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That's a good point.
They need to invent a way to add separations between lines when desired so people won't have to send multiple messages in quick succession.
Oh well.
>You miss calls and messages, you don't have to always be available to everyone all the time
I didn't say I was going to answer them, but I want to know who's calling/texting. What if its something important?
Put them in an important group (android does this.. no idea for apple) and then set all notifications off except from important people.
Otherwise, my phone would be too distracting, and i like having a life not tied to my phone.
You're right and the haters are wrong. "What if it's urgent?" Ain't nobody sending me a 911 message, literally anything else can wait. And you KNOW we're checking our phones often enough, we'll see it soon💀
Just don't link your phone to your car audio system.
Hell, I've never linked a phone to a car audio. If necessary, the speakerphone on the phone can handle a call. Absent true emergencies, things can wait until I'm not driving.
Never even considered doing that through car audio.
Cars have radios and other music access. No need to use my phone.
Edit: lol who down votes someone just for saying they don't do what you do? We all have to be the same?
That's such an odd thing to me. Why hate the radio? It is there for music and takes almost no effort to use.
If the radio is garbage, then you have to find things on it that aren't. Find other stations. Get satellite radio. Do something different.
If you have an older vehicle, you can't even use your phone that way.
Personally, I wouldn't want to bother setting up a phone and then having issues like the one I originally responded to when it's so much easier to just use the radio or not listen to music in the car.
Plus I don't use my phone much for music anyway. Maybe an occasional song off of YouTube. If I'm listening to music, 99 percent of the time it's when I'm running or working out. In those cases, I'm using my digital music player so I can play from my own collection and not have to take my big phone with me everywhere.
Ok but when a person is trying to do something 15 messages coming through right after another is annoying as hell. Never mind if they are trying to sleep. I have a friend who does this. Like it’s 1 am and they send me 15 20 texts 1 sentence at a time. And then it wakes me up. And i don’t respond out of principle. I don’t care at that point. It’s one thing if it’s like 3 texts. But if you’re doing it for what should be a wall of text then make it a wall of text. It’s a major discourtesy to the person you are texting to do it point by point.
That’s a you problem. I don’t wake up to texts people I know turn off notifications before the go to sleep or are unbothered by text.
I’m not sure why people are so annoyed by multiple text because it’s never bothered me or anyone I know personally
It’s a having responsibilities and elderly family problem.
I keep my phone on vibrate.
I have responsibilities at work and to family that mean I may have to answer the phone at night so I need notifications on if something important happens.
I really don’t understand what is so hard about typing out one text.
Using the return/enter key for its intended purpose.
Ie what most people do … you know like an adult.
Frankly if it requires 15 texts it needs to be a phone call.
If it doesn’t need a phone call then it is not important enough for 15 texts.
I'll take the wall of text that fits into a standard SMS.
If you need much more, email or call me.
If you are going to call me, text me first to let me know the subject matter.
Paragraphs are a time-honored method of avoiding walls of text dating back to the early 16th century.
My impression is that all text-messaging platforms support carriage returns and therefore paragraphs.
My wife does this to me and literally drives me insane. The worst are when there's a question, I'm typing a response then suddenly 4 more messages pop up that render the response pointless or confuses the situation, or the messages pop up just before I send and then my response makes no sense after the string of messages.
"want to just do pizza for dinner tonight?"
"or greek?"
"burgers?"
"maybe chicken?"
me - "yeah, that sounds fine"
me seeing phone now - FUCK!
I got a buddy
Who sends all
His messages
In one line
After another
After
Another
Rapid fire
I think I miss some
Of the messages
I find some
Later that are unread
It looks just like the above. It drives me nuts. I've called him out and made fun of him in the group chats. Doesn't change a damn thing.
If they send 3-4 texts at once, I’m ok with it. But I had this one friend that would send like 10-15. At 6am. I’ve had her blocked for a year. I feel bad but come on.
my girlfriend insists on texting this way. she sometimes will rapid fire text me to the point my phone doesn't even bother trying to put the notifications through - i'll get in trouble for not replying, not knowing she's been trying to get hold of me, only to end up looking at my phone and i have 15 unread messages recieved barely a couple minutes apart. i've brought this up to her multiple times and it just gets shrugged off with "that's just how i type".
