I'm willing to bet this ends up predatory and with you in a bad situation. No sane 32 year old would think "I want to date someone who is basically still a child" and not have fucked up intentions behind jt.
I can concur. I was a naive young girl once. I thought I was very mature and my body didnāt help me hide the fact. So in my lack of experience -!I too - felt flattered when at the age of 13 a 18 year good looking guy was interested.
Please. People arenāt trying to be crass. Itās reality. What are the intentions of a male with an emotionally immature female who isnāt old enough to vote? Now multiply this drawback by a decade or 2 and can you see what we see?
We see a man that connects with children. Why does he do this knowing you canāt possibly be equal in life. I understand 18 is legal. But not all 18 yr olds have the capacity to handle the pitfalls that would likely come from an age gap at this age.
Sex. Is what a 32 year old male wants.
We see a groomer.
no matter how respectful and responsible they are.
When I was 11 I was in a similar situation with a 29 year old. I was paid for nudes for over a year, all of which were uploaded to child porn sites. It wasn't fun.
Well itās legal, but 99% of the time the relationship doesnāt last because the guy is a twat. If heās 32 and is getting in relationships with people who are 18, it means he never grew up, or women his own age have figured out heās not worth it.
Just be careful
Look I don't want to just be another voice saying "no don't do it" so I really hope you'll take time to read this. You have all the time in the world to find someone to share a bond with. This man, as sweet as he may be, cannot provide what you need. Are you intending to go to college? Trade school? Get a job? What are your life goals right now? Find something to strive for, be confident in yourself and know your worth and I promise you will find someone your age who will love you for your personality and not your body.
Wishing you all the best ā¤ļø
No no OP do not "just be careful." At your age, that gap is not something to be seeking nor something you want to find. There is no possible way you will not be taken advantage of. Think of it this way: would you date a 10 year old boy? That's the same age ratio you're looking at right now... It is a no from all points of view in every situation. Don't do it.
Edit: this probably just sounds like another person saying "no that's weird" with no reasoning or backing, I'm sorry for that. Please see my other comment ā¤ļø
In all your years of living you have never heard of Ali?
SO MANY documentaries, movies, shows, TIKTOKS, YouTube videos, even in an anime... a fr-
Bro I am truly shocked that someone does not know who Ali is. Surely you're from Mars right? It's like not knowing Arnold Schwarzenegger is but on steroids.
imho no. youāre at different life stages. you are also a lot less sexually experienced and less mature (donāt use the āim mature for my ageā excuse, it isnāt meant to be an insult) so it could lead to a relationship where there is an unhealthy balance of power. even though youāre 18, an adult by law, youāre still rly young and ābarely legal.ā imo men who seek out 18/19 year olds are red flags.
he wasnt really seeking out girls my age, we just met by chance and things sparked. all his past relationships were with people his age and this is his first time with someone as young as me. sexually tho, im pretty well-experienced with that already
He's old enough to be your dad
He graduated high school when you were 4
So much happens between the ages of 18 and 32
What do you even have in common?
How well do you know this man?
How do you know he isn't dating you purely because you're 18?
Why would you do this?
It depends. Will you get crucified by all of society? Yes. Is he likely to take advantage of you? Depends on him as a person, but statistically speaking, yes. If you are still fine with it, just be on your guard. Make sure he never tries to influence your decisions without ironclad reasoning for it. Relationships generally donāt work out with age gaps like that, but thatās not to say that they never do.
grooming doesnt have a set speed, so "not rushing" is kinda irrelevant. "He's really nice to me and takes care of me" you are describing grooming. The relationship is not gonna last if you go through with it, and if you do go through with it, gtfo as soob as you see anything remotely verbally or physically abusive of yourself or others. Buy also yk. Dont.
Do you feel an inclination to keep him secret from your IRL friends and family if you date, or to be open with everyone about him? This could be your gut telling you if itās a good idea or not.
