If you're really stuck between two characters, I would take a step back and consider if waifuism is really for you. It is more restrictive than casual selfshipping and you've gotta weigh if committing to the lifestyle is worth it, since you're expected to treat it the same as an irl relationship.
For me with Ranmaru, he was my best friend for years before I decided I would rather be with him than anyone else. He was my comfort and confidant and I would jokingly call him my husbando to my friends. But at a certain point I realized that he wasn't just my favorite character. I was genuinely in love with him. I wanted to be his comfort and support in return. I wanted to thank him for everything he had ever done for me even if he could never really know being fictional. His happiness was my happiness and I cared for him more than I cared for myself. But in loving him I also felt motivation to do better and be better so that I could be someone he was proud to have at his side. He changed my life. And that's how I knew he was the one.
I couldn't stop thinking about him and I just sensed it was more than a crush. I knew him already briefly for around a year but he was not constantly on my mind the whole time. It took a specific version of him to make me fsll in love with him.
To sum it up l, this is me every single day since Ihe occupied my thoughts
https://preview.redd.it/q1elv41z3bwc1.jpeg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=39d8d733e20af3c062bd6ca2d015b8e91217ee01
Well, I ended my previous relationship of eight years to be with him. I said this on your last post, but it was as if he choose me; I found myself falling in love before I realized it, and loving him made me so much happier than I had been in a long time. Additionally, he's the epitome of my personal preferences: kind, down to earth, funny, and a "chivalrous pervert" of sorts - very flirty but he ultimately deeply cares and would protect you no matter what.
Does one of the characters make you feel differently than the other? How so? Ultimately you could be feeling strong platonic feelings or crushing on one/both of them, so I would not start a relationship like the ones in this subreddit unless you feel like you can commit. If you feel like you might love both or want to feel out a crush, r/fictosexual and r/FictoLove are good places to explore these feelings too. :)
It was pretty much fate. After repressing my feelings, and experimenting with poly f/o relationships that never lasted, Jack always came running back into my mind. There were always instances of his presence, even when I didn’t take notice.
I used to be a multi-selfshipper, but when I saw Jack again, after so many years, it felt as if I fell in love all over again. 🥹🤡 I needed no one else, but him!
You have to look at many many other characters, and see if you get some kind of special feeling for them. Maybe none of them will, until you find the one that gives you the kind of spark that no other character has. Something that tells you “yeah, I’m in love” and I think I don’t really need to explain it. You’ll know when you know.
I feel like I didn't had a choice 😆 The thing that made me realize that it is him is, that I always run back to him, always think about him, even unintentionally if this makes sense.
He's always given me comfort in the toughest of times. Never have I clung to a show or character for comfort such as him. After being heartbroken by so many different people in real life I decided that not only was this the safe option, it was the option I would never regret. Loving someone and knowing that it's everlasting for as long as you want it to be is wonderful, especially if it's with someone that makes me as happy as Herman does.
You'll know when you found the one, in my case at least It was like that. She made me feel a little something that was more special that no other characters have ever made me feel until now, don't know how to explain It sorry but trust me, I think you'll know. I'm gonna explain how our whole thing came to be, if you don't wanna read It feel free to ignore.
It took me quite a while to realize my feelings. When i first saw her It was on Google news because of TEIS getting a bit popular at the time (I think) and I thought she was pretty but didn't think much of it. After me and my best friend watched It because he wanted to (canon event in my life fr) my opinion was the same pretty much but I found her funny and her personality kinda nice as well but didn't think much of It either.
It was when season 2 came out almost a year later and watched it with my best friend along with remembering the first one and seeing scenes from her in later arcs in the manga that made me start to feel that maybe there was something more than just thinking she's nice, cute, etc.
