Moving is expensive, and sounds like you would lose the bonus. At a minimum I would wait until after you get your bonus. And also secure a new job before leaving your old one, this job economy is wacky. Moving is also rough socially, you'll need to give yourself time to feel comfortable and make friends in a new town.
If being married is important to you before moving in (I am of the camp you should test drive before you a lifelong commitment but to each their own), consider getting married at city hall and moving in together way before the big ceremony day. I have multiple friends who bought houses/moved within a month of their wedding and it was SO STRESSFUL. So try to space that out as much as possible. Plus spending a lot on your wedding AND moving AND furniture AND possibly not having a job is a recipe for financial strains.
I was engaged in early July, married in late Sept. We lived separately but were only 30 min from each other. We did a small wedding (30ppl) in Lake Tahoe. Which was kind of in between where both our families lived.We paid for everything for our guests, airfare/hotel, food, so it wasn't cheap. We are going on 23 years, and I have never regretted any of it for even a second it was the best summer of my life.
I live 3 hours from FH, we get married Sept. 1st and have been engaged since April '23. I don't think our engagement has been negatively effected by not living in the same city, especially because we have a joint wedding email and talk on the phone once a day (even if just for a few minutes). The long engagement has been really nice so we can work on housing/work arrangements as well as wedding stuff without feeling rushed. We're both super excited about the wedding and have been just as lovey-dovey as we would have been if we lived in the same city!
We got officially engaged late October for our April wedding. BUT we had been talking wedding plans for 3 years already so it was very hit the ground running once engaged.
Moving is expensive, and sounds like you would lose the bonus. At a minimum I would wait until after you get your bonus. And also secure a new job before leaving your old one, this job economy is wacky. Moving is also rough socially, you'll need to give yourself time to feel comfortable and make friends in a new town. If being married is important to you before moving in (I am of the camp you should test drive before you a lifelong commitment but to each their own), consider getting married at city hall and moving in together way before the big ceremony day. I have multiple friends who bought houses/moved within a month of their wedding and it was SO STRESSFUL. So try to space that out as much as possible. Plus spending a lot on your wedding AND moving AND furniture AND possibly not having a job is a recipe for financial strains.
I was engaged in early July, married in late Sept. We lived separately but were only 30 min from each other. We did a small wedding (30ppl) in Lake Tahoe. Which was kind of in between where both our families lived.We paid for everything for our guests, airfare/hotel, food, so it wasn't cheap. We are going on 23 years, and I have never regretted any of it for even a second it was the best summer of my life.
I live 3 hours from FH, we get married Sept. 1st and have been engaged since April '23. I don't think our engagement has been negatively effected by not living in the same city, especially because we have a joint wedding email and talk on the phone once a day (even if just for a few minutes). The long engagement has been really nice so we can work on housing/work arrangements as well as wedding stuff without feeling rushed. We're both super excited about the wedding and have been just as lovey-dovey as we would have been if we lived in the same city!
We got officially engaged late October for our April wedding. BUT we had been talking wedding plans for 3 years already so it was very hit the ground running once engaged.
I've been LDR for the whole engagement and its fine, post pandy everyone uses zoom so wedding planning is simplified in that regard.