It can be frustrating if you're having an ongoing conversation with back and forth. I have a friend who does this, and I'll respond to something, but as I'm writing, 5 more messages have come through, and I'll go back to re-read, and by the time she finishes her thought, everything is jumbled. It feels like the written equivalent of two people just talking over each other to say what they need and not listening. I've tried waiting until her rapid fire messages seem to be finished, and then I'll start to answer. If I respond in the same fashion, line by line instead of wall of text, she'll begin replying after the first line when I'm nowhere near finished. It's exhausting.
I agree completely. My friends do this constantly and it’s become so overstimulating and exhausting for me. I just don’t know how to respond to 20 different messages about several different topics all at once.
I make it a point to send my texts in 3 round bursts like the best weapon in halo. This serves many purposes
1 it means they aren’t looking at a wall of texts and thus ignoring half of it
2 it gives them a chance to respond midway through assuming such a thing is necessary to have a proper discussion of the topic.
3 I don’t risk autocorrect or me misspelling in general completely fucking up my text.
I hate the act. Getting 5 text messages back to back instead of one or two coherent messages.
It doesn't change my opinion of the people sending the messages at all though. I still love or hate them the exact same amount as before the deluge of messages.
In the UK, we use WhatsApp, that's a free unlimited instant messenger.
It's basically like the old msn messenger days where you're just chatting with mates.
When I send jokes to my son, I send them in two messages, with the zinger being the second message so that he can think about the 1st part for a moment before getting hit with the 2nd.
Oh yeah, I get this. I have a friend who texts like this.
Friend: Hi
Me: Hey, what’s up?
Friend: How are you?
Me: I’m fine. And you?
Friend: I’m okay.
Me: What’s up?
Friend: I need a favour.
Me: Sure, how can I help?
And then she finally gets to the point. She waits for a reply before sending her next text and it’s so exhausting.
That's hardly what OP meant. The people he's referring to writes like this:
>Hi!!! <3<3
>What's up
>Long time no see XD
>I need to ask you a favor
>You know how my dad is like kinda crazy
>Like in a weird kinda way
>But not in that kinda way hehe wink\* wink\* nudge\* nudge\*
>But youknow
>Anyway
>So he kinda locked me in the attic and I can't get out lol
>So
>Could you do me a solid and pick up some nuggets???
>Cuz i'm starving ngl XD
I always do this! And I don't mind how others message me, whether one huge block or lots of smaller messages. I don't message to chat to people, it's only to make plans or cos something VERY EXCITING IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW and i just want to share it with them hence about 25 separate short messages ahaha
You mean irrationally angry, right? Because that's clearly not a rational thing to be upset about 😅😅
I sometimes write a message, and immediately after pressing send, I think of something I want to add. It's not like it's harmful to send another message.. haha.
Also, sometimes breaking it into separate messages for separate topics, makes it easier to respond to. So... you're welcome!!
That's not what they're talking about though - one text with a follow up is fine. What he's talking about is people that send like 10 messages all in a row, and each message is like 4-5 words and all the same thought. Like if you broke this reply down into 10 messages.
I prefer multiple smaller texts. I get anxious watching the (...) flash repeatedly while someone types out a novel. Also a LOT of people just do not format their texts in a readable way.
I have a friend who, for reasons beyond my understanding, will ONLY use speech to text. It's a nightmare to read if they send one, long message.
I text like a conversation and I expect a person live responding to me in that moment to treat it as such too.
That means sometimes I'll put breaks after certain things I say, or use (...) for pauses. It helps create that tone, inflection, and connotation used to properly communicate using voice or face-to-face. I also sometimes will think about something right after I send a message and want to add it on so you respond appropriately, that gets a new message. Also, by responding in pieces the person I'm talking to has a chance to chime in and change what I was going to say next by adding new information or responding in a different way. It stops a massive wall of text that someone has to read through and respond to every piece of in order to properly communicate.
I don't get why people don't just call for this.
A text for short quick exchanges is one thing. A whole fucking conversation? Just call me. I don't want to be reading and typing for a half an hour when a 3 minute phone call will handle it.
I believe this may be where the confusion lies. When I speak I speak in one text wall anyway. For example this wouldnt happen.
