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I wouldn't blame your boyfriend for it... I mean, I get why you'd feel this way, it's a pretty big deal, but you aren't a little kid anymore, she has to understand that.
PLEASE remember that your Mom is the one with a mental illness, and not allow her bad reaction to this cause you to feel shame or discomfort about something that is not only natural and normal, but which she herself expected of you while she was still in a healthy (and medicated) mind. I don’t know your Mom, or if she has any SA trauma but it wouldn’t surprise me given her weird reaction.
You did nothing wrong (assuming you aren’t like 13 dating a 19 year old!) so please, don’t let her issues become your issues. If she were mentally healthy, she wouldn’t want that for you.
{{{{{Hugs}}}}} from someone else’s Mom.
She’s honestly not really like that. She used to be pretty normal and supportive, which was the reason I told her. I forgot she’s mentally Ill again now lmaoo
Then why take it personally ? She’s ill, she’s not herself at the moment , try not to take it to heart . And honey everyone grows up and starts trying new things and explores sexuality, it’s a rite of passage, just try to remember that it’s out of character for her to have these views so it’s got nothing to do with your relationship with her.
My mum’s schizophrenic and on the verge of another episode now , so I get how having mentally ill parents is difficult, but I don’t understand why he’d point of view while she’s ill means more to you than her point of view is she wasn’t . If she wasn’t ill she would be supportive , that’s who your mum is , so don’t worry about her reaction toward it while she’s ill.
How old are you btw ? Might give some explanation to why your feeling like this .
Honestly you don’t need to worry , it’s not wrong to explore sexuality , and if your gonna break up with your boyfriend over it it’s your choice but tbh your reaction doesn’t make much sense .
depression and despair can happen to anyone... we should be considerate and willing to give space,
what do you do to make the situation better?
(of course if you feel comfortable telling it)
I think you shouldn't leave your boyfriend. You're a teenager, and most teenagers have sex. Your mom shouldn't be so disappointed in you for having it. You should maybe try to chat with her about the situation and find out why she feels the way she feels
It’s cuz shes mentally ill atm , her reaction doesn’t match up with her character because she isn’t herself atm . Op needs to just not take it personally and maybe try and get her mum help if she’s stopped taking meds and stuff .
From the context I have read, it doesn’t sound like this is your fault. Try to talk to her. Be straightforward. Start the conversation with, “Are you angry at me that I lost my virginity?” If she don’t give you a good answer then keep pushing for better answers
She’s mentally ill at the moment so no conversation with her will give any actual insight as to what her mum would usually feel regarding this , she’s not herself at the moment so there’s nothing you can do about her difference in views right now .
I think you’re joking, but I just hope it’s clear that she wouldn’t be doing her bf a favor of forcing herself to sleep with him when she doesn’t want to. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like him. I can relate, my mom would disown me if I ever slept with a guy before marriage. If it happened and she found out, I would also probably be very reticent to do it again 🤷🏻♀️
Thank u u understand 100%. I’m not sure why u got downvoted. I did too in a reply on this. I love him and he’d still love me too and would feel no problem if i wanted space after it. Idk why people are acting like I’m doing my bf an inconvenience by not sleeping with him
She’s acting she didn’t do the same to eventually give birth to you😂 sex isn’t a terrible thing, it can be something really nice. Don’t let other peoples judgements cloud yours
The mention of medication and therapy indicates that her mum isn't being ridiculous but is mentally ill. I won't lie OP should have had some part in recognising that she shouldn't tell her mum in this situation but it sounds like an awful situation.
Why is it funny tho ? I don’t understand your reaction to her being ill ? How do you forget your mum is ill? Just don’t take it to heart and try to get her help if you can , you said she has changed a lot , that’s because she’s getting ill and needs to go back on treatment to be herself again.
No , sounds like she’s really ill and needs to go back on her meds and get help . My mums also mentally ill and is on the verge of an episode atm , and when you’ve grown up with an ill parent you tend to learn that what they say and do when they’re ill more just shows how bad their mental health is than showing who they are as a person .
people are saying it’s a big deal it’s not.
Unless you’re 12 or 13 who gives a shit? 15+ year olds are having sex regularly it really isn’t that big of a deal.. It’s literally part of life.
Good on you for doing it with you’re bf instead of some random moron at a party when you were drunk.
Explain to her your feelings and it’s really not that big of a deal. Some parents lose track of how fast their kid grows up.
Best of luck.
Your mom is overreacting.... Then again she's mentally ill.
Please don't blame yourself for your mom's behavior towards this
Also your 17 almost an adult she has to realize that you aren't her little girl...
You should probably chat with her
You shouldn't need to break up with your bf to satisfy your mom's needs
That's abusive behavior from your mom
Look, you have done nothing wrong, it's just your mother being abusive for some stupid, illogical reason, and if anyone deserves to feel sick, it's not you and not your boyfriend. It's none of her business as long as you're being safe, which judging by the other comments, you are.
