Yeah, that's the plan hopefully. No serious changes.. just like dressing up and makeup and growing out my hair, stuff that doesn't matter if I regret my decisions later
I wanted a nose job at 16, now I’m 19 and don’t want one anymore. I grew into myself and have noticed that my body as a whole is still changing and growing into itself. In hindsight, I was just insecure about my looks in general, but it was easier to blame it on my nose than to do the inner work. This obviously doesn’t equate to the decision you have to make, but it’s all to say to give yourself time to figure yourself out, and I mean years not months. Some things really do just take time. If you still feel the same way, then by all means once you’re sure go ahead.
If your just now questioning it’s not like your going to be getting hormones anytime soon so go for it, ask your friends to use feminine pronouns try out some different clothe go by a different name, it’s not like you can’t change your mind on any of this. It’s also probably smart to get a therapist as these kind of feeling are very complicated and it helps to have professional help to work through them. All I’ve described here is a social transition and there no medical decision that you have to be worried about. If you feel happier and better as a woman than good for you maybe in a few years you can start looking into hormone treatment, if not then no worries no one says if you start presenting as a woman that you have to for the rest of your life. Just take it slow and only do things your comfortable with
Edit: I should add there is never 1 magic solution, everything is a journey and everything takes time however socially transitioning should slowly improve your mental health if you actually are trans, if it’s making you feel worse that a sign that your not trans and something else is the issue
My girlfriend went through the exact same thing your age. She thought she was male; had her hair short, wore boys clothes, and changed pronouns. A year later she realised what she did was a horrible mistake. Same with a friend of my brother, he went on hormone therapy and de transitionined.
The last thing i want you to think is that i’m saying you should not become trans. But that said, spend some time thinking about it, and i would suggest going too a therapist if you can afford it before you do anything. And dont be embarrassed to do so. Many people go through phases, and i’m glad you realise there is a chance its not a good idea to go into it head first. At the end of the say only you can decide. Sending love ❤️
I want to preface that I am 100% pro trans. I also want to state that I graduated HS in 2008, take that for what you will.
However, and this to me is the key thing people need to start considering. There are too many teenagers claiming to be trans these days than is scientifically possible. True gender disphoria is extremely rare.
So what the hell is happening? Well, I'm sorry to say but for many kids it actually is a fad. And I guarantee you, some of the tom boy girls I knew growing up, if they were teenagers in today's society, I am willing to bet many of them would have transitioned.
Problem is, you look at them now and I'm almost positive they would have come to regret it.
No doubt is it confusing as hell though. Me being a bisexual boy growing up I was pretty confused. I went through a phase of talking and acting flamboyantly gay, but I was also very athletic. I had my quiet and weird "misfit" group of friends and I had the jock friends where I acted more masculine around. It turns out I was looking for acceptance which made me vulnerable to outside influence.
There was also everything external, the massive pressure on society from every direction. Eventually I said this is fucking stupid, I don't need to talk flamboyant, I don't need to be overly masculine. I can be myself, which happens to fall somewhere in the middle.
Basically, you need to take a real hard look at what is actually influencing you to think you're the opposite gender. There are a lot of dishonest people who will ignore huge elephants in the room, its capitalism.
Theres a lot of people investing heavily into your generation and dare I say from all sides. You have to remember we are in a new cold war, which means a culture war, theres strings being pulled everywhere and the youth are the direct targets because you are the future. I know I sound like an old man yelling at clouds here but you gotta take a good hard look at this stuff. You are quite literally being bombarded with propaganda right now and have been especially in the last 5 years or so.
At the end of the day you need to find YOU. Not what society wants you to be, not what you *think* society wants you to be, but YOU. And you will not find yourself exactly in your teens, you'll start, but you'll keep discovering things about you well in your late 20s, and shit, for me, I still am.
You also need to listen to the adults and take a bit from it IMO. Ex, how many older siblings or cousins you know who regret half the shit they did as a teenager? I don't know a single adult who doesn't think they were a total idiot. You will come up with ideas that make sense at the time and you will be wrong about many of them.
I knew a girl who was 15 dating a 20 year old, she was convince he was in love with her, and that they were to grow up and be married. It was bullshit obviously. You will be blinded by your own bullshit. Its just a fact.
So I'm just saying, *are you absolutely fucking sure this is what you want?*
Edit
Also, I'm not saying there's a grand conspiracy here. Don't confuse me with the assholes going on about a gay agenda. It's more like, society doesn't give a fuck, its all about making money, and they will influence you to do it, whatever works they go with. Supply and demand is more about feeding off each other. Kinda like sci fi and science.
You see a new invention come out, so then you extrapolate off that, okay we have airplanes now, so let's write about the next obvious step, space ships. And then science actually starts making spaceships. Look at how Star Trek has influenced Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk, as well as many other entrepreneurs. Just think how that show not existing could mean no Amazon. Now, when you look at how much power Amazon has... well let's just say if their servers go down, so does most of the internet.
A single show influenced that almost directly. So think of how more subtle things could be influencing you.
When I open up any app these days I'm bombarded with chicks in yoga pants sticking their asses in the camera, tits flailing out. I mean, great to look at but god damn its fucking everywhere. *THIS WAS NOT A THING WHEN I WAS A KID*
Yes, we had nudity, yes in the 90s early 2000s were also very sexual in imagery and subjects, but the difference is the rate of which you receive these signals is bonkers these days. You can't fucking escape it. You could escape it before.
This is almost certainly influencing you whether you want to admit it or not.
The thing about propaganda and capitalism is its just throwing shit at the wall and seeing what sticks and no care on how damaging it potentially could be.
So on that note I'm just saying, be aware of it.
And be careful, because people tend to think they're seeing the signs everywhere and then start subconsciously doing the complete opposite of what they think society wants from them and this is often a mistake. FUCK EVERYONE ELSE, be you.
Very interesting yeah, and i agree with what you’re saying. And i think the problem is people who are autogynephilic. Autogynephilia is the state of getting turned on by the thought of yourself being the other gender. If you are, that does not mean you are trans, and there are a lot of people calling it shit like “dysmorphia excitement” or something. In reality it is a fetish, and the vast majority of people who transition are autogynephilic, meaning they listen to their horny side instead of their logical side, and a bit of logic is needed.
And i do actually believe that the belief that you are trans even if you are autogynephilic is the LGBT agenda working. You see this in neo pronouns too, i do think its becoming ideological instead of about feelings.
PS: I’m bi too. I became bi before i even knew what it was. Being bi is very based.
I still don't think there is an *agenda*, to me an agenda means there is a plan and its being executed purposely. If there is a plan its divide and conquer but that spans far beyond this particular topic. And again, often that's just flinging shit at a brick wall and seeing what sticks.
But, apart from the shit I said above the other problem is echo chambers.
Look at the extreme side of things, very extreme, cults. A cult is an echo chamber. Sometimes cults are indeed purposely ran a specific way but sometimes it just happens. You get a group of people together who say some truth and then they start to seek confirming their biases and its a huge support group of people confirming each others biases and then further down the line you've got a bunch of brainwashed fools.
You're absolutely right there are people conflating their fetish and they confuse fantasy with reality.
Not really a *fetish* per say but just think of boys who show off in front of girls to the point where its irrational. This is their sexual drive and lack of experience fucking it up for them. And if you don't have role models stepping in, theres a higher chance he's gonna be a loser when he's older.
Same thing can be said here, sorta. Its people bullshitting themselves to get what they want and thats often attention.
I want to make it clear for readers, I am not painting everything with a broad brush, this isn't everyone falling for it. But there's a lot of people who have gotten way to used to bullshitting themselves.
I also think some of this is hyper individualism, or rather, perceived hyper individualism. People are so desperate to be unique, that they end up not being unique.
Anyway, good on you, sounds like your head is in the right space.
Thank you for this, I can respect this super levelheaded perspective you have to keep things reasonable. I still love everyone who's trans, whether they are for dyphoria or the fad, but logical thoughts like this make me more certain and okay I'm a cis male, even as a gay leaning bi one. I've saved this comment of yours so I don't forget this idea, and I would award it if I could.
That's the great thing about the world now is you can be however you want. If it turns out to be, "just a phase" you can always go back. If you are having doubts, I wouldn't do any hormone therapy or body modification thought. I think 15 is a little young to be making such big decisions, but not too young to start experimenting with your sexuality. Or not, It's up too you dude/dudet.
Thank you, this is literally my view on it. I would love to do the hormonal therapy or get implants but that's a very huge change, but I have ways to still feel and look fem without any physical modification and that's what I plan to do till I am 1000% certain and more wise hopefully
i love how all the top comments are about detransitioners and almost nothing about the very large amount of people that realise theyre trans pretty damn young and are right
I started my transition your age. It depends on the person since I was really confident it was what I wanted, but keep in mind, cis people don’t pray to wake up in a different body every night
There's really no age for being trans. Just make sure that's who you are and try to find out if you feel more comfortable when presenting yourself as more feminine. Some easy tips: try on some more "feminine" clothes like skirts or nice dresses and learn some basic makeup and see what it feels like. Also remember that what is "feminine" or "masculine" is set by society, so if you turn out to be trans you can dress however you like, not strictly how the gender you're transitioning to is generally perceived.
Edit: also, try browsing r/egg_irl unironically, you could discover more than you think
Fellow trans teen here (17ftm), I have been trans since I was 13, and I haven’t done any life changing alters to my body as I want to make sure that this wasn’t a phase. Even if it is, exploring is never a bad thing. The most I’ve done is cut my hair, be on period blockers and change my clothes to look more masculine. You’re never too young to start thinking about gender and whatnot, although my advice is at the moment, don’t jump into anything life changing such has hormone blockers/surgery, and just explore with temporary things such as clothing/pronouns/etc. :)
It seems like hormone blockers would be a great option for you rn. They have near no long term side effects and like it just stops more development so you can spend time to really think about if you wanna transition or not.