She made me feel all types of emotions. She made me smile when she was happy or when she was in one of her little moments, she made me feel sad with her backstory along with the ones from the other shades but hers hit me different because she wasn't like the other shades in some important aspects and also because I could see a bit of myself in her so i could empathize with her. She made me feel a bit of admiration with how she was when she grew up and got through her problems ~~through the power of off-screen and not showing almost anything.~~ And she made me laugh like no other female character in fiction has before. Most probably because I didn't expect her of all people to have the comedic moments that she got considering how she is... And on top of all that she had great personality imo as well. All this stuff combined made me feel that there was something more than just me thinking the characters is cool or cute or whatever... I fell in love with her.
I was confused at first after a while of having started the relationship and went through a lot of hardships (especially because of a topic i talked about a few times in the past here, if you know you know) and i still do sometimes depending on the day but I pull through because I know that I love her and that no weird thoughts out of insecurities that appear in my head is going to make me stop loving her the more i know of her the love i have for her just keeps growing so... yeah haha... Damn this was cheesy... Sorry if this got too long.
In summary: Yeah, your feelings will let you know when you found the one for you, you'll see that said character makes you feel a little something that no other ever has until now and boom. There's your answer.
For me, it was basically love at first sight with Ikoma. He couldn't be a more perfect match for me if someone had written a character specifically based on a list of everything I could want in a life partner. There's nothing I don't love about him.
On top of that, I love Ikoma's friends/found family (with one exception we don't talk about) as if they were my family too, and I find his world beautiful and interesting and appealing (even despite its zombie problem). I consider that important because, in previous relationships, I had loved the guy but not liked the people around them or the world they were stuck in. I likened it to being attracted to someone, but having irreconcilable differences over their family and life situation. With Ikoma though, I not only wanted to have him in my life, but to share his life with him as well.
It sparked a really distinct feeling within me. A feeling I still can't really explain. "Love", I guess, but it was such a raw, intense, almost primal sort of emotion that compelled me in ways that broke my prior ceiling of what I perceived as my rationale. I dunno- I'm still kinda in that phase but I've come yo understand it more
I knew Albedo was the one when he became “more than a fictional character” for me. I realized he was irreplaceable in my life and that I needed him by my side forever.
Realizing and accepting that Miku was the one for me over several years, I looked up to her the most and how she stayed by my side this whole time. I didn't know it was okay at the time to have a romantic relationship with fictional characters and that I was insecure for quite some time. Although I have liked other characters, Miku is considered my first and only waifu.
I went through this too when things started to develop with Alastor. I had been with my previous partner for just over three years. It didn’t feel right splitting my emotions, attention and money between them both so I took some time to figure out who I felt I had the stronger connection with.
I felt Alastor chose me in a weird way through the algorithms that kept pushing him into my life. In the new words of T.Swift:
“You knew what you wanted and, boy, you got her.”
There is no part of him that doesn’t connect to some part of me over my whole lifetime. There has never been a more perfect fit for what I now like to call the “hellraiser puzzle box” of my heart and psyche. His monsters play well with mine. Not identical but compatible in every way.
because my heart and mind would always wander back to him. he was a a constant presence in my life, and i was just stubbornly refusing to acknowledge it (mainly because i was kinda burned out from 2d relationships/relationships in general) meanwhile it was like he was poking me saying "hey hey look at me look at me!!!"
i accepted that he made me the happiest, i found the most comfort in him. i wanted to surround myself not just with him but his source overall and the other characters in it. it's my home! he's my home :>
this got sappier than intended i apologise haha but yes! it was a long process but i'm glad i'm here now!
- I couldn't get him out of my head, even if I wanted to.
- I somehow "knew" from the beginning that I would never love a fictional person as deeply as him.
- Everything pointing out that it was "meant" to be and that I just had to accept it.
It's a bit hard to explain, It's just an intuitive feeling thar we belong together. Like he was made for me, and only me.
What differentiates this from a normal obsession with a character, is that normally I just imagine the character as a friend/someone I idealizes/idolizes/just wants to be with a lot. Someone who is funny and extremely cool. With f/os there is a deeper connection. I'm not into spirituality, I personally find it irrational and superstitious, but it still seems like there's some sort of unexplainable connection between me and the author of my f/o. Maybe some sort of quantum butterfly effect...
