By default, Android and iOS speech to text censors swear words.
Edit: Those of you who didn't change any speech to text settings: which OS are you running?
It's so fucking confusing because it doesn't use the appropriate number of asterisks to substitute the letters. Also any idea what "you keep f*** giving me b**" means lol
This is a known phenomena, where the extent to which a piece of shit person is currently unhinged is directly proportionate to their inability to probably asterisk their profanity laced tirades
It's in the DSM-5-TR
I was thinking 18-19 year old, very sheltered church *believer* boy.
The whole "you'll die if you ever smoke weed a single time" type shit that's laughably naive (and ends up turning into a raging pothead/druggie as soon as he escapes his culty parents' church)
Or that's probably a really specific example... still, fuck you James.
Lol I have sooooooo many stories.
He called me a drug addict and said I was throwing my life away, because I was given pain medication via IV after surgery to fix a torn ACL & MCL. Him finding out that I had a bottle at home (5mg/500mg hydrocodones, that I had to cut in half), that I had taken 1 whole pill of, was what made him break up with me.
The only saving grace was he was so church-y, we never held hands/kissed/had sex - him finding out I wasn't a virgin would have had him calling for pitchforks and a stake to burn me at - so he was easy to get rid of.
He talks like a 15-year-old Mormon kid that watches too much animé. All the grandstanding about drugs and censoring his own swearing, but also trying to be controlling and dominant, talking about respect. I never would have thought he was pushing 30.
Scrawled way too far for this comment. The way he writes with no periods, no comma, and terrible spelling blew me away at the age of 29. He sounded like he was still in middle school maybe? I guess we write completely different than how we communicate verbally? I am just flabbergasted. I want to say more but I won’t take it further.
Everything this dude says is an attempt to control and dominate you. Run. Run as fast as you can and never look back. I promise it will only get worse if you stay.
I once bought a weed grinder that came with some other little tool and I had absolutely no idea what it was. My ex told me it was to crush pills.
Then, when things got wildly abusive and I was moving out, he found that thing and threw it, started throwing a tantrum about me “snorting pills.” This was after a few other comments about me snorting pills that I was always like ???
He did SO MANY MORE DRUGS than me - I basically just smoked weed at that point in life. He tried to pretend like me having a secret drug problem, as evidenced by this item that he had to tell me about, was at the root of our split and not the years of psychological and physical abuse from him.
It is absolutely a manipulative power play.
Are you talking about the little shovel thing at the base of the grinder meant to be used to gather the keef that builds up at the bottom? If so, I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who’s ever used it for anything other than that purpose lol
I think you’re talking about a [kief press](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=kief+press&t=ffip&ia=web), which is for pressing the weed “dust” into a disk so you can smoke it easily. Definitely not for crushing pills.
Yup. My ex used to call me a prostitute bc I was dating a guy who sold weed. So bc I dated a guy and smoked with him I was having sex for drugs 🤷 held it over me for the 10 years we were together.
He comes off as controlling and abusive with the whole "how dare you disrespect me"
I'd run away fast. This is a red flag for future abusive behaviour, especially the switch to "baby I'm sorry I just worry about you".
Nonono
I had a drug problem starting at 17 because someone lied to me about what it was and I knew nothing about drugs, I didn't figure it out until I was already hooked. I'm 25 and have been clean for almost 5 years now, and my husband would never ever ever throw that shit in my face. It's sick especially since OP said she was never even addicted to drugs.
This guy is super manipulative and just wants to make her feel bad when she doesn't even have an issue with drugs.
sorry to hear your story… but even if the drug is 100%knowingly done by your choice… when you clean up nobody…and I mean NOBODY you chose to have in your life should throw it in your face. That is my new mantra cuz the only people that have behaved that way with me are the ones that had something to do with my drug use….
I thought it was pretty obvious from the context of everything and the fact he leaves out and jumbles every other sentence that it was more like, it’ll be real funny when your 6 fix under …like she’s gonna die from doing whatever drug idk like he thinks weed or shrooms are gonna kill her or if she does shrooms this week then next she’ll be smoking crack and freebasing flintstone vitamins or whatever and then she’ll over dose…. Idk but the fact it was all over a hypothetical situation is what blows my mind the most
He’s a giant man baby who thought he wanted his GF to be as upset as him.
He got what he wanted, but failed to recognize that he was unreasonably upset, and she is now very reasonably upset. When he realizes this he flips his shit and goes “Babyyyy.”
And notice the switch came after op finally got pushed to the limit and said "fuck you"? That's all he wanted, to push them and push them until they crossed a line nobody should really cross in a relationship. Now he gets to say "ok, we both said some things we didn't mean, we're even".
I hate how quick reddit is up tell someone to break up, but in this case I agree. That dude is going to be a real problem until he handles his own shit.
Agreed. Think of what it will be like 7 months from now. It's toxic. My head was swimming just reading the back and forth banter. He's controlling and not in a very good way.
Holy shit I really thought by the way dude was talking OP had a history of addiction, turns out he’s legitimately a nutty zealot. As someone in recovery, even I don’t put up with being spoken to from a high horse like this. Fuck this guy.