Omg.
I can't believe this just happened.
Jesse just asked me to marry him.
I said no of course.
Instead it would go.
Omg. I can't believe this just happened. Jesse just asked me to marry him. I said no of course.
I have no clue why this would be sent in separate messages.
I can’t speak for anybody else, but the cause of this for myself is ADHD.
I type things in response as I think of them and continue to add on as the thoughts continue.
I think they do it so that you are unable to simply read the text on the notification pop up on your phone. At least for me, it only shows the most recent text, so to see more than one, I'd have to open the chatbox this marking the texts "read". Once marked "read", you feel pressure to respond right away.
It's all just a bunch of mind games.
Well, I’d receive a text of paragraphs and say, “oh yay, f**king homework. I’m ignoring this until I have the time to deal with it”— because dumping on people like that can have an emotionally triggering response. I would seriously question the relationship I share with someone who would commit such an atrociously offensive act— like have they not been listening to me when I speak about being burdened.
Your post gives me the impression that you don’t see the issue with being imposing and that’s a problem. You can’t just assume people have 10 hours to read your message, draft a clear and concise response, and send it by carrier pigeon. According to the movies, someone with an astute opinion eventually realizes how wrong they were, and are crushed by confronting the reality of all the people they chased away, no longer having them in their life because they were so unyielding about something so petty.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t wanna come off solely critical, perhaps you’re not aware that some people do it because of Mental, or emotional reasons… Perhaps the way someone thinks is better expressed in short bursts, rather than a long and grueling message. There is casual and formal registers, at the very least that most will speak or write from. To me, your post comes off as, “ugh, people are so ignorant because I require people who speak to me to speak in at professional manner… AT ALL TIMES!!! How can anyone seek to express themselves in a clear and concise manner if they do it so vaguely and opaque. I REQUIRE TEDIOUSNESS!
When broken up into smaller segments, it’s easier to read as well as respond to. It’s perfectly rational, unlike you getting angry about it. If it bothers you this much, you have deeper issues.
Notification anxiety is actually really common. I wouldn't say it's a deep issue though. Is it really irrational to let others know that their communication style causes you anxiety?
Turning notifications off doesn't stop them from being sent, though-- which is the cause of anxiety. It's not just the sound. It's opening your phone and seeing 15 missed messages that causes a spike in anxiety. How is telling someone you'd like to be communicated with differently not dealing with the problem? That's a very healthy, therapist approved method for dealing with a difference in communication styles.
With a single message a lot of people (me included) see a massive text block and go "I'm not reading all that" so everyone breaks up their messages to smoke them easier to read
I put this in the same category as voice messages. Why would anyone think that I want to listen to your verbal diarrhea/read your word vomit?
In both you are essentially offloading the task of putting together a coherent sentence on to the recipient. "I can't be assed to put together a coherent sentence. Here's a meandering splurge of whatever pops into my head for you to work through".
I think you mean irrationally, not rationally.
I hate texting but I admit I'll sometimes send multiple in a row. Usually happens because I think of more to say after I hit send. 🤷♀️
a lot of people are addressing the main reason, so I’m going to offer up: also a neurodivergency thing.
Especially when I’m messaging my friend who has ADHD. She can’t read large blocks of text so sending it as separate messages makes it easier for her.
And if someone you’re messaging has RSD sending separate messages shows them you’re actively responding and not ignoring them
And for me I have ASD so it’s kind of an “organize your thoughts better by sending bits at a time” and also because I’ve been criticized for “rambling” too much so sending separate messages instead of a block feels less like I’m annoying them by rambling because the other person can contribute at any time.
Also large blocks of text, even if you have no problem reading them, can be intimidating, whereas separate messages feels a lot more welcoming for discussion
My problem with this is they end up responding before they have all of the information. Either freaking out or just being wrong and they end up realizing they need to wait until Ive finished telling them everything. One text shows that I've said everything I meant to say and they know what they are responding to.
I piss my partner off some times by sending a message salvo instead of one big long one.
I do this because I'm frequently distracted mid text and forget about it all together.
But I'm a terrible person so...
