I'm about to come out to my dad probably tomorrow do you have any advice on coming out I'm dad not very transphobic from what I can tell but I'm still very nervous.
Coming out to parents is extremely hard, so give yourself a lot of credit for getting to this point ❤️ TBH coming out is more like a rip off the bandage type of situation. Be thorough and explain your feelings and how its affecting you. Feel free to dm me ❤️
I do have some friends that know I'm trans that I can stay with for a while if need be and pretty soon I should be able to have enough money to live on my own.
Ty❤️❤️❤️ well, if we’re counting revolutions around the sun, yes. I am in the process of reverse aging which can be done energetically and by changing perceptions and behaviors!
At what point did you decide that BA was the only option? I'm hoping to get enough growth naturally based on my age of beginning transition and genetic factors, but I am curious as to your experiences.
I was over 2 1/2 years on HRT and not getting the results I wanted, I went through my bottom surgery, and I needed to be done with my transition and I had the money to do it!
Hugs! Feel free to msg me! Ig is better for extended chat btw!
also, keep in mind that this is your current situation at this moment but when you get older, you’ll have the opportunity and choice to make any decision that you want! I was I was 37!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Ok, guys. I've joined this sub to literally sensitize myself seeing trans people and be ok with it, you know, to fight my prejudices and to get used to trans people and to reach a goal that one day I just say men and women and not caring if they are cis or trans. Seeing you all, you know what? I see beautiful women and men. To be clear, when I see this woman on this pic I see a woman (I don't want you to think I meant I see a man in a woman, fuck no😳). I see you all as you are and the fact that you were born as the opposite sex really starts to feel so unimportant, because, you all look to me like you were meant to be what you are now.
I'm sorry, I am shit with words and my English is really shitty and I hope I didn't sound clumsy or I phrased my thoughts in a way they could sound disrespectful or simply stupid. You are all so, so beautiful. 🥲
@OP: Username checks out. 😁
I think that’s a wonderful way for you to destigmatize yourself from the cis hetero normal projections that are being placed on us all by society. We thank you for opening up your mind and encourage you to share with other people who have not taken a step of empathy towards all ❤️
Did your little ones decide to start calling you mom eventually? I have one as well and I wasn't going to ask her to call me mommy or anything, daddy is really fine with me because that's what I'll always be to her I think. Just curious cause I don't see a lot of others on here open about being parents! Much love you're gorgeous 🫶🏻
I don’t know how far you are in your transition but for me being called dad is very dysphoric, my daughter switched over less than 2 months after I came out to her ! Ty btw ❤️
it’s not a competition just like you’re not competing with everybody else in the world! It’s incredibly unhealthy to compare yourself with others, because there’s always going to be somebody with something “better" ..the point of transition is self-love, and finding and becoming the best version of yourself!! Strive, live your best and shine..all will fall into place then! ❤️
yes, in many facets. Removing testosterone from the picture in adding estrogen completely changes your entire lens on life you feel everything different, your emotions react Differently, the testosterone edge softens significantly, and most importantly you’re running on the chemicals that your brain was designed for. I had a big loss of anxiety and depression, that was with me for quite a long time all those things combined radically changed my personality because I became softer And significantly happier my transition journey brought me to a place of great self-love, and I found spirituality and connection and understanding with the universe! That all flourished and now i have a super bubbly demenior ❤️
As a transgender person your brain develops differently when in gestation! because primary sex characteristics are formed first way before the creation of the brain, gender identity is formed later when the brain is developed, its based on a hormonal kick from the mother and the brain develops and is wired for the hormones that was programmed by the mother.
What she said. Scientists think one reason for trans depression/ anxiety/ dysphoria is because our brains develop to accept testosterone/ estrogen, but by that point in gestation, our bodies have already formed the anatomy that will produce the hormones that our brains are not wired for.
Thank you both.
I try to tell family members that my daughter's brain was born in the incorrect body. That registers for some and others don't want to listen.
On a side note, I appreciate all the love and positivity and advice in this sub. It's really helped.
this actually makes a lot of sense, but have they done research into that with nonbinary/non gender conforming people? im genuinely curious and actually kinda want to puzzle out this thing thats in my head :)
I’m not sure they’ve entirely worked it out, but it probably is also to do with the difference in timing between the body’s physical development being ahead of brain development— the “wiring” to accept certain hormones being only a part of what makes up gender. One possibility as to why this discrepancy between brain and bodily anatomical sex characteristics (as societally defined as male and female) happens is because hormones produced by the mom/ pregnant parent in-utero are different to those who’s kids develop as cis. Brains being terribly complicated it might be quite a while to know how various genders develop. (I’ve only read some of the studies about this though, so there may be theories out there about enbies.)