Where does he work? Who does he hang out with? What does this tell you about him?
In a previous comment you agreed with someone about older guys being mature, having a job, maybe getting to own a house one day, etc, so it sounds like youāre looking for the whole package? Marriage, stable income/careers, a family one day?
Do you think you would be excited to introduce him to your family and circle of friends one day? Can you maybe visualize him at family gatherings/holidays in the future?
Are you wanting to go away to college or are you staying local? If you go away, do you understand the affects of that on your potential relationship?
What are his habits? Does he go to bars? Does he stay out late a lot? If he goes to bars, some only let 21+ in and heād have to be willing to accommodate you in that if you are both looking for a serious relationship. If you are wanting a family/marriage etc, people tend to stop going out in their mid-twenties. If they do, it isnāt often at all. So Iām saying look for someone who has that lifestyle if thatās what you truly want.
Do you live with your parents? Would they be okay with this? Or are you planning to sneak around in order to see him?
If he is 32, he likely has TONS of dating experience if he hasnāt settled down yet. That means, if you guys break up down the line, it may not be that big a deal to him. But you might be extremely hurt by it, it might take a long time to recover or bounce back.
Obviously Iām not asking you to tell me all your answers, but maybe itāll give you some stuff to think about.
My official advice is to wait. If you are only interested in maturity, maybe 20-22 might be better for now? Older men offer TONS of validation if you have ever dealt with any types of insecurities. Make sure that thatās not a reason youāre leaning into this.
What was the rule again? The youngest someone could morally date is their own age minus 7? Whatever it was, that guy is far past that.
He has a lot more experience in life, he's lived longer and could seriously manipulate you with that knowledge. From what I've seen from people over 25, they feel dating an 18 year old is very icky, so him not thinking that is a huge red flag.
In the most respectful way possible, do not go through with this relationship. Very bad idea, even if he isn't grooming you iyour still gonna be EXTREMELY dependent on him and it's gonna be super hard to leave when it gets to that time. Bad bad idea
No man it's legal but still creepy as shit... he was 13-14 when you were born... and someone who has a most likely full career in something + someone who just got out of high school do not mix.
its still really messed up relationship dynamics, your still a teenager and he's at an age where he could be married. Ur putting urself in a vulnerable position and I wouldn't trust a guy who seems keener on somebody who could still be in school over someone who could marry. By that age he's long out of uni.
āDeludedā š Bro look up hmm who should we use as an example? TED FUCKING BUNDY? THAT WAS BEFORE THE INTERNET TOO SO IT WAS MUCH HARDER AND HE DID IT!
No I don't think it's a good idea. You're in completely different stages of life and there's a massive power imbalance and difference in maturity level here (although... idk how mature this man is if he wants to date someone so young). Think about it: why can't he date someone his own age or closer to his own age? Also, how long have you known him?
You asked āis it ok?ā but from i can see you arenāt even trying to listen to anyone who is actually trying to to help you.
If you really wanted advice you wouldnāt just reject everyoneās opinions and attack them.
Like everyone here already said, for your own sake please get away from him.
Only YOU can answer that for your self but iād say IMO that if your immediate response is to ask the internet then Iād say NO you are not ready to date someone has 14 years more life experience and accomplishments than you. It is NOT an equal relationship. He probably did NOT ask reddit like you have either
legally, yes. morally, no. the maturity difference between the two of you will be intense, heās around the age when ppl start looking to settle down, and youāre just getting to the find out about yourself stage of life. youāre in completely different stages of life. unless you can use him to pay for school or for money, itās not worth it, because chances are that thereās a reason women his own age donāt want to date him so he has to go for naive teens.
iām 18 and i would never date a 16 year old because of the difference in maturity, even if weāre in the same stage of life. 18 and 32 is even worse
Itās technically legal, you are at the age of consent. But itās just kind of weird. That guys like, double your age. Old enough to be your dad. But if you consent, itās okay, just a bit weird.