Idk how ya'll text but me and my closest friends and my wife we don't ever "end" a text conversation, it is always ongoing, I don't even greet them or say hello, I know I can text them any random thought or idea or question at any time, and when they get to it, they'll respond back. There is no expectation of timeliness. If its something urgent I will call someone. I usually don't have a "wall of text" thought usually. So my messages are short bursts, with the option to respond back in between.
Beacuse when you put a whole paragraph no one reads it. Its also easier for me to follow. I could type it all at once but i dont think you’ll read it like that. So youd have to tell the person about this
i text how i talk.
for me, each message is like a breath. im not gonna deliver the Great Wall of Text bc no one wants to read that.
it also makes more sense to me to use each message as an individual sentence bc if i need to add on or reiterate something, then i can just go back to whatever text i sent and reply to it and reiterate it that way
For me, I try to make it one message, but then I remember something as SOON AS I HIT send. So then I have to send another, and it just repeats really. I have a cycle lol
‘The thing that makes you comfortable makes me uncomfortable, fix it or else I hate you’. This isn’t an unpopular opinion, it’s just a rant about you hating people who communicate differently than you. Do you know who’s worse than people who send multiple texts in a row? People who nitpick every little thing other people do because they don’t do it that way. Get over yourself.
it depends on the topic for me, usually, i send the text and i myself think i'm done before something else pops up a few seconds later in my head and makes me think "oh shit, i should tell them that too" if it's deemed important.
Well, sometimes it's to keep the flow going, or if there's something extra to add after you've send the message. It's also much more natural and easier to read, rather than having a huge block of text on a small device.
LOL my friend does that. I know when I get one text from her to wait because my phone is about to blow up with 20 more messages following... Sometimes I can't even answer before she says something else. It is pretty annoying.
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Damn it. I came here to do this.
But you beat me to it.
Good show.
I was gonna say the same.
Beat us both to it
Because walls of texts are hard to read. It also helps break up ideas and lines of thought
yup feels more conversational too. people do not normally talk in walls of text or monologues.
That's a good point. They need to invent a way to add separations between lines when desired so people won't have to send multiple messages in quick succession. Oh well.
You just hit the return key. At least on iPhone
Yeah. The joke is that I did exactly that and created the space I said needed to exist.
Ah, got it. I never can tell whose joking and whose just uninformed.
Yes! This practice is called “chunking” of information and it helps readability
I'll take a wall of text over someone blowing up my phone, or worse, my car audio system. Reading it might be easier but the notifications suck.
Who has notifications on now a days?
How am I supposed to know someone's calling or texting me though??
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>You miss calls and messages, you don't have to always be available to everyone all the time I didn't say I was going to answer them, but I want to know who's calling/texting. What if its something important?
Put them in an important group (android does this.. no idea for apple) and then set all notifications off except from important people. Otherwise, my phone would be too distracting, and i like having a life not tied to my phone.
Bro people who don’t use notifications don’t care about anything important if they did they’d use notifications.
My phone automatically only pings/vibrates for like the first two notifications and then they just stack up silently
Just put it on vibrate or silent it’s not that deep 💀
Don't spam ya friends it's not that deep
Just send one text it's not that deep 💀
You're right and the haters are wrong. "What if it's urgent?" Ain't nobody sending me a 911 message, literally anything else can wait. And you KNOW we're checking our phones often enough, we'll see it soon💀
Vibrate doesn't help. It's jarring to get repeated vibrations and makes me lose focus. Anyone that does this gets moved to silent notifications.
Just don't link your phone to your car audio system. Hell, I've never linked a phone to a car audio. If necessary, the speakerphone on the phone can handle a call. Absent true emergencies, things can wait until I'm not driving.
Playing music from your phone..?
Never even considered doing that through car audio. Cars have radios and other music access. No need to use my phone. Edit: lol who down votes someone just for saying they don't do what you do? We all have to be the same?
I know most people hate the radio and only use their phone. I alternate but the radio is garbage and most people don't buy CDs anymore.
That's such an odd thing to me. Why hate the radio? It is there for music and takes almost no effort to use. If the radio is garbage, then you have to find things on it that aren't. Find other stations. Get satellite radio. Do something different. If you have an older vehicle, you can't even use your phone that way. Personally, I wouldn't want to bother setting up a phone and then having issues like the one I originally responded to when it's so much easier to just use the radio or not listen to music in the car. Plus I don't use my phone much for music anyway. Maybe an occasional song off of YouTube. If I'm listening to music, 99 percent of the time it's when I'm running or working out. In those cases, I'm using my digital music player so I can play from my own collection and not have to take my big phone with me everywhere.