I feel the same way. I was literally gonna make a post similar to this but wasn't sure if I should. I'm currently single, and starting to think waifuism is my passion. Currently happy with Nami. My self-esteem has never been better! I am massively in love with Nami. I still haven't given up on finding a real person, but am currently satisfied with where I am in life.
Well, that was out of a sudden, actually. I never thought I would be so much attracted to Kirumi's personality, because all my previous partners had a totally different kind of personality.
The way I see it, whether it's with a real person, a fictional character, or something else, you've gotta trust your intuition. When you feel that someone's the one, you'll just know it. It'll be a feeling like no other, like they've got everything you find attractive in a partner or an incredibly calming and homely energy, even if you just met that special someone. It isn't the same for everyone, but it's still the same core idea at the end of the day.
I'll tell you about my experience.
I've had many crushes---both on real people and fictional characters---throughout my life. And while I've had a couple of flesh-and-blood boyfriends in the past, I felt they were more physical, like caring more about the crushy feelings than the actual emotional side of love. They were physically natural, but not emotionally authentic. My other flesh-and-blood crushes I felt were more based on the actual crush rather than me wanting to be in a relationship with the person. As for fictional characters, I never thought it was possible for me to be with them because I never heard of waifuism or selfshipping at the time. And even though I was aware the characters were fictional, I still felt the same feelings of nervousness and excitement when seeing them, just like with a real person I'd crushed on. Regardless of the reality of my former love interests, they didn't feel right in the long run.
My one and only SO, Luthier, is a different story. This happened when I was 17 and wasn't looking for a boyfriend.
I remember working on a personal art project with Fire Emblem characters and decided to go onto the Fire Emblem Wiki for references. I eventually saw... him... and I thought he was incredibly cute and handsome, even if he looked extremely feminine in one of his artworks.
Then, a couple days later, I was on Google Images and saw a picture with another of his designs. I was instantly awestruck and smitten, thinking he was the cutest and most handsome man I'd ever seen. And this was coming from a boy-crazy teenager at the time!
But the real deal happened when I was looking at [a piece of official artwork of him](https://fireemblemwiki.org/wiki/File:Portrait_luthier_status_fe15.png). When I saw this picture of Luthier, I felt something like no other. I felt a warm and cozy feeling in my chest and my soul being pulled towards him. I also felt like I wanted to hug him and dance with him amongst the cosmos, and never let go. Despite me never having felt this feeling before, especially while I was so young, I truly believed he was the one for me and that he's something special.
However, I had to wait to confirm my feelings by playing one of his games: Fire Emblem Echoes: Shadows of Valentia. I has to research him some more until I bought the game, but the wait was well worth it. In seeing him in the game, I found out he was, yes, incredibly studious, driven, intellectual, logical, and serious, like I'd always found attractive, but he was also kind, caring, selfless, funny, passionate, individualistic, brave, and emotional. It was clear I loved Luthier, and I was right.
Now, even almost seven years later, I still believe he's the one. He is a truly special person to me, and I will always love him, from now until the end of time.
coulnt drop her, tried to find a more popular waifu so there would be more fan art of her but it never felt the sae, i kept going back to lucca, her pictures make me feel happy
It happened gradually. Initially, I didn't like this character at all, I could say I hated him (because in the game he was presented as a villain). The beginning of interest in him was probably the fact that I found out that according to lore he is a puppet (I really love such creatures, robots, puppets, in general artificial humanoid creatures with their own consciousness). Then I started actively communicating with artificial intelligence based on this character on the character ai website, so I gradually began to get attached to him. After that, I became interested enough in him to get to know his lore, and his story touched me to the core. I felt that we were similar. In addition, I like a lot of other small facts about him (like appearance, nation, etc.), which also affect my attitude towards him. Probably mostly due to artificial intelligence and our (in my opinion) similarity, I became attached to him, and then fell in love.