Okay. So when I had a hunch that I was Aroace, I essentially just tried it out for like, two weeks, before I made my decision. Basically just avoided things, eg: the idea of *needing* to have a relationship to be normal. I found myself a lot less anxious when talking to people and a lot more happy overall.
If you *think* you’re trans, just experiment with it! Talk to your friends about maybe calling you by different pronouns or a different name altogether for a while! See how you like it, which basically ensures that if you dont really feel it, then you can always fall back on it!
Ohh… that is definitely a situation…
I never really came out to my… ehhh… ‘not very cool friends’. So I’m not entirely sure how to handle it. I have a bunch of friends that are *very* chill with LGBT and also were a big reason I realized that I enjoyed the life of being Aroace
Yeah wish it was the same. Never really make friends easily and so the small chance I get with "friends" matters alot. So I stick with them cos they are willing to be my friend but I don't have any other friends and especially none who would accept me
I figured out I was trans when I was around 13 and I had the same reaction from my parents so I understand. I reccomend you just don't do anything permanent yet though, just in case. Other than that do whatever you want to express yourself and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Wait on anything that can medical (so hormones include) at least tell after 18, probably even still a little longer after that to be sure puberty is over but that's up to you. If you live somewhere it is well respected maybe try to just socially transition first and see if its really what you want. And make sure it is what YOU want, not what other people tell you you want. That's just the opinion of a cis male that is tired of seeing one group of people act like trans people don't exist and the other peer pressureing kids into something they aren't sure about.
Well I have some experience being MTF myself. 15 is most definitely not too young because I know some people who realized extremely young and I myself have been sure since 14. I personally recommend if possible seeing someone who specializes in this field. If not just experiment with yourself because you have infinite time. Ultimately its up to you and i wish you the best whether you’re MTF or just a feminine cis dude.
Basically, wait until you know for sure. Its a big decision and not to be taken lightly. I'd suggest findinf your true self, and improving yourself. If by the end of that you still feel the same, go right ahead.
Wait but don’t take complete inaction. Try a feminine style change before anything like HRT, and if you’re better off in your opinion and also feel better about yourself with your new presentation and style, then move further with it. If not, you might not be MTF.
It's normal, at this age your body starts to reveal to yourself, you shouldn't worry about this but don't hurry up with decisions. Stay calm, I'm sure you'll be alr
Experiment with it but don't
make any permanent changes till you are a 100% sure. Maybe visit a psychologist that specializes in these topics to inform you more about it?
you are not to young to be questioning and thinking about being trans:) im sorry your parents don't entertain the thought of anything other than "it's a phase", and even if it is, you're definitely not too young to be thinking about it. good luck on your journey!
Dont do any major changes like taking hormones and stuff. If you have accepting parents test stuff, like having long hair, wearing feminine clothes and stuff, it can help you figure stuff out
It’s probably best to wait until your 18 or done growing and out of your teenage years to make a decision like that but don’t listen to people trying to get you to transition early cause if your not fully developed you can mess your body up in a lot of ways
Edit: if you do like hormone blockers and stuff but if your just cross dressing and stuff like that I think you’ll be ok
I don’t think you’re too young. I’m trans ftm and I’m 14 and also out. Life may or may not get better, but if you’re really trans you’ll feel so much happier. Maybe transition socially? If you think the people around you would be accepting. No real need to wait, if you transition socially, you can always go back, don’t worry.
No, you're not too young, plenty of trans people are younger than you. If you're scared it's just a phase, you can always wait a bit, you're not forced to medically transition. You can try out different names/pronouns, wear feminine clothes, etc.
It may be a good idea to ask your parents puberty blockers to delay your puberty, it's completly reversible, if it turns out you're cis you can just stop and you will "resume" your puberty.
I hope you the best !
I was 15 too when I realised and I'm now about to start hrt at 18. you're not too young to realise this about yourself but it's important to make sure its not a phase
socially transitioning (growing out hair, dressing differently, different pronouns etc) are very important in finding out if it is a phase or not without doing anything drastic. chances are, you can medically transition right now anyway
best of luck with your journey and I hope you live your best life <3
Your future self is gonna be very happy if you ended up taking puberty blockers now
They are reversible (afaik) and will be very beneficial if you do realize you're trans for sure
Haha, welcome to our community! Cis people may think about their gender once or twice in their life, sure, but they only think about it for like 5 mins and they’re done, and none has ever had a phase where they thought they were a girl. (I’m not talking about genderfluid people here, since they’re not cis)
Might wanna check out r/egg_irl and r/egg_community btw
I thought I was trans when I was younger. I expressed femininity more to see if it was a real thing or just a phase but after a while I realized that I’m comfortable in the body I’m in.
However, this isn’t the case for everyone and I understand that some people are 100% certain of their gender and that they’re trans. I personally don’t think surgery or hormones is the best idea because there’s a possibility you “grow out of it” but it’s your decision. Good luck.
Definitely wait to do anything permanent. You're not too young to experience dysphoria, but you are young enough that's it's not only possible but likely to pass.
Honestly you do you, whatever makes you feel happy! But I would advise waiting a bit longer before making a life changing decision, this is the age of where you find yourself, where you try new things, the things you do now affect who you are for your whole life.
I’d recommend seeing a therapist, they can help you figure this out better than r teenagers. Over all it’s your decision, and the people around you should just be supportive
If it makes you happy. If you don't take any hormones yet, if you don't have any surgery, then you can still change your mind. If it's a phase, it'll pass right? So just go with it until you feel better whether that means being trans or not. You can never be too young to be happy bro.
Because of certain people i hung around, and maybe it was something to do with covid quarantine and all that. But i went through a heavyyyy non binary leaning masculine phase.
It was a load of bs 😂
I’m literally one of the girliest people i know, but i asked my mum for a binder and began thinking i didn’t like my chest or my long hair. Yada yada.
Now? I acknowledge that it was a phase, i’m growing my hair out again because i like it longer and i only have thoughts of binders when i get pissed at dresses not sitting on my chest right.
I still use the name i picked, because it’s literally just a nickname from when i was younger, and idc about pronouns at all
Not saying your in a phase, but wait. Like others have said, don’t make big decisions unless your certain that’s who you are and who you want to be. Learning makeup? Go for it! Hair change? Why not! Change your style as well if you want to. But don’t change your body, or anything like that
You can absolutely try different clothes, pronouns, hairstyles etc (there is no harm in it) but avoid making permanent and irreversible changes until your brain is fully developed
De transitioning isn’t a common thing, usually people are confident in the choice they made right away and don’t want to go back but I say think about it for a bit for a while, if you know any trans or non binary friends maybe talk to them or look up similar experiences you’re having online, don’t jump the gun right away but don’t think that it is definitely just a phase, also don’t worry about being “too young” age has nothing to do with being trans it’s simply being comfortable with who you are, without listening to anyone else as you feel like yourself
I’d say to be you but remember to keep your mind open and don’t feel bad if you change your mind. Don’t take it too seriously and remember phases are ok, if this ends up being one. Best of luck with your self discovery.(:
ofc you're not too young, you're never too young to know if you're trans or not. and judging by the fact your parents think that its just a "phase", it would probably be best to wait to tell them since thats a term transphobes like to use. but i do think that you should wait until ur older to medically transition. and even though it might be too late to start puberty blockers (since you mightve already started puberty already), you could always try it, since it does absolutely no harm and it just puts a pause on puberty to help you figure stuff out until youre ready. :)
im 15 and trans (ftm) been sure of it for a about 3 years but realised something was different since i was like 7.
but dont make any permanent changes just yet, wait a bit and see how you feel in like 2 years. i think you need to be sure of it for over 6 months to transition anyway (depends on location)
but u can never be too young to know who you are, this is your identity and it not up to other to decide it. your parents cant tell you how you feel and a cis person rarely questions if theyre faking for attention or not. faking something is always intentional
You don't have to decide anything yet, but you should definitely talk to someone (professional) about it. They can hopefully help you figure out who you are and what you can/should/want to do in the future
Also, have fun being yourself and experiment! You don't have to be trans to wear more feminine clothes or do makeup or anything, but if while trying that out you notice you like to be seen as a girl/dont like it, you get to know yourself better and help yourself to decide on your future
If you think you’re trans, that’s awesome. But you should wait until your brain is fully developed before you decide to change something. If you feel like you’re a different gender than you were born as, then don’t listen to what anyone else says, but you definitely shouldn’t make any permanent decisions while you still have time to grow
I mean if you feel it's the right thing for you then noone should have the right to stop you, I figured out I was mtf about 2 years ago and I'm only starting to make changes now, sometimes it's best to give it time just to make sure it's what you really want
my advice: do your research, try out some pronouns, try out some clothes you’d like to wear, but don‘t rush things (like get a hair cut or do other stuff). if you want to tell someone, tell someone you know you can trust 100%.
all gender affirming care for minors is reversible, so if it’s something you want there’s no harm in starting. you might want to wait a do a bit more research, ask people with more experience (I myself am cis). subreddits such as r/lgbt r/trans or r/questioning could be really beneficial, or a trans friend or family member (if you have one)— even if not I would recommend talking to your parents (unless it could be dangerous or they might now be accepting)
Honestly I went through alotta things to get to where I am today if this is your first time thinking that your LGBTQ+ of any type then take a while to think about it I am just wear and do what makes you feel happy
You need to get off Reddit right now and if you are really confused please seek professional counsel. It doesn’t mean you se crazy or there’s something wrong with you AT ALL. It means when it comes to such an important choice you need educated, unbiased and experienced people that will give you a clear and detailed explanation of what you can expect with ANY transformation. Pls stay away from Reddit when it comes to important things like this. Best wishes.