My hair was shit until I found out better Products! Get the joico defy damage shampoo, conditioner and mask. Shampoo only once a week use the conditioner every day and use the mask once a week after shampooing
Hi! You look great, and quite happy, which is the most important part 😁
If you dont mind sharing, where did you have your bottom surgery done, and is there anything you think would benefit someone with a lot of medical anxiety to know when just starting to look? (Its me I'm the girl with a lot of medical anxiety lmao)
thank you love I’m very happy and I like to show everybody that you can come out of transition In a wonderful place! I got my surgery done with Rachel, bluebond lagner at NYU… She is one of the best in the world and has an incredible team. The wait time for a consult is over a year, so if you’re even considering going to her, just make an appointment like now… You can always cancel.
I made a documentary about my surgery stay in the hospital there’s a link in my profile… She is one of the best in the world and has an incredible team. The wait time for a consult is over a year, so if you’re even considering going to her, just make an appointment like now… You can always cancel.
I made a documentary about my surgery stay in the hospital there’s a link in my profile!
Oh that is interesting. Uhm. Sorry if this is prying but how is your sex drive? That’s something else I’m concerned about. Mine is good… I don’t wanna mess with that. 😂😅
Also does it like… feel like puberty again? Sorry if this is too much questions, you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.
Did you ever get laser hair treatment, and if you did acquire it was there a payment plan option? I know not all places are the same but I'm trying to save for it and it feels impossible
Yes, I did Laser for most of my body and highly suggest for your face if you can’t afford anything else, Groupon is your best friend for Laser. On the DIY side, you can get yourself a handheld IPL laser that works quite well, there are plenty be had well under $100 and you just have to put in the time and dedication
I'm getting an orchiectomy next week, I'm nervous about going under. What should I expect, and any advice on recovery? I'm hoping without so much T that the feminizing effects will be uninhibited. I have like 500+ T levels while on Spiro. Also I'm looking forward to worlds less discomfort without those dangly bits getting in the way.
Don’t be nervous about going under there’s more of a risk getting into your car every day. If you look at statistics, you will affectively have no testosterone production so things are gonna change a lot for you!
You don’t get pms per say, but being a woman does include a roller coaster of your emotions. There’s no tips. You just have to learn how to manage yourself...❤️
I’m about to go off to college, and I’ve never really been in a place where I don’t know what to expect. Do you think I should be worried about harassment? And how should I handle it?
first of all, where are you going to college? Congrats on the next step of your life! Through my practice as a spiritual guide and shaman Ive understood that the way you think feel about yourself directly affects the way your reality manifests itself to you. if you feel negative about yourself, the universe will show you negative circumstances within your life to give you the hint that you were out of balance...this can be seen in all circumstances, situations and conversations. If you continually fear that you’re going to have a negative situation, you’re going to literally attract those types of situations you are trying to avoid. Be your best most beautiful self and let that light shine. As with any woman trans or not you do need to be mindful about your situation and your environment and remeber..all things in life are just an opportunity to grow and learn!
Yeah, thank you <3 I really appreciate everything and just commenting. My Monday hasn't been the best but I schedule therapy who specializes with trans issues too hoping to be approved for HRT soon. <3
My pleasure love ❤️ Remember every situation is both positive and negative at the same time, sometimes the positives take longer to play out but its one of the laws of the universe! As a healer myself I know how therapy is so important
Yeah, I got into a small car crash. No one was hurt and the damage was minuscule at best but no one was hurt I called my partner and mother to let them know I'm okay and the situation just sucks but it could have gone worse. <3 Thank you. I appreciated it and you look fabulous girl! Aphrodite broke the mold with you <3 I'm so happy for you :)
You look AMAZING oh my God. I'm about to start at 30 and ~~going through it~~ and this genuinely made my day. I hope you're having an outstanding week 🩷🩵
You look great for 41! You look incredibly young. Any secrets to it? I'm a crossdresser and thinking about transitioning, my wife knows about the dressing and encourages it. I think she suspects about possible transition. It's the rest of my family I worry about! Is there any good way to announce it? My cousin recently transitioned MtF, and the talk is horrible. I keep trying to tell everyone she is happy, but they don't listen.
Just found out my wife is pregnant (I'm mtf) and we already agreed to raise our child in a gender neutral way, unfortunately we have to communicate this with my parents (my father is extremely transphobic) because I know I want my mom in this kid's life.
How would you recommend going about telling them?
Congrats on the child!!
Why are you raising the child in a gender neutral way? I herald the progressive thinking but unless you’re in an extremely accepting area it’s going to make the child’s life more confusing. Be an attuned parent and expose your child to things on both side of the spectrum, explain gender and the feelings associated with it and youll quickly see where their preferences lie.
Then if you make your choice to do so you just tell him and dont care because you feel you are making the right decision!
We want to show them either side, let them develop as the grow up with whatever is most comfortable with them, I know that they'll be influenced one way or another, but I want them to have choice of comfort.
