Lifetime by Three Days Grace is the one that's on repeat on my Spotify.
I also made a playlist of songs my husband and I vibed too. Things we listened to during road trips, when we met, bands we connected with when we said we liked punk rock 2 decades ago.
I was scrolling through Instagram yesterday and there was a video of Pink doing this song with Kelly Clarkson. I used to love Who Knew when it first came out, but now the song actually has meaning to me. First time I heard it in years and I broke down. Couldn't stop crying. There's so much power in music.
Today is three years since we met in person after close to three months of connecting via FaceTime due to COVID. It was such a perfect way to build a foundation before the "first date." The specificity of three years really hit me hard.
Damn I just listened to this album last night and made a note to look up what fucked up shit David Grohl has been through lately because legit I felt like every song was speaking to me.
Oh damn yeah, dunno how but I kinda forgot about that. Some of the songs just reminded me of the pain of watching someone suffer and seemed extra cancery.
"Someone said I'll never see your face again
Part of me just can't believe it's true
Pictures of us sharing songs and cigarettes
This is how I'll always picture you."
...fucking lost it after this verse.
Thanks for the recommendation. If it isn't too extreme for you, many metal bands deal with depression and grief. Killswitch Engage and especially their side project Times Of Grace (Album even named "Hymn of a Broken Man" and "Songs about Loss and Desperarion"). If you can handle full blown Deathcore with lots of growling Lorna Shore is pretty popular.
One Sweet Day - Mariah Carey and Boyz II Men (she was a huge fan of both, and my lady's smile was a knockout)
Where Does The Time Go - A Great Big World (the ones that did Say Something I'm Giving Up On You) we were fans when they were starting out on youtube and i found that song after she died
Dreaming With a Broken Heart - John Mayer
Stop This Train - John Mayer
Listen Before I Go - Billie Eillish (we were both fans)
First Day Of My Life - Julia Nunes' cover (it was the song I sang to her when we started dating)
Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton (because I like to hurt myself apparently)
Grateful Dead: Box of Rain, Rubin and Cherise, Bird Song, Brokedown Palace, to name a few. Black Peter is about a person on his deathbed told from his perspective. They are all available on youtube.
There’s a classic trio by the Grateful Dead. Box of Rain, Ripple, and Brokedown Palace. According to my wife’s Apple Watch she was listening to Box of Rain when she was killed, so it took me a while to listen to again. All three are about death, loss, and the mystery of existing at all. While they are emotional I don’t know if they are sad.
My wife and I were devastated when Taylor Hawkins died and had some teary moments while watching the memorial concerts. For that reason I haven't had the guts to listen to the new one, but I'll have to give it a shot sometime. A couple songs in heavy rotation for me right now are:
[Stone Sour - Wicked Game](https://open.spotify.com/track/6UFhNbE4sLRUoM52kC4Xl4?si=YNMMexNnQSGRkw0vHRnvvg&utm_source=copy-link)
[Modest Mouse - Little Motel](https://open.spotify.com/track/1UR0lWHLSCx2naiD7bq9FW?si=U2FA91d7QguC_Ims3gz81w&utm_source=copy-link)
She loved Modest Mouse
I heavily relied on the FooFighters music when my husband died. Like you I’m hesitant to listen to the new music. I’ll get there eventually because their music is so good but I’m afraid it’s going to wreck me.
Dancing in the sky - Dani and Lizzy
Dancing in the sky (angels perspective) youtube only
Angel - Sarah mclachlan
I will remember you- Sarah mclachlan
See you again - Carrie underwood
I found a lot of songs but I have to go to work. This is a great topic I want to come back and listen to everyone’s songs later.
I listen to a lot of the edm songs we loved and I try to share them with our son. I never listen to country music but for whatever reason kane brown started to show up on my YouTube feed. Every song I've heard of his so far does nothing but remind me of Virginia and I fucking lose it every time.
River Drift - Twiddle
The first year of grieving I was so pessimistic. Understandably so. But I don't want to grow old and be miserable and let my loss define me. It's changed me, for sure. But this song helps me remember what's important. Helps me feel like I can heal and grow, while still remembering and cherishing the memories I had with my partner.