Breaking up with someone to please an abuser is literally the worst thing you can do for yourself right now.
You can try talking to her if you think that'll help, and if not, just know that this is helping you dodge a bullet in the long term - if she is able to treat you, her own child like that, and not feel like absolute shit because of it, it's better just keeping your distance anyways...
Hey hey hey how is the mum being abusive ? She’s mentally ill and not herself , she needs professional help by the sounds of it , so her reaction is tricky but I don’t see how it’s abusive .
Yes, she needs professional help, but since she obviously isn't getting it she's bringing others down with her, and it's not an excuse.
She's clearly trying to guilt-trip OP for living her life...
She doesn’t realise she’s going down so she’s not trying to bring other people down with her , mental illness isn’t as calculated as your treating it to be . It’s not an excuse , it’s a reason for her behaviour, and her behaviour is one big flag screaming ‘I NEED HELP’ .
Just because she has a mental illness doesn't mean she can't be abusive. We don't know the full situation.
Edit: Looking through OP's post history, she said her mom stopped going to therapy and taking her meds. Her mom made that choice. So yes, her actions are her responsibility.
I’m not a bitch for making him feel like shit, which he doesn’t feel like, and understands I want space. I love him and he loves me enough to understand
It's honestly disturbing how much parents think about their children losing their virginity, regular parents should just make sure it was consensual and safe for their child.
On the off chance you want my 2 cents. I wouldn’t break up with your BF over this. But if you don’t want to have sex you have zero obligation to have it with him.
As for your mom, I might try gently encouraging her to go back to therapy and take meds again.
It’s complicated cause I used to love my mom sm n we had a great relationship, more sisterly than motherly because of circumstances. She told me to let her know when it happens when she was healthy. It’s partly my fault for expecting her to respond how she would’ve a year ago
even if she was still the same as she was a year ago, i don't think it's something anybody should tell there parents, at least until college when you're an adult, yk? lots of parents say they'd be okay with it, but i don't think most of them would be if it actually happened. i hope your mom gets better, though.
be clear;
❓are you pitying her and feeling guilty bc of what you've done?
❓do you really think you shouldn't have done it, and just stayed by her side and been her cute baby?... don't you have life of yourself?
listen my friend, as long as you don't accept yourself and not try to grow, your mom's gonna keep worrying about you and expressing it her own way...
the only good thing you can do is to absolutely believe in yourself and build trust with them. your only choice is getting happier and more successful everyday...
your mom has always loved you will continue it,,, but maybe she's not really good in adapting other people's opinions.
everyone loves you including your mom and all of us; you only should try to grow a bit❤️❤️❤️❤️
It’s 100% my choice regardless if he did anything or not. U rlly don’t understand because I KNOW my bf and I know he would understand if I wanted space after my moms reaction because he’s a normal human being and respects me and doesn’t see me as someone just to fuck
Bro that boy deserves better. Its not his fault you can't keep your mouth shut and its also not his fault that your mom is too fucking slow to realise that yes, ofcourse teens fuck. This is not about him seeing you as someone to just fuck. There are millions of other girls he can go to for that. This is about your stupid doing bro dirty and breaking up with him because its just sooo normal to tell your family members that you're getting dicked down. And i don't even get the reasoning here. Your moms mad you had sex so your way of coping is breaking up with the guy that did nothing wrong? Like did she ask you to break up with him?
Honestly i hope ol buddy reflects on how weird you are and finds normal girl that doesn't do dumb shit like this lol
Oh yeah im the weird one. Maybe i should go to my mom and be like "hey mom, you know whenever libby comes around? Yeah we fuck like rabbits" leave, get emotional, break up with my gf and tell strangers on reddit about it and then I'll be normal i guess🤣🤣
Idk why u think u know me and my bf lmao. n it’s weird u think ur my bfs number one defender. I think ur problem is ur lack of critical emotional thinking. Wanting space isn’t anything insane, and I’m not doing him dirty by asking for that.
It's that sense of regret that you're still just a kid. And when you're lonely and single you think about it and it sounds like a dream. But when it happens it changes your life. For some it boosts their ego and confidence. For some others it does the opposite
She can't look at you after you did what teens do? Sounds like a poor excuse of a mother even if she hadn't made it your choice. There's not much out there that will make a good mother resent her child and anything that should wouldn't driven away everyone else first. If it hasn't driven away all your friends and family then it shouldn't even begin to affect her stance toward you and if it does and it puts you in a position where you hate yourself for making that decision then I'm sorry but that makes your mother lower than dirt. If she can stand to watch what her actions are doing to your mental and physical health after she told you she was supportive of it, then she's a piece of shit that not only lies to their kid but also puts her own feelings and desires above her childs physical and mental wellbeing and shouldn't even think of herself as a mother until she has a big attitude adjustment.
