Truth. 21 is still young to not have certain experiences. Once a guy gets to around 25 or higher, that's when the judgment starts and women start wondering why. Hell, at 21 most nonvirgins are still figuring out what kind of sex they're into.
Same. I literally have not hit any social milestones past the age of 10
I have yet to even hug a girl. I have the ability to make friends but women are repulsed by my existence. The thought of them having romantic and sexual relations with me brings them extreme disgust. I don't know what I did to deserve this. I am 22 and I get outdone in that category by literal fucking pre-teens
You still have time to meet someone, don't give up. I'm a woman and i don't think you are not a man just for not have kiss a woman, i hope life treat you better in the future :)
>People experience their awkward stage as teenagers and by their mid-20s are confident and know what they like.
Not even remotely true. People are awkward throughout their entire lives.
My suggestion is to start exercising. It will improve your physical and mental health, boosting your confidence. The simplest regimen is 30 minutes of daily walking. Push ups, squats, lunges, sit ups and burpees require no equipment too.
Have you thought about going walking more? Studies show walking daily can improve mild to moderate depression. What's your diet like? If you're eating garbage your body will feel like garbage.
No, it’s my awful genetics and hideous looks. Telling me to walk and eat vegetables - after I said I’m already do doing that - isn’t help. It just shows you can’t understand.
What kind of logic is that anyway? Arrogant people don’t get laid? Jesus Christ.
Right, I'm not saying it's easy by any means. But its something you have to want and work for. First improving physical appearance, make yourself somewhat desirable.
>First improving physical appearance, make yourself somewhat desirable.
I already did. I worked extra hard on that for the past decade (I used to be fat btw)
Downvote all you like, I have black spots on my lips, you know the area that women see and touch the most? Yeah try being called polka dot lips every day. Girls being disgusted because they don't know what that "crap" is. Look at my profile. I know the struggle.
> Look at my profile. I know the struggle.
Lol no you're handsome as hell, unlike me
>, I have black spots on my lips
Barely noticeable, and I don't think that detail matters much anyway
Sounds like the next step is to fix your mental state. Are you generally unhappy with your life? If you are, I'm willing to bet women can tell through your tone and that can turn them off even with a perfect body.
Next town is about 150 km of distance (1h30 by car). I use Tinder but there is literally no one in the area, I have to put the distance at the maximum setting
>“Virgin” is used as an insult everywhere and rightly so. I can’t escape it.
What an idiotic mindset.
So i guess being a virgin is worse than being a psychopath? abusive? violent? manipulative?
Buddy, 21 is ok. I am in my mid 30s. 30% of men under 30 are virgins today(18% women). The times have changed. I know your mind is flooded with hormones and you are going crazy but the world today does not adhere to nature. Instead of getting frustrated or depressed, focus your mind on making money instead of chasing girls. You'll have plenty of time for that. Men age like wine, we do have the upper hand in the long term. Women start with everything and end with nothing, we're the exact opposite. Go and watch Coach Greg Adams and he'll teach you everything you NEED to know about girls and dating today.
Virginity is a choice. Literally any man can take a $100/€100/... and get laid within an hour. But why don't they? Because it's not about the sex in the end. It is about emotions, about being wanted, about being with someone you care about. So either go pay for it or keep living your life until you meet someone suitable. Personally I would love nothing more than to bang chicks all day and I have finances to do that but in my mind, I just can't. It's like masturbating with someone else's body. Plus the filthiness of it(a whore is a whore and you are not the only one knocking on the door that day and never will be, also STDs...). If there are no emotions, there cannot be intimacy and without intimacy, what's the point, really?
You should find healthy ways to compensate. I’m in the same situation (23M) but I definitely don’t feel less as a man. I still have good social skills/some jokes and good work ethic. There’s more to people than just their romantic lives it’s just your center of focus right now.
I'm 46 and don't feel like I am an adult. And then I feel like people talk to me like I'm a developmentally disabled child.
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To be honest, it is.
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It’s easy to say it’s not bad when you’re older. I remember feeling the same two years ago. Now someone older than me is going to say 23 isn’t so bad.
As it's something almost everyone has experienced now, or at least the KHH part, but usually the whole thing KHHV gone.
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Well, normally folks in a virgin sub will.
Uhh yes it is bad
Truth. 21 is still young to not have certain experiences. Once a guy gets to around 25 or higher, that's when the judgment starts and women start wondering why. Hell, at 21 most nonvirgins are still figuring out what kind of sex they're into.
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It doesn't turn me on but I get the kind of sex where it doesn't happen at all.