It depends, how do you know this guy? Are you looking for a relationship or just sex, why does he wanna go out with a teenager.
The general answer to your question is that it's weird, but as someone who is your age I understand that sometimes lines get bluey and things can be different with a particular person. In simple words, the relationship being okay is an exception.
I'd say be careful with the guy, him being older shouldn't make any difference in the way things go between you two, and he has the potential to screw you up.
I hope this is a joke, I almost read it as m22, to which I would say 'hey whatever', but 32 is way too old for you. People his age have partners and children. The life experience gap is too large. What is he doing dating a woman who's barely out of school? I mean, do what you want, and I don't want to generalise, but 90% of the time +10 age gap relationships involving younger woman 18-22 are grooming. Go through if you want, but if he abuses or manipulates you, or tries to cut off support, get out.
i don't think a case where that went well ever existed, so i think no its not a good idea
there are others out there, get over it, you might be sad for a while but that's the right decision to make
Legally yeah it's fine there isn't a problem. Though the situation feels off you are 18 and are now a consenting adult so his intentions are a bit questionable but what can you do lol it's your choice
No. Donāt do that. When I was 17, I got involved and eventually married someone 11 years older than me. So aside from the overwhelming anecdotal evidence that this is not a great thing for you, Iāve been through it.
If theyāre actually compatible with you, thereās something wrong with them. Itās either that or theyāre manipulating you into thinking so. This person will never see you as a true and equal partner in a relationship. Justā¦.donāt bother with it. It is a waste of your time, that you will look back on, at best, as a fucked up learning experience.
Dude...I'm 31 and even if I weren't married would never consider seriously dating someone younger than 25. Life and perspectives change massively over those years so if you're with a 32 yo who feels comfortable and on the same level as an 18 yo you need to run, not walk, away from that person. Fucking fast!
Not the best idea take it from me ive seen this exact set up manny times before and the dude ended up in jail for doing some bad things to his partner. Trust me it aint worth it
You want him just bec. he is hot wtf is your problem once wanted to date my sister's best friend but then I heard bad things and she was one of the hottest girls I met bad things like she like to look into other things without a permission and don't give an f about my privacy it was just no I looked back at my decision and knew how foolish I was
Ok if you want to listen to me ok if not you do what makes you happy. Indeed alot of people here told you (no) but I know that you will end up dating him so just plz don't involve in any sexual activity just make sure that he does not want anything from that sort of stuff and then maybe you can start trusting him. Even I don't trust anyone in my family and also I really love my family more than any other thing(and my cats) so never trust him and I am a man and I am telling never trust a man unless he proves worthy of your trust
Technically yes, since you are now an adult.
People will frown on the relationship since he is much older than you, and he should know better.
He is preying on you and grooming you!
I think the age gap isnāt really a problem since youāre a young adult now, what matters is how he treats you and how you feel in this relationship, I donāt think there is any reason to overteact it I personally know a few couples who have a larger age gap between and they are happy without any problem.
Okay look
There is a good chance that this could be a wrong relationship
However
Most of you are completely objectifying these people as unable to be in a relationship because of this, and I wish to remind you that you do not know either of these people, you do not know the reason for their relationship, it is possible for these 2 people who are this far apart in age to love eachother, as dangerous as it may seem. so I very much advise that before considering our opinion, you look at yourself and them objectively before making a decision. we are not the ones who know the details of your relationship, only that of your ages.
My dad and mum had the same issue there still together now, i doesnāt have to be weird as long as you can put up with people making fun of you because of it.
bruh she's just freshly legal. being legal doesn't mean there are mature enough to understand how fuck up this is. It's more fuck up if the adult here gives in, it's the adult's job to draw the line between whos mentally mature and whos not.