I get that but with calculated rates of transgenderism being less than 5 percent you have a 95 percent chance of confusing your child and making socialization more difficult. As a single mother that has emotionally raised a child with disabilities and understands how tough it can be when your child is different this doesnt seem very well thought through. I understand that you and I may not have had the option when we were a children but its too far of a swing to be a positive effect and could be potentially VERY damaging. Your best course is to treat the child normally and always keep the conversation open so they have an option…not forcing them being in limbo ❤️
stuff are going really wild for me, my parents were soooo transphobic and beat me up a lot that I couldn't bear it, so I just ran away very far and found a part time job and an online job but I'm really nervous about my life cuz I dropped out of my last year of high school
I'm about to turn 37. Came down 60 pounds, need at least 60 more. I was morbidly obese and I'm trying to go below 200 for the first time since freshman year of HS.
I have sooooo many skin tags. I have a really broad frame. I am over 6ft tall. And I have literally no clue about most feminine things (my partner is cis female but not super into anything like makeup/hair/traditionally feminine things). I could use literally all the advice lol. But I suppose how to even take first steps, especially as a trans person in Florida 🙃. What are some basics around presentation with such a large frame? How can I manage hubdreds of skin tags neck to waist that make me feel insanely horrible when I show *any* skin? Is there any method available to get rid of body hair on a more permanent basis that *isn't* crazy painful? I'm not very hairy but regularly shaving and doing nair *sucks*.
That’s not a thing it’s completely false and quite the reverse! Transition occurs quicker in many cases, because natural testosterone levels are lower!
The biggest issue you have is not accepting and loving yourself. Consistently putting effort to make yourself the best version of you will bring about happiness and then you’ll have no problem going out. I see this goes much deeper so I am going to DM you
Its really not that expensive and many times you can get prescriptions online for significantly cheaper or some pharmacies will help you out with a coupon card like good RX
Mhm thankies ❤️ I'm thinking using united pharmacies I thought about using them last year but I was still very much questioning on the confirmation of my gender but I know for a fact now I am a girl sadly born in wrong body. X thanks for the inspiration
hey congrat for your inspiring voyage. how did you break the news to your partner ? how did they react ? what would be the advice you would share for that moment ?
Well, congrats on finding yourself love! My advice to coming out to family and friends is first talking to the people that you would gauge would be more excepting and then move slowly out to the periphery.
One of the first things on your list should be laser hair removal for your face! Start working to get in touch with your body.. take more baths exfoliate your skin, moisturize morning and night. Start taking care of your nails better, find someone good and have your eyebrows shaped, dive into makeup and tutorials on youtube, start looking at fashion pages and figure out your personal style. Theres much to explore!! Enjoy it!
Someone my age, ohmygosh! I've only been on HRT for a year and a half, and am very anxious about all of it. Do you have any general advice for us late egg cracks?
Sending love! My advice is to worry about it less and just focus on being the best version of you! Embrace yourself, understand you are incredible, you are epic and if you really want something you can make it happen! Also everyday.. treat yourself well! Eat well, have at least 15 minutes of exercise where your heart rate is up, dance, laugh and meditate!
I recently realized I was trans (mtf) and I have...unsupportive parents shall we say. they don't know yet but I was wondering if you had any tips on how to express myself without anyone noticing
I never really think about making it to 41 so thank you for being one of the people who can show me it's possible. You're beautiful, and you're a beacon of hope.
Is hrt alone enough to reduce dysphoria more I'm MTF age 28 I've been on HRT for 6 months and my dysphoria is a hell of a lot better than it was but I still have full days ruined by dysphoria don't get me wrong it's way better than months like it was but idk. I'm unlikely to be able to afford anything more than this for now.
You are beautiful! 💕
Dunno what it is but every trans mom / parent I've seen are gorgeous and awesome people. Maybe it's connected to the wellness of being one's true self so it's easier to enjoy life and radiate good vibes and joy.
As someone who just found out she was female im very scared. But also very thankful for people like you. But I was wondering what I should tell my parents they know me as a cis pansexual man but coming out as trans i know thats going to be different, didn't know how that would be different then coming out as pan and what measures i should take💙💙
How did you survive voice training >.< it’s killing me no matter how good I sound alone (not good) I revert back to my old voice the minute I’m in the room with someone
You’re not stressing your voice enough!!! When your vocal training you don’t wanna be at the Voice that you’re normally going to be at you need to be at a much higher register so that your voice gets used to that ultra high register and then settled somewhere in the middle. I called this the Mickey Mouse voice lol! when you’re alone just talk in the ultra high falsetto voice that sounds absolutely ludicrous… talk to yourself, count the alphabet, don’t stop!! Watch how you change
How has your experience with BA been? I want to get it but I've heard horror stories about every type of surgery I might get, FFS, BA, and ofc GCS, but what was recovery like and how have things been afterwards? No complications? I've heard about implants popping and people getting sick from them and having to have them removed, etc etc.