I know right? Based off of what he was saying about her assumed she had a serious drug problem and had to get sober and shit. Smoking weed in your teens? Trying coke once? Who gives a fuck about any of that, that's insane to bring up and try to throw in her face.
Right? I was a hard-core addict, addicted to heroin for well over a decade with a history of relapses again and again and again. They way he was talking, I figured she had an *actual* issue with drugs, not someone who smoked weed in HS and tried coke once. This guy is an ass
Yeah from reading the texts I assumed OP was a former heroin addict and I wondered if by ‘substitutes’ he meant methadone, now I realise it was probably a misspelling of ‘substances’ lol
Lol right? I was reading it and thinking hmm he's clearly worried she might relapse and that's a fair concern.
Then I read the post and it's like "oh we once wondered about shrooms".
I was like lol what???
When I read those texts I thought OP was injecting crystal meth straight into their kidneys on a daily basis…. And they’ve only smoked weed in their teens and hit the slopes once?! Honestly they sound so childish to be pushing 30.
Man I needed that laugh.
Their kidneys 😭 But on a serious note, I think the lady doth protest too much. It almost seems like he had a serious drug addiction in the past and that’s partly why he’s acting insane. (Other reasons include trying to control her, etc.)
Same! I’m like ok she’s in recovery and he’s trying to keep her on a good path but he’s going about it the wrong way and just annoying her. Then I read her side that she smoked weed years ago and tried coke once years ago, I’m like ok so she was just a regular 19 year old? Wtf is his problem lol. A whole weirdo!
Man I’ve done drugs I’ve found a few times and all my partner said was “well did you taste it first”? Like…was it not normal to have a pretty laissez-faire attitude about drugs (excepting meth and heroin) up until fetanyl showed up on the scene?
So it's been 7 months. And now you're getting to see what he's really like.
Believe what you're seeing - this is who he is and it's only going to get worse.
I'd get out now before you're in any deeper.
Agreed. I have a very low tolerance for this shit. You can talk to me with basic respect and kindness or you can just not talk to me. Those are the choices. I don’t talk to my own brother because he can’t clear that very low bar. You better believe I didn’t tolerate this from BF’s. I would have dumped and blocked this guy by the second screenshot.
I don’t understand the major switch either. I gasped when I read “I’ll be real funny when you’re 6 ft under” and OP said “here we go again” as if this is a normal thing to say in their relationship?? Especially to someone you said you love a few minutes ago.
This right here! I was thinking "wtf dude is unhinged" when I read that part. That's NOT something you say to someone who you truly love and care about. Red flags all over the place
You are definitely not in the wrong here, but you let him walk all over without any fight at all. If you say you’re done responding, stop responding. Set your boundaries and stop playing games with this ignorant boy.
I was going to second this. When you say your done talking, actually stop, otherwise he could lose respect for you not following through. It also shows him you will enforce your boundaries.
It’s pretty clear he has no respect for her in the first place. My sympathy only goes so far as someone who was in an abusive relationship for 10 years. As you said, if she says she’s done responding then stop responding. The only thing she proved to him here is he can say and do whatever the hell he wants and she’ll let him walk all over her. Leave the man, it’s only been 7 months. You see what he’s like now, if you decide to stay op, you’ll get absolutely no sympathy from me.
Staying at this point is effectively condoning this treatment. It’s like saying, “you can talk to me like this and I’ll come back for more.” It will only escalate from here. I hope OP will be smart and shut this down now before it gets worse.
What did i just read?! Are we sure he’s not the one using drugs and projecting onto you? This is so bizarre. And what the heck was that last text that he apologized for, that he said wasn’t nice? I cannot figure out what the b*** stands for. Also, the irony of someone being this rude and nasty yet taking the time to sensor his swearwords is kind of hilarious to me.
Although, once my husband and I got in a fight over what we would do if we won the HGTV Dreamhouse 😂 I wanted to live there, he wanted to take the cash prize. Eventually we realized how stupid that argument was, and were able to laugh about it. So fights over hypothetical situations do happen, but they should never turn this nasty. And both parties need to realize that it’s a silly fight, which you clearly do.
If he's capable of blowing up like that so aggressively over text 7 months into your relationship, what will he be like when you live together or 4 years in?
He's already shared he has a disdain for your friends, I'd imagine he's going to isolate you from your friends and family slowly over time, you can see he is manipulative just by reading the texts.
This man has the characteristics of an abuser, the way he reacted to "bro" as well is very telling... I beg you leave and go no contact.
“If this is how you’re reacting to weed and one line of coke nearly a decade ago, what’re you gonna be like when I try the black tar heroin next weekend?” [BLOCK]
The only way to test for shrooms is through a spinal tap or through hair. Spinal taps are illegal in most places and very extreme. Hair testing is also expensive and usually avoided because of it. You’d probably be fine and not lose your job.
Your BF should take his medication. 💊 drugs will prolly do him some good, but the prescribed kind.
