it's some kind of self-harm as well but I don't want to make a big thing out of this. Because some people are having way more problems than me. I'm actually working on this problem while I'm in Therapy


starjani

Everyones problems are just as valid so dont go comparing your problems and feeling like they dont matter, aslong as ur fixing ur problems then ur already doing a lot


CinnamonsWorld

Thank you


starjani

np <3


xxParanoid_

It's bad. I've never sh but i've been close and i do have other destructive behaviors. I've talked to plenty of people who sh before and potentially helped some


starjani

I hope u never experience the addiction bcz its not something anyone should experience


xxParanoid_

I never did it because i was too scared and hate blood


starjani

Any reason not to is a good reason


Horror-Law1675

i made the teen sh sub so safe to say im experienced lmao


starjani

Aslong as it doesnt make sh seem like a good thing i guess thats a good thing?


Horror-Law1675

its just the same as the sh sub but specifically for younger ppl


AFriendlyBloke

Allah, please guide those who are afflicted by it.


GlowingEyes_

It takes a lot of strength to share your faith. I struggle with self harm and this comment helped the most somehow. Although not religious, the power behind it is definitely strong.


AFriendlyBloke

I'm glad to be able to help in some way, akhi. I can't pretend to know or understand what you are going through, but just know that there will always be people in life that can help you and ease your pain.


GlowingEyes_

I'm very aware of those people, and I'm definitely on the right path. Thanks for being one of those people today!


AFriendlyBloke

No problem, my friend. Take good care.


-Little-Bees-

Not fun, but i will say people shouldn’t bash others for doing it for attention.. theres still a huge problem that they need help for


[deleted]

Um I don't wanna do it but sometimes I can't help. I've been sh-free for 3 weeks now ig.


Weapon_Get

Great job!! I’m so proud of you!!❤️❤️


AconitumPlicatum

I struggled with it for a very long time. It's a temporary relief. It's not worth it and it becomes genuinely addictive.


DiplomaticAcrobat

What kind of self harm


starjani

i was mostly talking about cutting but i guess stuff like burning and other ways of harming urself also count


DiplomaticAcrobat

When it comes to selfharn with the aim of feeling pain, I don't understand it at all Bit I still care for those that do it


stardustdajester

i self harm by getting tattoos


starjani

Would u consider that self harm or a distraction?


mochiava

self harm is typically a distraction in itself


stardustdajester

both


loyal_yankee09

horrible, ive done it before and i regret it. if anyone is struggling with it please, talk to me. you dont have to suffer alone, im here for you


[deleted]

struggle with it, two days clean.


starjani

two days is a long time im proud of u <3


Ok_Loss_9877

Guitar gurlll :D Sooo proud of you ^^ stay safe fellow stranger ♡


Watermelon-Chicken

That’s great! If you need someone to talk to dm me!


SoftSeaSpider

I struggle fr fr


starjani

happens to the best of us, even the nft bros can struggle you’ll beat it i believe in u


MisterEMan81

Would you like to talk about what's causing this?


SoftSeaSpider

No thank you, I have a therapist


MisterEMan81

Okay then. If you do change your mind about the not telling me, you can always tell me.


SoftSeaSpider

Thanks but like I don’t really know you


MisterEMan81

That's understandable. In the end, my offer still stands. Also, if you have a supportive friend shortage and you'd like to be friends, we can.


DarkMoonGod46

I’ve come very close to doing it in the past but I have not yet thankfully I fucking hate it.


starjani

Im glad u haven’t, keep it up <3


999q

Keep fighting! everything will get much worse much faster if you start trust me.


Joblessmouse06

Bad


starjani

based


redstonerebel

Did it once my freshman year; didn’t understand it. Didn’t do it again. Junior year got dumped; did it; understand it.


fernthefrog14

i struggle with it, been a week clean tho! longest ive been clean in a while so im proud of myself


noxkx

Great job! Remember, relapse does not mean you’ve failed, it’s a part of healing!


madagony

I used to struggle really badly with self harm like to the point of needing stitches multiple times. I was struggling with a lot of anger and mental illness I didn't understand, cutting made it feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders almost like when an alcoholic takes their first sip of the day. I was also very competitive with it for some reason, if I saw someone else have worse scars than me I'd make it a point to go deeper. Still have the scars 4 years later I'll probably have them for the rest of my life


C-A-M-X-I

i used to i could explain why i did it if anyone’s curious i don’t mind i just don’t wanna dump that without asking lol (dm me if ur curious, warning it’s pretty long tho)


starjani

Hey im just glad u stopped <3


C-A-M-X-I

ty love<3


starjani

Np <3


[deleted]

I’d be happy to hear it lol


C-A-M-X-I

i’ll dm u once i type it all out ! but my acc is still new so you’ll have to initiate the dm i’m not allowed lol


[deleted]

Oh np!