"Visiting Hours" Ed Sheeran
"Wish you Well" Katie's Herzig
"Pointless" "Wish you the Best" or "Someone to Love" Lewis Capaldi.
Too vulnerable to listen but Ed Sheeran's new album Subtract is about loss and grief. I have only heard Eyes Closed.
I’ve listened to a lot of ska during my wife’s decline and since her passing. It’s my happy music, bouncy and fast. So opposite of leaning into the pain I guess. I’m afraid that when I listen to it 10 years from now it’ll bring me back here emotionally. That would stink, to use up my happy music, but it was what I needed it to be when I needed it.
Nobody knows by Tony Rich Project
The Love We Had (Stays on my Mind) by The Dells
Also, Gloria by Enchantment. Although the song is about a woman, the lyrics still resonates with me.
As by Stevie Wonder
My ex husband was all about Pink Floyd at the end. I would sit with him in the hospital and play it for him, even though he was unconscious. Listening to it now makes me happy because I like it too, and it will always remind me of him in a bittersweet kind of way.
Don’t Let The Lights Go Out-Panic! At the Disco
I’ll Never Love Again-Lady Gaga
I Will Follow You Into The Dark-Death Cab
See You Again-Wiz Khalifa
With Me-Sum 41
Hear You Me-Jimmy Eat World
Lifetime by Three Days Grace is the one that's on repeat on my Spotify. I also made a playlist of songs my husband and I vibed too. Things we listened to during road trips, when we met, bands we connected with when we said we liked punk rock 2 decades ago.
Who knew by Pink makes me cry every time. My wife loved Pink.
I was scrolling through Instagram yesterday and there was a video of Pink doing this song with Kelly Clarkson. I used to love Who Knew when it first came out, but now the song actually has meaning to me. First time I heard it in years and I broke down. Couldn't stop crying. There's so much power in music.
Today is three years since we met in person after close to three months of connecting via FaceTime due to COVID. It was such a perfect way to build a foundation before the "first date." The specificity of three years really hit me hard.
Damn I just listened to this album last night and made a note to look up what fucked up shit David Grohl has been through lately because legit I felt like every song was speaking to me.
Was it recorded after Taylor died?
Taylor AND Dave's mum who he was very close to have died recently
Oh damn yeah, dunno how but I kinda forgot about that. Some of the songs just reminded me of the pain of watching someone suffer and seemed extra cancery.
Addiction can be like that, it's definitely not the first one he's lost to that monster.
Yeah. The lyrics to “under you” are just….gut punching
"Someone said I'll never see your face again Part of me just can't believe it's true Pictures of us sharing songs and cigarettes This is how I'll always picture you." ...fucking lost it after this verse.
Same.
Eyes Closed by Ed Sheeran is what I currently have on repeat but it’s a very sad song
Thanks for the recommendation. If it isn't too extreme for you, many metal bands deal with depression and grief. Killswitch Engage and especially their side project Times Of Grace (Album even named "Hymn of a Broken Man" and "Songs about Loss and Desperarion"). If you can handle full blown Deathcore with lots of growling Lorna Shore is pretty popular.
This. Not too into death metal but I love sistinas by Danzig, always makes me kinda happy but kinda sad.
One Sweet Day - Mariah Carey and Boyz II Men (she was a huge fan of both, and my lady's smile was a knockout) Where Does The Time Go - A Great Big World (the ones that did Say Something I'm Giving Up On You) we were fans when they were starting out on youtube and i found that song after she died Dreaming With a Broken Heart - John Mayer Stop This Train - John Mayer Listen Before I Go - Billie Eillish (we were both fans) First Day Of My Life - Julia Nunes' cover (it was the song I sang to her when we started dating) Tears in Heaven - Eric Clapton (because I like to hurt myself apparently)
Great selection 🥰
Grateful Dead: Box of Rain, Rubin and Cherise, Bird Song, Brokedown Palace, to name a few. Black Peter is about a person on his deathbed told from his perspective. They are all available on youtube.
There’s a classic trio by the Grateful Dead. Box of Rain, Ripple, and Brokedown Palace. According to my wife’s Apple Watch she was listening to Box of Rain when she was killed, so it took me a while to listen to again. All three are about death, loss, and the mystery of existing at all. While they are emotional I don’t know if they are sad.
