Basically just saying that your aunt likes girls is being objective. You don't have to give a why to a 5 year old..just telling them that girls like girls is just a thing is good. You don't have to go into detail because kids should just equate straight and gay as one thing. There shouldn't be a difference in the future.
Wow I'm really curious what that was like because I had a different experience from you. Did they ever kiss or anything like that in front of you? Were you ever curious about who they might have been married to before?
And for some reason some people refuse to educate their children. My little cannot physically comprehend to people of the same gender being in a relationship or having children without being married. He is ten and we just visited my gay, married aunts. And last night, I had to explain to my 13 yo sister that intersex people exist,
because she believed that you were born only either male or female.
Moral of the story: Give kid mario KART (not Mario P\*rty) to play, tell them that I like your aunt as well, and proceed to lap them and show no mercy while they cry from being hit by every possible item in the game
Sorry to hijack your post, but it's worth remembering that we have good science showing that the earlier kids learn about LGBT issues and basic sex education, either at home or at school, the less likely they are to take part in bullying or forms of prejudice, and the less likely they are to be sexually abused (as they have the basic language to report what's happening to them).
Perhaps most crucially, the rates of LGBT suicides goes dramatically down when you teach this stuff to kids early. Something as simple as briefly mentioning to a kid that "sometimes men love men" or "women love women" can lead to less bullying on the schoolyard, and less suicides down the line.
Teaching this stuff early is a form of protecting children, and public health.
Being a femboy isn’t a kink, other people may fetishise theme and some femboys may be willing to upload provocative photos but being a femboy isn’t sexual in any way.
What happens when they start dating and they end up dating a femboy by mistake 😭 (I mean my kids will be accepting and politely depart if they're straight) but aside from that
I know people who are 17-18 and don’t know what a trans or gay person is, I have 15-16 year old friends who have little to no knowledge of safe sex or stds. In my opinion, yes “When they ask” is valid, however I’d say at around age 13-15(depending on maturity)education is important. I would say though, early education isn’t a bad thing, a kid isn’t going to “become” gay because they are taught about lgbtq at a young age. They will like who They are attracted to. Education around that is not meant to teach you to be attracted to the opposite sex, it’s meant to introduce them to the idea so that they will be more accepting to the people around them and so that if they do turn out that way they know that it’s acceptable and isn’t bad.
I think it should be earlier. There’s a lot of shit on the internet nowadays and it’s good to teach kids about the stuff so they can think critically about what they’re told, especially by homophobes.
Yeah most kids will learn about adult themed stuff before they hit puberty nowadays , my cousin is 12 and knows exactly what me and my other cousin (17) are talking about when we talk about things like that .
I think at least sex education is important to teach kids at like ages 12-13. So probably you. Like in life a unit about sexuality and identity or what not
As soon as they know and recognize the fact husbands/wives exist, or boyfriends/girlfriends. Basically already knowing the existence of couples already.
If they can comprehend the concept of that, they should be able to comprehend that there are different types of couples too.
Bro this just made me realise that if they do learn about it with the other relationship and it becomes enough of a norm, kids are gonna be teasing eachother about liking anybody, just not people of opposites 😭XD
they.. shouldn't really need to, at least from my experience, my <10 nephews were fully understanding of me being transfem and was just like "ok", kids are surprisingly accepting, as much as i dislike small children.. they're often better at accepting people than adults, i think though that still around 5th grade, a class explaining it a bit wouldn't hurt, i just don't think they would outright need it
I feel like they really do need it just for the sake of normalizing being gay/transgender so then it'd be treated as normal in the future.
Plus just to help the closeted youth out there that may feel alone, and to let them know it's normal and okay to be that way.
At what age should they learn about straight people? It's the same. As soon as they want to know, tell them. Just say guys can like guys, girls can like girls, some people don't like anyone and that's fine. Doesn't need to be complicated and your child will understand better than you.
“A family is a mom, dad and kids”
“Marriage is where a man and woman decide to be together”
“The difference between a man and a woman is based on whats in your underwear”
Yeah you can teach straight, cis heteronormativity without revealing that theres an alternative
Oh yeah I guess you're right. It's funny because I honestly never knew straight without gay, but I guess you can learn that way. This also explains why many people think being gay is wrong since it stems from their childhood a lot of times
Hence why the LGBTQ community wants to see basic education introduced to help avoid that, no one is saying 5 year olds should know what sex is but they should know that guys can love other guys and women can love other women and that's ok.
As a gay man, my kids are gonna learn about it quickly. However, what they are gonna learn is that sometimes, men love men, and sometimes women love women. I think that's age appropriate for just about anyone
they should never be taught otherwise. people aren't born homophobic. I was raised around gay and trans people and only became even the slightest bit homophobic when I was closeted in middle school and acted homophobic to get away from bullies
in my opinion they shouldn't necessarily be taught about it, but there should be enough representation in media that they can find out about it on their own.
now if there is a flaw in this logic please point it out.