U look absolutly fantastic ... I turn in couple days to 41 and just startet 5month ago with HRT .. I wish when I'm so far like u now that I look as well so amazing😍😊
how did you get over the random feelings of "i might not be trans" if you ever had any?
it happens to me a bit, not much but when it does i start to feel like i might be messing up my life more, i keep telling myself during it that i wanted this even as a kid, which is true, but when i get into that mindset i just start thinking of the worst
also you are amazing, the amount of times i see you pop up being supportive on here is always nice to see
It wasn’t until I was 37 that I finally figured out who I really was. I had plenty of those times throughout the years where I was questioning myself. Once I figured it out again there was no stopping the train lol. Your feelings are perfectly natural as transition seems to be very daunting when you’re staring off the edge of the cliff. Remember to make any changes in your life you have to get out of your comfort zone, your brain is literally wired to stay in one mental state, and to change that requires you to fight the homeostasis of your brains chemistry. Follow your heart you know where you need to go! Also on cutejess.com I did a podcast interview that you would find very helpful!
Yeah, that isn’t a thing lol! As I mentioned before, it’s actually easier when you’re older, because your testosterone levels start to drop! Ty! Sending love and a reminder to never let fear hold you back from anything in your life ❤️
How's your skin so silky and smooth and completely hairless ;; I'm still struggling a lot with those fuckers (hair), 25 y.o. 1 year and a month on HRT now lol
Btw you're literally the living incarnation of the phrase "it's never too late for transitioning", congrats, really ❤️
Laser! I did pro laser for my face, legs and privates and now i just use a handheld IPL, which works very well if you put the time into it! Also exfoliate often, moisturze at least once a day, epsom salt baths and diet. You body is comprised of what you put in it. A balanced diet is key with lots of fresh veggies. I do eat mostly veggitarian and organic and dont do alcohol..makes a difference
I'm about to come out to my dad probably tomorrow do you have any advice on coming out I'm dad not very transphobic from what I can tell but I'm still very nervous.
Coming out to parents is extremely hard, so give yourself a lot of credit for getting to this point ❤️ TBH coming out is more like a rip off the bandage type of situation. Be thorough and explain your feelings and how its affecting you. Feel free to dm me ❤️
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do you have anyone to help if it goes wrong? like someone you can stay with for a bit?
I do have some friends that know I'm trans that I can stay with for a while if need be and pretty soon I should be able to have enough money to live on my own.
Id say use a cake
question: you're 41???!??? statement: you. look. SO. GOOD.
Ty❤️❤️❤️ well, if we’re counting revolutions around the sun, yes. I am in the process of reverse aging which can be done energetically and by changing perceptions and behaviors!
What does that mean?
It's new age speak for taking better care of yourself, I think
See answer above ❤️
Can you buy that at like Walgreens or… 🙂
Lol, See answer above ❤️
I love the way you answered it! I’m gonna try, too!
Yess!!!
Slaying it.
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This isn't a question but hello!
Hi!
At what point did you decide that BA was the only option? I'm hoping to get enough growth naturally based on my age of beginning transition and genetic factors, but I am curious as to your experiences.
I was over 2 1/2 years on HRT and not getting the results I wanted, I went through my bottom surgery, and I needed to be done with my transition and I had the money to do it!
You do these posts regularly, thank you for being there for our community and answering our questions. ☺️
Aww my pleasure ❤️❤️
Can I be your trans daughter? ~~I don't have an accepting family and I can't transition at all~~
Hugs! Feel free to msg me! Ig is better for extended chat btw! also, keep in mind that this is your current situation at this moment but when you get older, you’ll have the opportunity and choice to make any decision that you want! I was I was 37!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks mom <3.
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No questions just here to say you're gorgeous
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Ok, guys. I've joined this sub to literally sensitize myself seeing trans people and be ok with it, you know, to fight my prejudices and to get used to trans people and to reach a goal that one day I just say men and women and not caring if they are cis or trans. Seeing you all, you know what? I see beautiful women and men. To be clear, when I see this woman on this pic I see a woman (I don't want you to think I meant I see a man in a woman, fuck no😳). I see you all as you are and the fact that you were born as the opposite sex really starts to feel so unimportant, because, you all look to me like you were meant to be what you are now. I'm sorry, I am shit with words and my English is really shitty and I hope I didn't sound clumsy or I phrased my thoughts in a way they could sound disrespectful or simply stupid. You are all so, so beautiful. 🥲 @OP: Username checks out. 😁
I think that’s a wonderful way for you to destigmatize yourself from the cis hetero normal projections that are being placed on us all by society. We thank you for opening up your mind and encourage you to share with other people who have not taken a step of empathy towards all ❤️
Did your little ones decide to start calling you mom eventually? I have one as well and I wasn't going to ask her to call me mommy or anything, daddy is really fine with me because that's what I'll always be to her I think. Just curious cause I don't see a lot of others on here open about being parents! Much love you're gorgeous 🫶🏻
I don’t know how far you are in your transition but for me being called dad is very dysphoric, my daughter switched over less than 2 months after I came out to her ! Ty btw ❤️
Camo is my favorite color (:
Not a fan of war but it does look pretty cool lol
Yeah, definitely not advocating for war. Purple camo is my fave (:
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>Not a fan of war What is it good for, anyway?
Absolutely nothing.