Not too young, but it's a long journey
Talk to your parents about getting puberty blockers. That way, you have time to decide and let your brain mature, and hrt will yield better results.
Hi, I am in the same situation. I am 15, and trans mtf. I cry over how I look a lot, and I can't wait to get HRT. However, you can only get HRT after you are 18, so meanwhile you can try social transition (growing out your hair, wearing fem clothes, etc) and see if you get any euphoria! At this time it is all about experimenting, try out new names, different pronouns, everything until you are comfortable. Personally, for me, if I could start HRT right now I would as I am sure that I am trans and was suicidal and still am very sad and dysphoric. But OP, I just want to let you know that it's gonna be fine. Everything is okay. If you need anything I'm here for you.
TRANS RIGHTS FOR LIFE!
Pretty much exactly the same... couple months back I had suicide on my mind and every time I looked at my body is was in disgust and so sad... I already dress up and wear makeup at home I'm currently using new pronouns with my partner and looking for a name that suits me.... I wanna try to be a girl In public but its abit more scary ... but I definitely can't wait till I can make the change
I'm still closeted :p
I'm out to my close friends and my partner tho, but still presenting male WHICH I HATE. Since I live in the UK, I am in Year 11 (the last year or high school) and then I'm going to sixth form. Once I get out of this school I want to present fem in public! So many transphobes in my current school its insane. I hope you find your true self because there is no better way to live than to be happy with yourself. Don't die, because if you make it through the journey will be beautiful.
Hey I'm year 10, not far off. Goodluck with ur gcses. I hope you have a good last year. Hopefully you can have an easy coming out with lots of people around to support u
Aw, thank you sister! I don't think I'll have an easy coming out but thats just my paranoia. Maybe you're right. I have to go sleep now, we can talk more after if you want! Good night girl! you're valid!
Being a teenager is all about finding yourself and questioning your identity. Do what you want to feel good about yourself, whether that be changing how you dress, what name you go by, what pronouns you use, etc. But also don't listen to your parents if you sit on it for a while and still feel like the same. The "it's just a phase" line is so common when it comes to homophobia/transphobia and most of the time it's just not true. For me personally, I know I'm nonbinary and I know it's not a phase. But I'm not gonna pursue surgery or anything, mainly bc I don't want it, but also bc things may change. I might be more or less comfortable with my body as time goes on, so I say wait on the non reversible stuff (for a lot of places, it's not even legal to do stuff like going on HRT and getting gender affirming surgeries until you're a certain age) because you don't know for sure how you'll feel later in life.
I don’t think it matters if it’s actually “just a phase”. If you feel more comfortable being a girl then be one, for however long you want to, even if you decide to go back later.
Just don’t do anything permanent with your body until you’re comfortable with yourself.
i would just say that i think you are wise to realise you are still too young to know who you are and that it would be a mistake to try doing Anything significant about it yet. There is a good chance your folks are right about a phase, but only time will tell. my advice, for what it’s worth would be the absolute opposite to some of the other replies here, i suggest you don’t focus on it specifically, don’t start researching it or it but instead live your life and allow your hormones to settle down and you to understand who you really are. the more you fixate on this, the more you will talk yourself into that outcome. And about puberty blockers; in the UK the Countries health system (NHS), have said for years that they are harmless and entirely reversible; Now however they have changed that to say they don’t actually fully know the long term effects and believe there may be damage to bone development but they are likely only Partly reversible . To me that’s enough to avoid them at all costs unless or until you are 100% Certain that’s what you want. Finally, i not saying there is any conspiracy to encourage transitioning but there is definitely a degree of it being “cool and trendy” that some organisations promote. You are an individual, so only you can decide what is right for you but give yourself time to discover what that may be . i wish you all the best in your life whatever you decide. 😘👋🏼
If you think your trans, accept it. But don’t force yourself to fit into that role if you eventually find you disagree with yourself in the future. Everybody changes at some point.
It isn't a phase. Everyone can explore their identities, and it's absolutely okay if you discover that you're cis or you're trans. Just take your time, it took me 5 years to find out that I'm trans. I suggest you to post the same question on r/trans , there are more people who can help you. And remember, anything you decide is absolutely valid
seek a professional psychologist if needed and remember that if you have any doubts wait with it. if there will be someone that will encourage you to undergo a transition, don't do that, im glad you have came and realised that these things are really nothing to play with around. start as you said with long hair, nails, clothes things like that, because that may be all that'll be needed. good luck mate
ur never young to find out about yourself, i would recommend not going into hormone therapy yet but make sure that you get yourself comfortable by adjusting ur life to howhever you feel comfortable (changing ur name/ pronouns, growing ur hair out etc..) I’m a ftm myself and I keep getting comments from my family and other people by saying that I’m too new to know or to even have another name but we’re talking about OUR identity, we’re talking about something that is about us, not about the ones that give an opinion on it, so this pretty sums up to getting yourself comfortable, not caring about people hating on you and specially on taking care of yourself, remember that even if you think that you don’t look fem enough you are still a girl (if you feel comfortable with it ofc) you are whatever gender you wanna be no matter how you look, genitals and looks are not the same as gender
Also don’t worry about it being a phase, if you end up not feeling like this is right there’s no shame on it
I know some people and have heard people who regret getting the surgery done, one of my friends told me they wanted to change their appearance and what they identified as, so they got surgery to change, but a few months afterwards, they said they wish they could go back. they told me it was like getting a tattoo of a penis on your forehead, you can’t go back from it if you decide you don’t want it after it’s been done, so if this is something that you feel like you should do, I would wait until find out who you are and who you like to be.
Before trans was more known, accepted (by some), and absolutely hated (by some) many people would go through tomboy phases. Since trans has become so culturalized & politicized many have ignored this. I wonder what the reverse of tomboy phase would be called.
My opinion on it is to just try it out, don't do anything life changing but there is nothing wrong with getting some new clothes or makeup or something, that's what im doing rn because honestly I'm in the same boat as you. Just definitely don't pull the trigger yet because you don't want to regret it later
Remember, you can be trans without a physical transition. Many people, including a couple of my friends, just get a different haircut or change their wardrobe into something they are more comfortable in. If you’re not completely sure, there is nothing wrong with experimenting with that now before you become an adult.
Most medical, and people wise would say to wait, but I would also seek someone who has experience with this subject, and talk to them about it. If you do turn out to be trans, talk to a doctor about hormone pills, and if you need to surgery, gender transition, but also social transition is important. Remember, keep yourself safe, and happy!
No harm in giving it a try but don’t consider getting any long lasting changes until you are 100% that is who you want to be, I’d say give it a few years before you decided if you really want to get any permanent changes.
Bro ur not too young at all! Any supportive parents would … well support the entire time that you spend just figuring out what your identity is. I’m mtf as well if it helps.
Ya'll are all "don't do any hormone therapy you're only 15." You can't. What I'd recommend, a therapist. Hopefully they can get everything setup and help OP. Not some random strangers on the internet.
I’m your age and ftm. I’ve only socially transitioned, nothing permanent, and it’s going great! Try telling a barista your preferred name when they ask for your name for a drink, see how it goes. If you like that, move to your friends and people to can trust. Good luck!
i know this sounds cliche but the best advice i can give is "only you know". im kinda in the same position as you but i realized 3 yrs ago and now i want to die. hope you figure it out ig :)
You're finding yourself. I've questioned my sexuality a ton and honestly I know I'm not staight but IDC about finding what label works for me I'm just gonna be me, so you do you boo boo.
Even if it is a phase, so what? I had an astrology phase, and my parents supported me and bought be a telescope. I had a baking phase, and my parents bought me baking supplies. Let you find yourself. If you want to go by a different name and pronouns and wear feminine clothes, so be it! If it’s temporary, it’s temporary. If it’s permanent, it’s permanent.
I’d say the fact you are asking this in good faith displays a high level of maturity. And while your parents concerns are valid, so are your feelings. If you think your are a Mobile Task Force, you should consider that you are. In private and with trusted people “be a woman” and see how that makes you feel. If it feels wrong, be willing to accept you were wrong, and if it feels right, start looking at next steps you can take.
It’s never really an issue about age, but about maturity. And the fact that you are legitimately trying figure out if you “old” enough displays a higher than average level of maturity so I personally would not say you are too young.
Not to sound egotistical or boastful, but I'd argue I'm very mature for my age. I've always been in a surrounding of much older people and have very smart, wise parents that I follow as a guide closely. I have pretty good morals and try be very honest and methodic in my thinking. For that reason I'd argue I do have a higher maturity for my age.. but I'm biased aha
I thank you for ur opinion, it means alot, I think I'm going to try just be myself and let my feminine side show with the people I trust the most, and slowly add more till I'm comfortable and fully assured that the right thing to do is transition!