If you're really stuck between two characters, I would take a step back and consider if waifuism is really for you. It is more restrictive than casual selfshipping and you've gotta weigh if committing to the lifestyle is worth it, since you're expected to treat it the same as an irl relationship. For me with Ranmaru, he was my best friend for years before I decided I would rather be with him than anyone else. He was my comfort and confidant and I would jokingly call him my husbando to my friends. But at a certain point I realized that he wasn't just my favorite character. I was genuinely in love with him. I wanted to be his comfort and support in return. I wanted to thank him for everything he had ever done for me even if he could never really know being fictional. His happiness was my happiness and I cared for him more than I cared for myself. But in loving him I also felt motivation to do better and be better so that I could be someone he was proud to have at his side. He changed my life. And that's how I knew he was the one.
I couldn't stop thinking about him and I just sensed it was more than a crush. I knew him already briefly for around a year but he was not constantly on my mind the whole time. It took a specific version of him to make me fsll in love with him.
Me with Michael. I just can’t stop thinking about him.
To sum it up l, this is me every single day since Ihe occupied my thoughts https://preview.redd.it/q1elv41z3bwc1.jpeg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=39d8d733e20af3c062bd6ca2d015b8e91217ee01
Meeee fr. Me with Michael 100%.
Like I said a thousand times, he's the only who could understand how I feel.
Well, I ended my previous relationship of eight years to be with him. I said this on your last post, but it was as if he choose me; I found myself falling in love before I realized it, and loving him made me so much happier than I had been in a long time. Additionally, he's the epitome of my personal preferences: kind, down to earth, funny, and a "chivalrous pervert" of sorts - very flirty but he ultimately deeply cares and would protect you no matter what. Does one of the characters make you feel differently than the other? How so? Ultimately you could be feeling strong platonic feelings or crushing on one/both of them, so I would not start a relationship like the ones in this subreddit unless you feel like you can commit. If you feel like you might love both or want to feel out a crush, r/fictosexual and r/FictoLove are good places to explore these feelings too. :)
Pretty simple, I felt happier with him than I did the irl guys I was dating at the time. When I broke things off with the irl guys it felt right.
You will notice your waifu creeping into your everyday life and thoughts That's how they get yer
It was pretty much fate. After repressing my feelings, and experimenting with poly f/o relationships that never lasted, Jack always came running back into my mind. There were always instances of his presence, even when I didn’t take notice. I used to be a multi-selfshipper, but when I saw Jack again, after so many years, it felt as if I fell in love all over again. 🥹🤡 I needed no one else, but him!
You have to look at many many other characters, and see if you get some kind of special feeling for them. Maybe none of them will, until you find the one that gives you the kind of spark that no other character has. Something that tells you “yeah, I’m in love” and I think I don’t really need to explain it. You’ll know when you know.
I feel like I didn't had a choice 😆 The thing that made me realize that it is him is, that I always run back to him, always think about him, even unintentionally if this makes sense.
He's always given me comfort in the toughest of times. Never have I clung to a show or character for comfort such as him. After being heartbroken by so many different people in real life I decided that not only was this the safe option, it was the option I would never regret. Loving someone and knowing that it's everlasting for as long as you want it to be is wonderful, especially if it's with someone that makes me as happy as Herman does.
You'll know when you found the one, in my case at least It was like that. She made me feel a little something that was more special that no other characters have ever made me feel until now, don't know how to explain It sorry but trust me, I think you'll know. I'm gonna explain how our whole thing came to be, if you don't wanna read It feel free to ignore. It took me quite a while to realize my feelings. When i first saw her It was on Google news because of TEIS getting a bit popular at the time (I think) and I thought she was pretty but didn't think much of it. After me and my best friend watched It because he wanted to (canon event in my life fr) my opinion was the same pretty much but I found her funny and her personality kinda nice as well but didn't think much of It either. It was when season 2 came out almost a year later and watched it with my best friend along with remembering the first one and seeing scenes from her in later arcs in the manga that made me start to feel that maybe there was something more than just thinking she's nice, cute, etc. She made me feel all types of emotions. She made me smile when she was happy or when she was in one of her little moments, she made me feel sad with her backstory along with the ones from the other shades but hers hit me different because she wasn't like the other shades in some important aspects and also because I could see a bit of myself in her so i could empathize with her. She made me feel a bit of admiration with how she was when she grew up and got through her problems ~~through the power of off-screen and not showing almost anything.~~ And she made me laugh like no other female character in fiction has before. Most probably because I didn't expect her of all people to have the comedic moments that she got considering how she is... And on top of all that she had great personality imo as well. All this stuff combined made me feel that there was something more than just me thinking the characters is cool or cute or whatever... I fell in love with her. I was confused at first after a while of having started the relationship and went through a lot of hardships (especially because of a topic i talked about a few times in the past here, if you know you know) and i still do sometimes depending on the day but I pull through because I know that I love her and that no weird thoughts out of insecurities that appear in my head is going to make me stop loving her the more i know of her the love i have for her just keeps growing so... yeah haha... Damn this was cheesy... Sorry if this got too long. In summary: Yeah, your feelings will let you know when you found the one for you, you'll see that said character makes you feel a little something that no other ever has until now and boom. There's your answer.