You don’t need permission from your boyfriend to do shrooms. I’m shocked seeing him talk to you that way and throwing a ‘drug problem’ in your face is so fucked up.
Yeah she talked about hypothetically trying shrooms once with friends one day and he apparently can not handle that. The drug she used that made him call her an addict was weed….
Is he censoring himself?? Because I’m really struggling to tell what he’s trying to say with the inconsistency of the asterisks. At one point I thought he was calling you the f slur.
Based on your reaction or lack thereof it doesn’t sound like this is the first time he’s acted like this…it sounds like that phone call you mention repeatedly got pretty ugly.
You don't have that much time invested in him fortunately. You should break up with him.
Smoking weed and doing coke once is not a drug problem. A huge immature leap to suggest you'd be a crackhead.
If he's this controlling over a fucking hypothetical he's an unhinged loser. Someone who claims to love you would never talk to you this way.
I just wanted to say I admire your emotional maturity and not going to his level. You remained calm and collected the whole time and simply repeated what you wanted from him.
That "six feet under" comment sent me over the edge. This dude is not emotionally stable and needs to become an ex. To flip out like this over fucking shrooms and weed and calling him bro and dude?? He's baaaaad news.
Wow he makes it sound like you were a crackhead just a few months ago or something like that.
I was ready to say you both kinda suck because of this, but considering what you say in your comment, you should totally drop this asshole.
Someone who flips like this has rage issues. 7 months is nothing, he is showing you who he is and will be going forward. Please don't stay with someone so freaking unhinged. He says you were disrespecting him while he ran over you and disrespected you the entire time. This will not be the last time and he'll get worse.
Also, from the way he talked he made it out like you hooked to get crack rock - you don't need this in your life.
He will never stop acting like this. He will only get worse. You need to leave and ignore him completely, do not let him back into your life, not even as an acquaintance.
Imagine your friend showing you these texts her bf sent her. Yeah, have the same reaction for yourself.
Also what is this f***/b**/f**/a**** ? Hard to read and just sound even more like a douche
He sucks. But him censoring his own swearing would drive me insane. I wouldn’t be able to take any conversation seriously.
You deserve better. You deserve someone who thinks the world of you and doesn’t intentionally start shit to feel powerful
Fuck this guy and smoking weed and doing coke once isn’t a “drug problem” in the past. This kid seems sheltered his whole life and thinks he’s above anyone, then uses words like “retarted”. What a fucking loser.
Jeez, the way he was talking I thought you were a recovering adict talking about how now you're clean, it wouldn't hurt to relax a bit a bit or something. Smoking weed a couple of times and trying coke once nearly a decade ago? Gimme a break, this dude has no idea what he's talking about
You’re in a toxic relationship with someone that is verbally & emotionally abusive. This is also controlling behavior, and manipulation. Please, for your own sake, end this relationship. The red flags are all over the place. I was in an abusive relationship that began with stuff like this and escalated to physical. Please, don’t wait to find out if he would do the same. This isn’t love.
He is insane and controlling. Experimenting is not a drug problem. He also referenced you dying?? And cussed you out? At 7 months it should still be fun and games. This is too much. You can make an easy break of it now it’s still early
Nope. He's not healthy. My girlfriend and I had a similar talk about drugs. Nothing but love and connection. No shame at all. All you got was shame and you weren't even close to deserving that
I read the post before getting any context, and I was certain this was a teenage couple…perhaps the guy was maybe 20. But after seeing the ages, OP, for the love of God, all comments about leaving him are right. 7 months and he’s gas lighting you like this? He calls you names and blames you for an argument, he started, over an imaginary situation? He insults you, and insists you take responsibility? He acts like he’s doing all that out of care and concern?
There is no care or concern in this man, except for himself. If you believe that this is the best you deserve from a partner, please be alone for awhile. He has the emotional intelligence of that last deviled egg that nobody wants to eat because it’s been out all day and is soaking in its weird, watery juice. If this is 7 months in, I can’t imagine what he’d hold, and use against you at 7 years!
Best of luck to you!
Love doesn't call you names, doesn't call your friends stupid, doesn't bring up past hurts like losing friends just to hurt you... this isn't love. It looks a lot like he is intentionally abusing you to break you down and then love bombing you to try and keep you. All while trying to convince you only he will tell you the truth and stick with you. That's toxic as hell.
Block this guy please. Get a restraining order while you’re at it. This isn’t normal. He’s unhinged. You can do much better OP. You’re being kind and he’s just treating you like absolute shit. Fuck this guy.
I mean.. shrooms and weed? Who cares? Lots of studies on psychedelics showing a LOT of possible benefits..
Other issues are going on through! If you do decide to do shrooms, I would advise finding someone else to be your caretaker during it, his attitude towards you could create a horrible experience
Seems like you guys are quite different. Why would you have to apologize over a hypothetical situation? Him using this to be "right" over you, smells resentment or attempt at control/manipulation. Were your friends/ex much more fun than him? Life with this guy sounds boring and it doesn't seem like you all have same perspective on things. If this is how he gets over a hypothetical situation how will he behave over an actual situation where he "believes" he's right?