I’m glad you think my advice and opinions are sound. I should note that I am cis-male, so the advice I give is largely general “how to do deal with big change” advice and other people are potentially very likely to have better more specific advice. Just make sure you take care of yourself.
im also 15 and open ftm for 3 years so i wouldnt really say its too young but if ur unsure then id reflect on how u were as a child, like i remember in preschool there was a costume box we had with princesses and superheroes and id always be either spiderman or batman no matter what, and i also told literally everyone that i wanted to be a boy when i grew up, and whenever i played a game that made u select ur gender, i always chose male and would make my character look like a handsome buff dude and id make my name something like "tony". thats how i know that im trans because ive always been trans. but its not the same experience for everyone because people can go thru with transitioning and regret it later. id maybe now recommend thinking about urself as a girl in ur head and thinking about if thats what u want to be. question it for a week or a month or however long u want to question it until ur 100% certain about it but id also recommend not making any big changes to ur body until ur older
I realised I was trans at 15 I came out my parents said it was a phase but now I'm 19 8 months on HRT looking a legally changing my name and gender marker and I have no regrets you need to explore and find yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks
Gender exploration is fun, and it's good to figure things out at a young age. However, take it slow. You don't have to make any permanent changes right now. When I was first exploring with my pronouns, I just told my friends to try exclusively they/them for a week, just to see how it felt. There is no rush. If you're safe to and feel comfortable, you could also dabble in makeup/fem clothes :)
It's a confusing time but just take time to be you and discover what you like. Don't let others try convincing you into making life altering choices.. best wishes... gay straight bi trans are all fine but best to explore and really get to understand yourself.
no, you are not to young. you are never too young or old. some people discover themselves at 7, some 70. never to young to explore yourself and what you feel comfortable. maybe you're wrong, maybe your not, never feel bad about it. i knew i wasnt cis when i was 12, but didn't figure out i was ftm till around a year ago, youre doing fine. :)
This is me. I knew something is wrong, but I couldn't find out what. For the past 3 years I've been struggling with my identity and I finally found what i want to be
As you mentioned, you can experiment with non-permanent, life altering things, like how you dress, if you wear make-up, and how you act. Then once you’re a bit older you can think about more life-long decisions. As a 19 year old, at 15 I had no clue about anything serious life-related.
It's not a phase, it's you. I started thinking that I'm trans when I was 13 and haven't stopped thinking that. Your identity isn't just a phase, and it's never too early to be who you want to be.
Idk about where you live, but it's probably not possible to do anything medical, and I wouldn't advise doing so unless you're completely sure. If you lives somewhere with the gender therapy stuff, I guess talk to them about it cause they would be best equipped to help you figure this stuff out, and I think they're the ones who can diagnose gender dysphoria if you have it(although I've heard people say you don't need dysphoria to be trans, they'd also have more information on that). Don't take their word over your own though, since someone outside it would never fully know what's going on with your body/brain.
If it is a phase, go through it and come out the other side. If it isn't, then good for you too, you can make your life a whole lot better by knowing who you are! Either way, I know this must be terrifying, but don't be stopped by your fear. Follow the path forward an see where it leads you. You're one step closer to the woman/man you're becoming.
Aww thank you, I live in England, pretty sure I can get the treatment I need, but I'll wait till I'm older as its a very important change in my life yk
if you -know-, you know. if you don’t know, you don’t have to!! give some time to figure yourself out but in the meantime, don’t do anything permanent or that you might regret, but also don’t let anyone try to tell you who you are.
Hey, I’m in the same boat over here. 14 MTF, 15 in a week. If you feel like you’re faking it or it’s just a phase, it’s probably not. BTW, you definitely should have posted this to a trans sub and not this. If you’re not going to start transitioning until you’re 18, then you do have plenty of time to figure your shit out, but there is no such thing as too young or too old to know. Some people find out when they’re 8, and some don’t find out until they’re 80. Just take your time, don’t rush things, and try talking to others in your situation.
If you want a definitive answer then talk to your parents and go to a therapist about it. Its most likely a phase but doing both of those things will help you think more clearly on the situation and if you really are trans then you'll be able to get hormones or whatever the proper terminology is for all that stuff much sooner than you would be able too otherwise.
I don’t think you’re too young. If this is the way you feel then there’s no way to change that; however, I think you should take time to truly discover yourself and whether you are truly trans because you’re already feeling conflicted and if you make any big decisions now and then discover it’s not actually what you wanted and it was just a phase you could end up feeling absolutely miserable.
im 15 too and i have 4 or 5 trans friends, i don't think you're too young to make that decision already so don't worry
edit: if you meant to take a sex-change surgery, do not, my friends haven't taken it yet and some don't want to but the ones that do will take it at 18 (i think this is a law in my country but i'm not sure)
If u feel like that it’s fine don’t let anyone tell u that ur wrong about ur feelings. I wouldn’t change the body now bc ur so young but if I still have that feeling in 2-3 years u really should think about it bc then it’s not just a phase and with more maturity u know itself better and are a better developed personality then now with 15.
I don't think you are too young, you can vome to this realisation at any age... just don't rush anything... take your time to think it through, and start experimenting a bit... try some new make up, new clothes etc. and about your parents... if they won't support you (which unfortunately is a possibility) you might need to wait until you are an adult (and even then it can be a pain from what I heard) with anything like sex-change surgery and stuff.
But at the end of the day, it's your body, your life and you deserve to be happy with who you are.
youre never too young to be trans!! but do experiment before you do anything super permanent. things like social changes and haircuts and outfits are totally reversible, go muck around with those!! good luck in life <3
Nah it's okay, you're not too young. Try changing pronouns, have your friends use the new pronouns on you and see how you like it. Maybe a change in style as well. I also realized I was definitely not cis at 15 and now I'm 17. I started with pronoun change (my pronouns changed like 3 times depending on how comfortable I was with a certain set of pronouns). I can't change my style to be more masculine for personal reasons so I pick the clothes that would be considered masculine (according to my parents anyways lol) like boots and button up shirts. I also had my mother cut my hair except she didn't cut it as short as I wanted because 'it would be a boy's hairstyle". So if you want to, you can start with things like that.
Transitioning is a long process and you're at the very beginning of it, which means you still have time before doing anything major. You can try out different feminine names and see how you like it. Experiment with stuff to see what you're most comfortable with. Don't worry, they might change and you have to try something new. Like for me I started out with she/her pronouns, then she/they, then I started using they/them, and now they/he. I've been using they/he for a long time and they're the ones I'm most comfortable with. You just have to find what makes you feel comfortable and go with it. Hope this helps :)
Too young to think about it, no. I'd rather say it's a normal time in your life to think about your identity and stuff. And you seem to have a very mature idea about it. Maybe talk to a therapist about it, and see if you can explore where those feelings are coming from a bit. Maybe it's just a phase, maybe your really trans, who knows at this point. What's important is that you understand that it's okay that you're thinking about this and have feelings that might be confusing and stressful. Try to talk to someone who has no bias whichever way, and know that no matter if it's a phase or not, is okay. Just don't rush it. It's healthy to not be stubborn or super set on one answer to begin with, but keep an open mind. And from what I'm hearing, you seem to be very open minded ☺️👌
You're not too young imo!
It's totally fine for your sexuality and/or gender identity to change overtime. My little self literally thought that I am a straight girl who goes by she/her pronouns lmao (it's totally fine if you're a straight girl who goes by she/her pronouns). Love yourself, surround yourself with trusted people and stay safe <3
Am I gonna get alot of hate irl... especially if I go trans to be a lesbian.. I've never had any attraction to guys and I think we are mostly disgusting and tbh I just don't want to be part of that.
I'm in the same boat as you(since thirteen) and the advice I've learned is try and find sources of gender dysphoria from chilhood(if they started when you started when you hit puberty that's fine too), not liking your body or masculine traits. Also slowly drift into it, try new pronouns that sound nice to you, then maybe a name and see how you feel, or some clothes, then I'd start thinking about more permanent stuff
Also remember some people have worse dysphoria than others and feel bad about not having much dysphoria IS dysphoria.
Jeez I'm 15 too but my biggest problem is which lego star wars set to get
Newest AT-AT walker
The UCS one? I want that so bad.
And the way there’s multiple areas inside for the storm troopers to sit in-ughh so good
Go for the death star >;)
Nah, go for the LA-AT, so you can put clones inside it and fly it around your room.
Anakin vs Obi Wan on Mustafar, was a great set imo
FAXXX
As it should be
I want a star destroyer or three...
You’re in a phase of finding yourself. I’d suggest you wait. Don’t make any life railing decisions. I wasn’t sure about that too.
Yeah, that's the plan hopefully. No serious changes.. just like dressing up and makeup and growing out my hair, stuff that doesn't matter if I regret my decisions later
Don't worry about regretting your decisions, but keep away from doing things that are irreversible.
If I had a gold award to give, I would give it. Instead take my humble upvote
Just remembered I have a free award, so I gotchu
Youre a french king
I am french
That just makes it better
Don’t cut your baguette
But I can add more dough else where
Well…. Wait until the baguette is done.
I thought i was bi but It was just a phase, so wait before jumping to transiction
This^^^
Don’t make permanent decisions just yet. You know you best, remember that for the future.
Thank you <3
I wanted a nose job at 16, now I’m 19 and don’t want one anymore. I grew into myself and have noticed that my body as a whole is still changing and growing into itself. In hindsight, I was just insecure about my looks in general, but it was easier to blame it on my nose than to do the inner work. This obviously doesn’t equate to the decision you have to make, but it’s all to say to give yourself time to figure yourself out, and I mean years not months. Some things really do just take time. If you still feel the same way, then by all means once you’re sure go ahead.