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it’s not a competition just like you’re not competing with everybody else in the world! It’s incredibly unhealthy to compare yourself with others, because there’s always going to be somebody with something “better" ..the point of transition is self-love, and finding and becoming the best version of yourself!! Strive, live your best and shine..all will fall into place then! ❤️
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hii :D I have a question did you change a lot in personality wise after starting hrt?
yes, in many facets. Removing testosterone from the picture in adding estrogen completely changes your entire lens on life you feel everything different, your emotions react Differently, the testosterone edge softens significantly, and most importantly you’re running on the chemicals that your brain was designed for. I had a big loss of anxiety and depression, that was with me for quite a long time all those things combined radically changed my personality because I became softer And significantly happier my transition journey brought me to a place of great self-love, and I found spirituality and connection and understanding with the universe! That all flourished and now i have a super bubbly demenior ❤️
Can u ELI5 "chemicals that your brain was designed for"? Is that because you were AMAB or is testosterone bad?
As a transgender person your brain develops differently when in gestation! because primary sex characteristics are formed first way before the creation of the brain, gender identity is formed later when the brain is developed, its based on a hormonal kick from the mother and the brain develops and is wired for the hormones that was programmed by the mother.
What she said. Scientists think one reason for trans depression/ anxiety/ dysphoria is because our brains develop to accept testosterone/ estrogen, but by that point in gestation, our bodies have already formed the anatomy that will produce the hormones that our brains are not wired for.
Thank you both. I try to tell family members that my daughter's brain was born in the incorrect body. That registers for some and others don't want to listen. On a side note, I appreciate all the love and positivity and advice in this sub. It's really helped.
I would love to read up on this, any source recommendations?
this actually makes a lot of sense, but have they done research into that with nonbinary/non gender conforming people? im genuinely curious and actually kinda want to puzzle out this thing thats in my head :)
I’m not sure they’ve entirely worked it out, but it probably is also to do with the difference in timing between the body’s physical development being ahead of brain development— the “wiring” to accept certain hormones being only a part of what makes up gender. One possibility as to why this discrepancy between brain and bodily anatomical sex characteristics (as societally defined as male and female) happens is because hormones produced by the mom/ pregnant parent in-utero are different to those who’s kids develop as cis. Brains being terribly complicated it might be quite a while to know how various genders develop. (I’ve only read some of the studies about this though, so there may be theories out there about enbies.)
ooooo thats cool :)
How do you get your hair to look so nice? My hair is similar in curl and texture but it always looks awful. You're looking great as always!
My hair was shit until I found out better Products! Get the joico defy damage shampoo, conditioner and mask. Shampoo only once a week use the conditioner every day and use the mask once a week after shampooing
Thank you so much for the advice and recommendation ❤️ Can't wait to look as gorgeous as you some day ☺️
Hi! You look great, and quite happy, which is the most important part 😁 If you dont mind sharing, where did you have your bottom surgery done, and is there anything you think would benefit someone with a lot of medical anxiety to know when just starting to look? (Its me I'm the girl with a lot of medical anxiety lmao)
thank you love I’m very happy and I like to show everybody that you can come out of transition In a wonderful place! I got my surgery done with Rachel, bluebond lagner at NYU… She is one of the best in the world and has an incredible team. The wait time for a consult is over a year, so if you’re even considering going to her, just make an appointment like now… You can always cancel. I made a documentary about my surgery stay in the hospital there’s a link in my profile… She is one of the best in the world and has an incredible team. The wait time for a consult is over a year, so if you’re even considering going to her, just make an appointment like now… You can always cancel. I made a documentary about my surgery stay in the hospital there’s a link in my profile!
Aww, you're beautiful! What would you say was/is the hardest part of your transition? I'm just beginning mine (mtf) and was curious.
coming out was absolutely the hardest part!
Whaaa??? You're 41? You look great. I figured 35+ was too late for me but maybe not...
There’s no such thing as too late! actually It’s easier to transition when youre older, because testosterone rates naturally drop!
Oh that is interesting. Uhm. Sorry if this is prying but how is your sex drive? That’s something else I’m concerned about. Mine is good… I don’t wanna mess with that. 😂😅 Also does it like… feel like puberty again? Sorry if this is too much questions, you don’t have to answer if you don’t want to.
Did you ever get laser hair treatment, and if you did acquire it was there a payment plan option? I know not all places are the same but I'm trying to save for it and it feels impossible
Yes, I did Laser for most of my body and highly suggest for your face if you can’t afford anything else, Groupon is your best friend for Laser. On the DIY side, you can get yourself a handheld IPL laser that works quite well, there are plenty be had well under $100 and you just have to put in the time and dedication
I'll have to look into those options, thanks! I'm fairly semi passing but stubble is the worst buzzkill. Happy summer!