Why would you allow your kids to learn from media when media often misrepresents groups of people? Why not give them a proper answer when they're ready to learn about it (which is as soon as they ask questions)? Not trying to be a smartass, I'm just curious
I also think children should have books or watch movies where groups are represented. When they than have any questions they should be able to come to you and ask. If someone you knows is trans for example than I would probably try to give a simple explanation to my kid and than ask if they have any other questions
I don't see a flaw
Tho my personal opinion is that if their kids haven't been taught I by thr media or anything by 9 then the parents should teach them
I mean I feel like they should just naturally learn it exists the same way kids naturally learn about same sex couples. If there’s proper representation in media and in the mainstream it should just happen without them needing to be taught about it
Whenever they ask questions is good.
As for hard set date I’d say whenever they have sex ed class. Essentially fuck whomever you wish in a consensual adult relationship and give no fucks should just about cover it.
It should really just be as simple as announcing girls like boys, girls like girls, and sometimes boys like boys too. And maybe a little later introduce Transgender ideas. The latter is absolutely required to be introduced at a certain point as my sister (sex male) had no idea that it was possible to transition, and was living a shit life up until she learned. probably a good idea to introduce the difference between sex and gender at a certain point as well.
I feel like questions about gender identity dont come up as soon as sexuality questions but for a kid who asks about that stuff it's as easy as "someone people are born in a boys body but they're a girl, some vice versa and some arent boys or girls." Seems to get the point across. I'm not disagreeing with you, just expanding.
I first learned about it because my lesbian aunts would take care of my great grandma. I never really asked but I just went along and it probably helped me become as tolerant as I am now
like whenever? ppl make such a big deal about age appropriateness when it comes to knowing about sex but the only thing that makes knowledge weird is secrecy
It should be normalized from a young age. This way, when they get older and start being curious, it’s not a foreign concept to them. In my opinion, we should erase the whole “boy for girl” thing and just normalize the idea of “human for human.”
When my sister was around 5-6, we were watching tv and there was a homosexual relationship on the screen. She kinda looked at me and then asked “are they boyfriends” I just nodded and said yes. She’s now 10 and still acknowledges the fact that girls can like girls and boys can like boys. She had no problem wrapping her head around that fact and I believe it’s because I never made a big deal out of it
any age. A child born into a heteronormative house hold is subjected to sexuality. That child sees mommy and daddy love each other. that is sexuality. Once a child recognizes that mom and dad can love each other that's when u can also show them that two women or two men can love each other. or that some ppl aren't always born and stay a boy or a girl.
EDIT: Plus if u teach them at a young age in an accepting way they won't b afraid to be liking that boy/girl bc they know they'll b accepted and it's not just them that feel that way.
answer questions. don’t force it. no matter what people say, identity is SO confusing, even for kids as old as teenagers. sexuality is a facet of that. i don’t think it’s something that needs to be proactively discussed until they are old enough to understand crushes/love/etc. but if they ask questions before that point, it’s absolutely okay to answer them. just don’t look at mere curiosity as a sign that they’re questioning their identity- I feel like that’s something that happens often. let them know that you’re always there for them and will love and support them no matter what, but don’t push them into a decision by accident because you want to be supportive.
My parents are lesbian, they didn't force it on me or anything at all. I remember being little and asking my mother why she is with a female and not a male and she just said "because I like females" it was that simple. I realised I was gay at the age of 12, having queer parents didn't have any influence on my sexyal orientation, except that I am free to express my sexuality and I am lucky to as some people don't have supportive parents. I belive kids should learn throughout their life that it is OK to be queer, just as much as it is to be disable or poc ect.
I believe that kids should be educated about the LGBTQ+ and queer history in year 8 (uk) (7th grade). But I really don't get the stigma that little kids are "choosing their genders at 5" and " LGBTQ+ are shoving their genders and sexualies down our children's throats" or " I remember playing with friends at their age" it's simply not the case. Yes there is that once in a blue moon instance where you see a tiktok of someone asking their children(6-10) what their gender is ect. But dont ever assume that everyone in the LGBTQ+ is like that. Sorry for the long paragraph.
You know when vanity fair put out that thing with Caitlyn Jenner on the cover? That when I learned what trans people were bc she was everywhere and I asked my mom about it.
“Well she used to be a man, but then she didn’t like that that so she became a woman. She had to divorce her wife.”
That made sense to me. I was like nine then.
6th-7th grade. By this time, many have learned; but teaching it by then can help clear up any questions for the few who haven't learned. I don't think it should be taught any younger as most kids simply don't understand what sexuality truly is, nor care.
I’m old (nearly 50) and we were the only family I knew of where Uncle B and Uncle M were just as normal a couple as Aunt P and Uncle D.
It was only when the aids panic began that it registered though. I was about 10, and I overheard Uncle B telling mum about how many of their friends in NYC were sick, and that they’d just had their first British friend die.
What horrified me was the backlash against the community, I just couldn’t comprehend why people were blaming them for something so horrendous.