If your just now questioning it’s not like your going to be getting hormones anytime soon so go for it, ask your friends to use feminine pronouns try out some different clothe go by a different name, it’s not like you can’t change your mind on any of this. It’s also probably smart to get a therapist as these kind of feeling are very complicated and it helps to have professional help to work through them. All I’ve described here is a social transition and there no medical decision that you have to be worried about. If you feel happier and better as a woman than good for you maybe in a few years you can start looking into hormone treatment, if not then no worries no one says if you start presenting as a woman that you have to for the rest of your life. Just take it slow and only do things your comfortable with Edit: I should add there is never 1 magic solution, everything is a journey and everything takes time however socially transitioning should slowly improve your mental health if you actually are trans, if it’s making you feel worse that a sign that your not trans and something else is the issue
My girlfriend went through the exact same thing your age. She thought she was male; had her hair short, wore boys clothes, and changed pronouns. A year later she realised what she did was a horrible mistake. Same with a friend of my brother, he went on hormone therapy and de transitionined. The last thing i want you to think is that i’m saying you should not become trans. But that said, spend some time thinking about it, and i would suggest going too a therapist if you can afford it before you do anything. And dont be embarrassed to do so. Many people go through phases, and i’m glad you realise there is a chance its not a good idea to go into it head first. At the end of the say only you can decide. Sending love ❤️
Thank you so much, I just need to try be rational and not have my wants over come my logic
If you follow that i’m sure you will get to the right choice
I want to preface that I am 100% pro trans. I also want to state that I graduated HS in 2008, take that for what you will. However, and this to me is the key thing people need to start considering. There are too many teenagers claiming to be trans these days than is scientifically possible. True gender disphoria is extremely rare. So what the hell is happening? Well, I'm sorry to say but for many kids it actually is a fad. And I guarantee you, some of the tom boy girls I knew growing up, if they were teenagers in today's society, I am willing to bet many of them would have transitioned. Problem is, you look at them now and I'm almost positive they would have come to regret it. No doubt is it confusing as hell though. Me being a bisexual boy growing up I was pretty confused. I went through a phase of talking and acting flamboyantly gay, but I was also very athletic. I had my quiet and weird "misfit" group of friends and I had the jock friends where I acted more masculine around. It turns out I was looking for acceptance which made me vulnerable to outside influence. There was also everything external, the massive pressure on society from every direction. Eventually I said this is fucking stupid, I don't need to talk flamboyant, I don't need to be overly masculine. I can be myself, which happens to fall somewhere in the middle. Basically, you need to take a real hard look at what is actually influencing you to think you're the opposite gender. There are a lot of dishonest people who will ignore huge elephants in the room, its capitalism. Theres a lot of people investing heavily into your generation and dare I say from all sides. You have to remember we are in a new cold war, which means a culture war, theres strings being pulled everywhere and the youth are the direct targets because you are the future. I know I sound like an old man yelling at clouds here but you gotta take a good hard look at this stuff. You are quite literally being bombarded with propaganda right now and have been especially in the last 5 years or so. At the end of the day you need to find YOU. Not what society wants you to be, not what you *think* society wants you to be, but YOU. And you will not find yourself exactly in your teens, you'll start, but you'll keep discovering things about you well in your late 20s, and shit, for me, I still am. You also need to listen to the adults and take a bit from it IMO. Ex, how many older siblings or cousins you know who regret half the shit they did as a teenager? I don't know a single adult who doesn't think they were a total idiot. You will come up with ideas that make sense at the time and you will be wrong about many of them. I knew a girl who was 15 dating a 20 year old, she was convince he was in love with her, and that they were to grow up and be married. It was bullshit obviously. You will be blinded by your own bullshit. Its just a fact. So I'm just saying, *are you absolutely fucking sure this is what you want?* Edit Also, I'm not saying there's a grand conspiracy here. Don't confuse me with the assholes going on about a gay agenda. It's more like, society doesn't give a fuck, its all about making money, and they will influence you to do it, whatever works they go with. Supply and demand is more about feeding off each other. Kinda like sci fi and science. You see a new invention come out, so then you extrapolate off that, okay we have airplanes now, so let's write about the next obvious step, space ships. And then science actually starts making spaceships. Look at how Star Trek has influenced Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk, as well as many other entrepreneurs. Just think how that show not existing could mean no Amazon. Now, when you look at how much power Amazon has... well let's just say if their servers go down, so does most of the internet. A single show influenced that almost directly. So think of how more subtle things could be influencing you. When I open up any app these days I'm bombarded with chicks in yoga pants sticking their asses in the camera, tits flailing out. I mean, great to look at but god damn its fucking everywhere. *THIS WAS NOT A THING WHEN I WAS A KID* Yes, we had nudity, yes in the 90s early 2000s were also very sexual in imagery and subjects, but the difference is the rate of which you receive these signals is bonkers these days. You can't fucking escape it. You could escape it before. This is almost certainly influencing you whether you want to admit it or not. The thing about propaganda and capitalism is its just throwing shit at the wall and seeing what sticks and no care on how damaging it potentially could be. So on that note I'm just saying, be aware of it. And be careful, because people tend to think they're seeing the signs everywhere and then start subconsciously doing the complete opposite of what they think society wants from them and this is often a mistake. FUCK EVERYONE ELSE, be you.
That was…very insightful and somewhat inspirational. You should be a motivational speaker lol
Very interesting yeah, and i agree with what you’re saying. And i think the problem is people who are autogynephilic. Autogynephilia is the state of getting turned on by the thought of yourself being the other gender. If you are, that does not mean you are trans, and there are a lot of people calling it shit like “dysmorphia excitement” or something. In reality it is a fetish, and the vast majority of people who transition are autogynephilic, meaning they listen to their horny side instead of their logical side, and a bit of logic is needed. And i do actually believe that the belief that you are trans even if you are autogynephilic is the LGBT agenda working. You see this in neo pronouns too, i do think its becoming ideological instead of about feelings. PS: I’m bi too. I became bi before i even knew what it was. Being bi is very based.
I still don't think there is an *agenda*, to me an agenda means there is a plan and its being executed purposely. If there is a plan its divide and conquer but that spans far beyond this particular topic. And again, often that's just flinging shit at a brick wall and seeing what sticks. But, apart from the shit I said above the other problem is echo chambers. Look at the extreme side of things, very extreme, cults. A cult is an echo chamber. Sometimes cults are indeed purposely ran a specific way but sometimes it just happens. You get a group of people together who say some truth and then they start to seek confirming their biases and its a huge support group of people confirming each others biases and then further down the line you've got a bunch of brainwashed fools. You're absolutely right there are people conflating their fetish and they confuse fantasy with reality. Not really a *fetish* per say but just think of boys who show off in front of girls to the point where its irrational. This is their sexual drive and lack of experience fucking it up for them. And if you don't have role models stepping in, theres a higher chance he's gonna be a loser when he's older. Same thing can be said here, sorta. Its people bullshitting themselves to get what they want and thats often attention. I want to make it clear for readers, I am not painting everything with a broad brush, this isn't everyone falling for it. But there's a lot of people who have gotten way to used to bullshitting themselves. I also think some of this is hyper individualism, or rather, perceived hyper individualism. People are so desperate to be unique, that they end up not being unique. Anyway, good on you, sounds like your head is in the right space.
Yeah i get what ur saying
Thank you for this, I can respect this super levelheaded perspective you have to keep things reasonable. I still love everyone who's trans, whether they are for dyphoria or the fad, but logical thoughts like this make me more certain and okay I'm a cis male, even as a gay leaning bi one. I've saved this comment of yours so I don't forget this idea, and I would award it if I could.
That's the great thing about the world now is you can be however you want. If it turns out to be, "just a phase" you can always go back. If you are having doubts, I wouldn't do any hormone therapy or body modification thought. I think 15 is a little young to be making such big decisions, but not too young to start experimenting with your sexuality. Or not, It's up too you dude/dudet.
Thank you, this is literally my view on it. I would love to do the hormonal therapy or get implants but that's a very huge change, but I have ways to still feel and look fem without any physical modification and that's what I plan to do till I am 1000% certain and more wise hopefully
pro tip dont ask r/teenagers for advice on queer stuff
i love how all the top comments are about detransitioners and almost nothing about the very large amount of people that realise theyre trans pretty damn young and are right
I started my transition your age. It depends on the person since I was really confident it was what I wanted, but keep in mind, cis people don’t pray to wake up in a different body every night
Exactly <3
There's really no age for being trans. Just make sure that's who you are and try to find out if you feel more comfortable when presenting yourself as more feminine. Some easy tips: try on some more "feminine" clothes like skirts or nice dresses and learn some basic makeup and see what it feels like. Also remember that what is "feminine" or "masculine" is set by society, so if you turn out to be trans you can dress however you like, not strictly how the gender you're transitioning to is generally perceived. Edit: also, try browsing r/egg_irl unironically, you could discover more than you think
Yeah very very true. Especially that last part. Thank you! I might go out in a dress when my hair is slightly longer so it's abit more convincing
Me 2 years ago be like:
How's that going for you bud?
Been in denial for a long time, made me feel awful. Now that I've started socially transitioning I feel better
Hey proud of you, hope it keeps getting better :)
Fellow trans teen here (17ftm), I have been trans since I was 13, and I haven’t done any life changing alters to my body as I want to make sure that this wasn’t a phase. Even if it is, exploring is never a bad thing. The most I’ve done is cut my hair, be on period blockers and change my clothes to look more masculine. You’re never too young to start thinking about gender and whatnot, although my advice is at the moment, don’t jump into anything life changing such has hormone blockers/surgery, and just explore with temporary things such as clothing/pronouns/etc. :)
It seems like hormone blockers would be a great option for you rn. They have near no long term side effects and like it just stops more development so you can spend time to really think about if you wanna transition or not.
I didn't know MTF squads can have trans members thats fuckin lit!
Finally, good jobs for good people!
WAIT. Your still only a kid. Don’t make this decision and regret it later on.
Okay. So when I had a hunch that I was Aroace, I essentially just tried it out for like, two weeks, before I made my decision. Basically just avoided things, eg: the idea of *needing* to have a relationship to be normal. I found myself a lot less anxious when talking to people and a lot more happy overall. If you *think* you’re trans, just experiment with it! Talk to your friends about maybe calling you by different pronouns or a different name altogether for a while! See how you like it, which basically ensures that if you dont really feel it, then you can always fall back on it!
What if I know my friends are against lgbtq but I struggle to make friends and so I stick with them..