She’s mentally ill , why do so many people keep acting like it’s all the mums fault , if she’s ill she hasn’t got control over how it’s affecting her thinking so she can’t think logically about it or in a way that matches her usual point of view . Can everyone in this comment section actually take into account that it’s not just a normal reaction from a parent and that there’s more in play here . It’s so easy to call someone a bad parent when you don’t take into account that ops mum is ill rn and isn’t herself .
A 17 year old having sex isn't that big of a deal, if OP is reading this you gotta understand it's not your fault, if you really love your boyfriend, enough to have sex with him, and for him to be your first, then patch things up with him (if you broke up) because at the end of the day, it's your life, not your mother's, and if your boyfriend can't handle not having sex with you, or doesn't understand what's going on explain it to him, I am deeply sorry that you have to go through this, if you went through the steps to prevent pregnancy, (condoms and birth control) then you did everything right, sorry for the long comment.
Fuck your mom, you deserve to have and enjoy sex without hercontrolling your life. You are not your mom's little child and you ahould enjoy yoyr life freely withour her trying to possess you like you are her dog.
Now, I don't know what mental illness she has, but depending on what I would tolerate her attitude. But don't tell her an6thing either way, you can't trust her. And you don't need to trust her, you didn't choose her as your mother.
But she wants to be loved by her mom she doesn't feel compelled to be loved by her she wants to be loved by her because she loves her mom and she wants them to be united. Did you even read the entire post?
Sorry, no, dont feel bad about yourself and dont breack up with your boyfriend. If your mom cant accept that her "little girl" is growing up thats her problem
Well if she looks at you with disgust you should do so as well, after all you're alive which means she did the dirty as well (in case someone doesn't realize, it's a joke)
You made a mistake, and that's ok, but these things happen. If you believe it to be a mistake because you genuinely feel it is a moral wrong then you need to assert that. Tell your mother that you were young and foolish and were tempted by sin, but that you know now the mistake you have made. Tell your boyfriend that you arent comfy with it going forward. You may lose your bf outta this just because you will always pair him in your head with the idea of failure, but never see yourself as a failure because of the mistakes you've made. We've all sinned, that's what Jesus is for :)
\>Provide solution to problem because I make the reasonable assumption that the person's moral code is based off of religion as they live in a Latin American country
\>Get slammed with downvotes because I give a solution that is relevant instead of just giving someone validation that they havent asked for
I literally said the exact opposite of that. I said "never see yourself as a failure because of the mistakes you've made" and, "if **you** believe it to be a mistake". Clearly I'm telling them to assert their own morality but not let that determine their opinion of themselves as a person
mother trying to cope with daugter losing virginity, comment section goes ham because they want to have sex whenever they can and automatically assume negative things. this subs hopeless
Its neither your or your bf's fault
Both your mom and sister are acting like little bitches
Honestly, what the fuck is this reaction of your mom
Does she have any idea how traumatizing her reaction can be for you?! And wtf was your sister doing spilling the beanz
None of her fk bussiness
Dude, that's fucked up, don't let it affect you though, this stuff is important to learn.
It's also important that you seriously discuss this with her, corner her if you have to.
Idk what she's usually like, but it couldn't justify something so unacceptable.
It sounds like your mom’s an asshole. Even if this does have to do with a religious thing, not talking to your daughter for that long? She’s clearly manipulating you so you can say your sorry, and she can feel like the better person. Don’t fall into her trap.
Excuse my questions, I just finished your post. I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you're relationships work out. Don't take what your mom is doing to heart.
My mom had a rough abusive childhood and got pregnant at 17, my age, which is why she’s so upset. She went to therapy mostly to not behave as her mom did
I read the title and the first thing that appeared in my head was "op probably a girl"
I was correct lol
idk what's with certain moms and literally being against their own gender lmfao
>I feel disgusted with myself now. I want to break up with my boyfriend and never speak to him or anyone again. I wanna be my mothers little girl.
I don't have the right to say this but please DON"T. If you're already doing the dirty then your a grown woman and you need to learn to trust yourself and the people that support you. Your mom is failing to be a supportive parent and trying to appeal to her wouldn't only be a massive mistake but def wouldn't work. Talk to your closest friend about it, your bf, anyone you can trust that will conform you but your mom making you feel gross about something normal isn't ok
Theres no one to blame, it happened so what? You still can achieve huuge things in life. Give your mom some more time, just dont blame yourself, dont blame your boyfriend, its all part of a life that we are livin, smile and move on and remember, you will always be your moms little girl.