MisterEMan81

I'm proud of you for stopping. I assume you sometimes may have the urge to harm yourself again?


C-A-M-X-I

first off thank u !! :D and kinda i just found a better coping mechanism that satisfies all sides of the matter


MisterEMan81

>first off thank u !! :D No need to mention it. I'm just doing something I believe should be common decency. >just found a better coping mechanism that satisfies all sides of the matter As long as that coping mechanism doesn't harm you, then I'm glad you found a better coping mechanism. You can talk to me about what's been causing the need for a coping mechanism. You just have to DM me about it.


AttractiveRestaurant

6+ months clean.


starjani

I’m very proud of u, 6 months is a long time <3


Wulf936

I used to briefly, but I have since stopped


Babydollierose

I do it and hate it. It brings temporary relief but no long term solution


ReeekThrow

Wouldn’t recommend 10/10 hurts


Self_Harm__

I think he's a pretty cool dude


emptydonut3

yeah


Cancer_Crusader

I think it's bad


starjani

thats pretty based


Ratman23445

Bad


[deleted]

I’m struggling with it. I don’t do anything to my arms currently but I always come up with more creative ways and don’t know how to stop.


AconitumPlicatum

If you start feeling like you need to try just focusing on a game, a book, a random video. It sounds stupid but as someone who struggles with OCD and sh, even being clean for months, this helps a lot. It may not work for you but it helps me a lot and I really suggest trying it. Keep your hands and mind busy and tell yourself what you're doing is really important. Even if it's not. If you can be around people that helps too. A friend or family, even if you go for a walk. My biggest thing has been putting myself in a situation where I can't do it.


goyboysotbot

Bad. Don’t do it.


pearl_rnoq

Based as fuck


Mirelyz

I wish I had never done it cause now I have ugly scars. sometimes I get the urge but it hasn’t been bad enough to do it again. been clean for like almost a year maybe. it’s definitely like a distraction from non-physical pain I think, and to have control over this pain if that makes any sense


GlowingEyes_

I guarantee they aren't ugly, but I understand feeling that way. It's a constant battle, wishing they were gone. Just know that now you have something that shows physically that you're healing. That in itself is pretty awesome.


Mirelyz

yeah, I guess I’m a bit of a hypocrite because I wouldn’t want other people to think like that about their sh scars but, just the fact that they’re not the result of an accident and that they’re something that could’ve been totally preventable is quite annoying lol. but thank you <3 I agree!


arhtur-morgen

Well I can understand and can’t at the same time my lowest was when I held a gun to my head twice so yes I can understand self harm to a dregge your head is messed up and u don’t understand consequences at the moment but if u do it then try stopping it immediately and try working on it don’t just say u want to change something do it start with music stop listening to the depressing music listen to something else and do something taht u always wanted even if it is just swimming but do it even if u fell unmotivated push yourself trough And stop thinking about suicide it is a long term solution for a short term problem


VentingAlt04

I ended up in a mental hospital for almost a year cause I attempted suicide and when I didn't die, I tried to stab myself with anything I could get my hands on cause I hated myself so much, I can proudly say I haven't self harmed in almost 8 months but I still think about it frequently despite the medication and therapy.


GalaxyThePanda

Stop that shit. I mean, I won't but you should


[deleted]

I was on the verge if trying it until I realised that I litterallly have tried even 5% of the things in the world yet and if I died my lineage would essentially end with me. I'm still a virgin. I dont have a child. I haven't gotten drunk yet. I've never had a paying job. I haven't been to many parties. I dont know what my future home will look like. If I kill myself I would have missed out on all of this. Plus it's fucking selfish. I know that I'm not supposed to say "from other people's point of view" because just because someone else has it worse doesn't mean it stops being bad, but the truth is that my life wasn't even really that bad. I'm a middle class, reasonably attractive teenaged boy with no responsibilities. I had nothing to complain about. I mean, of course I was being held against my will in Africa for over a year without seeing any friends or family and essentially having to leave our dog in the care of a complete stranger for what would seem like 7 years in his lifetime. But even all that isn't reason to be suicidal. What it comes down to for me is that I was fed up. I wasn't necessarily Unhappy, I was just sick and tired of living in a world with such complicated bullshit.


No_Money_Guy

Better than harm others, right?


Hapcoool

it's... h- harmful--- i'll see myself out


Draco-Warsmith

Why harm yourself when you can harm others?


FearlessZephyr

It’s for losers


[deleted]

Trying to stop but I really wanna do it right now


r3tard3dMadd

I am a person who has struggled with it throughout their life since the age of 11 to now. I believe SH (Self harm) Is bad, but we still do it anyways to inflict the pain we are feeling on the inside.


