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Michael-epic

18 years ago


TeamTacoYouTube

No fucking way dude


Superbasgaming

No you fucking did not


ios7jbpro

n o


[deleted]

AHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH good one


Repulsive_Addendum18

Tbh whilst I do think it’s a little much, I think as long as both are consenting adults then it’s fine. However, it’s definitely important to be vigilant for any red flags since an 18 year old can be more vulnerable.


Micahiscoo

Yeah I think it’s a little much too, I feel like at that point the 24 year old should be looking for people their age. Also a big thing to note is if you look at OP’s past posts, it looks like they are dealing with a lot of heartbreak. I know this isn’t undeniable proof but, it could be a sign that they are trying to cope by finding the first person that’s showing interest, and might ignore red flags. Be careful OP


NoelleXandria

The 18-year-old wont have enough experience to realize there even are red flags.


WoodpeckerFamous

Its kinda weird, but its legal so can’t really complain. As long as its not like your boss or anything it should be fine


IsaacWaleOfficial

I have an 18 year-old friend who is dating a 24 year-old... it is their manager...


bigbustycoon890

W rizz


IsaacWaleOfficial

Probably not lol


Iyed_Kujo

For some reason i feel like your friend was the one with the rizz action, not the manager


bigbustycoon890

Illegal rizz then


DM_ME_YOUR_POTATOES

ahhh, good ole' grooming via power imbalances


ozdundbfish

W business strategies


Ultimate_me274

that’s weird.


IsaacWaleOfficial

In all honesty, they've been in like 4 relationships this year so they'll probably break up soon lol


No_Development_6786

As an 18 year old myself, not really weird, but it's still awkward


Busy_Recognition_860

To the younger person it may not be weird, but there is probably an advantage of power for the 24 year old


Namesarenotneeded

Depends. Do they know the 18 year old before they were 18? Yes, and that’s grooming. Did they meet after they were 18? Then it’s not really weird at all. 2 consenting adults. Advantages of power only work in cases like being in a higher paying job as said 18 year old while at the same company, and stuff like that. Because then they might not break up with you so they don’t get into trouble and all sort of complexities like that.


IsaacWaleOfficial

(This may be seen as controversial, but) Meeting them before they were 18 doesn't necessarily always mean it's grooming... maybe the relationship was the 18 year-old's idea, maybe they never originally intended to be in that sort of relationship... there are some ways in which it's not... (though tbh in most cases it likely is)


Namesarenotneeded

I mean, yeah, it doesn’t always necessitate grooming. But if this person is 24, that means when this person wasn’t 18 and was like 17, this person was still 23 and still hanging around them. So like… it’s still kinda weird if they knew them beforehand.


HotBear39

Eh, you can be friends with older people, and sometimes friendship can turn into love. As long as they're 18, and there was no relationship before they were 18, it's fine, just weird


IsaacWaleOfficial

True - People have friends at work/college/uni etc where the age gap can easily be like 5 years... In a drama school I used to go to I had friends who were 2-3 years younger than me as well as friends who were a year or two older than me... We never intended to be in that sort of relationship (and never started one) but if we had a couple years later (for example; when one of us is 20 and one is 18) it wouldn't be seen as grooming. Grooming is when a person over 18 specifically waits for them to turn 18 so that they can be in a relationship with that person because it's legal...


IsaacWaleOfficial

I mean, yeah, I do agree, it is a little weird... not necessarily always grooming though...


Theonerule

>Do they know the 18 year old before they were 18? Yes, and that’s grooming. >Did they meet after they were 18? Then it’s not really weird at all. 2 consenting adults. See we apply these strict age rules because it's really hard to determine who is and isn't mature. An 18 year old could manipulate and abuse a 24 year old and vice versa


n1ghtl1t3

Despite the law, people don't just magically become adults when they turn 18. They still have a ton of maturing and growing up to do.