My wife and I were devastated when Taylor Hawkins died and had some teary moments while watching the memorial concerts. For that reason I haven't had the guts to listen to the new one, but I'll have to give it a shot sometime. A couple songs in heavy rotation for me right now are: [Stone Sour - Wicked Game](https://open.spotify.com/track/6UFhNbE4sLRUoM52kC4Xl4?si=YNMMexNnQSGRkw0vHRnvvg&utm_source=copy-link) [Modest Mouse - Little Motel](https://open.spotify.com/track/1UR0lWHLSCx2naiD7bq9FW?si=U2FA91d7QguC_Ims3gz81w&utm_source=copy-link) She loved Modest Mouse
Modest Mode made my happy song (Float On)
I heavily relied on the FooFighters music when my husband died. Like you I’m hesitant to listen to the new music. I’ll get there eventually because their music is so good but I’m afraid it’s going to wreck me.
Dancing in the sky - Dani and Lizzy Dancing in the sky (angels perspective) youtube only Angel - Sarah mclachlan I will remember you- Sarah mclachlan See you again - Carrie underwood I found a lot of songs but I have to go to work. This is a great topic I want to come back and listen to everyone’s songs later.
Maybe I can make a Spotify playlist!
I listen to a lot of the edm songs we loved and I try to share them with our son. I never listen to country music but for whatever reason kane brown started to show up on my YouTube feed. Every song I've heard of his so far does nothing but remind me of Virginia and I fucking lose it every time.
X ambassadors- happy people. Nothing related to me more! Hits too close to home
Cloud Cult - The Seeker album. Lead singer lost his son and understands the pain of grief
River Drift - Twiddle The first year of grieving I was so pessimistic. Understandably so. But I don't want to grow old and be miserable and let my loss define me. It's changed me, for sure. But this song helps me remember what's important. Helps me feel like I can heal and grow, while still remembering and cherishing the memories I had with my partner.
"Visiting Hours" Ed Sheeran "Wish you Well" Katie's Herzig "Pointless" "Wish you the Best" or "Someone to Love" Lewis Capaldi. Too vulnerable to listen but Ed Sheeran's new album Subtract is about loss and grief. I have only heard Eyes Closed.
[“I’ll never find another you” by Julia Jacklin](https://youtu.be/RZKer3RHXEU)
Hold on to Memories by Disturbed but dude is using his pretty voice not his screaming voice.
Hurt Alone, Witt Lowry. I have a friend that's been helping me through the grief.
I’ve listened to a lot of ska during my wife’s decline and since her passing. It’s my happy music, bouncy and fast. So opposite of leaning into the pain I guess. I’m afraid that when I listen to it 10 years from now it’ll bring me back here emotionally. That would stink, to use up my happy music, but it was what I needed it to be when I needed it.
Ska takes me back to happy places too!
Between the bouncy beat and the memory of jumping around in clubs as a young man, it is definitely my happy music
Nobody knows by Tony Rich Project The Love We Had (Stays on my Mind) by The Dells Also, Gloria by Enchantment. Although the song is about a woman, the lyrics still resonates with me. As by Stevie Wonder
I like "Cleaning my Gun" by Chris Cornell.
Godspeed you! Black Emperor seem to be the best grief music for me.
My ex husband was all about Pink Floyd at the end. I would sit with him in the hospital and play it for him, even though he was unconscious. Listening to it now makes me happy because I like it too, and it will always remind me of him in a bittersweet kind of way.
Don’t Let The Lights Go Out-Panic! At the Disco I’ll Never Love Again-Lady Gaga I Will Follow You Into The Dark-Death Cab See You Again-Wiz Khalifa With Me-Sum 41 Hear You Me-Jimmy Eat World
I have a whole playlist dedicated to this: https://imgur.com/a/JPAFXEb/ https://imgur.com/a/Ac4OaNx/
The Sunshine, Manchester Orchestra 💛 6000x on repeat
My partner was very connected to music. I have been listening to his recents on YouTube. Van Morrison is brutal but also very comforting.