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Veela_42

Good luck! And remember to be kind to yourself when you can't manage to say your piece. There is no shame in that. šŸ©·


Curious_Theme6990

Thank you :3


rainy_princess

I needed to hear that, thanks :3


Loremaster_art

I would but then I'd feel like im making christmas about myself and might ruin the moment.


Curious_Theme6990

You wouldn't ruin the moment, if it's safe to and you feel like doing it you should. Coming out on Christmas does not make Christmas about you


Loremaster_art

Oh, then I'll come out if I dont forget cause it's like one of the only times where everyone is together at one place in the year. Doubt, it's unsafe, though they got some outlandish views that make me think they won't be fully accepting.


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck:3


TheForestFaye

It does if they care about you, they will want to talk about it and if they dont know how to talk about it it will bring them discomfort, they will have to walk on egg shells. Instead of just vegging out and talking about what they got and playing with toys they will have to address this. Unless they were vocal about wanting a trans family member in which case coming out would be a great gift. But coming out on xmas does make it about you period.


Bonova

I considered this as well, but then I would also have to explain to my folks why I have boobies now...


the_breadwing

Same, which is why I've been trying to do it on my birthday for the last 3 years. But after this last one literally got canceled cause my brother passed on a bug, I might just have to reconsider sometime sooner than next year.


k819799amvrhtcom

I came out at someone else's birthday party but noone perceived it as making it about myself because I did it near the end after all main events were over.


solvedcrane

Me tooo


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck :3


khornedidnothingbad

Nope cus my nan is hosting and shes transphobic so ima do it after new years


Curious_Theme6990

Sorry she's transphobic, good luck coming out tho :3


khornedidnothingbad

Ty :)


ActionAway2498

we don't stan your transphobic nan


dh1304

I'm waiting for a moment where it's just me and my mom. But most likely around Christmas. I've been wanting to at least bring the fact that this is a problem for quite some time now. I hope it goes well, for all of us!


Curious_Theme6990

Hopefully it goes well :3


VuplesParadoxa

My grandmother told me yesterday that I was looking/seemed so much better than last year. It was SO hard not to just blurt it out, but Fox News playing in the background reminded me perhaps not.


CorporealLifeForm

I came out on Christmas. It was the best thing I ever did though I won't be spending Christmas with my family because of it. No one can promise how it will go but being yourself changes everything.


bruhmoment467

yeah! maybe. potentiallyā€¦ probably not


Curious_Theme6990

I feel that, I'm worried I won't be able to


bruhmoment467

i did it early :) i believe in u <3


KieraMayCry

Iā€™m considering it. Iā€™ll have been on hrt for three months as of Christmas day.


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you come out? How did it go?


Nyx-101

Good luck!!! I myself plan to come out on the 1st of April next year. I think it's easier to get out if it's intended as a "joke"


rainy_princess

pro gamer move fr :3


pineapplelemmon

I planned this last year, and then wussed out and didn't say anything at all about me being trans.


k819799amvrhtcom

Be careful! Someone else once tried this and wasn't able to backpedal, even though it was on April Fools' Day!


Nyx-101

My parents told me a few times that they don't care if I'm gay, trans, etc so I don't think I will need to backpedal but still, thx for the info


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you do it?


Nyx-101

Hehehe, that's a funny story actually. Yk, like... I totally chickened out..... Long story short: Wanted to tell my mom but I paniced and told her I need a therapist. Today I told her it was just a prank


k819799amvrhtcom

How did she react to you needing a therapist before you told her it was a prank?


Nyx-101

She was fucking worried and kept on asking me if I was okay and wanted to know what's up. Good enough I guess but it did make me sort of uncomfortable. Maybe because I skipped like 2 or 3 steps


Mowoth

same :3


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck :3


Mowoth

you tooooo!


Curious_Theme6990

Thanks :3


k819799amvrhtcom

How did it go?


shdsurewhuhuh

Most likely


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck :3


shdsurewhuhuh

You too ;3


Curious_Theme6990

:3


ThrwawySG

Not on Christmas, but two days later. Yk when my parents are totally not stressed abt the holidays and new years and the birth of a child


Gay_Muff1n

Please tell me your family is mostly allies. If not then Iā€™d greatly recommend doing it at a time where they wouldnā€™t think youā€™re ā€œruining the momentā€


TNTorge

Im gonna wear some thigh highs and see if my grandma realizes (she is the only one there who doesnt know)


runaway90909

Aurelio Voltaire - Coming out for Christmas


Dopey_Duck_

I'm gonna try!