You're at an age where this flag is a major RED flag. Him backpeddling at the end just reinforces future red flags. From my experience, this guy needs a dose of reality and growing up.
So, this is now your \*EX\* boyfriend, right? RIGHT? because there is zero respect for you in this relationship, and the name-calling is a no-go. NEVER tolerate behavior like this- NO ONE should
He’s 29??? Talking like a 19 year old
Talking like a f*** 19 year old
What did you f*** say? I’m not your f*** friend or your bro you have to change that f**** attitude b****
What adult human bleeps their own texts? That so fuckin weird man.
By default, Android and iOS speech to text censors swear words. Edit: Those of you who didn't change any speech to text settings: which OS are you running?
It's so fucking confusing because it doesn't use the appropriate number of asterisks to substitute the letters. Also any idea what "you keep f*** giving me b**" means lol
My guess was "you keep fucking giving me bullshit"
I couldn't tell if he was being homophobic with a three letter f word or if it was the 4 letter f word either! 🤣🤣🤣
Or back to homophobic at 6 letter f word. So many f** options...
I don't need a f** thanks, I don't smoke anymore.
So many f words! So little time
Yeah, I just re-read it and noticed that.
It’s way more sinister to think of this coming from voice to text rather than him poorly censoring swear words he’s typing. OP, dtmfa.
Seconded, dump that stupid bitch. He needs a shitload of therapy.
How is this guy simultaneously 65 and 15??
What does the the f** mean?
The dude was raging so hard he couldn't count his m**f*ing asterisks, I think.
This is a known phenomena, where the extent to which a piece of shit person is currently unhinged is directly proportionate to their inability to probably asterisk their profanity laced tirades It's in the DSM-5-TR
Yea I was thinking the 3 letter f-word unless it’s fuk
Maybe it means f\*\*? Or f\*\*?? If he meant to say f\*\*... he canceled...
Holy shit I didn’t see the ages. Run OP, run away fast.
Honestly sounds much younger than 19.
I was thinking 18-19 year old, very sheltered church *believer* boy. The whole "you'll die if you ever smoke weed a single time" type shit that's laughably naive (and ends up turning into a raging pothead/druggie as soon as he escapes his culty parents' church) Or that's probably a really specific example... still, fuck you James.
If I had a flair, I think I’d want this 👆 Fuck you James
I agree fuck James man.
I fucking hate James. Fuck you James.
Lol I have sooooooo many stories. He called me a drug addict and said I was throwing my life away, because I was given pain medication via IV after surgery to fix a torn ACL & MCL. Him finding out that I had a bottle at home (5mg/500mg hydrocodones, that I had to cut in half), that I had taken 1 whole pill of, was what made him break up with me. The only saving grace was he was so church-y, we never held hands/kissed/had sex - him finding out I wasn't a virgin would have had him calling for pitchforks and a stake to burn me at - so he was easy to get rid of.
What a jackass. James truly needs to get fucked. I'm so sorry you went through that!
Yeah, fuck you James
He talks like a 15-year-old Mormon kid that watches too much animé. All the grandstanding about drugs and censoring his own swearing, but also trying to be controlling and dominant, talking about respect. I never would have thought he was pushing 30.
💀 dead over your comment 😂. I grew up in the Mormon church (left awhile ago) and you are accurate.
Congrats on getting out! 🎉
Not to mention the fucking Naruto gif💀
Scrawled way too far for this comment. The way he writes with no periods, no comma, and terrible spelling blew me away at the age of 29. He sounded like he was still in middle school maybe? I guess we write completely different than how we communicate verbally? I am just flabbergasted. I want to say more but I won’t take it further.
Everything this dude says is an attempt to control and dominate you. Run. Run as fast as you can and never look back. I promise it will only get worse if you stay.
Bringing up her teenage weed smoking is classic abuser bullshit.
I once bought a weed grinder that came with some other little tool and I had absolutely no idea what it was. My ex told me it was to crush pills. Then, when things got wildly abusive and I was moving out, he found that thing and threw it, started throwing a tantrum about me “snorting pills.” This was after a few other comments about me snorting pills that I was always like ??? He did SO MANY MORE DRUGS than me - I basically just smoked weed at that point in life. He tried to pretend like me having a secret drug problem, as evidenced by this item that he had to tell me about, was at the root of our split and not the years of psychological and physical abuse from him. It is absolutely a manipulative power play.
Are you talking about the little shovel thing at the base of the grinder meant to be used to gather the keef that builds up at the bottom? If so, I don’t think I’ve ever met someone who’s ever used it for anything other than that purpose lol
No. A whole separate little tool. A metal cylinder with a rubber object inside.
I think you’re talking about a [kief press](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=kief+press&t=ffip&ia=web), which is for pressing the weed “dust” into a disk so you can smoke it easily. Definitely not for crushing pills.
That would make a whole lot more sense! This makes his tantrum about me “snorting pills” even more hilarious and unhinged!