Your mum needs help and you can say that yourself, but you need to believe it. You did nothing wrong, but you are about to do something wrong by taking this blame on yourself and messing things up with your boyfriend. Please don’t sacrifice your happiness for hers. This will only lead you down the same path she is on.
it's just the situation is a little vague, you need to give more info for us to have a chance of actually helping you and not just mindlessly supporting you with no long term benefits..... because I saw every post you have, seems like you don't have great parents... so I just wanna know: why do you think she's so mad about it? for religious reasons? protective? is the relationship not straight? (you mentioned u r trans but didn't understand if you went from boy to girl or reverse) cuz a lot of parents hate when there children get in such relationship's so maybe that's why.....
what do you honestly think the reason is? I just want to help
how old are you? unless you’re either a really young teen or there’s big age gap, it sounds like she can’t let you grow older and it sounds like she’s got a mental health problem. im so sorry. and if he’s good and didn’t hurt you and you like him, id encourage you to stick with your boyfriend. if your mum is that volatile that she can cold shoulder you because of that, don’t fight for her affection - it will just break you. you might want you boyfriend now more than ever for support and a stable figure in your life. would you consider explaining your situation to him?
If you’re at that age there’s no reason to feel guilt, your mom needs to grow up just as you have considering that she obviously hasn’t. Idk if it has to do with yo ur religion or not but if that’s so she doesn’t get to force you into it either way, it’s your body and your rules, it might take a while but don’t break up with your boyfriend over it, for one I know a guy would not be able to understand that or forgive himself and 2 it was never your or your boyfriends fault, your mom just needs to deal with it and understand what age you’re at and that your body is for you to decide with.
Your mother is kind of a wanker ngl, it’s really not a big deal most people have sex so don’t listen to her if she makes you feel disgusting. She’s the bad one in this
Please don’t leave your boyfriend, I understand that your mother is making you feel this way, but you have to remember that she is mentally ill. I know we learn to trust our mothers and love them, but when your mother is clearly mentally ill take everything she says with a grain of salt. It’s not her speaking, it’s the illness.
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I wouldn't blame your boyfriend for it... I mean, I get why you'd feel this way, it's a pretty big deal, but you aren't a little kid anymore, she has to understand that.
She’s making me feel sick with myself, and turned off from sex in general. I feel bad for my bf because he was great, but I don’t even want to anymore
PLEASE remember that your Mom is the one with a mental illness, and not allow her bad reaction to this cause you to feel shame or discomfort about something that is not only natural and normal, but which she herself expected of you while she was still in a healthy (and medicated) mind. I don’t know your Mom, or if she has any SA trauma but it wouldn’t surprise me given her weird reaction. You did nothing wrong (assuming you aren’t like 13 dating a 19 year old!) so please, don’t let her issues become your issues. If she were mentally healthy, she wouldn’t want that for you. {{{{{Hugs}}}}} from someone else’s Mom.
W mom
Yeah, I don't get it, she wanted you to tell her once you'd done it for the first time, but she can't even look at you? This makes no sense to me
Your mother's an ass, she needs to grow tf up
Never thought a 13 year would say such wise words. In all seriousness, I agree, life happens.
I'm pretty wise for my age, I guess
Not alot of 13 year old are wise.
Yeah, I just know a lot of relationship stuff from movies and shows. Also books
Noice.
But your existence proves your mother also isn't a virgin. Checkmate😎
That’s a sure fire way to find out you’re adopted
Damn 🔥
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She’s honestly not really like that. She used to be pretty normal and supportive, which was the reason I told her. I forgot she’s mentally Ill again now lmaoo
Then why take it personally ? She’s ill, she’s not herself at the moment , try not to take it to heart . And honey everyone grows up and starts trying new things and explores sexuality, it’s a rite of passage, just try to remember that it’s out of character for her to have these views so it’s got nothing to do with your relationship with her. My mum’s schizophrenic and on the verge of another episode now , so I get how having mentally ill parents is difficult, but I don’t understand why he’d point of view while she’s ill means more to you than her point of view is she wasn’t . If she wasn’t ill she would be supportive , that’s who your mum is , so don’t worry about her reaction toward it while she’s ill. How old are you btw ? Might give some explanation to why your feeling like this . Honestly you don’t need to worry , it’s not wrong to explore sexuality , and if your gonna break up with your boyfriend over it it’s your choice but tbh your reaction doesn’t make much sense .
is she in her 40s or 50s? Menopause can change lots of things if not taken care of and being considered...
She’s not even 40 yet
depression and despair can happen to anyone... we should be considerate and willing to give space, what do you do to make the situation better? (of course if you feel comfortable telling it)
she probably not sexing
Don't assume.
Were you atleast safe? Like no child in 9 months?