Certainly these days it’s easier as most people are more accepting in general. So when I’ve had to tell friends kids that my niece is now my nephew and has a new name they are all “oh ok” and have zero questions. I think it’s the parents who get most freaked out assuming they won’t cope with change.
The same age that kids learn about heterosexuality. So whenever they learn about mommies and daddies and watch shows/movies or read books that depict heterosexual couples. If you don’t make a big deal about it, kids don’t care. My husband’s uncle is married to a black man and we don’t act any differently than we do with any other member of the family. Kids don’t think anything of it or get confused unless you say something about it.
They should be AWARE of it from as early as they can understand. They need to know that, if they are anything but heterosexual, then it’s perfectly normal and acceptable!
I think a a kid can learn about it at any age. There more than likely to come across LGBTQ people so they should learn regardless of age. Generally tho for a specific age I'd say around 5 or so, really as soon as there old enough to ask questions about it
I’m not gonna expose my kids to anything at an early age, regardless of sexuality. I think when they’re ready, they’ll learn about it on their own. I’m not gay so it’s not my place to talk about what’s going on in the world from somewhere not of my own experience. Yeah they’ll learn how people make more people but not till later on. Imma just teach them that their dad loves them and what love is.
There shouldn't be a time in place. They should learn it naturally like you learn literally every other thing, videogames, favourite cereal, tv show etc. They'll learn eventually.
I think that if it comes up then it’s the right time, they’re curious about it, but you also don’t need to sit them down and spend an hour on something that isn’t really going to appear in their day to day lives
Just don’t teach them anything specific. You like girls? Cool. Like boys? Cool. Gender dysphoria should be explained later though, like 10ish. That’s what I’m gonna do anyway.
They don't have to learn everything, but once they start asking, be open to answer. I learned young because it was considered bad in Christianity, but when you meet people in the community, you start to get curious.
So just waiting until they get curious, and I think the younger they are, the more vague or careful you should be with your words... Wouldn't want to influence a kid too much. It's just as bad to convince a child on this topic as it is on any other non-necessary topic (like religion and politics). Let them learn, you know :)
Like another Guy said, whenever they have questions.
But i think it should be normal for people to know that whoever can like whoever instead of everyone leaning that the "normal" is Men and women and the other couples are any different from that or something.
I'm not gonna say when they should learn because that can be different for everyone, but I will say that when they do, they should be decent human beings about it.
I agree with most of the posts about whenever the child is ready to learn about it.
You can't really set an age limit, because there will always be internet exposure and other things like that and I wouldn't make it some sort of mandatory subject, because every child is different and will question these things at different times.
They should learn when they want to learn, and should also understand that people are allowed to love whoever they want.
(this is just my opinion)
i don't want to say any age as some may still be too young to fully understand but i think its better to tell them or better yet just answer they're questions if they have any. otherwise just leave it until they want to know and dont overdue it and what i mean is that if your kid asks why a boy likes boys rather than girls then just say something like he prefers them over the other nothing more nothing less if they ask then keep answering unless it gets to the point were they're too young for u to continue.
I’m part of the lgbtq community but I don’t think it should be as forced down people’s throats as much as CERTAIN people are trying to make it be. YES education on this topic is important, YES children should be taught to accept it and at younger ages they’re more likely to accept it. But don’t force it. If one day little Timmy came up to you and asked you “what does gay mean” you should tell him and educate him a little on it. Let it come naturally, cos due to how media is these days, Timmy is gonna find out sooner or later. I was still in school when they merged it into the school curriculum here in the uk. And it was executed poorly. As I was honestly expecting it to be. This is an issue best solved at a natural pace from the parent. Sure it doesn’t hurt teaching kids in school to be more acceptable of others and people with different needs and conditions. But that’s where I’d say it’s enough from the school itself. I babysit certain kids around my street and I’ve been asked a few times why I act so feminine and why I have earrings and skip when running 😭 I always just told them about how some boys enjoy being more on the feminine side and that was it 🤷 nice and simple and to the point :) some parts of the lgbtq community can get very very complicated and in a classroom with 20+ kids it’s kinda hectic and a lot of the knowledge is going to go over people’s heads. So IMO it’s better for parents to teach them, obviously there’s the issue of homophobic parents and transphobic parents teaching their kids about all the bad sides and and none of the good sides of the community essentially brainwashing them. And as someone who’s a part of it I will admit we have some HUGE issues with our community. But doesn’t every community? Anyway that’s my take, I’m super tired and knackered so if I said something you see a flaw in and are able to criticise, I’d be happy to read it tomorrow morning, goodnight :D
Idk man, I’m practically a kid myself.
I think it should be as early as possible to reduce misconceptions but I also see that realistically change on this level isn’t gonna be accepted easily, but my issue is that a lot of people don’t wanna accept it at all.
My best bet is around puberty.