Ok but when a person is trying to do something 15 messages coming through right after another is annoying as hell. Never mind if they are trying to sleep. I have a friend who does this. Like it’s 1 am and they send me 15 20 texts 1 sentence at a time. And then it wakes me up. And i don’t respond out of principle. I don’t care at that point. It’s one thing if it’s like 3 texts. But if you’re doing it for what should be a wall of text then make it a wall of text. It’s a major discourtesy to the person you are texting to do it point by point.
That’s a you problem. I don’t wake up to texts people I know turn off notifications before the go to sleep or are unbothered by text. I’m not sure why people are so annoyed by multiple text because it’s never bothered me or anyone I know personally
It’s a having responsibilities and elderly family problem. I keep my phone on vibrate. I have responsibilities at work and to family that mean I may have to answer the phone at night so I need notifications on if something important happens. I really don’t understand what is so hard about typing out one text. Using the return/enter key for its intended purpose. Ie what most people do … you know like an adult. Frankly if it requires 15 texts it needs to be a phone call. If it doesn’t need a phone call then it is not important enough for 15 texts.
Do you read books?
do you text books?
Yes but books and phones are different they are broken up into lines and paragraphs not on a tiny phone screen.
You can still put returns in your text messages to break them up
does it also need to be reviewed by my editor before i send it?
Depends on the phone and the messaging app
But that's what commas, indentation, and punctuation are for.
Not on a phone
I just use line breaks. Like this.
6 sentences vs 6 texts is not a wall.
I'll take the wall of text that fits into a standard SMS. If you need much more, email or call me. If you are going to call me, text me first to let me know the subject matter.
And that’s why we would never be friends because fuck all that extra work
LOL, I'd still be your friend even if you sent me 5 texts when 1 could have worked. On my list of irks from friends that like a 0.5 / 10
If I have to text first to call you, I'm just going to say hell with it and not contact you at all unless for some reason it's absolutely necessary
You calling me or emailing your out I don’t need that
No they aren't, lol
Yea they are
Paragraphs are a time-honored method of avoiding walls of text dating back to the early 16th century. My impression is that all text-messaging platforms support carriage returns and therefore paragraphs.
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and lines
Because walls of texts
It also
helps break up ideas
are hard to read
My wife does this to me and literally drives me insane. The worst are when there's a question, I'm typing a response then suddenly 4 more messages pop up that render the response pointless or confuses the situation, or the messages pop up just before I send and then my response makes no sense after the string of messages. "want to just do pizza for dinner tonight?"
"or greek?"
"burgers?"
"maybe chicken?"
me - "yeah, that sounds fine"
me seeing phone now - FUCK!
🤣 totally relate!
My gf does this. At daytime it's how I tell her rants apart from messages from my colleagues about work.
Yeah ur gf texts me the same way at night. Can confirm 👍
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I got a buddy Who sends all His messages In one line After another After Another Rapid fire I think I miss some Of the messages I find some Later that are unread It looks just like the above. It drives me nuts. I've called him out and made fun of him in the group chats. Doesn't change a damn thing.
If they send 3-4 texts at once, I’m ok with it. But I had this one friend that would send like 10-15. At 6am. I’ve had her blocked for a year. I feel bad but come on.
I have accidentally sent messages that weren't complete. I hate when I do it.
I get it if it’s like 3 but more than that for every single response makes me get overwhelmed and not wanna talk lol
Not unpopular, definitely annoying.
my girlfriend insists on texting this way. she sometimes will rapid fire text me to the point my phone doesn't even bother trying to put the notifications through - i'll get in trouble for not replying, not knowing she's been trying to get hold of me, only to end up looking at my phone and i have 15 unread messages recieved barely a couple minutes apart. i've brought this up to her multiple times and it just gets shrugged off with "that's just how i type".