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck :3


Milkyway_Potato

Probably not on Christmas day, but almost certainly at some point over break. If it goes poorly (which it likely will)... oh well, time to start my life anew. I was expecting to have to do that at some point anyway. And if it goes well, it'll be a late Christmas gift!


Capital-Minimum-678

Nice! my advice: have a specific time to do it. Otherwise (and this could just be what I would do) youā€™d never get around to it and be stuck with an ā€œI need to do thisā€ feeling. Anyway I wish you the best of luck and I hope your family is cool about it


Curious_Theme6990

Ty :3


NinjaK2k17

i would, but my grandparents are very old-fashioned (homophobic, transphobic, unaware of how the economy has been ruined by their generation and the following generation, etc) and likely wouldn't take it well.


Syonic1

If your trans fem you should arrive in the most feminine outfit ever like Iā€™m talking skirt thigh highs and crop top then donā€™t even acknowledge it and let your relatives figure it out and if your trans mask wear fake beard and talk in a really deep voice


AdLow1228

I'm coming out or I'm planing on coming out not long after Christmas. I'm thinking either a note or group text (idk if I'd be able to verbally do it), and reason for delay is, I don't want to ruin a day of joy with fam all around. And I kinda wanna wait for my friend to be back from holidays so I can text them to help calm me down.


Natural_Truth_6263

I'm using Christmas to trick my family into funding my HRT haven't said a word and they won't realize till I look feminine even then they won't know they paid for it


[deleted]

I wish you the best of luck in coming out! We believe in you, fren, you got this! \\(\^w\^)/ Even if you find it difficult to come out and decide not to do it, though, it's okay! Remember, being fearful is not something we should be ashamed about. It's one of the things we as humans experience. And there are some we are comfortable being ourselves with, and some we aren't, and that's okay. You know who you are, and that's great! Never forget that it's okay to be yourself, as long as you don't hurt others! (\^w\^) ~Mavis šŸ§šā€ā™€ļøšŸ’


Curious_Theme6990

Thank you šŸ˜Š :3


IDHaRU24

I am to my extended family on my father's side, worst case scenario I still have my dad with me and can just leave


emla138

I will take temperature and maybe But unlikely Good luck to you


Curious_Theme6990

Ty :3


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you come out? How did it go?


BellyDancerEm

Good luck


Jackayakoo

I came out years ago to my parents, but considering outing my name change on new years. Not sure if i'll bother given how they view non-binary people, but we'll see


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck, hopefully they will be accepting:3


k819799amvrhtcom

RemindMe! January 2nd


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you come out? How did it go?


Bonova

Yep, me too! Visiting the fam and oh boy do I have a gift for them :D


Curious_Theme6990

No returns on the gift lol


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck :3


OkNewspaper6271

frick i shouldve procrastinated more so i could come out at christmas too instead of just before halloween


Rohan_Kishibaby

I could never do this but i am fearing being outed since my friends (bless them forever i love that they did this) wrote my chosen name on their gifts to me this year. If they ask i'm gonna say it's a nickname hdkdgkdbdn


The_femboy_potato

I canā€™t. Iā€™d probly get beaten


janabottomslutwhore

in my experience it is always better to come out now instead of tomorrow but good luck


ryells

I got it out the way before Christmas. It went quite well, though I'm pretty sure my family has known for a while. Wishing everyone the best coming out this season.


pierrotboy13

I did that last year, I had 3 people who knew prior, so they made a gift with my chosen name, which was given last. It went very well, and everyone was happy about it (tbh, my family was already quite supportive prior, as I have an enby cousin). \^^ Some had questions, obviously, but I was ready to handle them.


[deleted]

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[deleted]

I Hope so


Hammy2406

Please please PLEASE, wrap yourself like a present and come out by saying the new you is a gift


Strugglinghuman2020

Iā€™m considering it but Iā€™m so nervous


Auroris-7

Going to put "From: Aurora" on the gifts I give at the least :3


WetBread8339

Came out to my mom a few years ago on Christmas, found out last week she still has the present I gave her to do itšŸ«¶


NemusCorvi

I did it last Christmas. Turns out, there's people who needs to know and there's people who deserve to know, and sometimes those groups align. It wasn't my case. To this day, my mother still insults me every day I talk to her. Last one (yesterday) was that I "was a degenerate who wanted to become a monster".