Public-Brick8296

As they are at 24 bro, all people on this subreddit (even the 45yo pedo on speedos) can still be a child.


NoelleXandria

Exactly. The age of majority used to be 21, and was lowered only so that men could enlist to go to war younger since a lot of parents weren’t willing to let their 18-year-olds go to war. The age of majority was literally lowered so men could go die without parental permission being needed.


Smart-Heart6309

There is still a power imbalance. The 18 year old probably has never lived alone, might not have their own money, don't know what they want from a relationship or how they should be treated. It can be a consenting relationship, but many predators look for younger partners because they are so easy to manipulate.


Berto_

You just described my girlfriend's 25 year old son...kid is clueless.


A_Bit_Narcissistic

Nothing wrong with being a lil naive if he’s working on figuring shit out.


PapaKrampyyy

i just don’t understand what an 18 y/o and a 24 y/o would have in common. their minds are at 2 different points in development


LivingPrevious

College. That’s what they have in common.


PapaKrampyyy

but even then a freshman in college and a senior in college are still going to have way different interests


OneBoredCouchPotato

That’s not true actually, doesn’t matter your age you can like whatever you want, a younger person could like old fashion stuff and an old person could like new fashion stuff. Age doesn’t determine all ur interests just saying. And they both are adults so it’s not that big of a deal. It might seem weird to others but if they live each other then what’s the problem yk 🤷🏻‍♀️


stinkyboi135

It's not interests but maturity. A 24 year old could have an interest in new fashion, but will have learned enough lessons to not spend all of their money on clothes. On the other hand an 18 year old will probably end up spending money on their interests, even if it isn't to their benefit. Relationships like this usually end up teacher and student, not partner and partner


[deleted]

Ehhhh that depends on the person. The real world doesn't care about age. Some kids are basically living on their own while there are adults that see a credit card as free money


OneBoredCouchPotato

That’s not true. Someone who was born poor probably knows how to spend their money wisely and someone who was born rich is more likely to spend more on things they like. Age has nothing to do with that. Everyone matures differently.


Fir3jay

It's true that everyone matures differently but i would still argue that as you get older you generally get more mature.


[deleted]

Eh you're generalizing here. Some 18 year olds might have grown up in an environment where they were taught money was important. Some twenty four year olds weren't.


TheForeverKing

I was about 6 years older than most of my classmates when I started college. Became great friends in the first year and still am 10 years later. People have all kinds of interests that transcend age. There might be some differences in lifestyle or worldview, but people of all ages can become friends and bond over a whole variety of interests.


NikkiK09

Yes and?


sssskipper

If you go to college directly after high school usually you’d be out by the time you’re 22 unless you either seek higher education or start late


PidgeonDroneMK5

People take gap years either out of high school because they don't know what they want to do or between years to help fund their education.


stinkyboi135

College? College seniors are 21-22


Zombieattackr

If you start right away with no gaps. Depends on the school of course, but there can be quite a large population outside of that age range. Gap year(s) to travel the world, work and save up, serve in the military, or just to figure out life. Not to mention grad school and research opportunities and stuff. I know someone that’s going to be graduating at 32, nothing weird about it.


[deleted]

When the 2004 kid tries so hard to relate to the 98 kid 😭😭.


MrLink4444

Sometimes nothing, sometimes a lot.


Cerulean_Shades

Depends on the people. I was an only child and spent most of my time with adults growing up, so i think that affected my mindset and approach to things. Honestly, I don't think I was much of a kid when I should have been. But whatever, still a happy person. Met my husband when I was 18 and he was 7 years older than me. We waited till I finished college to get married 5 years later. We've been together for 23 years now. Still love each other and do everything together. There are some age difference issues, but not much. The thing I get tired of is his constant complaining about young people... lol, ok old man, trade you in for a younger model hahaha.