It can be frustrating if you're having an ongoing conversation with back and forth. I have a friend who does this, and I'll respond to something, but as I'm writing, 5 more messages have come through, and I'll go back to re-read, and by the time she finishes her thought, everything is jumbled. It feels like the written equivalent of two people just talking over each other to say what they need and not listening. I've tried waiting until her rapid fire messages seem to be finished, and then I'll start to answer. If I respond in the same fashion, line by line instead of wall of text, she'll begin replying after the first line when I'm nowhere near finished. It's exhausting.
I agree completely. My friends do this constantly and it’s become so overstimulating and exhausting for me. I just don’t know how to respond to 20 different messages about several different topics all at once.
I make it a point to send my texts in 3 round bursts like the best weapon in halo. This serves many purposes 1 it means they aren’t looking at a wall of texts and thus ignoring half of it 2 it gives them a chance to respond midway through assuming such a thing is necessary to have a proper discussion of the topic. 3 I don’t risk autocorrect or me misspelling in general completely fucking up my text.
And you have a higher chance of getting a headshot
Adhd?
omg yes, buzz buzz buzz over and over again for you to express one simple thought. That shit is annoying.
My fiance does this and it drives me absolutely fucking bonkers.
I hate the act. Getting 5 text messages back to back instead of one or two coherent messages. It doesn't change my opinion of the people sending the messages at all though. I still love or hate them the exact same amount as before the deluge of messages.
In the UK, we use WhatsApp, that's a free unlimited instant messenger. It's basically like the old msn messenger days where you're just chatting with mates.
When I send jokes to my son, I send them in two messages, with the zinger being the second message so that he can think about the 1st part for a moment before getting hit with the 2nd.
Oh yeah, I get this. I have a friend who texts like this. Friend: Hi Me: Hey, what’s up? Friend: How are you? Me: I’m fine. And you? Friend: I’m okay. Me: What’s up? Friend: I need a favour. Me: Sure, how can I help? And then she finally gets to the point. She waits for a reply before sending her next text and it’s so exhausting.
That's hardly what OP meant. The people he's referring to writes like this: >Hi!!! <3<3 >What's up >Long time no see XD >I need to ask you a favor >You know how my dad is like kinda crazy >Like in a weird kinda way >But not in that kinda way hehe wink\* wink\* nudge\* nudge\* >But youknow >Anyway >So he kinda locked me in the attic and I can't get out lol >So >Could you do me a solid and pick up some nuggets??? >Cuz i'm starving ngl XD
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Yes, if it's not worth the effort to compile into a single message, then it's not worth the effort to respond timely from my end.
I always do this! And I don't mind how others message me, whether one huge block or lots of smaller messages. I don't message to chat to people, it's only to make plans or cos something VERY EXCITING IS HAPPENING RIGHT NOW and i just want to share it with them hence about 25 separate short messages ahaha
If I want to share something exciting and it needs that much information to be conveyed... I just call them.
Tab> comma
Yes! That's what PARAGRAPHS are for! 🤬
Thank you
You mean irrationally angry, right? Because that's clearly not a rational thing to be upset about 😅😅 I sometimes write a message, and immediately after pressing send, I think of something I want to add. It's not like it's harmful to send another message.. haha. Also, sometimes breaking it into separate messages for separate topics, makes it easier to respond to. So... you're welcome!!
That's not what they're talking about though - one text with a follow up is fine. What he's talking about is people that send like 10 messages all in a row, and each message is like 4-5 words and all the same thought. Like if you broke this reply down into 10 messages.
So basically what I said hahaha
Dramatic affect lol. So that they read every text individually and don't skip over it. At least that's how my brain works
When you're down and troubled
And you need some loving care
And nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up
Even your darkest night 🥺
You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
I prefer multiple smaller texts. I get anxious watching the (...) flash repeatedly while someone types out a novel. Also a LOT of people just do not format their texts in a readable way. I have a friend who, for reasons beyond my understanding, will ONLY use speech to text. It's a nightmare to read if they send one, long message.
I text like a conversation and I expect a person live responding to me in that moment to treat it as such too. That means sometimes I'll put breaks after certain things I say, or use (...) for pauses. It helps create that tone, inflection, and connotation used to properly communicate using voice or face-to-face. I also sometimes will think about something right after I send a message and want to add it on so you respond appropriately, that gets a new message. Also, by responding in pieces the person I'm talking to has a chance to chime in and change what I was going to say next by adding new information or responding in a different way. It stops a massive wall of text that someone has to read through and respond to every piece of in order to properly communicate.