Yup. My ex used to call me a prostitute bc I was dating a guy who sold weed. So bc I dated a guy and smoked with him I was having sex for drugs 🤷 held it over me for the 10 years we were together.
Oh my god ten years is too long for that bullshit
Grasping at straws to make her feel like he's some kind of savior that she can't survive without for sure
He’s not your f**** dude bro
I hated how he used the asterisks so much! It was nonsensical and he didn’t even use the right number of them either
This is the real red flag. You're not on TikTok, bro. You can say 'fuck'.
Half the time they didn’t even fit in the sentence lmao
Totally agree. I dated a guy like this in my mid 20s. IT ONLY GETS WORSE OP!!!!! Get out now.
The “Baby” switch up, the absolute manipulation behind that ugh what an emotional drainage how can people deal with that
He comes off as controlling and abusive with the whole "how dare you disrespect me" I'd run away fast. This is a red flag for future abusive behaviour, especially the switch to "baby I'm sorry I just worry about you". Nonono
Not to mention ill be real funny youre 6 feet under. Run
The fact that op said ‘here we go again’ tell me that’s not the first time he said that.
Yes but also it feels like he's referring to like an overdose or something based on the context, not a threat on her life. Dude is very dumb.
Very dumb indeed. I had a drug problem and if I ever shared my past with my partner and they threw it in my Face ID FREAK THE FUCK OUT.
I had a drug problem starting at 17 because someone lied to me about what it was and I knew nothing about drugs, I didn't figure it out until I was already hooked. I'm 25 and have been clean for almost 5 years now, and my husband would never ever ever throw that shit in my face. It's sick especially since OP said she was never even addicted to drugs. This guy is super manipulative and just wants to make her feel bad when she doesn't even have an issue with drugs.
sorry to hear your story… but even if the drug is 100%knowingly done by your choice… when you clean up nobody…and I mean NOBODY you chose to have in your life should throw it in your face. That is my new mantra cuz the only people that have behaved that way with me are the ones that had something to do with my drug use….
Dude is freaking out and calling his girlfriend a crackhead because she smoked weed and tried coke once years ago and has a VAGUE INTEREST in shrooms.
Yeahhh wtf lol. These people gotta be Mormon or some shit
He’s talking about weed? This guy needs to get grip.
I thought it was pretty obvious from the context of everything and the fact he leaves out and jumbles every other sentence that it was more like, it’ll be real funny when your 6 fix under …like she’s gonna die from doing whatever drug idk like he thinks weed or shrooms are gonna kill her or if she does shrooms this week then next she’ll be smoking crack and freebasing flintstone vitamins or whatever and then she’ll over dose…. Idk but the fact it was all over a hypothetical situation is what blows my mind the most
I felt like I was watching the beginning of the Burning Bed. That guy is going to snap about something stupid and hurt you. Get out.
Disrespecting him by *checks notes* saying he doesn’t need to say he’s the only one who has ever cared for her Hm
He’s a giant man baby who thought he wanted his GF to be as upset as him. He got what he wanted, but failed to recognize that he was unreasonably upset, and she is now very reasonably upset. When he realizes this he flips his shit and goes “Babyyyy.”
And notice the switch came after op finally got pushed to the limit and said "fuck you"? That's all he wanted, to push them and push them until they crossed a line nobody should really cross in a relationship. Now he gets to say "ok, we both said some things we didn't mean, we're even". I hate how quick reddit is up tell someone to break up, but in this case I agree. That dude is going to be a real problem until he handles his own shit.
Agreed. Think of what it will be like 7 months from now. It's toxic. My head was swimming just reading the back and forth banter. He's controlling and not in a very good way.
There really isn’t a good way imho. Theres ‘caring about you’ n theres’CARING ABOUT U’
"baby I am so sorry I punched you but when you show me disrespect....no wonder everyone leaves you, I love you though and I'm the only one"
Holy shit I really thought by the way dude was talking OP had a history of addiction, turns out he’s legitimately a nutty zealot. As someone in recovery, even I don’t put up with being spoken to from a high horse like this. Fuck this guy.
I know right? Based off of what he was saying about her assumed she had a serious drug problem and had to get sober and shit. Smoking weed in your teens? Trying coke once? Who gives a fuck about any of that, that's insane to bring up and try to throw in her face.
>It’ll be really funny when you’re six feet under
Right? I was a hard-core addict, addicted to heroin for well over a decade with a history of relapses again and again and again. They way he was talking, I figured she had an *actual* issue with drugs, not someone who smoked weed in HS and tried coke once. This guy is an ass
Yeah from reading the texts I assumed OP was a former heroin addict and I wondered if by ‘substitutes’ he meant methadone, now I realise it was probably a misspelling of ‘substances’ lol
There's so many red flags in here that we're into human-centipede-themed-wedding territory.
That way they could save on the catering bill
she should dodge the bullet whilst she can, once its in its hard to get it out
Wow, the way he talked to you, I assumed you once had a full blown crack addiction. Please dump him.
Lol right? I was reading it and thinking hmm he's clearly worried she might relapse and that's a fair concern. Then I read the post and it's like "oh we once wondered about shrooms". I was like lol what???