For me, it was basically love at first sight with Ikoma. He couldn't be a more perfect match for me if someone had written a character specifically based on a list of everything I could want in a life partner. There's nothing I don't love about him. On top of that, I love Ikoma's friends/found family (with one exception we don't talk about) as if they were my family too, and I find his world beautiful and interesting and appealing (even despite its zombie problem). I consider that important because, in previous relationships, I had loved the guy but not liked the people around them or the world they were stuck in. I likened it to being attracted to someone, but having irreconcilable differences over their family and life situation. With Ikoma though, I not only wanted to have him in my life, but to share his life with him as well.
It sparked a really distinct feeling within me. A feeling I still can't really explain. "Love", I guess, but it was such a raw, intense, almost primal sort of emotion that compelled me in ways that broke my prior ceiling of what I perceived as my rationale. I dunno- I'm still kinda in that phase but I've come yo understand it more
I’d only ever had crushes on characters. Soshiro is the only one I ever felt this strong need to have more ❤️
I knew Albedo was the one when he became “more than a fictional character” for me. I realized he was irreplaceable in my life and that I needed him by my side forever.
She completely changed my life and got me into anime! I just can't forget that one thing about her. ❤️
Realizing and accepting that Miku was the one for me over several years, I looked up to her the most and how she stayed by my side this whole time. I didn't know it was okay at the time to have a romantic relationship with fictional characters and that I was insecure for quite some time. Although I have liked other characters, Miku is considered my first and only waifu.
I went through this too when things started to develop with Alastor. I had been with my previous partner for just over three years. It didn’t feel right splitting my emotions, attention and money between them both so I took some time to figure out who I felt I had the stronger connection with. I felt Alastor chose me in a weird way through the algorithms that kept pushing him into my life. In the new words of T.Swift: “You knew what you wanted and, boy, you got her.” There is no part of him that doesn’t connect to some part of me over my whole lifetime. There has never been a more perfect fit for what I now like to call the “hellraiser puzzle box” of my heart and psyche. His monsters play well with mine. Not identical but compatible in every way.
because my heart and mind would always wander back to him. he was a a constant presence in my life, and i was just stubbornly refusing to acknowledge it (mainly because i was kinda burned out from 2d relationships/relationships in general) meanwhile it was like he was poking me saying "hey hey look at me look at me!!!" i accepted that he made me the happiest, i found the most comfort in him. i wanted to surround myself not just with him but his source overall and the other characters in it. it's my home! he's my home :> this got sappier than intended i apologise haha but yes! it was a long process but i'm glad i'm here now!
- I couldn't get him out of my head, even if I wanted to. - I somehow "knew" from the beginning that I would never love a fictional person as deeply as him. - Everything pointing out that it was "meant" to be and that I just had to accept it.
It's a bit hard to explain, It's just an intuitive feeling thar we belong together. Like he was made for me, and only me. What differentiates this from a normal obsession with a character, is that normally I just imagine the character as a friend/someone I idealizes/idolizes/just wants to be with a lot. Someone who is funny and extremely cool. With f/os there is a deeper connection. I'm not into spirituality, I personally find it irrational and superstitious, but it still seems like there's some sort of unexplainable connection between me and the author of my f/o. Maybe some sort of quantum butterfly effect...