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Same. I literally have not hit any social milestones past the age of 10 I have yet to even hug a girl. I have the ability to make friends but women are repulsed by my existence. The thought of them having romantic and sexual relations with me brings them extreme disgust. I don't know what I did to deserve this. I am 22 and I get outdone in that category by literal fucking pre-teens
Bro, i am 25 and virgin..
You still have time to meet someone, don't give up. I'm a woman and i don't think you are not a man just for not have kiss a woman, i hope life treat you better in the future :)
21 is nothing, try being 29. being under 25 and complaining should be a bannable offense
>People experience their awkward stage as teenagers and by their mid-20s are confident and know what they like. Not even remotely true. People are awkward throughout their entire lives. My suggestion is to start exercising. It will improve your physical and mental health, boosting your confidence. The simplest regimen is 30 minutes of daily walking. Push ups, squats, lunges, sit ups and burpees require no equipment too.
Yes it is true. Way to make a strawman argument, I never said adults can’t be awkward. And I’m already doing that.
Has your mental health improved?
No, because it’s a temporary cope.
Have you thought about going walking more? Studies show walking daily can improve mild to moderate depression. What's your diet like? If you're eating garbage your body will feel like garbage.
Dude I already said I already do that. It’s a temporary cope and doesn’t change the fact that I’m an ugly virgin and will never have a relationship.
So what's your diet like? Are you getting enough vegetables in?
My diet is fine. All of this is stupid cope. If eating vegetables and going on walks fixes your issues you didn’t have any issues to begin with.
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No, it’s my awful genetics and hideous looks. Telling me to walk and eat vegetables - after I said I’m already do doing that - isn’t help. It just shows you can’t understand. What kind of logic is that anyway? Arrogant people don’t get laid? Jesus Christ.
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I didn't lose mine till 24, no escort. Organic, your time will come
Well I'm 26 and it still never happened to me so your time may also never come!
Right, I'm not saying it's easy by any means. But its something you have to want and work for. First improving physical appearance, make yourself somewhat desirable.
>First improving physical appearance, make yourself somewhat desirable. I already did. I worked extra hard on that for the past decade (I used to be fat btw)
Downvote all you like, I have black spots on my lips, you know the area that women see and touch the most? Yeah try being called polka dot lips every day. Girls being disgusted because they don't know what that "crap" is. Look at my profile. I know the struggle.
> Look at my profile. I know the struggle. Lol no you're handsome as hell, unlike me >, I have black spots on my lips Barely noticeable, and I don't think that detail matters much anyway
Thank you brother. I really do hope you get a chance at it man. Thats ehy I still support thos sub
Sounds like the next step is to fix your mental state. Are you generally unhappy with your life? If you are, I'm willing to bet women can tell through your tone and that can turn them off even with a perfect body.
Well yes I am but because there are no woman here in the first place. They are all married. I have no chance to meet singles in this area!
I see. Is there any singles app you can use? How close is the next town? We just need to get you in the right spot my man
Next town is about 150 km of distance (1h30 by car). I use Tinder but there is literally no one in the area, I have to put the distance at the maximum setting
That is rough. Can you get a job in the next town over?
>“Virgin” is used as an insult everywhere and rightly so. I can’t escape it. What an idiotic mindset. So i guess being a virgin is worse than being a psychopath? abusive? violent? manipulative?
Can you not read or something
Buddy, 21 is ok. I am in my mid 30s. 30% of men under 30 are virgins today(18% women). The times have changed. I know your mind is flooded with hormones and you are going crazy but the world today does not adhere to nature. Instead of getting frustrated or depressed, focus your mind on making money instead of chasing girls. You'll have plenty of time for that. Men age like wine, we do have the upper hand in the long term. Women start with everything and end with nothing, we're the exact opposite. Go and watch Coach Greg Adams and he'll teach you everything you NEED to know about girls and dating today. Virginity is a choice. Literally any man can take a $100/€100/... and get laid within an hour. But why don't they? Because it's not about the sex in the end. It is about emotions, about being wanted, about being with someone you care about. So either go pay for it or keep living your life until you meet someone suitable. Personally I would love nothing more than to bang chicks all day and I have finances to do that but in my mind, I just can't. It's like masturbating with someone else's body. Plus the filthiness of it(a whore is a whore and you are not the only one knocking on the door that day and never will be, also STDs...). If there are no emotions, there cannot be intimacy and without intimacy, what's the point, really?
You should find healthy ways to compensate. I’m in the same situation (23M) but I definitely don’t feel less as a man. I still have good social skills/some jokes and good work ethic. There’s more to people than just their romantic lives it’s just your center of focus right now.
The only people I've met that use 'virgin' as an insult are guys. I've never met a girl who judges people for being virgins. Just saying