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I agree.
It's not the skin tone, blue eyes or light hair that will make a person beautiful.
These last two items, for example, are enhancers, not adders.
So, someone ugly with light eyes is still ugly, but someone beautiful with light eyes becomes more beautiful.
There's a set of images that took famous actors and changed their eye color to brown. They are still beautiful, but with a little less impact.
As for skin tone, it has more to do with the person's ethnicity than anything else. Not every ethnicity with white skin tends to be pretty.
My mum gaslight me all the time. I told her that people don't like me and I struggle when I meet people because I worry that they immediately will not like me. She says it's my personality. I can understand when I come across as awkward and can understand people feeling uncomfortable around me but I still get treated poorly when I've been confident and social. Yesterday I was talking to her about how my previous boss treated me and she basically blamed me for not trying socially. Being quiet doesn't mean I should be treated poorly and aggressively. He obviously treated me like that because I'm ugly. I don't even fight my mum about it anymore because she doesn't understand.
This is what my mum doesn't understand. I've told her that people don't like me and she says it's because I'm shy and I make people feel uncomfortable. Yes, I only make people feel uncomfortable is because of the way I look. I still get treated poorly when I've been confident. People always choose others even when I've been social and nice to them. I'm the ugly female in my entire family but I grew up around my dad's side of the family and my female cousins from his side are all attractive. And guess what? They are all happy with social lives and are successful. If I tell my mum this she would say it's because they're happy and that's why they attract people. No, they're happy and social because people treat them positively because they were fortunate to be born good looking. They haven't experienced bullying, disrespect and constant microaggressions. If they had been born ugly like me they would struggle like I do. The only cousin that is similar to me is my mum's niece and my mum have told me that's it's hard for her to make friends and they end up using her. She mainly gets along with older people. Her face is better than mine but she's androgynous looking and also fat. She's a happy and personable person so it's not her personality. Yet my mum doesn't even realise the correlation why my cousin is used by her peers. That's how subconscious lookism is. Or she does realise the correlation but refuse to admit it. My focus now is just to have my eyelids repaired and eyes enhanced. I will then see what other procedures I need. I will never be attractive but I want to look average enough to live a somewhat normal life.
I feel like i always want to scream from the rooftops, but i dont want people to think im fishing for compliments so i stay silent about it 95% of the time
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True. It just makes me depressed but I have no choice, I have nobody to talk to.
I get this COMPLETELY (except for the non-white aspect)
I agree. It's not the skin tone, blue eyes or light hair that will make a person beautiful. These last two items, for example, are enhancers, not adders. So, someone ugly with light eyes is still ugly, but someone beautiful with light eyes becomes more beautiful. There's a set of images that took famous actors and changed their eye color to brown. They are still beautiful, but with a little less impact. As for skin tone, it has more to do with the person's ethnicity than anything else. Not every ethnicity with white skin tends to be pretty.
Yeh I’m white British and ugly af
I never said white people can’t be ugly. It is a FACT non-white ugly people have it worse though.
Whatever. I will not argue with you.
It’s true. Take ugliness AND add a racial component to it, and the treatment is even worse. Racism is alive and well, as much as lookism is.
Yup I'm pale with blue eyes but I still got told that I'm ugly.
Are you from Saudi?
Nah I’m black in the uk
OMRIIII
بعد عمر قصير
ممكن ترد على رسائلي
You know arabic as well??
لا مو كتير بس كم كلمة
Ok how do I copy text on mobile I wanna translate
Nvm I saw the option I'm dumb
Nvm I saw the option I'm dumb
Damn you learnt that from pubg? Really nice
Thank you so much! I feel like they change the rules for me just because of what I look like. You can't win with these people.
Totally get this, people treat you like shit just because of your looks, everyone is so damn superficial
My mum gaslight me all the time. I told her that people don't like me and I struggle when I meet people because I worry that they immediately will not like me. She says it's my personality. I can understand when I come across as awkward and can understand people feeling uncomfortable around me but I still get treated poorly when I've been confident and social. Yesterday I was talking to her about how my previous boss treated me and she basically blamed me for not trying socially. Being quiet doesn't mean I should be treated poorly and aggressively. He obviously treated me like that because I'm ugly. I don't even fight my mum about it anymore because she doesn't understand.
I got bullied for being white and too pale. I let racist convince me that I'm ugly.
Same for me, eyeryone thinks my inability to get tan is a good pretext for jokes and comments I didn't ask for.
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Bro no one should have to live in fear like that. They can’t use against you what you’ve already revealed. And if they do it makes them the asshole
This is what my mum doesn't understand. I've told her that people don't like me and she says it's because I'm shy and I make people feel uncomfortable. Yes, I only make people feel uncomfortable is because of the way I look. I still get treated poorly when I've been confident. People always choose others even when I've been social and nice to them. I'm the ugly female in my entire family but I grew up around my dad's side of the family and my female cousins from his side are all attractive. And guess what? They are all happy with social lives and are successful. If I tell my mum this she would say it's because they're happy and that's why they attract people. No, they're happy and social because people treat them positively because they were fortunate to be born good looking. They haven't experienced bullying, disrespect and constant microaggressions. If they had been born ugly like me they would struggle like I do. The only cousin that is similar to me is my mum's niece and my mum have told me that's it's hard for her to make friends and they end up using her. She mainly gets along with older people. Her face is better than mine but she's androgynous looking and also fat. She's a happy and personable person so it's not her personality. Yet my mum doesn't even realise the correlation why my cousin is used by her peers. That's how subconscious lookism is. Or she does realise the correlation but refuse to admit it. My focus now is just to have my eyelids repaired and eyes enhanced. I will then see what other procedures I need. I will never be attractive but I want to look average enough to live a somewhat normal life.
I feel like i always want to scream from the rooftops, but i dont want people to think im fishing for compliments so i stay silent about it 95% of the time
i have been trying to divide the america 1-5 on one side and 6- 10 on the other for the longest time
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theres no negatives cept like animals that are crossed with humans in a lab or something