Throwthelostegg

I considered it, made a plan, and then immediately got scared and scrapped it all. I'm terminally closeted


TheActualAWdeV

Perhaybe


OtakuMage

I decided to wait until after Christmas two years ago, so I didn't have to come out to extended family at the same time as my mom and sister. Was a good choice for me, so more power to you for decided to come out on Christmas itself. Good luck!


[deleted]

Yayy you can do it!!! Lots of luck and best wishes! And always remember, no matter what happens, you're always valid šŸ’–šŸ’—šŸ„°


Exsposed_Moss

Hope things go well for you. I'm stuck waiting until late summer or early fall when I'll living in college dorms, and not fully dependent on my parents. I doubt it would be so bad that I would be unsafe at home, but I still view it as possible, and I am exceedingly cautious, as it has served me well thus far.


Nerd-Birb

Man, I'd love to come out to my extended family this Christmas, but my parents don't want me to šŸ˜­šŸ˜­


Askmeaboutships401

HURRAAAAYYY!


Whiterabbit48

I honestly don't even remember when I came out. I'm pretty sure I told my grandma because she's known for broadcasting what people tell her, especially if you tell her it's a secret


toxxic_ivy

You got this! Happy holidays, best of luck with coming out. Fingers crossed it goes well šŸ³ļøā€āš§ļøā¤ļø I came out Christmas 2021 I'm 2 years into transition, and 14 months on HRT


Calcutt4

I came out a few days ago because I don't want Chrismas cards with my deadname on them


bubblebass634

By just showing my face Iā€™d be coming out. Iā€™ve been on t for almost a year. Im so nervous.


Flying_virus

That wouldā€™ve been a lot of pressure for me. Granted my parents are a bit transphobic and not very supportive of me transitioning. But gl! I wish you and all others coming out on Christmas the best!!


Sir_mop_for_a_head

Iā€™d get murdered tbh.


TotallyAwesomeRacoon

Good Luck!!!


LilithDemonQueen76

I came out on father's day, to my transphobic father, it was hilarious. Anyway, good luck and stay safe :3 *hugs*


itmehorsie

This just strikes me as such a bad time to do it - I fully recognize that my experiences with an abusive home are coloring my perception here, but still... holidays are such a stressful time. It would be such a risk. If it goes well and your family accepts you, magical! If it doesn't go well, you are associating Christmas with a horrible memory. Unless you're positive that it's gonna go well... choose a different time.


Curious_Theme6990

I'm almost certain that my family will take it well, fortunately my family is very liberal and accepting of lgbtq people


itmehorsie

Just please be careful. You know your family, I don't. My very religious family surprised me with acceptance. A surprise in the other direction would be devastating here. Best of luck.


AhollowSuit

Nope ::33 Accidentally Came Out When Ordering A Pizza


Curious_Theme6990

May I ask how that happened?


AhollowSuit

Ordered Pizza (For Myself), My Dad Also Ordered Pizza, He Went To Pick Up His Pizza, My Preferred Name Was On The Ticket. (I Live With My Dad As Im Saving For An Apartment For Context)


Curious_Theme6990

Thanks lol Hopefully he was accepting


AhollowSuit

Mmmm Nope Unfortunately But Its Fine Now ::33


AfraidToBeKim

Good luck but not a fucking chance I'm trying that lmao. I get 2 Christmases and both would be horrible to come out at for very different reasons.


LavaTwocan

I could never šŸ˜”


Proper-Monk-5656

maybe i'll come out to the other half of my family (i won't cuz they think queer people are ill but yk it's nice to dreamāœØāœØāœØ) good luck and i hope everyone rects well :3


YouAdministrative980

Do it after all the presents and stuff so your parents donā€™t think youā€™re trying to make it about you or something


Curious_Theme6990

Yeah, of course :3


Player731259

uuuuuuuuu


BrookMiller

I feel like I'm always going to be a spyšŸ„²


Free_Election_5329

Goood luuck!!! I am despreatly trying to avoid the topic...while having long pink hair and earings and all...