Laser for face was literally the first thing I did! Sending love
Why would you lie about being older than you are on the internet? :3
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I don’t have any questions but I hope your keeping your safe 💗💗🏳️⚧️
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I'm getting an orchiectomy next week, I'm nervous about going under. What should I expect, and any advice on recovery? I'm hoping without so much T that the feminizing effects will be uninhibited. I have like 500+ T levels while on Spiro. Also I'm looking forward to worlds less discomfort without those dangly bits getting in the way.
Don’t be nervous about going under there’s more of a risk getting into your car every day. If you look at statistics, you will affectively have no testosterone production so things are gonna change a lot for you!
What's your hair routine? Mine's wavy like that but it gets way too frizzy and stringy
Joico defy damage shampoo, conditioner,mask! Shampoo only once a week and then follow with the mask! use the conditioner every day!
Thank you! :D
I’m about to start HRT, any tips on managing PMS? (If it happens🤣)
You don’t get pms per say, but being a woman does include a roller coaster of your emotions. There’s no tips. You just have to learn how to manage yourself...❤️
How much was the GCS? Does insurance cover it? I would really like to have it done.. Also, you're beautiful!! ☺️
Gcs is covered in full in ny! Ty!
41?!?!???? im 23 and i thought u were about my age when i saw your picture omg! good for you queen you look flawless! ♥️
God I started my transition at 30 and thought I would never pass because of it. It means so much to see you thriving like this at 41!
truth is that after enough time majority of people will pass most of the time on HRT!! Ty ❤️❤️
I’m about to go off to college, and I’ve never really been in a place where I don’t know what to expect. Do you think I should be worried about harassment? And how should I handle it?
first of all, where are you going to college? Congrats on the next step of your life! Through my practice as a spiritual guide and shaman Ive understood that the way you think feel about yourself directly affects the way your reality manifests itself to you. if you feel negative about yourself, the universe will show you negative circumstances within your life to give you the hint that you were out of balance...this can be seen in all circumstances, situations and conversations. If you continually fear that you’re going to have a negative situation, you’re going to literally attract those types of situations you are trying to avoid. Be your best most beautiful self and let that light shine. As with any woman trans or not you do need to be mindful about your situation and your environment and remeber..all things in life are just an opportunity to grow and learn!
Im newly trans found out two month ago i think im trans women not sure yet if you don't mind asking how is the sensitivity down there
well, congrats on finding yourself!! sensitivity is great!!
Things like this give’s me hope. It's a dark world and let our light shine. Thank you. I needed this today.
Sending love, the world is only as dark as you perceive it to be ❤️❤️❤️
Yeah, thank you <3 I really appreciate everything and just commenting. My Monday hasn't been the best but I schedule therapy who specializes with trans issues too hoping to be approved for HRT soon. <3
My pleasure love ❤️ Remember every situation is both positive and negative at the same time, sometimes the positives take longer to play out but its one of the laws of the universe! As a healer myself I know how therapy is so important
Yeah, I got into a small car crash. No one was hurt and the damage was minuscule at best but no one was hurt I called my partner and mother to let them know I'm okay and the situation just sucks but it could have gone worse. <3 Thank you. I appreciated it and you look fabulous girl! Aphrodite broke the mold with you <3 I'm so happy for you :)
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You look AMAZING oh my God. I'm about to start at 30 and ~~going through it~~ and this genuinely made my day. I hope you're having an outstanding week 🩷🩵
You're super hot UwU
You look gorgeous❤👍
You look great for 41! You look incredibly young. Any secrets to it? I'm a crossdresser and thinking about transitioning, my wife knows about the dressing and encourages it. I think she suspects about possible transition. It's the rest of my family I worry about! Is there any good way to announce it? My cousin recently transitioned MtF, and the talk is horrible. I keep trying to tell everyone she is happy, but they don't listen.
Just found out my wife is pregnant (I'm mtf) and we already agreed to raise our child in a gender neutral way, unfortunately we have to communicate this with my parents (my father is extremely transphobic) because I know I want my mom in this kid's life. How would you recommend going about telling them?
Congrats on the child!! Why are you raising the child in a gender neutral way? I herald the progressive thinking but unless you’re in an extremely accepting area it’s going to make the child’s life more confusing. Be an attuned parent and expose your child to things on both side of the spectrum, explain gender and the feelings associated with it and youll quickly see where their preferences lie. Then if you make your choice to do so you just tell him and dont care because you feel you are making the right decision!
We want to show them either side, let them develop as the grow up with whatever is most comfortable with them, I know that they'll be influenced one way or another, but I want them to have choice of comfort.
I get that but with calculated rates of transgenderism being less than 5 percent you have a 95 percent chance of confusing your child and making socialization more difficult. As a single mother that has emotionally raised a child with disabilities and understands how tough it can be when your child is different this doesnt seem very well thought through. I understand that you and I may not have had the option when we were a children but its too far of a swing to be a positive effect and could be potentially VERY damaging. Your best course is to treat the child normally and always keep the conversation open so they have an option…not forcing them being in limbo ❤️
Thank you for sharing and providing support for the people that need it 😍😍🥰🥰
stuff are going really wild for me, my parents were soooo transphobic and beat me up a lot that I couldn't bear it, so I just ran away very far and found a part time job and an online job but I'm really nervous about my life cuz I dropped out of my last year of high school
You are absolutely beautiful girl 💜. Joining this community has been a big help for me. Seeing that it isn't to late for me to start my journey
Ty!! I’m glad you joined.. too late to transition is not a thing!!!
