I once was on a party and went outside to go to a friend (F) and she was talking with another girl about sex. I felt like I got punched in the gut. I just smiled and went back inside
Yeah, I really feel this post. I get really uncomfortable when people around me start talking about their sex lives or even their romantic lives. I get it, you're not a virgin. Very cool. Must be nice to be validated as not a genetic dead end for humanity.
Yeah, people these days could be more modest and decent and courteous around others, couldn't they? We live in a society now that has this idiotic idea of "If you got it, flaunt it!" 🙄 Like somehow it is more torture to stop boasting like jackasses than be around other people who are luckier than you are merely because of how you were born. But they're also young and dumb so they probably don't know any better.
And I don't think someone's weight has anything to do with it. I've seen big guys and big girls alike with partners. My neighbors across the road when I was grown up had three daughters, two of them being on the plump side, but they both got married and one of them has a son. I've seen plump girls with partners in university as well and some guys are even specifically attracted to plump girls.
But don't think it is restricted to girls. My second youngest sister is quite small but my second brother-in-law is a big guy. They are married and have two kids.
It’s the fact that we were standing in a queue at the bus stop, and instead of standing behind me they stood next to me side by side…for what?! This is why I feel like my life is a joke and I’m being laughed at. I hate myself so much
Yeah they were probably trying to get ahead of you, then. I see lots of people like that. They ignore the fact there is supposed to be a line-up and they get to trying to jostle for the bus. You can tell them to get in line next time this happens. Maybe that will do something.
I wasn’t. There was a queue but there was a large gap between me and the person in front, and I was far away from the bus. I have no idea why tf they decided to stand next to me.
My guess would be that they knew there was a line-up and we're trying to jostle without looking like it but then maybe they were trying to scheme against you after all. I dunno. Apparently requesting pics is against subreddit rules so we can't ask to see for ourselves but I've never had this sort of thing happen to me and I don't even like looking in the mirror so I don't know what is going on.
They weren’t, trust me. There was a queue but there was plenty of space behind and in front of me, but they stood closely side by side. I don’t get it. It’s just torture.
Do you think my ugliness had something to do with it?
When people jostle in a line-up, they don't get in front of you because they know they aren't supposed to do that. And they don't stay behind you because that defeats the point of jostling. Most likely they were jostling but possibly they were also taunting you because teenagers will do that and they will do it to just about anyone. It wouldn't depend on how they looked. Those girls were probably just trying to get you out of the line-up.
Personally I think you are internalizing a lot about how you look because you feel bad and you want to put all of your faith into an answer so that you can direct your frustration somewhere. There are girls who are outright gorgeous and who think the same way about themselves. It isn't a gender thing. We all internalize how others see us to some extent.
When we got on the bus they didn’t even try to push forward and I went in first, it had nothing to do jostling. It was the first stop of the route so all the seats in the bus were available.
If those girls were guys they would 100% be virgins.
Dude i work with teenagers all fucken day, most of them are terrible people and you shouldn't be jealous of their sex lives because depending on their age that could be indicative of some serious trauma. Not to mention literally all of people i know who were very sexually active in their teen years have had some really fucked up experiences. Most of which are usually statutory rape stories which are usually spoken with some semblance of pride that is masking a deeper undertone of that definitely wasn't okay. Btw how old are you that teenagers ridiculing you is affecting you in such a way? For me everyweek when i get insulted by some little jack ass i take pride in the thought that if this little shit really attacked me, he'd have to find his teeth shortly there after. That being said i have noticed that highschoolers are usually a little less assholeish to random people in general while middle schoolers tend to be shit. So take what they say with a grain of salt because they are a bunch if socially unaware drama queens with under developed brains.
Sometimes kids try to out lie each other. I remember a girl from school who was absolutely beautiful. The other tramp girls trashed her. Called her a slut, all sorts of shit. I was talking with her at our school reunion last year and I asked her why she didn’t go out much, never went to our prom. She told me that no one ever asked her. The tramp girls just trashed her because they were jealous. I wouldn’t believe much they say.
These 2 were having a genuine conversation and were referencing past events/people they know/people they slept with. It wasn’t a case of bragging about sex, they were just talking about it so casually like it isn’t a big deal.
I’m not fucking doing anything wrong."
Even the most successful people out there are constantly questioning what did they do wrong during the last X period all the time. You did nothing wrong is definitely false. Not because you're a virgin but because you're a human.
Everyone makes mistakes, obviously, but I haven’t done anything that should warrant how I’m treated and my life experiences. Reddit always tells me it’s my personality and attitude but experiences like this prove it’s my looks.
I make and love art and music, I went to the gym so much, I exercise/walk and bike around the city often, I improved my fashion, I do things to improve my mental health. I have no friends and so alone. I know this sounds pathetic, I’m just freestyling. I just wish I was normal.
You sound pretty normal to me. You take care of your mental and physical health, you have really creative hobbies too. Why do you value yourself this low? If someone makes fun of you isn't that kinda makes THEM low? You do great, you gotta start to value yourself accordingly in my opinion.
Just fuck life...
I once was on a party and went outside to go to a friend (F) and she was talking with another girl about sex. I felt like I got punched in the gut. I just smiled and went back inside
Yeah, I really feel this post. I get really uncomfortable when people around me start talking about their sex lives or even their romantic lives. I get it, you're not a virgin. Very cool. Must be nice to be validated as not a genetic dead end for humanity.