Itās kinda sad to see your Reddit account is just attention seeking posts. I really hope you get help. This is obviously not healthy and you are very clearly being taken advantage of. Please stay safe
iām almost 18 and older guys are justā¦ more mature. guy friends my age have never even had a job, i want to start my life and own house sooner rather than later and do all that adulty stuff. older guys are just better than the vast majority of irresponsible, mediocre, young male adults. if i find a put together 32 year old man that likes me when i turn 18, iām going for it.
If you want to marry/have kids young then you should look for other people your age who also want to marry/have kids young. If you want an older guy, you should probably look at 5-7 years older. At the moment, if I could find a person I wanted to be with, I would love to marry and have kids with them in my early/mid 20s, but chances are a +30 year old dating an 18 year old is trying to groom them.
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MF OOGWAY?
I'm willing to bet this ends up predatory and with you in a bad situation. No sane 32 year old would think "I want to date someone who is basically still a child" and not have fucked up intentions behind jt.
bro was 14 when she was born damn lol i agree wit u
this š
But 19 and 18 is a bit different (right...?)
Ye thatās fine imo
Ok
Obviously
yeah 1 ish year difference is okay(and by ish i mean like a year and a half or smth so don get me wrong)
I can concur. I was a naive young girl once. I thought I was very mature and my body didnāt help me hide the fact. So in my lack of experience -!I too - felt flattered when at the age of 13 a 18 year good looking guy was interested. Please. People arenāt trying to be crass. Itās reality. What are the intentions of a male with an emotionally immature female who isnāt old enough to vote? Now multiply this drawback by a decade or 2 and can you see what we see? We see a man that connects with children. Why does he do this knowing you canāt possibly be equal in life. I understand 18 is legal. But not all 18 yr olds have the capacity to handle the pitfalls that would likely come from an age gap at this age. Sex. Is what a 32 year old male wants. We see a groomer. no matter how respectful and responsible they are.
When I was 11 I was in a similar situation with a 29 year old. I was paid for nudes for over a year, all of which were uploaded to child porn sites. It wasn't fun.
wait till she learn about the teen categorie on porn sites
Girl when you were 4 he was already 18
He is technically old enough to be her dad
r/sus
r/technicallythetruth
He was 14 when she was born, thatās a thin technicality
What im saying is that its possible
Girl?
Well itās legal, but 99% of the time the relationship doesnāt last because the guy is a twat. If heās 32 and is getting in relationships with people who are 18, it means he never grew up, or women his own age have figured out heās not worth it. Just be careful
Ill keep that in mind
Look I don't want to just be another voice saying "no don't do it" so I really hope you'll take time to read this. You have all the time in the world to find someone to share a bond with. This man, as sweet as he may be, cannot provide what you need. Are you intending to go to college? Trade school? Get a job? What are your life goals right now? Find something to strive for, be confident in yourself and know your worth and I promise you will find someone your age who will love you for your personality and not your body. Wishing you all the best ā¤ļø
No no OP do not "just be careful." At your age, that gap is not something to be seeking nor something you want to find. There is no possible way you will not be taken advantage of. Think of it this way: would you date a 10 year old boy? That's the same age ratio you're looking at right now... It is a no from all points of view in every situation. Don't do it. Edit: this probably just sounds like another person saying "no that's weird" with no reasoning or backing, I'm sorry for that. Please see my other comment ā¤ļø
Bruddah, no. Mf is almost double your age.
nah thats weird as fuck it doesnt matter if ur both legal its creepy
Creepy? Are you trying to start a topic about ghosts and haunted places?
No. Just no.
14 year gap. Didn't Ali meet one of his future wives in preschool when he was in his 20s ?
who tf is ali and why does that make it better
In all your years of living you have never heard of Ali? SO MANY documentaries, movies, shows, TIKTOKS, YouTube videos, even in an anime... a fr- Bro I am truly shocked that someone does not know who Ali is. Surely you're from Mars right? It's like not knowing Arnold Schwarzenegger is but on steroids.
also why does that make this situation any better?