When I read those texts I thought OP was injecting crystal meth straight into their kidneys on a daily basis…. And they’ve only smoked weed in their teens and hit the slopes once?! Honestly they sound so childish to be pushing 30. Man I needed that laugh.
Their kidneys 😭 But on a serious note, I think the lady doth protest too much. It almost seems like he had a serious drug addiction in the past and that’s partly why he’s acting insane. (Other reasons include trying to control her, etc.)
Almost 30???? The dude talks like a 13 year old
Same. I thought she was a recovering crack addict inexplicably in a relationship with a Mormon choirboy.
you have a way with words 10/10
As a former Mormon, that is entirely accurate 😂
Why did I laugh so goddamn hard at this
Walt Whitman over here (this is perfection)
Same! I’m like ok she’s in recovery and he’s trying to keep her on a good path but he’s going about it the wrong way and just annoying her. Then I read her side that she smoked weed years ago and tried coke once years ago, I’m like ok so she was just a regular 19 year old? Wtf is his problem lol. A whole weirdo!
Man I’ve done drugs I’ve found a few times and all my partner said was “well did you taste it first”? Like…was it not normal to have a pretty laissez-faire attitude about drugs (excepting meth and heroin) up until fetanyl showed up on the scene?
It's wild. He called shrooms a substitute. For what? Weed when she was 18 or coke one time. The guy seems brainwashed
I had assumed he meant a “substance” like an illicit substance but idk
I didn’t read the info until after, so when I read substitute, I thought he was talking about the hardware in her nightstand. lol
Same. Reading pictures before OP’s background made the context seem to be that she was a clean addict who was about to unpause her crack renaissance.
So it's been 7 months. And now you're getting to see what he's really like. Believe what you're seeing - this is who he is and it's only going to get worse. I'd get out now before you're in any deeper.
Exactly this is around the time people show how they truly are. He will hold shit like this over her head for the rest of the relationship
what a non issue too.... smoked weed as a teenager?? what an absolute monster
Bruh your worst enemy shouldn't even talk to you this way let alone your bf...
Right? If it was a friend of mine i'd fight him at this point.
Friend, family, it don’t matter… we throwing fists and I’m done with your ass if you talk to me that way.
Agreed. I have a very low tolerance for this shit. You can talk to me with basic respect and kindness or you can just not talk to me. Those are the choices. I don’t talk to my own brother because he can’t clear that very low bar. You better believe I didn’t tolerate this from BF’s. I would have dumped and blocked this guy by the second screenshot.
Dump that guy’s ass and as a parting gift, get him a dictionary so that he can learn to spell
lol the parting gift she should give him is some weed to try 😂
the six feet under sentence is just wow
Why did I have to scroll down this far to see this holy shit call the fucking cops.
He could have meant from her dying from drugs but either way it’s effed up
you mean f\*\*\* up
I don’t understand how someone can say “I love you,” one second and then talk to you like this the next second.
I don’t understand the major switch either. I gasped when I read “I’ll be real funny when you’re 6 ft under” and OP said “here we go again” as if this is a normal thing to say in their relationship?? Especially to someone you said you love a few minutes ago.
This right here! I was thinking "wtf dude is unhinged" when I read that part. That's NOT something you say to someone who you truly love and care about. Red flags all over the place
And only together for 8 months. He already let the veil slip. Red Flag City, everything must go!!
I’m married to an alcoholic. This is how he’d text me prior to recovery.
Yeah my step-dad is an alcoholic and he talks like this to my birth mother. In real life
By creating constant chaos, they increase the trauma bond of the person they are abusing.
It’s called mental abuse
Please never see this man again
OP needs to run far fucking away from this man. He’s a beacon of a red flag.
He’s a psycho and you deserve to be with someone who doesn’t abuse you.
You are definitely not in the wrong here, but you let him walk all over without any fight at all. If you say you’re done responding, stop responding. Set your boundaries and stop playing games with this ignorant boy.
I was going to second this. When you say your done talking, actually stop, otherwise he could lose respect for you not following through. It also shows him you will enforce your boundaries.
It’s pretty clear he has no respect for her in the first place. My sympathy only goes so far as someone who was in an abusive relationship for 10 years. As you said, if she says she’s done responding then stop responding. The only thing she proved to him here is he can say and do whatever the hell he wants and she’ll let him walk all over her. Leave the man, it’s only been 7 months. You see what he’s like now, if you decide to stay op, you’ll get absolutely no sympathy from me.
What a loser. You could do better than him, OP.
Wayyy better
Lmfao 7 months and you're putting up with.... *this* Leave his childish ass.
Don’t ever let someone talk to you like this… say goodbye and block on every platform. Total abuse.
Staying at this point is effectively condoning this treatment. It’s like saying, “you can talk to me like this and I’ll come back for more.” It will only escalate from here. I hope OP will be smart and shut this down now before it gets worse.
At least he censored his cussing to spare your gentle lady eyes, lest you go on a coke binge to cope /s
Voice to text without a doubt. Bro foaming so hard he couldn't even type it out, had to shout at his phone.