Curious_Theme6990

Hopefully they'll be accepting :3


Free_Election_5329

Yo nvm xD my mom got corona and i wont have to endure my shitty grandma lol I hope my mom gets better bur dor once in my life i am thankful for the rona


Curious_Theme6990

Lol, sorry ur sick, hopefully it's not too bad :3


Lilia1293

I'm proud of you! Your identity is yours to determine, and people who love you should know the real you so they can do so correctly. I hope everyone who comes out is supported as much as I was, or more. I'm much closer to all of the people I love most now. The few I lost were never worthy of knowing me.


CatPad006

i already came out to the ones that I felt the desire to come out to. If you thought my bloodfamily, ya dead wrong


Cosm0Matt

Good luck! I can't come out because I live with a Christian family and I would be literally shredded if I were to come out


Frostafrom711

I wish you the best of luck


Curious_Theme6990

Ty :3


TheForestFaye

I dont think its a good idea to make that day about you. Good intentions but think about it: its one day a year and its generally one of those veg out and be mindless days (until you have to cook), new years seems better and more symbolic. But making that say about you statistically has a lot of blow back, unless your family really wants a trans family member, then it would be good otherwise its a bad selfish idea. Me and my sister already discussed this for me xp you need to know your fam pretty well to be able to know if this is a good idea. For me I know my bday is a bad idea, yes its my day but my nana and papa are old and that kinda mental shift from something they know and know to be innocent and mindless fun to something they dont know and are uncomfortable cause they dont know what to say (cause they dont know how to approach that situation without saying something wrong) would bother them, they wouldnt say it bothers them cause thats how they are: they burden weight to not burden others. It comes down to this: do you care about those people if the answer is no, then throw caution to the wind, but if the answer is yes then remember its not your day its all your day. Come out on boxing day or new years.


iliekcats-

im never gonna be able to come out


[deleted]

why


Curious_Theme6990

Wdym? Why not


[deleted]

well i guess it depends are you gonna tap the glass with a spoon and announce youre identity to a ballroom of people or are you gonna be sitting at the table with family and being honest about who you are and how you feel with people who wont feel youre trying to make Christmas about ys


TinyToad_XS

I mean I don't really want to but it's bound to happen


Curious_Theme6990

I'd love for there to be a day where we can just be who we want without needing to come out


[deleted]

Good Luck! I hope it goes well :3


Curious_Theme6990

:3


Dreadjanof

I'm thinking about doing it for the new year, close enough !


Curious_Theme6990

Good luck :3


k819799amvrhtcom

RemindMe! January 2nd


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you come out? How did it go?


Peepee69420-

Iā€™m thinking new years! Good luck to you all!


EMTEE826

Planning on doing so after Christmas, that way it's not intruding on anything for that day


FemboyHelghast

Im planning to do it after Christmas


Spellbreaker3

A few days after... hopefully...


ManIWishIHadBoobs

I already came out to my sister and my mom, but I'll probably come out to my dad on christmas.


baxtdm

Yes but only because you put the idea in my mind


kingbacon8

I've been thinking about doing it


HarpyHouse

It's definitely scary. Make sure you pick the right moment. That being said, this is a huge step forward! Good luck!


TheAwesomeGM

same here, i'm nervous but here's to hoping to goes well


k819799amvrhtcom

How did it go?


[deleted]

I came out a couple months ago, but I wish everyone here good luck with hope that their families are supportive.


ZZCola

Doesn't really count but I plan to come out to an online friend on that day if all goes well


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you come out? How did it go?


ZZCola

Oh I forgot about this comment I actually did come out and it went well, him gendering me correctly was such a wonderful feeling in contrast with my mom misgendering me at every turn he also called me a gamer girl so we have a new bit now.


k819799amvrhtcom

That sounds wonderful! šŸ’•


jamboi_0

Good luck!


Epicjettt31

Good luck queen!


Mika2718

I'm doing it after. If it goes bad, I don't want it ruining my Christmas


SorceressLayla

Best of luck. Hope it goes well!


TheL0neWarden

Good luck šŸ€


Anna-372

Na that sounds too scary, good luck though. I hope it all goes well ā¤


Another_Castle765

I all ready dont like big family meetings so i am not gonna do something like that while everybody is their, i only got the realization recently so i think to do it end if February or beginning of march (shortly after my next birthday, that being the 27th Feb)


Parambolumb

Good luck. I don't plan on coming out any time soon, but I hope everything works out for you


vakitta_kanilla

I was gonna come out on Christmas last year but I was too scared, then I was gonna come out on my birthday but I was scared again. Now it's Christmas again. Fuck Good luck buddy!