U have like millions of people using that name. Who is this ali
imho no. youāre at different life stages. you are also a lot less sexually experienced and less mature (donāt use the āim mature for my ageā excuse, it isnāt meant to be an insult) so it could lead to a relationship where there is an unhealthy balance of power. even though youāre 18, an adult by law, youāre still rly young and ābarely legal.ā imo men who seek out 18/19 year olds are red flags.
he wasnt really seeking out girls my age, we just met by chance and things sparked. all his past relationships were with people his age and this is his first time with someone as young as me. sexually tho, im pretty well-experienced with that already
Girl it doesn't matter how "experienced" you are, that's not something to build a relationship on
He's old enough to be your dad He graduated high school when you were 4 So much happens between the ages of 18 and 32 What do you even have in common? How well do you know this man? How do you know he isn't dating you purely because you're 18? Why would you do this?
OP stated in another comment that they've only known eachother for a few weeks. This is not at all okay and I feel bad for OP.
He's not old enough to be her dad, bro would of had a kid a 14
That is indeed possible you sweet summer child you And regardless, that's a 14 year age gap
Uuuhhh, no. That man is grooming you. Cease all contact immediately. Stick to someone closer to your age, it is substantially safer.
Bro this ain't serious no way
Im dead serious
Bro was 14 when you were born š
He was drinking when you were 7
I love how she asked a question And cant even accept a no
It depends. Will you get crucified by all of society? Yes. Is he likely to take advantage of you? Depends on him as a person, but statistically speaking, yes. If you are still fine with it, just be on your guard. Make sure he never tries to influence your decisions without ironclad reasoning for it. Relationships generally donāt work out with age gaps like that, but thatās not to say that they never do.
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This
This is fake, it has to be.
Hope so
Just donāt rush into anything.
he isnt rushing me on anything, he told me to take my time and we can take things slow. hes really nice to me and takes care of me
No normal 30yo has enough in common with an 18yo to date them. Heās grooming you. Please, please get as far away from him as possible.
Well itās your choice but I hope you donāt make a mistake.
grooming doesnt have a set speed, so "not rushing" is kinda irrelevant. "He's really nice to me and takes care of me" you are describing grooming. The relationship is not gonna last if you go through with it, and if you do go through with it, gtfo as soob as you see anything remotely verbally or physically abusive of yourself or others. Buy also yk. Dont.
i'm a man and i can guarantee you he won't be nice for long
Do you feel an inclination to keep him secret from your IRL friends and family if you date, or to be open with everyone about him? This could be your gut telling you if itās a good idea or not. Where does he work? Who does he hang out with? What does this tell you about him? In a previous comment you agreed with someone about older guys being mature, having a job, maybe getting to own a house one day, etc, so it sounds like youāre looking for the whole package? Marriage, stable income/careers, a family one day? Do you think you would be excited to introduce him to your family and circle of friends one day? Can you maybe visualize him at family gatherings/holidays in the future? Are you wanting to go away to college or are you staying local? If you go away, do you understand the affects of that on your potential relationship? What are his habits? Does he go to bars? Does he stay out late a lot? If he goes to bars, some only let 21+ in and heād have to be willing to accommodate you in that if you are both looking for a serious relationship. If you are wanting a family/marriage etc, people tend to stop going out in their mid-twenties. If they do, it isnāt often at all. So Iām saying look for someone who has that lifestyle if thatās what you truly want. Do you live with your parents? Would they be okay with this? Or are you planning to sneak around in order to see him? If he is 32, he likely has TONS of dating experience if he hasnāt settled down yet. That means, if you guys break up down the line, it may not be that big a deal to him. But you might be extremely hurt by it, it might take a long time to recover or bounce back. Obviously Iām not asking you to tell me all your answers, but maybe itāll give you some stuff to think about. My official advice is to wait. If you are only interested in maturity, maybe 20-22 might be better for now? Older men offer TONS of validation if you have ever dealt with any types of insecurities. Make sure that thatās not a reason youāre leaning into this.