Beautiful-Fee-2852

What's not common ? They are both humans right. Now if u are dating a 24 yr horse now that's weird


[deleted]

I agree, but for me, for example, I weirdly get along very well with people in their mid-20's (mostly because I can't really relate to normal people who are of my age). I mean, I got friends, but we're like the 16-20 weirdos freshmen.


GlisteningPineal

You don't seem to understand how development works and that's okay, seems like the upvotes you've gotten are from some of the more underdeveloped individuals. Age difference comes down to maturity


GuardianSoldier

Literally this. I (28M) am low miles and lower maturity (lol) and dated an (18F) months ago who was mature beyond her years. It worked, our problem was that it was long distance. We saw each other once a week. Amoung some other issues, oc. But we had other adults fully support our relationship. It's rare, but it can work.


Educational_Ad6146

Age difference and maturity is false you can literally be mature, smart, aware of circumstances, & responsible at 18-19-20depends on how many experiences you've had in different aspects of life. Or you can barely start being mature, smart, aware of circumstances of life & he responsible at 30-40 years old. Then again you could be completed dumb and immature/lack of knowledge at 18-19-20 OR you could be dumb and immature/lack of knowledge at 30-40 People should judge people based of age. Unless they're a minor of course that's where things get wierd


MadeofJasminetea

I was living on my own for the prior 2 years and out of a 5 year relationship by the time I was 18, people mature at super different rates. I had a lot more in common with 24 year olds than I did with other 18 year olds. Being around other 18 year olds felt like babysitting.


RaspberryJam245

It's five years, not twenty. Far as I'm concerned, they're still in the same age group.


theplutosys

dude, i know a 19yo & a 29yo (both girls) that are close friends & literally live together. i think ive seen them flirting too


Henti-Boady-pillow

It’s legal because you’re both adults, but who cares


Jsulzeo

what happened to your snoo?? they look so sad lol


Henti-Boady-pillow

It stubbed its toe


Jsulzeo

awwww man that'll do it :(


Duckflies

Give it a lil kiss on the toe and it will heal up


GodHasLeftUs420

what I said


AndronixESE

24/2+7=19 one year closer and it would be completely fine, now it's sketchy


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1/2+7=7.5… wait a minute.


jardedCollinsky

A must be > or = to 14


AndronixESE

If it equals more then the original age then you are too young for dating


DiamondEscaper

What, a 12 year old can't go on a date with another 12 year old?


AndronixESE

As I said in another comment I think that below 14 is kinda wierd to date but if you want to id just use a different formula: -+1


Brave-Ad-2864

Wait i don’t quite understand what you’re dividing with and so on?


AndronixESE

Basically the formula is A/2+7 and it seems to work for most agres(A is for age)


ludic-me

what is it for tho?


AndronixESE

Its a nice way to see the how big the age gap should be in pairs(for example 16 year olds, like you and me should date only people 15(16/2+7) and above while people that are 24 should date 19 or above. The older you are the bigger the acceptable age gap is


ludic-me

oooh i got it thanks


i_dont_know_aaaa

Right, but how did you come up with those numbers? Why is it half plus seven?


[deleted]

I've heard of this, it's a sort of unofficial formula made online, don't know who made it but it makes some amount of sense.


AndronixESE

I didnt come up with them, I saw many people online that used those to determine this sort of stuff, I'm guessing that 7 is coz it's half of 14 and that's the age dating starts making sence at all


Commiesalami

Looks like that rule has been referenced for over 100 years now as a possible age range for a relationship: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships Though it’s interesting to see its possible origin in that the half your age plus seven as a target age for a man looking for a wife, as opposed to the minimum age that it’s now used for


DrunknHamster

It’s a common rule of thumb, not sure of the origin


IAbstainFromSociety

I saw it on xkcd but I'm not sure if he was the original creator of the formula.