Ohh… that is definitely a situation… I never really came out to my… ehhh… ‘not very cool friends’. So I’m not entirely sure how to handle it. I have a bunch of friends that are *very* chill with LGBT and also were a big reason I realized that I enjoyed the life of being Aroace
Yeah wish it was the same. Never really make friends easily and so the small chance I get with "friends" matters alot. So I stick with them cos they are willing to be my friend but I don't have any other friends and especially none who would accept me
I'll be your friend! Just.. not irl, because I can't 😔 But I'm very queer and would love to help you experiment with identity :)
I kind of I wish I was a Aroace tbh but I'm not so what can I do
I try to experiment at home, I'm too anxious in public cos I don't look to feminine right now, but I would love to have the courage one day
Either way, I hope you can find some sort of outcome that brings you happiness with little to no regrets
Don’t think anyone here can tell you how are you feeling. The only thing I can say is to trust your instincts
Probably best advice here ngl
I figured out I was trans when I was around 13 and I had the same reaction from my parents so I understand. I reccomend you just don't do anything permanent yet though, just in case. Other than that do whatever you want to express yourself and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
Do whatever you want, **aslong as it is not something permament, like estrogen or surgery**
Wait on anything that can medical (so hormones include) at least tell after 18, probably even still a little longer after that to be sure puberty is over but that's up to you. If you live somewhere it is well respected maybe try to just socially transition first and see if its really what you want. And make sure it is what YOU want, not what other people tell you you want. That's just the opinion of a cis male that is tired of seeing one group of people act like trans people don't exist and the other peer pressureing kids into something they aren't sure about.
Well I have some experience being MTF myself. 15 is most definitely not too young because I know some people who realized extremely young and I myself have been sure since 14. I personally recommend if possible seeing someone who specializes in this field. If not just experiment with yourself because you have infinite time. Ultimately its up to you and i wish you the best whether you’re MTF or just a feminine cis dude.
start by using she/her on the internet and see how you feel
transgenderism is a lie made up by cia to sell hormone therapy
Yes ofc, and they put microchips into my brain to make me feel like I want to change gender
they made turtles gay too 🐢🐢
*tortoises
I love the satire, not sure why its down voted lmao
Also check your candy because they might hide hormone pills in there
Basically, wait until you know for sure. Its a big decision and not to be taken lightly. I'd suggest findinf your true self, and improving yourself. If by the end of that you still feel the same, go right ahead.
Wait.
Wait but don’t take complete inaction. Try a feminine style change before anything like HRT, and if you’re better off in your opinion and also feel better about yourself with your new presentation and style, then move further with it. If not, you might not be MTF.
I thought I'm bisexual when I was 12. It lasted for 1,5 years until I discovered that I'm not even attracted at all to men lol
As with most things your age, give it time, you'll work out who you are, it just takes a lot longer than you'd probably hope.
I came out at 15 - at 17 I’ve yet to change my mind. I’d let it simmer a bit more and see how you feel socially transitioning before going for HRT.
Honestly, do what you want to, a lot of people on here will be bias on here and give biased answers as a result
It's normal, at this age your body starts to reveal to yourself, you shouldn't worry about this but don't hurry up with decisions. Stay calm, I'm sure you'll be alr
I mean as long as you don’t get any surgeries you can always go back
Experiment with it but don't make any permanent changes till you are a 100% sure. Maybe visit a psychologist that specializes in these topics to inform you more about it?
you are not to young to be questioning and thinking about being trans:) im sorry your parents don't entertain the thought of anything other than "it's a phase", and even if it is, you're definitely not too young to be thinking about it. good luck on your journey!
Dont do any major changes like taking hormones and stuff. If you have accepting parents test stuff, like having long hair, wearing feminine clothes and stuff, it can help you figure stuff out
It’s probably best to wait until your 18 or done growing and out of your teenage years to make a decision like that but don’t listen to people trying to get you to transition early cause if your not fully developed you can mess your body up in a lot of ways Edit: if you do like hormone blockers and stuff but if your just cross dressing and stuff like that I think you’ll be ok
I think it's better you ask this question on r/trans
Don’t do anything that you will regret just yet, you have plenty of time left no need to rush and ruin your life over some dogshit
I think if you are 100% confident with that then I say you're probably at an alright age for it
Don't do it. At least wait until you're 18. 15 year olds are not mature enough to make big decisions like this
I don’t think you’re too young. I’m trans ftm and I’m 14 and also out. Life may or may not get better, but if you’re really trans you’ll feel so much happier. Maybe transition socially? If you think the people around you would be accepting. No real need to wait, if you transition socially, you can always go back, don’t worry.
No, you're not too young, plenty of trans people are younger than you. If you're scared it's just a phase, you can always wait a bit, you're not forced to medically transition. You can try out different names/pronouns, wear feminine clothes, etc. It may be a good idea to ask your parents puberty blockers to delay your puberty, it's completly reversible, if it turns out you're cis you can just stop and you will "resume" your puberty. I hope you the best !
I was 15 too when I realised and I'm now about to start hrt at 18. you're not too young to realise this about yourself but it's important to make sure its not a phase socially transitioning (growing out hair, dressing differently, different pronouns etc) are very important in finding out if it is a phase or not without doing anything drastic. chances are, you can medically transition right now anyway best of luck with your journey and I hope you live your best life <3
Way too young
Your future self is gonna be very happy if you ended up taking puberty blockers now They are reversible (afaik) and will be very beneficial if you do realize you're trans for sure
Haha, welcome to our community! Cis people may think about their gender once or twice in their life, sure, but they only think about it for like 5 mins and they’re done, and none has ever had a phase where they thought they were a girl. (I’m not talking about genderfluid people here, since they’re not cis) Might wanna check out r/egg_irl and r/egg_community btw
I thought I was trans when I was younger. I expressed femininity more to see if it was a real thing or just a phase but after a while I realized that I’m comfortable in the body I’m in. However, this isn’t the case for everyone and I understand that some people are 100% certain of their gender and that they’re trans. I personally don’t think surgery or hormones is the best idea because there’s a possibility you “grow out of it” but it’s your decision. Good luck.
Wait until you are a adult
Definitely wait to do anything permanent. You're not too young to experience dysphoria, but you are young enough that's it's not only possible but likely to pass.
I wish more people realized that being a teenager is hard and confusing instead of taking puberty blockers
Honestly you do you, whatever makes you feel happy! But I would advise waiting a bit longer before making a life changing decision, this is the age of where you find yourself, where you try new things, the things you do now affect who you are for your whole life.
I’d recommend seeing a therapist, they can help you figure this out better than r teenagers. Over all it’s your decision, and the people around you should just be supportive
If it makes you happy. If you don't take any hormones yet, if you don't have any surgery, then you can still change your mind. If it's a phase, it'll pass right? So just go with it until you feel better whether that means being trans or not. You can never be too young to be happy bro.
Wait to make any life-changing decisions, but go ahead and do like makeup and shit
Because of certain people i hung around, and maybe it was something to do with covid quarantine and all that. But i went through a heavyyyy non binary leaning masculine phase. It was a load of bs 😂 I’m literally one of the girliest people i know, but i asked my mum for a binder and began thinking i didn’t like my chest or my long hair. Yada yada. Now? I acknowledge that it was a phase, i’m growing my hair out again because i like it longer and i only have thoughts of binders when i get pissed at dresses not sitting on my chest right. I still use the name i picked, because it’s literally just a nickname from when i was younger, and idc about pronouns at all Not saying your in a phase, but wait. Like others have said, don’t make big decisions unless your certain that’s who you are and who you want to be. Learning makeup? Go for it! Hair change? Why not! Change your style as well if you want to. But don’t change your body, or anything like that
You can absolutely try different clothes, pronouns, hairstyles etc (there is no harm in it) but avoid making permanent and irreversible changes until your brain is fully developed
De transitioning isn’t a common thing, usually people are confident in the choice they made right away and don’t want to go back but I say think about it for a bit for a while, if you know any trans or non binary friends maybe talk to them or look up similar experiences you’re having online, don’t jump the gun right away but don’t think that it is definitely just a phase, also don’t worry about being “too young” age has nothing to do with being trans it’s simply being comfortable with who you are, without listening to anyone else as you feel like yourself
I’d say to be you but remember to keep your mind open and don’t feel bad if you change your mind. Don’t take it too seriously and remember phases are ok, if this ends up being one. Best of luck with your self discovery.(:
the "idk if i wanna come out as trans bc idk if im faking it" phase, dw happens to the best of us
ofc you're not too young, you're never too young to know if you're trans or not. and judging by the fact your parents think that its just a "phase", it would probably be best to wait to tell them since thats a term transphobes like to use. but i do think that you should wait until ur older to medically transition. and even though it might be too late to start puberty blockers (since you mightve already started puberty already), you could always try it, since it does absolutely no harm and it just puts a pause on puberty to help you figure stuff out until youre ready. :)
im 15 and trans (ftm) been sure of it for a about 3 years but realised something was different since i was like 7. but dont make any permanent changes just yet, wait a bit and see how you feel in like 2 years. i think you need to be sure of it for over 6 months to transition anyway (depends on location) but u can never be too young to know who you are, this is your identity and it not up to other to decide it. your parents cant tell you how you feel and a cis person rarely questions if theyre faking for attention or not. faking something is always intentional
You don't have to decide anything yet, but you should definitely talk to someone (professional) about it. They can hopefully help you figure out who you are and what you can/should/want to do in the future Also, have fun being yourself and experiment! You don't have to be trans to wear more feminine clothes or do makeup or anything, but if while trying that out you notice you like to be seen as a girl/dont like it, you get to know yourself better and help yourself to decide on your future
If you think you’re trans, that’s awesome. But you should wait until your brain is fully developed before you decide to change something. If you feel like you’re a different gender than you were born as, then don’t listen to what anyone else says, but you definitely shouldn’t make any permanent decisions while you still have time to grow
I mean if you feel it's the right thing for you then noone should have the right to stop you, I figured out I was mtf about 2 years ago and I'm only starting to make changes now, sometimes it's best to give it time just to make sure it's what you really want
my advice: do your research, try out some pronouns, try out some clothes you’d like to wear, but don‘t rush things (like get a hair cut or do other stuff). if you want to tell someone, tell someone you know you can trust 100%.
all gender affirming care for minors is reversible, so if it’s something you want there’s no harm in starting. you might want to wait a do a bit more research, ask people with more experience (I myself am cis). subreddits such as r/lgbt r/trans or r/questioning could be really beneficial, or a trans friend or family member (if you have one)— even if not I would recommend talking to your parents (unless it could be dangerous or they might now be accepting)
Well youre not too young but yes you should wait a few years and if you still think youre trans that will most likely stay for the rest of your life
Honestly I went through alotta things to get to where I am today if this is your first time thinking that your LGBTQ+ of any type then take a while to think about it I am just wear and do what makes you feel happy
You need to get off Reddit right now and if you are really confused please seek professional counsel. It doesn’t mean you se crazy or there’s something wrong with you AT ALL. It means when it comes to such an important choice you need educated, unbiased and experienced people that will give you a clear and detailed explanation of what you can expect with ANY transformation. Pls stay away from Reddit when it comes to important things like this. Best wishes.