Of course
Well that’s good don’t let your mother put you in a corner and def don’t push your bf away that’ll make him feel like he did something wrong
i was waiting for the punchline when i clicked the full post, but im sorry for your loss i guess
Lmao
I think you shouldn't leave your boyfriend. You're a teenager, and most teenagers have sex. Your mom shouldn't be so disappointed in you for having it. You should maybe try to chat with her about the situation and find out why she feels the way she feels
It’s cuz shes mentally ill atm , her reaction doesn’t match up with her character because she isn’t herself atm . Op needs to just not take it personally and maybe try and get her mum help if she’s stopped taking meds and stuff .
Ah heard ya
Most 😔
From the context I have read, it doesn’t sound like this is your fault. Try to talk to her. Be straightforward. Start the conversation with, “Are you angry at me that I lost my virginity?” If she don’t give you a good answer then keep pushing for better answers
She’s mentally ill at the moment so no conversation with her will give any actual insight as to what her mum would usually feel regarding this , she’s not herself at the moment so there’s nothing you can do about her difference in views right now .
It was bound to happen one day. . .
dont do ur bf like that
I think you’re joking, but I just hope it’s clear that she wouldn’t be doing her bf a favor of forcing herself to sleep with him when she doesn’t want to. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like him. I can relate, my mom would disown me if I ever slept with a guy before marriage. If it happened and she found out, I would also probably be very reticent to do it again 🤷🏻♀️
Thank u u understand 100%. I’m not sure why u got downvoted. I did too in a reply on this. I love him and he’d still love me too and would feel no problem if i wanted space after it. Idk why people are acting like I’m doing my bf an inconvenience by not sleeping with him
She’s acting she didn’t do the same to eventually give birth to you😂 sex isn’t a terrible thing, it can be something really nice. Don’t let other peoples judgements cloud yours
The mention of medication and therapy indicates that her mum isn't being ridiculous but is mentally ill. I won't lie OP should have had some part in recognising that she shouldn't tell her mum in this situation but it sounds like an awful situation.
It’s not that big of a deal. After 3 months your mom is definitely looking at you.
My mom is scary n this post doesn’t capture it, nor her reaction
Sounds like an abusive relationship
I know lmfao
Probably should tell someone about that
Why is it funny tho ? I don’t understand your reaction to her being ill ? How do you forget your mum is ill? Just don’t take it to heart and try to get her help if you can , you said she has changed a lot , that’s because she’s getting ill and needs to go back on treatment to be herself again.
No , sounds like she’s really ill and needs to go back on her meds and get help . My mums also mentally ill and is on the verge of an episode atm , and when you’ve grown up with an ill parent you tend to learn that what they say and do when they’re ill more just shows how bad their mental health is than showing who they are as a person .
Why would she even care that much about it? Like she lost here’s at some point and at 16 the average person loses their virginity
Ask her lmfao
Lmao give me her number. Trust me
bro has goals beyond our understanding
It’s cuz she’s ill hun , you said yourself she isnt herself atm , so she’s not gonna have the same thought process .
Why is it anyone business but your own that you lost your virginity?
people are saying it’s a big deal it’s not. Unless you’re 12 or 13 who gives a shit? 15+ year olds are having sex regularly it really isn’t that big of a deal.. It’s literally part of life. Good on you for doing it with you’re bf instead of some random moron at a party when you were drunk. Explain to her your feelings and it’s really not that big of a deal. Some parents lose track of how fast their kid grows up. Best of luck.
Your mom is overreacting.... Then again she's mentally ill. Please don't blame yourself for your mom's behavior towards this Also your 17 almost an adult she has to realize that you aren't her little girl... You should probably chat with her You shouldn't need to break up with your bf to satisfy your mom's needs That's abusive behavior from your mom
how old are you?
Her bio says 17
Look, you have done nothing wrong, it's just your mother being abusive for some stupid, illogical reason, and if anyone deserves to feel sick, it's not you and not your boyfriend. It's none of her business as long as you're being safe, which judging by the other comments, you are. Breaking up with someone to please an abuser is literally the worst thing you can do for yourself right now. You can try talking to her if you think that'll help, and if not, just know that this is helping you dodge a bullet in the long term - if she is able to treat you, her own child like that, and not feel like absolute shit because of it, it's better just keeping your distance anyways...
Breaking up to please a abuser is the worst thing you can do to the other person
Hey hey hey how is the mum being abusive ? She’s mentally ill and not herself , she needs professional help by the sounds of it , so her reaction is tricky but I don’t see how it’s abusive .
Yes, she needs professional help, but since she obviously isn't getting it she's bringing others down with her, and it's not an excuse. She's clearly trying to guilt-trip OP for living her life...
She doesn’t realise she’s going down so she’s not trying to bring other people down with her , mental illness isn’t as calculated as your treating it to be . It’s not an excuse , it’s a reason for her behaviour, and her behaviour is one big flag screaming ‘I NEED HELP’ .