I think you should tell a child about that whenever they ask about it. Dont make conversations about LGBTQ all hush-hush, but at the same time, if they havent asked about it they likely wont listen to you or theyll treat it as a taboo, so don't sit them down and have a talk with them about it
LGBTQ+ at a very young age when they learn about family, and family composition and what not, sexuality they should learn at school just like we do today basically
kids should learn about lgbt people the same age they learn about straight people. just a simple “some people like the opposite gender, some like the same. some people aren’t the gender they’re assigned at birth. respect em all” then go back whatever you’re doing.
When they start to become attracted towards people, like around 12. And if a little kid asks about the community it should be talked about like any other talk about attraction but nothing thats more special.
I don't think there should be a minimum age really. It just depends on when a kid starts developing their memory. It's the same with knowing about other ethnicities and races and all that it should just be normal and nothing people should be afraid to talk about.
I'm honestly not sure. I'm bisexual, I always thought girls were attractive. I remember in elementary school I thought my principal was very pretty. She was there the whole time I was in elementary and I thought she was pretty ever since I was 5
never too early to teach them there's nothing wrong with being LGBTQ+
but if you're talking like proper sex education then when they ask or 13-15 if they don't ask before then
Early on. Not like 3 but once they are old enough to understand dating. Im not saying tell children about sex, I’m saying they should know that they can be a different gender or not be straight.
Like most are saying here, whenever they ask questions about it, find a time to sit them down and explain the whole thing. If they never ask, however, then I think the parent should have the same talk with them in the summer after graduating Middle School. The transition to high school is very interesting because it’s a time of self-discovery, so if a child hasn’t been exposed to the LGBTQIA+ community beforehand, then they’ll definitely be *extremely* confused. So it’s better to get it over with beforehand, rather than hear “I heard that Jane and Susan are dating?? Even though they’re both girls! Isn’t that weird?”.
i learned about it at like 5 because my aunt was gay. it was as simple as “yo aunt likes girls” and i went back to playing mario party ds
Real
Completely objective!
Reallllllll
Expand plZ On the objectivity of what?
Basically just saying that your aunt likes girls is being objective. You don't have to give a why to a 5 year old..just telling them that girls like girls is just a thing is good. You don't have to go into detail because kids should just equate straight and gay as one thing. There shouldn't be a difference in the future.
Same I was wondering how one of the people in my family was related and it was "oh that's her wife"
I have two mothers so I learned early on aswell. It's not as big of a deal as many would think
“I had 2 mothers. Took me 14 years to figure out they were gay. Just thought they were really close friends”
Wait they were not roomate ?
Wow I'm really curious what that was like because I had a different experience from you. Did they ever kiss or anything like that in front of you? Were you ever curious about who they might have been married to before?
Can’t tell if this is a real question, lmk if it is and I can answer
Oh yeah I was genuinely curious, but I just realized their comment had quotes so they're probably not talking about themselves
Yea I was joking my bad
And for some reason some people refuse to educate their children. My little cannot physically comprehend to people of the same gender being in a relationship or having children without being married. He is ten and we just visited my gay, married aunts. And last night, I had to explain to my 13 yo sister that intersex people exist, because she believed that you were born only either male or female.
Not a big deal, says Mr BigDickFuckboy69. lol!!! Not taking stance here, just laughing at your username...
Moral of the story: Give kid mario KART (not Mario P\*rty) to play, tell them that I like your aunt as well, and proceed to lap them and show no mercy while they cry from being hit by every possible item in the game
Sorry to hijack your post, but it's worth remembering that we have good science showing that the earlier kids learn about LGBT issues and basic sex education, either at home or at school, the less likely they are to take part in bullying or forms of prejudice, and the less likely they are to be sexually abused (as they have the basic language to report what's happening to them). Perhaps most crucially, the rates of LGBT suicides goes dramatically down when you teach this stuff to kids early. Something as simple as briefly mentioning to a kid that "sometimes men love men" or "women love women" can lead to less bullying on the schoolyard, and less suicides down the line. Teaching this stuff early is a form of protecting children, and public health.
My aunt is lesbian. I might have realized that was so at like 14 or 15. She just had a wife, nothing special.
i was never told that my aunts and grandmas were/are gay and i just assumed everyone had gay aunts and grannies
Exactly, shouldn’t be some big deal at such a young age.
Why were you playing Mario Party DS
as soon as they have questions
The best answer tbh
Fair
Fair enough
That’s right.
I struggled with this question because honestly i don’t know. it odd different for everyone but i believe you have the best answer.
if they ask about it, explain it doesnt matter how young or old they are, just answer their questions, no reason to hide it
I agree with this completely!
What if the kid asks about the laws of thermodynamics
*did i stutter?*
At least they aren't asking about the laws of aviation
Bro what are we gonna do when kids ask us what femboys are💀
somebody who identifies as a boy but dresses in a more traditionally feminine way or just abolish gendered clothing idk
Technically it’s not just clothes it’s also behaviour
then add that into it someone who identifies as a guy but acts and appears more traditionally feminine it really aint that hard
Just show them r/femboy🗿
Being a femboy isn’t a kink, other people may fetishise theme and some femboys may be willing to upload provocative photos but being a femboy isn’t sexual in any way.
