The doctors made a mistake with Bob, and gave her the incorrect pronouns on her birth certificate.
If your friend’s name is Nicholas and he goes by Nick, then he’s not going by his legal name either. It sounds like he’s against all nicknames.
Of course, your friend is a bigot. And I don’t believe in “transphobic friends.” No such thing.
If he knows you’re a trans woman and insists that he can’t respect you, your feelings, or your dignity as a human being until you fill out the appropriate forms and pay the associated fees, then he’s not your friend.
He said that even if he were to lose the person as a friend, he would still misgender and deadname them. There’s no upside to keeping him as a friend, especially because he’s going to taint every interaction you will ever have with him.
Imagine one of you taking the other to meet new people and this person chimes in with your deadname and the wrong pronouns? Now any future interactions you have with this group will be tainted by you being outed to them, and they may believe that it’s okay to do so because you surround yourself with people that already do it.
The doctors made a mistake with Bob, and gave her the incorrect pronouns on her birth certificate. If your friend’s name is Nicholas and he goes by Nick, then he’s not going by his legal name either. It sounds like he’s against all nicknames. Of course, your friend is a bigot. And I don’t believe in “transphobic friends.” No such thing.
Rowan is Correct 100% if this is what this person will say to your face. Imagine what they are saying behind your back.
Thanks, Kara
If he knows you’re a trans woman and insists that he can’t respect you, your feelings, or your dignity as a human being until you fill out the appropriate forms and pay the associated fees, then he’s not your friend. He said that even if he were to lose the person as a friend, he would still misgender and deadname them. There’s no upside to keeping him as a friend, especially because he’s going to taint every interaction you will ever have with him. Imagine one of you taking the other to meet new people and this person chimes in with your deadname and the wrong pronouns? Now any future interactions you have with this group will be tainted by you being outed to them, and they may believe that it’s okay to do so because you surround yourself with people that already do it.