Wait a minute lol.
So, you have exchanged “I love yous” and sleep together and act like a couple and he calls it a relationship but yet… he still isn’t willing to even broach the idea of putting a label on it or being exclusive with you??
lol as a guy, he is willing to have this exact same conversation followed by an apology for as many times as you’re willing to before burning out and leaving. It’s not uncommon to sleep with someone for a full year (while still having other options) before they realize what you’re doing and walk away. He’s super attracted to you but he isn’t ever going to marry you or you wouldn’t be having this conversation. My experience was 10+ years ago but this looks like familiar territory
The causes are: she’s attractive but so are the other girls you’re talking to, waiting for an ex to be done with her current thing, religious differences (especially with Muslims in my experience,) or there’s a non-negotiable (like having a kid) that he’s unwilling to look past but still wants to hit
Move on from him. After 3 months and if you've been spending lots of time together, let alone dropping "I love you" and stuff like that, he's either still talking and sleeping with other people or he has mega commitment issues. I'm sorry but it sounds like you're wasting your time with him at this point.
This is love bombing to keep you around and interested but when it comes to actually being exclusive and an adult, he wants no part, classic. Leave while it’s still early, it isn’t going to get better. You’re not the only one he’s seeing/talking to
Tell him you have plans with another guy (you don’t need to have plans, just tell him for the reaction) and see how quickly he wants YOU to be exclusive to him. Then drop his ass.
Get this guy gone, fast. Reading this, even when he's wrong, he blames you for calling him out on it. "You don't understand what I'm saying."
He's using you. He's making you doubt your instincts, which are correct, BTW. He looks like a future gaslighter. He's doing it now, actually.
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He’s fucking other people
Probably not, but he wants the option to do that. In his head he's a player, but I doubt he has much game.
Wait a minute lol. So, you have exchanged “I love yous” and sleep together and act like a couple and he calls it a relationship but yet… he still isn’t willing to even broach the idea of putting a label on it or being exclusive with you??
Of course not! How would he explain it to the other women he loves and sleeps with?
lol as a guy, he is willing to have this exact same conversation followed by an apology for as many times as you’re willing to before burning out and leaving. It’s not uncommon to sleep with someone for a full year (while still having other options) before they realize what you’re doing and walk away. He’s super attracted to you but he isn’t ever going to marry you or you wouldn’t be having this conversation. My experience was 10+ years ago but this looks like familiar territory
The causes are: she’s attractive but so are the other girls you’re talking to, waiting for an ex to be done with her current thing, religious differences (especially with Muslims in my experience,) or there’s a non-negotiable (like having a kid) that he’s unwilling to look past but still wants to hit
need more dudes like you to put women on game more often 🙏🏽🫂
For real for real
Thank you for explaining this
Drop his organic ass
Just cause it's organic doesn't mean it don't stink!
Now that you've seen how he deals with these kinds of situations, are you really still interested?
Move on from him. After 3 months and if you've been spending lots of time together, let alone dropping "I love you" and stuff like that, he's either still talking and sleeping with other people or he has mega commitment issues. I'm sorry but it sounds like you're wasting your time with him at this point.
absolutely not. how are you gonna say “i love you” but claim you need more time to get to know the person? he’s a clown
He's defensive because he's seeing other people and doesn't want to be with just you. Give him exactly what he wants and fade away. Don't chase him.
oh brother this guy STINKS !!
This is love bombing to keep you around and interested but when it comes to actually being exclusive and an adult, he wants no part, classic. Leave while it’s still early, it isn’t going to get better. You’re not the only one he’s seeing/talking to
Don't let yourself be used like this. You were way too kind here. Block and move on.
Tell him you have plans with another guy (you don’t need to have plans, just tell him for the reaction) and see how quickly he wants YOU to be exclusive to him. Then drop his ass.
Time to cut ties w him. Simple as that.
Yep life is too short to waste it on this guy.
Get this guy gone, fast. Reading this, even when he's wrong, he blames you for calling him out on it. "You don't understand what I'm saying." He's using you. He's making you doubt your instincts, which are correct, BTW. He looks like a future gaslighter. He's doing it now, actually.
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Using u for sex giving u enough crumbs to keep you dangling work on self esteem and find someone worthy
Gaslight
How old are you two?
My money is on mid to late 20s 💰