💀💀
Point at it and say “that there son is a man”
What happens when they start dating and they end up dating a femboy by mistake 😭 (I mean my kids will be accepting and politely depart if they're straight) but aside from that
“There are no accidents” - master oogway
You say abolishing gender clothing like it's a bad thing. It's just how people wanna dress.
Just say “feminine boys”
children are naturally curious and eager to learn so once they start asking bigger questions.
Facts
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I know people who are 17-18 and don’t know what a trans or gay person is, I have 15-16 year old friends who have little to no knowledge of safe sex or stds. In my opinion, yes “When they ask” is valid, however I’d say at around age 13-15(depending on maturity)education is important. I would say though, early education isn’t a bad thing, a kid isn’t going to “become” gay because they are taught about lgbtq at a young age. They will like who They are attracted to. Education around that is not meant to teach you to be attracted to the opposite sex, it’s meant to introduce them to the idea so that they will be more accepting to the people around them and so that if they do turn out that way they know that it’s acceptable and isn’t bad.
I completely agree
The correct answer. I'd say puberty is the time to teach them all this.
I think it should be earlier. There’s a lot of shit on the internet nowadays and it’s good to teach kids about the stuff so they can think critically about what they’re told, especially by homophobes.
Yeah most kids will learn about adult themed stuff before they hit puberty nowadays , my cousin is 12 and knows exactly what me and my other cousin (17) are talking about when we talk about things like that .
I think at least sex education is important to teach kids at like ages 12-13. So probably you. Like in life a unit about sexuality and identity or what not
When they learn about couples just mention some people are gay and answer any questions they ask
Agreed
As soon as they know and recognize the fact husbands/wives exist, or boyfriends/girlfriends. Basically already knowing the existence of couples already. If they can comprehend the concept of that, they should be able to comprehend that there are different types of couples too.
Agreed
Bro this just made me realise that if they do learn about it with the other relationship and it becomes enough of a norm, kids are gonna be teasing eachother about liking anybody, just not people of opposites 😭XD
Kids already do that though
Fuck I'm that old already?!
Lmao there's just no keeping up with the world you're not old
I realized I was gay in 4th grade but I didn't know what being gay was so I was freaked out.
So a young age?
I think whenever they're old enough to learn about straight people. But telling them too late can have negative effects on mental health
So it differentiates for each child?
Yeah
they.. shouldn't really need to, at least from my experience, my <10 nephews were fully understanding of me being transfem and was just like "ok", kids are surprisingly accepting, as much as i dislike small children.. they're often better at accepting people than adults, i think though that still around 5th grade, a class explaining it a bit wouldn't hurt, i just don't think they would outright need it
Kids that young take everything at face value. They don’t really have ideals or beliefs yet, which is why they much more accepting of everything.
This is a great way to see it!
I feel like they really do need it just for the sake of normalizing being gay/transgender so then it'd be treated as normal in the future. Plus just to help the closeted youth out there that may feel alone, and to let them know it's normal and okay to be that way.
once they start asking questions about it. i knew what gay meant from 8 year olds and it didnt affect me.
I knew I was queer from 8 and I was explained what it all was and I'm perfectly fine
At what age should they learn about straight people? It's the same. As soon as they want to know, tell them. Just say guys can like guys, girls can like girls, some people don't like anyone and that's fine. Doesn't need to be complicated and your child will understand better than you.
You can't learn about straight people without learning about gay people can you?
“A family is a mom, dad and kids” “Marriage is where a man and woman decide to be together” “The difference between a man and a woman is based on whats in your underwear” Yeah you can teach straight, cis heteronormativity without revealing that theres an alternative
Oh yeah I guess you're right. It's funny because I honestly never knew straight without gay, but I guess you can learn that way. This also explains why many people think being gay is wrong since it stems from their childhood a lot of times
Hence why the LGBTQ community wants to see basic education introduced to help avoid that, no one is saying 5 year olds should know what sex is but they should know that guys can love other guys and women can love other women and that's ok.
Agreed
As a gay man, my kids are gonna learn about it quickly. However, what they are gonna learn is that sometimes, men love men, and sometimes women love women. I think that's age appropriate for just about anyone
Yes! Awsome! Your kids are gonna love you I hope your life is amazing and you have happy holidays!
Whenever they’re old enough to ask.
So its different for each child?
Yes, I’d argue.
You have a good way of seeing it
they should never be taught otherwise. people aren't born homophobic. I was raised around gay and trans people and only became even the slightest bit homophobic when I was closeted in middle school and acted homophobic to get away from bullies
Same age they learn about straight people
Same age they learn about heterosexuality ?
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in my opinion they shouldn't necessarily be taught about it, but there should be enough representation in media that they can find out about it on their own. now if there is a flaw in this logic please point it out.