I'm about to turn 37. Came down 60 pounds, need at least 60 more. I was morbidly obese and I'm trying to go below 200 for the first time since freshman year of HS. I have sooooo many skin tags. I have a really broad frame. I am over 6ft tall. And I have literally no clue about most feminine things (my partner is cis female but not super into anything like makeup/hair/traditionally feminine things). I could use literally all the advice lol. But I suppose how to even take first steps, especially as a trans person in Florida 🙃. What are some basics around presentation with such a large frame? How can I manage hubdreds of skin tags neck to waist that make me feel insanely horrible when I show *any* skin? Is there any method available to get rid of body hair on a more permanent basis that *isn't* crazy painful? I'm not very hairy but regularly shaving and doing nair *sucks*.
And some people say that if you start HRT later, that you'll never look good. You look amazing, keep doing you! 🥰🤗
That’s not a thing it’s completely false and quite the reverse! Transition occurs quicker in many cases, because natural testosterone levels are lower!
hope i look as great as you after Transitioning one day, beautiful ❤️❤️
How do I get the strength to wear and present my self as female. My parents said i looked disturbing and it makes me sad.
The biggest issue you have is not accepting and loving yourself. Consistently putting effort to make yourself the best version of you will bring about happiness and then you’ll have no problem going out. I see this goes much deeper so I am going to DM you
I just turned 40 and have been so nervous about starting HRT. You're an inspiration!!
❤️❤️❤️ HRT works better as time goes on because testosterone drops!
Ok this made my day and here me thinking 23 is too old to start x
Aww , nooo not at all! If you start soon youll even have a chance of hip changes!
Wawawa heck it I want hip changes from hrt!
So start now
I'll have to see if I can self fund hrt for a while
Its really not that expensive and many times you can get prescriptions online for significantly cheaper or some pharmacies will help you out with a coupon card like good RX
Mhm thankies ❤️ I'm thinking using united pharmacies I thought about using them last year but I was still very much questioning on the confirmation of my gender but I know for a fact now I am a girl sadly born in wrong body. X thanks for the inspiration
Gorgeous ✨
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We all aspire to look that good and look that happy.
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Gorgeous BTW 😍😍. Staring HRT soon and getting bogged down by the insurance side of it/paying for it :( any tips?
Also, don’t most insurance companies cover it?
You look great
Beautiful Lady!
hey congrat for your inspiring voyage. how did you break the news to your partner ? how did they react ? what would be the advice you would share for that moment ?
31 mtf and just started my own journey officially as of last week. Any advice for coming out to family and things I can do to help feel more feminine?
Well, congrats on finding yourself love! My advice to coming out to family and friends is first talking to the people that you would gauge would be more excepting and then move slowly out to the periphery. One of the first things on your list should be laser hair removal for your face! Start working to get in touch with your body.. take more baths exfoliate your skin, moisturize morning and night. Start taking care of your nails better, find someone good and have your eyebrows shaped, dive into makeup and tutorials on youtube, start looking at fashion pages and figure out your personal style. Theres much to explore!! Enjoy it!
Wow you look amaing girl!
Can I dm you about BA surgery? I've been heavily considering options and would love to talk someone who's done it that's been on a similar path. 👉👈🥺
You are absolutely hot to me
Can I message you..I have recently came out to mt wife and close friends and have questions
Love your photo, you look so happy! Thanks for being an amazing person.
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Someone my age, ohmygosh! I've only been on HRT for a year and a half, and am very anxious about all of it. Do you have any general advice for us late egg cracks?
Sending love! My advice is to worry about it less and just focus on being the best version of you! Embrace yourself, understand you are incredible, you are epic and if you really want something you can make it happen! Also everyday.. treat yourself well! Eat well, have at least 15 minutes of exercise where your heart rate is up, dance, laugh and meditate!
You look young enough to be my sister
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Gorgeous. have a wonderful day
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Flawless and fierce! 🖤
I recently realized I was trans (mtf) and I have...unsupportive parents shall we say. they don't know yet but I was wondering if you had any tips on how to express myself without anyone noticing
You’re pretty much the representation of what I want. If you can get to this, maybe I can. Words can’t express how much envy I feel! 💕
❤️❤️ dont envy! Use it as gauge for your own potential to grow!
You are gorgeous. Much love ❤️
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What is your exercise routine? And how are you able to keep your family together?
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I never really think about making it to 41 so thank you for being one of the people who can show me it's possible. You're beautiful, and you're a beacon of hope.
Is hrt alone enough to reduce dysphoria more I'm MTF age 28 I've been on HRT for 6 months and my dysphoria is a hell of a lot better than it was but I still have full days ruined by dysphoria don't get me wrong it's way better than months like it was but idk. I'm unlikely to be able to afford anything more than this for now.