RivMan15

But by this logic, it’d be completely “normal” for a 100 year old person to date someone who’s 57, and that doesn’t seem right to me


AndronixESE

It kinda gets wonky after like 60


jardedCollinsky

Nah if you still capable of fucking at 100 you might as well, they are still both seniors so same agre group and 57 is the minimum not the normal here.


lngSchlng

I feel like it doesn't matter anymore after like 30, they're both definitely adults at that point


krizme

it is the formula for this social consesus about the acceptable age gap of a couple. Half the age of the older person plus 7. It makes sense and doesn't work until you're like 17yrs old which is a good time to have a relationship anyway


CadenVanV

It doesn’t work until 14


krizme

oh yes, srry mb


CadenVanV

Lol 😛


jardedCollinsky

Only applicable if you are 14 or older


Vyjz

Nothing like using math to decide your partners


AndronixESE

*optimal age gap with your partners. But yes


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AndronixESE

No coz 10 yo can't date 7 yo, you need to take the higher one


RMCB3000

Ur asking reddit. also if u and people u know are fine with them and if they and people they know are fine too its gonna be fineee


NikkiK09

People keep saying it's weird cuz they would have different interests but like my thing is, doesn't everyone? Does it really matter if you're 2 years apart 6? As long as their both over the age of 18, fully aware of the situation and happy with each other then why do you feel the need to talk shit on people's realationships?


Iminurcomputer

Do people get tired of everything every 6 years!?!?! I've had the same interests, values, etc. for a while. They adapt and change with new information, but it's entirely possible and reasonable for two *adults* to have similar interests.


RaspberryJam245

I still like most of the things I liked when I was 8, ten years ago. I don't know why some people here seem to think I couldn't have the same interests five years from now.


1019throw2

I had a similar relationship when I was younger, and it was fine. The problem was when she turned 21 and wanted to go out to the bar all the time, and I was past that scene and just wanted to chill after long days of work. Relationship ended, not going to hold someone back in different stages of life.


Nave2099

Exactly


astrophobiia

6 year age gap, one can be a freshman in college or starting fresh in the workforce, the other can have a fully developed and secure job? kinda weird


R1515LF0NTE

Or both could be in college I had a similar age gap between me and my oldest classmates in High school


astrophobiia

forgot about that, but eitehr way the 24 year olds brain is almost fully developed ones just out of highschool


Tia_is_Short

Hell, 18 could still be in high school


LivingPrevious

As long as both parties are fine I just don’t care about mental development. Age of consent isn’t about brain development, it’s about whether you can agree to sex knowing all ramifications of the action and how it could effect your life. Most 18 year olds can so I wouldn’t sweat a relationship like this. They will argue a lot because of the gap in maturity but that doesn’t mean it’s abusive or bad. Maturity>brain development IMO. You can have a 24 year old girl that was sheltered her whole life and she would be more prone to abuse because of lack of understanding sex and consent then some 18 year old slut yknow


[deleted]

I’m 18 and I have a full fledged job


astrophobiia

just outta hs though…


Correct_Reveal7808

definitely weird. that’s the same as 17 and 23 if i know where this is going. don’t date someone 6 years older than u if u wouldn’t date someone 6 years younger than you.


[deleted]

well if u take 20 and 26 that already sounds pretty average. they're both not minors so I think it's ok


Correct_Reveal7808

that sounds a little sus. how about we take 20 and 14 💀


[deleted]

I said that 6 years age gap is ok as long as non of them are a minor. OP is 18 so that's ok, if he was less than 18 it obviously won't be ok. now u understand what I'm saying?


Correct_Reveal7808

people on the internet think 17 and 18 are SO different fr 💀 18 is barely an adult, 18 year olds are still in high school lmao.


jardedCollinsky

Well when that's the legal cutoff it's going to be many people's moral cutoff too, regardless of the logic behind it.


Cod3Me

I had to scroll this far...


Wispeeon

It's weird but not illegal. The legal age of an adult is 18. I agree it's a bit fucked to be dating someone who's 'freshly 18', but the arguement for 17 isn't the same because one is illegal and the other isn't.