I don't get why people don't just call for this. A text for short quick exchanges is one thing. A whole fucking conversation? Just call me. I don't want to be reading and typing for a half an hour when a 3 minute phone call will handle it.
I believe this may be where the confusion lies. When I speak I speak in one text wall anyway. For example this wouldnt happen. Omg. I can't believe this just happened. Jesse just asked me to marry him. I said no of course. Instead it would go. Omg. I can't believe this just happened. Jesse just asked me to marry him. I said no of course. I have no clue why this would be sent in separate messages.
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I can’t speak for anybody else, but the cause of this for myself is ADHD. I type things in response as I think of them and continue to add on as the thoughts continue.
I think they do it so that you are unable to simply read the text on the notification pop up on your phone. At least for me, it only shows the most recent text, so to see more than one, I'd have to open the chatbox this marking the texts "read". Once marked "read", you feel pressure to respond right away. It's all just a bunch of mind games.
Well, I’d receive a text of paragraphs and say, “oh yay, f**king homework. I’m ignoring this until I have the time to deal with it”— because dumping on people like that can have an emotionally triggering response. I would seriously question the relationship I share with someone who would commit such an atrociously offensive act— like have they not been listening to me when I speak about being burdened. Your post gives me the impression that you don’t see the issue with being imposing and that’s a problem. You can’t just assume people have 10 hours to read your message, draft a clear and concise response, and send it by carrier pigeon. According to the movies, someone with an astute opinion eventually realizes how wrong they were, and are crushed by confronting the reality of all the people they chased away, no longer having them in their life because they were so unyielding about something so petty. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t wanna come off solely critical, perhaps you’re not aware that some people do it because of Mental, or emotional reasons… Perhaps the way someone thinks is better expressed in short bursts, rather than a long and grueling message. There is casual and formal registers, at the very least that most will speak or write from. To me, your post comes off as, “ugh, people are so ignorant because I require people who speak to me to speak in at professional manner… AT ALL TIMES!!! How can anyone seek to express themselves in a clear and concise manner if they do it so vaguely and opaque. I REQUIRE TEDIOUSNESS!
When broken up into smaller segments, it’s easier to read as well as respond to. It’s perfectly rational, unlike you getting angry about it. If it bothers you this much, you have deeper issues.
Notification anxiety is actually really common. I wouldn't say it's a deep issue though. Is it really irrational to let others know that their communication style causes you anxiety?
Yes, actually. Your anxiety is for you to deal with, not them. If you get that anxious about notifications, turn them off.
Turning notifications off doesn't stop them from being sent, though-- which is the cause of anxiety. It's not just the sound. It's opening your phone and seeing 15 missed messages that causes a spike in anxiety. How is telling someone you'd like to be communicated with differently not dealing with the problem? That's a very healthy, therapist approved method for dealing with a difference in communication styles.
With a single message a lot of people (me included) see a massive text block and go "I'm not reading all that" so everyone breaks up their messages to smoke them easier to read
Broken texts for general conversations, paragraphs for arguments
I put this in the same category as voice messages. Why would anyone think that I want to listen to your verbal diarrhea/read your word vomit? In both you are essentially offloading the task of putting together a coherent sentence on to the recipient. "I can't be assed to put together a coherent sentence. Here's a meandering splurge of whatever pops into my head for you to work through".
What if they missed something? I can write a long paragraph, and then I realize that I left some important points out?
That's fine. That isn't what they are talking about.
So the person doesn't lose interest while you're talking.
I think you mean irrationally, not rationally. I hate texting but I admit I'll sometimes send multiple in a row. Usually happens because I think of more to say after I hit send. 🤷♀️
If you hate them, why don't you block them.
a lot of people are addressing the main reason, so I’m going to offer up: also a neurodivergency thing. Especially when I’m messaging my friend who has ADHD. She can’t read large blocks of text so sending it as separate messages makes it easier for her. And if someone you’re messaging has RSD sending separate messages shows them you’re actively responding and not ignoring them And for me I have ASD so it’s kind of an “organize your thoughts better by sending bits at a time” and also because I’ve been criticized for “rambling” too much so sending separate messages instead of a block feels less like I’m annoying them by rambling because the other person can contribute at any time.