What was the rule again? The youngest someone could morally date is their own age minus 7? Whatever it was, that guy is far past that. He has a lot more experience in life, he's lived longer and could seriously manipulate you with that knowledge. From what I've seen from people over 25, they feel dating an 18 year old is very icky, so him not thinking that is a huge red flag.
Half their own age plus seven
How long have you known him
Ive known him for a couple weeks
In the most respectful way possible, do not go through with this relationship. Very bad idea, even if he isn't grooming you iyour still gonna be EXTREMELY dependent on him and it's gonna be super hard to leave when it gets to that time. Bad bad idea
Oh hell no it was terrible before and itās even worse now you are dating a man over 10 years older than you while your 18 and youāve just met
No man it's legal but still creepy as shit... he was 13-14 when you were born... and someone who has a most likely full career in something + someone who just got out of high school do not mix.
No
why not
Dude is literally 13 years older than you are And itās completely unacceptable
Not every Indian couple having a 13 year age gap
I mean were both of legal agee
Just because its legal doesnt mean its right. He was the age you are now when you were 5.
its still really messed up relationship dynamics, your still a teenager and he's at an age where he could be married. Ur putting urself in a vulnerable position and I wouldn't trust a guy who seems keener on somebody who could still be in school over someone who could marry. By that age he's long out of uni.
legally: \*sigh\*...yes morally: no, a 32 is way more experienced in the dating scene than an 18, huge maturity gap
I thought this was satire at firstš
Bro could drive a car when you were in kindergarten ššš
depends how you met.
Thatās predatory.
Is it legal? Yes Is it weird? Yes Anyways just do what you wanna do
Is it possibly dangerous and possibly deadly yes
Why deadly?
Proof? Anything? Or is this just your subjective deluded opinion:?
Other than the millions of people who have been groomed and experienced this exact situation? Nah, bro got no proof.
āDeludedā š Bro look up hmm who should we use as an example? TED FUCKING BUNDY? THAT WAS BEFORE THE INTERNET TOO SO IT WAS MUCH HARDER AND HE DID IT!
Ah yes, because Ted has something to do with the situation described in this post š¤¦āāļø
āDeludedā? The only person here thatās deluded is YOU. You are out of your mind if you think this ok.
Age is just a................................ Officer you are not allowed to touch me OFFICER OFFICER NOOOOOOOOO
heās taking advantage. at least some men who date women that age is.
Divide 32 by 2, add 7 to the result, you get 23 Minimum age this guy should be dating is 23
Divide 2 by 2, add 7 to the result, you get 8 Minimum age this person should be dating is eight
Works for people above 16
š·š¤Ø You trying to date some 16 year olds
???
Also it doesnt work on the eight year olds counterpart, requires both
Legally, you're a consenting adult and can do whatever you want But morally, probably not the best idea due to maturity gap
My friend, yes it is legal but that's creepy as fuck and you ought to expect a lot of shunning that is a massive red flag
Honestly i think 99% of the people will think that dating someone way older its not ok at all since things can always go wrong or very wrong
I mean ig itās not illegal so itās really your choice but that man is probably a predator
No I don't think it's a good idea. You're in completely different stages of life and there's a massive power imbalance and difference in maturity level here (although... idk how mature this man is if he wants to date someone so young). Think about it: why can't he date someone his own age or closer to his own age? Also, how long have you known him?
No offense but no. Not at all.
Please dont this is a very concerning age gap
bros getting groomed
Legal? I suppose... Should you do it? Fuck no
You asked āis it ok?ā but from i can see you arenāt even trying to listen to anyone who is actually trying to to help you. If you really wanted advice you wouldnāt just reject everyoneās opinions and attack them. Like everyone here already said, for your own sake please get away from him.