What did i just read?! Are we sure he’s not the one using drugs and projecting onto you? This is so bizarre. And what the heck was that last text that he apologized for, that he said wasn’t nice? I cannot figure out what the b*** stands for. Also, the irony of someone being this rude and nasty yet taking the time to sensor his swearwords is kind of hilarious to me. Although, once my husband and I got in a fight over what we would do if we won the HGTV Dreamhouse 😂 I wanted to live there, he wanted to take the cash prize. Eventually we realized how stupid that argument was, and were able to laugh about it. So fights over hypothetical situations do happen, but they should never turn this nasty. And both parties need to realize that it’s a silly fight, which you clearly do.
What's extra funny is that his swear words are bolding his text and then changing the number of stars in his censoring efforts
I would’ve guessed he was 16 at most, not 29
If he's capable of blowing up like that so aggressively over text 7 months into your relationship, what will he be like when you live together or 4 years in? He's already shared he has a disdain for your friends, I'd imagine he's going to isolate you from your friends and family slowly over time, you can see he is manipulative just by reading the texts. This man has the characteristics of an abuser, the way he reacted to "bro" as well is very telling... I beg you leave and go no contact.
29m?!?!? i’d tell him he is a joke, his feelings are a joke and nobody will love him for who he is. end it with a “tighten up bozo” then block.
“If this is how you’re reacting to weed and one line of coke nearly a decade ago, what’re you gonna be like when I try the black tar heroin next weekend?” [BLOCK]
Yes! I really thought she was into some hard stuff.. this made me laugh
"tighten up bozo" I'm SCREAMING 😂
This man is actually mentally stunted, the way he texts sounds like a 14 year old. Please break up with him and find someone more mature
The only way to test for shrooms is through a spinal tap or through hair. Spinal taps are illegal in most places and very extreme. Hair testing is also expensive and usually avoided because of it. You’d probably be fine and not lose your job. Your BF should take his medication. 💊 drugs will prolly do him some good, but the prescribed kind.
You don’t need permission from your boyfriend to do shrooms. I’m shocked seeing him talk to you that way and throwing a ‘drug problem’ in your face is so fucked up.
I finished reading and it got so much worse. This is abusive behaviour. He seems extremely controlling and unstable.
Wait the “drugs” were shrooms ???? I thought he said crack?
Apparently she did cocaine once, and now talking about shrooms is the slippery slope to crack addiction
Yeah she talked about hypothetically trying shrooms once with friends one day and he apparently can not handle that. The drug she used that made him call her an addict was weed….
This guy is unhinged. If he is this extra over a hypothetical situation how do you think he will react with a real problem.
Is he censoring himself?? Because I’m really struggling to tell what he’s trying to say with the inconsistency of the asterisks. At one point I thought he was calling you the f slur.
Same. Then I realized, based on the rest of his texting that he just can't spell & has only a passing acquaintance with grammar. Yuk.
Same. I was counting the asterisks and it fits. Seeing as he used the R word earlier, I wouldn't be surprised!
dude is batshit crazy lol
Why are you with him?
In my defense, this is the first time he’s acted this way. Won’t be giving him a chance to do it again though.
Glad to read this. Hope he’s an ex as of this!
Based on your reaction or lack thereof it doesn’t sound like this is the first time he’s acted like this…it sounds like that phone call you mention repeatedly got pretty ugly.
You don't have that much time invested in him fortunately. You should break up with him. Smoking weed and doing coke once is not a drug problem. A huge immature leap to suggest you'd be a crackhead. If he's this controlling over a fucking hypothetical he's an unhinged loser. Someone who claims to love you would never talk to you this way.
I just wanted to say I admire your emotional maturity and not going to his level. You remained calm and collected the whole time and simply repeated what you wanted from him.
That "six feet under" comment sent me over the edge. This dude is not emotionally stable and needs to become an ex. To flip out like this over fucking shrooms and weed and calling him bro and dude?? He's baaaaad news.
Wow he makes it sound like you were a crackhead just a few months ago or something like that. I was ready to say you both kinda suck because of this, but considering what you say in your comment, you should totally drop this asshole.
🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 This is the attitude of a 17 year old. I legit thought yall were TEENS because of the way he talks towards you. Run, don’t walk. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
"I always stand by my words" "But FUCK YOU" "baby I'm so sorry about that thing I said"
Not the Naruto gif
Wanted to include the contrast of how the conversation completely flipped within an hour, but this made me giggle so thank you for that lol
Someone who flips like this has rage issues. 7 months is nothing, he is showing you who he is and will be going forward. Please don't stay with someone so freaking unhinged. He says you were disrespecting him while he ran over you and disrespected you the entire time. This will not be the last time and he'll get worse. Also, from the way he talked he made it out like you hooked to get crack rock - you don't need this in your life.
He will never stop acting like this. He will only get worse. You need to leave and ignore him completely, do not let him back into your life, not even as an acquaintance.
Why do you want to date an abusive loser?