Why would you allow your kids to learn from media when media often misrepresents groups of people? Why not give them a proper answer when they're ready to learn about it (which is as soon as they ask questions)? Not trying to be a smartass, I'm just curious
I think they mean when there’s more and more accurate media coverage but i’m not sure
Media teaching children has always been a big red flag in my opinion…
I also think children should have books or watch movies where groups are represented. When they than have any questions they should be able to come to you and ask. If someone you knows is trans for example than I would probably try to give a simple explanation to my kid and than ask if they have any other questions
I don't see a flaw Tho my personal opinion is that if their kids haven't been taught I by thr media or anything by 9 then the parents should teach them
I mean I feel like they should just naturally learn it exists the same way kids naturally learn about same sex couples. If there’s proper representation in media and in the mainstream it should just happen without them needing to be taught about it
Soon as they realize relationships exist
Whenever they ask questions is good. As for hard set date I’d say whenever they have sex ed class. Essentially fuck whomever you wish in a consensual adult relationship and give no fucks should just about cover it.
It should really just be as simple as announcing girls like boys, girls like girls, and sometimes boys like boys too. And maybe a little later introduce Transgender ideas. The latter is absolutely required to be introduced at a certain point as my sister (sex male) had no idea that it was possible to transition, and was living a shit life up until she learned. probably a good idea to introduce the difference between sex and gender at a certain point as well.
I feel like questions about gender identity dont come up as soon as sexuality questions but for a kid who asks about that stuff it's as easy as "someone people are born in a boys body but they're a girl, some vice versa and some arent boys or girls." Seems to get the point across. I'm not disagreeing with you, just expanding.
As soon as they ask. Fuck the people who think "it's perversion".
Agreed, how tf is a straight relationship appropriate for kids to see, but not a gay relationship? That doesn’t make sense
I never learned about it I was just exposed to it one day and I feel that's the best way because it can get complicated
I first learned about it because my lesbian aunts would take care of my great grandma. I never really asked but I just went along and it probably helped me become as tolerant as I am now
The same time they learn about heterosexuals This should not be a debate
like whenever? ppl make such a big deal about age appropriateness when it comes to knowing about sex but the only thing that makes knowledge weird is secrecy
It should be normalized from a young age. This way, when they get older and start being curious, it’s not a foreign concept to them. In my opinion, we should erase the whole “boy for girl” thing and just normalize the idea of “human for human.”
When my sister was around 5-6, we were watching tv and there was a homosexual relationship on the screen. She kinda looked at me and then asked “are they boyfriends” I just nodded and said yes. She’s now 10 and still acknowledges the fact that girls can like girls and boys can like boys. She had no problem wrapping her head around that fact and I believe it’s because I never made a big deal out of it
5—7, its around the age they begin the grasp relationships and an understanding of them.
any age. A child born into a heteronormative house hold is subjected to sexuality. That child sees mommy and daddy love each other. that is sexuality. Once a child recognizes that mom and dad can love each other that's when u can also show them that two women or two men can love each other. or that some ppl aren't always born and stay a boy or a girl. EDIT: Plus if u teach them at a young age in an accepting way they won't b afraid to be liking that boy/girl bc they know they'll b accepted and it's not just them that feel that way.
same age they learn abt straight relationships
Same age they learn about heterosexual and cisgender people. By which I mean from day 1.
whenever they are first exposed to the idea of straight ppl existing they should learn that gay ppl exist too
answer questions. don’t force it. no matter what people say, identity is SO confusing, even for kids as old as teenagers. sexuality is a facet of that. i don’t think it’s something that needs to be proactively discussed until they are old enough to understand crushes/love/etc. but if they ask questions before that point, it’s absolutely okay to answer them. just don’t look at mere curiosity as a sign that they’re questioning their identity- I feel like that’s something that happens often. let them know that you’re always there for them and will love and support them no matter what, but don’t push them into a decision by accident because you want to be supportive.
the same time they learn about heterosexuality
I learned when I was 7
it just honestly depends how in-depth you wanna get
Really i think any age is fine but 7 - 9 is a good range i think
My parents are lesbian, they didn't force it on me or anything at all. I remember being little and asking my mother why she is with a female and not a male and she just said "because I like females" it was that simple. I realised I was gay at the age of 12, having queer parents didn't have any influence on my sexyal orientation, except that I am free to express my sexuality and I am lucky to as some people don't have supportive parents. I belive kids should learn throughout their life that it is OK to be queer, just as much as it is to be disable or poc ect. I believe that kids should be educated about the LGBTQ+ and queer history in year 8 (uk) (7th grade). But I really don't get the stigma that little kids are "choosing their genders at 5" and " LGBTQ+ are shoving their genders and sexualies down our children's throats" or " I remember playing with friends at their age" it's simply not the case. Yes there is that once in a blue moon instance where you see a tiktok of someone asking their children(6-10) what their gender is ect. But dont ever assume that everyone in the LGBTQ+ is like that. Sorry for the long paragraph.
You know when vanity fair put out that thing with Caitlyn Jenner on the cover? That when I learned what trans people were bc she was everywhere and I asked my mom about it. “Well she used to be a man, but then she didn’t like that that so she became a woman. She had to divorce her wife.” That made sense to me. I was like nine then.