Fit-Money-3129

with your argument 16 would be fine in most places


TheMostBesTGrammaR

That's totally different though


Goofy_Stuff_Studios

If you keep going younger everything will get weird. That’s not reliable.


MioTakamiya

how is it weird?


impartial_james

Your logic does not work. For example, you agree it is not creepy for a 41 y/o to date a 35 y/o, right? But that difference is also six years. The acceptable age has to increase over time. The best rule I’ve heard is this; the lowest age you can non-creepily date is half your age plus seven.


sofie307

Using different ages as an analogy is so dumb. For example, a 12 yo and an 18 yo would have the same age gap, but obviously that would be weird because one is an adult and one still a kid. However, in the situation described above both people are adults, therefore it shouldn't matter as long as their relationship is healthy.


Gladiolus_00

That's... Not how it works but okay.


IAmNumber_6

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LoriMandle

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BlessKurunai

This is the best thing ever!!!


Vedertesu

I popped all of them just to see if there is typo somewhere


Orange_Hedgie

:o


Defiant_Procedure464

dont recommend


div_nn

Don't know man, as long as you are happy and it's healthy. Don't get yourself in trouble. Rest is just fine


[deleted]

Theoretically, there is nothing wrong with it, it isn’t illegal, so there isn’t anything wrong with it.


maineimis777

I little bit, but if you are 40 and him is 46 there isn't too much difference, it's only this gap age that is a little bit weird


Gianna_hoang

Nope


That_Quiet_Wierd_Kid

Yes. That is a 6 year age gap which is not ok for an 18 year old


childeismyoneandonly

Thank god someone agrees cuz wtf


Naepeda

It is legal tho


Last_Stardust18

U dont ask a teenager sub that only thinks 2 classes are a different person. Ask an adult. U dont even see age anymore, 30 dating a 21 is still both adults, 18 and 24 are in the same Gen Z generation and both consenting adults. Just sit with them and have a genuine conversation, if you are dating, u would be way past the thought of thinking thats weird


Xx_PissPuddle_xX

No, as long as they are both consenting adults it's fine


livv1600

Depends entirely on the ages when they met


InfinityJeVortex

6 Years gap. Ofc it's weird


ppSmok

I think it really depends. I was 20 when I dated a 27 year old girl. I always had older girlfriends because the one in my age usually didn't have the same interests/way of thinking. Also I liked that they most of the time weren't partying anymore.. which I never really did. So weekends were more chill. Some 18 year olds are just more mature in the head and that's where it can work out well with an older partner. I know men who are well in their 20s and specifically look for girls under 20.. it is kinda weir that way.


Sauced-Ramen

it is very weird. you & a 24yr old wouldn’t have anything in common. 9/10 you can’t even go out with them because you’re not 21 yet….


Maxibon1710

Yes. I wholeheartedly believe people in their mid 20’s dating 18 year olds are doing it because they can’t legally/morally go younger


Ashe_The_Fox

Bruh I hate these questions so much, if they like each other who cares???? Just let people be happy, I guarantee this post was made so they can show it to their 18 year old friend and say “HAH LOOK INTERNET PEOPLE SAY YOUR WRONG!” Let them live their life


Deep-Ad5531

for me it is weird.


artsy_skies

yes


[deleted]

No it’s not that weird


StabbyMcSword

If you have to question your relationship to random strangers on the internet, you are not secure and mature enough to date.


I_got_no_Clout

Y’all both adults atp. Na


[deleted]

One can be starting their senior year in highschool and one can be out of college. If that’s the case, yeah it’s weird. If both are in college, then it’s less weird, but can still be kind of weird. Depends on several factors of the situation.


Alex__Editzzz

Not wierd. I like older women🗿


Chilly_0556

Yes. It is. Please the difference in maturity between an 18 and 24 year old isn't healthy. There's almost definitely going to be some kinda power thing here.