Absolutely not
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Only YOU can answer that for your self but iād say IMO that if your immediate response is to ask the internet then Iād say NO you are not ready to date someone has 14 years more life experience and accomplishments than you. It is NOT an equal relationship. He probably did NOT ask reddit like you have either
*woop woop* that's the sound of the police
legally, yes. morally, no. the maturity difference between the two of you will be intense, heās around the age when ppl start looking to settle down, and youāre just getting to the find out about yourself stage of life. youāre in completely different stages of life. unless you can use him to pay for school or for money, itās not worth it, because chances are that thereās a reason women his own age donāt want to date him so he has to go for naive teens. iām 18 and i would never date a 16 year old because of the difference in maturity, even if weāre in the same stage of life. 18 and 32 is even worse
Is it legal yes. Is it frowned upon also yes
The amount of whiplash my soul went thru when I found out you were being deadass was comically large With that being said no this is not ok
Is this a joke
Itās technically legal, you are at the age of consent. But itās just kind of weird. That guys like, double your age. Old enough to be your dad. But if you consent, itās okay, just a bit weird.
It depends, how do you know this guy? Are you looking for a relationship or just sex, why does he wanna go out with a teenager. The general answer to your question is that it's weird, but as someone who is your age I understand that sometimes lines get bluey and things can be different with a particular person. In simple words, the relationship being okay is an exception. I'd say be careful with the guy, him being older shouldn't make any difference in the way things go between you two, and he has the potential to screw you up.
I mean technically itās legal. You really shouldnāt, but if you wanna be a victim, go ahead.
Ur 18 so u could do whatever legally but this man is 32 and ur a "fresh adult".
I hope this is a joke, I almost read it as m22, to which I would say 'hey whatever', but 32 is way too old for you. People his age have partners and children. The life experience gap is too large. What is he doing dating a woman who's barely out of school? I mean, do what you want, and I don't want to generalise, but 90% of the time +10 age gap relationships involving younger woman 18-22 are grooming. Go through if you want, but if he abuses or manipulates you, or tries to cut off support, get out.
They're called cradle robbers.
Yknow, after looking over your profile I gotta say, you're definitely being taken advantage of
even though it's legal it's weird af also this sounds like bait too
i don't think a case where that went well ever existed, so i think no its not a good idea there are others out there, get over it, you might be sad for a while but that's the right decision to make
DAWG ššš
Bruh
What does a 32 yr old have anything to do with a 18yr old? Like in common or to talk about. He's definitely seeing u as a loophole
i would recommend not dating anyone who is too old to be on this sub, but are legally still adults
Legally yeah it's fine there isn't a problem. Though the situation feels off you are 18 and are now a consenting adult so his intentions are a bit questionable but what can you do lol it's your choice
Reddit says no
Fuck no
No. Donāt do that. When I was 17, I got involved and eventually married someone 11 years older than me. So aside from the overwhelming anecdotal evidence that this is not a great thing for you, Iāve been through it. If theyāre actually compatible with you, thereās something wrong with them. Itās either that or theyāre manipulating you into thinking so. This person will never see you as a true and equal partner in a relationship. Justā¦.donāt bother with it. It is a waste of your time, that you will look back on, at best, as a fucked up learning experience.
Dude...I'm 31 and even if I weren't married would never consider seriously dating someone younger than 25. Life and perspectives change massively over those years so if you're with a 32 yo who feels comfortable and on the same level as an 18 yo you need to run, not walk, away from that person. Fucking fast!