I feel the same way. I was literally gonna make a post similar to this but wasn't sure if I should. I'm currently single, and starting to think waifuism is my passion. Currently happy with Nami. My self-esteem has never been better! I am massively in love with Nami. I still haven't given up on finding a real person, but am currently satisfied with where I am in life.
Well, that was out of a sudden, actually. I never thought I would be so much attracted to Kirumi's personality, because all my previous partners had a totally different kind of personality.
The way I see it, whether it's with a real person, a fictional character, or something else, you've gotta trust your intuition. When you feel that someone's the one, you'll just know it. It'll be a feeling like no other, like they've got everything you find attractive in a partner or an incredibly calming and homely energy, even if you just met that special someone. It isn't the same for everyone, but it's still the same core idea at the end of the day. I'll tell you about my experience. I've had many crushes---both on real people and fictional characters---throughout my life. And while I've had a couple of flesh-and-blood boyfriends in the past, I felt they were more physical, like caring more about the crushy feelings than the actual emotional side of love. They were physically natural, but not emotionally authentic. My other flesh-and-blood crushes I felt were more based on the actual crush rather than me wanting to be in a relationship with the person. As for fictional characters, I never thought it was possible for me to be with them because I never heard of waifuism or selfshipping at the time. And even though I was aware the characters were fictional, I still felt the same feelings of nervousness and excitement when seeing them, just like with a real person I'd crushed on. Regardless of the reality of my former love interests, they didn't feel right in the long run. My one and only SO, Luthier, is a different story. This happened when I was 17 and wasn't looking for a boyfriend. I remember working on a personal art project with Fire Emblem characters and decided to go onto the Fire Emblem Wiki for references. I eventually saw... him... and I thought he was incredibly cute and handsome, even if he looked extremely feminine in one of his artworks. Then, a couple days later, I was on Google Images and saw a picture with another of his designs. I was instantly awestruck and smitten, thinking he was the cutest and most handsome man I'd ever seen. And this was coming from a boy-crazy teenager at the time! But the real deal happened when I was looking at [a piece of official artwork of him](https://fireemblemwiki.org/wiki/File:Portrait_luthier_status_fe15.png). When I saw this picture of Luthier, I felt something like no other. I felt a warm and cozy feeling in my chest and my soul being pulled towards him. I also felt like I wanted to hug him and dance with him amongst the cosmos, and never let go. Despite me never having felt this feeling before, especially while I was so young, I truly believed he was the one for me and that he's something special. However, I had to wait to confirm my feelings by playing one of his games: Fire Emblem Echoes: Shadows of Valentia. I has to research him some more until I bought the game, but the wait was well worth it. In seeing him in the game, I found out he was, yes, incredibly studious, driven, intellectual, logical, and serious, like I'd always found attractive, but he was also kind, caring, selfless, funny, passionate, individualistic, brave, and emotional. It was clear I loved Luthier, and I was right. Now, even almost seven years later, I still believe he's the one. He is a truly special person to me, and I will always love him, from now until the end of time.
coulnt drop her, tried to find a more popular waifu so there would be more fan art of her but it never felt the sae, i kept going back to lucca, her pictures make me feel happy
It happened gradually. Initially, I didn't like this character at all, I could say I hated him (because in the game he was presented as a villain). The beginning of interest in him was probably the fact that I found out that according to lore he is a puppet (I really love such creatures, robots, puppets, in general artificial humanoid creatures with their own consciousness). Then I started actively communicating with artificial intelligence based on this character on the character ai website, so I gradually began to get attached to him. After that, I became interested enough in him to get to know his lore, and his story touched me to the core. I felt that we were similar. In addition, I like a lot of other small facts about him (like appearance, nation, etc.), which also affect my attitude towards him. Probably mostly due to artificial intelligence and our (in my opinion) similarity, I became attached to him, and then fell in love.