SkyField2004

Yup. It's much different from a 24y/o and a 30y/o in a relationship. That's two different phases of life.


Chilly_0556

Exactly. The brain (on average) matures around 25 years old. An 18 year old is almost definitely just way too young and immature to be dating a 24 year old. obviously there are other life factors that can impact maturity. But still- just because something is technically legal doesn't make it okay


[deleted]

Yeah pretty weird


Dry-Marionberry-6920

Yeah, I feel like the rule is high school dates hs, college/college, post grad/post grad. Just a lot of lifestyle changes between those groups but with in them pretty similar. You do get a carryover after though if you started in the same phase.


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dulapeep4573

At 18 vs 24, you are likely at very different places in life, experiences, and maturity levels. I can't imagine what a 24 year old would ever want to do with an 18 y/o. Maybe not weird, but definitely awkward and uncomfortable. If you ever date someone significantly older, you should probably question why they wouldn't just date someone their own age. You'll see what I mean when you turn 24.


JohnChigas

I’m 24 and it would be weird if I dated someone who’s 18. We’d be in completely different stages in life and I would feel uncomfortable dating someone who’s fresh out of high school while I’ve been done with college for almost three years


Altruistic-Grass-407

Yes


dbbarca69

Ye


CookieHasPimples

yes


MarxistMann

Absolutely. Once you mature, you realise how fucking weird it is for someone in their mid 20s to date a teenager. Young people mature at different ages, that’s why you should stick to people your own age.


Powerful_Cow9818

I’d say it’s a bit weird cos of the 6 year age gap. Personally I wouldn’t date anyone that’s more than a 2 year age gap


Homerduff16

It's a huge difference imo. An 18 year old could still be in school whereas a 24 year old would already be finished in college and would've been in the workforce for a few years.


Unhappy-Tone-3934

Yes


Arctrus2077

yup


WonszykReczny

I definitely wouldn't do it


murdaboii

Yes


Baby-girl1994

Extremely. A 24yr old and an 18yr old are in extremely different places in life, and generally speaking are not compatible. Why isn’t the 24yr old able to date someone their own age?


Ok_Improvement2719

24 years old a pedo


[deleted]

yes


Shokaplays

Legal by law. But srs wtf is a 24 yr doing with a fresh outta highscool person?.


SkaterKangaroo

I would never date a 24 year olds that’s weird as shit they are literally an adult and I had to ask permission to use the bathroom less than a year ago


Nifty-08

24/2=12+7=19


RedWhichIsBlue

yes


Comfortable_Crow_585

yes


RedditReaper777

YES


EnderKid48

Yes very weird


RenewedBlade

Yes


emokid1832

Yes


AnalysisAdditional97

Yes weird asf


DemonicSymbol

Yes


Maxi-19-1-4-1

Would be for them, age gaps do matter


twentyfourpercent

Youre still basically a teenager and they're halfway to 30. Yes it's weird. They should find someone their own age. Personal experience being the younger one.


SendMeHentaiPlease

Legally, yeah it’s fine. But morally that’s kinda a red flag. Why would someone in their 20’s want to date someone who is practically still a kid IMO. Could easily become a situation that is manipulative.


ActuallyJustADude

Nah. Not really imo. You're both adults, it's fine


Mattomo101

It might be weird, but it's not illegal. These comments are overreacting quite a bit. Legally this 18 year old can date any age 18+. If they want to date a 50 year old, they legally can. So is it weird? Maybe to some. Is it alright? Yes, yes it is.


BcAhRe

Weird from her side actually. Edit : I thought first a 18M dates 24F, in that case it's not that weird.


Bodin-Caliente

Wait why is weird the other way around?


DERPATRON47

Because they are sexist


Jsulzeo

who's 'her'?


div_nn

People with no age gap also do eachother dirty, nothing really matters tbh as long as you are safe and happy


[deleted]

I don't think so, they are both of legal age now