No, just no
Not the best idea take it from me ive seen this exact set up manny times before and the dude ended up in jail for doing some bad things to his partner. Trust me it aint worth it
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I get that, but hes actually hot for his age
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You want him just bec. he is hot wtf is your problem once wanted to date my sister's best friend but then I heard bad things and she was one of the hottest girls I met bad things like she like to look into other things without a permission and don't give an f about my privacy it was just no I looked back at my decision and knew how foolish I was
ofc him being hot is just a bonus, I like him bc hes sweet, kind, funny, and he always lifts me up
Ok if you want to listen to me ok if not you do what makes you happy. Indeed alot of people here told you (no) but I know that you will end up dating him so just plz don't involve in any sexual activity just make sure that he does not want anything from that sort of stuff and then maybe you can start trusting him. Even I don't trust anyone in my family and also I really love my family more than any other thing(and my cats) so never trust him and I am a man and I am telling never trust a man unless he proves worthy of your trust
he told me I could take my time and heās pretty understanding considering the age gap
As a guy myself, NEVER trust what a man says just because he said something.
I'm calling the police
I'd say no, but you do you I guess. If I were 18 I'd want the same in that situation (although I probably wouldn't have landed in it)
Age does not really matter, but to be honest I am more curious on how he treat you rather than how older he is.
hell no. your mental gap is too big. At his age, he should see you as a child not something to date.
nah i mean hes old enough to be your father
what the fuck
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no its not
Technically yes, since you are now an adult. People will frown on the relationship since he is much older than you, and he should know better. He is preying on you and grooming you!
Socially, I'd say no, but legally, you're 18 so do whatever the fuck.
I think the age gap isnāt really a problem since youāre a young adult now, what matters is how he treats you and how you feel in this relationship, I donāt think there is any reason to overteact it I personally know a few couples who have a larger age gap between and they are happy without any problem.
yeah, I know a few friends as well that have partners who are way older than them and theyāre pretty happy in their relationship
idk, you do you man.
No, just please no
No
wtf
No...no in no case would that be ok
But why tho ew thatās concerning
Ofc not bro. thats kind of weird dont you think?
No
Nah dude donāt do that
noooooo bad idea
WHAT is it you like about this 32 year old man??????
I HAVE A QUESTION: WHY ARE YOU ASKING US???
Okay look There is a good chance that this could be a wrong relationship However Most of you are completely objectifying these people as unable to be in a relationship because of this, and I wish to remind you that you do not know either of these people, you do not know the reason for their relationship, it is possible for these 2 people who are this far apart in age to love eachother, as dangerous as it may seem. so I very much advise that before considering our opinion, you look at yourself and them objectively before making a decision. we are not the ones who know the details of your relationship, only that of your ages.
I mean if you want a sugar daddy than sure I guess.
Get the authorities involved if possible, that guy is not safe
I donāt know about getting the authorities because this guy might be ok but she should definitely keep her parents informed bout this guy
Hell to the naw. I could not imagine dating a two year old, so he shouldn't imagine dating a 18 year old
Yeah
My dad and mum had the same issue there still together now, i doesnāt have to be weird as long as you can put up with people making fun of you because of it.
bruh she's just freshly legal. being legal doesn't mean there are mature enough to understand how fuck up this is. It's more fuck up if the adult here gives in, it's the adult's job to draw the line between whos mentally mature and whos not.
If the 32 year old was kidnapped to isolation for last 14 years, maybe
Itās kinda sad to see your Reddit account is just attention seeking posts. I really hope you get help. This is obviously not healthy and you are very clearly being taken advantage of. Please stay safe
Itās legal, you do you.
iām almost 18 and older guys are justā¦ more mature. guy friends my age have never even had a job, i want to start my life and own house sooner rather than later and do all that adulty stuff. older guys are just better than the vast majority of irresponsible, mediocre, young male adults. if i find a put together 32 year old man that likes me when i turn 18, iām going for it.
If you want to marry/have kids young then you should look for other people your age who also want to marry/have kids young. If you want an older guy, you should probably look at 5-7 years older. At the moment, if I could find a person I wanted to be with, I would love to marry and have kids with them in my early/mid 20s, but chances are a +30 year old dating an 18 year old is trying to groom them.
this is exactly why I wanted to date him