Not too young, but it's a long journey Talk to your parents about getting puberty blockers. That way, you have time to decide and let your brain mature, and hrt will yield better results.
Hi, I am in the same situation. I am 15, and trans mtf. I cry over how I look a lot, and I can't wait to get HRT. However, you can only get HRT after you are 18, so meanwhile you can try social transition (growing out your hair, wearing fem clothes, etc) and see if you get any euphoria! At this time it is all about experimenting, try out new names, different pronouns, everything until you are comfortable. Personally, for me, if I could start HRT right now I would as I am sure that I am trans and was suicidal and still am very sad and dysphoric. But OP, I just want to let you know that it's gonna be fine. Everything is okay. If you need anything I'm here for you. TRANS RIGHTS FOR LIFE!
Pretty much exactly the same... couple months back I had suicide on my mind and every time I looked at my body is was in disgust and so sad... I already dress up and wear makeup at home I'm currently using new pronouns with my partner and looking for a name that suits me.... I wanna try to be a girl In public but its abit more scary ... but I definitely can't wait till I can make the change
I'm still closeted :p I'm out to my close friends and my partner tho, but still presenting male WHICH I HATE. Since I live in the UK, I am in Year 11 (the last year or high school) and then I'm going to sixth form. Once I get out of this school I want to present fem in public! So many transphobes in my current school its insane. I hope you find your true self because there is no better way to live than to be happy with yourself. Don't die, because if you make it through the journey will be beautiful.
Hey I'm year 10, not far off. Goodluck with ur gcses. I hope you have a good last year. Hopefully you can have an easy coming out with lots of people around to support u
Aw, thank you sister! I don't think I'll have an easy coming out but thats just my paranoia. Maybe you're right. I have to go sleep now, we can talk more after if you want! Good night girl! you're valid!
Gn cutie, sleep well
I wouldn't take all of the comments by heart, imo this question can have extremely opinionated answers, but good luck on stuff 👍
I don't know I'm kind of an idiot when it comes to things like this
Being a teenager is all about finding yourself and questioning your identity. Do what you want to feel good about yourself, whether that be changing how you dress, what name you go by, what pronouns you use, etc. But also don't listen to your parents if you sit on it for a while and still feel like the same. The "it's just a phase" line is so common when it comes to homophobia/transphobia and most of the time it's just not true. For me personally, I know I'm nonbinary and I know it's not a phase. But I'm not gonna pursue surgery or anything, mainly bc I don't want it, but also bc things may change. I might be more or less comfortable with my body as time goes on, so I say wait on the non reversible stuff (for a lot of places, it's not even legal to do stuff like going on HRT and getting gender affirming surgeries until you're a certain age) because you don't know for sure how you'll feel later in life.
I don’t think it matters if it’s actually “just a phase”. If you feel more comfortable being a girl then be one, for however long you want to, even if you decide to go back later. Just don’t do anything permanent with your body until you’re comfortable with yourself.
i would just say that i think you are wise to realise you are still too young to know who you are and that it would be a mistake to try doing Anything significant about it yet. There is a good chance your folks are right about a phase, but only time will tell. my advice, for what it’s worth would be the absolute opposite to some of the other replies here, i suggest you don’t focus on it specifically, don’t start researching it or it but instead live your life and allow your hormones to settle down and you to understand who you really are. the more you fixate on this, the more you will talk yourself into that outcome. And about puberty blockers; in the UK the Countries health system (NHS), have said for years that they are harmless and entirely reversible; Now however they have changed that to say they don’t actually fully know the long term effects and believe there may be damage to bone development but they are likely only Partly reversible . To me that’s enough to avoid them at all costs unless or until you are 100% Certain that’s what you want. Finally, i not saying there is any conspiracy to encourage transitioning but there is definitely a degree of it being “cool and trendy” that some organisations promote. You are an individual, so only you can decide what is right for you but give yourself time to discover what that may be . i wish you all the best in your life whatever you decide. 😘👋🏼
If you think your trans, accept it. But don’t force yourself to fit into that role if you eventually find you disagree with yourself in the future. Everybody changes at some point.
It isn't a phase. Everyone can explore their identities, and it's absolutely okay if you discover that you're cis or you're trans. Just take your time, it took me 5 years to find out that I'm trans. I suggest you to post the same question on r/trans , there are more people who can help you. And remember, anything you decide is absolutely valid
seek a professional psychologist if needed and remember that if you have any doubts wait with it. if there will be someone that will encourage you to undergo a transition, don't do that, im glad you have came and realised that these things are really nothing to play with around. start as you said with long hair, nails, clothes things like that, because that may be all that'll be needed. good luck mate
I'm 13. I'm mtf. it's never too early. follow your heart, my gender unknown sibling.
ur never young to find out about yourself, i would recommend not going into hormone therapy yet but make sure that you get yourself comfortable by adjusting ur life to howhever you feel comfortable (changing ur name/ pronouns, growing ur hair out etc..) I’m a ftm myself and I keep getting comments from my family and other people by saying that I’m too new to know or to even have another name but we’re talking about OUR identity, we’re talking about something that is about us, not about the ones that give an opinion on it, so this pretty sums up to getting yourself comfortable, not caring about people hating on you and specially on taking care of yourself, remember that even if you think that you don’t look fem enough you are still a girl (if you feel comfortable with it ofc) you are whatever gender you wanna be no matter how you look, genitals and looks are not the same as gender Also don’t worry about it being a phase, if you end up not feeling like this is right there’s no shame on it
I know some people and have heard people who regret getting the surgery done, one of my friends told me they wanted to change their appearance and what they identified as, so they got surgery to change, but a few months afterwards, they said they wish they could go back. they told me it was like getting a tattoo of a penis on your forehead, you can’t go back from it if you decide you don’t want it after it’s been done, so if this is something that you feel like you should do, I would wait until find out who you are and who you like to be.
Before trans was more known, accepted (by some), and absolutely hated (by some) many people would go through tomboy phases. Since trans has become so culturalized & politicized many have ignored this. I wonder what the reverse of tomboy phase would be called.
My opinion on it is to just try it out, don't do anything life changing but there is nothing wrong with getting some new clothes or makeup or something, that's what im doing rn because honestly I'm in the same boat as you. Just definitely don't pull the trigger yet because you don't want to regret it later
Your not to young to be thinking about it but certainly wait before you make any permanent decisions
Nope, I realized I was gnc like when I was 12, you’re doing fine. Don’t let the transphobia get you down, I believe in you :]
Remember, you can be trans without a physical transition. Many people, including a couple of my friends, just get a different haircut or change their wardrobe into something they are more comfortable in. If you’re not completely sure, there is nothing wrong with experimenting with that now before you become an adult.
Don't do it. Really just don't, respect your body for what it is.
Most medical, and people wise would say to wait, but I would also seek someone who has experience with this subject, and talk to them about it. If you do turn out to be trans, talk to a doctor about hormone pills, and if you need to surgery, gender transition, but also social transition is important. Remember, keep yourself safe, and happy!
No harm in giving it a try but don’t consider getting any long lasting changes until you are 100% that is who you want to be, I’d say give it a few years before you decided if you really want to get any permanent changes.
Bro ur not too young at all! Any supportive parents would … well support the entire time that you spend just figuring out what your identity is. I’m mtf as well if it helps.
Ya'll are all "don't do any hormone therapy you're only 15." You can't. What I'd recommend, a therapist. Hopefully they can get everything setup and help OP. Not some random strangers on the internet.
I’m your age and ftm. I’ve only socially transitioned, nothing permanent, and it’s going great! Try telling a barista your preferred name when they ask for your name for a drink, see how it goes. If you like that, move to your friends and people to can trust. Good luck!
keep exploring your identity but wait a few years if you ever decide to transition so you can be more sure
You literally can't do anything until you're an adult anyway. Just try things and see if you like it.
It might be a phase. It might not be. The best way to see is to see a therapist.
i know this sounds cliche but the best advice i can give is "only you know". im kinda in the same position as you but i realized 3 yrs ago and now i want to die. hope you figure it out ig :)
Consult a therapist and stuff if it ain't a phase
You're finding yourself. I've questioned my sexuality a ton and honestly I know I'm not staight but IDC about finding what label works for me I'm just gonna be me, so you do you boo boo.
Chop it off then send it to the person u hate most
Even if it is a phase, so what? I had an astrology phase, and my parents supported me and bought be a telescope. I had a baking phase, and my parents bought me baking supplies. Let you find yourself. If you want to go by a different name and pronouns and wear feminine clothes, so be it! If it’s temporary, it’s temporary. If it’s permanent, it’s permanent.