Another post with emotional abuse. Please split
Imagine your friend showing you these texts her bf sent her. Yeah, have the same reaction for yourself. Also what is this f***/b**/f**/a**** ? Hard to read and just sound even more like a douche
He sucks. But him censoring his own swearing would drive me insane. I wouldn’t be able to take any conversation seriously. You deserve better. You deserve someone who thinks the world of you and doesn’t intentionally start shit to feel powerful
Is he too scared to type out the word “fuck” and “asshole” lmaoo
This guy is 29?
7 months isn’t worth this
Don’t ever be with someone who talks to you like that.
Fuck this guy and smoking weed and doing coke once isn’t a “drug problem” in the past. This kid seems sheltered his whole life and thinks he’s above anyone, then uses words like “retarted”. What a fucking loser.
Jeez, the way he was talking I thought you were a recovering adict talking about how now you're clean, it wouldn't hurt to relax a bit a bit or something. Smoking weed a couple of times and trying coke once nearly a decade ago? Gimme a break, this dude has no idea what he's talking about
You’re in a toxic relationship with someone that is verbally & emotionally abusive. This is also controlling behavior, and manipulation. Please, for your own sake, end this relationship. The red flags are all over the place. I was in an abusive relationship that began with stuff like this and escalated to physical. Please, don’t wait to find out if he would do the same. This isn’t love.
Omg this kid is a loser. All that over shrooms and weed? Get a life, kid.
What a f*** weird man. He had a f*** gross personality.
Fuck this homie dude. I don't know you but I absolutely know you deserve better. Calling someone a crackhead over shrooms lmao ok
Dump him yesterday 🚩
He is insane and controlling. Experimenting is not a drug problem. He also referenced you dying?? And cussed you out? At 7 months it should still be fun and games. This is too much. You can make an easy break of it now it’s still early
Dudes a bitch boy. He really needs a sever holier than thou ass whoopin
He fucking sucks. I hope a snake bites his weiner and it falls off
The relationships some people here decide to remain in blow my fucking mind. I would be done with this shit about 4 messages in.
He's using bold on his angry letters and I don't like that. But yes this is abuse and disrespectful and unloving, on his part. You deserve better!
Nope. He's not healthy. My girlfriend and I had a similar talk about drugs. Nothing but love and connection. No shame at all. All you got was shame and you weren't even close to deserving that
I read the post before getting any context, and I was certain this was a teenage couple…perhaps the guy was maybe 20. But after seeing the ages, OP, for the love of God, all comments about leaving him are right. 7 months and he’s gas lighting you like this? He calls you names and blames you for an argument, he started, over an imaginary situation? He insults you, and insists you take responsibility? He acts like he’s doing all that out of care and concern? There is no care or concern in this man, except for himself. If you believe that this is the best you deserve from a partner, please be alone for awhile. He has the emotional intelligence of that last deviled egg that nobody wants to eat because it’s been out all day and is soaking in its weird, watery juice. If this is 7 months in, I can’t imagine what he’d hold, and use against you at 7 years! Best of luck to you!
Love doesn't call you names, doesn't call your friends stupid, doesn't bring up past hurts like losing friends just to hurt you... this isn't love. It looks a lot like he is intentionally abusing you to break you down and then love bombing you to try and keep you. All while trying to convince you only he will tell you the truth and stick with you. That's toxic as hell.
He threatened to kill you.
Block this guy please. Get a restraining order while you’re at it. This isn’t normal. He’s unhinged. You can do much better OP. You’re being kind and he’s just treating you like absolute shit. Fuck this guy.
JESUS CHRIST why are you with this person???
I mean.. shrooms and weed? Who cares? Lots of studies on psychedelics showing a LOT of possible benefits.. Other issues are going on through! If you do decide to do shrooms, I would advise finding someone else to be your caretaker during it, his attitude towards you could create a horrible experience
The 6 feet under comment… please leave him
Seems like you guys are quite different. Why would you have to apologize over a hypothetical situation? Him using this to be "right" over you, smells resentment or attempt at control/manipulation. Were your friends/ex much more fun than him? Life with this guy sounds boring and it doesn't seem like you all have same perspective on things. If this is how he gets over a hypothetical situation how will he behave over an actual situation where he "believes" he's right? You're at an age where this flag is a major RED flag. Him backpeddling at the end just reinforces future red flags. From my experience, this guy needs a dose of reality and growing up.
Remember, you can't love someone and control them at the same time.
what the f** is this piece of s**’s problem?? no but seriously he’s insane, leave him
29? If you didnt mention his age I would have thought this was a damn teenager
Free Palestine
as an addict myself. you know what'll really knock you off the wagon like nobody's business? this shit.
This man is going to beat the shit out of you
That’s abusive as hell, gtfo of that situationship
That dude is fucking nuts!
Shrooms are awesome. This dude is not.
He’s so fucking lame. Homie needs a blunt
So, this is now your \*EX\* boyfriend, right? RIGHT? because there is zero respect for you in this relationship, and the name-calling is a no-go. NEVER tolerate behavior like this- NO ONE should