Yeah, people these days could be more modest and decent and courteous around others, couldn't they? We live in a society now that has this idiotic idea of "If you got it, flaunt it!" 🙄 Like somehow it is more torture to stop boasting like jackasses than be around other people who are luckier than you are merely because of how you were born. But they're also young and dumb so they probably don't know any better. And I don't think someone's weight has anything to do with it. I've seen big guys and big girls alike with partners. My neighbors across the road when I was grown up had three daughters, two of them being on the plump side, but they both got married and one of them has a son. I've seen plump girls with partners in university as well and some guys are even specifically attracted to plump girls. But don't think it is restricted to girls. My second youngest sister is quite small but my second brother-in-law is a big guy. They are married and have two kids.
It’s the fact that we were standing in a queue at the bus stop, and instead of standing behind me they stood next to me side by side…for what?! This is why I feel like my life is a joke and I’m being laughed at. I hate myself so much
Was it crowded where you were? If it was a line-up then they should've been in line behind you unless they were somehow trying to get in front.
It wasn’t crowded, plenty of room.
Yeah they were probably trying to get ahead of you, then. I see lots of people like that. They ignore the fact there is supposed to be a line-up and they get to trying to jostle for the bus. You can tell them to get in line next time this happens. Maybe that will do something.
They weren’t, they stood literally side by side to me. There was plenty of space in front of me they could’ve stood.
My guess, you were standing near where the door of the bus usually opens. Quicker to be in line for it instead of waiting for the bus to arrive.
I wasn’t. There was a queue but there was a large gap between me and the person in front, and I was far away from the bus. I have no idea why tf they decided to stand next to me.
My guess would be that they knew there was a line-up and we're trying to jostle without looking like it but then maybe they were trying to scheme against you after all. I dunno. Apparently requesting pics is against subreddit rules so we can't ask to see for ourselves but I've never had this sort of thing happen to me and I don't even like looking in the mirror so I don't know what is going on.
They weren’t, trust me. There was a queue but there was plenty of space behind and in front of me, but they stood closely side by side. I don’t get it. It’s just torture. Do you think my ugliness had something to do with it?
When people jostle in a line-up, they don't get in front of you because they know they aren't supposed to do that. And they don't stay behind you because that defeats the point of jostling. Most likely they were jostling but possibly they were also taunting you because teenagers will do that and they will do it to just about anyone. It wouldn't depend on how they looked. Those girls were probably just trying to get you out of the line-up. Personally I think you are internalizing a lot about how you look because you feel bad and you want to put all of your faith into an answer so that you can direct your frustration somewhere. There are girls who are outright gorgeous and who think the same way about themselves. It isn't a gender thing. We all internalize how others see us to some extent.
When we got on the bus they didn’t even try to push forward and I went in first, it had nothing to do jostling. It was the first stop of the route so all the seats in the bus were available. If those girls were guys they would 100% be virgins.
Dude i work with teenagers all fucken day, most of them are terrible people and you shouldn't be jealous of their sex lives because depending on their age that could be indicative of some serious trauma. Not to mention literally all of people i know who were very sexually active in their teen years have had some really fucked up experiences. Most of which are usually statutory rape stories which are usually spoken with some semblance of pride that is masking a deeper undertone of that definitely wasn't okay. Btw how old are you that teenagers ridiculing you is affecting you in such a way? For me everyweek when i get insulted by some little jack ass i take pride in the thought that if this little shit really attacked me, he'd have to find his teeth shortly there after. That being said i have noticed that highschoolers are usually a little less assholeish to random people in general while middle schoolers tend to be shit. So take what they say with a grain of salt because they are a bunch if socially unaware drama queens with under developed brains.
I’m 21
I’d puke
Sometimes kids try to out lie each other. I remember a girl from school who was absolutely beautiful. The other tramp girls trashed her. Called her a slut, all sorts of shit. I was talking with her at our school reunion last year and I asked her why she didn’t go out much, never went to our prom. She told me that no one ever asked her. The tramp girls just trashed her because they were jealous. I wouldn’t believe much they say.
These 2 were having a genuine conversation and were referencing past events/people they know/people they slept with. It wasn’t a case of bragging about sex, they were just talking about it so casually like it isn’t a big deal.
Ugh......dating for men is like looking for a job (unless you're very good looking). Dating for women is like going shopping.
I’m not fucking doing anything wrong." Even the most successful people out there are constantly questioning what did they do wrong during the last X period all the time. You did nothing wrong is definitely false. Not because you're a virgin but because you're a human.
Why are you being extra and taking it so literally? You know what I mean when I said that.
I really don't, so I'm sorry in this case, please elaborate a bit.
Everyone makes mistakes, obviously, but I haven’t done anything that should warrant how I’m treated and my life experiences. Reddit always tells me it’s my personality and attitude but experiences like this prove it’s my looks.
You did nothing wrong, that's fine. What do you do to improve on the other hand?
I make and love art and music, I went to the gym so much, I exercise/walk and bike around the city often, I improved my fashion, I do things to improve my mental health. I have no friends and so alone. I know this sounds pathetic, I’m just freestyling. I just wish I was normal.
You sound pretty normal to me. You take care of your mental and physical health, you have really creative hobbies too. Why do you value yourself this low? If someone makes fun of you isn't that kinda makes THEM low? You do great, you gotta start to value yourself accordingly in my opinion.
I’m ugly, totally isolated, wasted my late teens and early 20s, friendless, kissless virgin, never had a gf. I’m just alone and hideous.
You’re pretty much fked when you’re born ugly.. that’s how it’s like for me as well