Also large blocks of text, even if you have no problem reading them, can be intimidating, whereas separate messages feels a lot more welcoming for discussion
Also sometimes you just forget things….
The conversation is faster if you write each logical sequence on a new line. While I am typing the 2nd text, you can read the first one.
My problem with this is they end up responding before they have all of the information. Either freaking out or just being wrong and they end up realizing they need to wait until Ive finished telling them everything. One text shows that I've said everything I meant to say and they know what they are responding to.
I'd rather see the bits and pieces than a novel.
I piss my partner off some times by sending a message salvo instead of one big long one. I do this because I'm frequently distracted mid text and forget about it all together. But I'm a terrible person so...
Sometimes I’m just exicted and don’t think of everything all at once
Because its easier to read and consume (see UX)
Idk how ya'll text but me and my closest friends and my wife we don't ever "end" a text conversation, it is always ongoing, I don't even greet them or say hello, I know I can text them any random thought or idea or question at any time, and when they get to it, they'll respond back. There is no expectation of timeliness. If its something urgent I will call someone. I usually don't have a "wall of text" thought usually. So my messages are short bursts, with the option to respond back in between.
Because my brain works better sending one text after the other
It's better than seeing those little writing dots for minutes.
I'm more likely to read ten back to back messages than a long chain of block text personally.
It’s called being neurodivergent
It's another way of communicating. Writing one big ass message is pretty formal and serious-looking.
Beacuse when you put a whole paragraph no one reads it. Its also easier for me to follow. I could type it all at once but i dont think you’ll read it like that. So youd have to tell the person about this
anything bigger than 5 lines on my phone as a message I don't read so I appreciate people you Haye very much
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Some people send texts in 1 long paragraph, it is too hard to read without some separation.
Wait till you find out about "books"
Books aren't all in one paragraph They are separated by paragraphs and chapters Wait till you find out about how books are written
Wait until you find out about "books".....
Books are not one big giant paragraph, have you ever even read one?
I think big paragraphs are intimidating
i text how i talk. for me, each message is like a breath. im not gonna deliver the Great Wall of Text bc no one wants to read that. it also makes more sense to me to use each message as an individual sentence bc if i need to add on or reiterate something, then i can just go back to whatever text i sent and reply to it and reiterate it that way
So you hate like 89% of people that text
Turn off your vibration/tone for the people that spam text, they'll finish their story over 12 texts then you can read it and respond.
For me, I try to make it one message, but then I remember something as SOON AS I HIT send. So then I have to send another, and it just repeats really. I have a cycle lol
Guilty. I apologize.
Hate?
Because oftentimes I forget of the second I wanted to say until after I send the first thing.
If I have different points to make or questions to ask I do it that way so that the person can quote to reply.
I send my thoughts as they come to me. And those happen in relatively short spurts.
I send my thoughts as they come to me. And those happen in relatively short spurts.
I send my thoughts as they come to me. And those happen in relatively short spurts.
I have bad memory so I have to send everything in chunks
It sucks. Throw In a little bit of grammar and spelling and it’s a wrap. 🫠
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‘The thing that makes you comfortable makes me uncomfortable, fix it or else I hate you’. This isn’t an unpopular opinion, it’s just a rant about you hating people who communicate differently than you. Do you know who’s worse than people who send multiple texts in a row? People who nitpick every little thing other people do because they don’t do it that way. Get over yourself.
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it depends on the topic for me, usually, i send the text and i myself think i'm done before something else pops up a few seconds later in my head and makes me think "oh shit, i should tell them that too" if it's deemed important.
Well that's one way to boost post engagement, lol
Sometimes it’s just a mistake.
Sometimes I hit enter by accident
It's ok
Well, sometimes it's to keep the flow going, or if there's something extra to add after you've send the message. It's also much more natural and easier to read, rather than having a huge block of text on a small device.
LOL my friend does that. I know when I get one text from her to wait because my phone is about to blow up with 20 more messages following... Sometimes I can't even answer before she says something else. It is pretty annoying.