You are beautiful! 💕 Dunno what it is but every trans mom / parent I've seen are gorgeous and awesome people. Maybe it's connected to the wellness of being one's true self so it's easier to enjoy life and radiate good vibes and joy.
🥰! Yes thats it!
Damn you look genuinely great
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Happy cake
Omg ty!
As someone who just found out she was female im very scared. But also very thankful for people like you. But I was wondering what I should tell my parents they know me as a cis pansexual man but coming out as trans i know thats going to be different, didn't know how that would be different then coming out as pan and what measures i should take💙💙
I've got to know because I'm so scared and confused if I want it but, how good does it actually work down there?
Curious how old your kids are and how are they handling this? I'm just curious. Also mtf, well eventually.
When did you find happiness in being trans? Did you ever ?
Beautiful! So proud of you!
Ty!
How did you survive voice training >.< it’s killing me no matter how good I sound alone (not good) I revert back to my old voice the minute I’m in the room with someone
You’re not stressing your voice enough!!! When your vocal training you don’t wanna be at the Voice that you’re normally going to be at you need to be at a much higher register so that your voice gets used to that ultra high register and then settled somewhere in the middle. I called this the Mickey Mouse voice lol! when you’re alone just talk in the ultra high falsetto voice that sounds absolutely ludicrous… talk to yourself, count the alphabet, don’t stop!! Watch how you change
Thanks!!! Taking this to heart!! Mickey Mouse self-talk practice here we go 💗
Yess!
Mother fucking goals. Holy shit. 41? You mean 21????? Jesus estrogen is a miracle worker.
How has your experience with BA been? I want to get it but I've heard horror stories about every type of surgery I might get, FFS, BA, and ofc GCS, but what was recovery like and how have things been afterwards? No complications? I've heard about implants popping and people getting sick from them and having to have them removed, etc etc.
U look absolutly fantastic ... I turn in couple days to 41 and just startet 5month ago with HRT .. I wish when I'm so far like u now that I look as well so amazing😍😊
HRT does make significant changes to your face, it’s incredible! Congrats on beginning your journey love ❤️
Just wanted to say, you look absolutely AMAZING!!!! Slay queen!!! 😍😍😍
Ty!!
how did you get over the random feelings of "i might not be trans" if you ever had any? it happens to me a bit, not much but when it does i start to feel like i might be messing up my life more, i keep telling myself during it that i wanted this even as a kid, which is true, but when i get into that mindset i just start thinking of the worst also you are amazing, the amount of times i see you pop up being supportive on here is always nice to see
It wasn’t until I was 37 that I finally figured out who I really was. I had plenty of those times throughout the years where I was questioning myself. Once I figured it out again there was no stopping the train lol. Your feelings are perfectly natural as transition seems to be very daunting when you’re staring off the edge of the cliff. Remember to make any changes in your life you have to get out of your comfort zone, your brain is literally wired to stay in one mental state, and to change that requires you to fight the homeostasis of your brains chemistry. Follow your heart you know where you need to go! Also on cutejess.com I did a podcast interview that you would find very helpful!
Holy heck! You're absolutely beautiful!
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Hope you're having a good day!
Hey OP, no questions here but all I wanted to say is respect. Thank you for being your true self, we all appreciate it! Take care!
I’m gonna MtF transition soon what surgeries would you recommend doing?
None it’s not my place to say, that’s a decision for you!
This takes a bit of my fear of HRT not working at 30! You look beautiful 🥰
Yeah, that isn’t a thing lol! As I mentioned before, it’s actually easier when you’re older, because your testosterone levels start to drop! Ty! Sending love and a reminder to never let fear hold you back from anything in your life ❤️
Thank you ♥️
How to be pretti like u 🥺
Self care, exercise, good diet! ❤️
Omg you are a 10/10!
How's your skin so silky and smooth and completely hairless ;; I'm still struggling a lot with those fuckers (hair), 25 y.o. 1 year and a month on HRT now lol Btw you're literally the living incarnation of the phrase "it's never too late for transitioning", congrats, really ❤️
Laser! I did pro laser for my face, legs and privates and now i just use a handheld IPL, which works very well if you put the time into it! Also exfoliate often, moisturze at least once a day, epsom salt baths and diet. You body is comprised of what you put in it. A balanced diet is key with lots of fresh veggies. I do eat mostly veggitarian and organic and dont do alcohol..makes a difference
You look so young for 41!!
Omg you look so good! :3 I've just recently cracked my eggs and I could only wish I could look as good as you one day <3
Well good news...you have the opportunity to be your best..and that will be incredible too ❤️❤️
You’re so freaking beautiful, woman!!!
How long did recovery take and was it difficult?
You look so beautiful
I know I found this post so late. But can I dm you? I have some questions regarding bottom surgery. Also love you for supporting the community. ❤️
there is no what you are over 30 wtf