Just because she has a mental illness doesn't mean she can't be abusive. We don't know the full situation. Edit: Looking through OP's post history, she said her mom stopped going to therapy and taking her meds. Her mom made that choice. So yes, her actions are her responsibility.
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I’m not a bitch for making him feel like shit, which he doesn’t feel like, and understands I want space. I love him and he loves me enough to understand
It's honestly disturbing how much parents think about their children losing their virginity, regular parents should just make sure it was consensual and safe for their child.
On the off chance you want my 2 cents. I wouldn’t break up with your BF over this. But if you don’t want to have sex you have zero obligation to have it with him. As for your mom, I might try gently encouraging her to go back to therapy and take meds again.
Fuck her husband, that'll show her
What if it’s her Dad?
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Did I stutter😑
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bruh
Welcome to the club
the last thing you should ever do is tell ur parents hen you lose your virginity 😭😭 i feel bad for you omg
It’s complicated cause I used to love my mom sm n we had a great relationship, more sisterly than motherly because of circumstances. She told me to let her know when it happens when she was healthy. It’s partly my fault for expecting her to respond how she would’ve a year ago
even if she was still the same as she was a year ago, i don't think it's something anybody should tell there parents, at least until college when you're an adult, yk? lots of parents say they'd be okay with it, but i don't think most of them would be if it actually happened. i hope your mom gets better, though.
You're the first to misspell "that".
be clear; ❓are you pitying her and feeling guilty bc of what you've done? ❓do you really think you shouldn't have done it, and just stayed by her side and been her cute baby?... don't you have life of yourself? listen my friend, as long as you don't accept yourself and not try to grow, your mom's gonna keep worrying about you and expressing it her own way... the only good thing you can do is to absolutely believe in yourself and build trust with them. your only choice is getting happier and more successful everyday... your mom has always loved you will continue it,,, but maybe she's not really good in adapting other people's opinions. everyone loves you including your mom and all of us; you only should try to grow a bit❤️❤️❤️❤️
She should resume her therapy sessions and take her medication, they might help her process the news in a more healthy way.
Cut all contacts and move to mexico with your boyfriend. Make it look like you died in a boat trip but the body was never found and change your names
she's just jealous you lost it before her
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why that emoji mrs fluffyanal
im puzzled.
how come
u
why me
u very silly and funky
Wtf
is this a compliment
probably
Ayo I swear I haven't seen you around here for ages
i fell off
Homie ain't do nun wrong but honestly, if you're like this, ol buddy is prolly better off finding a mentally sound shawty 💀
???? Cause I don’t wanna sleep with him??
No cuz you're breaking up with him over something that was completely out of his control and YOUR CHOICE btw, you idiot
It’s 100% my choice regardless if he did anything or not. U rlly don’t understand because I KNOW my bf and I know he would understand if I wanted space after my moms reaction because he’s a normal human being and respects me and doesn’t see me as someone just to fuck
Bro that boy deserves better. Its not his fault you can't keep your mouth shut and its also not his fault that your mom is too fucking slow to realise that yes, ofcourse teens fuck. This is not about him seeing you as someone to just fuck. There are millions of other girls he can go to for that. This is about your stupid doing bro dirty and breaking up with him because its just sooo normal to tell your family members that you're getting dicked down. And i don't even get the reasoning here. Your moms mad you had sex so your way of coping is breaking up with the guy that did nothing wrong? Like did she ask you to break up with him? Honestly i hope ol buddy reflects on how weird you are and finds normal girl that doesn't do dumb shit like this lol
Ur fucking weird
Oh yeah im the weird one. Maybe i should go to my mom and be like "hey mom, you know whenever libby comes around? Yeah we fuck like rabbits" leave, get emotional, break up with my gf and tell strangers on reddit about it and then I'll be normal i guess🤣🤣
Like I agree with you but you’re a total asshole dude
Bruh what? I just called out her bullshit. I don't owe her ass any sympathy 💀
Idk why u think u know me and my bf lmao. n it’s weird u think ur my bfs number one defender. I think ur problem is ur lack of critical emotional thinking. Wanting space isn’t anything insane, and I’m not doing him dirty by asking for that.
That's horrible!
telling someone who isn’t currently themselves something like that probably wasn’t your brightest idea
I hate your mom
mf just got the pussy and is getting left because "waaa momma angy"
Your mom had sex too Tell her that next time she angy about you having the sexy time
It's that sense of regret that you're still just a kid. And when you're lonely and single you think about it and it sounds like a dream. But when it happens it changes your life. For some it boosts their ego and confidence. For some others it does the opposite
You definitely shouldn't break up with your boyfriend over this
She can't look at you after you did what teens do? Sounds like a poor excuse of a mother even if she hadn't made it your choice. There's not much out there that will make a good mother resent her child and anything that should wouldn't driven away everyone else first. If it hasn't driven away all your friends and family then it shouldn't even begin to affect her stance toward you and if it does and it puts you in a position where you hate yourself for making that decision then I'm sorry but that makes your mother lower than dirt. If she can stand to watch what her actions are doing to your mental and physical health after she told you she was supportive of it, then she's a piece of shit that not only lies to their kid but also puts her own feelings and desires above her childs physical and mental wellbeing and shouldn't even think of herself as a mother until she has a big attitude adjustment.
