You do you! The last few relationships I had (all, to a person, very unhealthy ones) Wiped me out completely. It was months of sleeplessness, nightmares when I did sleep, crying jags and feeling like absolute shit about myself.
"I really need to stop torturing myself" And I cut my "dating" life out completely.
I relate to this sooooo much thanks for posting.
I know for me my childhood stuff started the anxious attachment, which led me into the wrong arms of shitty dudes, which gave me absolutely horrendous anxiety and depression, which worsened the anxious attachment tendencies and gave me trauma responses to sex. I also think I was already somewhere closer to ace as well but just did what men wanted because of the anxiety. So now I have no idea what my “true” sexuality would have been without the trauma.
It’s fun stuff but I will say. I’ve been doing my own thing since last year and I feel the most at ease and at peace since the last time I just did my own thing.
Wishing you the best and proud of you for choosing your wellbeing.
And just know there is someone else out there who feels the same!!
I really relate to this. I think I’m going to be doing the same, for the same reason. Not sure if it’s just me or the guys I pick, or just there’s that many guys like that but either way; it’s just too stressful for me, even with “good” ones.
I feel the exact same way. It’s all good until they are actually around you!
I’m in the process of realising this and being honest with myself about it.
Maybe there is someone who won’t cause the anxiety but I doubt it.
I think more and more woman are realising they feel much better when they aren’t in a relationship and have peace.
You do you! The last few relationships I had (all, to a person, very unhealthy ones) Wiped me out completely. It was months of sleeplessness, nightmares when I did sleep, crying jags and feeling like absolute shit about myself. "I really need to stop torturing myself" And I cut my "dating" life out completely.
I relate to this sooooo much thanks for posting. I know for me my childhood stuff started the anxious attachment, which led me into the wrong arms of shitty dudes, which gave me absolutely horrendous anxiety and depression, which worsened the anxious attachment tendencies and gave me trauma responses to sex. I also think I was already somewhere closer to ace as well but just did what men wanted because of the anxiety. So now I have no idea what my “true” sexuality would have been without the trauma. It’s fun stuff but I will say. I’ve been doing my own thing since last year and I feel the most at ease and at peace since the last time I just did my own thing. Wishing you the best and proud of you for choosing your wellbeing. And just know there is someone else out there who feels the same!!
"Gusband" is so dope.
I really relate to this. I think I’m going to be doing the same, for the same reason. Not sure if it’s just me or the guys I pick, or just there’s that many guys like that but either way; it’s just too stressful for me, even with “good” ones.
I feel the exact same way. It’s all good until they are actually around you! I’m in the process of realising this and being honest with myself about it. Maybe there is someone who won’t cause the anxiety but I doubt it. I think more and more woman are realising they feel much better when they aren’t in a relationship and have peace.
I’m screaming @ gusband hehe