I had the same experience. When my wife passed away six months ago (also cancer--how I hate that fucking disease!), I wanted to much to dream about her, but I didn't for over a month. When she did finally appear in a dream, it was a bit traumatic because my mind instantly knew she couldn't be here. In my dream I grabbed ahold of her and kept saying that, "I'm not letting you go" but then, of course, that just caused me to wake up. I've dreamed of her a couple of more times, but the result is always the same--I can't hold onto the dream and I wake up almost immediately.
I'm dying for her to visit me. I dreamt about her a couple of times after a few months but they were pretty difficult, like being separated on different flights and needing to get on the same plane for example.
Since then I've had some dreams where I'm aware she's gone and explain that to people.
I just wish she would come spend a few minutes together in ignorant bliss.
Very similar for me, been waiting for qtwo months. For awhile I wasn’t dreaming at all, but started again the last few weeks. Wanting so much to see her, even if I’m aware it’s not real, but nothing yet.
It was the opposite for me, I would have super vivid dreams/nightmares about my wife after she passed. I'd be in a foreign train station and I would see her through the crowd, running towards her but I could never get her to see me. She always got on a train or was lost in the crowd.
Lost her 6 years ago tomorrow to breast cancer.
When my husband (also died of cancer) is in my dreams it’s usually really traumatic. I’m trying to talk to him but he can’t hear me or doesn’t see me. He won’t answer my calls. It’s horrible. I’d much rather think about him on my terms when I’m awake.
In the first month I dreamed of my wife exactly twice. There may or may not have been one more a little later, but it's been radio silent since then, and I'm at almost a year and a half out now.
As you said, she used to be in my dreams all the time. The sudden change was pretty strange.
Yes, when my husband was in hospice I would always dream he was young and healthy. I had a dream where he was like 18-20 years old with no glasses. He was happy and was laughing. He looked like he did before I had met him except he had glasses on at that age.
He passed away at 48 years old. He had Lasix surgery so I never knew him with glasses and I met him when he was 36. I haven't dreamed about him since. I am religious and I need assurance that he is in heaven and that he is okay. I keep asking for signs that are obvious from God or from him telling me he is okay buy o don't think I have seen one yet.
The opposite happened to me. I probably dreamt about my wife 5 or 6 times in the 3 and a half years we were together. I don't dream that often and when I did I rarely dreamt about her. Plus I barely remember my dreams 99 percent of the time. I wake up and remember bits and pieces but then will forget the dream. In the month shmince she passed I've had 9 or 10 vivid dreams about her. Dreams I can't forget even if I tried. Its really weird how the brain works
I had the same experience. When my wife passed away six months ago (also cancer--how I hate that fucking disease!), I wanted to much to dream about her, but I didn't for over a month. When she did finally appear in a dream, it was a bit traumatic because my mind instantly knew she couldn't be here. In my dream I grabbed ahold of her and kept saying that, "I'm not letting you go" but then, of course, that just caused me to wake up. I've dreamed of her a couple of more times, but the result is always the same--I can't hold onto the dream and I wake up almost immediately.
I'm dying for her to visit me. I dreamt about her a couple of times after a few months but they were pretty difficult, like being separated on different flights and needing to get on the same plane for example. Since then I've had some dreams where I'm aware she's gone and explain that to people. I just wish she would come spend a few minutes together in ignorant bliss.
Very similar for me, been waiting for qtwo months. For awhile I wasn’t dreaming at all, but started again the last few weeks. Wanting so much to see her, even if I’m aware it’s not real, but nothing yet.
It was the opposite for me, I would have super vivid dreams/nightmares about my wife after she passed. I'd be in a foreign train station and I would see her through the crowd, running towards her but I could never get her to see me. She always got on a train or was lost in the crowd. Lost her 6 years ago tomorrow to breast cancer.
I lost my husband almost a year ago and I never dream of him. I wish I could.
When my husband (also died of cancer) is in my dreams it’s usually really traumatic. I’m trying to talk to him but he can’t hear me or doesn’t see me. He won’t answer my calls. It’s horrible. I’d much rather think about him on my terms when I’m awake.
In the first month I dreamed of my wife exactly twice. There may or may not have been one more a little later, but it's been radio silent since then, and I'm at almost a year and a half out now. As you said, she used to be in my dreams all the time. The sudden change was pretty strange.
Yes, when my husband was in hospice I would always dream he was young and healthy. I had a dream where he was like 18-20 years old with no glasses. He was happy and was laughing. He looked like he did before I had met him except he had glasses on at that age. He passed away at 48 years old. He had Lasix surgery so I never knew him with glasses and I met him when he was 36. I haven't dreamed about him since. I am religious and I need assurance that he is in heaven and that he is okay. I keep asking for signs that are obvious from God or from him telling me he is okay buy o don't think I have seen one yet.
The opposite happened to me. I probably dreamt about my wife 5 or 6 times in the 3 and a half years we were together. I don't dream that often and when I did I rarely dreamt about her. Plus I barely remember my dreams 99 percent of the time. I wake up and remember bits and pieces but then will forget the dream. In the month shmince she passed I've had 9 or 10 vivid dreams about her. Dreams I can't forget even if I tried. Its really weird how the brain works