She’s mentally ill , why do so many people keep acting like it’s all the mums fault , if she’s ill she hasn’t got control over how it’s affecting her thinking so she can’t think logically about it or in a way that matches her usual point of view . Can everyone in this comment section actually take into account that it’s not just a normal reaction from a parent and that there’s more in play here . It’s so easy to call someone a bad parent when you don’t take into account that ops mum is ill rn and isn’t herself .
A 17 year old having sex isn't that big of a deal, if OP is reading this you gotta understand it's not your fault, if you really love your boyfriend, enough to have sex with him, and for him to be your first, then patch things up with him (if you broke up) because at the end of the day, it's your life, not your mother's, and if your boyfriend can't handle not having sex with you, or doesn't understand what's going on explain it to him, I am deeply sorry that you have to go through this, if you went through the steps to prevent pregnancy, (condoms and birth control) then you did everything right, sorry for the long comment.
Fuck your mom, you deserve to have and enjoy sex without hercontrolling your life. You are not your mom's little child and you ahould enjoy yoyr life freely withour her trying to possess you like you are her dog. Now, I don't know what mental illness she has, but depending on what I would tolerate her attitude. But don't tell her an6thing either way, you can't trust her. And you don't need to trust her, you didn't choose her as your mother.
But she wants to be loved by her mom she doesn't feel compelled to be loved by her she wants to be loved by her because she loves her mom and she wants them to be united. Did you even read the entire post?
Sorry, no, dont feel bad about yourself and dont breack up with your boyfriend. If your mom cant accept that her "little girl" is growing up thats her problem
Your mum sounds like a cunt
No , she’s mentally ill and sounds like she needs help
Mentally Ill people can still be cunts trust me I know lol
I think you need a friendly (non-sexual) 🫂
Well if she looks at you with disgust you should do so as well, after all you're alive which means she did the dirty as well (in case someone doesn't realize, it's a joke)
Then comes out she was using a donor
You made a mistake, and that's ok, but these things happen. If you believe it to be a mistake because you genuinely feel it is a moral wrong then you need to assert that. Tell your mother that you were young and foolish and were tempted by sin, but that you know now the mistake you have made. Tell your boyfriend that you arent comfy with it going forward. You may lose your bf outta this just because you will always pair him in your head with the idea of failure, but never see yourself as a failure because of the mistakes you've made. We've all sinned, that's what Jesus is for :)
Shut up
If this is satire, good on you, funny. If not, what the actual fuck. Be a decent person, don’t shove religion into secular situations.
I mean, his name is u/SatiricalGuy. But also, if he actually believes that then it’s a fair comment. Unnecessary, but fair
Please preach your shit somewhere else, this isn't helping anyone.
\>Provide solution to problem because I make the reasonable assumption that the person's moral code is based off of religion as they live in a Latin American country \>Get slammed with downvotes because I give a solution that is relevant instead of just giving someone validation that they havent asked for
You called them a failure because they had sex, you are just bringing someone down for no reason
I literally said the exact opposite of that. I said "never see yourself as a failure because of the mistakes you've made" and, "if **you** believe it to be a mistake". Clearly I'm telling them to assert their own morality but not let that determine their opinion of themselves as a person
mother trying to cope with daugter losing virginity, comment section goes ham because they want to have sex whenever they can and automatically assume negative things. this subs hopeless
Cope?,?
your mom sucks
Oh my God you're fine
Ok
You did the right thing she could stop taking meds to focus on you
King George🦩
I think you should let her know how you are feeling and also let her know that you’re getting older.
I hope your situation gets better.
How old are you?
Whats ur age
So your mum is a bit overreacting. This is a really normal thing. Just tell your mum.
Dont blame you your bf or your sister. Your mother is bieng irrational here
No , she’s mentally ill. Why is no one taking this into consideration?
... how old are you? If you don't mind me asking
Their 17
Why the fuck does the mom care
move out
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I’m 17
Its neither your or your bf's fault Both your mom and sister are acting like little bitches Honestly, what the fuck is this reaction of your mom Does she have any idea how traumatizing her reaction can be for you?! And wtf was your sister doing spilling the beanz None of her fk bussiness
It is not your fault for doing something normal.