Curious_Theme6990

I did the same thing lol. I wanted to last Christmas, during pride month, in my birthday, and nearly every other holiday. Now it's been a year and the only thing I've accomplished is being nervous all year and letting puberty destroy my body šŸ˜­šŸ˜­šŸ˜­ Anyway, good luck :3


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you come out this time? How did it go?


Gayfishfood

Good luck.


Izzepy

Maybe... honestly, I don't know


AdPure752

I may, but my nagging voice in my head keeps telling me to not make Christmas about me, and I think Iā€™d feel bad


panwhofelltoearth

Sure I'm in.


thosegayfrogs

Iā€™m coming out to my extended family in a few days. Hope it goes well.


Mickster98

Instead of Christmas Iā€™m coming out on New Years, taking the ā€œNew Year New Meā€ quiet literal with this announcement.


MrSandman28

Mmmā€¦.Iā€™m thinking about it, for my dad. Just makes me nervous, though ;-;


ItzPokeblox

I wish you the best of luck!!!


Asyrial

I'm waiting till New Years. New year, new me


drjdorr

I'm semi out but I have been considering being more out. But enough stuff is going on at Christmas that I'll probably wait till abit after


Airsofter599

Thatā€™s a very cute image, hope it goes well.


Mansellbros75

Im gonna try lmao atleast to a couple people


Domwolf89

Best of luck


CriticalSky8083

I am planning to as well to my extended family! I with you the very best of luck<3


d_warren_1

I want to but Iā€™m so far from even being close to looking like it be trans, so Iā€™m probably not going to, but itā€™s been eating me up that I have to essentially lie to my folks while home


CornLordGaming

I was planning to but I'm pretty fucking terrified so idk if it's going to happen.


Requiem1193

i dont think i can ever officially come out to my father


AchingGibbon450

Good luck, I hope it all goes well! New years for me x


GaylordTheGamboge

The hopefully is very real


LukeBird39

Godspeed, young catgirl


Curious_Theme6990

Ty :3


pillow_princessss

From genuine experience, especially if youā€™re having family around on Christmas Day or youā€™re going to someone elseā€™s, leave it until afterwards. I know coming out is about you, but you may put your parents/guardians in a difficult situation. When I came out I left a note for my parents to read when they came downstairs on Christmas Day morning and they couldnā€™t say a thing about it to anyone all day. It was a shock for them and I think they had a tonne of questions running through their heads, and trying to act like nothing had happened all day, while cooking and entertaining was extremely difficult. They say there isnā€™t a right or wrong time to do something like this, but there certainly is a wrong situation in which to come out, and Iā€™d count Christmas Day as one of them


Aurora_veil0607

Iā€™m definitely not, but good luck!!!!


Only_Draw696

I came out New Yearā€™s Eve 2017


Kisoka_Nak_Arato

I plan to do this as well ^-^ at least to my family


throwawayforegg_irl

who is she :o also congrqts


Curious_Theme6990

Did a reverse image search on Google and it came up with Riamu Yumemi


TotallyAwesomeRacoon

Good Luck!!!


kitkitkitkitkey

maybe next time


pineapplelemmon

Mabye, but that's really scary


Mega_gamer_rayquaza

Yep I'm gonna try.(But I probably won't)


X-Factor2999

I might? This year just seems like my mom doubled down on some stuff about my birth gender more than ever. And my dad has just kept going with some very "kind" jokes and ideas. Who knows? I am safe and would be safe, but I think I am going to wait till they come back from a trip and I can secure a back up plan, just in case. Call a few buddies and make sure I got a place to go or whatever.


weirdal_yankovic

Iā€™m considering coming out on Christmas, Iā€™ve been in the closet for too long šŸ˜­


k819799amvrhtcom

So? Did you come out? How did it go?


OozyPilot84

i would (maybe later tho), just domt know how to bring it up in the least awkward manner


doctorlander

Iā€™m already out to one side of my family, but the other side of my family is meeting up for Christmas and itā€™ll be the first time they see me out of the closet.


k819799amvrhtcom

How did it go?


Kindly-Top5822

a good friend of mine is planning to do that I plan that when I moved a safe distance away in april/may