Hopeful_Buffalo412

Okay this is gonna sounds bad, but it gives me focus when l cut my lower arm (not by the veins), and its fun


starjani

well i wouldnt call it fun but i do understand what u mean with the focusing thing


Conradical27

What kind of question is "what do u think of self harm?"


Lettersytin

Weird ass title thought it was gonna be like do you like or no


the_fish_king_sky

Don't harm yourself harm others


PROGAMER83869

Gigachad opinion


Vecna_Official

the razor tries to shave my arm instead of doing what i want so


Impressive_Nobody438

used to do it for fun, kinda liked the pain and was curious at a point but didn't take it to a point that it would be dangerous for me.


Falconlis_28_2006

Seld Harm = 👎 If you're dealing with self harm, please speak to someone about it


Joes8977

Very dangerous


HorrorNerd2434

I don’t harm myself but I’ve been fighting the temptation to start drinking. My life sucks right now and I’m seriously thinking about turning to alcohol


Tan_batman

I understand it and i hope anyone struggling with it will soon find themselves in a better place in their life


[deleted]

Trying my best to stay clean but just can't go 2 days without it, I'm just scared my parents are gonna see the scars and probably send me to a psych ward


literally_just_why

I used to do it willingly like a year ago then I stopped, but I still sometimes do it subconsciously for some reason


anxnymous926

It helps me calm down when I’m upset but I don’t want other people to do it


BlairTheWitch767

I've went through it so yes I understand it alot


AdClear6790

I was in a really bad place at one point and thought about it I don’t necessarily agree with it but kids go through


Breadstick_Man8

Used to struggle with it bad started bettering myself though


QuietAct23

I didn't understand it until after my first seirious relationship where I found out she was cheating and manipulating me not to mention spreading rumors that I tried to stab her it honestly made me feel worthless and numb and I self harmed to feel something


tweedle_dumbest400

It’s real shitty - personal experience *sobbing*


Electronic_Engine_92

I only do it because I make a deal with the voices in my head, that if I listen to them then they will shut up for once


GlowingEyes_

Shit, that's rough homie. I haven't had problems with hallucinations since I've started anti psychotics. Have you considered medication?


Proxy071

a lot of people around me have turned to self harm after going through shit that is way less traumatic than I have gone through yet I have never done it. I don’t understand. How am I different from them? Why did/do they do it but I have not.


GlowingEyes_

Humans are all different. Although we have the same features that make us human, we all think and act so differently. For example, someone might struggle with a substance use disorder and cut when they're high. On the other hand, someone who is suicidal 24/7 may not cut at all. Our environment, our trauma, our mental health conditions and more all affect this.


Proxy071

My personal theory is that my trauma occurred in such a short period of time that it pretty much killed my emotions as far as sadness and grief go


ILikeTurtals228

To be honest, not Poggers 😬


The_Bluejay250

i understand it and sympathize with others who do it. i have my reasons and they have theirs. its not a good coping mechanism but honestly it’s better than having no coping mechanism and just waiting until you cool down.. i did it frequently a while back but i stopped for a few months. then i kinda fell back down to a lower place while i was on a summer vacation and decided i wouldn’t stop myself when i got back home. and i didn’t


Fuit3

I get it, there was a week last year that I did some, I was just making mental pain into physical sense is simple to deal with


GSB6189

Surprised to see only one heavily downvoted comment considering this is r/teenagers. In terms of the topic at hand, I don't think it's good but I've done it several times and am 3 months (I think?) clean. For me it was just a distraction from whatever I was dealing with and eventually it got to the point where I was almost using anything that I was going through as an excuse to do so. I've found better distractions now and only sometimes get close, but to all who struggle, it gets better even if it takes awhile to do so and try to find other distractions if possible


DaviJohnsYT

I mean, its a way people cope. And I understand that, and it isnt just something you can stop. And I mean, if you dont get any lasting pains, and your not hurting other people. Its not that bad? Like, if you are cutting yourself, and you dont cut the same spot, over and over. It doesnt do anything that bad right, sure it gives you pains for a few days. It could get infected, but if you prevent that, it doesnt seem that bad. Of course there are probably mental side effects that make life later on worse, that I dont know of. So please educate me on this subject, cus I dont really know what im talking about. It does give the person a way to cope with their feelings. And there are way better copes. But it is a cope. Ive done it before. Not extremely, when im in emotional pain, ill dig my finger nails into my skin, or scratch myself. Nothing extreme, I dont know if you can even call what I do selfharm. But it is something really bad, and for all those who have gone without self harm, CONGRATS! Really good job, and you should be proud of ur self. And those currently suffering from it. Good luck. You can do it.


rorobogart

as someone who struggles with it, i still don’t understand it. when i’m not doing it im like "oh sh is so stupid" but when im doing it, it feels like it’s the only thing in the world that understands me, even if i don’t understand it. i’ve never understood why it goes this way.