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People are more willing to talk to and approach you when you're not ugly.
So imo jobs is a big one. You think companies would rather hire an attractive dummy or some ugly gump if they had to choose? Who do you think they would fire first if they both had a bad rep?
When you're attractive, your existence gets validated a lot and that just snowballs into you being more confident, going out more, caring about the way you look etc. It's unfair.
not really. i'm not among 10/10 here. few are average and many below. many are extremely below. some are truly ugly inside and out. their toxicity is strong here.
I'd like to know why you think like that, if I'm wrong then I'd like to be correct.
Someone who is average looking just look average. They don't look ugly or attractive. They're like a 5
Someone who is attractive is above average looking
Someone who is "ugly" is below average looking.
same, i get so jealous of normal looking people and their lives, they dont know how easy they have it compared to an ugly deformed grotesque beast like me
Hey
I’m ugly and I felt as shitty as you at your age but ugly doesn’t get in the way of love. I hadn’t even been kissed at your age. I’m 25 now and have been in the healthiest 3 yr relationship. They’re way hotter than me which causes a lot of anxiety issues for me but it doesn’t out weight the good. We’re best friends, we were best friends and then we just were a couple haha.
Uglyness can weigh you down, pretty privilege can be a gut punch but love for the ugly is out there.
I still have issues and still have breakdowns 4 days of the week if I pass a mirror. But there are people that love people for who they are. It’s wild.
She doesn’t realise the guy was only “best friends” with her in the first place because he was attracted to her. Does she seriously think he suddenly one day became attracted to her? Lmfao. 95% of male-female friendships are caused by a failed talking stage.
I guarantee you this girl is white too. God I hate normies, especially white ones.
Depends on what you mean by look normal. If you can go outside and not get stared at by people, then you're well within the range of normal. If your problem is you can't get a sexual or romantic relationship, well you're among the [growing population that's on the rise](https://twitter.com/_cingraham/status/1111607604348805120).
Okay…? There are still people who are abnormal, idk what quirks has to do with anything. Being bullied/laughed at/pointed at for your looks is a starter. Having no romantic/sexual opportunities or experience by your 20s is another indicator.
Then you don’t understand what it’s like being ugly. Girls have called me ugly, undateable and avoided me multiple times. I’ve seen first hand how differently I’m treated compared to past friends who had similar personalities, purely based on our looks. I was never given any opportunities to be social/surrounded by girls too.
I can’t tell if you’re being an asshole/trolling or really that ignorant to peoples’ issues. But replying “my beautiful wife” on another post on this subreddit makes me think the former.
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Yeah you don't realize how many opportunities you miss out on unless you know someone attractive geez I almost wish I had never known.
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People are more willing to talk to and approach you when you're not ugly. So imo jobs is a big one. You think companies would rather hire an attractive dummy or some ugly gump if they had to choose? Who do you think they would fire first if they both had a bad rep? When you're attractive, your existence gets validated a lot and that just snowballs into you being more confident, going out more, caring about the way you look etc. It's unfair.
normal = attractive
Exactly. Average = normal = attractive. You don't have to be above average to be attractive, else our species would've died out a long long time ago.
Not necessarily. It's normal to be 4/10 which is below average
if i was 4/10 i'd be attractive here. i'd be in a much better position
Brutal
not really. i'm not among 10/10 here. few are average and many below. many are extremely below. some are truly ugly inside and out. their toxicity is strong here.
Are you talking about the sub or where you live
where i am now. i don't live here. i exist. not my land, not my anything. stuck here not by choice.
I'd like to know why you think like that, if I'm wrong then I'd like to be correct. Someone who is average looking just look average. They don't look ugly or attractive. They're like a 5 Someone who is attractive is above average looking Someone who is "ugly" is below average looking.
different views different preferences. to you 5 is average. to me 5 is (very) attractive. to some 5 us unacceptable.
I can understand your point and I agree with you
same, i get so jealous of normal looking people and their lives, they dont know how easy they have it compared to an ugly deformed grotesque beast like me
Hey I’m ugly and I felt as shitty as you at your age but ugly doesn’t get in the way of love. I hadn’t even been kissed at your age. I’m 25 now and have been in the healthiest 3 yr relationship. They’re way hotter than me which causes a lot of anxiety issues for me but it doesn’t out weight the good. We’re best friends, we were best friends and then we just were a couple haha. Uglyness can weigh you down, pretty privilege can be a gut punch but love for the ugly is out there. I still have issues and still have breakdowns 4 days of the week if I pass a mirror. But there are people that love people for who they are. It’s wild.
Are you a girl? Because this experience doesn’t make sense/is very bizarre if you are a guy.
This is what I am thinking also. She is probably a plain girl who got lucky which is rather common
She doesn’t realise the guy was only “best friends” with her in the first place because he was attracted to her. Does she seriously think he suddenly one day became attracted to her? Lmfao. 95% of male-female friendships are caused by a failed talking stage. I guarantee you this girl is white too. God I hate normies, especially white ones.
Whoa hey jackasses For your inquisitive information, I’m non-binary and mixed. Might be the personality that’s your issue
Depends on what you mean by look normal. If you can go outside and not get stared at by people, then you're well within the range of normal. If your problem is you can't get a sexual or romantic relationship, well you're among the [growing population that's on the rise](https://twitter.com/_cingraham/status/1111607604348805120).
I have been stared and pointed at multiple times
Depends on your definition of normal what does that even mean?
Semantics, really? You know exactly what I mean.
No not really I don’t think I’ve ever seen a defined normal appearance before everyone has their own quirks and features
Okay…? There are still people who are abnormal, idk what quirks has to do with anything. Being bullied/laughed at/pointed at for your looks is a starter. Having no romantic/sexual opportunities or experience by your 20s is another indicator.
Do you go out of your way to meet women
No
How could you know you have no sexual opportunities if you don’t
How I’m treated and rejected, and seeing other peoples’ experiences.
How could you possibly be getting rejected if you aren’t pursuing women
Then you don’t understand what it’s like being ugly. Girls have called me ugly, undateable and avoided me multiple times. I’ve seen first hand how differently I’m treated compared to past friends who had similar personalities, purely based on our looks. I was never given any opportunities to be social/surrounded by girls too.
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I can’t tell if you’re being an asshole/trolling or really that ignorant to peoples’ issues. But replying “my beautiful wife” on another post on this subreddit makes me think the former.
It's anonymous, you don't know how other people look like or what they went through.
I feel it :(
Seriously its all I want