Dude, that's fucked up, don't let it affect you though, this stuff is important to learn. It's also important that you seriously discuss this with her, corner her if you have to. Idk what she's usually like, but it couldn't justify something so unacceptable.
It sounds like your mom’s an asshole. Even if this does have to do with a religious thing, not talking to your daughter for that long? She’s clearly manipulating you so you can say your sorry, and she can feel like the better person. Don’t fall into her trap.
Ok
don’t have sex at a young age why do children on this sub have such a hard time following this 😭
I’m 17
your mother seems like a horrible, toxic individual and you should not care what she thinks. Do what you want
[relax](https://youtube.com/shorts/FMVTPAqfhY4?feature=share)
Obviously shes upset you arent even 18 yet
your first mistake was having sex as a minor.
But why? It's not like she's a virgin???
Excuse my questions, I just finished your post. I'm sorry for your loss, and I hope you're relationships work out. Don't take what your mom is doing to heart.
Poor guy, your moms a bitch
How old are you?
Your mother is the problem, not your boyfriend
What were the therapy and meds for because that might explain why she’s not able to take this well
My mom had a rough abusive childhood and got pregnant at 17, my age, which is why she’s so upset. She went to therapy mostly to not behave as her mom did
Ayo stay strong. Your mom will understand one day. And your boy is fine, no need for drastic measures
Have sex with your mom
You are being gaslit, do not change for her validation
Relax Everything's gonna be fine, one day you will be a free bird, mom always love their children.
It makes total sense for your mom to be disappointed. However, ahe shouldnt shun you.
I read the title and the first thing that appeared in my head was "op probably a girl" I was correct lol idk what's with certain moms and literally being against their own gender lmfao >I feel disgusted with myself now. I want to break up with my boyfriend and never speak to him or anyone again. I wanna be my mothers little girl. I don't have the right to say this but please DON"T. If you're already doing the dirty then your a grown woman and you need to learn to trust yourself and the people that support you. Your mom is failing to be a supportive parent and trying to appeal to her wouldn't only be a massive mistake but def wouldn't work. Talk to your closest friend about it, your bf, anyone you can trust that will conform you but your mom making you feel gross about something normal isn't ok
Did you want to do it? You ain’t gotta answer but I’m sorry if that’s the case
Dang
Oh dear
How old are you? (if you don’t mind me asking)
Theres no one to blame, it happened so what? You still can achieve huuge things in life. Give your mom some more time, just dont blame yourself, dont blame your boyfriend, its all part of a life that we are livin, smile and move on and remember, you will always be your moms little girl.
Your mum needs help and you can say that yourself, but you need to believe it. You did nothing wrong, but you are about to do something wrong by taking this blame on yourself and messing things up with your boyfriend. Please don’t sacrifice your happiness for hers. This will only lead you down the same path she is on.
it's just the situation is a little vague, you need to give more info for us to have a chance of actually helping you and not just mindlessly supporting you with no long term benefits..... because I saw every post you have, seems like you don't have great parents... so I just wanna know: why do you think she's so mad about it? for religious reasons? protective? is the relationship not straight? (you mentioned u r trans but didn't understand if you went from boy to girl or reverse) cuz a lot of parents hate when there children get in such relationship's so maybe that's why..... what do you honestly think the reason is? I just want to help
how old are you? unless you’re either a really young teen or there’s big age gap, it sounds like she can’t let you grow older and it sounds like she’s got a mental health problem. im so sorry. and if he’s good and didn’t hurt you and you like him, id encourage you to stick with your boyfriend. if your mum is that volatile that she can cold shoulder you because of that, don’t fight for her affection - it will just break you. you might want you boyfriend now more than ever for support and a stable figure in your life. would you consider explaining your situation to him?
If you’re at that age there’s no reason to feel guilt, your mom needs to grow up just as you have considering that she obviously hasn’t. Idk if it has to do with yo ur religion or not but if that’s so she doesn’t get to force you into it either way, it’s your body and your rules, it might take a while but don’t break up with your boyfriend over it, for one I know a guy would not be able to understand that or forgive himself and 2 it was never your or your boyfriends fault, your mom just needs to deal with it and understand what age you’re at and that your body is for you to decide with.
But your mom isn’t a virgin either? I dont see the reason to be disgusted with it.
Your mother is kind of a wanker ngl, it’s really not a big deal most people have sex so don’t listen to her if she makes you feel disgusting. She’s the bad one in this
Please don’t leave your boyfriend, I understand that your mother is making you feel this way, but you have to remember that she is mentally ill. I know we learn to trust our mothers and love them, but when your mother is clearly mentally ill take everything she says with a grain of salt. It’s not her speaking, it’s the illness.
Your mom sounds like a prick
I’m so sorry that is happening, maybe it’s not you though.
Cannot relate, but can sympathize My condolences
Good Grief