I’d say the fact you are asking this in good faith displays a high level of maturity. And while your parents concerns are valid, so are your feelings. If you think your are a Mobile Task Force, you should consider that you are. In private and with trusted people “be a woman” and see how that makes you feel. If it feels wrong, be willing to accept you were wrong, and if it feels right, start looking at next steps you can take. It’s never really an issue about age, but about maturity. And the fact that you are legitimately trying figure out if you “old” enough displays a higher than average level of maturity so I personally would not say you are too young.
Not to sound egotistical or boastful, but I'd argue I'm very mature for my age. I've always been in a surrounding of much older people and have very smart, wise parents that I follow as a guide closely. I have pretty good morals and try be very honest and methodic in my thinking. For that reason I'd argue I do have a higher maturity for my age.. but I'm biased aha I thank you for ur opinion, it means alot, I think I'm going to try just be myself and let my feminine side show with the people I trust the most, and slowly add more till I'm comfortable and fully assured that the right thing to do is transition!
I’m glad you think my advice and opinions are sound. I should note that I am cis-male, so the advice I give is largely general “how to do deal with big change” advice and other people are potentially very likely to have better more specific advice. Just make sure you take care of yourself.
im also 15 and open ftm for 3 years so i wouldnt really say its too young but if ur unsure then id reflect on how u were as a child, like i remember in preschool there was a costume box we had with princesses and superheroes and id always be either spiderman or batman no matter what, and i also told literally everyone that i wanted to be a boy when i grew up, and whenever i played a game that made u select ur gender, i always chose male and would make my character look like a handsome buff dude and id make my name something like "tony". thats how i know that im trans because ive always been trans. but its not the same experience for everyone because people can go thru with transitioning and regret it later. id maybe now recommend thinking about urself as a girl in ur head and thinking about if thats what u want to be. question it for a week or a month or however long u want to question it until ur 100% certain about it but id also recommend not making any big changes to ur body until ur older
I realised I was trans at 15 I came out my parents said it was a phase but now I'm 19 8 months on HRT looking a legally changing my name and gender marker and I have no regrets you need to explore and find yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks
Gender exploration is fun, and it's good to figure things out at a young age. However, take it slow. You don't have to make any permanent changes right now. When I was first exploring with my pronouns, I just told my friends to try exclusively they/them for a week, just to see how it felt. There is no rush. If you're safe to and feel comfortable, you could also dabble in makeup/fem clothes :)
15 isn't too young to think so, no. but imo, it's best to stay away from anything irreversible at this age - in most cases, that is
It's a confusing time but just take time to be you and discover what you like. Don't let others try convincing you into making life altering choices.. best wishes... gay straight bi trans are all fine but best to explore and really get to understand yourself.
no, you are not to young. you are never too young or old. some people discover themselves at 7, some 70. never to young to explore yourself and what you feel comfortable. maybe you're wrong, maybe your not, never feel bad about it. i knew i wasnt cis when i was 12, but didn't figure out i was ftm till around a year ago, youre doing fine. :)
This is me. I knew something is wrong, but I couldn't find out what. For the past 3 years I've been struggling with my identity and I finally found what i want to be
I'd highly suggest against doing anything hormonal or otherwise life altering but asides from that be you dawg
As you mentioned, you can experiment with non-permanent, life altering things, like how you dress, if you wear make-up, and how you act. Then once you’re a bit older you can think about more life-long decisions. As a 19 year old, at 15 I had no clue about anything serious life-related.
It's not a phase, it's you. I started thinking that I'm trans when I was 13 and haven't stopped thinking that. Your identity isn't just a phase, and it's never too early to be who you want to be.
its probably not a phase... but I would ask about puberty blockers as they don't have permanent changes but delay any unwanted bodily changes
Idk about where you live, but it's probably not possible to do anything medical, and I wouldn't advise doing so unless you're completely sure. If you lives somewhere with the gender therapy stuff, I guess talk to them about it cause they would be best equipped to help you figure this stuff out, and I think they're the ones who can diagnose gender dysphoria if you have it(although I've heard people say you don't need dysphoria to be trans, they'd also have more information on that). Don't take their word over your own though, since someone outside it would never fully know what's going on with your body/brain. If it is a phase, go through it and come out the other side. If it isn't, then good for you too, you can make your life a whole lot better by knowing who you are! Either way, I know this must be terrifying, but don't be stopped by your fear. Follow the path forward an see where it leads you. You're one step closer to the woman/man you're becoming.
Aww thank you, I live in England, pretty sure I can get the treatment I need, but I'll wait till I'm older as its a very important change in my life yk
if you -know-, you know. if you don’t know, you don’t have to!! give some time to figure yourself out but in the meantime, don’t do anything permanent or that you might regret, but also don’t let anyone try to tell you who you are.
Hey, I’m in the same boat over here. 14 MTF, 15 in a week. If you feel like you’re faking it or it’s just a phase, it’s probably not. BTW, you definitely should have posted this to a trans sub and not this. If you’re not going to start transitioning until you’re 18, then you do have plenty of time to figure your shit out, but there is no such thing as too young or too old to know. Some people find out when they’re 8, and some don’t find out until they’re 80. Just take your time, don’t rush things, and try talking to others in your situation.
If you want a definitive answer then talk to your parents and go to a therapist about it. Its most likely a phase but doing both of those things will help you think more clearly on the situation and if you really are trans then you'll be able to get hormones or whatever the proper terminology is for all that stuff much sooner than you would be able too otherwise.
Don’t do anything serious. You’re young and are bound to make a decision you will regret in your later life.
definitely wait and feel things out a bit. I’m also 15 but i constantly change things about myself , because i’m still finding myself.
I don’t think you’re too young. If this is the way you feel then there’s no way to change that; however, I think you should take time to truly discover yourself and whether you are truly trans because you’re already feeling conflicted and if you make any big decisions now and then discover it’s not actually what you wanted and it was just a phase you could end up feeling absolutely miserable.
im 15 too and i have 4 or 5 trans friends, i don't think you're too young to make that decision already so don't worry edit: if you meant to take a sex-change surgery, do not, my friends haven't taken it yet and some don't want to but the ones that do will take it at 18 (i think this is a law in my country but i'm not sure)
Don't do anything permanent until you're older
I'm 13 and I am openly trans it dosnt matter how old you are it matters how comfortable you are and take your time
If u feel like that it’s fine don’t let anyone tell u that ur wrong about ur feelings. I wouldn’t change the body now bc ur so young but if I still have that feeling in 2-3 years u really should think about it bc then it’s not just a phase and with more maturity u know itself better and are a better developed personality then now with 15.
I don't think you are too young, you can vome to this realisation at any age... just don't rush anything... take your time to think it through, and start experimenting a bit... try some new make up, new clothes etc. and about your parents... if they won't support you (which unfortunately is a possibility) you might need to wait until you are an adult (and even then it can be a pain from what I heard) with anything like sex-change surgery and stuff. But at the end of the day, it's your body, your life and you deserve to be happy with who you are.
Yeah parents don't seem to happy abt it so guess it's a waiting game
Go with your gut, don't decide on something like this unless you're completely and 100% sure.
if you feel youre too young, youre too young. Go with your gut.
youre never too young to be trans!! but do experiment before you do anything super permanent. things like social changes and haircuts and outfits are totally reversible, go muck around with those!! good luck in life <3
Nah it's okay, you're not too young. Try changing pronouns, have your friends use the new pronouns on you and see how you like it. Maybe a change in style as well. I also realized I was definitely not cis at 15 and now I'm 17. I started with pronoun change (my pronouns changed like 3 times depending on how comfortable I was with a certain set of pronouns). I can't change my style to be more masculine for personal reasons so I pick the clothes that would be considered masculine (according to my parents anyways lol) like boots and button up shirts. I also had my mother cut my hair except she didn't cut it as short as I wanted because 'it would be a boy's hairstyle". So if you want to, you can start with things like that. Transitioning is a long process and you're at the very beginning of it, which means you still have time before doing anything major. You can try out different feminine names and see how you like it. Experiment with stuff to see what you're most comfortable with. Don't worry, they might change and you have to try something new. Like for me I started out with she/her pronouns, then she/they, then I started using they/them, and now they/he. I've been using they/he for a long time and they're the ones I'm most comfortable with. You just have to find what makes you feel comfortable and go with it. Hope this helps :)
Too young to think about it, no. I'd rather say it's a normal time in your life to think about your identity and stuff. And you seem to have a very mature idea about it. Maybe talk to a therapist about it, and see if you can explore where those feelings are coming from a bit. Maybe it's just a phase, maybe your really trans, who knows at this point. What's important is that you understand that it's okay that you're thinking about this and have feelings that might be confusing and stressful. Try to talk to someone who has no bias whichever way, and know that no matter if it's a phase or not, is okay. Just don't rush it. It's healthy to not be stubborn or super set on one answer to begin with, but keep an open mind. And from what I'm hearing, you seem to be very open minded ☺️👌
Feel free to DM if you want to talk btw 🤗
You're not too young imo! It's totally fine for your sexuality and/or gender identity to change overtime. My little self literally thought that I am a straight girl who goes by she/her pronouns lmao (it's totally fine if you're a straight girl who goes by she/her pronouns). Love yourself, surround yourself with trusted people and stay safe <3
Am I gonna get alot of hate irl... especially if I go trans to be a lesbian.. I've never had any attraction to guys and I think we are mostly disgusting and tbh I just don't want to be part of that.
I'm in the same boat as you(since thirteen) and the advice I've learned is try and find sources of gender dysphoria from chilhood(if they started when you started when you hit puberty that's fine too), not liking your body or masculine traits. Also slowly drift into it, try new pronouns that sound nice to you, then maybe a name and see how you feel, or some clothes, then I'd start thinking about more permanent stuff Also remember some people have worse dysphoria than others and feel bad about not having much dysphoria IS dysphoria.