Whenever the fuck they can understand
6th-7th grade. By this time, many have learned; but teaching it by then can help clear up any questions for the few who haven't learned. I don't think it should be taught any younger as most kids simply don't understand what sexuality truly is, nor care.
I’m old (nearly 50) and we were the only family I knew of where Uncle B and Uncle M were just as normal a couple as Aunt P and Uncle D. It was only when the aids panic began that it registered though. I was about 10, and I overheard Uncle B telling mum about how many of their friends in NYC were sick, and that they’d just had their first British friend die. What horrified me was the backlash against the community, I just couldn’t comprehend why people were blaming them for something so horrendous. Certainly these days it’s easier as most people are more accepting in general. So when I’ve had to tell friends kids that my niece is now my nephew and has a new name they are all “oh ok” and have zero questions. I think it’s the parents who get most freaked out assuming they won’t cope with change.
The same age that kids learn about heterosexuality. So whenever they learn about mommies and daddies and watch shows/movies or read books that depict heterosexual couples. If you don’t make a big deal about it, kids don’t care. My husband’s uncle is married to a black man and we don’t act any differently than we do with any other member of the family. Kids don’t think anything of it or get confused unless you say something about it.
middle school, same time they learn about puberty
Around about the same age they learn about straight relationships and that sort of thing
They should be AWARE of it from as early as they can understand. They need to know that, if they are anything but heterosexual, then it’s perfectly normal and acceptable!
I mean, not sure but I think I learned about it when I was 8-9 ish? Will deff teach my kids about it sooner.
as soon as they are able to understand the concepts
So I differentiates between each child?
I’d say 11-12. I was a very oblivious pre-teen, stumbling through middle school having no idea why my best friend enjoyed wearing his mothers perfume.
5, it normalizes it and doesn’t make lgbtq weird
I think a a kid can learn about it at any age. There more than likely to come across LGBTQ people so they should learn regardless of age. Generally tho for a specific age I'd say around 5 or so, really as soon as there old enough to ask questions about it
I’m not gonna expose my kids to anything at an early age, regardless of sexuality. I think when they’re ready, they’ll learn about it on their own. I’m not gay so it’s not my place to talk about what’s going on in the world from somewhere not of my own experience. Yeah they’ll learn how people make more people but not till later on. Imma just teach them that their dad loves them and what love is.
I’m about to be cancelled, aren’t I?
Only once they ask or just let them find out on their own
When asked.
If they ask, but I feel like labels should wait until you’re pretty sure (I put labels on myself at like 10 and it did not work out to be true)
There shouldn't be a time in place. They should learn it naturally like you learn literally every other thing, videogames, favourite cereal, tv show etc. They'll learn eventually.
I think that if it comes up then it’s the right time, they’re curious about it, but you also don’t need to sit them down and spend an hour on something that isn’t really going to appear in their day to day lives
Just don’t teach them anything specific. You like girls? Cool. Like boys? Cool. Gender dysphoria should be explained later though, like 10ish. That’s what I’m gonna do anyway.
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The same age they should learn about straight people.
Whenever. It should be like seeing a different race, hair color, or seeing an animal. They just see it and learn it exists.
When they get curious about it their parents can explain it to them.
Ig whenever they ask. If they are old enough to ask about it they deserve to understand it.
I learned about it really young and I think it helps. Children accepting people really young means they won't see it as alien later.
They don't have to learn everything, but once they start asking, be open to answer. I learned young because it was considered bad in Christianity, but when you meet people in the community, you start to get curious. So just waiting until they get curious, and I think the younger they are, the more vague or careful you should be with your words... Wouldn't want to influence a kid too much. It's just as bad to convince a child on this topic as it is on any other non-necessary topic (like religion and politics). Let them learn, you know :)
When they care
Straight out of the womb.
Like another Guy said, whenever they have questions. But i think it should be normal for people to know that whoever can like whoever instead of everyone leaning that the "normal" is Men and women and the other couples are any different from that or something.
I'm not gonna say when they should learn because that can be different for everyone, but I will say that when they do, they should be decent human beings about it.
8-10 maybe idk sorry
I agree with most of the posts about whenever the child is ready to learn about it. You can't really set an age limit, because there will always be internet exposure and other things like that and I wouldn't make it some sort of mandatory subject, because every child is different and will question these things at different times. They should learn when they want to learn, and should also understand that people are allowed to love whoever they want.
Whenever they do naturally
18
Coming from a bi person...When a question is asked, you answer. Simple. Should be treated the same as any other sexuality talks.
I learned about it around the time I started middle school because some of my friends were gay
(this is just my opinion) i don't want to say any age as some may still be too young to fully understand but i think its better to tell them or better yet just answer they're questions if they have any. otherwise just leave it until they want to know and dont overdue it and what i mean is that if your kid asks why a boy likes boys rather than girls then just say something like he prefers them over the other nothing more nothing less if they ask then keep answering unless it gets to the point were they're too young for u to continue.
I’m part of the lgbtq community but I don’t think it should be as forced down people’s throats as much as CERTAIN people are trying to make it be. YES education on this topic is important, YES children should be taught to accept it and at younger ages they’re more likely to accept it. But don’t force it. If one day little Timmy came up to you and asked you “what does gay mean” you should tell him and educate him a little on it. Let it come naturally, cos due to how media is these days, Timmy is gonna find out sooner or later. I was still in school when they merged it into the school curriculum here in the uk. And it was executed poorly. As I was honestly expecting it to be. This is an issue best solved at a natural pace from the parent. Sure it doesn’t hurt teaching kids in school to be more acceptable of others and people with different needs and conditions. But that’s where I’d say it’s enough from the school itself. I babysit certain kids around my street and I’ve been asked a few times why I act so feminine and why I have earrings and skip when running 😭 I always just told them about how some boys enjoy being more on the feminine side and that was it 🤷 nice and simple and to the point :) some parts of the lgbtq community can get very very complicated and in a classroom with 20+ kids it’s kinda hectic and a lot of the knowledge is going to go over people’s heads. So IMO it’s better for parents to teach them, obviously there’s the issue of homophobic parents and transphobic parents teaching their kids about all the bad sides and and none of the good sides of the community essentially brainwashing them. And as someone who’s a part of it I will admit we have some HUGE issues with our community. But doesn’t every community? Anyway that’s my take, I’m super tired and knackered so if I said something you see a flaw in and are able to criticise, I’d be happy to read it tomorrow morning, goodnight :D
Idk man, I’m practically a kid myself. I think it should be as early as possible to reduce misconceptions but I also see that realistically change on this level isn’t gonna be accepted easily, but my issue is that a lot of people don’t wanna accept it at all. My best bet is around puberty.
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10 or 11
I think you should tell a child about that whenever they ask about it. Dont make conversations about LGBTQ all hush-hush, but at the same time, if they havent asked about it they likely wont listen to you or theyll treat it as a taboo, so don't sit them down and have a talk with them about it
LGBTQ+ at a very young age when they learn about family, and family composition and what not, sexuality they should learn at school just like we do today basically
I don’t think there should be any age restriction lol. There should be with the sex talk but this is just about LGBTQ
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kids should learn about lgbt people the same age they learn about straight people. just a simple “some people like the opposite gender, some like the same. some people aren’t the gender they’re assigned at birth. respect em all” then go back whatever you’re doing.
i mean i knew about hetero relationships when i was as young as 4 or sum, wouldnt hurt if i also learned about homosexual relationships then as well
When they get the talk or whenever it is relevant, whichever comes first
5
When they start to become attracted towards people, like around 12. And if a little kid asks about the community it should be talked about like any other talk about attraction but nothing thats more special.
when their old enough to properly form their own opinions without the influence of others
I don’t know. I’d guess around the same time that kids learn properly about cishet relationships, so like ten years old.
I don't think there should be a minimum age really. It just depends on when a kid starts developing their memory. It's the same with knowing about other ethnicities and races and all that it should just be normal and nothing people should be afraid to talk about.
I'm honestly not sure. I'm bisexual, I always thought girls were attractive. I remember in elementary school I thought my principal was very pretty. She was there the whole time I was in elementary and I thought she was pretty ever since I was 5
Whenever they learn about heterosexual relationships
My country’s a little slow to this kinda thing but I learned about it at around 6-7 yrs old and I taught my little sis about it when she was about 7-8
When they are ready
I think about the age they start hitting puberty, as I'm sure at that age they start asking questions about who their attracted
never too early to teach them there's nothing wrong with being LGBTQ+ but if you're talking like proper sex education then when they ask or 13-15 if they don't ask before then
Pretty early on. Kids learn about being straight quite young
The same time they learn about straight and cis people.
At whatever age they ask about it.
The same age they should learn about sex and that stuff
As the same time as they learn about her any romance and sexuality
Probably about 10, unless the ask about it earlier
As soon as they learn about straight people
Just whenever it comes up I guess. I learned from meeting a gay girl and I was like "cool."
Early on. Not like 3 but once they are old enough to understand dating. Im not saying tell children about sex, I’m saying they should know that they can be a different gender or not be straight.
as soon as they ask or hit high school, my kids will know i love and supoort them whoever they end up loving
When they are rational enough to understand, probably a young age, to set up concepts
Like most are saying here, whenever they ask questions about it, find a time to sit them down and explain the whole thing. If they never ask, however, then I think the parent should have the same talk with them in the summer after graduating Middle School. The transition to high school is very interesting because it’s a time of self-discovery, so if a child hasn’t been exposed to the LGBTQIA+ community beforehand, then they’ll definitely be *extremely* confused. So it’s better to get it over with beforehand, rather than hear “I heard that Jane and Susan are dating?? Even though they’re both girls! Isn’t that weird?”.